#the trans experience

[zoestorm]

"One shirt and a change of underwear for a week-long trip" guy to "Two full suitcases for a weekend away" girl pipeline.

(The struggle is real.)

#trans #the trans experience

[the-trans-advice-blog]

Shout out to all the young trans kids still in the closet. Going through a puberty you don’t want and trying to grow up when you can’t be yourself is incredibly difficult. You’re doing great :)

#marshal talks #the trans experience #transgender #trans #transmasc #ftm #lgbt #trans guy #ftm trans #nb #mtf

[shapeshiftersvt]

M'Mothm'n.

Here's the thing about the Mothman. Even though he scared the ever-living shit out of the people who saw him, the speculation around him has become, over the years, actually very kind. What if he's only here to help? What if he's trying to warn us about impending disaster? What if that horrible feeling you got that something wasn't right, what if that was the Mothman telling you to look out, be careful, danger is coming, doom is nigh?

It's one thing to be a harbinger of doom; there are apparitions of ghostly black dogs all over the world that will give you that, red eyes and all. It's another to have one who actually means well.

I'm going to be an Old Queer for a minute, now, and talk about gay politics in the USA as I watched it over the past thirty years. My experience is my own; my history is shared, but not universal. Sound off in a reblog if you saw it happen differently. I want your story, too.

There’s a certain line the right wing in this country likes to use against The Gays, one I’ve heard since I was a small child. It goes: queer people are threatening our way of life. Queer people are the pebbles that start the avalanche of apocalypse, the collapse of civilization as we know it. If marriage becomes something other than Man + Woman, or if Man and Woman become something other than we think they are, then we will lose everything we know and love.

The rise of the Respectable Gay in the 1990s was a pushback against this. “See,” cried Degeneres and Savage and all the rest, “see how we’re so very normal? We want to get married and buy a house and have 2.1 kids and a white picket fence. Our marriage doesn’t threaten yours. How could it? We’re just normal, ordinary, white, moderately wealthy, people. We're like you."

This move shifted the narrative across the 90s and 00s. Homosexuality was officially decriminalized in '03, and we got gay marriage in 2015, and every year in between there was another Influential Gay Person saying "I just want to get married, that's all." There were even commercials about it, remember? “Gay marriage is just like yours. Only gayer.”

But... in the mid-2010s this was already wearing thin. Transgender people, gender non-conforming people, gays who didn’t go in for two-person marriage, everyone in the greater LGBTQ+ umbrella who had thrown their support behind gay marriage and waited our turn to get our rights; we'd all been mobilizing, too. We'd been putting together our own coalitions, under the aegis of the greater umbrella or not. And, here's the crux: we were, in fact, threatening the right-wing Christian ways of life. Just by existing in public, by talking and writing and performing and living our lives during the Transgender Tipping Point, trans and non-binary people like me were challenging the foundational definitions of Man and Woman as exclusive, all-encompassing categories of humanity.

It wasn't just the right, either. Straight liberals who were totally on board with gay marriage would look at us and say, "um, wait, really? Really, like that? Do you have to?" The discomfort was palpable. This was my experience with my own family; they were fine with me dating and getting married, but a new set of pronouns was forcing something on them. It was hurting something intrinsic to their identities. It was, in a very real way, threatening them.

I'm happy and grateful to say that most of them learned to discard the parts of their own foundations that excluded me from existence. This is rarely easy for anyone. I'm honestly proud of those members of my family who have learned to look the Mothman in the eyes, so to speak, and think, "He's just here to help."

("Pop your hood up," I told this model, "and look at them. They should see their impending death in your eyes."

Layton is an incredible model, a great human, and they know and love the Mothman. They knew exactly what I meant.)

It can be awful, sometimes. When I'm unapologetically myself in public, I can walk past a line of protesters at Planned Parenthood and see the hostility rise up, the anger and revulsion and fear. And I do think it is fear, at the core of it. I think something in them knows that I'm just one of 2.6 million transgender people out here, living my life, casually being a harbinger of their doom.

Next time they come to Brattleboro, I ought to greet them with red glasses and a twelve-foot wingspan.

