#there aren't enough women

[celestemagnoliathewriter]

Not HP related, but a mere observation/lament: I'm planning and presenting at an academic conference next month and I'm the ONLY female scholar (other than the keynote speaker) presenting.

WHY IS ACADEMIA SUCH A SAUSAGE FEST?!

(ok, why is MY branch of academia so filled with dudes?)

#academia #academic problems #why are there so many men #there aren't enough women #phd stuff #phd problems #want to present at a conference? #send me your abstract #it's about philosophy #and also ethics #and the contemporary context

[itsoretsev]

watching daemyra shippers & daemon stans crying screaming throwing up bcs they can't believe a toddler killer, ex wife brutal murderer, groomer, careless father and overall psychopath would be an abusive man

#ooc daemon they say.... #girlies aren't you embarrassed #anti daemon targaryen #anti daemon #anti daemyra #hotd spoilers #hotd #house of the dragon #aemond targaryen #rhaenyra targaryen #rhaenicent #alicent hightower #i can't even list all his nasty shit but him being horrible to women wasn't enough for people to stop shipping him with women period

[rabbitprayer]

No desire to convert to catholicism but the desire to kind of pretend that no schisms ever happened.

#[sigh] and we'll pray that our unity will one day be restored and they'll know we are christians by our love #txt #It's the bi-monthly angst about denominations don't mind me #whichever church I'm attending I know it's better than my very bleak new age era so it's not worth getting too upset over I suppose #what do you do when the UCC is too reformed and not litergical enough but catholics don't like gays or ordain women and episcopalians #make me angry because they like to ignore the atrocities they orchestrated in the southern united states and honestly every single #denomination has blood on their hands from various atrocities and ugh #too transgender for orthodoxy also #the eastern orthodox church in my city says that women can't wear pants that aren't obviously pants meant for women #so I can't check it out #I will keep going to my UCC church

[holy--milk]

btw this post kinda made me think about how, as both a JGY and SJ fan, i see both of them get similar yet opposite treatment from certain parts of their fanbases.

like JGY consistently gets interpreted to be much more of a prickly asshole and a ruthless murderer than he actually is, while SJ is often toned down into a Tough (but secretly caring) Teacher archetype with full disregard for his canonical blatant and cruel abuse of children (well, one specific child as far as we know, but he's a quality over quantity man for sure).

like maybe some JGY stans would benefit from switching to full-time SJ apologism instead of trying to mold their polite little customer service smile blorbo into an angry feral kitten with abandonment issues. and vice versa.

#i hate seeing jgy and sj be hated on for things that they're not #but it's also weird seeing them be loved for things that they aren't either? #like when you see people being like 'i love jgy for the angry murder baby he is <3' #and you're like #but he's not #or when you see people praising sj for being a feminist icon #and like. no #not SA'ing women and hating men isn't enough to make you a feminist #anyway #not sure i've articulated my thoughts well but i hope y'all get what i mean #jin guangyao #meng yao #shen jiu #mdzs #svsss

[laeriel]

The reason I love Rin so much is that she is portrayed as a person first and a woman second

#I hope I explained it well enough #I've had enough of women not being treated as a person but as a ✨woman✨ y'know #it feels like they aren't people who happen to be women #they use it as the characters' whole personality #we need more characters like Rin #tpw #the poppy war #poppy war #fang runin

[gorillawithautism]

we should not, in fact, bring back man-hating feminism

like you can say your post isn't a safe place for radfems and terfs all you want but you specifically said we should bring back man-hating feminism

man-hating feminism hates trans women of color first and foremost.

man-hating feminism hates muslim men, trans men, intersex people. and i say this again, most of all, man-hating feminism hates trans women of color more than anyone. (more on this point)

we do not need to bring that back. the idea of bringing that back should sicken you. it should anger you. it should be unthinkable that you would support that.

