#those gender standards

[fayevalcntine]

Positioning Louis as the "Edwardian wife who becomes trapped by her husband" in a literal sense does no justice to analyzing his actual place and role as a Black man in his society and in his relationship with Lestat. Any interpretation or analysis you do of him when it comes to their relationship cannot be stripped of the racial aspect because it's constantly there. Texts analyzing Edwardian wives (and particularly ones this fandom loves to bring up) typically were white and the dissection of their place in societal rules are always viewed from the aspect of gender that is within these texts only allowed to white women, but never to Black men or even Black women. And gender and race become inseparable when you discuss the latter, no matter how people may view it.

This is why I can't take this approach to analyzing Louis' story seriously because if you don't consider the racial aspect in his relationship even to himself and his sexuality, what's the point? You're still centering the standards that were more placed upon white male/female couples than you're willing to look into the unique structure of Black families, religion, their view of homosexuality and how that sooner heavily influences Louis than the family's "need" for him to be sold off to an Edwardian husband. Even in Louis' own story, him and Claudia being Black is more centered on than any demeaning "housewife" comment he tries to go against from Claudia's perspective. She makes that comment once, whereas we have at least two episodes from Louis' perspective that have very blatant hints and showings of the racism he still suffers from under the Jim Crow era and how it affects his self-worth as well as his relationship with Lestat who doesn't seem to take into consideration how any of the blatant racial aggressions and objections still affect Louis and what he considers to be important to achieve in his own life.

Then there's also the pointed topic of Louis' position as a Black man who is a pimp to the Black women he has as sex workers, as well as how his position as a Black father affects Claudia, another Black girl. If you insist on Louis being centered as this "Edwardian white wife" who is confined by his implicit gender in his marriage, where does that leave Claudia and the blatant misogyny and disrespect she gets from both him and Lestat? Lestat who is her white father abuses her. Positioning Louis within the strict confines of "being her mother" doesn't do her any favors because he didn't hesitate to choke her when he was deeply emotionally distressed, nor does it make him look any better when he's fine with chopping up her diaries and then delivering them on a silver platter so that Daniel, another white man, can read and dissect. Even if he does this under the sole pretense of "doing right by her", how does it in any way help when he also can't face up to his failures towards her?

#interview with the vampire #claudia #louis de pointe du lac #i just feel like all these needless 'Lestat is the patriarchy' discussions; even when done in order to shield Louis #do him and Claudia no favors because y'all keep centering these weird strictly white standards in your interpretations #'Louis is an Edwardian wife' Louis is a Black man who was turned in 1910s Louisiana #the structural confines Edwardian wives were given really aren't the same when you take into consideration the racial segregation #of Louis' time; and I feel like the specific issues that Black men then faced when it came to 'proving' their worth when it comes to gender #are then just sidelined and forgotten as if those aren't the standards Louis grew up with #if you want to discuss Louis' placement in his relationship with Lestat it's kind of really heavy-handed even on the show #that he's a black man and that that heavily affects him foremostly in this relationship #also I'm so confused over this insane idea that Lestat is somehow the patriarchy while Louis is a woman and y'all say this unprompted #without considering how it looks when you call a gay black man a woman and a white bisexual man a guy #i feel like you can evade bad stereotypes of painting black men as overaggressive without veering off into the whole other side #while still sounding vaguely backhanded #and it doesn't make it any less weird when I see other non-black/white fans insist on this interpretation #it just comes off as y'all sooner being able to connect to Louis if you see him in a role typically embodied by white women #than to refer to the actual identity he has as a black gay man

[unknownarmageddon]

Cringetober day 2: Self Insert

#Sona moment #this also somewhat counts as day three since by my standards this fit is unnecessarily detailed LMAO #anyway I love this immensely please reblog it would mean a lot thank youu #massive gender moment right here #anyway #Armageddon art #sona #cringetober 2023 #self insert #digital art #how. Else do I tag this #art #persona #Sure #Fun fact I own every single article of clothing here #apart from some of the pins but I had to take artistic liberties on those #I do have a shit ton of pins though #some were just way too complicated to draw without it being a pain baha

[variousqueerthings]

thank you to all men's tits that have been an inspiration to transmascs, nbs, and genderqueers around the world

