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asteracaea · 11 months
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guys, a stranger from reddit got me the long sleeve tour tee and is mailing it to me at cost, no more, and i am truly overwhelmed and touched by the kindness
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Review of my past dopamine detoxx efforts, so you can learn from my fails and wins, just cuz I love you
YOUTUBE - I simply uninstalled the app off my phone. Some think it is simply unimaginable, that they can't handle it without YouTube, but Istg it's all lies your mind is telling you. If you're spending so much time on YouTube Shorts, just uninstall. It's like, so easily accessible via the YT app. On the desktop website version it is not as accessible (important keyword!), and thus, you're less likely to binge so hard. Every time I installed YouTube, Shorts was my bane. So I was so much off just uninstalling it. I also unsubbed from all my channels, I used to only have a few subs but I realized I just didn't listen to any of their content. I liked the IDEA of those people, their aesthethica, their whole mood, etc. But their content didn't help me. So out the window it goes!
FACEBOOK - That was a easy one to be quite honest, I used to post a few pictures a month, mostly food or hike trips, stuff like that. I just kept my Facebook going on for the professional groups and school group chats, otherwise it would be completely shut down. I now just don't post anything at all, nothing at all. People don't need to know every minutiae of my life. Shoo shoo.
TUMBLR - This one bit my ass hard. I unsubbed from every single blog, even my favourites, and saved the list in an archive sideblog. But it turned out I just didn't visit those blogs that often, and thus, I wasn't as active on Tumblr as much. So I'll concede, because I love my blog and Tumblr so much, I'll subscribe to a few blogs, but be very strict about my curating. One of the issues I had with Tumblr was the endless scroll of aesthethic pictures without any informative and thought provoking content... it just annoyed me to no end having to scroll and NOT MISSING THE "IMPORTANT" STUFF. (FOMO in a nutshell). Later on I'll reexamine my use of Tumblr. Maybe I'll just unsub again, maybe I'll curate it even more, to be seen. That's the beauty of this process, you can make mistakes, learn from them, and correct your shot as you go. No need to get it perfect from the start.
REDDIT - Despite deleting my account, I noticed I kept coming back to Reddit, because I lacked things to occupy my mind (veryyyyyy important to me else I'll go rabid). I found solutions that engage my mind, without absorbing negative vibes. Yeah as you might've noticed, Reddit is like so negative, and so irritating. No bueno. I installed a very simple sudoku game without ads, and downloaded a big fat bunch of boosk to read into my ebook. A massive quantity I can't ever finish them all. Smart babes gotta maintain their brains!
INSTAGRAM - It has been like YEARS since I ditched this, but I still remember very well my lesson: I obessively followed accounts of influencers, and artists and those home decorating accounts, to a point it took like a hour to check every single account's posts. Spending so much time over this, because I ASPIRED to become those people, but DIDN'T do any sort of effort. I did save pictures of artist's art, thinking I will do something inspired by their stuff, but I just did nothing. I just collected and collected and collected. It was exhausting my precious time without any good return, and as the wastage went on, my guilt became heavier. A guilty mind will do shit. It won't do stuff. It will procrastinate. So I decided to just quit, it was hard at first, but later I realized I just didn't miss it, and I was happy to have my productive, creative mind back. So yeah, good riddance
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rongzhi · 1 year
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Are street interviews more like… respectful in China? Because I know in America street interviews are usually just like a guy harassing random people on the street without permission but is it different on douyin? Because you’ve posted a couple street interviews and people seem way less awkward and uncomfortable in them
Idk I don't really watch American street interviews. The purpose of douyin street interviews is generally to be funny or ask pop culture questions, not to create gotcha moments or offend people, plus Chinese netizens would tear someone to pieces if they made those awkward off-putting interviews (the ones I think you're talking about? Like from tiktok? With the fuckboy or reddit types doing the interviewing?).
Funny street interviews have been a trend this year (or last year, 2022) although some people still find them rude to be honest.
Since the douyins are supposed to be funny and are probably clipped to just include the best moments and the people who provide the most accommodating reactions anyway. Some of the interviews are slightly scripted as well—usually the interviewer + interviewee agreeing on a question & responses ahead of time, or the interviewer interviewing someone they actually know. Some viewers still find the interviews offensive, but I've yet to see any interviews that are actually mean-spirited (imo)
🍵 relevant douyin drama time (no, i am not above this 🍉👀) (finally, an outlet for my gossip)
This guy I've posted a couple times got in trouble in November (iirc) because he interviewed some girl and she got offended and it turned out she was also a douyin user with a moderate following (i don't remember her username but it was Princess soemthing or other) and she sent all her followers to his channel to attack him 😵‍💫. He had asked her if she was a Calabash baby because she was wearing a tiara crown headband thing that sort of looked triangular like what they wear:
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she was evidentally insulted and made a whole video bashing his conduct . Mostly I'd say he got some rightful criticism because it turned out he hadn't had her sign a release or didn't get a verbal agreement filmed although he apologised under her video and then posted an apology on his channel as well, also promising he would always get a release agreement in the future and basically saying he didn't realise in the moment she was so deeply insulted the way she described in her video because her friends that were with her were laughing (💀) so he thought it was fine to post. (she shit talked him in the comment of his video which was a notes app slideshow LOL and accused him of continued bad behavior (basically didn't read his apology ); sort of a childish follow up but maybe being asked if she was a calabash baby was really that violating. I try not to make light of such things but she was a grown woman so I have to 🙄 a little. i mean the calabash brothers kick ass, first of all?? also I did see that video before it got deleted and her clip just seemed like whatever. i remember that originally the interviewer went up to her friend to ask a question and then she said something so he turned the mic to her and asked the infamous calabash question. and then she sort of gave him the stink eye over her shoulder while her two friends laughed and pulled her along.
side note tea was that in the douyin lady's follow up video about the drama some of her followers tagged this guy i have also posted before and said his were the only non-offensive street interviews because his were scripted (for the record I seriously doubt all of his interviews are scripted) and that all street interviews should be scripted otherwise they were taking advantage of people. and enough people tagged him that he showed up in the comment section and said something (sort of greasy imo) about how what the first guy did was wrong and he would never offend mei-nvs like that which was really rich coming from him imo LOL.
anyway all of this stuff has been deleted. the first guy privated a lot of videos for a while bc the comment sections were just that lady's followers attacking him for being a horrible person and finding issue with other interview clips where he asked women questions (even ones where the interviewee was laughing and not giving him an instant stink eye like the one girl). he went back to posting stuff after a week and hasn't had any other issues.
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daemonhxckergrrl · 10 months
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reddit appears to have cracked down on people viewing posts w/out signing in. they also appear to be pushing their mobile app even for desktop users, which is uh interesting to say the least.
it's also quite possible to break past their "you have to be 18+ and sign in" thingy (i don't think trying to read a single post counts as scabbing when i'm not signed in, not leaving comments or upvotes or anything, and i'm blocking any ads reddit may serve (does reddit serve ads ? it's been that long since i had no ad blocker lmao))
you can't just delete all the elements like on twitter, but you can delete the sign in and app qr code elements, then disable the blur using inspect element. i have no idea how to re-enable clicking on stuff, but maybe someone else does
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ehronlime · 1 year
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Ghost Games
(Disclaimer: This is a reworking of an old Twitter thread of mine)
What are your favourite games that only exist as a set of tweets or a screenshot of the notes app?
Or just a PDF download of a Google Doc in your "rpgs" folder with no identifying information that you have no idea how you got in the first place?
