#context matters and i hate it here

[gazpachoandbooks]

Us hearing A Nightingale Sang in Berkeley Square in GO season 1

VS us hearing the same fucking song in GO season 2

#context matters and i hate it here #how is everyone doing #i've been staring at the ceiling since the finale holy shit #good omens #go #good omens season 2 #good omens s2 #go season 2 #go s2 #good omens spoilers #good omens season 2 spoilers #good omens s2 spoilers #go spoilers #go season 2 spoilers #go s2 spoilers #ineffable husbands

[royalarchivist]

If you can, please take a minute to go show Baghera some love.

#mod talk #I hate that this isn't the first time I've had to post this #I'd love to go more than 24 hours without people being dicks to Baghera #For people who want to know context: there literally isn't any. Like. None whatsoever #Baghera was talking with friends about SMPs and people decided that she should be crucified because she clearly hates Q.SMP now #because she mentioned it'd be cool to have a translator on their server too #It's baffling it's genuinely so baffling #I don't share my opinion on here often because I try to keep things light and fun but good god I'm tired #This will be the last I share on this matter

[solradguy]

Whenever I see someone being transphobic on twt in a bridget thread i reply with three pictures of my mains: ky kiske from ac+r, ky kiske from rev 2, and ky kiske from strive.

it self selects for people who actually play the game. it’s canon that he’ll fight off transphobes with the blade. and if they actually played guilty gear they’d get the underlining messages

While it can be really funny to bully these guys back, please keep in mind that nothing you can say or do to these people will hurt them or waste as much of their time as what they say will stick with you or waste your time. It might be funny to send them a bunch of Ky pictures, but what they're doing is laughing that the only response the people they hate can give them is sending a bunch of pictures of anime boys.

The only thing that works is blocking them. They've turned being an asshole into a recreational sport and getting any sort of response in return is a victory for them.

#asks #Unfortunately I was an asshole on the internet once (not a vicious transphobe just a basic internet asshole) #I know exactly how these people function because I was there once... #When you don't take the person you're arguing with seriously it's very easy to laugh at every single thing they do #Which is what these guys are doing. It doesn't matter how well thought out the counter argument is. They don't care and they won't care #All you can hope for is that they're young and they grow out of it (I did) #I feel bad for them because I think about what led to me being like that decades ago. Are they going through the same thing? #I was like that because I was in a hopeless situation and hated myself and hated everyone else #People arguing back just proved my point that everything sucked and my hate was justified #It's an awful feedback loop. People being kind to me felt disingenuous. Why should they be kind? I hated them. They had no reason to be nic #I had to get to a point where I was willing to help myself crawl out of that pit before I let anyone else even get near me emotionally #I still remember the day when I realized I was being a fucked up little shit to everyone lol #Early June 2011. It was sunny with no clouds and there was a cool breeze. I was listening to In This Moment and I realized #'What the hell am I doing? Do I want to be like this forever? Get your shit together man' #It was a slow process from there but I did get out of it. Slowly. Very slowly. #There's a lot I did that I regret and can't ever apologize for because it was so long ago and the names and faces are gone now #Apologizing at this point would be selfish and only for my benefit anyway. I can only hope that what I did didn't hurt people permanently #Anyway. I've never talked about this on here before because it's the kinda shit that gets put on callout posts out of context #So. I am laying my naked soul bare and raw for the sake of underlining my original point: Internet trolls don't care

[pegging-satan]

If you’d told me that I’d be shipping a bunch of classic lit authors with each other say like, a year ago, I would’ve laughed in your face

#thank you Bungou stray dogs #normally I don’t ship real people but like this is just characters named after authors and also they’re dead so #it’s so funny hearing things out of context though like imagine being completely clueless abt this piece of media #and someone says ‘so then Nathaniel Hawthorne partnered up with fyodor Dostoyevsky and Nikolai Gogol because he was in love with #Margaret Mitchell and also at some point John Steinbeck was partners with hp lovecraft and they were in love n shit and then #f scott Fitzgerald shows up and he gathers up all the Americans because he wants to take over the Japan lit scene for his wife for whatever #reason I forgot his motives because i was too focused on everything else but the plot but anyways so then there’s this little partnership #going on between Edgar Allan Poe and his Japanese counterpart Ranpo edogawa and they’re like rivals but also quite fond of each other and #they’re very wholesome and it’s all fun and games #and then there’s the main ship of the series that’s Osamu Dazai and Chuuya Nakahara and they’re like so in love and they hate each other but #they’re also in love and then the same dynamic is shared by their mentees akutagawa and atsushi nakajima and then at some point we get clues #that the same dynamic was shared between their bosses as well and mori ougai and fukuzawa yukichi are also in love because we said so I mean #basically any ship here can and will be canon no matter what and anyways so then they all meet and then fuck shit up <3 #is fanfiction abt your favourite authors put in situations <3 #.txt #bsd #bungou stray dogs

