#psychological warfare is real

[vizthedatum]

I hate everything.

Hello everyone, I contacted Ruby Cooper, Jon's ex and someone who Jon has painted as an abuser (at least to me). I wanted to genuinely connect and to understand more - because I need to trust my own mind.

This is what I wrote:

"Hi Ruby,

You may know me peripherally. I have avoided speaking to you for a very long time. Before I say anything, you need to know that I have a PFA (protection from abuse) against Jon. We negotiated in court and it’s for one year from Dec 29 2022 - Dec 29 2023.We are also getting divorced. So I’m technically married to them.One of the clauses is: “Neither party shall contact the other party, either directly or indirectly, by telephone or other means, including through third parties”Please respect that. I am NOT asking you to contact Jon. Not even in the slightest. I have a lawyer, and I will be explicit about this with anyone who is even in remote contact with Jon.I’m reaching out… because I need to speak with you directly, if you so allow. I won’t do anything without your consent.I need to hear your side of the story if you can share.

I am heartbroken, and you might be one of the people who might know what I’m going through right now.

Let me know.I hope you’re well. I’m always happy to hear of your progress with life.

Sincerely,

Rose (I used to go by Pri/Pritika)"

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This is what their reply was: "I'm literally standing next to Jon rn lmao, let's not talk"

"Tbh I don't know much about your situation but I do know enough have 3 things to say:

1. You DO NOT have a PFA. You filed for a PFA, got a TEMPORARY PFA which I know Allegheny County will give to literally anyone, which has already expired (and which was one of the most contradictory, hilarious legal documents I've ever read in my life). You got a civil no contact which Jon AGREED to.

2. As a victim of ACTUAL domestic violence, I feel you are making a huge mockery of real victims of abuse. Getting your feelings hurt is not abuse. If you were actually in any kind of danger, you would be running away instead of doing public callouts and whatever the hell else is you're doing. If I did this shit with my abusive ex, he literally would have killed me. Please have some perspective.

3. Even if you WERE abused, going around talking to random people you barely know, trying to ruin somebody's life when they clearly want nothing to do with you, is straight up petty and evil behavior.

And please know I would have said this about anyone regardless of my relationship to either of y'all."

And then I wrote:

"Ruby, thank you for your perspective. I agree with it being a civil no contact order, and you really don't know the context. I don't think we're going to see eye to eye. My feelings weren't just hurt. Jon abused me whether you believe it or not. I am writing about my experience because I need to be able to trust my own mind again. I reached out to you because Jon has painted a very specific image of you to me, and I needed to know if my experience had any patterns with yours. Thank you for your time. I am going to block you now."

I FUCKING HATE EVERYTHING AND NOW I AM BAWLING. --

I had to check my current "civil no contact order" to just make sure that it was still a fucking PFA.

"1) The Temporary PFA Order dated 12/15/2022 expires as of the date of this order and the above-captioned Protection from Abuse action is continued generally for a period not to exceed one (1) year."

which means... IT IS STILL A FUCKING PFA.

And besides we negotiated this because I told my lawyer I wanted to not press charges and also because I WANTED MY FUCKING STUFF BACK AND THIS IS HOW I NEGOTIATED THIS IN COURT. I HATE EVERYTHING. WTF.

Besides - did you know that despite Jon calling Ruby their abuser, they remained in contact with Ruby throughout our relationship? Sending them money, etc. Fuck this.

I DID NOT PRESS CHARGES BECAUSE I DO NOT WANT TO RUIN JON'S LIFE. I AM NOT TRYING TO RUIN JON'S LIFE. I AM TRYING TO EXPRESS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME.

#domestic violence #it's still a PFA #so invalidating #how fucking delusional #harm #neurodivergence #queer #heartbreak #healing #trauma #abuse #it's all straight up abuse #psychological warfare is real #they told me that they were standing right next to Jon #I HATE THIS

[audhd-nightwing]

what happens when you piss the Bats off:

bruce: psychological warfare

dick: psychological warfare

jason: psychological and physical warfare

tim: psychological warfare

damian: psychological w-

#you get the point #they have that in common at least #bruce also uses psychological warfare to show affection so. #(tim’s 16th bday anyone?) #this is stupid #the bats #batfamily #dc comics #this goes for steph and babs as well #cass and duke would just physically fight you #bruce wayne #dick grayson #jason todd #tim drake #damian wayne #warfare doesn’t look like a real word anymore

