#don't bother if you don't wanna

[inkskinned]

what is with men being mad any time a woman raises her voice where did that even come from. someone posted a video of a small electrical explosion, and the top comment was of course the woman screams. the second comment is women try not to scream challenge, level impossible. i had to go back and watch the video again. there is, somewhat fainty, a little gasp emitted off-camera, more of a yelp than a scream. it is mostly lost in the crack of the explosion. afterwards, you hear her voice, shaken, say, are you okay?

i am helping one of my friends train her voice pitch lower, because she wants to be taken seriously at work. she and i do each other's nails and talk about gender roles; and how - due to our appearance - neither of us have ever been able to be "hysterical" in public. we both appear young and sweet and feminine. she is cisgender, and cannot use her natural voice in her profession because people keep saying she appears to be "vapid". we both try to figure out if our purposeful voice lowering is technically sexist. is it promoting something when you are a victim to it?

a storm almost sends a pole through a car window. in the dashcam, you can hear the woman passenger say her partner's name twice, crying out in alarm. she sounds terrified. in the comments, she is lambasted for her lack of calm. how is that even fucking helping?

in high school, i taught myself to have a lower voice. i had been recorded when i was genuinely (and righteously) upset; and i hated how my voice sounded on the phone speakers when it was played back. i was defending my mom, and my voice cracked with emotion. it meant i was no longer winning the argument: i was just shrieking about it.

girls meet each other after a long summer and let out a little joyful scream. this usually stops around 12-14, because people will not tolerate this display of affection (as it has the effect of being passingly annoying). something about the fact that little girls can't ever even be annoying. we are trained to examine each part of our lives (even joy) for anything that could make us upsetting and disgusting. they act like teenage girls are breaking into houses and shrieking you awake at 3 in the morning. speaking as a public school educator: trust me, it's not that bad, you can just roll your eyes and move on. it does not compare to the ways boys end up being annoying: slurs in graffiti, purposefully mocking your body, following you after you said no. you know, just boy things.

there's another video of a man who is not allowed to yell in the house, so he snaps his fingers when he's excited about soccer. the comments are full of angry men, talking about how their brother is unfairly caged. let him express himself and this is terrible to do to someone. eventually the couple has to address it in a second video: they are married with a newborn baby. he was trying not to wake the infant up. there is no comment on the fact women are not allowed to yell indoors. or the fact that it could have been really alarming or triggering for his wife. sometimes i wonder if straight men even like women, if they even enjoy being in relationships with them.

for the longest time, i hated roller coasters because it always felt inappropriate and uncomfortable for me to scream. one of my friends called me on it, said it was unusual i'm so unwilling. i had to go to my therapist about it. i don't like to scream because i was not raised in a safe situation, and raising my voice would have brought unsafe attention towards me. even when i am supposed to scream, it feels shameful, guilty. i was not treated kindly, so i lack a basic form of self-protection. this is not a natural response. it is not good that in a situation of high adrenaline - i shut up about it.

something very bad is happening, i think. in between all the beauty standards and the stuff i've already discussed - this one feels new and cruel in a way i can't quite express. yes, it's scary and silencing. but there's something about how direct it is - that so many men agree with the sentiment that women should never yell, even in an emergency - it feels different.

is the word shriek gendered automatically? how about shrill or screech? in self defense class, one of the first things they tell you is to yell, as loud and as shrilly as you can. they say it will feel rude. most women will not do this. you need to practice overcoming the social pressure and just scream.

most women do not cry out, even when it's bad. we do not report it. we walk faster. we do not make a scene. what would be the point of doing anything else? no matter what we do, we don't get taken seriously. it is a joke to them. an instagram caption punchline. we have to present ourselves as silent, beautiful, captivating - "valuable."

a woman is outside watching her kids when someone throws a firecracker at them. she screams and runs towards her children. in the comments, grown men flock together in the thousands: god. women are so annoying.

