#would gender have the same concept

[vulpinesaint]

my thesis statement will of course always be that the angels + demons in good omens are aspec (and nonbinary) but crowley specifically was so aromantic this season. man who goes "oh, romance? yeah, i know how that works. practically an expert. i've picked up so much from the way that people talk about it and represent it in media. i know all the perfect steps to execute romance. it has nothing to do with personhood and feelings; there's a certain list of requirements, certain steps that you take, certain subjective prerequisites to be fulfilled, and then you'll have romance. easy. simple." when he has no idea how romance actually works because it's never been something that was accessible or valuable to him. the general conventions for love seem so simple from the outside when you pick up an idea of it through cultural osmosis but not any real experience or investment in the idea. maggie and nina come in to tell him that he can't be messing with people's love lives because it's serious and personal but how should he know? when you're outside of it and don't even realize that you're outside of it, romance is just a thing that happens. and it seems so simple...

#screaming wailing throwing things punching walls that's aro representation actually #when i say the angels and demons are all aspec and nonbinary. i of course mean That in a sense of like. #they don't align with any of our constructions of sexuality or gender because they're not built with the same inner workings #but by our definitions they're closer to those concepts than to 'conventional' conceptions of gender and sexuality #anyway crowley is so me walking into my middle school classes on the first day of school and picking out a suitable crush for the year #based on effusive criteria that i picked up from media and popular culture and the expectation that i Should have a crush #because those were the steps you took. at least it seemed like that to me. #this applies to aziraphale too of course #when all the romance you've known or seen takes place under awnings in the rain or at jane austen balls. of course it stands to reason #that the same would be true of any love in real life. cause how else would it work #anyway that kiss was so aromantic it's crazy #good omens #good omens 2 #aromantic #aro #crowley

[mj-is-learning-languages]

Just a reminder that grammatical gender is not the same as the gender that people have. I see a lot of people online who think that all gendered languages are a problem, and they can be frustrating, but a lot of that seems to come from a lack of understanding on what grammatical gender even does.

Like, first of all, the categories themselves are arbitrary for the most part. “Masculine” and “feminine” for nouns doesn’t actually mean that your chair is a woman. The word for chair in Spanish is feminine, which means that it gets described with feminine articles (la, una, las, unas), adjectives (usually ending in an -a), and objective pronouns (la). Again, none of this has anything to do with the chair actually being female. It’s just the category that the word falls under, and that category tells us how to talk about it in a sentence. The grammatical genders could literally be anything; maybe some words are purple and some are green, and you have to describe purple words differently than green ones.

Second, some words even to describe people have a specific gender that does not ever change. La persona is a feminine word regardless of the gender of the person being talked about. Soy una persona, even though I’m not a woman. Even in a gendered language, there are some words that don’t gender the person in question.

It definitely can be frustrating and does mean that a lot of situations that don’t need to be gendered are gendered (for example, saying a sentence about my teacher would automatically gender the teacher, depending on if I say profesor or profesora), but a lot of people don’t even seem to realize that in grammar, gender means something different. Which is honestly a shame, because overall it opens up new ways to be more descriptive. For example, if I’m in another room and drop something, and sigh está rota (it’s broken), you automatically know that whatever I broke is a feminine object. So it can’t be, for example, a plate (un plato). Maybe it’s a cup (una taza). Sure, it’s not necessary, but it can be very interesting.

#just a reminder that no language is BAD for being gendered #over time things will get better for enby and trans people #but i don’t think that will ever mean taking the grammatical gender away from a language #once you do that It’s not the same language anymore #I’m also just intrigued by the concept of a language having genders that aren’t masculine and feminine #in one of my fantasy books I was playing with the idea of a language having four genders that are fire water air and earth #which would open up doors to explore how that culture views things like magic. what gender is magic? fire for strength or earth for nature? #maybe words relating to love and passion are all fire aligned #or maybe they’re all earth to symbolize stability #maybe The same word means a different thing in a different sentence structure. #‘i love you’ when aligned with air is more lighthearted and less fierce #while ‘I love you’ when earth aligned is what you’d say to a spouse #idk just there are so many possibilities #langblr #spanish #languages #languageblr #learning languages #learning spanish #language #language learning #spanish grammar