Or two long messages in Discord and you have no idea what the designer is up to now since they left all social media?
Or a friend showed you in their notebook once but they said it wasn't ready even though it seemed amazing and now they don't play games much anymore and just give an embarrassed chuckle when you tentatively inquire about the game they were working on?
What's your favourite deleted itch game?
Favourite dead blogs that you still have some pages of rules and game bits saved to your bookmarks?
I've been thinking about the ephemeral nature of games and game texts. Back in August 2021, I was asking around about a game PDF I had saved of a Google Doc I probably found on Reddit or some other forum (I still haven't found out where I got it from!). More than I year ago now, I went to share a link to an itch game page and discovered it was gone.
I think about how a bunch of lyric games that hit me aren't on any kind of "stable" platform like itch.io and are kinda hard to find now. I think about threads of "old treasures" from the early days of tabletop RPG zines, games that weren't digitized, one-off convention games, games that were put online but not in any way that's captured by our current platforms. I think of all the games from early eras that didn't get preserved because they weren't "notable" or made by "notable" people or quoted as inspirations by other "notable" games. I think of how archaeology can only see that which was "valued" to preserve.
I think of how many games that I and my current cohort of designers have made, entries for numerous game jams, that will be thought of in 1, 2, 5, 10 years time.
I was also thinking about game design and the act of playing games as necromancy. Since you can't get other people to re-play or re-experience a game session you had exactly, all you can do is give them some tools to maybe try and re-conjure, resurrect, a similar game.
Games die all the time.
I don't think my answer to this ephemeral nature of games and art productions is just to push for more archiving and permanence (lol sorry archivists and historians), though yeah let's try to do that too. I'm kinda okay that some things get to die and be lost. Their body gone, but their memory and mark on us persevering.
One thing that I keep coming back to is (I think) Brendan Keogh's thoughts on if we want to treat games as art rather than just products, we have to allow for games to be the equivalent of a drawing stuck on a fridge, or a poem written in a greeting card. That feels true to me. That some games can just be for a certain person, time, place.
I want more people to see gamemaking as a practice and art that they can engage with on whatever terms they choose, not just whatever terms "the market dictates". To make games with no thought whether they would be "notable" or remembered. To make games for the sake of having this thing exist, bursting and fading like a firework.
If that comes with the cost of ghosts of games littering our spaces, then so be it.
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notasimpleslater · 9 months
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(Reddit anon) Hey, thanks for answering. My theory towards the deleted/non-deleted posts, is that, if the rumors are to be believed, they've been together for several months and like I said wanted to start taking stuff down (probably something they came up with together) so that removing their S-O's from their pages would just be seen as part of the 'cleaning-up' process lots of celebs go through with their social media right before a big release (like Wicked is supposed to be). (1/2)
(1/2) Ethan for one was famously relatively private with his relationship, especially because some of the more rabid fans liked to attack his wife, so I think he might have thought he'd get away with it on the premise of 'protecting her and their son' and keeping them out of the spotlight. Like I said, I don't want to spread rumors but I can't help believing that this has been months in the works, they got caught or photographed together, and had to come up with something before it got out. (2.5) Also, I'm getting the sense that Ethan, like many of us, woke up to the story being splashed all over the front of every website imaginable, quickly privated his Instagram (whether he did that on his own or Ariana/one of his/her reps told him to do that is neither here nor there), and just hasn't opened the app since, hence why other pictures are still up. If the tabloids are to be believed and his wife truly was blindsided, I think he'd have more pressing concerns than opening Instagram. (Sorry this ended up being 4 messages, Tumblr asks are short) At first I thought that their comments being off had something to do with Wicked or something, but none of the other cast had that. Someone on Reddit also said that back in April Ethan and Ariana briefly unfollowed/blocked one another, so the theory is that they had a fight or something then and were playing up their KNOWN relationships (Ari with her anniversary, Ethan with mother's day) around that time to make everything seem A-OK.
Hey again 👋🏻
Yeah, that makes sense. Like, if it's true, I starting to wonder how long this has really been going on. I've seen some people mention how in the Mother's Day post Ethan called Lilly "the most wonderful mom/person" and that it seemed distant. So if anything that's probably when they separated, and the tabloids are just pushing the "she was blindsided!" thing for clicks. And on good terms since he still admires her as a person. (Page Six is not a reliable source, so I don't trust those articles)
Another question I have is if they have ever been seen in public together? A lot of articles are citing those pics from Michelle Yeoh’s party as proof of their relationship, but I don’t think so. Ethan publicly shared some of those pics to his stories, and he was wearing his wedding ring so I think they were just at that party as castmates. Then there was that pic posted by a fan in March. I remember the block/unblock thing back in April, but I assumed it was just a glitch and wasn’t purposeful. We haven’t seen any pics of them since then. I think we’ve seen more pics of Ariana with Bowen and Cynthia than we have with her with Ethan.
Another thing worth mentioning is that Ethan has been chronically off-line this whole year, and I’m starting to wonder if this has something to do with it.
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naegashutyoassup · 1 year
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[CW // Dec 18th, suicide, depression, online harassment] Shawols, let me know if this has been happening to you guys too.
I've been trying to write this on Reddit, but kept being silenced by getting no upvotes or even just getting automatically deleted, so here I am.
Also, if you find this post triggering, please look away now. This post is made for the sole purpose of finding potential victims of this sort of online abuse. If you or anyone you know has gone through this, just know that you are not alone, and nobody has the rights to harass you like that. If you have your own stories about this sort of thing, comment it or pm me if you would like (which is more recommended) and boost this post too so other Shawols wouldn't have to think they have to face this alone. Take care of yourselves as well as other people.
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So... I haven't been doing well lately due to a message online that triggers me until this day.
What I'm saying is that one day, I was on Tumblr when I've seen a notification popping up from someone. When I clicked on it, it was an ask. At that moment when I read it, my heart ached.
Someone said something along the lines of "why would you write a fanfiction of someone who killed himself" and I started to feel sick to my stomach. Just to be clear that I've NEVER written any fanfictions on the app and was possibly referring to posts that I've reblogged. Regardless, it was a disgusting thing they wrote, especially with the fact that they referred to Jonghyun as "deadman" or "someone who had killed himself" which would refer to Dec 18th.
I've spoken to someone over the internet and he said that this has been happening to him as well. As someone who writes fanfictions as a cope mechanism, he feels constantly shamed for even having a connection with him after all these times. There were even other times where he was told that Jonghyun never liked him, which put him in a deep depression for 6-8 months where he would attempt to kill himself multiple times, but managed to escape it due to the fact that he had emotional support such as his friends, family, therapists, etc. I, in the other hand, never had anybody around me. In fact, my mental health was always dismissed to everyone except one, my older sister. It was so bad that it even impacted my college and my relationships with my parents.
Although it's something small, I've found out that someone has went through something similar and I was able to make them feel like they were not alone. Now, me and my online friends are trying to start a tradition where we would drink at least 1000ml during the anniversary to commemorate his chest in which his fans would call "his man boobies." It's called #milkforjonghyun and you can search up for more information on Tumblr. Not only it was about making the day much less bearable for most, but it's for us to protest against people like that from dictating how we mourn and cope with our loss. Surprise enough, these people are typically trolls and not really fans trying to prey on vulnerable and grieving Shawols that may or may not have a big risk of mental health issues or possibly even suicide themselves.
