#connection and healing

[inkskinned]

he says i hate everyone except you and that is addictive and that is kind of romantic and beautiful because you're young and you're kind of a sarcastic asshole too and you don't like bad boys, per say, but you don't really like good ones either. and you like that you were the exception, it felt like winning.

except life is not a romance book, and he was kind of being honest. he doesn't learn to be nice to your friends. he only tolerates your family. you have to beg him to come with you to birthday parties, he complains the whole time. you want to go on a date but - people are often there, wherever you're going. he's just so angry. about everything, is the thing. in the romance book, doesn't he eventually soften? can't you teach him, through your own sense of whimsy and comfort?

at first - you know introverts often need smaller friend groups, and honestly, you're fine staying at home too. you like the small, tidy life you occupy. you're not going to punish him for his personality type.

except: he really does hate everyone but you. which means he doesn't get along with his therapist. which means he has no one to talk to except for you. which means you take care of him constantly, since he otherwise has no one. which means you sometimes have to apologize for him. which means he keeps you home from seeing your friends because he hates them. you're the single exception.

about a decade from this experience, you'll type into google: how to know if a relationship is codependent.

he wraps an arm around you. i hate everyone except you. these days, you're learning what he's actually confessing is i have very little practice being kind.

#i used to think it was romantic too and then i was like. now i see it as a HUGE red flag #writeblr #it is also almost EXCLUSIVELY said by immature ppl who think this is normal #fyi even if u think it's funny and ur like 'im an introvert it's just TRUE' like. you need therapy (ily tho) #healed introversion is just ''i would prefer to be by myself'' not ''i hate every person'' ... hate is not normal. that is not healthy #im sorry. i know it feels accurate. but if you're walking around with that kind of rage.... #1. you're making a LOT of assumptions about every single person u have ever met. which is often unfair and unkind #and also usually involves judging people based on their worst moments or little mistakes #2. you are being unfair to the person who is ur ''exception'' #3. there is a VAST difference between ''ur my favorite person'' and ''the ONLY person i like.'' #idk i think this is just a personal bias thing tbh #im sure there are people who have this experience normally #but i have YET to find a man who thinks like this and ISNT absolute DOGSHIT. although tbh.... like. im sure he exists #when u hit like 30 some of the things that were once kind of hot now just sound fucking exhausting. like ''im in a band'' #edit in the tags: i used to kind of be like this too. but the thing is that like. my life became so much more peaceful #once i started believing that people are generally good. like yes i am mad at the world at large #but it's just.... a very hard way to live. you're not a bad person or wrong for the ways other people hurt you and taught you to be angry. #but that anger will continue to hurt YOU. it will punish YOU. it will prevent YOU from making new deep connections. it will protect you yes #but it will also cause MASSIVE blowback. bc if you lose the One Person... your life will fall apart. i know this personally. #i really recommend just trying to be... cautiously optimistic instead. like. yes #people can be horrible and cruel and there are some communities (incels for example) that aren't worth that optimism #but i think like... most people will hold a door for you . most people want to help you find your wallet . #i hope one day you are able to find peace. i hope that rage eventually smooths over. i know how hard it is PERSONALLY #and i know what must have happened to you. and im deeply deeply sorry we share the same wound. #but i promise - sometimes we all need someone else to help us carry the weight. eventually the rage has to die so that we can let help in #i had to spend years biting at outstretched hands. i still often do. im still very wary . and my heart breaks that you flinch too. #here's the thing: i don't blame you. but we were both acting out of fear and pain. .... not out of healthy behavior. and ... change #was needed. i needed change too. rage was useful for a while. then it just left me isolated and bitter. i had to (with effort) #choose to let that rage go. and let people in . VERY SLOWLY THO LOL

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Bare skin, bare feelings.

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#poorly drawn mdzs #mdzs #lan wangji #wei wuxian #blood #Imagine coming off as homophobic to your crush so bad he weaponizes a strip tease against you. #LWJ is just having a storm of bad emotions. His tummy hurt real bad and he was just trying to be brave about it! #WWX is just trying to be a good bro and heal his friendcrush. It worked but not for the reasons he thinks it did. #LWJ's shyness is also hilarious here considering they have bathed together before. Literally nothing there he hasn't seen before. #Granted it was a few years back and before he was left to stew in his feelings. #LWJ is more focused on his pride than being responsible and reasonable (getting is wounds treated). #His arc really is about accepting that he can't be perfect. That there is importance in being honest and vulnerable. #The tragedy is that he realizes this way too late. #Pride is the worst sin because it destroys your ability to protect anything other than the smallest crown in the world. #When everyone is gone and you are left alone - was it worth it to feel safe and protected from showing your flaws? #Control over oneself is in conflict with connection to others. You cannot pick both. #Hanguang-jun appears to us as a 'perfect guy' but the truth is that he is the version of LWJ who is done with *needing* that validation. #And this time - He can properly reach out to those he wants to be close with.

