#But yeah terfs are hypocrites

[theforesteldritch]

I hate when terfs try to use intersex people against trans people and they say that ‘oh the transgenders are using them as pawns’ like jeez I’m both trans and intersex and you are a hypocrite. You are literally putting intersex people on your chessboard. You are the ones using us as pawns here.

#Intersex #trans #transgender #Gender #actually intersex #terfs do not touch #intersex info #lgbtq #lgbt #lgbtqia #Like at least make us the knights #I’d rather ride around in funky ways #But yeah terfs are hypocrites

[littlegoldfinchh]

bed was so soft that i forgot about my anger for two hours

#then i ran into a recommended post that was written by a terf and . yeah #why was it recommended to me i have no idea. it was about anti makeup stuff like girl have you considered that #some people simply just LIKE using makeup.....? #people like this are the biggest hypocrites. like ''yeah i support women's rights and the your body your choice mentality'' #''unless you put on makeup because you don't even know that makeup only exists to make you attractive to men'' #like girl. idk this makes me agressive #rambling

[daveydavs]

I honestly just cannot fathom being upset if someone in the notes goes "op is [insert bad thing]"?? Like, why are you mad, if you can't be bothered to go and check and can't be bothered to believe the person then why give a fuck?? Idk, I think it's just the "I've been on the internet for years, I used to be obsessed about blocking bad people, but now I see a post, see op is potentially a bad person, and I simply leave the post" like it's not that fucking hard??? Just do not engage, with EITHER party.

#or better yet dont check the notes #no fr its made my mental health better to not worry about every single poster and obsessively scroll through the notes #like obviously if its a post that i do open the notes of and like every note is just “op is a terf” yeah i might block them #but other wise i do not engage #daveyshush #personal #im sorry i saw a post and i was like “why are you so upset that you have made multiple post about this” which this might make me a hypocrite #however #i have a fair point

[just-antithings]

James Somerton was always a hypocrite.

He goes off about "BL bad", but on Twitter he praised a few BL works, including making an entire thread about how "adorable" Sasaki to Miyano, a BL manga, was (to be fair, from what I've seen it IS adorable, but it's funny how he goes on and on about how "fujoshis bad" then praises a show about fudanshis).

He makes an entire video whining about how he should be allowed to like Harry Potter even if its creator is a majorly influential TERF (a video that was since discovered to have been heavily plagiarized from a Vox article that was written by a trans woman, so that's fuckin' cool /s) but then makes a video where he basically does the cinematic equivalent of "read another book" in response to people still engaging with Disney after their support of the "Don't Say Gay" bill.

I guess now I understand why the Harry Potter and Disney videos feel like they were written by two entirely different people. It's because they were, and I'm willing to bet that neither of them were James.

yeah it sounds like he’s been shitty for a long time but people have just been ignoring it

#mod erin #ask #just asshole things

[sexisdisgusting]

I always love seeing women on Radblr act proud about being added to terf blocklists but I admit I’m a huge wuss and feel terrified of ending up on one (I’m actually a mootina but I changed to anonita for this because I’m paranoid someone who possibly hate-reads your blog could see this and add me to a blocklist lol)

I know that probably makes me a hypocrite and a bad radfem but yeah 😔

omg ur so not a wuss for this, i understand where this feeling comes from

it doesnt make you a hypocrite or bad radfem, it makes you a human woman who is aware of how the world treats women with differing opinions: horribly

i love you mootina, youre so strong

#asks #anon asks

[wndaswife]

I’m the anon from @/wandanatsversion and you and your other same group of mutuals here on tumblr seriously proved our point lmao. If we’re terfs so be it. Pls just remember, there are tons of wlw people that are NOT on social media that do agree with us. This is coming from someone who is a person of color and has people think that I go by they/them but don’t. It’s the fact that you guys started bashing us for having our own opinions and going stalking through wandanatsversion’s likes that began this whole “drama” in the marvel wlw fandom. I swear, idk what’s with this fandom that has a new drama in every week 😭

As someone who was like I said very liberal but is moderate that agrees on certain points on each side (dems/repubs), you and the others seriously need to understand that just cause someone disagree with your damn views, does not mean you have to harass the person at all and it’s funny that you mention why I had to be anon. It’s cause people in this circle likes to not only harass, but dox, or block our accounts from reading your guys fics. And I’m not gonna waste my time making a huge ass account just to read some writing.

