#‘it’s okay if we do it equally’

[intelligent-space-gay]

watching Ludwig’s TOTK play through. he goes ‘if ur gonna say smash to a character coming on screen it’s gotta be the guys too otherwise it’s sexist’

king shit. he’s so good for this

#I’m so sick of men just going SMASH to purah #it just feels SO ICK #but this comment ?? #absolutely correct #‘it’s okay if we do it equally’ #king

[chaotic-carnifex]

No hold on I'm gonna make an extra post about this:

I wouldn't choose to be alloromantic

If I were given the choice to either remain aro or become alloro again, I would choose aromanticism.

And I think a lot of people need to hear that.

#aro #aromantic #actually aromantic #safeforaro #alloromantics are encouraged to reblog this #aros aren't the only ones who need to hear that our orientation isn't a consolation prize #too many ppl - both aro-specs and alloros - think that being aro is okay only bc it's not something we choose #with the implicit belief that if we COULD choose then OF COURSE we'd choose to be alloro #bc it's clearly the 'superior' option #and honestly? it's not. #they're equally valid options and which one is 'superior' depends entirely on your own needs and preferences #and my preference is *being aro* #so if you're aro and you feel like yeah sure it's OKAY that you're aro bc you DIDN'T choose this #but if you could you WOULD choose to be alloro? #well maybe being alloro really would be better for you. or maybe it's just internalized amatonormativity. #and I cannot answer for you which one it is - the only one who can is you #all I can do is raise you the OPTION that it might be amatonormativity and then leave you to consider it #so this is for the aros who need to hear that option #and for the alloros who pity us for supposedly getting the short end of the stick #we are not a tragedy

[evankinard]

hear me out kitchen scene is literally going to be eddie going over to buck's to let him know him and marisol broke up and hes going to be like lmao guess we're both single now still want to go go karting 🤪🥰🥳!! and bucks going to be like... about that...

@chronicowboy and I were literally discussing this exact scenario a week ago (minus eddisol break up lmao) but legitimately. legitimately I think there is a very very high chance of this happening. specifically a callback to the go karting and eddie trying to make time for buck only for buck to be like oh. I actually have plans. with tommy. and coming out to eddie

#do yall actually remember me saying i was getting the strongest urge to figure out how to write a fic cause i had a very specific scenario #in mind #it was literally this lmao #it was before we knew the kitchen scene stills were from 705 so i actually thought buck would apologize to tommy before the end of the #episode and tommy would ask him to dinner (NO chin grabbing in my scenario they were leaving room for jesus) #and then eddie would come over and be like okay talk to me. and when buck admits he's felt sidelined and jealous he would apologize and try #to make up for it with the go karting rain check #and then buck says he has a date with tommy blah blah blah #sorry i blacked out remembering how different everything is from last week and how it somehow turned out to equal the most delusional spec #we could ever make #crazy. Crazy #911 spoilers #weewoo brainrot

[somin-yin]

Props to Heartstopper for showing us we do not owe forgiveness to those who've hurt us.

You tell him Char!! 💪❤️ I've seen some people complaining about Charlie not forgiving Ben, but I think Charlie did nothing wrong. He has all the right in the world not to forgive a person who hurt him and who left him with so much trauma. And he didn't even wish him ill. No, choosing not to forgive a person is not the same as wishing them ill at all. I'm pretty sure anyone who has been hurt in the past can relate to this feeling of wanting the other person to become better but away from you, which is fairly logical because no one would like to be near someone who hurt them 🤷‍♀️

#I seriously don't get why there's discourse about this、this was a much-needed scene #to show us we do not have to forgive people who have hurt us if we don't want to and that's perfectly okay #again I repeat: not wanting to forgive them doesn't equal wishing them ill #Charlie never wished Ben ill、he just wants him out of his life、that's all #heartstopper #charlie spring #heartstopper season 2 #heartstopper s2 #ben hope #hhhhh #heartstopper 2 #kit connor

[obsob]

i never post my jus black n white of these so. here is the pencils for a lament for icarus redraw!! im excited to colour this. nothing gets me going like a warm colour palette 