[sporecringe]

#inner child healing #age regression #group hatch #tamagotchi connection v4 #hearts shell #strawberries #toy photography #tmgc #tamagotchi #nostalgia #early 2000s #90s aesthetic

[emiko-matsui]

the funniest thing about the bad kids meeting ayda is she took one look at the right side of the table and didn't give a shit about any of them and then became absolutely obsessed with every single person on the left side of the table

#ayda first days of knowing adaine gains her first friend and genuine connection of love and comradery and understanding #ayda first days of knowing gorgug holds his head in her hands and delivers a monologue of how much she admires him and his rippling brain #ayda first days of knowing fig kindles a first love heals inners insecurities and creates a genuine bond thats never been replicated #ayda a year into knowing kristen fabian and riz: who tf are you guys again? #dimension 20 #d20 #fantasy high #ayda aguefort #fhsy #adaine abernant #fig faeth #gorgug thistlespring #figayda #brennan lee mulligan #fabian seacaster #riz gukgak #kristen applebees

[gentlenotes-moved]

"you're flawless!" "you're perfect!" or!!!!!! maybe you're a little flawed. maybe you've fucked up. maybe you're a human with scars and faults. a human who's wronged and who's been wronged. maybe you've messed up. but... maybe you're a human that deserves love and happiness and good things in life. a human that deserves to heal and to be loved because you're worth something just for being alive.

#reminders #gentle reminders #healing #positivity #mental health #self care #self love #self help #self healing #self improvement #encouragement #quotes #inspiration #inspirational quotes #mine #maybe humans love each other because we all know what the void of it feels like #maybe we all live for each other maybe we're all connected with the thread of a single emotion and experience #and maybe that thread is the strongest most permanent eternal connector of all things on earth idk idk #sorry for the word vomit caused by a wave of vivid and inexplicable human emotion. it WILL happen again

[phoenix----rising]

#energy #spiritual awakening #healing #soul #law of attraction #spiritual development #spiritual journey #awakening #awareness #age of aquarius #spiritual healing #spiritual growth #spiritual connection #unconditional love #love

[ihatebrainstorm]

[Medicine]

"The Caduceus. Commonly mixed up with the Rod of Asclepius."

Guys I think it'd be really funny if Pharma and Ratchet had the same voice

#he's got great shapes but I hate drawing his legs with a passion #Also the more I read into the cadueceus and rod of Asclepius #the more I go #“wait isn't that literally Ratchet and Pharma” #lost light spoilers in tags #I mean the Cadueceus being the wand of Hermes/ messengers of the gods *cough* and in some accounts having the ability to take and give life #While the Rod of Asclepius is held by the god Asclepius/god of healing and more accepted as the correct symbol for medicine/healing? #Also Asclepius being the son of Apollo -> the Temple of Apollo being located in Delphi Greece #The Cadueceus having wings -> Pharma has wings #Rod of Asclepius doesn't have wings -> Ratchet not having wings #The two symbols getting mixed up frequently -> Ratchet and Pharma looking pretty similar face/head-wise #Edit: another thing I just noticed: Two snakes on the Cadueceus -> Pharma and Adaptus fighting for control #someone must have made the connection before me right #James Roberts istg if this is intentional #I literally made the connection on accident after going “hey what if I added the snakes to this” #ok sorry for really long tags #mtmte spoilers #transformers #mtmte #maccadam #maccadams #tf idw #transformers fanart #frootertooter archive #more than meets the eye #pharma #pharma idw #lost light #LL

[zellink]

salvation

#an attempt to portray the process of link turning zelda back to her human form #through unconditional love and sheer will #and thus healing his arm too #i just love totk's themes so much. redemption. love. connection. #true love saves fr fr #zelink #zelda #link #tears of the kingdom #the legend of zelda #breath of the wild #totk #totk spoilers #tloz fanart #flowerpower art

[perfectharmonyloveschaos]

"I'm alone... again."