Seriously, I wonder how you guys act irl because having this type of mindset in the professional world is just not gonna cut it.

Oh and let’s not forget how some of you guys even bullied a couple of authors here for writing shit that’s now apparently okay because you guys chose it’s okay to write about (GP).

All you guys are hypocrites it’s mind blowing lmao.

Have a good day 😄

yeah idc im still gonna suck some girl’s dick n enjoy myself…. does that scare u….. lesbians sucking cock…. ooooooohhhh you’re getting very scared oooooo im gonna give a girl a handjob ooooooo

#rae responds #anon

[homestuckexamination]

I'm not convinced Mituna isn't bad representation. Of course, there is a lot of dubious stuff in Homestuck. And I'm not saying you can't consume something critically. But I can't help feeling a hypocrite for boycotting Rowling and continuing to ignore the dubious stuff in homestuck (especially the use of the r*t*** word). I guess you could say that at least Hussie developed and learnt from their mistakes (not true for Rowling is it)... Is that a good enough excuse to continue to like Homestuck?

Yeah no, I said I don't think I could say he's good rep, at all.

However, I am going to make my stance on this very clear. 'Especially the use of the r slur'.

Homestuck is an indie Fandom Internet thing, that started as a parody of CYOA comics of the era, and has humor that is very of its era, as well as inherent biases of Hussie being a white American- Including, as you mentioned, the use of slurs, or racial insensitivity, and ableist stuff through the entirety of its run.

It doesn't matter how much you hate Homestuck. It doesn't matter whether you think any of this is redeemable or forgivable. Without even looking at the Authors and what they've done with their fame, Harry Potter is a mainstream franchise to an extent Homestuck could never be. Homestuck is an Internet Meme. Harry Potter is a Cultural Phenomenon. If you find a lone Homestuck reference in some new TV show, you point at it in surprise like "WHAT?". If a series has an Entire Episode parodying Harry Potter, it's almost basically expected. Even if they were equivalent in what they do wrong- With they're not- The reach and impact of these two franchises are entirely incomparable.

But then take, also, the Authors of the content. Hussie grew up alongside their work, work which queer youth related to, and they embraced it, and even eventually came out as non-binary themself. They let WP handle the franchise, with Hiveswap and HS^2- Regardless of what your personal opinion on the WP Team and any of what they've done may be, it's a largely queer group of artists and writers and musicians, who were given an 'official' blessing by Hussie to go wild, and they brought a lot of creativity and good rep to the table and interesting talking points. Take Homestuck. Take Psycholonials. At its core, there's an inherently queer, leftist narrative, interesting conversation regarding identity and what it means to Be, and growing up in different circumstances, and being friends with a bunch of people online, and dealing with the climate of world around us.

Then take Rowling, who's used her fame to promote blatant transphobia and cause harm- Tangible, real harm in UK Politics, to trans youth, who's emboldened transphobes and strengthened the TERF Movement, and whose work is entrenched in antisemitism, among other things, whose most recent work reads like an 'I'm not owned, I'm not owned!' scream villifying trans disabled youth and painting an analogue for herself as some helpless victim, and it's like...

I'm not saying Homestuck is perfect, god no. I am not saying you have to like it. I'm not saying you have to forgive Hussie for any of the times they have fucked up, or that they're beyond criticism. But dear God they're not the same, they're on two completely different scales, and if your sense of morality makes you feel that liking Homestuck is the same as liking Harry Potter, you need to re-evaluate how you gauge morality and harmful media.

And on that topic...

'Is there an excuse?' Why are you seeking, externally, for an excuse to consume media? Why do you need external validation in order to determine whether media is 'redeemable' before you can consume it? Only you can determine how much you can put up with Something until it becomes Not For You. Personally? I think what Hussie tried to convey with Homestuck, its themes, its characters, and the kind of author Hussie has shown to be, as well as how Homestuck has developed in general over the years, is really nice, and I still enjoy Homestuck, and I am going to keep enjoying Homestuck, no matter how many prior points are framed as problematic, or how many times something Hussie said once is brought up, unless Hussie did like, a 180 turn and started weaponizing Homestuck for queer hatred and an overt call to genocide or shit like that, which... Doesn't just happen, you know- Meanwhile in that same vein, Harry Potter has become entrenched, in my mind, with all the harm Rowling has caused, its monetization is being actively used to harm people like me, and Terfs have co-opted it entirely as a Dogwhistle. Those are my values. That's what I believe. Your values and what you believe may differ from mine.