#warm up #writeblr #this one has bothered me for a bit #any time a woman does something even passingly annoying we treat it like a fucking crime #hey man. women are allowed to be annoying. everyone forever is allowed to be passingly annoying #as long as they aren't hurting anyone/thing #like u wanna know something? i find it super annoying that men don't wear seatbelts #why arent there thousands of comments on driving videos thats just like : men try not to die in a car crash challenge #''this briefly annoyed me''. okay??????? AND????????????????? go get ur self a cookie and calm down about it #ur not entitled to control other ppl's experiences and emotions just so u can maintain ur own peace #if being briefly annoyed ruins ur whole day! you! need! therapy!!!! #men try not to become immediately angry about nothing challenge: level impossible #ps author is nonbinary. we didn't even get into the gender presentation thing #the fact men think it's SEXY that my voice is on the lower end....

[rjshope]

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#btsgif #btsedit #namjoonedit #seokjinedit #bts #kim namjoon #kim seokjin #namjin #* #i don't feel well mentally today #so i made this to cheer myself up #that's why i don't tag anyone (don't wanna bother you) #but if you wanna reblog it's okay

[barbthebuilder]

I need so confirm something real quick

Interact if you don't mind being tagged by me.

Ignore if it bothers you.

#blog stuff #you don't need to be my mutual/follower to participate #mutuals #tagging #tag game #tagging chain #i wanna know who to tag under stuff #you can also specify what kind of tag makes you the happiest what kind of tags you ignore and what kind of tags annoy u #i'm kinda tired of always tagging the same 10 people #and I love tagging #also I sometimes feel like I'm bothering ppl so I wanna know who actually enjoys that kind of stuff

[kenobihater]

of all the star wars movies, which of them do y'all 1) enjoy the most 2) consider the best quality and 3) think you've rewatched the most. add your answers in the reblogs or replies, i'm genuinely curious how much of an overlap there is within everyone's three answers. mine don't overlap at all! they're revenge of the sith, empire strikes back, and the force awakens :^)

#len speaks #star wars #revenge of the sith #empire strikes back #the force awakens #not tagging more films than that bc i cant b bothered. incoming tag ramble ahead bc i have sw brainrot rn and im making it everyones prob❤️ #i rlly struggled 2 remember if id watched tfa or aotc more. i went w/ tfa bc it was formative to me as a teen and ive seen it probably 6ish #times? whereas aotc was the first sw movie i remember (specifically the scene of obiwan serving c*nt in the bar lmao) but i've only seen it #for sure 4.5 and maybe 5.5 times. the .5 is from when i got bored after obi-wan's scene ended and ran off to go play in the mud or smthn 😭 #i'm sure tfa will eventually get surpassed in number of rewatches by aotc and rots bc i don't fw the direction of the ST but that's my #current ballpark estimate of my total number of rewatches #as an adult tho if i just wanna watch a star war i'll go with aotc bc it's fun and ends semihappily and i can turn my brain off for the #spinny lightsabers. it's great background noise or for if you're sick or whatever. rots on the other hand? i won't talk through that unless #i'm quoting it with my brother and i am LOCKED IN 100% entirely entranced by it all #i almost picked rogue one for the best quality answer but i think the character writing is weaker and the facial cgi is creepy. esb beats #it by a hair imho bc of that. the vader hallway scene goes hard tho!!! #also i'm not covering shows or games or books or anything else in this post - simply the films. might ask abt shows later but that might #also give me hives bc so many of the shows suck ass and i don't rlly want ppl extolling the virtues of t.bb in my notes 💀 #and yes i do think one's enjoyment and one's opinion of quality are two things that often overlap. but sometimes you just like something #bad and that's awesome. like rots is the best of the prequels by a large margin and i adore the opening and characters and many of the #scenes but that doesn't mean it's the best star wars has to offer ykwim? it's my specialest most favoritest sw movie but that doesn't blind #me to the dialogue lmfaooo

[babyblueetbaemonster]

O great librarian please bestow your wisdom upon me.