#mine #if i was icarus i simply wouldnt fly too close to the sun #i lov doing these so fun #like brain 0 thoughts i just see and draw its so relaxing #im aware his leggies look weird but they just do. its just like that #hes got rlly skinny legs baby u gotta work those out too #ive never drawn muscle torso before i actually did okay i think hehe #i was. distracted whilst doing it #i had to crop it bc i didnt want to draw his weird lumpy feet but i drew the nymph at the bottom like rlly well #i did her back real good #GOD im so excited to colour this im losing it okay okay #i should have. lunch. i think my mother has eaten all the bread >:( #i need to get room snacks!!!! room sncacks #did i tell u i started taking probiotic vitamins like gut health ones my GOD #when i first saw the packaging i was like does this have 16 BILLION live cultures in it. no it does not #i want to eat 16 billion bacteria #i feel like that would equal ur daily calorie intake. equivalent of eating a small dog #we walked dog yesterday n we had a hire car so i had to have him on my lap hes so wiggly #anyway i will colour this soon n post it eheheheheh gna make icarus trans

[itspileofgoodthings]

Nina and I are unfortunately like dynamite and gunpowder. something happens and we’re just like oh yeah? You wanna go? Let’s go! Meet me in the ring bitch!

#part of our power is the insane SPEED and then reconciliation of our fights #we forgive and communicate as fast as we fight #but there is no one in the world who makes me just SAY the shit I shouldn’t say than her #like she just. she herself is so fast and so blunt and so ruthless and so bullying and so LOUD #that it fires me right up and it’s like okay well FINE the gloves are off #but then it makes me anxious after like. did I say something TOO hurtful #Nina and I always joke we have the RANGE #because for all of my we’re the struggling married couple of sisters #we also have times where the fun and exchange of ideas is flowing #and this ability to say and hear things to/from each other that most people don’t/can’t? #like. the level of rock-solid trust is SO high. but equally high is our wildly differing personalities and worldview #so there isn’t anything quite like it and it can be confusing from the outside #like I HAVE to meet her in the parking lot because she’ll be being the WORST #but also she thinks I am being the worst #but anyway I do hate when a fight seems like NEW territory #and then I always worry that I have done irreversible damage #I can hear Nina in my head mocking that very idea because she is so tough #and mocking the anxiety of me being like nothing can ever be okay again #but life and certain subjects have been traumatizing in the past year #so idk what is safe exactly right now #I am FULLY rambling and having a million thoughts at once #but yeah #SORRY FOR SWEARING #twice

[pinkeoni]

Willing to be controversial but I do not think Mike's family relationship or coming out to them is a point the show sees as important. I feel like that is more of Will's arc if anything due to how it has been emphasized throughout the seasons. And I know it is like a popular take but I don't think the show will add a homophobia plotline to Mike's character. I think he's just gonna come out to Karen, and Karen will be understanding and Ted will not give a shit.

Where is that Reddit comment that says “Oh you poked the bear”?

Since this tends to be a bit if a touchy subject for some, I wanna try to answer in as nuanced a way as possible. And since this is kind of an exhausted topic, I’ll put it under a cut.

So starting with whether or not Mike is going to come out—

At this moment in time, I think Mike is much farther from being ready to have a coming out moment than Will is. Could it still happen? It could, and at that point it would depend on how the show handles it. I would honestly really appreciate a coming out scene, but I don’t think it’s a necessity for Mike’s story to be satisfactory. Mike is still gay even if it’s not explicitly stated. Furthermore, Mike can still reach a state of self acceptance without telling other people, it’s so long as he accepts it for himself that is the important thing.

As for the family thing...

I think it would be inaccurate of me to say that Mike's family and home life doesn't effect Mike. Of course it does, in the way that it does every character. And considering how much of a presence the Wheeler family seems to have had in every season, it would be stupid of me to say that they won't have an appearance or that they won't be connected to Mike's arc.

So I think that Mike's family relationship will be there, and it'll have value in the same way that everything in the show has value, big or small, however I don't think it's false of me to say that Will's family relationship is probably going to be more of a central focus.