[starlightseraph]

“enjoy yourself” playing while house and wilson ride off together scared me so bad i almost died

#i’m 99% certain house was real #cause of the badge he left in foreman’s office #but it was a very terrifying 5 seconds before i remembered #house md #8x22 #everybody dies #hilson #hate crimes md #psychological warfare #courtesy of the show runners #hugh laurie #biggest hilson shipper fr #starlightseraph’s brainrot

[sampilled]

sorry don't mind me, i'm just thinking about how sully made sam food (real tangible food. all his childhood favourites)and how weems washed his kids bed sheets so that his mum wouldn't find out

#11x08 is actually psychological warfare to me. #he made real tangible food when he first showed up at the bunker :|real food #if i think too hard about zanna i start to cry im sorry #the implication for sams childhood in this episode are crazy and no one cares cuz its not in your face about it #like a lot of jokes about supernatural cps not enough crying about sully and sad little child sam who thought hed made him up #sorry im crying as i type this #sam winchester

[elysiuminfra]

has anyone else noticed the bots have come back stronger

#journal #i like getting asks every once in a while its fun. the heartbreak to discover that it was never real.............. #THEY WERE GONE FOR A WHILE FOR ME BUT NOW THEYRE BACK AND COMMITTING PSYCHOLOGICAL WARFARE

[devouringyourson]

always laughed at boomers with their candy crush addiction and never had games on my phone but then a friend reccomend monopoly go and its like crack to me we even have a loser gc where we exchange monopoly cards and do challenges together. i barely speak to these people irl but we have an active trade for our silly little capitalist pig game what on earth

#its weirdly addictive for a game with no ads or much reason to pay for in game purchases?? #how is this making money is it just psychological warfare to make us want to buy real estate??

[metanarrates]

season 1 fakir and rue was so good btw. absolutely insane dynamic. more fucked up and insane version of toddlers fighting over a toy except the toy is a human person and they'll become allies instantly if an outside force tries to take that toy away from them

#narrates #ptutu #YES it was partly because they both didn't want the very real consequences that would come from mytho getting his heart back #given that that would lead to him reengaging in bird warfare and also fakir getting sliced and diced #but also its very funny in a fucked up way to see rue and fakir engage in mild psychological warfare over who gets to own mytho

[gcsly]

Actually they were no posts remaining and the Black friday one reappeared afterwards.

I know one brand manager who's not happy right now.

ilies when he finds out his job includes upgrading their antivirus package to one that stops pierre when he clicks thé GET FREE BITCOIN RIGHT NOW link in his dms

#someone is trying to sow seeds of discontent in the pierre camp #this is real psychological warfare guys

[forbidden-potion-enjoyer]

my party is well aware of the infamous dinner with strahd in the future, and i've alluded to wanting to make it a situation of being stuck in the castle and now the event is being referred to as "Five Nights at Strahdsie's"

#curse of strahd #IF YOURE IN MY PARTY HIIII DONT READ THESE TAGS XOXO #yeah i think im gonna have them semi-hostage in the castle or something #gonna be psychological warfare out the wazoo #strahd puts the party in a terrarium real not clickbait or whatever

[hazardsoflove]

i’m getting put in a saw trap from 350 miles away

#IT WAS CAPE TOWN BTW #psychological warfare for real #julie #r.txt

[news4dzhozhar]

A video of Israeli soldiers in Jenin has gone viral, showing them smoking a hookah, presumably looted, and mocking Palestinian detainees according to local sources. The footage has caused controversy and outrage, as the soldiers are also heard joking about future vacations and sexual exploits in Gaza's beaches.

#jenin #idf are terrorists #idf sociopaths #psychological warfare #war criminals #IDF are the real terrorists #hostages #torture #genocidal sociopath #gaza under genocide #genocide #israel is an apartheid state #apartheid #illegal occupation #ethnic cleansing #collective punishment #save palestine #free palestine 🇵🇸 #boycott israel

[sandwichedbread]

imagine if there was just a person who made a tumblr account and decided to use their face as it’s pfp. they’re probably wondering why all the accounts that they like and try to follow keep blocking them.

#thank god real people don’t exist on Tumblr #I can never tell if the empty blogs that follow me are bots or the twitter refugees #it makes me feel like I’m shooting civilians when I block them #please for the love of god change your profile picture or reblog something #or do anything to show that you’re alive I can’t deal with this psychological warfare #sandwiched words

[vladco-tech-official]

Also; reminder that today at 1:20 Pm Central that there will be an emergency broadcast test on all cellular devices. Please don't wear headphones connected to your device, as the alarm will play at full volume and rupture your pathetic human ear drums.