[byanyan]

i'm always out here talking about byan's trauma with men, but honestly they have almost as much when it comes to boys. most of the bullying, harassment, and mistreatment they received from their peers growing up came at the hands of boys. not all of it, of course, but considering that was the generalized group they were shoved into most of their life, and the one they didn't fit in with... it's where more of the damage came from.

#they're a little more lenient when it comes to boys... but not by much #like they'll give u a chance to not be trash but if u fuck that chance ur not getting another one #it's kind of... ironic in a way bc byan... kiiiind of acts in a lot of ways like the sort of boys they hate? #like lbr they have a lot of sorta stereotypical masc behaviour but the CONTEXT is different #it's more of a retaliation than like... entitlement? if I'm making sense here? 🤔 #they became what they had to in order to survive #and throw that sort of stereotypically masc aggression BACK at men #sort of a way to give them a taste of their own medicine ig #...I've derailed my original intended topic a little here but this is another thing that's been on my mind adjgksh #the point is they also dislike boys bc they were hurt by them a lot. mocked by them a lot. used by them a lot. #they've got some horror stories about boys. not as many as they do about men but lbr it's not a competition #they're both trash in byan's mind (: #with limited exceptions. very VERY limited exceptions. #which no has not done much to change their fairly black & white thinking on the matter in case u were wondering #god I'm rambling someone shut me up #━━ ˟ ⊰ ✰ headcanon ⋮ danger in the fabric of this thing i made.

[feelslikegold]

ngl with the whole h****h tweet thing, i feel like some people are acting like it's 100% unprompted and missing a possible bit of context, so i am just gonna drop this here

obv i'm not trying to say she's exempt from criticism bc she's said and done some very icky things (including getting with a man in a long-term relationship like girl? saying that bc it's more relevant to this than the other stuff), but i will say some of the hate does feel slightly misogynistic. like that tweet was unprompted and just gonna do more damage than good. the whole idea of "sleeping ur way to the top" is just icky, and if that tweet is gonna do anything, it's just gonna fuel a victim complex and let misogynistic ideas stay in circulation so genuinely can people just ignore her instead of making the whole situation worse if the only thing they can say will just make the situation worse?

oh no absolutely like it’s just a mix of. I think logging off would benefit her SO much bc her tweets are only gonna spawn more weirdos like that person bc that person is clearly unhinged and unwell to speak to ANYONE like that, especially to someone who the person they idolize clearly loves…..stan twitter as a whole is disgusting tbh 😭

#I do not like hannah as a person even though I think you can grow from dumb shit once said at a young age #I just don’t really agree with many things #BUT the fans that stalk her twitter and send nasty ass replies like that clearly hate her for being sam’s gf 😭 it’s just so obvious that’s #the only reason #bc all of us on here may post tweets on our blogs to talk about with our small group of friends but i’d NEVER reply to one of her tweets #it’s cruel and also pointless…??? ignore her?????? it’s so easy to ignore her #she’s also not wrong about misogyny bc every single fandom hates every woman linked to their faves no matter who it is #I literally am already seeing people talk down about/criticize jenny and not only do we not know her we don’t even know if danny’s dating #her or not…..like??? it’s just such clown behavior and really gross #I do think hannah makes a lot of things worse but worse for her own self 🧍🏻‍♀️ #thanks for context though! I only saw her tweet on my fyp and was like 😐 #a lot of fans bitch about hannah blocking them but I absolutely would block every freak who talked to me like that

[asachuu]

That moment when you’re writing something quite positive as a totally informal manga reaction, skipping over one single small visual detail because it was both so insignificant you didn’t even notice it at first, and it would also contextually be so heavily overshadowed by something far more important everywhere around it, only to log on somewhere one fateful day and see that it is precisely said detail which has become gospel, despite the fact that it makes rather little sense in canon.