#tes #oblivion #shivering isles #dyus of mytheria #dyus #i draw a meme #you must be truly desperate to come to me for help #he said the library could logically predict every action. it kinda sounds like actuarial science or statistics or sth #i don't know if i could but i really wanna treat him like a search engine and bother him with some silly questions #like asking him for a cake recipe. next week's weather report. the location of my favorite pen because i can't remember where i put it etc #he need to know everything to predict everything right? i can ask him anything and he has answers right?

[nell0-0]

Read your Emmet at the beach dabble and just imagined if that was a silly way Emmet reunited with Ingo.

Emmets just chilling on the beach with all his Pokémon when he sees something drop out of the sky. He panicked because it obviously the lifeguard hadn't seen anything and it looked like someone got knocked off of their flying Pokémon and plummeted into the ocean.

Emmet either orders Eelektross to save them or rides on Eelektross to go save them. He's either going to be surprised when he reaches them or when he brings them back to shore.

I'll be honest, I don't feel like writing these, but I thought that hey, maybe someone else that's still hyperfixating on submas would be interested. I've been leaving these asks to gather dust in my inbox for what feels like ages now.

So, really, take them. Or don't. But out they go.

#asks #submas #fic prompt #I'll keep on cleaning my inbox now #ALSO #Just in case a certain someone reads this or bothers to check the tags #Look. I love the Irida x Akari stuff to a certain point. But if you keep requesting it and don't get an answer #Then get the hint #that I ain't interested on drawing them at the moment #You can leave as many asks as you wanna but the moment they start to feel like demands for content? #I'm out. Have a good day. #rambling in the tags #talk tag

[bruciemilf]

" but it's not a permanent solution and --" just say you want to committ homicide! Grow up.

#last part is a joke btw #but some of you are really annoying with your perspective of justice and who exactly deserves what #i don't understand why we have to de complexify this extremely nuanced shade in Bruce’s character #when it plays such a crucial role in what makes him interesting and compelling. his hatred of murder is precisely what sets him apart from #your regular descenetized male hero with no proper character structure #bruce is a puzzle. NOT a story #and his mercy system being ineffective- they're comic book characters. thats the whole point? #bruce wayne #dc comics #dc #batman #SOME of you. i dont wanna name names. gets really annoying abt this argument #people who reserve Batman Who Kills for fruly interesting and/or self indulgent reasons and dont bother anyone else: is it me?? #no. jason stans; is it ME? #...its not the others. shrug #memes

[genericpuff]

opinions on helluva boss?

#let's just say i'm not *on* the hate train for HB/HH #i saw the train at the station back when it first pulled in and went “nah i'm not risking getting on that fucking thing” #but every new thing i find out about it makes me feel like someone who's been lasso'd and left on the tracks to get run over #so yeah those are my opinions #take it for what you will #i just #i can't #i don't have any more brain to rot alongside LO #at least i liked LO at one point #can't say the same for HB/HH and i don't wanna bother boarding at this point #so yeah that's a train that i'm content in avoiding LOL #ama #ask me anything #anon ama #anon ask me anything

[alectoperdita]

Quick and dirty script for automated booping

This will only work on desktop browsers. Sorry mobile users, you will have to find some other way to automate your boops. May I suggest you try a macros app?

Navigate to your target in a new tab, it has to be the dashboard view of their blog to work. For instance, I am https://www.tumblr.com/alectoperdita

2. Open your browser's developer console. On Windows, the shortcut is usually Ctrl+Shift+I.

3. Go to the "Console" tab.

4. Paste the following into the entry field at the bottom and hit "Enter"

// time in milliseconds, so 1000 = 1 second, change below to go faster or slower, do not suggest using less than 500 because tumblr might throttle you let time = 30000; const boopBtn = document.querySelector('button[title="Boop"]'); setInterval(function() { boopBtn.click(); const confirmBoop = document.querySelector('button.coRbX.cYyad.TRX6J'); setTimeout( function() { confirmBoop.click(); }, 200); }, time+200);

As long as you stay on the page, it will automate boops for you every 30 seconds. To adjust the frequency of boops, change the number for time. I seriously do not recommend going faster than 500 milliseconds/0.5 second.