This isn't me comparing traumas (which is a thing that can and does happen) or saying that Mike's experiences aren't important, but looking at how they function in this story, especially with the knowledge that Will is going to be a major focus next season, then it's reasonable to assume that the Byers family is probably going to be more at the center than the Wheelers.

There's also a lot more unresolved with the Byers family ie Lonnie and his involvement, and yes I am still so confident that he is coming back, if not just from the fact that Jonathan keeps bringing him up in every season. There's also a lot of mystery surrounding Lonnie, whereas with the Wheelers most of it is all there on the table.

My take on the Wheelers is that they are complicated. Perfect parents? No. Abusive? No. I'm not really gonna state where I stand on the "neglectful" debate as I feel like that word exists on a sliding scale that changes depending on who is using it. I was talking about it with Jo @wheelersboy and we agreed that the biggest problem with the Wheelers is that they are passive conformists, which I talk a little bit about in my AIDS post. They conform passively and have the privilege to not have to confront the consequences behind it. When they are at the town hall meet and come face-to-face with the extreme end of conformity, it's a huge smack in the face for them. By the end of the season, they begin to slowly de-conform.

I think that Mike’s core conflict has to do with his feelings of worthlessness and insecurity, and it will end with him realizing his worth for exactly who he is. I think this is absolutely influenced by his exterior environment, but ultimately it will be up to Mike himself to solve this conflict.

#okay idk if its actually as nuanced as possible but thats generally my take 🤷🏼‍♀️ #i see the take often that st is an ensemble show which… is TRUE but at the same time some characters do get more focus than others #sometimes to the detriment of other characters and sometimes just because thats how main characters work #will is probably going to have more focus than mike next season because we were told this. #it doesnt make mike unimportant though #but yes one characters story is going to be more central than the other #my hope is that each character gets the proper amount of time necessary for their individual arc even its wishful thinking #which may not mean equal screentime for each character

[snixx]

mike wheeler in the fic I'm reading has exactly as much tact as I did in high school. what can I say sometimes you really do have to learn the hard way that you do not immediately ask your best friend who is also your soon-to-be ex's sibling "nothing's going to change between us no matter how much your sister and i hypothetically hate each other in the future right?" when you're LITERALLY still in the middle of your very messy breakup and they're furious at you secondhand because of #siblingsolidarity. not to mention he handled the break up itself like an ass like go off thank you author i love it truly the representation for us completely oblivious emotionally challenged idiots we're starved of otherwise NO ONE EVER GETS HOW STUPID WE CAN TRULY BE

#girlblogging.pdf #byler #mike wheeler i know what you are #willel #as someone who has a lot of mutual friends with my sister AND as someone friends with a lot of siblings #i obviously love all my friends to death and they love me but #if you have a choice. for future reference trust me do not befriend two siblings pick one if you must #it's an emotional shitshow for everyone involved #you have to give each of them exactly equal amounts of affection and love and everything all the time that's just the rule #you're an ass otherwise #also we will always pick each other over you even if you did nothing wrong #just know what you're in for when you befriend siblings okay it's not easy #you know my childhood ex best friend i keep posting about? we broke up over a fight she had with my sister #also my best friends are siblings and fighting with both of them because it was a both or neither situation in school was The Worst #i have like a zillion more stories just trust me okay #i love my sibling friends to pieces and the mutual friends i have with my sister and i wouldnt trade them for the world #but im sure as hell not befriending siblings simultaneously in the future #my sister and i are literally the tightest now too because our social circles barely overlap #anyway. that was another episode of me projecting way too hard onto byler fanfiction hope you enjoyed #vagueposting the shit out of tumblr dot com

[gayhenrycreel]

yet another day of blocking popular blogs for supporting an organisation that they would hate if they were killing their own people but nooooooooo its okay to kill random Jews apparently.