Ah well, I say as if I were to let it go, knowing very well the tags will be another literary work again.

#I’m not going to rant about it BUT #yes this is about the flashbacks in the last Fifteen manga chapter #specifically that one panel of Paul and Arthur looking rather…close #I don’t even want to bother saying much because of everything surrounding it and how much it wouldn’t matter one way or the other #though I’m very confused as to why it’s Paul reaching out to Arthur and not the opposite #only one of the two canonically hated the other at the time and I’m not sure if he’d want to be anyhow physically intimate yk #unless it’s a visual representation of how Arthur was thinking about their relationship the whole time given the following panel #but yeah I’m not going to look into this because it’s not worth my energy #I’ve already said I’m not opposed to the manga flashbacks at all and I believe they speak for me here #I won’t be stopping anyone from fishing out Rimlaine stuff in the middle of a flashback literally about #how Arthur was actually alone in thinking about them as close friends the whole time #so long as all that outside context is right on display for anyone to see and make up their own mind I’ll let it go #because I’d just be repeating what’s right there already #bungou stray dogs #bsd fifteen #bsd arthur rimbaud #randou #bsd paul verlaine #bsd manga #asachuu

[fandomfloozy]

⚠️ TW ⚠️: IRL man behavior

Just had a man in voice call tell me "Oh, you definitely put out on the first date"

Like

HUH??!?

Is this the kind of shit men say to people they barely know and have never met?????

#i hate it here #can't have a normal conversation with A Man™️ these days #for context #and to make matters worse #his shit take was “it's not a date if there's no sex” #should have ended the convo there #instead of being offhandedly slutshamed by a man i dont know

[torgawl]

unpopular opinion but a ship being queer coded doesn't make it compelling

#the dynamic between the characters‚ on another hand‚ does! #sometimes ships from certain media are carried by 'queer coding' instead of being relevant because of the actual relationship #that‚ to me‚ means very little #what does it matter if their colours compliment each other or that their names are intended to hint at something if the relationship in #the story fails to portray anything romance-like or their dynamic is just poorly written? #i could go on a tangent here because this is coming from me wanting to rant about a specific genshin ship but i will shut up #i just want to be a hater #i don't even hate the ship itself it's the fans who take scenes out of context and depth from the characters to make the narrative fit #also the constant idea in fandoms that friendships/platonic relationships can't have depth or be the reason someone cares deeply for #somebody else. or even the idea platonic feelings can't be complicated. #i think it's also hard for me to swallow every genshin ship because it's obvious they use queer coding without compromise as a way to #profit with both the staights and the lgbts but whatever #yes i am aware of the censorship but i'm also aware they're a multi-millionaire company that keeps repeating the same 'formula' #for marketing everytime new characters are released... and it works. #genshin will never be as gay as actual gay media from gay creators and i think people have a hard time grasping that #a bit unrelated to my original point but also not really because i do think it influences the way people interact with the story #i'm not trying to say people can't have fun by the way 😂 #this all started because i dislike a popular ship and that makes you feel like you're somehow missing a few screws #how come i'm the only right person here 🤣 (joking)

[nthflower]

Sometimes Christians acts like they are the only one that's allowed to be traumatised by their religion and who can hate and mock it. Like all other religions are pure innocent peaceful ways and opressed but Christianity is okay to mock because ughhh. Like only they are allowed to be traumatised and victim there.

But also when I say this then some extremely angry ex-muslims and islamaphobics comes and use this to spread hate about Muslim people which is also ughhh.

Like your average Muslim have zero differences than your average Christian why can't you treat them same.

#sorry so sorry i am ranting i can delete this later #this is not something philosophical or something smart i am just kimda angry #like yeah tolerance amd acceptance yay but you are still am other amd i don't care about your opinions #then bad side of islam uses this tolerance as their tool pf oppression #sorry i can't explain what i try to say here well #but as an ex-muslim immigrant who raised in a majority muslim country and was not a minority #it has layers please dont speak for me. even you wanna support or not #rant #this isn't about only online spaces this is about something from real life #people can be opressors.amd opressed at the same time it doesn't cancel each other #i am treated as now sometimes no wrong doer poor minority middle eastern person while bitch i was privileged #amd when i say this than it's turn into hate and they forget this also npt means i am struggling more than them in life now because #i am not privileged here anymore and minority #like situation and context matters #idk #again sorry i am just rambling

