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At long fucking last, we have a tiny smidge of data about the pay gap in motorsport. Nothing from Formula E or WEC teams (we assume they’re too small to meet the 250 person requirement), but still, some data is good data. I’d like to point out that Williams - run by Claire Williams, who’s always on about how good she is for women in motorsport - is one of the worst teams that have reported data

#F1 #mclaren #mercedes #red bull

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Okay, so guys in motorsport do this to each other a lot. They attack each other with low-grade violence (see Lotterer kicking Jev’s balls in Mexico, the constant verbal attacks between teammates that we call “banter,” etc.), usually directing the attack at each other’s masculinity, sexual desirability, worthiness, etc. Kimmel has long words to say about this, which I won’t go into, but several of his books explain why this is the case

Brene says we judge in others that which we’re insecure about ourselves. Do we then assume that the problem in motorsport isn’t arrogance, overconfidence, or cockiness, but the result of spending our lives being told that we’re not ________ [fill in the blank: good, loveable/worthy, extraordinary...] enough?

Grab my balls honey

#motorsport #masculinity #brene brown #michael kimmel

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Cookies for Good Guys

I’ve been having trouble with feminism recently, and I don’t feel I can talk about it on the main website blog. Sure, some people on here are going to savage me because it turns out I might be more/less radical than them, but I need to put this down in a place where people can debate and poke holes in my theory

So, Brene Brown is part of a school of thought (that is a minority, even within social work) that holds that people who cling to power-over are feeling powerless. She says that the people who marched/murdered in Charlotte, the KKK, etc., aren’t her burden, but can we please stop throwing gasoline on an already raging fire and build some power-with instead of power-over. This isn’t a finding I liked when I first read it (in “Braving the Wilderness,” 2017)

This finding of Brown’s is very inconvenient for the militant “fuck the patriarchy” “take the power back” brand of I’m realising that this is far more radical than I’m really comfortable with) feminism that I was taught at university. It also is very inconvenient for the “girl power” “because you’re worth it” [”it,” of course, being vivisection and body shaming to make us spend more money] feminism that was the mirage at which I hoped to drink as a teenager in the 90s

I want to give care to men in motorsport. If Brown is right (and science is all about testing hypotheses), understanding how straight, white, abled, cismen feel fear and territory threat, and applying balm to the wounds of hegemonic masculinity (because let’s not pretend that Man Boxes don’t chafe) will make them treat women better. Hypothetically

But I’m terrified that other feminists will rip me apart for helping men. Rationally, I want to do positive, generous things for the men who are being assholes to the women I know so they stop acting like wounded bears, because this is what the literature says and I’ve been trained to trust the evidence despite my biases. But my head voices are screaming that if I show them my soft underbelly (and let’s be honest my belly is pretty fucking squidgy, and racing drivers [all 2% fat] publicly burn each other on the regular about being fat) they’re going to savage me

Would y’all think it was a betrayal of my audience to fall on the sword and reach out to the men who’re being jerks to them out of pain and insecurity?

#feminism #motorsport #women in motorsport #women in racing

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Edit to add:

I’ve stopped looking for evidence that I don’t belong, and have a core squad of weirdos with whom I have mutual respect and trust. And my dog has a pet passport that I don’t need to keep renewing

What’s your fantasy?

#ultimate fantasy

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Oh God, I’m so glad it’s not just me! I’ve written 35k of a book before realising that I’d been writing my main character the wrong gender/ethnicity/disability. I’m so glad the people who receive the head jewellery we make don’t have a clear idea of what the diamonds look like either!

Am I the only one who doesn’t see characters completely vividly, but more like bodies with a distinct hair colour and eyes that reflect their personality … does that make sense?

#writing #fiction #characters

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Be a wing-buddy, non-Muslim followers. Sometimes, solidarity is letting your friends walk their path alone; sometimes it’s not letting them out of your sight (except, like, to pee and things, because watching people do that is a bit weird) because bigots are hosting a virus-free zombie apocalypse

Punish a Muslim day is tomorrow. All Muslims, please stay home or lay low that day. I’ve had two people try to rip off my hijab already, so please be vigilant. This is not only in the UK, American bigots have willingly adopted it. Watch videos on self defense, pray from home, and always be alert because hatred can strike anywhere.