It's remembering that Ezra has spent more than half his life alone by the time we'll see him in Ahsoka.

#I miss my baby boy. #He was finally healing and opened up and now he's alone again. #For all we know he's had Thrawn and his forces actively hunting him/attacking him as his only source of human connection for years. #I really hope they actually address the trauma he underwent choosing to be alone again for a decade and don't brush it aside. #It's missing Ezra Bridger hour #star wars rebels #star wars #star wars ahsoka #star wars art #star wars fanart #ahsoka series #ahsoka show #sw ahsoka #sw ahsoka series #ahsoka 2023 #my art #ezra bridger

[sadghostgirl14]

#life lessons #love poem #fool for love #sadgirl #heartache #heartbreak #relateable #healing #poetry #sad poem #missing him #wanted connection

[blueeyesfilledwithpassion]

That One

#connection #intimacy #spilled words #spilled thoughts #desire #passion #passionate #beautiful #physical touch #love #embrace #romantic #lovers #couple goals #intimate #touching #touch #healing #healing journey #self compassion #gratitude #letting go #vulnerability #healingjourney

[cocoabuttavasa]

soul connections only 🫀

#soul #soul connection #connection #energy #self healing #aesthetic #black women #art #poetry #self love #i love you #artists on tumblr #affirmations #affirmdaily #with love #affirmyourlife #spiritual awakening #spiritual alignment #spiritualguidance #spiritualgrowth #spiritual development #spirituality #spiritualjourney #magnetic

[voxtek-enterprises]

Okay okay forgive me if this is incoherent I don't rant very often. I've been seeing a lot of posts shitting on Husk for Loser, Baby, saying he was being an asshole and he was in the wrong or whatever, and that Husk and Angel Dust are bad for each other and toxic and yadda yadda yadda.

And you know? Maybe it wasn't the standard sunshine and rainbows way of going about it. But the show already took the time to show you that Charlie's way, the way that would make these people happy, wasn't going to work! Angel's fucked up as shit. So is just about everybody else in hell. The NORMAL way of going about things isn't gonna work because everyone is jaded, distrustful, and cynical. Hell's denizens think about things differently than we do because their experiences are vastly different and worse than ours. They have to be distrustful to survive.

Ultimately, it comes down to this: the same approach isn't gonna work on everyone because everyone is different. So is it strange and fucked up? Yes. Was it the only way for Husk (who is strange and fucked up) to get through to Angel (who is also strange and fucked up)? Yes.

At the beginning, before Husk calls him a loser, Angel's clearly miserable. He thinks Husk is gearing up for some "Things suck now but they'll get better! Things aren't as bad as they seem!" speech á la little miss Bleeding Heart, Charlie. He thinks he knows what's coming, and he's kind of just waiting for Husk to get over with it and shut up.

"You think your life is wrecked. Well let me just say that you're correct!" Husk has intentionally subverted Angel's expectations, using surprise to get through to him. You can see Angel is annoyed for a little bit while he's trying to figure out what Husk's trying to say. He's starting to think Husk only came out here to make fun of him.

And yeah, Husk sings for a little while about how Angel is a loser. He's not trying to tell Angel that his life is okay or things get better or some 100% positive but ultimately meaningless pleasantries. They've both probably heard shit like that before, like "I hope it gets better" "Things aren't as bad as they seem" whatever. They both know it doesn't mean anything, even if it's well-intentioned. It means nothing to Husk, and since he understands Angel, he knows it wouldn't mean anything to Angel either, so he doesn't bother.

Slowly he starts singing more about how he and Angel are similar. "You're a loser, just like me." "You're a power bottom at rock bottom, but you've got company!" "There was a time I thought no one could relate to the gruesome ways in which I'm damaged." He's not trying to exclusively shit on Angel, he's trying to acknowledge the true shittiness of their situations and how they're similar. He's doing it in a fucked up way because they're both fucked up and it's the way they understand.

This is where Angel is starting to understand what Husk is saying.

Husk: "We're both losers, baby, we're losers! It's okay to be a-"

Angel: "Coked-up dick-sucking hoe?"

Husk: "Baby that's fine by me!"

Husk is accepting Angel for who he is and the situation he's been forced into. They've both made very similar, very terrible decisions that have led them to their respective shitty predicaments, and Angel is realizing just how similar they really are now.