Just for a question here... have you guys ever received a message like this? Please let me know so I don't feel like I'm alone in this.
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horizon-verizon · 1 year
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This won't change anyone's mind especially those who are vehemently against this ship and against Aemond (and for good reasons!) but there were actually some leaks pointing to Helaemond and/or to feelings from Aemond's part, at least. If you go to their blogs or Twitter accounts you will see that maaany, many shippers actually seem to base the chance of their ship becoming canon in some shape or form in S2 in those leaks. Last summer before the show was airing there was a leaker who went by the name of "HOTDLeaks" on Reddit. They posted a summary for every single episode which all turned to be 90%+ true and because of it HBO got Reddit to remove them for copyright reasons. The leaker obviously had real sources, I don't think anyone denies it at this point. But besides posting the summaries, they also answered various questions from other users and some of them were related to Aemond and how he would be portrayed as a character in the show. Nobody asked anything about the ship since it was NOT a thing at all before the show yet the answers were (the leaker said this is how his character was described in the casting call sheets for the audition): 1) "He loves his sister Helaena before her marriage, is jealous of Aegon."
2) "A lover of history/learning & a skilled fighter. His potential for greatness is obvious. He’s in love with his sister Heleana and dislikes Aegon. He’s bullied by Aegon & the Strong boys as a child. He becomes increasingly bitter with age."
Some screenshots of the posts: https://twitter.com/catalystcomett/status/1589389714599317504 (yes it's a shipper's account, I know but I haven't found any other post that included all those screenshots in one place) It seems like the former screenshot seem to be about young!Aemond and the latter about older!Aemond (or a mix between the two?) given the "lover of history" thing confirmed by his line in 1x09 about him studying history and philosophy.
This two posts were also removed by HBO for copyright reasons and it is interesting because there were other things the user posted and HBO did not bother to remove.
There is also this comment (notice the second part on inconsistent feedback from their sources): 3) "Aemond states that he would have married Heleana if he had been the brother chosen for her. I’ve gotten inconsistent feedback on wether or not this is out of love or duty." So now one can say "Aha! See, it's just that he's the dutiful son compared to Aegon! Even the leaker said so after all." Yes, it could very well be just the duty thing. Or it could be not. This post however was not removed like the others above which implied or said more than just duty although it doesn't necessarily mean anything.
4) Also something about the writers discussing whether or not to adapt the Aemon/Naerys/Aegon dynamic to Aemond/Helaena/Aegon. It's also in the screenshots above but here is another one (notice the date, again, before the ship was a thing): https://twitter.com/ZombieBryce/status/1555902921719439360
Their account (hotdleaks) was suspended by Reddit but to verify the posts were indeed genuine and not faked by shippers you can use apps such as Unddit (unfortunately it's a bit laggy, at least for me) which shows a poster's entire history including deleted/removed posts and enter the "hotleaks" username there. You can see that they do show up (you can click on the post and it will redirect you to the specific Reddit threads although with some posts being deleted…the threads may not make much sense). https://camas.unddit.com/#{%22author%22:%22hotdleaks%22,%22resultSize%22:100,%22after%22:%222022-07-23T21:00:00.000Z%22,%22before%22:%222022-08-05T21:00:00.000Z%22} As you can see from the history they also knew about the Larys foot fetish stuff, Aegon raping a servant girl (turned out to be Dyanna), the Greens being largely whitewashed and more sympathetic and other things.
Obviously one could say it's just that young!Aemond had just a teen crush on her and nothing more and that if there was actually anything behind the ship they would've had a proper scene together as adults (a very good point actually!) but one could also answer that we've only known them as adults for two episodes (three in Aemond's case) so there's still some room for something to happen in early S2 before B&C happens. And to be clear, by something happening I do not mean something ridiculous like the children theory being true, I only mean just a confirmation of feelings being romantic.
To conclude, sure, it's not definitive confirmation by any means but, in my opinion, in can be said the whole thing does point to the writers at least playing with the idea while also leaving things ambiguous enough in case they decide to make the ship canon next season…or not. They've not painted themselves into a corner where making it canon is the only option going forward but they haven't done the opposite either.
However like I said in the beginning those who either hate Aemond a lot or the ship will never admit there is indeed some 1% chance of it becoming a canon or at least be open to the possibility. I don't blame them of course, but I just think given how much they've already changed from the book, one should be opened to anything happening in the show despite not happening at all in the source material. They're not going to suddenly stick to Aemond's proper book characterization like some are hoping, just because Daeron who's supposed to be the dutiful son (where is this in F&B though?) is going to be in S2 and because we and others have been complaining about it, despite us being in the right. As you said and others have said, he's popular and there's way too many people who sympathize with him and writers will feel validated by these kind of reactions to him. They will keep witewashing him, undoubtedly.
Sorry for this ask getting so long, hopefully everything I wrote makes sense!
It was a useful ask, and I'm keeping this one fresh. It's finally a comprehensive look at Heloaemond apart from "because". This might explain much of why a fan would see Helaemond happening in the show in any state (but mostly romantic w/o sensuality). Me, I think that the underlying reason why the writers would choose to do it is to make Aemond more sympathetic.
Anyone else can look through the posts and sites for their own use.
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josieoh · 1 year
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𝑵𝑰𝑮𝑯𝑻𝑹𝑬𝑺𝑻 𝑻𝑨𝑺𝑲 𝑶𝑵𝑬
— a look at josie's mobile device & social media ( ft. lunara, dae-eun, finley, jacob, enzo, jieun, kahlan; special mention: lukas. )
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THE BASICS:
brand of phone:
samsung galaxy z flip4 512GB.
color:
graphite.
case:
this rhinestone & pearl with a chain thing. visual HERE.
locked or unlocked:
locked, of course, with the fingerprint scanner & PIN, which is jacob's birthday in the format of DDMMYR ( 010394 ) and it's only ever been told to jacob, but would it be hard to figure out? nein.
wallpaper:
childhood photo of her & her brother jacob. visual HERE.
lockscreen:
the front face is a photo of lady justice. visual HERE. the actual lockscreen is a photo of herself, courtesy of lukas for her linkedin or some shit idk. visual HERE.
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USAGE:
time spent on device:
not as much as one might think, truthfully. she only averages about 1.5 - 2 hours a day, but can certainly be on there longer if it's a day she isn't busy or wants to read.
five most used apps:
web browser. email. spotify. ID GO. wheel of fortune.
web tabs:
two are open: one being an online portal for US case law and the other being the crime report. she checks the former for work and school often, but she reads the former just for fun --- normally in the morning while she eats breakfast or before zonking out for the night.
last thing googled:
chapters 263-280 of massachusetts' statute regarding crime, punishments, and proceedings in criminal cases. she had to confirm something. don't ask me what because i haven't thought that far ahead thx.
last text message received:
a quick "that's my girl. i'm on my way" response from finley after josie sent her a very nsfw video.
last voicemail:
a request to meet up from a past play toy that she watched go to voicemail. she didn't bother listening to it.. just read the first line of the transcription before deleting it.
last thing on camera reel & what image was last saved:
photo last taken: THIS photo of finley. image last saved: THIS photo of perfume she intends to purchase.
extra tidbits:
she's personalised her phone all the way down to making the icons for all of her apps aesthetically pleasing; she does lots of shopping online & primarily does it via her phone rather than her computer; has three different apps for books and the only ones you'll ever see her reading are true crime ones.
