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[that-loud-femme]

Please read, share and amplify! Please sign this petition! ♡

The web series, "Pati, Patni aur Panga" will be released on Mx Player on December 11 2020. The trailer came out yesterday (5 December 2020.)

The series claims to represent the lgbtq+ community and destigmatize the trans community. The lead actress claims to have done something brave.  But does the movie truly represent queer narratives? Is it actually brave of them to do this role? 

The problem begins with the casting itself.  Casting a cis woman (Adah Sharma) to a play a trans woman is wrong and misrepresenting when there must be plenty of trans women who must have been willing to play the role.

The idea that trans women "used to be men" is flawed. Trans women were, are and have always been women, even if they were assigned male at birth. Saying they were their assigned sex at birth is transphobic and offensive to trans people. Also, someone really needs to go tell the lead character that marrying a trans woman does NOT mean they married a man. Trans women are women.  The series also perpetuates the harmful idea that trans women are men until they get gender affirmative procedures, which is transphobic too. Trans people do not need gender affirmative procedures to be the gender they are (but it is completely valid if they choose to go for said procedures). Moreover,  the series vilifies and victim blames trans people for not coming out,  when, in reality, coming out is deeply personal and difficult for queer people, especially in a country like India. The series reeks of misogyny when Someone, assumedly, the main character’s friend, asks him about how he could marry a woman just because she is beautiful. Apparently, she could turn out to be a ‘witch.’

Misappropriating and misrepresenting queer narratives is not okay. Using trans identities as a source of entertainment by cisgender people,  for cisgender people is not okay. The misogyny, transphobia (and transphobic language) and misappropriation of queer narratives in this show not acceptable to the trans community, lgbtq+ community and our allies. 

Such shows must be banned, because they cause harm to and stigmatize the people they claim to represent. The Indian LGBT+ community does not claim this show as representation and urges that such transphobic, anti LGBTQ+, anti woman shows are banned. These will have negative consequences for binary trans, as well as non binary people.

So we urge you to sign this petition, share it and urge others to sign it.  We would also like you to speak up and educate people about how harmful this show is.  Transphobia isn't acceptable or brave, and won't ever be. 

By @inclus_bean and @brown.girl.dreams | IG

#trans rights #trans women #trans women are women #trans #trans women of color #bollywood #lgbtq India #indian lgbtq #indian lgbtq+ community #sapphic pride #lgbtq community #non binary #enby #transphobes #trans representation #lgbtq representation #lgbtq activism

[that-loud-femme]

I think aro/arospec wlw/nblw who are new to the nblw/wlw community initially feel out of place, different and overwhelmed, because we don't feel what everyone else is talking about so passionately.

I just need young aro/arospec sapphics/trixics to know that they're valid and that they aren't alone in their experiences. We stand together, and stand for each other.

#aro #aro pride #aromantic #aromantic pride #aromantic spectrum #arospec #wlw #wlw community #wlw solidarity #sapphic #sapphic pride #wlw positivity #aro positivity

[that-loud-femme]

To wlw/nblw questioning if they're aro/arospec:

Please know that it is okay and valid to be an aro/arospec wlw/nblw.

Please know that being aro/arospec will not make you any less wlw/nblw; and being wlw/nblw wouldn't make you any less aro/arospec.

Take your time to figure yourself out!

Ama(to)normativity sucks and is probably one of the biggest hurdles to figuring out who we are. Please feel free to DM me, or talk to other aro, arospec, as well as allo people about their experiences.

If being a part of the aro community feels like home, gives you joy and comfort- please know that you are always welcome here!

#aromantic spectrum #aromantic #aro #aro wlw #aromance #aromanticism #aromantic pride #grey aro #wlw #wlw community

[that-loud-femme]

This is what a needy babey gf looks like:

1. "How are you?" - 'Not good, I missed you.'

2. "What did you do today?" - 'Missed you.'

3. "Okay what will make you feel good?" - 'Talk to gf'

4. "Okay, why don't you do something tangible and doable?" - "Text gf!"

5. "Okay fine I got your point." - "Gimme attention!"

Sorry- Am I the only one who thinks like this some times??? 🥺👉👈

#wlw #sapphic #sapphic pride #wlw pride #lesbian pride #wlw yearning #wlw mood

[that-loud-femme]

Oh, the satisfaction my wlw/nblw heart feels when I make a girl smile- or even better, blush! 🥺😳💖

#indian wlw #sapphic pride #sapphic #wlw positivity #wlw pride #wlw #trans nblw #lesbian pride #nblw #nblw positivity #wlw love #girls who like girls

[that-loud-femme]

Making the eyes of a butch wlw twinkle and grin widen with joy??? That's probably my favorite part of being a femme4butch uwu! 🥺💕

#sapphic #sapphic pride #wlw pride #wlw positivity #butch positivity #femme4butch #femme #femme lesbian

[that-loud-femme]

Hey everyone! I'm re-doing my pinned post, so this will be my Introduction, as well as DNI, and BYF (*Before You Follow*).

🌷 My name is Sol. My pronouns are they/ey.🌷

🌷You can also use she/her and other neos, but they/ey are the pronouns I favor the most. 🌷

🌷I'm a minor. This is my main account here. 🌷

🌷 I'm arospec, ace and a femme lesbian. 🌷

🌷 I'm an Indian and an intersectional feminist. 🌷

🌷 I like to cook, sing, learn and educate people about LGBTQ+ related stuff. 🌷

🌷 I'm an inclusionist! 🌷

🌷 My instagram account is @that_loud_femme_. Please tag me if you repost!