#wtf is wrong with the world #punish a muslim day #muslim rights are human rights

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The most terrible poverty is loneliness, and the feeling of being unloved.

Mother Teresa (via vettel)

#mother teresa #quote #loneliness #get the fuck out your house and see friends in person

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I just got done listening to the Guilty Feminist’s Calais Special (where the podcast’s host went to the refugee centre in Calais, and spoke to them about how to volunteer and things). The juxtaposition between that and the motorsport content is pretty stark, tbh.

If we were to encourage drivers to purge unnecessary belongings (eg. Jev’s carousel of once-worn sunglasses), are there fans on here who could (for a living wage, paid by the racers as part of the deal) place belongings in a timeline (eg. “Sunglasses worn at Punta Del Este 2018″) and put them on ebay for a refugee benefit auction?

#jean eric vergne #andre lotterer #techeetah #formula e #sustainability #minimalism #charity auction

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Just like to point out: the world has moved on a lot from the Max Mosley scandal. The sitting president of the “free” world has a scandal involving a porn star spanking him, and there’s no repercussions because he’s homies with Rupert Murdoch? 2018 is messing with my head

#donald trump #max mosley #spanking #scandal #the daily show #trevor noah

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Y’all know that Scottish people dial the dialect up to max when they’re wanting to fuck with the foreigners, right? If anything, Scots dialect is a sign of intelligence. I mean, it’s the only dialect of English that has poetry in which the word purple rhymes with something (Robert Burns wrote about a purple curple [curple is an archaic word for the thing that holds the saddle on a horse])

We’ll need to agree to disagree on whether “they cups” is legitimate, because I’ve been called classist over insisting that it was “those cups” or death

#scotland the brave #scottish tumblr #grammar #english grammar

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Your brain reverts to the most familiar and therefore likely image.

If I were to put three, sixty degree corners together with gaps between their ends, your brain would fill in the triangle. Once, while [on substances I can’t name here for legal reasons, and therefore not exactly consentingly] hooking up with a guy with a hook nose, skinny lips, and dark hair that started halfway back on his head...well, let’s just say that if you ever meet a guy who thinks “Kubica” is Elvish for “fuck yes,” please don’t set him straight

My point is, on the internet, you’re so likely to be ambushed by unexpected cock that it’s almost a surprise when an image isn’t porn. But it does say a lot about us that our natural leap when we see people touching is to assume they’re being sexual with each other

thought he was sucking dick

#the Kubica incident #affection

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shakespeare was ahead of his time

#what is love? #baby don't hurt me #don't hurt me #no more

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Here is what I said to my friend about all those hate throwing people earlier today and I HONESTLY wish all of us had this attitude. It’s time to wake up. The F1 fandom became dangerously toxic!

“I never ever will understand those people who throw hate against another driver. Never. I am here to cheer my favourites and not to keep me all negative about other I do not care about & I have to admit that it really affects my mental health as soon as I read all that bullshit hate.

Of course I discuss about them when they do wrong but they’re humans, (Freaking incredible ones) of course they make mistakes but nothing of that is something you can’t forgive them. I do this, because I care about them. On the grid, everyone treat the other with respect & so do I. I do not know better than the drivers, in fact I know nothing in that way until they tell us on their social media or unless we can see it on TV by ourselfes.”

I know not many of you notice this text but if you do, please spread positivity for your favorite instead of hate against a driver you dont like. Show respect. For drivers and for fans!

#be positive #don't attack people you don't support

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(Gonna get in trouble for this but sorry I’m not sorry...)