Don't look to the Internet and Popular Opinion for advice. Don't look for 'problematic points' and 'redeemability'. You can enjoy absolute trash that has a lot of problems just because you like it and you don't think it's like, harmful. You can be uncomfortable by problematic points in a series others tell you is good, because you can't handle that kinda stuff, and decide not to watch it.

There's no gauge.

This is not to mean you shouldn't trust people's opinions or anything but like... Don't look to others for morality trying to excuse yourself like it feels shameful otherwise. Inform yourself through what they say, but make your opinion yourself, once informed.

#Homestuck #Harry Potter #HSE #TERF Stuff #TERFs #Hussie #JK Rowling #Ableism #Racism #Queerphobia #Transphobia

[mschelle]

To all of my 9 singular followers I hope you all have come to realize how much of a whiny fucking bigoted loser @photomatt is and how he cares about the reputation of himself and tumblr staff more than an actual fucking human being. "Ohhh boo hoooo I'm being subjected to looney toons cartoon violence this text is a personal attack on me help me im so scawed :'''[ anyways I'm going to report you to the fbi and wipe you from the face of the earth bye bye" what a fucking hypocritical manipulative fucking PIECE OF SHIT. He is so fucking blatantly lying and making up a whole victim complex while DELIBERATELY MISCONSTRUING THE WGOLE SITUATION saying predstrogen got banned for "targeted harassment" when he fucking KNOWS that the issue was originally about "sexually explicit content" when it was literally JUST HER FUCKING FACE. LITERALLY JUST FROM NORMAL PHOTOS OF HER TRANSITION TIMELINE. She has been the target of violent transmisogynistic harassment for ages from terfs and you know it and don't take action but the moment even the slightest thing said about you and staff is even uttered you throw a fucking pissbaby tantrum and IP ban her from the god damn platform meanwhile this platform is continually being infested by fucking TERFS AND NAZIS which you said you would "condemn nazis" and "hateful behavior from anyone who 'identifies as terfs'" (yeah take that last line into account cause apparently terfs aren't implied as inherently hateful like nazis) but what are you even doing about that huh? Where is this action you said you were going to take cause I don't fucking see anything about that yet!!!! You fucking know the harm you're doing why don't you just go full fucking mask off already and cut the bullshit!!!! FUCK YOU. Photo Matt can go suck a Photo Dick. Like just suck it up paper and all and fucking choke on it and the paper momentarily pops out of his mouth and sucker punches him as he falls off a cliff oh OOPSIE!! hope I don't get banned for that one teehee

so, to sum it up into multiple words, FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU FUCK YOU

#carhammerexplosionmatt #🚗🔨⚒️💥 #transgender #trans rights #fuck photomatt #fuck all of you

[butchmartyr]

https://www.tumblr.com/roadhogsbigbelly/739165093070290944/

OH MY GOD Not fucking transmascpetewentz on the notes saying

"Ashktually this asker is a transandrophobic antisemite and he- I mean they called that terf post's trans men part a dogwhistles because those damn androphobes don't think trans men can be mspec lesbians (and definitively has nothing to do with the fact that radfems will always see transmascs as nothing but wombyn females and that's why they lump them with butch cis lesbians) Therefore you're right OP they're a hypocrite"

And then OP leaving his comments as the only ones in the post

Yeah no wonder roadhogfag is scum he's lightly giving transmisogynist liberal zionists the reason over transfems taking the time to leave shit clear as water god I hope all TMEs kill themselves tbh

birds of a feather treat women subhuman together!

and this is actually so fucking funny from this specific transmisogynistic dumbass when my SPARSE objections to trans men lesbianism have been entirely on a basis of anti-bioessentialism, meanwhile these guys go around theorizing how transfems actually totally have male socialization and can’t understand misogyny but like, progressive and trans this time. these people are genuinely beneath us 👍

#I also just. don’t call people zionists in the first place. lol #kvetching #tbros

[crippled-peeper]

hypocrite

it’s fucking hilarious you want everyone to take you seriously and respect your dumbfuck transphobia when your blog is mostly (very badly) written straight porn and you are a cis woman scream crying that all trans people are neckbeards for not wanting to fuck you

weren’t you literally the one spamming “nobody owes anyone respect!!!!!!!” in my notes this morning? yeah. nobody owes you anything either you stupid cunt. go cry about it where your terf friends will console you and reassure you your titty icon and bad nudes are still an adequate replacement for treating other ppl like human beings