#antisemitism #israel #you fucks gotta realise that its never okay to kill civilians #would you cheer if hamas killed civilians of the fascist state #of america? #israels GOVERNMENT is bad #target the goverments in charge of killing Palestinians #america is responsible for the genocide in Vietnam #if i cheered on an organisation killing american citizens as “revenge” #id be ridiculed #and rightly so #but why is it okay to kill israeli civilians? #is it because you think the middle east is somehow lacking the same nuances as the west? #im an anarchist #people are always victims of their governments #no one is free until we are all free #do you think israelis are somehow less human than americans? #if you viewed everyone as true equals #you would see that the people of Israel do in fact protest against their government #and Palestinians speak out against hamas

[themyscirah]

Wait omg..... Jessica Cruz probably did rifle... my specialized sports knowledge coming in CLUTCH

Okay so I barely practiced and made it to regionals like once so im NOT the expert here but uh headcanoning that Jess did air rifle when she was a teen. Like idk if it would be as part of a team like with a high school (what I'm familiar with) vs like an individual thing vs like a travel/competitive team (it depends on the sitch in her area growing up) but she definitely went to some national matches (probably including JOs/JO quals like i think she was GOOD). I think she probably would have quit competitively following a bad shot at nationals (relatable) along with anxiety about competition (ALSO relatable) but still kept up with shooting casually for fun and relaxation and to hang out with friends etc.

She definitely would have shot smallbore competitively too but I never did that bc I was lazy so idk to much abt it competitively

#and by bad shot i mean a 0 #it hurts me to even think abt doing that during a match actually esp at fucking JOs #a girl on my team did that and im sure it was devastating (we never let her live it down after too) but like dang. i feel that pain #im just saying she would vibe sooooooo hard with rifle. like canonically they just said she did it but im talking air in particular #also in the panel they said six which first off. humphries bro thats TOO young ik youre trying to be impressive but youre talking abt rifle #here. if someones let their kid have a gun at 6 theres actually smth wrong with them. and not even a bb or smth wtf #ANYWAYS you guys haveeeee to understand this. jess would go so hard for rifle she would fit right in w every competitive shooter ive ever #met istg- #she would be out there on the porch 35° weather in full gear mid match crying w the rest of us it would be great #wait wait shoutout to the time i had to get smth from my car and there were like 4 ppl out there crying during the middle of standing #like i literally FEEL THAT SO HARD (weve all been there) but also like... awkwarddddddd #4 is an unusually large amount though. normally its like 2 ppl at a time first relay. with more 1st relay ppl crying after than during #gosh rifle omg this is making me miss it #<<<<freshman/sophomore me would kill me for saying this btw. i HATED practicing so bad then omg #OH and Jess would be a kneeling girlie. fave position. why ? bc i said so shut up #no but bc its my favorite position (yes i know its the worst okay. im aware of all the reasons kneelings sucks and why everyone hates it. #but you know what? kneeling hates everyone equally and i respect that) no but uh yeah ✌️✌️✌️✌️ #top 10 posts that are 80% jargon and only i care about 😘 #anyways this is canon to me now actually #like idc what you say she was down in the trenches (the range) w the rest of us #also ik she almost certainly would have shot paper but in my mind she practices mainly w electronic bc thats what i used (even if its super #uncommon and is only used at the nice ranges) if she was super competitive she would probably have driven to shoot electronic. lets just say #there was a paper nearby and an electronic scoring range a bit farther or smth #anyways yeah #WAIT OMG SHE DEFINITELY MET HER FRIENDS FROM HER BACKSTORY THROUGH RIFLE #and the dating drama too omg rifle drama was INSANE. like i was almost always out of the loop bc i never practiced and didnt have snapchat #but like the drama was INSANE. fucking wild. at least to my nerdy ass self. so her relationship drama makes total sense now okay babe fr #jessica cruz #blah

[luxrayz64]

does anyone else ever think abt ai no uta. the song released in tandem with pikmin 1, and included as an easter egg in pikmin 2, sung from the pikmins pov about how they are aware of and embrace their own mortality, how disposable each pikmin is, how they'll follow their captain to the death even if the captain doesn't care for them. "today again we'll carry, multiply, fight and be eaten" can anyone hear me. it's so dark in here