[apoptoses]

it's day three of anne's eunuch book making me absolutely feral 🥺

#i can't stop wondering about if people had reacted better to the castrati smut #what kind of action we might have gotten in the VC books #because she wrote this before TVL #and you can see her laying the groundwork for concepts that would later be used in the VC #but the public absolutely could not handle the contents of this book and it kills me #it's such an incredible exploration of what it means to exist in a body that transcends sex and gender #and what intimacy is like for them #and idk idk just crying in the club over much more anne could have explored in the VC #had only publishers and the public in the 80s accepted her more graphic works 🥺 #anyways if you need me i'll be thinking about armand and daniel #in relation to tonio's experience with the cardinal #and tonio absolutely losing his mind over experiencing a man's body #and thinking about if armand lost his over touching up daniel in the same way

[lucysweatslove]

I got my new car today!!! I haven’t actually driven it yet. Because new things are scary for me and it takes me a little while to get used to something like driving a new car, I wanted to drive it around my parents’ a little before going in a busy road. Rob said it has “responsive break” and i wanna get that “feel” down before I’m in heavy traffic. I like it though and am very grateful and excited!!

Being at my parents’ hasn’t been too triggering this time around. Usually there are some kind of comments about my body or what I’m eating, but we have such a short turn around this year that thankfully it hasn’t been too bad…

Did have to listen to my mom talk about this guy who has multiple myeloma (my mom has a precursor to MM) and apparently is in “full remission” using an antiviral but it came back because he got the covid vaccine…. Tried to explain why that’s probably not true actually but you know… I think she just desperately wants there to be simple/easier answers to the cancer she might develop, which I get, but I also feel like this is how misinformation takes roots.

(We don’t have a perfect system here in the US by far, but we aren’t lagging behind in the cancer treatment realm…. If antivirals worked to cure MM, there would be research on it… and people would do it… contrary to popular belief, Big Pharma isn’t pushing ineffective expensive drugs to steal your money and keep you sick…drugs are ridiculously expensive, but it’s not malicious… insurance companies are far more malicious for refusing coverage than the pharma companies imo)

Also listening to some people talk about pot shop workers (specifically managerial roles) not deserving to be paid a certain amount, all the gender critical bs, like yall, I don’t like government regulations in general and I have my views on how we attempt legislating morality and why it doesn’t work, but like…… when you use that argument to justify why people who “don’t have any education and just know drugs” (not a real quote just a paraphase) don’t deserve to be paid a certain amount, AND you don’t use it to say that like, gov shouldn’t restrict access to health care like abortions and gender affirming care… that’s not “government shouldn’t legislate morality,” that’s “government should legislate the morality I agree with” which is… the same thing you’re complaining about the “other side” doing.

Especially the gender stuff. It takes very little actual energy to use somebody’s preferred, correct pronouns. Affirming care literally saves lives. When you spend a lot of energy and time lobbying against these things, it really just tells me how uncomfortable you are with the idea that somebody could have a different life experience than you. The only person who should be spending that much time and energy caring about those things… should be the person themselves. Partners or family ofc should care too, but in a “how do we support this person so they can live a fulfilling life” way, not in a “i can’t handle anybody having a different lived experience than me” kind of way.

And also if you’re gonna complain about federal spending and budgets, can you at least acknowledge the ridiculous defense budget? Even if your viewpoint is “I don’t know how we can realistically and safely scale that back,” just like… recognize how little the government actually spends on programs like VA health care in relation to the massive defense budget. We rank third in the world for per capita military spending… I’m not saying you need answers on how to solve anything, but if you’re gonna criticize the drops in the bucket, acknowledging that they are in fact drops in the bucket comparatively would be nice.