[smute]

and another thing: russia being banned while israel is allowed to participate is hardly hypocritical considering that the ebu didnt want to ban russia either lmao. they are amazingly quixotic when it comes to their apolitical ideals and only banned russia after half of eastern europe and scandinavia threatened to pull out – like they went from "its ok both ukraine and russia can participate" to "ok yeah maybe not" literally overnight. they also only banned them from last year's contest initially, which then caused russian broadcasters to withdraw from the union, and from there it snowballed into a permanent expulsion. its also not surprising if you're familiar with esc history (israel has participated twice as often and for twice as long as russia) or frankly with the cultural and political relations between europe and israel

anyway. the real hypocrisy is people on this here webbed site being able to (correctly) draw a distinction between an evil democratically backsliding empire with fucked up politics and its citizens when it's about russia ("most russians are against the war!"). or the us ("remember that americans are the first victims of american policy!"). or the uk ("terfs are a loud minority! most brits are poor and couldnt care less about the monarchy!"). or france ("support the protesters!"). or literally any other country. but when some israeli pop girly gets on stage y'all see red and scream colonizer like she's launching missiles at gaza straight from liverpool. half of you haven't touched a newspaper since your last elementary school crafting project but of course you have all the correct opinions and could solve the israeli palestinian conflict by tomorrow

#sorry if this sounds cynical #now its my turn to be bitter #eurovision #&

[anti-ao3]

Yo, I just wanted to ask for clarification on something but you don’t have to respond-

AO3 absolutely shouldn’t be glorified, nor should it be allowed to host the deplorable shit that it does, but do you think people shouldn’t use ao3 at all? It’s the largest fic website out there and is one of the only places to get seen that has like working tag systems and stuff like that. Most of my friends (we’re all antishippers btw) still post fics on ao3 simply because it’s the best place to.

I guess my overall question is: are you anti-ao3 all together or are you anti-what type of shit ao3 is being used to stand for?

Well, I would certainly be a hypocrite if I said nobody should use AO3. I still use the website, but like you said, it's because AO3 is (unfortunately) the most relevant fanfic website nowadays. Most of my following as a writer comes from AO3. Though to be fair, I rarely read fanfiction there nowadays, I only use AO3 to post my stuff (always moderating comments ofc).

So yeah, I personally don't blame you or any other anti-p/roship for still using AO3, I know it's a more complicated matter. For instance, Tumblr fucking sucks (the staff is equally awful, TERFs and nazis are everywhere etc.) but we're still here because it's better than a lot of social media nowadays.

Then again, I feel like it's more important to listen to people who were negatively affected by AO3 - because I admit I'm rather privileged on that matter -, so that's why I'm not against AO3 dying. It does a lot more harm than good.

#asks #i hope i answered your question lol #i feel like it's too complicated to answer smth straightforward

[bi-sapphics]

bi women whining about lesbians having boundaries is the REASON some lesbians prefer les4les relationships smh

okay, i said i didn't wanna get into this too much, but this ask is kinda pissing me off because it's yet again dismissing us calling out the very real and harmful treatment we face as "whining." i'm going to put effort into this answer, because i haven't seen anyone talking about it outside of twitter and i'd like a post i can fall back on for reference.

ANYWAYS.

what boundaries though, anon? please do specify. because i've heard plenty of reasons for deciding to go les4les float around many times now, and they've never expanded out of the following criteria (and anything related):

Bi Women Bad™

bi women are tainted by men

(potential) attraction to men ruins a relationship where no men are involved

bisexuals cheat (yeah, still, it's a belief)

all bisexuals are polyamorous, dirty, liars, uncommitted, etc.

bisexuals inherently can't be gold stars, which, matters for some clean purity reason i guess??

bi women "don't understand" what it is to live a life solely dedicated to women and other sapphics (+ to exclude men), and/or somehow "couldn't provide" a lesbian what they're looking for in a relationship. this has NEVER been elaborated on, especially the latter idea. and theoretically speaking, lack of experience doesn’t make for worse or lesser support.

if a bisexual identifies as butch or femme, it ruins the unnecessary safety illusion that all butch/femme relationships will be les4les without fail. it's literally just the same TERF rhetoric as the safety illusion that all WLW relationships will be AFAB4AFAB. no, really, unpack that. what makes you feel safer about knowing your partner isn't transfem, or, y'know, bisexual (also one is much more conceptual than the other, which is more materialistic. so like. yeah. what's the point.)