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SOCIAL MEDIA:
handles:
ohjosie for personal. josieohcp for business. she passed the exam, so she's a certified paralegal, which is what CP stands for.
instagram, latest post:
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snapchat, latest sent:
used to be into it back in the day, but doesn't use it anymore.
dating apps:
um. no. she's hot, she doesn't need a dating app lol
spotify:
top three songs of '22: tippy toes ╱ XG {xx}
❝ thrift shop keep ya change and ya two cents bad gyals on the rise, you a nuisance drop jaws, tie tongues, and the loose ends got pushed out a queen, I've been true since... ❞
gucci vision ╱ qveen herby {xx}
❝ i need space, bitch, i'm comin' through if you're in my crew, you can hang tight, we got shit to do if they only knew, damn right we don't follow suit crystals out, she on that witch type... ❞
5-star ╱ CL {xx}
❝ you my ocean, i'm your star yeah 'til six in the morning baby don't stop, keep it coming make me feel so good... ❞
last listened to: yacht (k) ╱ jay park & sik-k {xx}
❝ just for my baby, just for my baby hit me up baby, on the kakao baby gimme good lovin', we can get down baby get down baby, hey... ❞
tiktok:
doesn't have the time nor the desire to bother with it.
facebook:
she deals with it for the firm she works at, but she's never had one herself.
others:
has a youtube account, but the only people she's subscribed to are JCS - criminal psychology ( both accounts ), EWU crime storytime ( all 5 accounts ), and planD. she also utilises reddit, primarily to read certain true crime related things, but she doesn't have an account. probably has a linkedin account for business stuff? who really knows, i don't.
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kizunaaa-luv · 9 months
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I have a huge crush on Daniel McGuffey, a video game producer/lead singer of a band, who participated in MasterChef Season 5 nine years ago
It's been a crazy month. I've always known the show MasterChef but never had the interest to watch it until I saw some short clips of MC S4 on Chinese Tiktok (Douyin) in June or July this year. Genuinely, it was just really enjoyable seeing the short clips during my uni break, and I felt I could also improve my English by watching MC. So I decided to watch the actual show starting with S5. Lol that's how I started to binge watch the show! 🤣🤣
In the first episode, that's when I noticed this hot looking guy in a striped t-shirt, with lots of tattoos on his arms, and a pair of glasses. Yeah, it's Daniel McGuffey, lol, but I didn't pay much attention to him at the beginning (coz he barely had any screen time, I mean...). I was more into the show because of Leslie and Ahran, hahahah.
Then in ep12 or 13, when Daniel teamed up with Jaimee, he finally got some screen time, and I thought they looked really cute together, and kinda shipped them 🫢😳😳 This is when I started to pay much more attention to Daniel. However, ironically he soon got eliminated because of the stupid egg soufflé (only when I JUST started to like him A LOT).
Ok, so after I finished S5, I started searching for the contestants' social media to see how they are doing today, and of course, I went straight to Daniel, but guess what? His Instagram account is private. So I requested so many times, but he wouldn't accept my request🙁 So I went to Twitter, but it seems like his old account DanielKaiju was deleted. So I then switched to Facebook, and finally this time I found his account! I got to see recent photos & videos of him, yay!
From Facebook, I got to know that Daniel is now part of a band called The Pride, which I actually started listening to, lol. Their music is even available on the Chinese app QQ music!!!
I like Daniel so so much, so I wanted to find a place where I can share my thoughts. So I downloaded Reddit, an app I've never used before. Sadly, not many people talk about Daniel there. So I then searched for Daniel on Tieba (a Chinese platform similar to Reddit). Luckily, I found a number of posts that expressed their feelings for Daniel which also complimented Daniel's looks lol. Of course, these posts were from like 9 years ago, but I randomly felt the need to reply to some of the posts, and wow, a person actually soon replied to my comment! Lol, we started chatting about the show and how we both like Daniel. 🥰🥰
From this person (who has liked Daniel since 2014, unlike me who only started liking him in 2023🥲), I got to know much more about Daniel's personal life. For example, how he was part of the IWSNT music video, worked for WB, had a fiancée during MC era, got married after the show, but it seemed like they got divorced later though…
At this point, I kinda became a stalker, stalking the girl’s Instagram, and also Daniel’s friends’ insta…(I feel so creepy, I'm truly sorry for the stalking in past week, I just wanna know more about you😒😞😞)
Put that aside, it was rly surprising to know that Daniel filmed lots of music videos or just fun videos back then. Wow, what a talented man who can create video games, draw, act, sing, and cook! (And look so good at the same time😍
I seriously have a huge crush on you Daniel🥹🥹. I know you had lots of fangirls back then during your IWSNT era and when MC was aired. And now here's me, a 20 year old, new Chinese fangirl being crazy over you, a 41 year old American man who lives on the other side of the world. (I know this is so random…😶‍🌫️😶‍🌫️
Am I out of my mind? I think about him all day, use his photo as my wallpaper, talk about him with my real-life friends, and even write short unfinished stories of me traveling to America, bumping into him on the street, and falling in love with him... He seriously became my new ideal type. I was never drawn to white guys, but I guess I am now, especially those with tattoos. 🥲🥲 (Ok, I'm gonna say it, I feel really weird and creepy, but I'm gonna say it. I want to sleep with you so bad, Daniel McGuffey fk me hard...🥵)
Ok, anyways, enough of those creepy shits. Yesterday I posted about Daniel on Reddit, asking what people think about him. The comments were both positive and negative... whatever, it's not gonna change my pounding heart for Daniel. Also, I found Daniel's TikTok, it was a public account, so I decided to leave a comment, and yay, he liked my comment and replied! 🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻🫶🏻 I'm literally in tears right now.
And today, I searched for Daniel once again on Google and found a post about him on Tumblr, which includes links to his older videos, those filmed like almost 20 years ago... lol, glad I found those videos of you, getting to know you more day by day...? So I once again downloaded an app I've never used before, that's how I got here on Tumblr!!!
He probably will never know, a random Chinese girl who's living in Australia has a huge, huge crush on him because of a show that aired 9 years ago. This is really weird, and I feel like a creep, but yes, I like you very, very much. I really wanna visit Los Angeles now, will I get to see your band perform?