#political bs sorry #I’m grateful for my parents in so many ways #but it would be great if they could acknowledge their own biases #and also look at the actual data #like no you don’t care about the trans persons health #because if you did you’d realize that gender affirming care and BEING A KIND HUMAN is the most life sustaining thing you can do #lord forbid they ever find out I like neutral pronouns and hate the concept of gender all together #also like yeah a pot shop manager might not have advanced degrees #but that doesn’t mean they don’t deserve the same pay as managers in other retail fields??? #so much work these days actually doesn’t require higher Ed #and not pursuing higher Ed doesn’t mean you’re incapable or contributing less to society #it’s giving ‘burger flippers dont deserve more than minimum wage because I don’t actually see them as valuable people’ #call me radical but I’d like to see people who work full time regardless of industry be able to afford to live #I’m not saying push legislature through to ensure everybody is making enough to buy a 4 bed house in their own #just like maybe don’t talk about pot shop workers with disgust and vitriol #like the TONE man it’s the TONE

[bumblingbabooshka]

Having Nonbinary Sapphic Tuvok Brainrot Lately…

You're the realest motherfucker on planet Earth and I hope you know that.

Here's a bunch of bullshit I doodled on the topic of Nonbinary Sapphic Tuvok !!!! And I HOPE you will share YOUR personal brainrot with the class (my ask box, the masses, a text post....whatever gets the word out.) If you've been paying attention you KNOW I love a 'Tuvok discovers he's trans while in the delta quadrant' story Guy who likes girls and has always liked girls...but....not in the same way OTHER guys seem to like girls... Tuvok who never quite fit in with 'other' men even Vulcan men...always preferred spending time with women and girls but never felt precisely LIKE a woman or OVERLY uncomfortable with being identified as a man and Vulcan society doesn't seem like it would be heavily gendered so he never really questioned it seriously. Tuvok who found comfort in titles like Husband and Father...those fit, those are good. Then in the delta quadrant he isn't able to be a husband or a father any more and is just some guy surrounded by humans...hmmmmmm....

Still doesn't really seriously think it's worth questioning or exploring his gender identity (partially out of a desire to return home as he left...what will his wife and children think? He's experienced a LOT of sudden change in regards to his personal identity and life, he doesn't really want to undergo more.) until Seven of Nine comes along and also begins to go through a "Questioning Her Gender" arc. Tuvok thinks about it on his own time for a long time and then finally goes to Janeway for support and assistance and together they spend like SEVERAL months just the two of them seeing what this whole gender thing's about. Tuvok slowly exploring expressing himself in a more feminine manner because he's spent his whole life adhering rigidly to one sort of Look. Unexpectedly struggles with anxiety about this. Neelix: Don't be nervous Ms. Vulcan! Tuvok: [nervous] I am not nervous. Tuvok and Seven BOTH exploring masculinity/femininity and their own nonbinary gender identities...late night slumber par- experimentation. Painting each others nails is...very scientific. It's important. Talking with Janeway was good because she's his friend but talking with Seven, another person actively questioning their gender is....well, it's something else.

#Tom: Tuvok? #Tuvok: [towering over him in Seven's heels] Yes Mr. Paris? #Tom: I'm gonna kill you. #anon I hope you know I was in the middle of a completely different drawing and IMMEDIATELY stopped it to answer this #some people wait literally weeks for me to re ply to their things but sapphic nonbinary tuvok??? he gets top billing #Tuvok is SO gender he's EVERY gender and Ilove him for it #Tuvok is a trans man a trans woman nonbinary genderfluid a secret thing etc etc etc infinitely #T'Pel finally sees Tuvok again says 'you've changed' and he stiffens and goes 'yes...' #then she extends her hand out towards him and they kiss. 'yet this remains the same' she says/assures him #st voyager #Q&A #trans Tuvok #your commanding officer shows up out of nowhere one day with a beautiful bust and no comment on said bust wdyd #love thinking about nonbinary tuvok...not only nonbinary but also an alien who doesn't have the same concepts/ingrained markers of gender #Also sorry let's make this about something SO specific to me for a second but one of my personal little fantasies is #trans femme Tuvok/Neelix and man...I don't...even know if I can really explain it #something about Neelix makes me think he'd be like 'That's no way to speak around a lady!!' (scolding The Boyztm) and Tuvok would sigh #or whatever but internally she'd be charmed....she be faking like she don't have a crush but she does....she likeshiiim.... #SORRY. AS IF IT'S MY FAULT????? #anyway....I hope this was.........any thing. I hope this was literally ANYTHING. #anon #bee doodles #oh another is trans femme Tuvok x Janeway but that's mostly onesided angst on Janeway's part (delicious)