[maxbernini]

lola’s in her kinda conservative era i see

#i feel like this will either be a) a good example of the type of feminism we’ll see this season #b) the type of feminism propped up this season in contrast to whatever radical thing frida / whoever does #or c) an example of la mif harping on about things that ~don’t really matter~ compared to real traumas or whatever they’ll say #bc they were having a go (well not rly but it was framed like that) at anais for not having an opinion #so it'll be like. you were talking about this whilst she was suffering etc #anyways back to lola. the way she only said that so tiff could correct her. i do hate it here #like of courseeeee she's the one correcting her but it's so annoying that she gets to be the righteous feminist lecturing la mif in 7/10 #but when maya did the same in 7-8 it was either a) her entire character trait and the butt of a joke the characters rolled their eyes at #or b) used to praise tiff (the nappies) vs have a go at bilal (the bday gift) #this whole clip was 2:30mins of why the s7 team of all teams should have been the last ones allowed to #do a season on rape culture / misogyny / politics / feminist likeeee #could they not have brought back the people who did bilal's first 4 eps <3 or even the ones who did the HIV stuff #at least that was accurate it was just shoehorned in and annoying in context #* #french posting

[ssaltlicker]

People are really comparing people having separate identities to segregation you cannot make this shit up bro

#its un fucking real #sorry guys no ones allowed to identify as anything #by doing that youre automatically segregating people :( #people saying identities need to have meanings is not the fucking same as segregation lmao… literally what the fuck #god i hate it here #just because you hear the word separation. it does not mean that #i know people fucking love buzzwords but i promise like. context matters #people arent fucking saying theyre segregating sexualities lmao theyre saying that identities need to have meanings to keep people sane #people will be fine with bi and trans focused communities online #but god for fucking bid lesbians have one #just say you think all lesbians are violent monsters. thats what so many ppl here think

[ghostfacd]

IN A WORLD FULL OF BOYS, HE’S A GENTLEMAN ! | TOM BLYTH

PAIRING. tom blyth x fem!actress!reader

SUMMARY. despite being in a world filled of childish boys, your boyfriend was definitely a gentleman, always putting you before him

AUTHORS NOTE. the third installment because we love tom blyth and yn avocot. I recommend reading part 1 and 2 for more context!

tomblyth “babe, do you think we’re together in every universe?” is that even a question?

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ynuser stoppp i didn’t know youd actually take the question seriously

user1 get you a man like tom blyth bc oh my god

user2 idk what yn did to manifest him but i need her ways

user3 ugh idk what he’s doing with her lol he could do so much better

➥ user4 well someone had to say it..

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You didn’t understand how some people on the internet can be so . . . mean. Although there have been countless of fans cheering you and Tom on, it didn’t make it any less hurtful that there were still a ton who weren’t scared to be open about how much your boyfriend could do better.

It’s ironic; you think. They’re claiming they’re looking out for Tom, yet totally disregarding him and his girlfriend as human beings? Those weren’t real fans.

The reason for them hating you so much? Just for simply being with Tom. Everybody wanted him, that was your crime.

Everytime you got lost in your thoughts about this topic, Tom knew. Boyfriend instincts, he called them, but really, he was just a caring and observant person.

You tried not to break down over it, you really did, but a girl could only go on for so long before it all bursts out. Luckily, Tom pulls you right in, telling you to let it all out.

Although the world was filled with childish and hurtful beings, Tom Blyth was still who he was, a gentleman, attending to your every needs.

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tomblyth really dgaf if you like my girlfriend or not cause i do and that’s all that matters

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user5 im cryinf the polaroid he has of her

user6 YES REAL MEN STAND UP FOR THEIR GFS

user7 ALL THE PICS HE HAS OF HER 🥹🥹

tomblythswife oh to be yn avocot and be loved by tom blyth

rachelzegler tell ‘em 🙊

user8 she doesn’t even comment on the posts he makes abt her, so self centered lol

➥ ynuser I’m right next to him rn?? cant say the same thing about you “lol”

➥ user9 OH SHE ATE YOU UP @/user8

tomblyth_daily here are some clips of tom talking about his relationship in his new interview! GET YOU A MAN THATS LIKE TOM BLYTH 🗣️🗣️🗣️

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user10 the way he’s so passionate when talking about her and being a good boyfriend, God I hate being single

user11 “they’re not even that cute” STFU AND GO WATCH THIS INTERVIEW CAUSE ??

user12 tom blyth said put aside your nonchalant attitudes, im looking at YOU MEN 🫵🫵

ilovetomblyth he’s so boyfriend it actually hurts

user13 yn must’ve saved a continent in her past life to be dating tom blyth omg

ynuser girls, before you have a meltdown over a boy: think of what balleona laurent would do. kiss and manipulate coriolanus!