Both, singing at the same time: "You're a loser, just like me!"

Husk has managed to break through Angel's shell and get him to open up. They're friends now! I could go on and on but I'll skip to the end because I think I've made my point.

Ultimately, Husk's point is "We're both kinda pathetic and in terrible situations, and we may both be losers, but there's no need to hate ourselves or self-destruct or pretend we're anyone but who we really are." And he goes about it in a way that may not make sense to normal people, but makes sense to each other because of how similarly they're fucked up. It works.

It's really annoying when I see people who think you can't like a flawed character or a relationship (friendly or romantic, doesn't matter). Like oh no, the weird little freaks are doing weird little freak things and understanding each other in weird little freak ways. I don't really get what their point is anyway. So what if they're weird? So what if Husk is kind of an asshole about it? Nothing else was gonna work. Real people who are scarred as much as Husk and Angel are usually sick of the sunshine and rainbows bullshit anyway, many of them would much rather hear the truth and receive support than be hit with the Charlie approach. I'm not shitting on Charlie because I love her and her approach is great (and also normal) but as I said before: the same approach won't work on everyone. Hers worked on Vaggie and Sir Pentious but didn't work on Angel Dust, hence why Angel's character development was really kickstarted when he became friends with Husk.

I think these people are just chronically online and media illiterate tbh. Anyway, sorry if this was long or drawn out. I have too many opinions about people who don't exist and they're very disorganized.

#huskerdust #husk #angel dust #hazbin hotel #tbh im not a huge shipper of angel dust. i care more about their emotional connection #(platonic or not) #than whether or not they're fucking #personally i think if huskerdust becomes canon it should be after they both have time to heal #neither of em are ready for a relationship #and if they don't date? thats cool too!! deep important friendships are highly underrated in media. both r good

[thekidsarentalright]

thinking about that snowglobe note from pete where he said thanks for giving our snowglobe a shake, and thinking about how on stage tonight he said that they brought the snowglobe with them, and thinking about how much they keep changing up the setlist beyond just the medley and 8 ball. almost as though each night, each show, theyre inviting the audience into the snow globe and giving it a shake, mixing up what songs are played, reminding everyone what it means to be alive for those two hours inside the snowglobe

#much to think about………. i really do feel like there’s something to this im connecting the dots #why else change up the setlist if not to symbolize what we’ve done for them. we gave their snowglobe a shake and now each show theyre doing #it for us. a spark of life back by doing things differently and keeping us on our toes. something so freeing and healing abt that. waugh #txt

[samarecharm]

I miss goro. Bring his bitchass back

#chattin #thinking of him in strikers is funny #local hermit and murderer out in the sun and living free #i think he would like sophia. not a whole lot but like. maybe hes a lil attached #thinkin about him having to be in a camper w the thieves is so funny #my mans is NOT sleeping in that fucking tent. hes finding some rocks to huddle under for warmth #but also. him and makoto riding up front #hes prob got his license too so they share driving duties #this is purely based off of my hcs for him since i didnt play royal but still wanted him alive #maybe his connections w shido also make him a suspect? i dunno #so by saes suggestion; he begrudgingly goes along w them #i think. it would be healing for him to see monarchs and their reasons for being so cruel #to know that they were in a bad place and acted out maliciously bc of it #and to see them grapple w the consequences of their actions #they did awful things even if they thought it was worth it. and now they have to start over #and guess what; life doesnt just end or stop; they gotta keep going #obviously this would make goro gag and block it out. he would hate it. #but it would still be healing #the guy at the boiler room who believed that maybe…..he could change……..hes still there

[mirroredroads]

on reconnecting with one's self. Hanif Abdurraqib, They Can't Kill Us Until They Kill Us / Isao Takahata's Only Yesterday (1991) / Anais Nin, Mirages: The Unexpurgated Diary of Anais Nin, 1939-1947 / @sha963 / Ocean Vuong, On Earth We’re Briefly Gorgeous / Untitled (2022), Sung Hwa Kim, soft pastels and acrylic on paper / Better in the Morning, Birdtalker / Untitled (2022), Sung Hwa Kim, soft pastels and acrylic on paper / Jenn Givhan, from “The Decision”

#webweave #webweaving #web weave #web weaving #connection #healing #inner child #healing process #art #hanif abdurraqib #isao takahata #anais nin #ocean vuong #sung hwa kim #birdtalker #jenn givhan