#swingset #do i agree that people on tiktok lamenting about not being housewives is a problem? yeah #do i agree that misandry is not a systemic issue like misogyny is and that mras are full of shit? yes #but do i think we should put trans women in danger in order to combat that? absolutely fucking not #i need to make this very clear because i think some of my mutuals who reblogged that post likely did not read it carefully enough #it does not matter if you say terfs and radfems aren't welcome on your page #because if you are using the rhetoric they use #you are inviting them into your community #whether you wanted to or not #so be more careful with your language please and thank you

[letters-of-libertas]

I'm bi and yeah your note on women not having solidarity seems sadly true. Apart from not dating men would there be anything you would suggest to improve ones life apart from stating away from those women if possible?

I love this question because this is how to start thinking: being practical.

What it takes to "improve ones life" is subjective so with that said firstly define what a better life(style) for yourself away from moids would look like. Temporarily mentally remove xy terrorist existence. What would your habits/routine be? What would you work towards & pour your energy into? What would you want to be? What would you center your life around? Take your time with these questions or anymore that come up. Have a general idea then be more specific and start breaking your life down into sectors/sections/areas, then look at where you want to be in those areas and work towards it.

For example; I divide my life into 6-7 aspects:

Physical Strength - Not just about muscle but knowing how to fight, where to hit and when to fight. Being stronger makes it easier to defend yourself in altercations (especially with other women). Some mfs will try you & you cant always rely on others coming to your rescue. Also work on building stamina to help endurance, and keeping as healthy as possible.

Emotional Strength - If you cant control your emotions they will control you. In a world of chaos being emotionally strong will let you cut through the noise and focus on what truly matters. Building emotional strength is not easy but it's worth it. Being able to rise above immediate reactions and pace yourself will allow you to assess situations more rationally & make more beneficial choices.

Finances - Get your bag up. Having money to gain resources is imperative to quality of life. I dont care what anyone says having a certain amount of money in life WILL make you happier as you're able to meet your needs better. Having more money/resources also makes it easier to support other women should you choose to do so, it also allows you to be more influential and have more control over your life. However, dont become a slave to getting money tho because that's how you get scammed.

Network - The type of people you hang around can make or break who you are as a person. Aim to connect with likeminded women who will encourage & inspire you as you go on this journey. Hang around people that value & will be honest with you while giving you grace. Not all women you engage with have to be single & childfree but beware the moid crazy ones because they will bring danger to you in their quest for maIe validation. Life isn't perfect but you cant go wrong having the right people around you, valuable relationships are hard to find but it goes a long way even if it's just online. However, no company > bad company.

Spirituality/Guide - Having something bigger than yourself to guide you through the chaos in this world can offer guidance/purpose that keeps you grounded & focused. For many people generally this is religion/god. Not everyone needs or ascribes to religion/spirituality though, but at least consider sets of morals/beliefs to follow. However even that isn't for everyone. So if you feel better off without spirituality or a 'higher' guide at least be clear on it & your reasons why (for yourself).

Hobbies & Interests - As turbulent as the world is, find things to enjoy amidst the chaos. Constant work, doom, and gloom will not change anything you will only hurt yourself. Take time to indulge in things that make you happy to recharge & relax. Engage in hobbies that serve you, share your passion with other women & hear theirs out too. It goes a long way in terms of mental health.

Security - It takes privilege to decide to not get married or have children as a woman & live it out. Everyone's situation is different so what I'll generally suggest is to constantly look into how you can protect yourself, have backup methods, and stay in the loop of xy predation. Dont drown in it but moids are predators & being completely blind to them is being blind to danger. Elaborated on point 10 here.