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tomblyth you kiss and manipulate me too

➥ ynuser you’re gonna get me CANCELLED

user14 literal unbothered icon i love her

user15 if i were her id post a tiktok with that audio “he chose me he don’t want you”

iloveyn SHES SO FUNNY

lionsgate us when behind the scenes photo of balleona 😻

➥ user16 lmao stop who’s the admin of lionsgate

user17 balleona is such a bad person but oh is she hot

tomblyth she was like a shot of espresso

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ynuser i love u more than words can describe blyth

user18 ok who’s cutting onions

user19 GIRLS, GUYS, THEY THEMS, STOP SETTLING FOR BARE MINIMUM WHEN TOM BLYTH LITERALLY CALLED HIS GF A SHOT OF ESPRESSO, GIVES HER FLOWERS EVERYDAY, AND TALKS ABT HER ALL THE TIME IN HIS INTERVIEWS

➥ user20 YELL IT HARDER SISTER 👐👐👐

user21 this is so dark academica im inlove with u guys

user22 parentssss

rachelzegler my favorites

ynuser SNOW LANDS ON TOP LOSERS

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tomblyth yn, i love you but

➥ user23 LMFAOO when he doesn’t finish his sentence

user24 the second pic thank u yn

joshandresrivera on top of u maybe

➥ user25 IM DYING OML

user26 thank you to lionsgate for casting the most hottest villain couple ever

#coriolanus snow x reader #coriolanus snow imagine #coriolanus snow fanfiction #coriolanus snow fluff #coriolanus snow #coriolanus snow smut #coriolanus snow angst #coriolanus snow fic #tom blyth x reader #tom blyth #the ballad of songbirds and snakes #tbosas #the hunger games x reader #the hunger games

[kaijuposting]

"Saw traps for people with moral OCD" is a phrase that has embedded myself into my brain because, well, Saw traps for people with moral OCD are everywhere.

Stuff that basically amounts to...

"You have to listen to my opinions on [issue], or else you don't care about [issue]. (Constantly talks about how people like you are the absolute worst.)"

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me tear you down over things you can't control or you're a bad person."

Anything that's functionally like, "you have to let me vent to you whenever and however I want or else you're a bad person."

"If you enjoy X media/trope, you just hate Y people."

"Everyone knows that X thing is harmful/hateful; if you engaged in it, it's just because you were fine with perpetuating hate/harm."

"You should have just known better/should know this already!"

This thread over here talks about the inherent issues of putting this kind of stuff out there. The TL;DR is that it really only works on people who are mentally unwell and have poor boundaries, while just pissing off everyone else. It really doesn't matter if you're technically correct; you're still attacking people, and that means they're not wrong to block you.

I think that many of these Saw traps are created when people effectively write posts directed toward people who don't want to help, rather than the ones who do. Like, if you catch yourself writing an angry, shame-laden post, ask yourself: who are you writing it for and what are the odds you're going to change their minds? If your mental image is some smug fuck or angry reactionary, you're writing for the wrong person. Write for the person who's curious, who's willing to learn.

Also? Work on figuring out how to transmute negative feelings into positive, encouraging rhetoric. EG:

"Why is there no X positivity?" -> "Let's hear it for X!"

"No one cares about Y problem!" -> "Hey, we need more recognition of Y problem" or "I haven't seen many people talking about Y problem, so here's some info on what's up."

"If you don't reblog this, you don't care about [group]" -> "Please reblog this, it would mean a lot for us [group]."

And if you're really super duper frustrated and want to vent with a lot of nasty words and sentiments? Consider taking it to a private vent channel or a journal or somewhere that a stranger with moral OCD/scrupulosity isn't likely to run across it.

Remember, most people don't want to hurt anyone. More people are ignorant than malicious. People naturally want to do the right thing, so if you feel like you have to guilt them or shame them into it, there's probably a fundamental communication issue somewhere, or they simply lack the context to understand why what you're saying is so important.

