1. Give your energy level a boost. It’s hard to be friendly, and to focus on others, if you’re feeling really tired and would rather be in bed. To keep going, grab some coffee or a bite to eat, or go outside for a few minutes, and get some cool, fresh air.
2. Have some tactics at the ready if you don’t know the people – or if you have to be with people you would rather avoid. For example, if you don’t like the people, ask a friend to go with you … and have a great excuse for leaving once you’ve done the minimum.
3. Plan ahead to avoid conflict. Aim to stay in control of your reactions and emotions – and resist the pressure to take part in arguments.
4. Control your contribution. If you’re quiet and introverted then value you who you are. Don’t expect yourself to be a party animal. Show respect for yourself by taking time out if you need to, and only talk to people that you want to be around.
5. See it as a chance to practices a few social skills. Take the pressure off yourself by practising your social skills. For example, ask a few open questions, and keep the focus on the speaker. Try and come across as friendly through your use of body language – like making good eye contact and smiling while you talk.
We tend to think of mental illness as things that you always have or don’t have. Can they also sometimes be like getting sick, and then getting better again?
Like I lost my balance or was in a bad situation, or didn’t take care of myself, and so I had a lot worse anxiety/panic attacks, but now that I’m not, I’m better? Or is that then just a normal reaction to that situation, and it means I never had anxiety as a mental illness?
Are mental illnesses only regarded as such if they are chronic chemical imbalances?
Can someone answer this??
onlinecounsellingcollege just posted a list of traits for a shame based personality (i.e. the traits people tend to develop when they’ve been made to feel ashamed of themselves in childhood). I read down the list and on almost every one thought ‘Yes, that’s me’.
Yes, I thought as much. I just made a note that based on my own experiences which things are and are not true for me.