#this apropos that last post about alan alda #however many men have/had admiral chest areas for euphoria and i wish to applaud them #with alan alda ofc it's very funny because he was filming all those shower scenes and feeling self-conscious #when to oh-so-many people it seems he's been the gold standard for perfect chest to strive for #now how to fit that into a normal conversation with someone #alan alda #queer stuff #trans stuff #gender affirming care #top surgery

[aa0akaace]

Gonna make alot of people hate me with this one 💀

#shut up im correct about this #scp #scp containment breach #scp 049 #scp 035 #mr x #pyramid head #michael myers #jason voorhees #ghost face #some of yall will just see literally any slasher and just start simping but i got standards #those standards being that it has to be a sentient mask that gives me gender envy #also at this point i bet the person in charge of the stuff for 049 is purposely making him unfuckable as possible #just to see how far the simps will go before they no longer want to simp for cannon 049 and just stick to fannon 049

[maybeamiles]

Characters that made me realize I was trans

You ever just wanna make a comprehensive list of everyone that gave you gender envy from a young age? Yeah me too.

So here it is! A list of every character that made me realize I was trans, starting from when I was a little kid!

No. 1 - Aravis from The Horse and His Boy by C.S. Lewis

Okay, weird racism in this book aside, the amount I loved Aravis was probably the first indicator that I was not cisgender. I thought she was so cool for dressing up as a boy and rejecting traditional femininity and being so "not-like-other-girls" (i also had a big not-like-other-girls phase around the time I read this, go figure). Of course, she is cisgender, and seems to fall into a *slightly* more traditional role by the end of the book, but this isn't about C.S. Lewis' gender stuff and more on the fact that I related very heavily to Aravis and the fact that she didn't fit in with other girls, because I also felt the same way.

Her male co-star Shasta also gave me gender envy so between them both it's no wonder 9-year-old me loved this book.

No. 2 - Deryn/Dylan Sharp from Leviathan by Scott Westerfeld

Once again it's the girl-dressing-up-as-a-boy-to-fuck-with-gender-rules trope! Only this time, Deryn Sharp is actually treated like a man by her male co-star, Alek (up until he figures out that Dylan is actually Deryn, but then he's quite supportive of her gender fuckery). Deryn, like Aravis, doesn't actually feel any gender dysphoria. Her gender fuckery is a means to pursue her passion for air travel via joining the army. This does get fucked up by the last book and she ends up needing to leave the army, but we don't actually see how she presents herself when in non-millitary society so I will headcannon that she remains quite butch.

I thought Deryn was the coolest when I was 13, and even wound up copying her way of saying "barking spiders" for a bit. And her and Alek's romantic relationship was peak goals for me, probably because it begins while Deryn still presents masc.

No. 3/4 - Link, from TLOZ: Twilight Princess and Breath of the Wild

So, the Links! Let's talk about the Links!

Twilight was the first male character I remember projecting myself onto. So much so that I did not ship him and midna OR him and Illia (and didn't really like illia's quest), not because they didn't have chemistry but because I am very homosexual and did not like the idea of my self-insert being with a girl. Now, do cis girls project themselves onto male character? Idk but I'm not cis and this is something I did so *shrug*

I've lumped these two together because Zelda was a sort of twofer for me. I played Twilight Princess and then a couple years later played BOTW and began discovering what transgender people were. At the time I ID'd as nonbinary, and my Zelda obsession grew with my understanding of "shit I'm not cis." (I even named myself after a Zelda character for a bit). The links were my first *conscious* experience of gender envy, and hold a special place in my heart for it.

No. 5 - Aether from Genshin Impact

Last, but CERTAINLY not least, is the man, the myth, the legend, Aether Genshin Impact. And there is a STORY behind this guy's inclusion.

See, by the time I started playing genshin, I had long since accepted that I was not a girl. I called myself nonbinary, and thought I was okay with simply "not being a girl" and was fine doing what I saw all the other nonbinary people doing (binders, no testosterone, vaugely masc clothes, etc).

Then I booted up genshin impact, and had to pick between Aether and Lumine. And I still remember the "oh shit" moment I had when I realized that the default I expected to fall into would not make me happy. I had expected myself to pick Lumine, because I had previously thought that I was more comfortable with femininity than masculinity. I realized that I didn't just want "genderless." I wanted masculine. And I had this guy to thank for helping me come to that realization.