Idk, I'm writing my feelings down and uploading them on Tumblr because I'm afraid that one day I will forget all of this...(hopefully not
Hope Daniel doesn't see this post EVER (can't imagine how embarrassing it will be for me... it would be so cringey/funny for him to see a fangirl's love letter, right...? xx)
Please don’t see me as a creep, I swear I’m a mentally healthy, normal, happy university student😂😂. I’m just being huge fan girl nowadays😆 (idk I felt the need to explain
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i hate that the more i try to make friends, the more impossible it becomes. i’m a single mom, i am extremely poor, living check to check and drowning in debt. i work from home, do remote schooling, and suffer from chronic pain. idk how tf to make friends, i am also a late in life diagnosed AuDHD(33). i have no friends, been single for 6yrs. never have a friendships/relationship last longer then a year. i have searched all over the internet, reddit, social media, tried every app i could find to meet people in any capacity. and i’ll start talking to people, only for them to ghost me before i commit their name to memory. i am struggling financially, emotionally, physically. i’m always in pain and it is so tough to get out of bed most days. but my family makes me feel like i’m exaggerating my pain or just don’t care. so i feel more and more isolated each day. and it’s extremely frustrating and heartbreaking when you have no one. not even someone online to randomly send memes too. i kept trying to reach out to people online or keep in contact with the few i meet irl. to no avail. so my depression just worsens everyday. my meltdowns are occurring multiple times a day. i cannot breathe. i just needed someone. not even someone to vent to. just someone to be my friend. so i didn’t feel alone going through everything. to make all this pain and suffering worth it. but it isn’t. i’ve even tried posting here on social media literally BEGGING for someone and my literal screams for help get ignored. i failed my exam for the 3rd time yesterday, minutes prior i learned i was going to be dropped from school for nonpayment. and the day before i learned that i have to be worried about a heart murmur. and all i wanted was to just not think. instead i broke down completely i smashed my cane into the floor until my carpal tunnel flared up worse. and then just walked outside with the intent to walk into a lake. but everything was so far away and it ended up raining. so i cried in the rain, hoping that someone who run me over. i’ve tried helplines, phone, text, and chat. they ALWAYS go straight to “you just need a support system. you need someone to rely on.” every time i tell them i have no one it’s always like, “not even family or coworkers?” like no asshole, if i had ANY type of support system i wouldn’t be talking to you. i’ve been hospitalized for an attempt and it was like 6k$ for a FORCED five day stay. and while i was in there, the dr saw that i OD’d with my antidepressants and saw i was prescribed vitamin d and told me that i would have been more successful ODing on vitamin d. but locking me up and force feeding me pills wont change the fact that i am never going to be good enough. the people that i end up letting in after being lowkey harassed to be in my life they all abused me. i just don’t know what else to do. this is the 3rd Reddit i’ve created and probably going to end up deleting bc i am invisible here too. why is it illegal to commit suicide? it’s my fucking life, and it ain’t hurting anyone. no one cares about. i am better off dead.
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purplesurveys · 1 year
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What’s your favourite type of survey to take? A collection of random questions that’ll make me answer beyond a yes or no, but also not make me reflect and give an entire thesis of an answer. Questions like the last time I stepped foot in a bookstore or what my elementary school friends are up to now are usually enough to catch my interest.
What was the last topic you read about? The Columbia space shuttle disaster. I’ve only ever read about Challenger, so when I learned about Columbia from a Reddit post I ended up reading the Wiki page for it.
Have you ever made a diorama? I don’t think I have, even for school.
Do you prefer Windows or Mac? Mac.
What’s the best amusement park ride you’ve ever been on? Ooh, I hate rides haha. As a kid I was always the party pooper screaming for the attendant to stop operating the rides because I was dizzy or nauseous or scared or whatever, until I just accepted that theme parks just aren’t for me. Well, except for the food stalls.
Where are you right now? Describe the room or place. I’m in my bedroom which has been recently renovated, now housing my loft bed. The stairs to the bed double as shelves, where I meant to house my K-pop merch but ended up housing merely my BTS coffees (I bought way too many as a newer fan); the rest of the merch – albums, DVDs, photobooks, etc – are on the shelves on my TV stand. Underneath the bed is my work station and my makeshift mini couch which is really just a couple of foldable mattreses.
Have you ever participated in a fundraising campaign? Nothing on-ground, but yeah. Mostly donation campaigns spearheaded by local ARMY chapters, or for fundraisers to rescue stray dogs.
Do you know how to knit? Nah, never learned how to. I loved embroidery for a time, though.
What did you have for lunch today? Just French fries. Wasn’t too hungry.
Name some of your favourite sitcoms. Friends, The Big Bang Theory, Brooklyn Nine Nine.
Who is the 7th contact in your phone and how did you meet them? Bea; she’s always been my immediate superior at work. We started out as a manager-associate tandem; but promotions have happened over the years and we now work as director-manager.
Would you know how to read a house blueprint? I don’t think I’ve ever seen an actual one in real life. I probably wouldn’t.
What shirt do you wear the most? Idk if there’s one; I try to wear my clothes an equal amount.
Do you keep notes on your phone? What sort of things do you write? Minutes from work meetings, mostly. I also started a thing this year where every social media post from a BTS member requires me to save a particular amount of money hahaha, so I use my Notes app to track the daily posts then transfer them to a spreadsheet where it does the calculation for me.
Have you ever used Duolingo to learn another language? I used it to learn Spanish during the peak of the pandemic. I got pretty far, but found the tenses too difficult and stopped from there.
What was the last video game you played? Does In the Seom count? Let’s.
Do you remember much from high school? Not really. Back in college I did a major oopsie and accidentally permanently deleted my entire camera roll, so I’ve virtually no photo/video record from 2014-2017 – the biggest factor in my not-remembering-much-from-high-school. Then there is also the fact that all 4 years were spent with my ex as my best friend, and my mind has done a fantastic job wiping out those memories as well, so.
What’s your favourite fruit to snack on? Oof, don’t like fruits.
Has anyone ever come out to you? Sure.
Have you ever been part of a bridal or groom’s party? Just as a flower girl and as a ‘junior bridesmaid,’ which was a unique concept my mom’s best friend had at her own wedding.
Are there any rooms in your house that don’t have windows? Nah, every single room has at least one.
What’s your go-to order from KFC? Either a Zinger or their Twister. I never actually get fried chicken come to think of it, whether from KFC or other restaurants – eating them properly is too much work what with having to separate the bones and all haha.
What was the last album you listened to in full? Flowers for Vases by Hayley Williams in what is probably the first time in two years that I finished the album all the way through. I’m three songs into mono. now and will be jumping into Indigo right after, too. 
Would you prefer cupcakes or a big cake for your birthday? Cupcakes. I don’t like cake and if I were to get one it’s largely to feed everyone else.
What emotion is strongest for you at the moment? Poignant. I hate Sundays.
Do you have Disney+? Yep. Have you ever sent a package or letter to a foreign country? I haven’t done that.
How many jobs do you have on your resume? Just my current one so far.
Do you use pepper to season your food? No.
When was the last time you had a headache? Thursday. It was my own fault, using my laptop while in a car. I felt like vomiting within five minutes.
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Have you ever thought of a relationship as more of a job than love?  No, everything I did through the highs and lows were out of love. It never felt like a chore or obligation at any point.
Have you ever been caught right in the middle of a rain storm outside?  Yes, a few times. I also never carry an umbrella so this has most definitely happened to me more than it has with other people haha.
Have you got any cousins with interesting or embarrassing names?  My closest cousin’s second and third names are both movie references, which I find very cool. I can’t remember where he said his second name came from, but his third is from Schindler’s List.
What is one food you could eat for a month, straight, and not get sick of? I’m confident about answering sushi for this. I’m constantly looking for it, lol.
When was the last time you watched a complete hour of the news?  When my dad is home we always watch the evening news all the way through, over dinner. That said the last time we did this was early January.
Have you ever spray painted something about your love somewhere? No.
When was the last time you visited the park? Who did you go with?  We don’t have parks around here...
Are you one of those people who like to eat at restaurants a lot? I do like dining in at restaurants especially if with company, but since everyone I know is constantly busy or has plans, I don’t get to do it as much as I’d want to. I just make up for it and make sure I get to regularly try new food (a personal goal) by getting food delivery.
Have you ever been out on the ocean in a rather small boat?  Yeah. I can’t remember which province it was, but we were headed to a city you can only get to by boat, hence the boat ride. I was fine, but can’t say the same for a number of people there who didn’t fare as well.
When was the last time you went swimming? Who did you go with, if anyone?  Last December. I was with my family on a weekend beach trip to Zambales.