Vladco employees are required to have their cell phones shut off or placed inside a sound-deafening space- such as your desk drawer- by 1:15 PM.

It will be very annoying and we have no control over it. It'll last for 30 minutes, according to reports.

#((id tag this as unreality but the cellphone thing is real)) #((so heads up for any usamericans. its 2:20 est)) #((looking forward to the psychological warfare that is waiting for this damn alarm)) #((but anyway yeah. ic but also an ooc reminder of this bs))

[mars-ipan]

thinking about my hypothetical dangan self insert again. i wanna psychoanalyze those fuckers soooo bad

#i wanna do art therapy with some of them #i also want to engage in full psychological warfare with ouma. i would read that motherfucker So Hard #i’d love to discuss different experiments with them when appropriate #i think a lot of the sdr2 cast would find the milgram shock experiments intruiging #i have other daydreams w/this stuff of course #i’d LOVE to share my philosophy on talent with ‘maeda. i feel like it’d start a fight #(i don’t believe in ‘talent’ that much lmao + it gets eugenics-y real fast if you try to measure it) #but he’d at least hear me out bc ‘as the ultimate psychologist i would have a nuanced perspective on this part of the human psyche’ or w/e #i think hinata would also benefit from hearing my perspective on that but in more of a reassurance way #and there’s plenty more psychology things i’d like to talk with so many of those characters about #but alas. i cannot because they are not real. and over half of the cast dies anyways

[terrainofheartfelt]

wait why do they not let opera singers start singing until they’re older???? like i kinda understand the logic with dance/sports - people’s physical abilities do tend to wain as they get older and experience more injuries (although the weigh in thing is absolutely FUCKED, especially for ballet and gymnastics), but i can’t even fathom how being older would necessarily make you a better singer. more experienced probably, but how is a singer supposed to get experience if they can’t work in the field at all before then??? aren’t there any roles for younger people in opera by virtue of the characters they’re singing for??

Hi ty for asking!

I guess I should probably start with a clarification, in opera, you can sing starting in your late teens on, but you are in training for several years, in school, in trade training programs, and so you aren’t professionally singing leading roles at the top of the marquee until your 30s at LEAST. So there’s multiple reasons for that — and bear with me because it’s been like 6 years since my pedagogy class, but the main reason one can’t typically jump from getting their bachelors straight into professional mainstage classical singing is that the voice is like, the last thing to complete aging in your body. You know how your frontal lobe doesn’t finish developing until you’re in your mid20s? It’s the same with your voice.

So your vocal folds—the bit of anatomy in your larynx where the magic happens—is legit an incredible piece of engineering, it’s folds (the colloquial term is chords, but folds is more accurate) of tissue, that, when you speak and sing, kind of…flap, oscillate together at high-frequency—that’s where the sound comes from, and with singing, it’s at a much higher intensity than speaking. And before the voice finishes aging, those folds are — for lack of a better term — soft, and pliable, and highly subject to injury.

Sidebar: That’s why if you ask any classically trained singer about those tv reality talent show children that “sing opera” they get incensed, because physiologically speaking, that kid is shredding their voice by forcing it to do something it anatomically can’t yet. It’s NOT impressive, it’s destructive.

Another sidebar: there’s a video out there somewhere of Steve Tyler from Aerosmith singing with a scope in his throat so you can see his folds vibrating and it’s fucking GNARLY. singing is intense. He’s awesome.

In your mid20s, those folds ossify into sturdier cartilage, which means the voice is hardier and has more stamina and strength.

So, knowing all that: classical singing is hard. It’s ATHLETIC. It burns calories! my old voice teacher used to say. It takes lots of breath control, lots of practice, and years building up healthy technique — technique that prevents injury and fatigue.

And, this is opera we’re talking about. There’s no amplification. No microphones. A voice has to be heard over an entire orchestra, you need training and stamina to make that happen. So it takes 4 years of training, but practically 6, bc most gigs won’t even look at you without a masters. And even then, you might be benched for awhile.