bi women aren't apologetic to lesbians for who they are 24/7 and therefore oppress them

bi women "are homo/lesbophobic" (see: not tolerating biphobia & harassment, using butch/femme, being dykes, using the term "sapphic", using the ⚢ symbol, sharing a history with lesbians without needed permission, daring to ask for a community of solidarity with lesbians, not exclusively dating women in their own personal lifestyle choices, etc.)

the false and generalized assumption that *all* bi women are *actually* homo/lesbophobic (see: forcing lesbians to like men, claiming comphet can't be real because it makes one bisexual instead, erasing canon lesbian characters, derailing lesbian posts, being ignorant towards lesbian issues, and/or otherwise treating lesbians really shitty and not including them where they belong, etc.) ─ including this one because for some reason, it's a one-way street and the reverse is bad-faith, bigoted, and exclusionary.

ETA: bi people don't talk enough about mspec lesbians, apparently (even though they do so pretty much all the time on twitter but ok)

keep in mind that these are all things that i have ACTUALLY SEEN being used as arguments consistently over time with my own eyes, unironically. and yes, they are always about bi women. who else would it be, pan women? other mspec women? who else could be a potential romantic/sexual partner to lesbians? who else is les4les designed to be a protective shield against?

i've never seen a good faith reason that isn't either biphobic, misogynistic, a combination of both, or two-sided in a way that acknowledges bi women can't oppress lesbians, despite how much we try to add that when we agree that lesbians don't oppress bi women either. or even anything that doesn't exclude the fact that, behaviorally, we can do anything that you can too (not regarding inherent attraction).

i guess i'll address bi4bi while i'm at it. i'm not a hypocrite, i think the same thing goes for us. lesbians can't oppress us, lesbians can do whatever another bi sapphic can, yes lesbians can be biphobic but it's not a trait they all share in one big hivemind ─ and it's certainly not enough in numbers to consider a bi separatism movement for radical purity reasons (*cough* lol lmao), etc. i've seen some people say bi4bi is acceptable because mspec hatred within the queer community is so much worse than monos get within their own rightful spaces, which, i see where they're going i guess (because we do face the highest statistics from both sides), but i disagree because in the LB dynamic neither letter has more power over the other in the real world, and certainly not enough to unbalance ourselves into inconsistency like that.

the other thing i want to say is, i don't inherently have a problem with any random les4les or bi4bi relationship picked out of a hat in a lottery. i even headcanon some of my favorite ships as such sometimes. also, factually, some fictional ships and even real relationships are one of those two, or bi4les/les4bi. as i said in the tags you're responding to, anon, these types of relationships aren't inherently flawed, especially if they form by chance and not intentional setup. in fact, those like t4t, aut4aut, ace4ace / aro4aro / aro4ace*¹, blk4blk, disabled4disabled, and the like actually have a systemic and structural reason for setting their preferences. but doing this just to avoid other sapphics? the "safety" reason is absolute bullshit, and just creates a further unnecessary divide among mono and mspec sapphics that really shouldn't be created. we're not a danger to each other, we're both in danger from everyone else ─ namely, the straights™.

hell, i would even say casually looking for a partner who shares your orientation labels is totally valid, even though the preference would have no real basis or weight if it's not in bigotry. and then if you fall in love with someone and they don't meet that expectation, so what!! who cares!! it'd be a really dumb loss of opportunity to say no due to that minor and irrelevant difference despite the fact that you both seemed ready to commit to each other as partners. that, and actively excluding harmless groups of people, making it your life mission at all costs, especially for a few twitter discourse points™, is such a waste and only hurts real people's feelings, yourself included.

you're welcome to send another ask just to mock me or say i'm wasting my time proving your point by whining about “the mean angry oppressive lesbians”, or whatever i dunno. but i just want you to ask yourself what really makes these particular "boundaries" so important to you. what makes you feel threatened? we're not forcing you to go date a bi woman right the fuck now or else you're Biphobic, i'm just asking you why you would (hypothetically, of course) reject a bi woman as a potential partner at the top of your list upon finding out she's not a lesbian. i answered why this matters so much to us, but i actually do want to know, why does this matter so much to you? just wondering.