#moral ocd #mental health #mental illness #ableism #scrupulosity #scrupulosity ocd #abuse #emotional abuse #communication

[partially-controlled-chaos]

My mother has absolutely fallen in love with Gale and it’s the single funniest thing I’ve seen in a while.

So for some context:

My mom is in her late 60’s and can’t live alone so she lives with me. She enjoys watching video games as an alternative to tv (this woman played the hell out of the PS1 so I’m not surprised). She always gives me her reviews on the games I play and loves some more than others. With that being said…

She hates Baldur’s Gate 3. Hates it. Despises it. “Worst game you’ve played by far.” She doesn’t like fantasy genres and doesn’t like a whole lot of combat. Now admittedly she didn’t start watching the game until Act 2 (health issues) so she missed the entire opening and Act 1 and had NO idea what was going on. I tried explaining as best I could but she didn’t fully understand.

Now she doesn’t like anything remotely spooky so the shadow lands was a nightmare for her to watch. Hated it. Hated the characters.

Astarion was too mean. Didn’t like Wyll’s horns and red eye. Karlach was too loud and didn’t like the horns. Shadowheart was too gloomy. Lae’zel was too creepy looking and mean (still haven’t won her over in Lae’zel). Halsin was “creepy looking” (I don’t get it either). Hadn’t met Jaheria or Minsc yet.

Now admittedly I hardly used Gale in my first play through so she never saw him or knew he existed until Act 3. But the second she saw him? Heart eyes. Put on her glasses to look at him better. Rizzard of Waterdeep got her GOOD.

Loved him to the point where she asked if I’d play it again JUST to romance Gale so I agreed because I was going to romance him at some point anyway. And when I tell you that woman is SMITTEN.

Every day I get home from work and it’s “when are you going to play your game? I want to see Gale.” “Kiss Gale. Do a kiss. There’s different kisses? Do them all I want to see the kisses.” “HE HAS A CAT??”

Very quick to tell me on what romance dialogue options to pick. I have no say in the matter they’re all her choices.

Oh and Mystra? Hates her. Can’t stand her. “Blast Mystra with your fireball thingy.” “Can you kill her? You should kill her.” “Gale better be praising you and not Mystra.”

I mean it’s a complete turn around and this is now her favorite game simply because of Gale Dekarios.

And if you’re curious, here’s her ranking of most to least favorite characters.

Gale (and Tara by extension)

Karlach

Astarion

Wyll (was very upset when I had to reject post dance kiss)

Halsin

Boo (not Minsc, just Boo)

Jaheria

Shadowheart

Lae’zel

Withers (genuinely afraid of him)

#baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #Gale #gale dekarios #gale of waterdeep #gale romance #Astarion #karlach #wyll ravengard #Halsin #shadowheart #lae'zel #withers #rizzard of waterdeep

[the-case-book-of-fanfiction]

astarion ancunin hcs {pt. 1}

once he's comfortable with you, he adores non-sexual physical intimacy

playing with his hair will calm him down almost instantly

he's protective and possessive, so he'll keep a hand on you at all times, usually on your back

loves when you initiate any kind of physical contact

always asks to do something before he does, in either a sexual or nonsexual context

he's easily jealous and can sometimes get very possessive; for the first time in 200 years, he has someone who genuinely loves him and he hates the possibility that he might lose you

that possessiveness is obvious when he marks up your neck with bites and hickeys

if he feels like his place in your relationship is threatened in public, he will not hesitate to touch, hold, or kiss you in front of whomever is making a move on you; after some bearing of fangs, whoever it is usually scuttles off very quickly

he definitely feels very undeserving of you and your love and has his days when he's convinced you're going to leave him for someone better when you get the chance, or that he's keeping you from; that insecurity lasts for a very long time

constantly buries his own feelings, so you have to coax them out of him and teach him how to set boundaries and stand up for himself

astarion absolutely LOVES bathing together; he can be very vulnerable with you without sex being expected when you bathe together and it absolutely helps him regain some control and bodily autonomy

he loves gifting you things: jewelry, clothes, weapons, little knickknacks he sees that remind him of you

his elven ears are so sensitive and he absolutely will whine involuntarily when you brush your fingers over them (either on accident while you're touching his curls or on purpose)

speaking of which, astarion loves having his hair played with, it's a huge comfort to him (and another form of physical touch that isn't inherently sexual, so it's one of the ways to ease him back into being intimate and physical)

