funkyfreshray
FunkyFreshRay
It's not what I have been through in my life that makes me the person I am today, It's how I got through it that makes me the man I am today
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The good in us...
You do everything in your power to lead by example, to show or prove that there is hope for those that may have lost that hope, to help otehrs realize there is good in this world and something to look forward to and prove theres ways to demonstrate the good to make things right for those you care about...and what happens? The positivity turns into a humungous disappointment because somehow there is a greater power caused by greed or selfishness and what u live for or instilled in yourself growing up before facing the real world turns out to be a fantasy. But that won't change me or discourage me. It just disappoints me. Prove to others there is good in this world by doing good yourself, paying it forward, and leading with compassion and understanding.
If you believe there are no good people in this world around you, then be one. Make a difference.
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A positive attitude may not solve all your problems, but it will give you enough strength and confidence to overcome many problems. No one says it will be easy. Everyone can say, "easier said than done." That's where WILL needs to take its course and give yourself that confidence and belief that you can and will pull through. No matter how bad the situation is, know you are still here. Just have to face your battles and make them right, especially if it was your mistake. Out of every situation, every problem, every challenge you are faced with, there is always a silver lining...and how you interpret or view the situation, can make it seem a lot worse than what it really is or you can allow yourself to make the effort and find a solution.
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Stay commited
there will always be people trying to get in between you and ur spouse, boyfriend, or girlfriend and it takes focus on both to make sure we are not unfaithful or noncommitted no matter what promises or convincing comments that are made by those trying to interfere. The only promise that should matter is the one made on your wedding day or between the two who agreed to be committed to one another.
-Hear something? Speak about it with your significant other before assuming the worst.
- Trust your significant other. That's one reason you married each other or committed to one another
- Trust but verify. Someone will try to convince you of something. You can trust it, but verify it. Don't get misled.
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If you can relate...
I remember when I was younger, punishment or discipline was one thing that was expected from our parents to use as letting us know we were wrong and helping us learn our lesson if we did something unethical, disrespectful, or pretty much wrong. Obviously, overdoing the punishment is and was a problem, but it seems that now a days it's almost considered unethical to discipline our children for bad behavior anyway. Kids are in need of being held accountable but reporting their parents to authorities for disciplinary actions and punishment, maybe a bit overboard? I remember if I did something wrong, I wasn't going to expect a talking to because, as kids, we really don't or didn't listen until we were punished for it with discipline and learning our lesson. Parents are there to make sure we understand what the difference is from right and wrong. They come with either punishment or reward. Not all may agree on what's right or what's wrong and that is when the challenges come and causes most of us to doubt or second guess if what we are doing is wrong or right as a parent(s), but do not reward for bad and punish for good.
Can you teach a child by using fear tactics? I think so. I mean, I tried to stay away from acting out because I didn't want a spanking from my dad... WITH A BELT!!! So that worked. I wasn't mad. After the incident, realized I was being taught a lesson. But a lot of people may ask, "So what may be right for you isn't right for others, and what's wrong for you may not be wrong for others." When I would do wrong or behave badly, I never thought of the impact my behavior had on others, but I sure did know the impact my parents would have on me! As we get older, we start noticing our actions and words and how they impact others as well. The impact it had on others can and should let us know how bad it was based on their reaction or response and expose what you did or said and why it wasn't taken well. Our concious eventually steps in and translates what was wrong with what we said or did based on their reaction. Same as an adult doing something illegal and knowing there are police doing their job. Not parenting, but trying to help control the crime. We can only control our household as parents married with children.
Parents know this as they are adults who have been through most of what we were going through when we were kids and were trying to correct it or help us learn that making a bad decision once is considered a mistake but doing it more than once, becomes a choice. Maybe my culture or background taught me differently than other cultures teach their kids, so I'm speaking for the Hispanic, more so, Dominican culture out there. We really can't compare different generation's ways of correcting their kids' behavior. For me, as a gen X, I remember how much I didn't want to get in trouble with my parents or embarrass myself because of my bad behavior and eventually disrespect, hurt, or not consider others, besides the fear of the punishment that would come with it of course. With my kids, i did the best I could to avoid going that route.
At a young age, we need to know there are consequences to our actions as well as rewards. We need to raise our kids, now and in the future, knowing what the differences are. There is a difference between "discipline" and "hit." If your child tells others you 'hit them,' others can translate that as a form of abuse, but punishment and discipline is not to be confused with abuse. As I mentioned earlier, it does depend on the culture and heritage. The goal is to learn self-discipline that will keep them at ease with their behavior and response or reaction to others. It's our job as parents to instill that in our young ones without overreacting and being sure we are not acting out of anger or frustration as to why you are punishing them.