PullandBear are not my favourite clothes on Marc. I prefer something a bit more on the naked side

Marc Marquez for PullandBear ✌

#marc marquez #i'm being inappropriate

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Happy relationship research backs up your epiphany. Studies have found that the happiest couples have very low bullshit tolerance. That is, they speak up when it starts bugging them; they don’t stew about their partner’s/s’ flaws in silence, or avoid a partner’s “opportunities for growth” because they’re afraid their partner will blow up if they mention it.*

Consent is safe, sober, informed, and continuous. If they violate your consent in subtle ways, where is their line? Where does it stop? If they don’t recognise that the “continuous” part of your consent has lapsed (you were okay with it, but now you’re not), or you’re no longer fully informed about the situation (eg. they had a hookup that they didn’t tell you about), that’s a warning sign that should never be ignored

* If your partner blows up when you gently, kindly broach the topic of one of their “opportunities for growth,” they may be an abusive partner. GTFO. You are not the asshole whisperer. You deserve a partner who loves you the way you want to be loved. It may take you a while to make a solid escape plan (that won’t end with you dead, if they’re the physically violent type) and that’s understandable and you do what’s right for you, but GTFO. Here is an article about approaching a friend when you suspect they’re abusing their partner. Here is an article about how to self-care when you’re still in love with your abuser.

one of the most toxic things i’ve ever done is ignore the bad in someone because i love them

#relationships #toxic relationships #feminism #everyday feminism

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I kinda love that Charles showed his discomfort at cuddling a snake without getting angry. There’s a belief in the hegemonic masculinity lit that basically describes manhood as a state of being perpetually unafraid, and if they do feel fear that they should express it as rage. He’s expressing his fear, and not recoiling. This is a healthy response to (reasonable, clearly managed) danger.

Brene Brown talks about this aspect of hegemonic masculinity in [I forget which book, but it might be Braving the Wilderness; she talked about it in an interview with Lewis Howes around when he released Mask of Masculinity; I think she also covered it in one of the later interviews she did with Chase Jarvis; that would position it near Braving on the timeline of her career]. She talks about how we say to little boys, “Don’t be afraid; be brave” when the definition of bravery is acting in the pursuit of a goal in the face of fear. She says we’re framing bravery as something divorced from fear and vulnerability, to the point that she asks “Can you think of an act of courage that didn’t inherently require vulnerability and fear,” in her workshops, and career soldiers are so desperate for her to be wrong that they come up to her afterwards and say, “I’mma get back to you on that courage without vulnerability thing. I’m sure I’ll think of something.”

What you see right there is a man who’s afraid and comfortable enough in himself and his gender identity to express it on camera. Charles gets a healthy masculinity cookie

Charles, regretting his life choices

#Charles Leclerc #cookies for healthy masculinity #healthy masculinity #snake #prudent and evolutionary fears #brene brown #lewis howes #fear #vulnerability

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Aww, c’mon, Lucas just wanted a whinge. He clearly sees Dario as an empathetic ear to whom he could discharge the negative emotion of being demoted for cutting the chicane

Studies have shown that silver medalists are the most miserable people on the podium. Gold is happiest because obvious (although, TBH, Jev just seemed exhausted and relieved). Bronze is second happiest because YAY I’M ON THE PODIUM OMG OMG OMG (see the American Olympian ice skater with the outfits that he told Colbert were “as slutty as possible” and gushed through his whole segment on the show). Silver is the most miserable because OMG the whole world knows I’m first loser. If I had done that thing differently, I could have made up a few milliseconds, added to the few millliseconds I could have saved not doing such-and-such, and if I hadn’t been constantly looking in my mirrors, I could have put more pressure and made up a little bit of time, and I could have got past him at that place where he pulled over a little because I would have been...let me see...I think about 1.5m closer. 1.45ish. Actually, 1.4754, which is almost a full car length. Fuck. Fuck it. Fuck me. I should have been first. Fuck. Fuck. Fuck. Second has the loudest Gollum head-voices. Lucas’ head-voices were troubling him

Lucas di Grassi: It’s impossible to overtake round here

Mitch Evans, after climbing 12 places:

#mitch evans #lucas di grassi #jean eric vergne #jev #punta del este #punta del este eprix #formula e #psychology #psychology of podia #winners #winning #gif #adult language #head voice