#pikmin really is such a unique series #the first one is like. extremely aware of and comfortable with death #the pikmin tend to get the cute + marketable treatment but make no mistake they know that they'll die and they're okay with that #between ai no uta being the pikmin saying 'we would die for you and we don't care if you don't love us back' but also the 30 day time limit #+ bringing the enemies corpses back to make more pikmin #the pikmin series is about nature. right. and nature is equal parts beautiful and grisly #there's beauty in death. your pikmin died but because they died you're a little closer to surviving #your pikmin died fighting that giant but now they can take it back and create more pikmin out of it #and so many people go in thinking it's a cutesy kids game with goofy character and creature design #I think you're meant to wonder what the pikmin would do if you died #and if you have a dandori issue you get to find out that yes they do take your dying body back to their onion #but you don't get consumed. you get a leaf. you become a pikmin #and you have to wonder why they brought you back. did they know it would save you? did it save you because they love you? #does the onion know what you did for them and pay you back out of kindness? or is it because it knows you're the key to survival #cutting myself off here because this post really got away from me #something about love and mortality #espeon cries #analysis

[theworldisabrokenbonebutitishome]

Sure, yes, of course Ye Liuxi's got a slim waist, but when are we going to talk about Chang Dong's slim waist? Hm?? #equality

#twabbbiih's low quality gifs #West out of the yumen #Parallel World #Chang Dong #Ye Liuxi #Ni ni #Bai yu #i believe in equal rights and if we're going to be weird about a womans body then we need to be weird about a mans too #he goes from cutely confused to war flashbacks in seconds. the power this woman has #when the waist was first brought up i was a bit ew but then liuxi tormented him over it and i was a bit more okay with it #it does feel like they're talking in code eventually though #long post #i do not know why the colouring is so hideous in this scene

[hyp3rfixation-h3ll]

burgertron HATE ged prep . burgertron PILEDRIVE WHOEVER MADE IT SO THAT YOU HAVE TO TAKE 4 SEPARATE TESTS TO GET A PIECE OF PAPER THAT SAYS YOU DID IT into THE FUCKING DIRT!!!!!!!

#the captain's rambles #if you couldnt tell im having a bit of a rough time <:'] #my mom is like “oh well youre Making it stressful it's gonna be okay” I HAVE TO FUCKING DO SHIT WITH VARIABLES #THIS SHIT WOULD BE STRESSFUL EVEN IF I *WASNT* ALREADY DREADING DOING IT #i HATE education i HATE SCHOOL i hate everything this STUPID SYSTEM STANDS FOR and most importantly I LOATHE VARIABLS #whoever put LETTERS ?? in MATH??? Die. #because now i have to fucking figure out what x and y are on a practice test #i dont even HATE math normally. in every other instance of math im actually okay w/ solving questions #ged math ??? is on some shit #FUCK geds man i hate it here . i wanna just fuck off and go do whatever and be productive with something i Actually Enjoy Doing #not having to sit here and do tests so i can get a piece of paper that does nothing but allow me to apply for a community college #<- a place i am EQUALLY unexcited for and dreading #miserable fucking books i have to do work in. and then i gotta do like 4 different equally fucking miserable tests for each subject #and then i have to pray to god i didnt fail and i got the minimum passing grade of AT LEAST 145 out of *200.* #im going to destroy Everything. #i dont want congratulations for doing this shit either because i didnt wanna do it IN THE FIRST PLACE !!!!!! #im only doing this because i HAVE TO to get my parents off my ass about it not because i WANNA #if it were up to me i'd be doing just art and collecting or other hobbies i ACTUALLY ENJOY and i wouldnt be worrying about academics #but we cant have nice things so now i have to stress abt this shit like a college student studying for midterms #rant over. im gonna go eat now . pray 4 me that i dont kill someone /lh

[musical-chick-13]

One of the WORST parts of having OCD is that some of the Fears™ are actually humanly possible, so it's not like my response can just be, "Oh that'll never happen" or even "I've never seen that happen, so it's probably unlikely."