Do you like going to the beach, or do you not really care to go?  I love the beach and used to enjoy solely the actual concept of beaches; but now that I’m older I feel like I now enjoy the culture of the general vicinity more so than the beach. Like I prefer going to places with a little bit of nightlife in it; I wouldn’t enjoy as much if I was at a remote resort with a private beach, with nothing happening.
What are your parents’ names? Are you named after either of them?  I’m not sharing those, but I can confirm that I’m not named after my parents.
What was the last thing you bought at a store? When did you buy this?  On the day of Seonho’s fanmeet I rushed to a hardware store to get batteries for the lightstick I meant to buy at the merch stand. Unfortunately when I got to the arena, they were all out of lightsticks hahaha; in the end I got to use the batteries for my BTS lightstick instead when I went to the cinema screening of Yet to Come Busan.
What is one odd thing about the opposite sex you find to be attractive?  I wouldn’t say it’s odd, just something not really embraced by a lot of guys – being confident, comfortable, and content in their masculinity. I admire dudes who can be loud and fangirly about K-pop, or be able not to bitch about a little bit of makeup put on them.
What noises in the room you’re in, do you hear at the moment?  Don’t judge me but I’m literally listening to RM, Paul Blanco, and Mahalia’s Closer AGAIN. I’m OBSESSED with this song, fuck. I take 5x as much time as it takes to go through one round of Indigo just because I repeat this song way too goddamn much.
Do you know a lot of things about the opposite sex’s body parts?  Not as much as I’d like, admittedly. I haven’t had any experience with guys and everything I know is just from science textbooks and educational YouTube videos here and there.
What color is the kitchen in the house you’re in, painted?  It’s white with some brown accents at the bottom.
Do you live in a town where basically everyone knows everyone else?  Nah, that kind of stuff only happens in the province.
When was the last time you or someone else in your family bought a vehicle?  My dad got our Vitara in like 2018, but he sold it in 2020 because we couldn’t keep paying for it during the pandemic.
Are your grandparents the kind who are very protective of you? I don’t doubt they care about me, but protective isn’t a word I’d use to describe their grandparenting style. < Super true. I know they’d come to my defense and feed me and do grandparent-y stuff, but they don’t hover.
Have you ever, or do you live on a farm at this moment in time?  I’ve never lived on a farm.
Are you one of those people who can’t help but download everything they find?  Not at all. Owning a secondhand laptop riddled with viruses made me know better for when I started owning my own laptop; the only thing you’ll find in my files are screenshots, haha. My phone is *sort of* a different story though – I obsessively download photos, videos, TikToks of anything BTS. My camera roll is at 32k at present.
How many things in the past have you bought off Ebay? What things?  I’ve never used eBay, so zero.
Are you or the people you live with pack rats? Or are they tidy?  We keep a tidy home.
What are three things to you that are really worth the wait in life?  Weathering through your darker periods in life to attain happiness in the end; ignoring leaked movies/albums and waiting for their actual release date; and on a more personal level, having to spend the next two years waiting for BTS to come out of their hiatus. 2025 is gonna be a (tearful) RIOT (and reunion).
Is there any sound everyone else finds weird, yet you find nice?  ASMR chewing sounds. Nearly everyone I know hates the eating ASMRs whereas it’s really the only kind I find worth watching til the end ha.
Were you always one of those kids who got in trouble with everyone around?  Not at all; it was the opposite. I was really shy as a kid and barely made a move. I liked to be invisible.
When was the last time you took a nap? Did it relax you any?  Yeah, I took a siesta this afternoon. I slept at 4 AM the night before so it was very relaxing, but waking up was shit because I woke up with my entire back sweating.
Honestly, do you see yourself as a slut?  Nope.
Is there a secret you’ve never told your parents?  A number of them. I dunno if I envy those who share everything with their parents; I can never imagine being such an open book to my own.
What’s the hardest thing you’ve ever been through?  The stupid breakup that nearly killed me.
Have you ever had your heartbroken? Yes.
Do you think Enrique Iglesias is sexy? I’m not actually familiar with how he looks like.
Can you text quickly?  Yeah. A fast-paced job helps you with that.
Do you like fast food or does it disgust you?  Depends on the restaurant. I’ve never seen a clean KFC or Chowking branch, but I’ll happily order at a McDonald’s.
Which singer’s vocals would you love to steal?  Cho Youjeen.
What’s your favourite shop?  I don’t have one. I don’t shop much.
Have you got a hairdresser that you can trust? Yep.
Are you a deep or light sleeper? I’m sort of a weird case because I can be on both ends of the spectrum. I can sleep through a relatively intense earthquake or noisy conversations, but like if I have to wake up early I can also automatically wake up like 10 minutes before my alarm rings, without fail.
Do you wear a lot of make up? Nope. If I do it’s very light and I keep it to the basics. Just foundation, concealer on my acne scars, and the lightest hint of blush and eyeshadow that no one is probably ever able to make out.
Do you get nervous before exams? Yeah, it was a constant feeling I went through for every exam, whether if I knew I was prepared for the test or was just planning to wing it.
Does the weather influence your mood? I can be impatient and not the happiest camper if it’s very sunny and hot out.
Who was the last person you kissed? My last partner.
What’s your favourite alcoholic drink? Peach soju. For cocktails, Long Island Iced Tea.
Do you watch Big Brother? No, I never understood the hype.
Do you like the smell of BBQs? Sure.
Do you crash on people’s sofas often? Never done it.
Have you left school or not? I did, three years ago.
Can you keep a secret? Sure.
Have you ever been trapped in a fire? Fortunately not.
Do wasps scare you? Yep. Anything that flies because you never know whether they’ll fly the fuck away or zoom straight to your face.
Have you ever had to spend the night at a hospital?  Yes once, when I had a really low platelet count. I was admitted the same time as my sister, for which I really felt for my mom as she was understandably deathly worried at the time and ended up losing weight over those two days.
Are you currently trying to get over someone?  Nope.
Have you ever dated someone with longer hair than yours?  Yes.
Have you ever bought clothing online?  A few times, yes.
Have you ever worn flip flops in the snow?   I have never experienced snow.
Do you wear Roxy, Billabong, or Volcom?  Nope.
How old were you when you met your first love?  I knew them since I was 4 but we didn’t become friends until we were 13. Started dating at 16.
Are you big on partying? I’m not big on the culture, i.e. I have to be at a bar/club every Friday, but I’m definitely always down if my friends plan something or if I get an invite.
In December, were you single or taken?  Single.
What is the last thing a boy gave you?  Will a dude handing me a parking ticket count? LOL Are you listening to music right now?  Nah, I’ve just finished Indigo and plan on finishing the rest of this survey in silence.
Last time you saw fireworks? With who?  Right after our New Year’s Eve mass when our church had a quick fireworks show. I was with my family.
Anything hurting?  Shoulders. I think I’ve been having shit postures in bed recently as I’m always waking up in utterrrrrrrr pain.
Were you happy when you woke up today?  Not really. More dazed and disoriented as I had stayed up til 4 AM reading fanfic haha.
What mood are you in right now?  There’s a bit of paranoia and anxiety creeping in as it’s a Sunday evening and I have to work again tomorrow...but I’m trying to push it aside and remind myself that I can choose to enjoy what’s left of my free time instead.
Are you mad at anyone right now?  Nah, no reason to be.
What are you currently hearing right now?  The quiet hum from my (now bladeless!!!) electric fan.
Are you confused?  No.
How much clothes do you have in your closet? Enough, but like 70% of them I don’t even wear anymore so technically I don’t have a big enough selection. I try to get new clothes at least once a month so that I get to build on what’s my current style these days.