And it’s also all on a spectrum too, depending on the range and size of a voice (and different voice types are suited to different musical eras and roles) like higher, smaller voices mature in less time and are therefore hire-able in less time. Like, that post was a joke, but they were pretty accurate, dramatic baritones and basses are not taken seriously at all really until at least they’re 30s, and are probs not debuting until their 40s. Me, I’m on that end of the spectrum, my voice is low, and big. The analogy my teacher used was “Mac truck” my technique lessons were about “learning to drive the mac truck.” So I knew from the get go that it was gonna take my voice a WHILE to finish cooking. My coach told me once that one day after I turn 25, everything will magically be easier (vocal technique wise). But then I turned 25 in the middle of a pandemic and had been decidedly Not Singing for several months…so. Though, that Christmas when I had to sing in church, it felt real good. Better than I had anticipated…

Another sidebar: and singing is so so so much more personal than any other kind of music making, because you are the instrument, the instrument is in you, and it’s organic, and no other type of musician has to reckon with that kind of intimacy and change. You don’t have people sitting around waiting for their oboe to ripen. (Not to diminish the hard work instrumentalists put in like damn I wish I’d stuck it out with piano maybe I’d be happier)

So, there’s a real reason for it, but, there’s also a lot of pearl-clutching in the business about what young voices and young, dramatic voices (that’s what I have, a dramatic voice) should and shouldn’t do. And there’s several conceits of the business that are, to put it simply, absolutely fucked. Like, you do your six years of school, but if you go straight through, then you’re still 23, and unless you’re a perfect tiny Mozart soubrette, you’re not really finished cooking. The bridge between school and singing grown up lead roles is supposed to be apprenticeships, but those are so Fucked. They’ve become less about hiring quality singers and training them—hiring voices with potential and giving them lessons and concert performances and letting them learn roles without the strain of performing on a huge stage with an orchestra—and more about hiring cheap labor to round out casts by throwing them bit parts, small roles that only have a few lines here and there—those are the roles for younger people you asked about. Comprimario is the industry term. But companies are only hiring people they know they cam put on a stage immediately, there’s no interest in training anymore, so smaller voices are fine working that way, but a girl like me gets nowhere. I did an audition for a company where I’d worked before and had a great relationship with all the people, and when I walked out the door—after absolutely crushing it—one of them said “that was great. it’s a shame we have nothing to give her.” (I know this because the person they were talking to is my best friend). and that’s not even getting into the fucking extortion that is pay to sings and application fees and audition fees. One’s only hope as a young dramatic voice in the apprenticeship world, really, is to either go to Germany—where they are much less pearl clutchey about age—or land where there’s a director or conductor who cares enough about your potential to keep hiring you, even if they can’t “use” you in their season. And at this point in time, I got neither of those.

So, with all that, the question is: is opera even worth it? And tbh the pandemic answered that question for me before I could, but…fuck, somedays (like now since I’m writing this ask about it) I miss it. Like, it feels like a part of myself is missing from me. Because damn, there’s nothing like it, singing. Not even the full shebang with orchestras and costumes but just singing arias in my best friends’ living room while we’re drunk on two buck chuck…there’s nothing like it. 

tldr: it’s a combination of a real, physiological reason, combined with the fact that the industry is fucked, and said industry has cards stacked against people who aren’t socio-economically capable of waiting for their voice to age.

#on today’s episode of liz was a music major and is gonna make it everyone’s problem #i hope that answers your question? I tried to paint with a broad brush but I know too much so if it got too jargony I apologize #bestie I’ll be real: it’s hard out there #i did library school to kill time and be able to sort of keep my toes in the water #and then a global pandemic happened. and all my planning flew out the window. #and…even though there’s no weighins perse. opera is hella fatphobic #personally I blame when they started streaming opera into movie theaters #which ROCKS don’t get me wrong #but now it’s like #companies are casting based on what it’ll look like onscreen. which is fucked #but yeah I’ve had conversations where directors straight up told me to my face that my size was an issue #and was why I didn’t get a role or that companies wouldn’t hire me because of it #it’s all. it’s all fucked. #and now I’m trying to redefine what I want my relationship with singing to look liek #because I miss the music. FUCK do I miss the music. but I don’t miss the psychological warfare that is the young artist industry #asks #anon

[faglio-e-holio]

wrestling is actually high art and if you dont appreciate it you just dont understand it

#its so cerebral! #its drag #its camp #its sheer athleticism #its psychological warfare within psychological warfare #wrapped in like three layers of misdirects #and then theres the interplay between real world politics and the performance itself #even the crowd is a part of it! #this shit is amazing #wrestling