#like. okay. for example. 2019 me: 'better do cleaning compulsions because oh no what if I get the Plague™' #fast forward a year to covid and that was genuinely a very real possibility. I could LITERALLY catch the plague #or on a smaller more personal scale: 'no one is going to screenshot a Bad Line™ of your fic and publicly make fun of it online-people #don't do that it'd be so extra why tf would you be afraid of that happening' except I JUST saw someone literally do that. so we engage in #Avoidance Compulsions™ as a protective mechanism because the only way to avoid a feared outcome is to never do anything! 🙃🙃 #and okay yeah these things are not created equal and one of them probably doesn't actually matter the point I'm trying to make is that #this shit affects my life on EVERY level and I WOULD VERY MUCH LIKE FOR IT NOT TO DO THAT #I AM TIRED OF THE BRAIN DISEASE BEING HERE I WOULD LIKE TO BE A MENTALLY HEALTHY PERSON PLEASE #*sigh* yeah yeah the answer is erp the answer is always erp that doesn't mean it's fun #mc13 and her ocd #I'll probably delete this later because it most likely makes me look completely and utterly absurd if not straight-up stupid #(no one ELSE with this disease or fears is absurd or stupid btw. just me. it's only me who is A Problem™) #(yes I know how that sounds. I know okay.)

[melviships]

(sees all the shit everyone is going through) (sees I have to support the batshit decisions they make in order for them to be romanced / favored) mm, ah, okay, sure

#melviships talks #[this post is about bg3] #wyll stuff specifically is especially sad because it's like okay I have to kill your dad and even then your abuser is sTILL HERE ??? #WTF ???? #Astarion I want to feel bad for you because trust me I've been there #but as someone with npd we can absolutely do better and this is not how we do it #karlach is completely justified in her anger and she's aware of how she can hurt people #but I'm scared to see how Larian treats her especially since she is tied to Wyll #and we see how that is ! #and Gale dammit I know you get compared to Anders but at least he was a catholic guilt ridden guy about it #we can stop all this without you exploding and without you getting a god complex- actually wait I'm totally fine getting equal footing #but maybe let's not- actually it would be fitting of my cleric who is morally grey.... to fight a god.... #okay Gale we're building a bridge I promise #but you better not become a dickhead with power - we share the fruits of our labor and stand together #edit: talked to Mystra #uhhhh hm #well #I feel a lil better about this all <- cleric brained

[borderlinegerard]

i hope i die, you broke my heart

#personal #my posts #so fucking tired oh my god #just yelled at my sister so loud that my throat is sore over a piece of fuciing plastic #sometimes ecerytbinf feels so bad and its like. what do i even do #like ok i relapse and i need a break from someone and they loose their fucking shit on me #taljing about how you always deal with my shit and youre tired of how i see you as the worst in the group #as if i didnt literally repeat to you over and over again that i love you and that i always will even when you kept denying it #all of the times youve left all the servers and the gc and all that and i was there to comfort you #theres a reason im always the person you go to #byt yeah . im neverrrr there for you #like is it just that im not there for you in the Same Way that youre there forme ?? #does it need to be completely equal to be fair #and idk. i know hes struggling too but its so fucking stupid because ive been struggling for months and i dont treat u like tjat #im tired of feeling like i have to do two times more than everyone else ro be worthy of their love #like sorry man but im fucking sick and tired #i know ill be fine without you but like youre so sick right now that i dont know what youll do without all of us #idk im just like. you used to be so kind but now youre writing your name in mu blood #and sometimes i feel bad because i didnt mean evedytbinf i said to you but lets be honest #you didnt mean everyrbinf you said either #and i dont know if you were ever the right person because a lot of the time i think we are just two chemicals that werent meant to mix #but ill always remember you when i hear that one song and im making it sound like this is some kind if goodbye but it Really isnt #but like there was a time when i would tear myself apart for you. mot even because i liked you that much #i guess i just wanted someone that liked me as much as you did??? #and when j say that it isnt even about one soecific oerson. its an amalgamation of ecery person tgat has ever loved me #a little more than they were supposed to #i think i hate ahen people love me Too Much because i dont want to be adored like that it scares me #iknow what thats like and i dont want to be someone fp Its so scary #okay if im being honest i dont know whbat the fuck im saying right mow #byt like. idk. im tired and i think im done. tbh