#mothman #cryptids #queer cryptids #the cryptid collection #the trans experience

[spinrekiyo]

Assorted Kiyos.

((Additionally, I am working on drawing dicks. It is my lesbian dream to truly be able to draw a pleasing dick. I’m working on it. Not there yet though…))

#korekiyo shinguji #kiyo and meadow #drv3 korekiyo #korekiyo #korekiyo hcs #tenkiyo #autism #korekiyo x tenko #gender dysphoria #the trans experience #scars #trans hrt #generally Kiyo things #also this isn’t a dig at Kaito #i think he and Kiyo help each other to work through things #Kiyo helps him with his masculinity complex #and they do so on his terms #for those curious #Kiyo’s big scars are from the game don’t ask me how #boiling alive + simulation = effects of the simulation that aren’t death #and I’m inspired by hunter toh #their other scars are s/h #or from fieldwork #or from being an idiot #nudity warning #artistic nude

[guardianspirits13]

A discussion of nonbinary representation in media, as characterized by Raine Whispers

(+accompanying doodles of Raine living the trans experience, wether amab, afab, or neither :)

So here's the thing: we don't know if Raine is trans. It's not really mentioned or discusssd beyond using they/them pronouns and it makes sense to us based on the rules of our world that they are trans, but they exist in a very different place with very different rules. Since they are the only nonbinary character in the series (edit: other than Masha but they’re human so that’s a bit more black and white) and we have no context otherwise, it is equally possible that they transitioned at a young age or that it is possible for witches to be born as physically 'genderless', while uncommon.

I find this dilemma falls under the broader scope of the discussion of nonbinary representation in media. There are two main ways to portray nonbinary (particularly androgynous) characters: either playing it straight as it is with Raine, no questions asked, or by encorporating elements of the trans experience into their story or character.

The catch with nonbinary characters is that, opposed to binary trans characters, is that you don't know what gender they were assigned at birth (while this is generally rather obvious with binary trans characters). If written badly, it may feel disingenuous to have a nonbinary character whose birth gender is alluded to or "revealed". On the other hand, magically sexless nonbinary characters aren't always the best representation either, as a) there is no real way to 'pass' as nonbinary in the real world and b) even for androgynous identifying nonbinary people, complete androgyny is often an unattainable feat in the first place.

It is important to have characters who are realistically trans, including the less "pretty" parts of the transition process. It is an important lesson to have in media that you don't have to be flat-chested or clean-shaven or whatever to deserve respect for your identity.

And again, both types of nonbinary representation are good in their own ways, but it is important to be cognizant of this as I became when I began developing a nonbinary character of my own.

This has been circling in my mind for quite a bit and has just come back to me now with my mini-fixation on Raine. If you are nonbinary yourself and/or have any other (respectful) thoughts on this, I would love to hear them!

Thanks for reading!

#toh meta #toh fanart #raine whispers #nonbinary #nonbinary representation #toh analysis #doodles #transgender #trans nonbinary #the trans experience #digitalart #myart #the owl house

[kelbinajim]

There is a girl who looks like you. (big wall of text ahead)

There is a girl who looks like you. 

You see her every day- in shop windows and pond reflections; 

in the black mirror of your turned-off phone

She has no light in her eyes.

She stares at you, and you stare back

You stare with envy,

Sorrow, 

Longing, 

And even some malice

She has stolen from you what you 

Admittedly, never had in the first place

There is a girl who looks like you.

You hate her, you think

She has no light in her eyes.

She has not done anything particularly worthy of this malice

She has tried her best for you 

And it is not her fault

But she follows you- endlessly in reflections, tirelessly haunting

And you want rid of her

There is a girl who looks like you.

She has no light in her eyes.

Today, you decide

Today, you will kill her. 

Tomorrow, 

Well, tomorrow,

he will be reborn-

a fire will ignite

And you will start living.