Sounds like a lot? Great, it'll keep you busy because this isn't a vacation or destination but a lifestyle. And to be honest, some of y'all can do with the busyness as it'll let you focus on what actually matters. This not to say to overwhelm yourself in things for the sake of it but to prioritise your energy on effective things for your life. As you focus on building you'll find that you have less energy to care about insignificant stuff or stuff out of your control anyways. For example, Instead of getting wound up about user somerandomadjectivefem stirring discourse calling you an extremist or whining about how impossible it is for her & other women to live without romantic love n' whatnot (or even women irl pulling this crap), you either ignore or quickly shut down the conversation & swiftly move on.

Everything I've mentioned are just examples, you may feel differently do whatever you feel best applies. Also remember to enjoy the process along the way as you are living through it afterall :3

Long story short: Work on building resources & other aspects of your life up for yourself.

#Many tend to shy away from the single childfree lifestyle bc the traditional map/railguards aren't there but thats the fun part of it #for me is figuring it out; figuring myself & the world out; trial-and-error to carve an environment & lifestyle best for me #Few side notes bc I dont want the blog to be too long: #Regarding physical strength: I know that no amount of training will make you as strong as the average moid but it isnt in vain #as other women can also act up & there's a higher chance of taking them on successfully without weapons vs xys. #Regarding section on being busy: Personally I dont care for discourse surrounding this topic because my mind is on other things like making #sure my reps for the day are in; making sure I'm staying up-to-date with knowledge I need to do my job; building sources of income #outside of my job;engrossing myself in my interests; for example. You become productively busy enough & what other women do doesnt bother #you. That's not to say completely ignore or not criticise moid-aligned actions; but dont spend too much time wallowing in doing so. #female separatist #female separatism #blackpill feminism #blackpill feminist #wineauntmovement #wine aunt #decentering men

[shimenchus]

it's so telling when someone says radical feminism is "white woman shit" and you bring up the fact that in many places such as africa or asia, the only feminism that prominently exists is radical feminism, and for those places it's just considered regular feminism that you get told those women live in places that aren't progressive enough for them to understand their actions properly. to say these women are too dumb to realize that their beliefs are "bad" simply because they don't align with western mainstream liberal feminism is rooted in xenophobia and racism, not to mention a lack of understanding of the struggles and violence women from these countries regularly go through, which can range anywhere from fgm to men rubbing and wiping their cum on the back of women's clothes in trains. but of course, as usual, there's no intelligent response to this so you just end up getting blocked or get rape wished on you.

#my grandma was born and raised in south sudan she considers herself a feminist and her beliefs #along with all of the women she knows believe in what radfems believe in #being against things like surrogacy forced marriage harmful sex culture misogyny male violence and femicide #i live in a primarily hispanic/black area and literally the only people who try to push gender shit on us is white people #and if you say you don't believe in all that you get called an ignorant white supremacist #white people put the mirror down when you're calling non white people white supremacists #anyway today's rant is brought to you by a white guy who told me (a non white darkskin child of 2 immigrants) #that of course i didn't understand gender politics because i'm too privileged #and then went on to say women in south korea aren't 'booksmart' enough to realize their corset movement is a 'terf' movement..... #my mom always tells me do not engage with white people who want to play devil's advocate with race based matters #and yet here i am doing it again lol #/rambling

[chemiosmotic]

omegaverse is closer to a conversion therapy fantasy than a ~Queer~ one

#imo its actual lineage is from strong proud HET women who don't see why they should bother with a man - until one bothers them enough #there are also some works that don't have an omega protag who has never yet loved a man. but few of them! #& in fact even the ones who aren't like NOOO i dont want to be SUBJUGATED BY AN ALPHA. are like #swept away by the current of romance in such a way as it reads as them not experiencing much attraction or agency? #j.txt #cqn you tell i saw a bad post.