Are you good at hiding your emotions?  My face reveals everything, so no. It can be both a good and bad thing.
Who is the last person you talked to on the phone?  Hans. We were gonna meet up for dinner at our favorite Korean place and he just called to ask me where I was and what my ETA was.
Do you regret anything from your past?  Things here and there, yep.
Last argument?  I can’t remember. I don’t like getting into arguments.
Favorite month(s)?  April.
Have you ever regretted letting someone go? For a time after it happened, yeah. With the clarity that comes from years’ distance from the emotional fallout, definitely not. < Same.
Have you ever broken someone’s heart?  Probably.
Did you speak to your father today?  Nope.
How many months until your birthday?  Two.
Who was the last person to compliment you?  I’m not sure. Maybe Celeste after I presented a pitch? She said something along the lines of “crushed it!” a few days ago.
Do you often use the term “slut”?  No.
Do you regret anything you’ve done in the past 24 hours?  I don’t think so, no.
Would you ever have a threesome with your friend and their bf/gf?  Not interested.
Who would you really like to become better friends with?  Lea. We got to spend time together last Wednesday when we watched Yet to Come, and she’s a really great person to be around! We talked for like 5 hours straight and even then it wasn’t enough. I’m glad we were able to reconnect.
Could you go the rest of your life without smoking a cigarette?  Easily.
Do you personally know anybody who has more than five tattoos? Yes.
Name something you dislike about the day you’re having? IT’S SUNDAY.
Do you believe there’s always room in your heart for your first love?  If that room is resentment, then yes.
Have you ever worn the opposite sex’s underwear?  Nope.
Have you ever kissed in a pool?  I think?
Have you ever lied to protect someone’s feelings? Sure.
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kittybug99 · 1 year
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tiktok has ruined facebook for me. they always get me with those stupid reels now and every time I got to check to see if my friends/loved ones have posted anything that I want to see I get sucked in by those stupid videos. I'm always like, oh I'll just watch this one that looks silly and cute and then I keep clicking and I realize I've been watching for an hour. SO i say "oh i should stop after this next one" and then I don't and then it's been 2 hours and now I need to start thinking about what to eat for lunch and don't have time to sit down and focus on homework anymore. and then after lunch i start working on homework and then I'm like, oh i just sat down, let me check facebook real quick just catch up if anythings happened. and facebook has gotten very insidious about ads as well these days, i have to scroll through like 10 different ads just to see a single post from someone I actually know/follow on facebook. and of course I will end up scrolling past those stupid reels and click on one. I tried to train myself out of it. I tried to train myself to click on one and then immediately close it. It didn't work. Anyway, i remember during the 2020 election I got paid to participate in a survey that required me to not use facebook for 4 months. and I think that that was like, the happiest I'd been. I mean, I would have my partner check my page to make sure that no one tagged me in anything I should see (family photos, pics of my nibling, important family updates, etc)
anyway, short story long I installed an extension (limit, i think) that will limit you to a preset number of minutes for any website and it has some set in right away like facebook, reddit, etc. the issue with this is that it's wayyyy to easy for me to turn off. Also the presets were un-deletable. and it considered literally anything that wasn't google itself to be a distraction (even Canvas... the school app). so the best I could do was set the limit really high for every website that wasn't a distraction. this failed because all too often i would say "oh i deserve a lil break" and disable to extension to check facebook for "just 5 min" which would immediately turn into 4 hours of reels.
I realize that I should probably state that I deleted facebook from my phone like 2 years ago because this was an issue on my phone. Like I would open my phone and immediately go to facebook, so i deleted it from my phone and from thence forward facebook was exclusively a computer experience.
Anyway, I've looked into countless ways to disable reels from facebook, but every blog claiming solutions says that reels don't exist on desktop mode, so just delete facebook from the phone and only use facebook on your computer. yeah I already did that buddy. years ago. but reels in fact do exist on desktop mode. anyway, i installed a new extension that just fully blocks facebook completely between hours that I set (1am-midnight), and I didn't look into how to change the hours or disable it.
I didn't realize how much of my facebook checking was just muscle memory. every time i even slightly lose focus on my homework i just open a tab and type "f" without thinking
now i get a little blank screen that says "facebook is disabled between the hours of 1-24, which snaps me out of it, and I can usually re-focus pretty quickly.
Anyway, everyone on this planet who has been subjected to whatever dystopian media thing we have going on has had their attention span stolen from them and we deserve better
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boutiquemains · 2 years
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Friendly for facebook comes up as mac ny ny
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Trying to go back to the news feed after going to someone’s post and thread doesn’t always go back to the news feed, or it takes me so far such as back to the top of the feed. Now, it doesn’t take me to Safari- I have to copy the link, exit Friendly, then go to Safari and paste and go. I used to be able to click a link and it would take me to Safari. I like that I can personalize it by color and add other social media accounts. I liked that the news feed stayed on Most Recent and it was easy to navigate. I tried the official Facebook app many times but I always delete it and returned to Friendly. I’ve used it exclusively since it first came out, way back in 2010 or 2011. The app periodically cleans itself which is good, and while it's nice to have everything in one place, just keep in mind that their main focus is Facebook so if you have other social media you might be better off keeping the original apps for those. Twitter seems to work fine on here, I haven't noticed any problems, but I also don't use it as much. There is also NO way to receive direct messages from Instagram- I just found out today that people had been messaging me months ago and I never knew about it. I've updated this app several times and it's never been fixed, I think they only care about the Facebook portion of it. While the photo filters do work, the editing tools do not show up at all- it's just a blank empty space where they should be. Just keep the instagram app because the Friendly version is terrible. If you are planning on also using this for Instagram, forget about it. The ads can be a little annoying but it's what you'd expect. There is also no way to upload video from your phone to Facebook, I'm not sure if they'll be able to fix that, but it would be nice. I always have to go to Facebook's mobile site and do it there. There's no way to upload photos into people's comment sections. This app is a fine substitute if you just want to get Facebook off your phone, but it definitely has its flaws. Friendly is not affiliated with, endorsed, or sponsored by Facebook Facebook® and the Facebook logo are trademarks of Facebook Inc. Please use link on this page, or message us from the app help menu Advanced Media Player (play in background, adjust speed, Picture-in-Picture)Īnd don't hesitate to reach out if you need anything
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theyearthirtytwo · 2 years
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Day 2.
Knowing what to write about and sitting down to actually write are often, for me, two very different things. I suppose maybe that is the whole point behind Morning Pages a la The Artist's Way and warm-ups in general. Basketball games. Doodling. Vocal exercises. That first morning cup of coffee. We often need a little cajoling to get our best work. (full transparency, I googled how to spell "cajoling" to make sure I got it right. I did. I am irrationally proud.)
So much of the "art" we see on the internet is just shitty first drafts. It's embarrassing, I think, that we've created a society of instant gratification that no longer allows creatives to actually create without near constant production. We ask for more, more, more until there is nothing more to give. That is what happened for me and We Live Here Now. You simply cannot create top-tier prose day after day, month after month, and expect to like even a quarter of what you produce. Or at least, I believe anyone with a [not so] healthy dose of imposter syndrome can not.
When I decide to look at my twenties as a shitty first draft, it feels better. It also is tinged with an ounce or two of regret that I "wasted" an entire decade mostly fucking up, but it's true nonetheless. (I had no idea nonetheless was all one word. Back to standard pride level.) My twenties were, without question, my shitty first draft. I'm still figuring out how to edit out the worst parts.