[laniidae-passerine]

It still really gets me how sincere Andy’s grief over his potential child is. At first you think, oh this is just a weird flight of fancy for him, the idea of having a kid sounds fun but he’s not serious, but over the course of the episode you realise that, no, Andy actually wants children. It exposes something raw and depressing and lovely at Andy’s core and it just hits, how sad he is about what addiction took from him, the years and the growth and a potential life, but the hope that exists in knowing he’s getting better. Andy isn’t ready to be a father right now and it’s good for them both that Teresa chose to have an abortion, but maybe, some day when he’s ready, Andy will get to have a baby with someone who loves him.

#ANDY KING FUTURE DAD DRIVES ME CRAZY #oh you KNOW Errol would be fascinated and grossed out by the concept of pregnancy #occasionally ​grossed out and trying to be supportive at the same time #but also he would help organise a very cool gender neutral baby shower. it’s dinosaur themed. everyone loves dinosaurs #Tiffany would be 100% matter of fact about the whole thing. ask Andy how he even agreed to get someone to have sex with him #and Sam would be an amazing SIL during pregnancy and Bruce would also be an amazing SIL lol. love Bruce #Sam and Bruce being so loving to their SIL and coddling her and yelling at Andy when he’s even slightly annoying #Gwen would be shocked. if she’s still dating Caspar they’d freak out over whether they want kids. then decide Not To Think About That Now #Val would show up with a care package right to the hospital and croon over the new arrival #and pull Andy aside to tell him he’s gonna be a good dad. and also help postpartum or Val will kill him on behalf of his wife #Ben would be somewhat insulting. but Veronica would be a ray of unhelpful sunshine. they’re trying it’s sweet but messy #oh I love uncle so much <3 #uncle bbc #bbc uncle #andy king

[helenana666]

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#It's getting difficult more and more for me to enjoy Jolysui without being dragged to their stupid shippers #Like okay some of the reasons ppl gives to hate it are silly #But their fans are not helping lmao #'Um actually Jolysui is not a straight ship bc he is gender fluid to me🤓👆' #Good for you but when u try to force your hc so much that you genuinely get mad when other ppl see that character in the Canon way #Is pathetic #Anasui is a cis straight man just wears weird fashion like almost Jojo character is not that deep #Now OK probably Jolyne and Anasui are more probably to be queer code but still they aren't in the way ppl want them to. #Araki just said he DIDN'T have a problem if Anasui was a girl #Wich means he is okay with the idea of Jolyne being queer not that Anasui actually is bc he could just confirmed like he did with Dio or #Scarlet Valentine #But again #Anasui is just a result of new artistic concept he wanted to draw and try #This is not against ppl who hc Anasui as queer etc is against those who gets triggered and mocks other for not seeing the same vision #This isn't either against Jolysui enjoyers is against those morons who can't be on peace without the need to bark at others #Seriously Jolysui shippers would be actually more chill if they you just be like #'Yeah Jolysui could be seen as problematic who cares?' #Instead of making bunch of threats about how it doesn't count as proship #Bc ur probably a coward and ultimately not wanting to be bother with ya know bunch of bad wishes from randoms #helenatalks #I'm sorry I just wanted to express my thoughts lmao I'm Lil annoyed.

[aeide-thea]

i keep, like, rolling my eyes at my own gender pretensions, like, 'okay, if in practice all this is about is, like, pronouns and unfeminine clothing and wrinkling my nose at having tits &c &c but not actually pursuing not having them—'

[at this point i do need to cut in to observe that like. in practice there's nothing i'm actually pursuing, so like. either you could conclude there's nothing that matters to me, in which case there's probably something deeper going on with my psyche because people do in fact generally care about things, or you could conclude that whether i'm taking action on something doesn't actually tell you whether it matters to me, because there's probably something deeper going on with my psyche (i mean, adhd/executive dysfunction, but also). but like. not really fair to be like 'well if any of this were true or meaningful you'd have moved on it and it would be more externally visible,' for the reasons i just laid out and others besides! however i do say that to myself on the reg nonetheless because. something deeper &c.]

'—then why turn up my nose at unfeminine women's clothing, which in general is likelier to be cut for my height (if not necessarily for my shoulders or current waist-hip ratio), if the real point is just to be utilitarian about things?' and having said this to myself, very sternly and very sensibly, i go off to windowshop women's clothing, and maybe even try a piece or two of it on if i'm looking in person, at which point my whole sensible dialogue with myself is instantly punctured by the inexplicable but inescapable reality that: i can't bear it!! i just Can't. it's just deeply Wrong for me in a way that i can't wholly articulate but also can't abide, even as i feel totally baffled and self-mocking about the fact that i can't.

this of course doesn't translate into arriving at, or even entirely knowing, what it is i do want to be or look like! most of the time i don't feel happily or successfully Represented by the various non-outfits i throw together! and it's not clear to me that trying to go more full-on masc would be an improvement necessarily, because i strongly suspect i'd then just feel like a gender failure in the other direction—very possible that no presentation strategy exists that would get me out of that feeling, and that i just have to accept i've got, like, dysphoria tinnitus. also i kind of feel like this is a problem i was supposed to have sorted in the previous decade of my life so i could be moving on to the next set of Properly Adult Problems—

[much 2 unpack and discard there but. the unendorsed feeling remains.]

—and yet i'm still stuck in the mud here in identityville spinning my wheels with no signs of meaningful progress! but. please god-i-don't-believe-in can we at least get the constant 'well if you aren't gonna Commit you might as well just subside back into Basically Female for All Practical Purposes like a good little girl' feeling to fuck all the way off for good or at least for a solid while, because like, even if it doesn't feel sufficiently ~justified~ to my cisnormatively-conditioned psyche, the clear, empirical takeaway from any number of experiments in the past few years is that continuing to try and conceptualize women's clothing as a possibility for me is a form of self-harm, even if it's thoroughly unfeminine and/or totally cool in the abstract!

#yes i have made basically-this-same-post before and will again #yes probably if i had like. an irl queertrans community i would not be stuck in this particular rut #but i don't so! here we are. #i promise you that however bored you are of hearing me rotate the same concepts i am MORE bored of doing it. #yes i desperately need to incorporate concepts like 'do it scared‚' 'inertia is also a choice‚' &c into my workflow but like. do WHAT scare #anyway. #the psyche #what is gender we just don't know #blegh.

[eebie]

we are deconstructing gender on Google docs tonight boys

#this is stupid LMAO im annotating stuff from a guy from liek the 1400s who prolly didnt even give a shit #when he wrote that In the spirit realm the concept of gender is nebulous at BEST #if not just totally absent #he was like.. ya spirit beings change their genders all the time They switch tey can be combinations they can be nothing #reading that like Hemm…. well 1 big belief Thats held in christianity is that people are spirit beings underneath all the flesh #so what does that mean for the people who are dead set on Sex Organs determining peoples personalities ? idk. makes you think #gender means jack shit basically. #a lot of people raised male tend to behave in certain ways Not because of their sex but because of expectations And norms #and same with people raised female #and that shit goes alll the way back 2 the stone age #obligatory Nothing wrong w falling into gender stereotypes if its stuff u genuinely like!!^_^ #anyways i rambled #i would have rambled more if tumblr wasnt trying to kill itself as i was typing #my rambles #my little peewee brain is sometimes capable of coherent thought But calling this coherent migjt be a stretch #bc im hardly in any mind 2 decide if im making sense . its like a fuckin echo chamber up in my brain N every echo becomes more n more warpd #until it eventually sounds normal 2 me ^_^ but when i voice it. the. suddenly i realize Wow thats fucked! #which is why. i usually keep my mouth shut !!! #but thats also bad .real bad If ur opinions always go unchallenged you may as well not even have them #should alwayd know Why you think what u do

