* Being aromantic isn't terrible. You're not any less valuable as a person because youre aro. That doesnt mean you have to enjoy it, that doesnt mean that it's easy to accept.
*Romance is everywhere. Its in books, its on tv, its in music, the movies, your family, school, jobs, public, romance is Everywhere, its impossible to get away from. It almost seems like everyone's in love in some way and you're just Not. That you're different, and wrong.
* its okay to feel like that. Its okay to feel wrong, to feel like you dont fit in. Even if you dont feel romantic attraction at all, if you feel only a little, or if you want to feel it. Its okay to feel like youre alone, to grieve the life you thought you would have and now know you wouldn't be happy in.
* Look at any disney movie. How many of them arent about a girl falling for a guy and living happily ever after? how many of them have a message that doesnt involve romantic love? You cannot expect people who grew up surrounded by romance to not grieve the loss of it. To not grieve the experience they won't have.
* Some of us dont feel human. The lack of something so engraved in our society makes us feel so outcasted that we dont even associate ourselves with the species.
* Maybe you're aro and you're at peace with it, you embrace it. Maybe you reject all love, or you live alongside it. You can be happy with it. But you also need to realize that it's okay if some aros arent comfortable with it yet. That doesnt mean theyre any less aro.
* Some of us still read the romance books, listen to the songs, watch the shows, and some of us enjoy it. Some sit there and question why couldn't it be them? why couldn't they have those experiences? why are they different? It doesn't make them less aro. It doesn't make them any less valid.
* Everyones relationship with their identity is different. Some people embrace it and are comfortable, some struggle with the words. It's all unique to each person. You cannot look at someone's identity and say "youre not -- enough." To think you'd have this life of love and a family and realizing you wouldn't be happy is scary.
* If you're aro and you havent accepted it: its okay. Dont force yourself. Let yourself grieve, and allow yourself the same care you'd have if it was any other sexuality. You're still you. One day you might be comfortable, but maybe you'll always wish to be different. Its okay. Give yourself time, and let yourself be. You're okay. You're not broken, you're not wrong. You're just you.
Someone once told me that when dealing with artblock, you gotta take care of yourself first. Because the more alive YOU feel, the more alive your art will feel.
You can break the block, juts give yourself some time.
You CAN do this 🙌🏼🧡✨😊
Special shout out to these incredible ladies who have been in my corner since the beginning @holydoncakes @saspas-corner @anobodyinabog
*crashes through your window and holds your lovely face in my hands*
I DON'T GIVE A FLAMING HOT CHEETO IF YOU THINK YOU'RE ART STYLE IS UNDERDEVELOPED OR IF YOU HATE YOUR ART!!
DRAW.
DRAW BECAUSE YOUR ART IS AN EXTENSION OF YOU AND YOU DON'T NEED OR DESERVE TO FEEL SHAMED OR EMBRASSED ABOUT THAT!! DRAW BECAUSE ART IS MOST BEAUTIFUL WHEN IT'S MESSY!! DRAW BECAUSE EVERY DOODLE IS A STEP CLOSER TO IMPROVEMENT!! DRAW BECAUSE NOBODY ELSE IS GOING TO CREATE ALL OF THE WONDERFUL SCENARIOS IN YOUR HEAD!! DRAW BECAUSE TRANSLATING YOUR IMAGINATION ONTO A PIECE OF PAPER IS THE MOST AMAZING AND THRILLING FREAKING THING EVER.