MY CONTENT:

🌷 My content will include LGBTQ+ positivity (including aro/ace positivity). 🌷

🌷 It will also include content geared towards wlw/nblw thoughts, experiences and positivity. 🌷

🌷 @that-soft-femme is my nsfw blog and will include wlw nsfw posts, as well as matters about sex/sex ed that people don't talk about enough. 🌷

DNI:

Do not interact with my blog or follow me if:

You're homophobic/transphobic/ any kind of LGBTQ+ -phobic.

You're islamophobic, racist, xenophobic or s bigot in general.

You're an aro/ace exclusionist.

You're an MAP/P*edo or a MAP supporter.

You're anti abortion, or anti feminism.

You are an "enby skeptic", "gender critical" or trans exclusionary in your beliefs.

You fetishize lgbt+ people.

You can't respect me, my pronouns, identity or boundaries.

Other things you need to know:

🌷 My Asks, and my DMs are open for anyone who:

Needs to talk/vent. I'm here for you!

Wishes to learn something about lgbtq+ related matters (I'm not an lgbt encyclopedia but yes I'm here to educate if you need it. )

Is questioning their gender identity/sexuality. That's always, always welcome here and I'll try my best to assist you and share what i know with you! I've changed labels many times. It's valid to question!

Wishes to say/ask something else.

🌷 My pronouns/gender identity aren't up for debate/discussion.

🌷 I'm Queer, And I won't censor "Queer" on my blog.

🌷 Cishet people are welcome here as long as they're respectful and genuinely want to listen.

🌷 Hate comments aren't welcome, however, constructive criticism is.

🌷 I usually do not respond to what people write in reblogs, so please DM me if there's something you'd like me to know/respond to.

🌷 You will be blocked if you say something inappropriate or flirt with me. That's quite uncomfortable and inappropriate for me.

🌷 You're all valid, and welcome here- especially people who are new to the community.

#indian wlw #sapphic #wlw pride #sapphic pride #wlw #lesbian pride #lgbtq community #arospec #aceflux #lgbtq poc

[that-loud-femme]

It's 2020 and queer people need to come out and constantly explain and justify their identities.

*cries in queer*

[that-loud-femme]

It's 2020 and people think asexuality is a medical condition and aromantic doesn't exist.

*cries*.

#asexual community #asexuality #aromanticism #aromantic #LGBTQ community #aro #ace problems #ace community #ace

[that-loud-femme]

It's 2020 and young trans/non binary people have to make the cruel "choice" between getting misgendered and outing themselves.

*cries.*

#trans rights #lgbtq community #non binary #nblw #nblm #trans community

[that-loud-femme]

It's 2020 and I'm still dreaming of holding my gf's hand publicly while also being safe, only to be told that the world isn't homofriendly.

*cries in sapphic.*

#sapphic #wlw community #homophobia

[that-loud-femme]

Not so gentle reminder that:

Trans wlw can use any pronouns.

Trans wlw can be Gender Non Conforming.

Trans wlw can use terms like femme, butch, stud or chapstick to describe themselves.

Trans wlw don't have to "pass" to be wlw.

Trans wlw can be poc, fat, neurodivergent or have disabilities.

Trans wlw are worthy of love, respect and belong in the wlw community.

None of these matters are up for debate.

PS: This post is inclusive of trans feminine people.

#wlw positivity #wlw pride #wlw #trans nblw #trans wlw #sapphic pride #lgbtq community #nblw positivity #trans women of color #trans women are amazing

[that-loud-femme]

You're a sapphic/trixic who has/have (a) boyfriend(s)?

You're amazing! You have all my love and support! You're wlw/nblw enough. You belong at Pride and at all wlw/nblw spaces! I hope you have a lovely relationship- and listen?

You look great together. ♡

#sapphic pride #wlw positivity #wlw pride #wlw #sapphic #lgbtq community #nblw #nblw positivity

[that-loud-femme]

It is okay for wlw/nblw to have boyfriends. It's perfectly valid and amazing to be wlw/nblw and feel attracted to men. wlw/nblw deserve better than to be shamed or excluded from wlw/nblw spaces for their love for men.

Loving and/or engaging in relationships with men doesn't make someone less wlw/nblw, and certainly doesn't cancel out their love for women/girls. ♡

#lgbtq community #wlw positivity #sapphic #sapphic pride #wlw pride #wlw #nblw #nblw positivity #trans wlw #girls who like girls #girls who like boys #girls who like all #trans nblw

[that-loud-femme]

Another reminder you don't have to yearn for hugs or cuddles from girls to be wlw/nblw. It's okay to be touch repulsed, it's okay to not desire sensual intimacy, it is okay to not "yearn".

You're still very sapphic/trixic! 💕

#sapphic pride #sapphic ace #wlw positivity #wlw pride #wlw #trans nblw #sapphic #nblw #nblw positivity #lgbtq community #nblw pride #aroace #aro wlw #ace wlw #romance repulsed #sex repulsed

[that-loud-femme]

Gimme hugs!! And plushies!! And cake!! And cuddles!! And more hugs!!

...but only from gf/qpp/partner. Asfsdfdfsdfsdf 🥺💕

#girls like girls #sapphic love #sapphic #wlw pride #wlw #lesbian pride #lgbtq community #nblw #trans nblw #sapphic pride #wlw yearning

[that-loud-femme]

Is it just me or does someone ever randomly think of cuddling with and hugging a girl? 🥺💕

#lgbtq community #wlw #trans nblw #nblw #nblw positivity #wlw pride #sapphic #lesbian pride #sapphic pride