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When dating a ND (not my own words. Affectionately stolen from a person on FB who responded to a post I made in a ND group about dating as a NT/ND couple):
Give them a lot like common courtesy, but on steroids. Examples: listen actively, not to answer, but to witness what your partner is trying to express.
Don't settle for unspoken expectations, take the time to ask for your needs gently and to understand what your partner wants.
Smile at odd little quirks, but be aware of laughing out loud. ND folks have endured a lot of abuse for their quirky but harmless behaviors.
Be patient when you don't understand, odds are your partner is trying really hard to be understood which is already stressing their patience.
Never forget what attracted you to your partner in the first place, write it down or tattoo it if you have to.
When you get irritated, remember that your partner's annoying thing now is probably a different manifestation of the very thing that you like most about them.
When you feel that you are doing most of the work, you are getting close to doing half the work.
Don't spend too much of your good times together worrying about how to be NT dating an ND.
Research in your alone time.
Enjoy every minute of the good times, because that will motivate you both through the awkward and difficult times.
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Late night thoughts about him for no reason
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maybe he's not who I want
I don't think this. I'm squarely, most of the time, in the space of, "I want this, I want him".
Thing is... he might need more. One person might not be enough. One person might not be exciting enough.
Knowing what I've read about AUDHD people, they need a LOT of excitement, which may come by way of other people.
I don't mind other important people in his life, but I can't share him sexually. I can't feel him, chest to chest, and think, "who else has been here?" On a purely health related note, what if all of these important people aren't careful? What if he's not careful? What if I catch something? No, it's not the end of the world, but also, it feels... inconsiderate and disrespectful. I don't think I can look at him, and think... "what if I catch something?"
He's still who I want.
I question, often, if I'm cut out for this. If, try as I might, I'm just not built for the work that comes with dating a broken person. Of course, maybe, after all of the work, he's who I want. I see the good. I see the brilliance. He's aesthetically pleasing. He's someone I can be proud of, if he puts in the work, and finds the successes that wants.
He's still who I want.
We're putting in the work. I'm putting in the work. He's trying. I hope. I think.
Maybe after the work, he won't be who I want. Maybe I won't be who he wants.
He's still who I want.
No relationship is easy... they all take work. My tolerance for work is HIGH. Maybe too high.
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just needed to smoke.
not sad anymore feeling #silly now. #gayboyproblems #420
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butterflies
He said I give him butterflies, and that it’s been 15 years since he’s actually felt this way. I’m inclined to believe him because his relatively severe ADHD/autism means, he’s usually telling the bluntest version of the truth, when he’s not being pressured for a response or being accused of something he may or have not done.
I told him it’s all pretend.
I don’t mean it of course… but he’s said the L word before, too flippantly, maybe too honestly, and then went and kinda fucked shit up. Its not that I think love is perfect, but saying and meaning the L word just… puts things on a pedestal that I just… can’t with.
I told then, not to say it. He said, “Okay, then, I have very strong feelings for you, that feels like love.”
His eyes always seem to be looking for something — almost wildly, when he’s not focused on sometjing, and for a second, in the morning, when we’re having our morning cuddles. We lock eyes, and I feel like he finds the thing. Its quick, and it flusters him a little.
I’m bad with heartbreak.
If this all ends poorly, I’ll be heartbroken.
Don’t say it, if you don’t mean it. It’ll break my heart.
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