sexually, he's very switchy; some days he wants to be in control and giving you all the pleasure you deserve, but other days he's more than happy to let you take the lead and love on him

he loves staying up late to have deep talks and watch the sky (sun or moon and stars, it doesn't matter which to him)

cuddle this man. all the time. he's absolutely a cuddle bug. if you don't cuddle him while you go to sleep, he'll be very huffy, and you'll wake up to him curled up around you anyway

he also likes to be the little spoon sometimes, once he's comfortable with you seeing and being wrapped around his back

he will sew everything for you instead of teaching you to do it; he likes being useful in some little way for you (inspired by @aethes-bookshelf's post here because I saw it and went "you are absolutely right")

he commonly speaks to you in Elvish whether you understand it or not; it's absolutely a comfort to him, especially when you start picking up words and understanding some of what he says

contrary to the performances he puts on, astarion is a very gentle lover when he can finally be comfortable and genuine with you. he's quieter, softer, he takes the time to learn you and himself, he lets himself enjoy it; he learns to become a taker, not just a giver

he likes to hold you, however he can, and at the very least always be touching you. an arm around your waist or shoulders, a hand on the small of your back, holding your hand or twining your pinkies together. he can't be touching you, he's standing so close to you that he could be touching you if he moved a centimeter more

he likes to hug you randomly; one of his favorite ways to do it is to come up behind you while you're cooking or talking to someone or looking at yourself in the mirror to get ready so he can surprise you by putting his arms around your waist and resting his head on your shoulder

astarion has a habit of kissing your neck whenever he can, sometimes it's a way to let you know he's hungry, other times when he wants to be intimate, other times just to remind you he loves you

on the same hand, he doesn't always say 'i love you' but instead makes it known through his behavior around you (and the fact that he's constantly looking at you like you are his whole world, because you are)

on the nights when you can't sleep, he reads to you until you drift off because he knows you find his voice soothing

he likes tucking his head into your neck and shoulder when the two of you sleep (which he finds out he actually likes doing every now and then)

the first thing astarion does when he wakes up is pepper you with little kisses on your shoulders, collarbones, cheeks, and forehead

when he's nervous and with people he's okay with knowing that, he'll reach for your hand and touch your fingers to calm down and ground himself. if you wear a ring or multiple rings, he'll play with those

astarion loves it when you call him by a nickname, either a shortened version of his name or a pet name. if he's fed recently and had enough blood, his cheeks will turn this adorable shade of pink when you call him "Star" or "my love" or something similar

how he wakes up from a nightmare changes constantly. the worse the nightmare, the worse his reaction when he wakes up. sometimes it's just a little gasp and his eyes flying open, sometimes it's a yelp and tears, sometimes he's crying before he even wakes up; but every time, his biggest comfort is to cling to you until the panic fades and then curl up in your lap (you've learned to light a candle or summon lights with magic when he wakes up from a nightmare; the shadows make him feel worse)

when you fall asleep outside of bed, he picks you up and carries you to bed and tucks you in—all without waking you

if you are injured at any point and there is no certainty that you'll pull through, he panics. he stays at your side the entire time, even if the smell of your blood is driving him mad, and holds your hand and talks to you, often begging you to wake up, to come back to him, to stay with him; more than once, you've woken up to find him with tears streaked down his face

every time you wake up from an injury and he realizes it, either because he's watching you or because you say hi to get his attention, he smothers you in kisses

once he's no longer starving, he likes to feed from you very slowly, to take his time and enjoy your taste; now that he's promised food, he doesn't feel the need to rush. feeding becomes very sensual, intimate, and personal for the two of you after that

he also loves leaving bites and drinking from you in places the others won't see; it makes him incredibly giddy to know that you let him bite you in places only he will ever see

if he's taller than you, he loves to kiss the crown of your head whenever he can

he will sew up your injuries whenever you need his help with it, even if the sight and smell of your blood makes him salivate

he loves touching your body to see how you react and lets you do the same to learn his own likes and dislikes

matching. outfits. he loves it, loves seeing people realize that you wear the same material and colors and realize what it means. he's very smug when people come to the realization that you're together

he frequently gives you his shirts to sleep in

if you are apart from him for any amount of time, expect to be tackled with a hug the minute you are reunited again

when you have the time, he likes to just lay in bed with you and relax together, half-asleep and cuddling and sometimes mumbling to each other pt. 2 coming soon

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