You will know it's working because you will see the UI go to the confirm boop overlay and it will automatically confirm. Then it will keep repeating.

To stop spamming boops, simply refresh or close the page/tab.

THERE IS NO TIMEOUT IN THIS SCRIPT. IT WILL LITERALLY KEEP GOING UNTIL YOU CLOSE YOUR BROWSER OR CRASH IF YOU DON'T STOP IT YOURSELF. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED!!! I TOLD YOU THIS WAS QUICK AND DIRTY.

#i tried to automate super boops too but the mouseenter/mouseover event is not enough #and i don't wanna bother with programmatically moving the mouse itself because i'm lazy #maybe i'll try again later #leave a reply if you want to be spammed so you can get max out counters

[gnometa233]

"Trans men and lesbians can date!!" "Trans men and straight men can date!!" "Lesbian includes attraction to men!!!" "Labels mean nothing just use what you want!!!" what if I threw a rock at you.

#lgbt discourse #queer discourse #queer #yes ive seen all of those things being said unironically #y'all wanna include men in lesbianism so bad #y'all wanna invalidate trans men so bad #just say you're a mysoginist and go #just say you don't see trans men as real men and go #and for people who think it doesn't invalidate their label? #why even bother? why do y'all refuse to identify as bisexual? #why do you continue to disrespect lesbians and trans men #we can be different communities and still respect and uplift each other #identify as you want but one day you'll learn that actions have consequences #and get called a transphobe #and i will LAUGH #lgbt+ #anti bi lesbians #also labels mean things and if you don't agree with it don't participate in society! #because everything and everyone has labels whether you like it or not

[wowitsverycool]

sometimes when i look at siffrin being suspicious due to having a terrible time i have to remind myself that my reaction shouldn't be "i would simply be better at lying" and should instead be somewhere along the lines of telling the truth. but i wouldn't do that

#i would be soooo good at coming up with things that make sense to them and make them stop bothering me #you don't say nothing's wrong when someone's concerned about you that's emotion bottling 101 #you can't say something that opposes them if you want them to drop it you have to pretend you're giving them the answer #that they wanna hear so it doesn't feel like you're challenging them #I Would Be So Good At Being Normal I'd Be So Perfect At It #Surely I Would Not Regret Being So Normal And Perfect About it #isat spoilers

[chaggiehearts]

An offering for the fallenwings tag 🤲🏻 I love them sm

I always draw Lute with the softest expressions ever whenever I draw her looking at Vaggie pre fall :') the sweeter the love, the more painful the betrayal ig

Bonus because I've made a couple more frames for the animatic and I loved how this one looked :D (and it kinda looks like the continuation of the doodle since I basically redrew this old doodle for the animatic lmao)

#fun fact but I have a whole document with my headcanons for these two #I don't wanna be annoying but I'd like to post them one day #I wanna talk about them so bad 🥲 #like seriously if anyone else wants to scream about them too you can always do it in my askbox/DMs if you feel like it #I'm gonna be honest they've grown on me sm I'd say they're my 2nd/3rd favorite ship nowadays #they're just so horrible for each other *sighs lovingly* #fallenwings #hazbin hotel #vaggie #lute #my art <3 #art #hazbin hotel vaggie #hazbin hotel lute #dangervag #luggie #I'm just adding every ship name I remember at this point #they'll always be fallenwings for me tho <3 #vaggie x lute #lute x vaggie #also I completely forgot to add any watermark and can't be bothered to go back to do it lol

[feluka]

when will a dyke call me pretty. i need that high

#happened in 2017 and i never recovered #i still hear her voice saying “انت حلوة قوي” and my heart flutters #normally i'm very indifferent about my appearance (in a good and liberating way) and don't wanna be bothered about it #but all it takes is an attractive woman complimenting me and i'm like omg... you think so..... blushes myself to death...