*¹aros & aces absolutely do not share the same rivalry and discourse among each other like they do with the rest of the queer community. aro4aro people have never made it a point to exclude ace people, but rather alloromantics as a whole, and vice versa. that is why they are not comparable to the sapphic side of _4_ discourse, as generally speaking, unlike aros & aces, lesbians & bisexuals treat each other far too often on a wider scale like enemies rather than sisters in sync (which is what we should be doing instead).

#chase answers #les4les #bi4bi #les4bi #bi4les #t4t #aut4aut #blk4blk #bi tag #biphobia #biphobic lesbians #lesbophobic bisexuals #homophobic bisexuals #les/bi dynamic #les/bi solidarity

[genderisareligion]

This text is from a transsexual woman. I found this very interesting. Take a look at it as soon as you can. ;)

““Transgender” is now at the forefront of debates, with politicians asking “what is a woman”. The goal of the “transgender” movement seems to be to urge humanity to “un-learn” very foundational concepts of our biology and reality of being. As a transsexual, I wanted no part of this.”

https://web.archive.org/web/20220524190406/https://medium.com/@dakotadawn/being-trans-needs-to-be-based-in-objective-reality-not-identity-in-your-head-6bc73f29403c

Also sharing the open letter that the author shared

Thanks for sharing. There was this well spoken transsexual TIM I was following on Twitter last year going by some variation of Cat Lady who talked a lot about this. I might go try to find some of the things I screenshot from him that of course eventually got nuked because he went toe to toe with the worst of the genderist hypocrites and embarrassed them frequently. Not all "trans women" are genderists I will give them that and I have a certain respect for males who can "look female" and actually be secure in themselves. Rare but I know it exists. Still wish they didn't think "looking female" involves makeup/ restrictive clothes/stereotype shit but I suppose I'll take it

L for this but like at least the author can admit they're few and contradictory

I don't buy "both benefit from the transition process" but pleasantly surprised to see support for autogynephilia posted on Medium in 2022. Genderists must've lost their collective single brain cell

Article's gone now of course lol wonder how long it lasted

"From a feminist perspctive" lol but yeah more trans identified people really need to get their heads out of the "sex work" industry's ass and realize that's who's killing them, not "TERFs"

#shadow.txt #ask.txt

[antiterf]

(On the detrans kink thing) I think it also has to do with… like you said, I personally have mainly seen it with trans men, but I also see a lot of men with feminization kinks? Or at least porn exploring both of the above, I’m incredibly horny for someone sex repulsed. And so to me I sat down with it, and all I could think was “okay, let’s unpack it. On the one hand the transphobia is clear, but it’s a certain level of reclaiming, and like… if cis men can enjoy it, why can’t we?” And for me personally that helped some things fall into place for me. Idk if this makes any sense.

Anon I'm so sorry I'm this late answering your ask (that I got about this post over a month ago)

And the reason why is because I felt the same way before thinking that a lot of the kink around cis men liking feminization is based around seeing women and/or being inherently inferior.

At the same time, I felt like that conclusion I made for myself wasn't fully accurate. I did a quick look for anything around it from a psych or sociology perspective and mainly got related but unrelated things. Maybe because when looking at research around kink, it can still have bias in gender roles. Where the men are expected to be doms and the women subs, so a lot of research pertains to the two separately. Either way, I had to kind of think about why it seemed incomplete.

I think it's because seeing feminization or forced fem as inherently misogynistic would be an easy slippery slope. What's stopping that from being applied to CNC or other roleplay scenarios? We know that a lot of kink forms from stuff that isn't as obvious on the outside (loss of control for instance). That kink does not reflect moral standing a lot of the time.

Lastly, it was hypocritical. When what I like about misgen stuff is that it's degrading to be looked at as only my reproductive organs, and I'm afab, it's going to have misogynistic undertones no matter what. A lot of people are into patriarchy at the same time when in that kink.

With that all said and going back to your point, yeah, it can be reclaiming in that way. If it can be a more popular kink for cis men, it can be that for trans men.

#notaterftip #not sarcasm #misgendering tw #misgen kink tw

[polyamorouspunk]

If anyone ever feels like I got mad at them unfairly, there’s a GOOD chance I did but I’m just so worked up from dealing with idiots online in general (the constant wave of terfs in my inbox, years of messages telling me to kill myself, etc.) that I’m going to take it out on you. I’m not proud of it and it’s something I am working on but it’s also just a fact. Like yeah I have BPD. Guess what that means. I lose friends to having anger issues all the time. