#it's always with parental figures

[laughingcatwrites]

As a reminder that good exists out there, a coworker recently confessed to me that he found out his child is questioning their identity (kid's gender redacted for this post). The kid is keeping it from him, so he can't say anything to them or show that he knows, but he's doing his best to get mentally prepared and educated so that he'll be ready whenever his kid does feel comfortable enough come to him.

For context, this guy is a big, bulky middle aged dude who loves sports and typical outdoor "manly" activities. As his coworker and friend, I know he's a kind and sweet teddy bear of a person, but his kid probably views him as a stern, authoritarian figure, the way most teenagers view their parents. His family lives in a conservative area, so I'm sure between that, their dad's looks and interests, and the fact that their dad is a Figure of Authority, the kid is worried that they won't be accepted.

But you know what? When he found out about his kid, the first thing he did was reach out to his closest queer friend and ask for resources for parents of questioning children. His biggest fears are that his kid will be bullied or discriminated against and won't feel comfortable enough to be themself. His second action was to find himself a mentor in another parent who went the same situation (kid coming out in a conservative town). The other person is preparing him for some of the struggles his kid may face and the fights he may need to take on as a parent to make sure his kid is safe and treated well.

Something I want to emphasize for people focused on language as the primary method of allyship is that when we spoke, he used some outdated terms and thoughts about gender and sexuality. That does not make him bad. These were the terms and thinking used about questioning teenagers when he was growing up and he never needed to learn more current ones. But now that he does have that need, he's throwing himself in head first because that's his kid and he's darn well going to make sure that his kid feels welcomed and has a safe place to be themselves even if they never come out to him.

#I'm so proud and happy for my coworker and I've been trying to figure out how to let him know how amazing I think he is #what gets me the most is that he's keeping this super down low to avoid giving any hints to his kid #he has a lot of queer friends so he already is known as an ally but there's always a chance it will be different if it's family #and he took that chance and crumpled it up into a ball and slam dunked it into the garbage for three points #and decided that even if his kid wants to hide it from him for the rest of his life he will still do what he can to make their life better #pflag #parents doing their best #parenting win #good news #allyship

[a-dumb-sarcastic-bisexual]

Like the majority of society I’m obsessed with Nimona

And I rewatched it a million times and one thing always sticks out to me 

There are moments when Ambrosius is surrounded by light like a little protective bubble 

That keeps him away from the man he loves more than anything 

#nimona #nimona 2023 #ambrosius goldenloin #ballister boldheart #ballister x ambrosius #goldenheart #he always looks so small in these scenes #like the light is going to swallow him whole #it almost looks like a little kid wearing his parents clothes #like he’ll never live up to the expectations society has placed on him #this man is so lonely for the whole movie #poor baby had to figure out everything by himself #he looks so tired in the second picture #the thing that kills me is in the last scene he tries to leave the bubble #but Bal shoved him back in #bubba looks ethereal throughout the whole movie #this movie man #it kills me slowly #I love it so much #I’m gonna go cry myself to sleep now #people from the rise fandom know I only post angst when I’m sleep deprived

[lazylittledragon]

do you have an in-depth background for Dorian? I loved the comic with his family members, and it made me wonder about his entire life story!! what is his relationship with his siblings!!! why did he start adventuring!!! dorian is not my bg3 character but I love him as a son

he comes from a huge family of wood elf rangers and he was. a handful

also the whole adventuring thing was a complete accident

he was just walking home and got zapped by the nautiloid

#art #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #tav #he is our collective son #i think he’s very very close to all his sisters but especially the oldest because there’s 12 years between them #so she was sort of a third parent? not in a bad way though #i always figured he was one of the civilians taken from baldur’s gate in the opening cutscene #he really wasn’t supposed to be an adventurer he’s literally just some guy

[citruscore]

when terry met terry

#dndads #dndads spoilers #terry jr #terry jr stampler #HM....... OKAY #also i was just doing a color theme but im realizing i gave terry the same maroon sweater i always draw grant in..........🤭 #GOD #its like my favorite thing anthony does where like. somethings coming the audience has figured out and he just adds something else insane #scam likely is hermies dad? youll never guess who the other parent is. terrys dying? guess who killed him #anthony youre a genius and i hate you

[dennisboobs]

2x03 // 2x10 // 12x07 // 15x08 // 16x02

↳ Charlie + father figures

#iasip #it's always sunny in philadelphia #charlie kelly #mac mcdonald #dennis reynolds #frank reynolds #ada's gifs #ada speaks #16x02 is a rough watch for me because i feel bad for charlie more than anything #with the scene with his mom earlier and then this. he just lost his bio dad and he's sitting here watching mac snub his uncle #charlie's dad wasn't there for him. charlie's uncle is a predator. charlie stayed behind to parent his own mother. #he does want a father figure. he knows mac does too. #just like in 2x10 mac takes everything he has for granted and doesn't realize how lucky he is #charlie would have taken a shitty dad over no dad

[drawnfamiliarfaces]

doodled a baby Randy & First and then rapidly created an AU because baby Randy and dad First

#rc9gn #randy cunningham 9th grade ninja #first ninja #rc9gn first ninja #randy cunningham #Torn Pages AU #made up a lil synopsis for this AU in my head... might write it out later #i always game for mentor figures becoming parental figures (out of necessity) and at first being very against it but they slowly get over i #its funny because canon!first would probably be a pretty horrible parental figure but my fanon!first is basically gonna have a mando effect

[front-facing-pokemon]

#oooohhh hell this generation is gonna be reeeeaaally rough on me. the textures on these models are Completely different from the 3ds #versions. and i do not!!! know how to do it!!!! #grookey #ANYWAY. welcome to generation eight!!! this generation will always hold a special place in my heart because it's the one that #reintroduced me to pokémon as a whole #i've talked about this multiple times in small references in the tags so i'm sure you all already know this but #when i was younger‚ i had a Passing interest in pokémon. didn't really need to play every new game or know every pokémon #but when i turned 18‚ on the SAME day pokémon sword & shield released‚ i ended up getting it for my birthday #mostly because my parents hadn't figured out what to get me for my birthday and heard that the new pokémon game came out the same day #which‚ now that i look it up‚ apparently it actually came out 5 days before my birthday. and i was just Told it came out that day #who knew. anyway‚ i got swsh for my 18th birthday. and i played the shit out of it. hyperfixation material #and that's what got me back into pokémon Properly. back into it as an Autism Special Interest type beat #and now it's stuck with me ever since. so swsh is probably always gonna be one of my favorite games in the series‚ and gen 8 one of #my favorite generations just because of what it means to me personally #gen 8 was also the last pmd game we ever got so .

[writebackatya]

“Della Duck is a bad parent”

Don’t engage. Don’t engage. Don’t engage. People are entitled to their own opinions which are shaped by their own personal experiences and growth and there is a debate to be had here abou-

“Gladstone/Goldie would better a parent to Louie than Della.”

OH THAT IS IT!!

#something I’ve seen too often that make me go ??? #I love Goldie. I love Gladstone. but this take make me laugh #sure. Mr. I Don’t Need You and Ms. Always Needs a Minute to Think About if She Should Let Louie Down or Not are greeeaaat parental figures #writebackatya

[coldninjaruins-blog]

The scene of El searching through the void for Will in the UD and piggybacking on Max's mind are parallels.

Mike parallels to Joyce and Max to Will.

"This will keep it dark for you."

"Okay, so hopefully this blocks out any peripheral light, righ?"

Joyce and Hopper started holding El's hands when they noticed something was wrong.

Mike started holding El's hand when they noticed something was wrong and pulled her out of the water.

Joyce: "I'm right here with you."

Mike: "I'm right here."

Will-Max parallel

"We're/I'm coming. Just hold on a little longer."

#It's always 'Mike being parallel to El parental figures' in a negative way #so here's a post of 'Mike being parallel to El parental figures' in a positive way(??) #byler

[martyrbat]

perpetual mourning – batman black and white (1996) #1

[ID: a black and white panel sequence of Bruce Wayne as Batman investigating a murder. He performed an examination of the victim's body and found DNA evidence to convict her killer and then performed an autopsy to examine her stomach contents — which led him to a little 24/7 diner. He walks in, disrupting the cozy scene with his presence.

Bruce internally reflects, ‘People think i'm a knight. A savior. But in truth, I'm only a vessel to hold the memories of those who've passed on. Those who've no shell left to store them. They must think I revel in my victories. It must seem like I never lose a fight. I lose plenty. The ones I couldn't get to. The ones I couldn't save in time. Those are the ones I carry around inside of me. Those are the ones I'll mourn forever.’

He shows the only waitress a photo of the victim's face and asks, “Excuse me. Do any of you know this woman?” The waitress gasps and holds her hand to her head in shocked distress. She stammers, “That's Chelsea, she comes in here all the time. Sits in the same booth, the same time, reads the same book... um, what was the title...? She, uh, left here only a couple of... Why do you... Oh, god. No. Dear girl...”

Back at the morgue, Bruce solemnly gazes down at the woman as she lays in an unzipped body bag. He thinks, ‘Luckily, you hadn't digested your last meal, Chelsea. There're only a few places in the neighborhood where you were found that serve blueberry pie at this hour of the morning.’ He carefully zips the body bag entirely. The identification label states she was a thirty year old caucasian female. The name ‘Jane Doe’ has been scribbled out to now be replaced with ‘Chelsea Rain’. Bruce continues to ruminate, ‘You only have your thoughts and dreams ahead of you. You're someone. You mean something. I'll remember. You're within me now. Forever.’ END ID]

#screaming wailing sobbing.... #‘People think i'm a knight. A savior. But in truth I'm only a vessel to hold the memories of those who've passed on. #Those who've no shell left to store them. They must think I revel in my victories. It must seem like I never lose a fight. I lose plenty. #The ones I couldn't get to. The ones I couldn't save in time. Those are the ones I carry around inside of me. #Those are the ones I'll mourn forever.’ THATS HIM!!!! THAT'S BRUCE !!!!! EVERY DEATH HE CARRIES WITH HIM AND FEELS RESPONSIBLE FOR #EVEN IF ITS ILLOGICAL! EVEN IF HE COULD NEVER PREVENT IT. HES ALWAYS GOING TO BLAME HIMSELF AND DEDICATE HIS LIFE TO THOSE WHO LOST THEIRS #HES ALWAYD GOING TO FEEL GUILTY FOR NOT BEING ABLE TO PROTECT THEM. IF HE HAD JUST SKIPPED THAT MEAL TO DO MORE RESEARCH. IF HE COULD OF #STAYED UP. IF HE COULD HAD FIGURED IT OUT FASTER. IF HE COULD HAVE SOMEHOW BE THERE... #JUST ALWAYS FEELING RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERY SINGLE PERSON'S LIFE. #HES ALWAYS GOING TO MOURN THE STRANGERS ON THE STREET JUST AS MUCH AS HE MOURNS HIS PARENTS !!! HIM AND HIS BLEEDING HEART !!!! #c: batman black and white (1996) | i: 1 #crypt's panels #bruce wayne #batman #ransom's recs #<- babe.... new tag... :((

[general-yasur]

And what if I just start tagging my Sora posts with Sora Garmadon? What then?

#i care a lot #about lloyd being a fatherly figure to her #when i post about them I always remember they don’t have last names #ive seen Arin crossroads tho #but I think Arin canonically would still use his last name from his parents to remember them #for sora….DO YOU GET MY VISION #ninjago #ninjago sora #sora garmadon

[theclearblue]

I think it's so funny that the op fandom just kinda threw Kuina's dad out the window. Even though he is the one that watched over Zoro during his childhood and taught him swordsmanship, everyone has fully embraced Goth Dad Mihawk, the guy who sliced Zoro in half on their first meeting and then reluctantly let him and a ghost girl stay in his haunted mansion to train against monkeys with swords. And we're all like "Ah yes. Single wine dad and his two goth children. This is where it all began."

#its like this in so much fanart and fanfic lmao #whenever a parent figure is mentioned for zoro its always mihawk and thats kind of really funny lmao #zoro #perona #mihawk #one piece

[jensonsbuttons]

mild seven benetton renault presents: playboy

(pngs under the cut)

#as always i couldn't figure out which one i like more!!!! so therefore i post both!!!!! #parental advisory. benetton presents. there's layers to this one man #enjoy a post rolex 24 treat #jenson button #my stuff #album series

[beedee-wans]

forever sobbing over omega being there for the batch’s first moments and literally watching them grow up and she’ll probably be there for their final moments too :(

#she was always so connected to them 😭 #they all hold so much love for each other #i just know tech would have worked his ass off tryna reverse the enhanced aging #stop with making the child drastically out live their parental figures :( #please dave #i cannot take much more #same for grogu and din!! #let them be happy #the bad batch #star wars #bad batch #tbb spoilers #sorry i’m yapping again #i’m very emotional and tired

[controllerofthemist]

My thoughts on Skirk

With the way Skirk treats and talks about him, its no wonder Tartaglia turned out the way he did. A bright and naive 13 yr old boy with no combat experience falls away from the comfort of his home into a world full of monsters with no sun or safety and the only psuedo-caretaker he has won't even speak to him properly because she says him as too weak to bother with, and after 3 months of fighting his way through hell and losing his humanity, he returns to that home he was longing for, only to find that 3 days have passed since he left and he tells not a single person what happened to him. No wonder he lost his mind down there.

I miss the Skirk that I had made up in my head, the one I patched together from different fic writer and fan artists ideas for her, the one that had that same rambunctious and bloodthirsty personality that Tartaglia inherited, the one that took care of a child the best she knew how while hardening him to survive the abyss' dangers, the one that at least *tried*, because she *wanted too*.

I just feel disappointed, and I think a lot of other people are as well.

I think that, until we see her again, I'm just going to keep pretending that the one in my head is the real one.

#I was always prepared to have to cope with a dissatisfiying visual design #so much so that I was entirely taken aback by the fact that her character was nothing like I had imagined #i think i just desperately wanted tartaglia to have at least one parental figure who did right by him #begging and crying for pulchinella to be a decentish guy to him #even if he did encourage unhealthy behaviors and coping mechanisms while grooming him into a human weapon as a child soldier #I'm really just projecting here #I used to hate tarts the way a wild animal will attack its own reflection in a mirror #Tartaglia #Childe #Skirk #genshin impact #rant #genshin #genshin skirk #genshin tartagalia #genshin childe

[babygirltangerine]

au where prince doesnt die and ladybug adopts her

#it brings a tear to my eye if i think about it too hard #hes so fatherly with her #she's my babygirl and he would find a way to see the best in her #and give her the parental figure she's always wanted #bullet train #ladybug #the prince