[bassiter2]

i'm realizing through this book i'm reading (same-sex affairs: constructing and controlling homosexuality in the pacific northwest) that like... yknow the conflation between homosexuality and pedophilia. well i've realized why that is, and that it's more than just all "sexual perversions" getting lumped together by homophobes. but also insanely enough more mundane

it's literally that for many decades, the only concept most people were able to have of gay men were through the lens of it being a crime. aka arrest records and the newspapers telling you who got put in jail last night. obviously gay men who were only having consensual sex with other gay adult men did get caught sometimes, but you could only catch them if they were doing it in public, if you were sneaking around in their private home, or if someone involved ratted them out. and if you ratted someone out, whatever motivation you might have, you were also ratting yourself out, so why would you do that? but if you were underage, especially if it was non-consensual, you wouldn't be in trouble at all. so of course the majority of the "immoral acts" charges are going to be between an adult and a minor.

not only that but apparently "youth" in referring to a young person used to literally mean anyone under the age of 21. and the vast majority of charges that read "engaged in immoral acts with a youth" it's referring to like a 17 y/o or even 18 or 19. so then ppl in later decades read that and misinterpreted it too.

and that's literally it lol..... it feels obvious in hindsight but i never would have thought about it. crazy what bias confirmation does.

#i'd highly recommend the book and also Gay New York btw #they're both centered around the same time period and the emergence of gay culture #(and emergence of the widespread concept of gay as something you can BE instead of just something you do-- #--specifically one of the many degenerate things done by lower classes and immigrants #prior to the white middle class becoming aware that their own could do it too. and what that meant for concepts of gender and sexuality) #just different parts of the US. but the pacific northwest one centers mostly on the aftermath of a specific scandal #and it's CRAZY #a lot of modern gay culture would probably be different if not for the actions of like one gay kid #who ratted out portland's whole secret gay community in 1912 bc he got caught shoplifting and thought that info would protect him #i wish i could ask him now if that was worth it. god #anyway i do also think that as for actual cases of gay adult-minor relations. the criminalization of homosexuality in the first place #is partially to blame. like at least for some of it #bc surely part of the motivation there is specifically seeking out boys who do NOT have the social power to be homophobic to you #ntm homophobia in general giving men an idea of needing to be the masculine one. and youth is automatically more 'feminine' #not an excuse just an explanation btw. yeah just my 2 cents #ok to rb

[okultraoldmanyaoi]

ok just checking that we're all in agreement cus i'm genuinely curious and i don't check the faith tags enough to see more opinions: you guys see gary as trans too right. like idc abt transmasc vs transfem, we're in agreement that gary isn't cis right

#picket ramble #likeee maybe just me but i refuse to accept he would identify as a binary gender #he is a literal demon. a fallen angel. they don't have the same concept of gender as we do i assume #might be a little laughable to him even

[agender-vampling]

Me genders; Shotasona addition

#Emile's Arts #Vampling #Shotasona #Shotakin #They all have different little back stories and personalities and what not so feel free to ask about them #If you would like. I would like to talk about and draw them more #I got some fellow Little Guy followers today and I am 👀 at y'all from a distance #Do you want me to draw you #I am in Little Guy drawing mood #I also have commissions open #But I also might just draw you for free anyway because I want to #Ask me to draw your OCs I'll do it #All of these guys are stolen from Original Story concepts I have half drafted but never know what to do with #So basically all of them are reskined OCs to look like me #To be fair tho the OCs were originally Self Inserts #I just now Shotaified them because I deserve it I think #But all of them have fully grown adult people OC counter parts that are the exact same character just Grown Adult #Because I'm normal like that #Gender of a Vampire #Gender of a Mad Scientist #Gender of a Biblically Accurate Angel #Gender of a Lovesick Yandere #Gender of a Happy go Lucky Yandere