[kneworder]

angry at the oscars barbie nominations but in an annoyinger way (i think nominating ryan reynolds makes sense but the best picture and best supporting actress noms are ridiculous)

#sorry but the more i think about it the more i really dislike the movie #ken was funny! he was silly and campy! i really did not care for the rest of the movie! #i just think the more you examine its take on feminism the more it falls apart! #it's inherently about a product! it's inherently personifying a product and making you feel sympathy for and relate to a product! #they are generating hype and engendering sympathy for something they are trying to sell you! #regurgitating second wave feminism without nuance doesn't make it groundbreaking it makes it like. fine i guess? #verilybitchie has a great video that put a lot of my feelings about it into words #idk it did not resonate with me at all and also made me kind of annoyed with how it contributed to the ongoing trend #of gendering things that aren't gendered and focusing on a segregation of gendered perspectives #tired of i'm just a girl! tired of girl dinner! tired of men are always thinking about the roman empire! #sure there are experiences more common to and relevant to women but i get so uncomfy with those kinds of generalizations #even when they're just jokes because after they get repeated enough they stop sounding like ones #just like. when you try to examine it in terms of any kind of intersectionality it falls apart #and i know it's not that serious but like come on. they literally do not once touch on any kind of intersectionality. #you can't be like 'it's a groundbreaking feminist movie!' because they said 'women struggle with misogyny' in 2023 #like i know it's barbie but i don't understand why there's this impulse to say that that's something that's never been said before #just because the president is black doesn't mean you've acknowledged like. racism at all. #just because you have two fat barbies with like four lines doesn't mean you've said anything meaningful about body image #and when you take an openly lesbian actress and give her short hair and make her strange and then have all the other characters #essentially socially exile her and still think she's weird after the resolution!!! #i would say that's like!! implicitly a pretty weird way to write gay people! #i don't want to rain on anyone's parade! it's silly! it's not that serious! i just also think it's not that good! #it's fine! it's fun! but i DO think ken is the best part of the barbie movie and for that i apologize

[ladyloveandjustice]

look I get the impulse but saying “witches are magic doctors” and “wizards are magic engineers/researchers” is just not correct. Witches have never been just ‘magic doctors’, they aren’t treated as solely ‘magic doctors’ in popular media or historically and deciding the word that’s historically associated with women is the one that focuses on ‘healing’ and the one that’s historically used for men is “engineering/academia’ is, hm. Actually pretty gendered. Pretty bad actually!

We cannot erase historical context around “witch” or “wizard” by assigning random, very gendered qualities to the terminology. That does not, in fact, destroy the gendered connotations. That enforces them. Just let all kinds of people/characters be witches if they want and all kinds of people/characters be wizards if they want, and don’t enforce assigning qualities to either of them, gendered or otherwise. Everybody is just magic and can do whatever they want. It’s just words. It’s fine.

#Sorry im weirdly passionate about this #READ WITCH HAT ATELIER WITCHES CAN DO ANYTHING THEY FUCKING WANT! #AND BE ANY GENDER #even back in the day men were executed for witchcraft #nobody decided on 'two magic genders' they just wanted to get away from the connotations of the word witch #which was used as a weapon against primarily women #and didn't want men or male characters to be associated with it #yeah looked it up and 'wizard' was first used in 1550 #want to know what was going on then that men didn't want to be associated with lmao #and personally I like witch better because it's got that edge got a good aesthetic associated with it #wizards aren't goth enough sorry #ok i realize assigning 'goth' to witches goes back on my own words but goth is my excaption #you tell me my witch characters are limited to healing i say fuck no #witches #wizards

[noirineverysense]

imo I get that people often don't ship black women bc they don't care about them. But I also feel we put too much emphasis on romance and desirability when it comes to talking about black female characters.

#I think this goes especially for black female characters with white male main characters #I think there's so much energy being put into seeing black women as desirable enough for the white man #and not enough into deconstructing why getting with the white man is the goal here esp if it's not the character's goal #this is about carmy and sydney but it's about a bunch of other black female characters too #saying you like platonic relationships isn't just a way to say you don't care about the character #I care very much about both the character and the relationship #platonic relationships aren't below romantic ones #sydney adamu #the bear #fandom racism

[hirkyy]

so quintessentially western to pass off prostitution as girlboss building her empire empowered feminist self-employment ignoring the way by far the biggest demographic of "sex workers" in western europe are trafficked eastern european women. die.