Anyways that's not all the characters that gave me gender envy or really even my entire "here's how I knew I was trans" but they are the most influential ones to me.

#transgender #transmasculine #gender envy #the horse and his boy #scott westerfeld #deryn sharp #tloz #twilight princess #breath of the wild #genshin impact #also standard disclaimer for the end that nonbinary people are real and really nonbinary and not just “trans binary in denial” #i was but that doesn't mean others are too and you need to let people come to those sorts of realizations on their own

[aeide-thea]

thinking abt (1) that post abt how most censorship is preemptive self-censorship¹ (2) bras²

⸻ ¹ wow, tumblr search actually worked for once??? ² i do understand and respect that for many people bras serve an actual structural function wrt support/comfort! however, for many other people (hi!) they do not, at least in everyday non-sports contexts, and that's the set of concerns i'm speaking to here.

#i mean for me personally it's also like. sometimes/often/always i don't want to have visible tits‚ for Gender Reasons #so rendering them more compressed & visually ignorable is a move in the right direction #but that's sort of seasonal (which sounds insane‚ but‚ idk‚ in the summer the visible body hair helps balance out the visible tits???) #so it's like. objectively very obvious that i ought to go braless more in the summer #when it would bother me less visually and dramatically increase my comfort levels #and i do‚ in the house! but like. when i go out i still feel the need to render myself Presentable and i'm mad about it #bc like. yeah it's partially a trans desire to hide my chest but like. is that actually separable from the way women are socialized #to manage their breasts to HOA-approved standard or else open themselves up to a whole gamut of inappropriate treatment. (no.) #and so it's really just like. reimposing many different shades of cisheteropatriarchy on myself simultaneously #but unfortunately the only way out is to just. accept all the bad reactions i'm living in fear of. but those DO feel bad! #as always it's like. hard when yr self-protective conditioning isn't serving you wrt being a free person #but IS a rational reaction to the hobbled reality of yr actual existence… #like. easy to say 'just ignore those worries.' and maybe i will‚ at least in the context of like. casual public appearances #but like. even if the material consequences are unlikely‚ for me‚ to be more than unpleasantly judgmental stares— #that's still a real emotional consequence that has an impact on my well-being! but so does the self-censorship. #anyway. too many tags & no novel insight. just like. sux lol #(also usually on here i omit any discussion of Tit Management Issues bc it's my space where i get to pretend not to have a body) #(but like. that's self-censorship of a kind too.) #embodiment (is violence)

[abbeyabominable]

saw such a horrible post. growls

#post saying discrediting cosmetic surgery leads to transphobia..... growls #UGH LIKE the diff is WHY #like there is no indoctrination to being transgender. NONe #and while some gender conf surgeries are caused by like media influence etc #the majority is natural... #BUT THE DESIRE FOR A SMALLER NOSE. BBLS. NOT NATURAL #cosmetic surgery is by and large caused by racism and misogyny #and i have no hatred for those who get it because they are victims of those beauty standards #but jfc get some critcial thinking skills #natural as in caused by an innate desire

[regallibellbright]

Played Fashion Dreamer until my Switch battery went low, so at least for short-term entertainment I suspect I’ll be able to get my money’s worth out of it personally, and spent some time afterwards reflecting on what I think it’s doing good at and where it’s falling.

As predicted I log into Online Mode and I am greeted by a vast and wonderful array of lolita clothes fitting into at least two distinct subgenres. Since I played more online than off, I’m pretty sure I got an overrepresentation of that branch of the design options, and the comparatively understated but still distinctly dainty stuff, but I saw at least a couple people preferring the more professional or cool looks, respectively. Relatively little of the cutesy pop stuff, which I’ve always had a soft spot for, but I DID get a very cute oversized sweatshirt dress with a polka dot stegosaurus on it in several colors, and that served me quite nicely.

You’ll notice all of this is talking about women’s fashion in a game that also has playable men in a first for Syn Sophia’s fashion games. The gender lock’s aggressive and annoying, and the fact that fucking SOCKS are gendered when headwear and earrings aren’t is baffling. I have to assume it’s something to do with the modeling by this point, because you can give a Type B body a bunny-eared maid headband and whatever earrings your heart desires, and I have. I struggle to see why you would then draw the line at equal opportunity fishnets. Hair isn’t gender-locked, awesome, and Type A bodies can actually have facial hair, which surprised me because my expectations were in the toilet by this point.

