#just eldest sibling things

[angelpuns]

Made up fic name called stolen sunshine

OKAY I HAVE BEEN LOOKNG AT THIS ALL DAY WITH 0 IDEAS AND THEN BAM IT FLEW INTO MY BRAIN

SEPARATED MIKEY AU

AHH

I have never really been inteested in writing my own separated au but LISTEENNNN

imagine it: baby Mikey. Splinter leave him behind because he thinks he's dead. I'm talking Mikey is hiding in his shell and Splinter is like ' this will e less painful if i leave this turtle here cause I'm p sure he ain't with us' type vibes. Not on purpose like he knows Mikey is alive yknow?

Raised by Draxum? Nah. RAISED BY HUGINN AND MUNINN

HEAR ME OUT

THEM SECRETLY RAISING MIKEY??? IMAGINE THE FUN!! IMAGINE THE ANGST!!!

AHHH

During the perod that Draxum is rebuilding I imagine he doesn't call on them quite as much so they're just like ' more time to raise our fucking kid i guess'

they're kinda just two guys raising a kid for fun i gues is the vibes

Draxum doesn't find out until he meets the other turtles and is like ' besties where's the other one' and they're like ' what other one'

chaos ensues because Splinter says he left him there but Draxum would have found him?? everyone is cpnfused.

meanwhile Mikey is having a grand time living in the hidden city mindin his own business

Huginn and Muninn are trying to get him out of there before the turtles or draxum finds him cause whoops they're attached to him now

that's all I got

his name is still Mikey cause idk one of em likes art or smthn

yeah there we go

also absolutely there would be a cameo of the mud dogs ( they show up every now and then to spoil him and they're his unofficial uncles)

I don't have a blurb for this one but maybe I'll doodle it out later for fun <333

#this one got away from me a bit #im not very good at writing from mikey pov #just eldest sibling things #rottmnt #rottmnt fanfic #rottmnt separated au #it would be funny #rottmnt mikey

[senliin]

why was this the first thing laios asked. i know what u are

#dungeon meshi #laios touden #i've been thinking abt this for a while like #i think laios and falin both don't have much of a connection to gender aside from simply being older brother and younger sister #older brother is a gender #maybe this is my eldest sibling syndrome plus transness talking but #to me laios is just being a man simply in order to be a brother #no other reason #adding a new tag bc i didnt realize this actually got notes but like #yea. i am not a girl but i am an older sister #older sister is like a gender subset. like u click on my gender and there is a dropdown bullet point that says older sister #if this makes sense #i dont mean that in a microidentity way #it's some secret third thing

[tarucore]

screenshotting this one bc I can acknowledge that I’ve got shipper goggles on and op isn’t about that life which is fair but

I feel like batfam fans misunderstand the term parentification a lot and conflate it with Dick filling a parental role for his siblings, which might be part of the “oldest daughter syndrome” that’s so often pinned on him but that isn’t what parentification actually means

If I say that Dick Grayson was parentified, then that isn’t referring to him taking care of his siblings, it refers to the way Bruce treated him. As someone capable of taking care of his emotional needs and not as the child in need of care in the relationship

Parentification is a term that’s been around for decades, and while having to care for younger siblings might be a part of the definition, it focuses mostly on the role reversal of the parent-child dynamic. I’m not going to get into the psychology of it but being parentified has very little to do with if he actually acted as a parent for his siblings and everything to do with if he acted as a parent for Bruce

This is honestly why I prefer the term spouseification, which is less ambiguous than the term parentification and I feel accurately describes their “equal” relationship and the type of emotional abuse that Dick went through

Also from what I’ve read, Dick doesn’t act as a parental figure for any of his siblings except for Damian. While he might have given extra emotional support to Tim due to Bruce being Bruce, Dick still fits solidly into an older brother role. I’m not even going to touch on Dick’s relationship with Jason which is too weak to even be considered fraternal never mind parental

#cw abuse #cw emotional abuse #dick grayson analysis #dickie bird #idk why I went off like this but parentification really has nothing to do with the siblings #like that’s not the psychological term #eldest daughter syndrome is mostly a pop psychology thing #it might be a real phenomenon that is heavily influenced by parentification but they aren’t synonyms #I’m hesitantly tagging this #brudick #just because I mentioned I ship them and want to do anyone that blocks that tag the courtesy of ignoring me #bruce wayne #and another thing!!!! i don’t consider dick’s relationship with damian negatively at all #it was extreme circumstances as comic books often are and they have a very healthy parent/child relationship from what i’ve seen #*

[skunkes]

#prefacing this with I Know Spanish. i cant not know spanish‚ my parents don't speak english #but im the only one of my siblings that didnt get to go to school over there 🇲🇽 (just pre school) #adn the thing is like. my siblings wld talk to me in eng of course #(if they talked to me at all! what do u say to a baby when you're 9 12 and 15 yrs older.) #and my parents wld similarly jst not talk to me? i did not have conversations with them from birth to now lol. #thjere is something about how like. my sisters kids are also learning the languages at the same time #but when they mess up in spanish theyre corrected‚ by my sister (their mom)‚ my other sister‚ my parents #why not Me. why wasnt that extended to Me as a child... #the same reason I have the least amount of baby pictures while my siblings all have one full book each i bet #the same reason why my and my eldest sister are 15 yrs apart LOL #igts so crazy to me. i hate mentioning this bc people assume #im one of those ppl who isnt fluent bc their parents speak english and spanish and never taught them #my parents dont speak english❗❗❗❗ #my nephew thats older than me who is my fave family member and also only speaks spanish #is coming up on sunday idk that i can fully carry convo with him! #pure spanglish bc i didnt grow up having convos in it writing it reading it #thats why im so desperate to read books in spanish now. im so deeply ashamed #igts so crazy. i hate it. #saw a comment on smthng the other day thats like ''idk how u can have parents that only speak spanish and not know it lol'' #well can you take a guess. can u take a guess as to how that would happen via interactions. lack thereof. #idk why but its even more embarrassing this way. genuinely how cld u not know...? #its like i was born to feel isolated from my family in every single way...youngest by so many years #the language thing. the Hates Eating thing. the trans thing. most severe failure to launch #im so embarrassed to be alive....! #and i dont belong anywhere. and i am Alone wherever I am. #abandoned by direct and distant relatives. ancestors.

[epickiya722]

Mahoro: *tells him he should talk to Matakara, understands what it's like to have a big brother you care about... even though she's weird about it...*

Arajin: SHE'S INTO MATAKARA?!

#arajin... I'm trying to give you chances man... #previous episode you were right to tell matakara... even though i want to fight you for yelling at him I'm sorry he's my fave #BUT HOW IN THE FUCK CAN'T YOU OPEN YOUR OWN DAMN EYES AND SEE YOU'RE DOING THE EXACT SAME THING?! #HAVE SOME SYMPATHY DAMN HIS BROTHER DIED! HELLO?! #and why something gotta happen to the eldest sibling what we do? #just kiya's thoughts #bucchigiri?! #bucchigiri spoilers

[ofpd]

#scheduling this shortly after i got polls lol so they're still novel to me #also shira had the idea im plagiarizing. also apparently shira and I both had the experience of being terrified of this song as children #maybe it's an eldest sibling thing bc for me it has to do with that this was just too much after talking abt death of the firstborn #txt #jumblr #also ofc i realize that this is blasphemy. the whole point of the song is that option 10 always wins #so like. hakadosh baruch hu sweep

[aalghul]

if I see jason hate then i just type out angry posts on here but if i see dick hate then i start cursing someone's entire life and bloodline

#but guess who my favourite is technically #it's just the blue wearing eldest sibling with anger issues and a thing for taller red heads bond okay. #i can be normal about jason and talia. in a way. but i was born to be too invested in how ppl talk about dick grayson #this applies to a lot of things actually. i'll say it's not productive to try to decide which robin is objectively the best. and then i'll #like every comment that says it's dick. it's not possible to decide who the best detective is but also it's dick. i have no integrity #when it comes to him

[leslie057]

jonathan everdeen- i mean FUCK sorry katniss byers- i mean SHIT-

#sorry its just hard not to get them mixed up when theyre IDENTICAL TWINS #stranger things #thg #text #the hunger games #jonathan byers #katniss everdeen #eldest sibling struggles #doomed by the narrative

[sweetcitrusboi]

If I had a nickel for every time I loved a character who never really got to be a child and lives in a world where life is pitted against them I would have two nickels which ain’t really a coincidence but it’s funny it happened twice

#they just have this sad and tired eldest daughter thing to them that I really like #oh and they both had to raise their youngest sibling and be the mediator and protector in their family #yeah yeah I’m on the floor crying #dean winchester #vi arcane #me paralleling characters I like just bc

[cinna-bunnie]

not me and my manager trauma bonding over mommy issues 💀💕 i love her aksksk oof i had to go smoke and Think after this one

i love when our one on ones are basically like lol i don't have much 2 talk about this wk and we get like 40m to hang n talk after getting work stuff out the way. she is such a sweetie and so fun (❁´◡`❁)

#i talked about my intro 2 adulthood and what it was like around before/when i left home and how my sis was just 10 when i left #so we never rly got to be close n i just started talking 2 her this year. but the last thing i told my mom was she lost her son forever #and that she better not fuck up with my sister - and she took it to heart fr which was Great for my sister. #she grew up v loved and supported and idk as the eldest u have complicated feelings being the experiment child. #and as an older sibling u are genuinely happy ur younger sibling has it so much better but there's this disconnect where u both have #Very very different feelings about ur mom and family in general ig. but it's from having lived different lives and idk. #she relates though 😔💕 oldest sibs rly b dealing w moms that tear them down then watch w bittersweet feelings that ur sibs get a better #life. my life itself is fine lol im kinda stoned (⁠｡⁠ﾉ⁠ω⁠＼⁠｡⁠) but like. a good loving childhood. support. community n never feeling like #there's Nothing for u here. she's turning 21 in December it's crazy how time flies. I'm glad she's doing good but I'm just thinking about #how we had Very different lives and stuff going on in our late teens 😮‍💨 #bless my manager fr i'm glad we got to get into it !! 😹 i can see why i miss her when we don't get to meet for the week

[thecruellestmonth]

The transgender website that can find queer subtext in anyone and anything can't handle "female-coded Jason Todd"...... and yet I, Actual Eldest Daughter Syndrome Sufferer, must put up with Dick Grayson stans stealing my valor...

#I'm just kidding. It's not that serious. 🙄 #Um. I feel like hardly anybody in the DCU has proper eldest daughter syndrome. #Selina is the eldest sister. Lois is the eldest sister. But... they don't do the thing. #WAIT. Mary Batson / Mary Bromfield??? #Does Talia have eldest daughter syndrome? Even as the youngest of her siblings? #Kara was being intentionally parentified in that flash between her life blowing up and reuniting with her baby cousin as an adult man. #See even Komand'r doesn't have that position because of the circumstances.

[masqueradeoftheguilty]

maybe its my own eldest sibling syndrome acting up but oooh it really grinds my gears when people makes jokes like "ooh kaeyas the favourite child and everyone, including their father and adelinde, likes him better" and then just. leave it at that???

like yeah i get the general vibes a lot of ragbros stans dont actually like diluc too much but my eye starts twitching at those jokes bcs diluc canonically doesn't think his father is even proud of him anymore, to the point its been brought up twice in his very sparse event appearances, and the fact that he is also closed off in general to the point where unlike other characters he doesn't have any truly close friends

its like. ugh. i dont think saying it is bad in and of itself but it feels really awful to read/interact with bcs its only ever done as a fandom joke about how kaeyas just so much better, and not as an exploration of character or of diluc's own, canon feelings

#just. hddjk sorry but as an eldest sibling with an obviously preferred younger sibling it hits a little too hard #it goes hand in hand with the diluc 'stupid and angry all the time' characterisation too #like again this is also especially a thing in ragbros spaces too like you can just say you dont like diluc its fine #aughhh #we'll see how long this post lasts up hahaha #step right up! || 🪄.txt

[spaceangst]

maybe it’s the older sister in me but there’s this pattern i’ve noticed with lonely adolescents and young adults being really good with kids, to the point where kids tend to come up to them? it’s usually like adopting more little siblings, almost as if you’re not intimidating to these kids despite being an adult too. i think it’s just as cute as it is sad because when you were that age, kids ignored you so freely and adults too; and as an adult, you have no idea how to interact with people your age but you know how you wished someone would have listened to you. so you listen to these kids and suddenly, you’re the older sibling to all these kids and you’re still lonely, starving for someone who understands, but you know that you’ve listened to someone else who might have been too.

kids have it really hard, dude.

#thoughts #rant #idk #my thoughts #just random thoughts #just random things #thinking #thoughts on life #lonely #loneliness #kids #older sibling #eldest daughter #oldest daughter #older sister #older sibling things

[fore-seer]

insane about lucina today

#tactician's log #awakening #imagine. you’re the ONE PERSON with the power to end the nightmare your world is living through #(technically one of two or three people but the others are your younger sibling and cousin and you won’t put that on them) #you grow up knowing this. your mother and aunt and the other adults in your life try to protect you from it for as long as they can #but already the sword is in your hands and the weight is on your shoulders #over and over you watch your father’s friends die just to buy time for you to grow up enough to do what he failed to #(all because he trusted his best friend too deeply) #and when you get to the end you find that it was all hopeless anyway. one of the gemstones is gone and there’s nothing you can do about it #and there’s no other way to fix things. your timeline is lost #but because you can’t stomach the thought of all of it being in vain you decide to go back in time to try and prevent it #just so there can be ONE timeline where the apocalypse never happens. where some version of you and your friends can grow up happy and safe #it makes me INSANE man #number 1 eldest daughter syndrome haver in the world i love her so much

[amethysttribble]

You know, I kind of feel like wider fandom trends (tho not only fandom; this is very very present in mainstream media and has bothered me for a long time) has pushed this… preoccupation with oddly strict older&younger sibling dynamics, wherein the older takes care of the younger, and the younger exists as a vessel for the older’s suffering and sacrifice

There’s this weird dynamic of debt, actually? Like, poor put upon Eldest Daughter Syndrome Character #1,348 has done so much for the younger one(s) they should be grateful. And if that younger sibling character is not appropriately Grateful, they are a horrible annoying brat that our sainted eldest must suffer through

In fact, the only way in general to make up for the sin of being the Younger Sibling (implied to be an inherent burden to our theoretical blorbo eldest) is to either be uwu soft and grateful, and/or Step-Up and Take On responsibility for the eldest and provide some comfort to this hurt

It’s all very *waves hand to gesture in Crazy-ex Girlfriend musical number*:

“After everything I’ve done for you-“ “-that I didn’t ask for!”

That younger sibling character is still a character, you know? Not a prop to make the eldest look good or put-upon.

#AT is annoyed by common familial dynamics in fandom post number a thousand #if this breaks containment #I can already see the Farquad ‘younger sibling’ Mem #thing again bitch! #I’m the fucking eldest and was also always eldest in charge of friends and cousins! #I just happen to treat my younger sister as an independent person capable of taking care of herself #also there’s something to be said about a good older sibling not keeping score against a younger but that goes against #the internets preoccupation with ‘fair’ as a system of checks and balances which… touch grass #it’s just sooooo… I want compensation for my suffering! #provided we are talking about a situation where an older sibling had to take on too much- #(which isn’t always the case people will apply this dynamic to the most mundane relationships) #the younger still doesn’t owe you compensation! or gratitude! or just being a vessel for your martyrdom! #that’s a character unto themself do something interesting rather than make them an accessory #and yes. this is in part about Maedhros. #but mostly it’s about supernatural ❤️ #Tribble post

[lovestrucklovesickslut]

being the oldest sibling is just this sometimes

#personal vent #it’s soooo hard to stay out of things after being the only person in the house who ever disciplined my youngest sibling #we have a ten year age gap so my parents alway joked that they were my responsibility until one day it wasn’t a joke anymore #you know how frustrating it is when your sibling doesn’t even pretend to listen to or respect your parents #they never did anything so my sibling got away with everything unless I said something #do you know how annoying it feels to have to be the buzzkill because your MIDDLE SCHOOL aged sibling doesn’t listen to anyone else #I decided to stop like 3 years ago because it was putting a huge strain on our relationship and I didn’t want to be the authority anymore #now my parents don’t say anything and I don’t say anything and my sibling gets away with stuff that I would have gotten in SO MUCH shit for #I Pretend I Do Not See It #I Pretend I Do Not Hear It #I smile and wave and everything is Fine #dear diary #I was going to say I’m on my period ignore me but #period havers we have GOT to stop dismissing our feelings just because they may or may not be a little more intense #yeah I’m on my period my feelings are still valid #eldest child #eldest daughter #eldest sibling