#as if eastern european women aren't fetishized and victimized enough.

[answrs]

anyway since this apparently needs to be said again, anyone insisting it is immoral to vote in any election, especially not the US Presidential election this year, is getting immediately reported and blocked for election interference on-sight.

get the absolute fuck off my blog if you think "actively campaigning on dictatorship and having me and anyone like me raped and then murdered the moment he's installed" and "not liberal enough but can be pressured into it" are "def the same!!!1!!"

#a kleenex to a head wound isn't enough but it's the first most basic step and sure as FUCK is not the same as acid on said wound instead #you can suggest better bandages! stitches! a fucking hospital! (in the primaries) but when it comes to it vulnerable people DO NOT #get to opt out while you just sit on your ass and pretend you can opt out of the blame!!! #if you don't vote for the kleenex everyone WILL have acid poured on them. you do not get to opt out of this result!!! #because the pro-acid voters are NEVER going to not vote to Make A Statement™ #they will vote for The Acid That Kills You *no matter what* #and once the acid is no longer the biggest threat #you start advocating for a doctor and an ambulance #because. i repeat. YOU AREN'T DEAD YET. #the world is still shitty as fuck but you didn't vote in the Pour Acid On The Queers/Disableds/Immigrants/Black/Women Party #(and make no mistake a refusal to vote IS a vote for the Kill Everyone I Love Party) #this is not difficult to understand! #this is also literally the same shit that got spread around and GOT THE FUCKER ELECTED IN 2016! #LIKE THIS IS ACTUAL KNOWLEDGE! IT'S THE REASON THERE'S A REPORT CATEGORY FOR IT IN THE FIRST PLACE!

[lucienne-thee-librarian]

Me @ Netflix if they cut Foxglove and Hazel or A Game of You or yassify any of the girls

#sandman season 2 #a game of you #fucking bullshit man this comic say what you want in not saying there's nothing to criticize but christ #where else even today do you get queer women characters this un-polished and prettied up #to still be appealing looking to cishet men who are allowed to be messy and Problematic without #being punished by the narrative. And Wanda god she's a nerd she's a scene gal fashion wise she's everything #Barbie is desperately recovering any sense of identity at all and it's so compelling. I don't even trust netflix to do them justice #at this point but if the lesbians the fandom was least likely to find Palatable background extras aka the most human ones #are cut? If Wanda is yassified if Barbie is cut? Because we have to streamline everything and cut off everything that made #sandman unique to pull as many bucks as possible? Yes I AM going to take that #personally actually. It kinda does feel like a slap in the face. Queer women and women in general were the core fanbase of the comic for ye #but if they say fuck us when it's time to make $$?? Then fuck them right back. Bye #We don't need yet another time that if queer women aren't looking like models #they're not fit to be seen according to executives and audiences alike #also it goes without saying that if h0b g*dli*g gets one second more screen time than is necessary #I'm gonna chew my way thru Netflix hqs walls #Has he not taken over enough. The fandom is already insufferable about him #and I'm so fucken tired of it we DON'T need more #yes I know this is all fears and speculation. I WANT to be wrong. You don't know how happy I'll be if i have to eat my own words #But until then I'm so nervous

[jewvian]

The world is giving "we're okay with slaughtering and burning babies, but beheading them?? That's where we cross the line."

Do you even realize how crazy you sound?

The whole rhetoric of "pics or it didn't happen!" while events are still unfolding and families are still grieving and processing the magnitude of the events is wild to me.

#text #but thanks for the free service cuz now everyone else sees how insane you are #you're like frothing at the mouth demanding these awful pics #testimonies aren't enough? y'all cancelled men who questioned women's allegations #remember those days? #the events here were much worse but it's giving hypocrisy