[lesbianlanval]

“Victorians were way more misogynistic than medieval people” have you considered misogyny as like an expression of power dynamics within the context of a period and not just a simple sliding scale of Less or More or is nuance like. entirely dead

#I’m being real bitchy about a fairly innocuous post and I apologise for that but like #firstly I am once again pleading with people to stop saying medieval and instead say what you Actually Mean (in this case: Franks) #secondly ask your average 12th century Frankish guy to explain Women As A Concept and I’m sure you would get a very. fun response #I am really struggling to explain this in a meaningful way but like it’s the conflation of misogyny with women’s liberty to do stuff #which I really feel are separate and completely contextual #it’s just two different fucking things. pointing at 17th century Europe and then 6th century China and being like ‘ah! one of these is #more bureaucratic than the other!’ okay but they are not the same thing is the thing #anyway their point about class > gender is true but everything else is just. there’s something about the phrasing that is under my skin #I know the urge to do a John Boswell. i understand it. it’s good and kind and empathetic #(aka to point at ‘medievals’ and go ‘more like me than you’d think! and they wouldn’t have hated me!’) #doesn’t make it good fucking history though does it

[zanathan-aisling]

cat hacker reintroduces mspec lesbian discourse into my life my brain obliterates itself in ocd-fueled recursive self-argumentation

#‘noones identity lives in a bubble and the self-id of others DOES effect broader culture and cause potential ramifications’ #and #‘jfc i’m not the center of the god damn universe and REGARDLESS of whatever petty semantic preference i have towards ‘my’ definition that #doesn’t mean shit for other people + the idea that queer people can be ‘invalidated’ or ‘excluded’ is fucking STUPID that isn’t how queers #work we aren’t a fucking club we can kick people out of for not doing things ~correctly~’ #can seemingly coexist in my brain but they keep biting each other #oh and in addendum to the first one ‘my lesbianism is fundamentally disinterested in men as both ID and interest to the point that it has #can feel (<- FEEL) like active misgendering to imply its definitionally compatible with other conceptions of the word. #not to mention the whole ‘i can’t even fucking figure out how my sexuality treats bigender people at all. like i’m consciously fine with #them from a like… impersonal framework but LUST-WISE it feels like dividing by zero. i don’t know. fucking logic puzzle ass shit.’ #ON MY END I’M FUCKING MISGENDERING SOMEONE EITHER WAY ITS. GAH. HELP #IT MAKES ME FEEL BADLY PROGRAMMED. CAN’T EVEN HANDLE A LITTLE GENDER FUCKERY. INFANT BRAIN. #you can pry my ID from my cold dead hands and if you imply its bigoted or ~separatist~ in origin i’ll fucking gut you. but also teehee its #just MY id and you can ID however you want just don’t tell me how to identify sparkle sparkle~<3 #but also my id IS mutually exclusive of yours definitially and WILL cause problems going forward from a clerical & organizational standpoint #homonym ass queer theory relied on by a fucking spineless little shit who refuses to take a hard stance for what she believes is right OR c #correct. the spineless coward is me. by homonym i mean the same word and spelling meaning different things to different people to the point #it might as well not be same word at all #‘i think my definition of lesbian is objectively better and wish people using other definitions would please stop but ALSO if you think less #of other people for using other definitions i will beat your skull in with a rock you bitch’ is. what i boil down to. #‘i think inclus vs exclus language is stupid and not how the lgbt+ community works but going by the logic i don’t like the existence of the #ID but also literally almost all my bestest friends in the world are inclus on the subject and despite my semantic arguments i don’t disagre #disagree with them. i still pray every night that i might wake up to a world where my actual opinions are unnecessary and my consciousness k #knows pure unchallenged peace though’ #while also recognizing that dream of personal peace by way of ignorance of the identity of others is pretty fucking selfish lol #i keep writing addendums. this can go on forever.