[nevermore-selfship]

You know it's rare for me to openly speak out on a topic such as this, I've, legit only ever drawn attention to my stance on things like this literally only once, like, like ever I think?? Cause someone asked but like-

Could we just let, people, like things?? Like y'all, I, everyone who is ever in a fandom, especially for selfshipping, you, do know we're all basically playing with evolved stages with our imaginations, that which does not affect the real world like, whatsoever??

If you like a villain character, you can write how they legit loathe everyone else but you, that they're the softest around you, and would raze the entire world if it meant that you'd be smiling and all theirs.

If you like a character that happens to have a sexuality pertaining to the gender you're not, you can just CHANGE IT so that it does involve you, if you love the character, it is JUST A FICTIONAL BEING, do the things that make you happy! That make you comfortable, that is fitted for yourself, hence the term "selfshipping", it shouldn't be a concern or worry to anyone else about how you go about, what you want to do to a character unless you share your love to the world.

Take it from someone who has been harassed before over an incredibly stupid list of things, (villain characters, age difference as my f/os are much older than me, bi erasure??? yeah okay), let people, just, be, people, it's not hard to do - if you don't like something, don't look at it, and leave the person alone-you're not saving a fictional character who's gonna somehow thank you if you call out something that you don't like personally, you just look like a prude who has control of a keyboard and taking advantage of anonymity as long as it lasts.

Live by the creed of, "if they're not hurting anyone, if they're not hurting living, breathing people, then do what you want."

And while I kinda prefer not to sway over to a label in the selfshipping community, proship people you are ALWAYS safe here on my blog, gush about a character, talk to me about it, I welcome it.

This will never be an area where happiness is forbidden or talked down upon. Fandom areas are, oddly enough very dangerous which is so, bizarre to me, that people get that insanely mad over someone just trying to enjoy the piece of media they are.

#angel rambles #selfshipping #selfship community #selfship #not a vent i swear #Legit I promise this isn't a vent on my part nothing happened to me but when you see like #Enough of your friends being harassed and bothered over stuff like this you do wanna like #Lay down your own opinion and will this probably get me targeted too? Yeah probably but I don't care #proship safe

[sherlock-is-ace]

watched the first ep of Dead Boy Detectives today, did anyone also think the dialogue was a bit clunky?

I don't mean it was unwatchable or anything i just feel like it didn't feel realistic the way they introduced the characters and world... It felt like the dialogue was for the viewer instead of an in character thing. We were gonna be introduced to a viewer surrogate within the first few minutes, there was no need to have the characters who already know how the show's world works spell it out for nobody... and then explain it again when Crystal showed up? idk it felt like something I would write (not a complient) 😅

#the line ''we have to hide from death... or she'll get us'' was ridiculous #do you think the boy that's been escaping death since 1919 or whatever doesn't know?! #''we have to hide'' was enough the viewer can put 2 and 2 together and deduce it's bad if death sees them #to then minnutes later have them explain to crystal why they have to hide from death again... #just let the characters adress the camera if you wanna spell it out so easily #or you know... trust that the viewer is intelligent enough to wait 2 minutes for an explanation? #it was mostly just that first few mins of the first ep i think #i didn't pick up on anything else that trully bothered me #but idk it felt condecending dkjfghkdfg or simply badly written #which it was a bit of a let down to have it as a very first impression #i guess i went in thinking sandman and got like idk generic teen show #in the dialogue alone btw i actually really like the characters and the premise is awesome! #it just cuaght me by surprise #maybe it because i'm also watching fallout and the dialogue on that is like very well done and everything is a hint for something later #so i'm comparing it idk #anyways... is it just me? or was it actually clunky? #(don't spoil it past ep 1 pls) #angel talks #dead boy detectives #really liking it so far tho!

[livelaughlee]

Anyone else ever scroll through your mutuals blogs and like a bunch of their stuff, hoping they will dm first because it makes you too nervous to dm first or just me?

#i love my mutuals #but the social anxiety is real #i wanna talk to you! #but I also don't wanna bother you #sfw tickle community