#the trans experience #growing up #poetry #i wrote this inspired by a game summary on a tumblr post lol #and now u get this #your welcome

[comfortyart]

Isn't it crazy how people will start using the correct pronouns for my dog the second I correct them but somehow it's 'too hard' when it's a person

#the trans experience #yes thank you for gendering my dog who has no conception correctly #forty speaks

[sunwicker]

hell in sunwicker #5 kicked out

#hell in sunwicker #oc art #oc comic #trans #my art #comic #gizmo #trans guy #trans boy #the trans experience #Spotify

[queerbeverage]

I have been fighting for too long.

Everywhere i go i see weapons and trenches and death and horrible suffering.

Even where there are no guns pointed at me. I still feel the impending doom one does right before an artillery shell hits. That eerie quietness before everything around you erupts into violence.

My siblings beside me. They are suffering with me, the same fate. Some of us more similar than others, but we are all in this mud-filled, rotten trench.

Their faces barely keep me human. A rare smile while looking at the sun peeking through the clouds, right before the artillery spotters can see us again. A window to another place & time, worn around their neck.          To remind them what this is all for.

Most of the time, it is just wishful glances. Towards the front, maybe we will one day defeat our enemy? Towards the back, maybe we can keep each other safe? Towards home, so far away now not only in distance but in mind.

#my writing #the trans experience #tm #trans poetry #idk why but i always write about transitioning & my experience with it as war-analogies #maybe that one philosophy tube video about transitioning hit the nail too hard on the head #or maybe i've just fought way to many battles #both #this is how i felt at the beginning of my transition #until recently #i will put the second part to this in the reblogs

[yveonz]

i LOVE the trans experience

i love the trans experience bc both of this character could describe my gender. they have nothing, i repeat, NOTHING, in common. leave me alone guys gender is complicated im autistic

#transgender #trans man #transmasc #alexmogender #craig of the creek #the trans experience #autism #autism is fun

[zoestorm]

I went down one shoe size since I started HRT, and I know some other transfems who lost height; I also know some transfems who didn't lose height or drop in shoe size, and science will tell you such a thing is impossible. So I'm curious 🧐

#the trans experience #transfem #hrt #estrogen #trans

[the-trans-advice-blog]

It’s so freeing to finally accept yourself. To finally lose that feeling of needing to prove yourself and only do things that prove you are who you say you are. I spend my time with other queers who love and support me. Please remember it gets better!

#marshal talks #transgender #trans #transmasc #ftm #lgbt #trans guy #ftm trans #nb #the trans experience

[ghcstcd]

Seeing you call Dew’s anatomy “baphomet” has given me the most validation ever. For the beast few weeks that’s how I’ve been describing my ideal body and bdbcjjdiwjxbndjdknn 💙💙💙💙

Gods that IS the ideal body...

#the trans experience #messages from beyond the ask box #harpieunion

[halevren]

my forever struggle as someone who identifies somewhere between man and woman, I experience the constant struggle of wanting short messy hair and wanting long, perfectly brushed hair all at the same time

#i wish i was a game character and coukd easily switch my hair whenever i want. and other appearance aspects #trans #trangender #the trans experience

[alpaca-clouds]

Scrambled Eggs

You know, one of those weird things about being trans is, that it kinda turns out everyone you ever knew was actually also trans.

Just to sum up my last year. Earlier 2022 someone contacted me on social media going like: "Uhm, yeah, so, I follow you for a while now and never outed myself, but uhm, I am actually your first girlfriend. Only that I am a dude now." And I was like: "Oh, well, great, I am too." So, yeah. My first "girlfriend" and I? Both trans dudes.

Spend some time in the summer with old friends of mine. One of them? A dude now. The other non-binary.

And this last June now? Yeah, bestie is like: "Say, can you start using he/him pronouns for me? I think I am non-binary." (Alright, though that one was the least shocking coming out ever, given I kinda knew that he was an egg forever now.)

So in the end, it turns out, we were all eggs once we meet. And something about our trans nature kinda just made us stick together. lol

#the trans experience #transgender #trans rights #lgbtq

[jasperscringepit]

Being misgendered by family whilst they use my chosen name is wild. I haven't seen my aunt in ages, and it's jarring to be called jasper whilst being aggressively she/her'd.

#a day of both masking and misgendering #I'm so drained now #that took a lot out of me #the trans experience #i'm so tired of it ngl