But yeah. The menswear. It may just be because I was playing mostly in online mode and therefore more at the whims of player choice the way I could recognize the heavy weighting towards lolita style for the women’s fashion wasn’t representative of the game as a whole, but all the Type B characters I ran into were generally dressed in an aesthetic I’m going to call “slightly generic 2020s boy band”.

Which sounds unflattering, yes, but I consider this a genuine improvement, because the 3DS games’ menswear was mostly an aesthetic I struggled to place for a bit before settling on “totally generic stock photo model.”

I’ll get comparative pictures for you all at some point, but genuinely. Legitimately. The 3DS games were bleak. There were maybe eight aesthetic categories for men’s fashion, total, to the fourteen non-bag women’s fashion brands with corresponding aesthetics. (Granted, one of them was “costume”, so you could argue thirteen, but especially in the later two games there was still a fair bit of depth to that brand such that it had a defined aesthetic.) All of the women’s brands and aesthetics were very distinct - you could tell the difference between “professional officewear” and either “preppy” or “luxury” at a glance, even if there were items that could fit into one of those aesthetics secondarily. With the men’s brands, you had four or maybe five, and there was heavy bleedthrough of the aesthetics they listed. Both the men’s and women’s fashion had categories for “bold” and “edgy”. For the women’s fashion, “bold” is clearly inspired by gyaru fashion and “edgy” is clearly punk rock. They have different brands. For the men’s… “edgy” is SLIGHTLY more punk, but it’s by degrees, and it’s not going nearly so far as the equivalent women’s fashion. They share a brand. In addition to those two, you had “basic” (simple items, solid colors and maybe some stripes,) “preppy,” (school uniforms and stuff, self-explanatory,) “bohemian” (also pretty self-explanatory, but you never saw it in the international versions - it was cut outright for Trendsetters and while some vestiges of the style existed in Style Star, no customers ever asked for it there,) luxury (you want suits? Here’s your suits,) and “contemporary” (more patterns and material textures than basic but the same general aesthetic.)

So: You could wear a suit, you could dress a bit like a rocker but a pretty mediocre one, or you could dress like, as I said before, a stock photo model. With an above-average tendency towards vests in Style Star, but still very much a stock photo model, or maybe a midbudget CW show.

And the more I think about it, the easier it is to articulate the issue with how the men’s fashion has been treated in Syn Sophia games. The women’s fashion has all these distinct and recognizable styles, including a bunch of varieties of streetwear - you’ve got gyaru and punk styles, you’ve got Decora/Pop Kei, you’ve got girly fashion that’s somewhere around cottagecore/mori aesthetics, you have stuff that would be suitable for an office. Gothic and sweet lolita have their own separate brands. While Style Star folded its athletic brand into the pop one, the first three games all had a dedicated brand for that… for the women’s fashion.

The menswear never had a dedicated athletic aesthetic. Not even a brand, since as mentioned there were like four of those. It didn’t have an aesthetic. And THAT is why Fashion Dreamer feels like an improvement to me already, because as sparse as my options are for the men’s fashion there are at least plenty of sweatpants at long last. (I am however struggling to find men’s jeans, and it took me WAY too long to figure out where the bit specifying what type a pattern was for was located.)

The men’s fashion in Style Savvy was consistently an afterthought. And you can tell, because athletic/athleisure clothes were a staple of the women’s fashion for the first three games and still present in the fourth, but totally absent in the men’s fashion. I can trust that there’s more variety for the women’s fashion in Fashion Dreamer and that I was getting an overrepresentation of the lolita stuff because that’s what’s most popular with the playerbase, because I know from past games that there was that depth and that the lolita fashion was particularly popular. I don’t have that same trust for the men’s fashion, not yet. And honestly I doubt the game will deliver for me, much as I’d love to be proven wrong.

But hey! At least this time around, I’ve yet to see an outfit that makes a male character look like the Distracted Boyfriend meme!