I am sure my therapist would encourage me to not think of it as "editing out" but rather, lessons learned - the shit that doesn't get to make it to the next draft. And sure, that's fine.
I have this idea about myself that continues to be proven inaccurate. In my version of self-loathing, I believe that everyone knows what a mess I am/was/have-been/will-be. Over the weekend I attended a party at a friend's house in Portland that would prove this theory unequivocally false. I've been friends with this person for close to a decade (wow), meaning - through the majority of my messiest years - and have met/known/loved many of the other dear people in his life during that time. Within moments of stepping foot on the lawn I was swooped into not one, not two, but three massive hugs and gleeful conversations. I didn't make to to the back yard for another 40 minutes....
AHHHHH!!!!! I JUST SAW A QUAIL FAMILY ON THE LAWN!!!!!!!! QUAILS ARE SO CUTE!!!!!!!!!
ok, back to how many people love me.
After the party, my friend texted me how wonderful it was to have me there and how the general feedback he's been receiving since has been "great party, it was SO GOOD to see Sharlyn." Being loved is a pretty special thing.
Not one of those people said "Sharlyn was pretty drunk, but it was still fun" or "She kind of overshared" or "She's put on a few lbs" or "I can't believe she's still not happy" - Probably none of them were even thinking it. Almost certainly none of them were even thinking it.
If I can learn to love myself like my friends do - for the joy and comfort I bring, for the loving and accepting space I leave for people, for the complete lack of judgement or expectation I put on others, and if I can learn to accept the human parts of me that have previously created a "pillar of fire, shooting directly from my chest" (call back), maybe this decade I will be able to create (produce, yuck) the work, the live, the me that I can be truly proud of.
I deleted the Zillow app from my phone. I also deleted Instagram, Pinterest, and Reddit. The applications I onced used to be anywhere else mentally are gone. Replaced with a silence and a discomfort that forces me to be right here, right now. I hate it.
It's probably great for my relationship with the kiddo that I nanny. I imagine it's great for my brain and cognitive function. I can already tell that it's great for my mental health.
I've wanted to redownload Zillow approximately 25 times already (it's been two days), but I am sticking it out for a few reasons.
Reason #1: It's Just Not Helpful
It's not helpful to imagine all of the other places I "could" be or "might want" to be instead of the place where I am. I am in no position to be purchasing a home at the moment and do not even know if I would like these homes beyond the internet (recent research - driving by homes in Salem and Eugene I was convinced that I would love, but didn't - tells me I would not) and even if I was in a position to buy a home (again, I am not), my partner and I are in the process of figuring out some very big things - including where we ultimately want to live together. This future-tripping-game-of-imaginary-house I am playing WITH MYSELF just isn't helpful.
Do I freaking love imagining how I would pretend decorate or renovate a home? Sure. Will I return to my lifelong-favorite-waste-of-time-and-creative-energy again? Without a doubt. But for now, it's unhelpful. So away it goes.
Reason #2: The Gift of Presence
In the era of the internet, being physically and mentally present is fucking hard. It's also really fucking important. Not having these freshly updated apps readily available inside my pocket computer any time of day and night requires me to notice when I would like to numb via escapism (and, unfortunately, how often) and highly encourages me to do anything else - focus on my breath, notice the nature around me, give myself comfort, give myself grace. So I'll start there. I'll notice when I am feeling the need to escape and I'll change my habits to not require the escapism I seek. How boring.
The act of actually re-downloading the apps wouldn't take very long, but the moral failing and personal disappointment I would feel in myself if I did so wouldn't be worth it.
So, for now, I have my feelings, my thoughts, my breath, and my body. I have the right here and the right now.
Let's hope that's enough.
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daemosghost · 2 years
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As someone who'd been unsupervised on the internet since the age of 3, it genuinely bothers me how this trend of adults just letting their kids go unsupervised on the internet just continues to happen.
For me as a child, things were already harder back then because most people around the world were still very tech illiterate when it came to computers, the internet, and the dangers that come with it. But even now where there's moderation on most apps and sites and the safe search function unlike then, it's still dangerous, honestly probably even more so than it was before, yet I've seen several times now children aged 5 and up with Twitter, Instagram and even reddit accounts, and people for nearly a decade now using their kids to gain attention and internet and not caring for the dangers.
Three times now I've encountered whole children on Twitter, these kids were around 8-13 years old and I guess they didn't do internet safety videos where they live because those kids had not only their whole age in bio, but also as their whole ass name and where they live and some even with what school they went to somewhere on their accounts and it's like why? Why is nobody watching what you do? And I get that you're literally a child but you should know the dangers behind at least telling strangers online where you live.
As a kid i learned internet safety and the dangers that come with strangers online asking for A/S/L, I just was like "whatever" for the most part and sometimes lied about my age. I used to hang out on anime sites that had chatrooms, I ended up, at the age of 8, making an account on Chatango though I lied about my age. I ended up being harassed and made fun of in the chatroom because most of the people there realized I was a child and also I broke their bot(that at the time for a bit I thought was an actual person) twice and they were perplexed by that. Then one day I decided to make another account but with my actual age, which was still 8 at the time, instantly people that were grown adults started messaging me, only one of which that expressed worry and that I should delete the account immediately, I didn't simply because I was told not to. Two encounters I remember was some creep in his 50s with his micro as his profile picture trying to coerce me into telling him I "liked what I saw", the other supposedly a white woman in her early 20s coetcing me into explicitly roleplaying with her. During that, I got caught by a family member who told my grandmother, instead of voicing concern of being preyed on by adults on the internet, they both were more worried about me being gay and nothing else, after that my view of them and most other adults became negative. It shouldnt have taken something bad to happen for me to realize just how dangerous the internet was for kids, hell I shouldn't have even been unsupervised in the first place or rather online at all.
I genuinely think that kids shouldn't be allowed on the internet whatsoever until around 14, while yes, nowadays there is actual moderation for almost every site, that doesn't mean moderation can work fast enough. Social media moderators literally get PTSD from the shit they have to comb through everyday every hour or so, they literally cannot keep up with all the messed up shit uploaded or the users that are self proclaimed pedophiles. It seems the pedo problem across all social media platforms have just gotten worse and like they've actively stopped trying to get rid of them unless people have big accounts and order users to go mass report. It's even more so dangerous on TikTok, especially with that 'favorite' feature that allows users to save videos to go back and watch later. People have started to notice that videos with children, especially young children often have way too many favorites especially depending on what the child is wearing or eating in the video, it's heinous and many of the creeps leave disturbing comments on such videos.
Then there's the porn issue, kids literally can't search up their favorite cartoon and characters without porn or vore showing up, viewing this can be incredibly upsetting for these kids to see. The people that make r34 of cartoon characters literally deliberately put the name of the show or character instead of tagging it in a way that it isn't easy for anyone to accidently see. On Twitter whenever I click on cartoons that trend, it literally does not take me long whatsoever to end up seeing porn of characters or the child characters from the shows and on Google youre most likely to come across foot stuff and vote then the porn, and bing? Bing is genuinely much worse, sometimes it will show you genuinely distressing, genuinely disturbing, or literally illegal things in the images or the "recommended" which I ended up being distressed from when I was fairly young.
It's literally traumatizing to be a young, unsupervised child on the internet and those of us who were unsupervised shouldn't have had to deal with all that, children shouldnt have to deal with that now, nor in the future
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