.....you'll understand
#self discipline#consequence#rewarding#lessons learned#culture#heritage#gen xers#baby boomers#millenials#gen z#purpose#intentions#parenting#parenting is hard
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Not getting too comfortable is the key.
A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, the catch being with the same person. Marraige is never easy, just a challenge that can be overcome by not getting too comfortable.
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Just when the mind finds the answer, the heart changes the question. That's the difference between selfish and unselfish, having compassion or being ignorant, having good intentions or bad. Include your heart when you think. Have a concious...
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Unselfish
I reach my hand out, hoping you would grab it in my attempt to save you and pull you away from your past and put you in a position to look forward to a better future. Im not a proud person but i am a confident one in the intentions i have within my concious, the love i carry in my heart, and the reasons i have to help someone else overcome a struggle or two to help them make it ahead in their life. I do not ask for anything in return because the happiness of others does fulfill me. I've always relied on the success and happiness of others. I really never saw anything wrong with that, and yet I've been told to put myself ahead of others. I believe it will eventually come back to me without asking for it. I also realize i can't make everyone happy, and yet that's the struggle i run into, so i resort to sharing words that can positively impact others. Has it made me vulnerable? Probably. Whether my worst enemy or my best friend, i will have concern about whats wrong with them and do my part to make the situation better cause it matters to me and should to others. I will never judge, criticize, or insult. It's not my place to. I can only learn from everyone and keep going. All these things make me who i am and won't change me. Will it give me hope? Maybe, but it will give others hope and something good to look forward to, and im ok with that...
#unselfish#what goes around comes around#karma#compassion#sympathy#empathy#intentions#intentions speak louder than actions
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The hurt you provide can only be understood if you experienced the same hurt..
You'll never know how much you hurt someone until someone else hurts you the same way. You'll never understand why someone acts desperate towards you until you're trying to reach for the same thing he or she was looking for in you. Decisions you make, whether you feel they were right at the time or not, lead up to these actions. They are left up to you to deal with, live by ,adapt to, or improve because that is or was the predicament you put yourself in and vice versa. Don't make decisions based on the now. Make them based on where it will take you and consider what is going on now. Don't ignore it because it's not you. It may be you someday, then it may be too late.
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Measuring Success
Success is not measured by what you accomplish. It's how you face or deal and get past the challenges or obstacles you know are. Proving to others, and more importantly to yourself, that you can overcome these struggles against what you felt were overwhelming odds is what helps make it all possible. In the end, realizing it was all possible without doubt is what makes you successful. Have confidence in yourself and what you can potentially do...
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I dont understand why the back and forth between Republicans and Democrats or anyone else. Instead of bashing each other, making fun of one another, and showing the rest of the world we are against one another, why not work together to understand each others view points, work together to unite this country, and start acting on doing right for this country rather than displaying a divide within the country and trying to embarrass the other publicly. Have we no RESPECT for one another? It's just ridiculous. Everyone has ideas, whether you agree with them or not, understand the why first before you start making fun of it or ridiculing it. I'm for who will do their best to lead this country, and I expect the current and next president to work with all parties to help bring us together rather than separate us. Forest Gump said it best...🤦♂️ stupid is as stupid does. I dont want to start believing most of us are stupid, especially our leaders. 🤷🏽♂️
#stupid is as stupid does#unite not divide#intentions#we are one#united we stand#divided we fall#common sense#love thy neighbor
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Love and Success
To succeed you need to find something to hold on to, something to motivate you, something to inspire you. This is not only true for success at work or even in life, but true in a relationship and/ or marraige. Be that inspiration, that motivation, and that reason for each other...
#power of love#successful#inspiration#motivation#success in life#success story#relationship#marraige
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Lost senses but didn't lose the reasons...
Being someone who lost his sense of taste and smell since the accident, I realized it wasn't about the taste of the food, it was and still is about remembering how it made you feel eating it because of the taste and purpose....(moms cooking, spouses cooking, even friends cooking for example, and the reasons you made a restaurant your favorite place to eat.....besides the taste 🙂)
#purpose#there is a reason#intentions#memories#taste#motherly love#our anniversary#celebration#get together#funkyfreshray
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This one went to heaven....February 6th, 2018
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It's not about what you can get out of a situation, a problem, or what advantage you can take of it. It's about how you can turn it into an opportunity without being selfish or focusing on personal gain. There's always an opportunity to learn from it also...
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You may be influenced without realizing it
If you ever wonder why the way you deal with others has changed for the worse or your patience has started running short, have you ever wondered why? Maybe it's because someone you're close to is rubbing off on you and influencing this behavior because it's how you are treated. You probably think unconsciously if it works for them, it can work for you, but it doesn't. You are who you are. Stop the disrespect before it causes you to start disrespecting others.
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