I’ve said this before but there has never been a single patriarchal society in existence, including and especially the most ultra-conservative ones you can think of, that didn’t have an established prostitution culture. And this isn’t because prostitution is a counterculture reaction against conservative patriarchal values. It’s because strict morality codes governing women’s behaviour don’t just confine the women who fit within them, it keeps a class of ‘fallen women’ who cannot escape a life of sexual exploitation, by design, helping men categorise the different types of ways they can exploit women. The “wh*re” is just as much a patriarchal invention as the “madonna”.
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Fuck it I'll say it.
Mothers who push their daughters into femininity are groomers for the patriarchy
I know that the urge to do these things stems from the patriarchy, but mothers who push this shit on their daughters are !!NOT!! exempt from scrutiny. They're acting as a tool for the patriarchy.
Dresses and skirts and bows and intricate hairstyles and fancy no-grip shoes and words of "oh dont get your pretty outfit all dirty!!" "don't be too rough or you will rip your tights/leggings!!" "keep your bow/hair tie in!!" aren't fucking practical for childhood. These things rob a child of their childhood.
There's absolutely no reason for that shit besides grooming them into performing femininity.
Starting a girl out young and getting her hooked on looking pretty and feminine sparkly pink unicorn is unhealthy tbh. Bombarding these children with "you're so pretty!!" compliments constantly is only going to reinforce it. That's why there are women who can't leave the house (or sometimes can't even be in the house) without at least *some* makeup on, or feel literal dread when they see they missed a patch of hair on their legs or armpits.
I feel like everyone else is too afraid to criticize this shit when it comes from inside the house, but I will not be.
Let kids be kids. Raise boys and girls the same. Do better for your daughters.
This goes for any family member who participates in this behaviour.
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France. Last Saturday, a man set fire to a woman who was just sitting on a bus. Four days later, an 80-yo man was arrested for the murders of his wife and their housekeeper. And yesterday, a man strangled his wife after an argument, and another man murdered his ex girlfriend.
Italy. One of the most visible effects of last year’s lockdown? The number of women murdered by their partners went up by 300%. So far in 2021, 13 women have been killed. Yesterday a man went to see his ex girlfriend, a special needs teacher who’d spent 20 years helping vulnerable children, and killed her with ‘unprecedented brutality’ in front of their 4-yo son.
UK. On March 3rd, a woman was walking home through a park. Three days later, her unrecognizable body was found in the back of a van. A male police offer has been charged with kidnap and murder. Since that day, six other women and a little girl have been killed by men.
Spain. Fourteen women have been killed so far in 2021. The latest victims are from last Monday: a man murdered his wife and their 11-yo daughter, then killed himself. Six days later, a man stabbed his ex wife seven times and left her to die in the building where she worked.
Germany. On Friday, a man killed his 4-yo daughter in Bavaria, and an 84-yo man killed his 89-yo wife in Saxony. The day before, there were two other murders and three attempted murders. In total, 37 women and seven children have been killed by men since January.
In Europe, men represent 49% of the population, and yet account for 95% of prison inmates. Worldwide, 96% of homicide perpetrators and 79% of victims are men (more than 90% of male homicide victims die in drug-related or gang-related crimes). In the United States, 99% of rapists, 88% of robbers, 85% of burglars, 83% of arsonists, 81% of vandals, 80% of perpetrators of domestic violence, and 78% of people arrested for aggravated assault are men. Young men are particularly at risk in every category.
If this was any other social group, it would be an urgent matter, and we’d come up with explanations and solutions to keep everyone safe.
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