#regalli plays fd #style savvy #since this is a reasonably deep dive into how the fashion aesthetics work there #and how the menswear in those games was so aesthetically limited #at least by the standards of ‘people who have never played our beloved niche fashion/shop management series’ #but yeah anyway 1) I think the fashion should be un-gender-locked; let dudes wear dresses and heart stockings; #let girls wear less fitted stuff; 2) it does at least genuinely seem BETTER #3) all of this is just my thoughts on the men’s fashion options. #I think the best way I can get across my experience with the UI is thus: I want to make my game dev brother who does UI play this #I want reassurance from an expert that I am not just oblivious; this is badly designed. I want him to feel better about his skills. #because I’m enjoying this game but HOO BOY it is in SPITE of how unintuitive it feels to play. #I will talk more about that later. #m

[djmousewife]

gender thoughts again bc apparently im working this shit out by posting on tumblr dot com...

i know that for a lot of the other tboys and trans mascs theres an element of holding on to their past sense of girlhood if that makes sense as a part of your trans masc gender? like obviously this sentence is not giving it the time or depth it deserves but ykwim. but i really really feel any sense of femininity or approximation to womanhood i feel now (which i still feel tenuous/cautious as to whether that is what it is) is very much new and has nothing to do with me when i was a girl before. like for one, i was not feminine ever, i was a masculine girl who then wore big jumpers and skinny jeans (the trans outfit) until i could come out as a trans guy (technically genderqueer first but this is bc i was afraid if i came out as a trans guy id get rejected lol) at which point i just started dressing as much like a boring Gay Guy as i could, like not in a fun way and while i sort of more experimented with clothes the longer i was on t it still sort of fell into that category and i very much internally felt like a guy and nothing else. but having had top surgery and knowing that the gic has agreed to refer me for srs i feel more and more that i'm doing a sort of FtMtNB situation except idk if it feels right to call myself non binary (yet). like i have no framework for being a girl in any sort of "traditional" way for the context i grew up in bc my conception of girlhood when i was one was doing chores and being the eldest daughter and the suffering that came with that in my family. thats obviously very contextual and im no longer in that context. so now, it just feels like i was a guy and now im ?????? like all senses of feminity like dresses and skirts and make up are all things im learning how to wear and apply now bc i just do not have the knowledge of past experience with them. like im not discounting the 13 yrs i was a girl before i realised i was trans as not being a girl, im more saying, even at that point i was doing "girlhood" so more in line with being trans masc that i sort of didn't have anything to hang onto? so any femininity now is acquired or developed out of that time as a guy. idk..........

#the gender tapes #ykw ppl say that theres like unfair standards for how to be trans in a medical context #this is obvi true but also i literally adhered to those standards of being a trans guy without even tryinh #mireleposting

[danothan]

i am not an avid mcr fan, just the other day i struggled to name 3 of their songs, but i just saw someone compare the cheerleader thing to harold styles and i rly do not believe that is the same at all. in fact, i think i’m offended on the emos’ behalf

#danbles #im rly tired of gender non-conformity being treated with the same standard as conventional beauty #i don’t like the idea of it being marketable or having to conform to be appealing (is that not literally the point??) #idk abt you but men get called slurs for wearing nail polish where i live 💀 #i think ppl should celebrate their fave wearing a cheerleader dress #not to mention harry is a cis man that started dressing more femininely only once it was smth ppl could be rewarded for #and from what i understand the mcr guy has been doing this since forever and has always been vocally supportive of and inspired by trans ppl #also harry has brought nothing original to the table since he’s been called out time and time again for stealing jaun gabriel’s exact look #there they go again praising a white man for stealing from poc #i get it if you guys are annoyed by all the mcr you get on your dash #can’t relate bc i like seeing my mutuals excited over their interests but you do you #but don’t act like they’re the same lmao #this isn’t even my battle to fight i honestly dont care abt mcr like that but yk #pop culture osmosis #and im consistently disappointed by the bad takes ppl have abt gender non-conformity #so this was more of a stepping stone to air out those frustrations #bottom line. ‘idc if a man wears a skirt but they should at least try to make it look good’ isn’t rly the take you think it is

[variousqueerthings]

hawkeye and margaret and their patient/doctor kink (he’s the patient, she’s the doctor, he calls her sir)

#hawkeye pierce #margaret houlihan #MASH #this goes under my: #aromantic hawkeye #could also tbh be: #asexual hawkeye #also ofc #aromantic margaret #the way she describes why she wants to marry/be in relationships #the way she reacts when she's actually IN those relationships #tied of course to the way all these men expect her to be #the way she and hawkeye seem to have an instinctive (unspoken because what are the words) understanding of their mutual #inability to conform to the standards expected to them vis a vis romantic love #and ofc the gender of it all -- doctor is gender and sir is pronoun #and and ofc the mad of it all #and hawkeye can relinquish his brain for a bit/turn off the thoughts

[sn0wbat]

If you don’t mind, I saw the comic about vampire hair and it made me wonder what would Einarr look like with a beard?

the context

he'd rather not dwell on it too much

#asks🦇 #low stakes 🦇 #sometimes i wanna start an oc ask blog #this is probably like. the third time someone has been like 'but what would einarr look like with a beard tho' so ALRIGHT FINE i drew it #the answer is viking. he'd look more like the usual bearded viking stereotype. he'd also look just like his dad who matches said stereotype #also rune is just really gay for him either way #however einarr is very aroace and does not return those feelings at all and honestly sees rune more like a child. sorry rune #also don't worry i'm not mad at you for asking #einarr just doesn't like the question #the gender standards he grew up with are different from ours and over the centuries he has been kinda unraveling it. unpacking it all #deciding that gender norms are dumb; they FLUCTUATE anyway and what's masculine in one century can be horrendously outdated in the next #he has also mostly accepted his fate anyway #it is what it is #and as such; he should be allowed to do whatever he wants. like wearing those feminine brooches bc he likes the look of em #he isnt bothering with the absolute project that is growing a beard as a vampire when it can fall off just as easily as when his hair reset #when it means he has to avoid all sorts of shifting. no bat forms. no mistshifting. none of this. all while remaining as calm as possible #and he has done it before! once. it did not make it to the length that rune is imagining sadly #i'm rambling #it's a complex topic #he has mixed feelings about it #and honestly i just find that more interesting

[chiropteracupola]

lady king and lady herald...

#em draws stuff #henry v 1989 #this is colored to look like all my reference photos for this movie #(e.g. A Really Out-of-Focus Photo I Took Of My Laptop Screen And You Can See My Lamp In The Background) #and it is a credit to the quality of the design of this movie that it still looks fabulous even like that #so yeah. the beast (me) is not immune to the idea of Cool Outfits and it's surprisingly easy to adapt clothing across genders in this era #miiiiiiiight do some more drawings on this concept because it was fun and there are a few things I'd do differently next time #keeping their hairstyles the same because it preserves the recognizability even though there are so many cool hats #but I truly do not want to draw all those leopards again it was Unpleasant to me. three is Enough Dang Leopards. #the rule I'm playing with here is With The Accuracy Standards of my Source Material which means If It Looks Mildly Cool #the only kind of times that I aim to have are funky times and good times and drawing this was both of those things. #this drawing is brought to you by 1) hal's face hole's cameo in the sword episode of wtyp #2) rereading my fic to see if it was any good and if I majorly overreacted (results: it was okay and I definitely did) #3) the little voice in my head that says 'butch hal butch hal butch hal' all day. hold your horses little voice. soon.

[memento-mariii]

FYI "kill the cop inside your head" isn't a free pass to turn off your critical thinking skills.

#just saw the take ''the way certain comic artists draw women can't ever be objectifying #because those characters are fictional and therefore not real." #like. c'mon now. #we are not putting comic artists on trial for sex crimes for the sin of ogling fictional characters #we are pointing out & criticizing the clear gender-based double standards they have in their character depictions #''the characters aren't real-'' yes. we know. that's the whole point. #chronically online ppl learn what ''critical media consumption'' actually entails challenge #we are reaching ''how dare you judge people based on their political opinions'' levels of ''thought crime isn't real'' #fandom culture #mmari rants

[micahthemoon]

May 31 2023 I am home from the Lord of the Lost concert, and it was a blast. I had almost forgotten much fun concerts can be. That and how important it is to stay hydrated, so I got dizzy for a moment and had to go out of the crowd to get some water. I also of course needed a band t-shirt to my collection: This time I got one in 2xl on purpose because I need more shirts I can drown in when the transgender urge to disappear in a shirt happens. As a treat here’s a picture from last night. 

#transgender #nonbinary #transmasc #(feels odd tagging this with those tags but oh well - it is standard for this blog xD) #concert #lord of the lost #lotl #chris harms #niklas kahl #gared dirge #pi stoffers #gender expression #late entry #entry #findingmicah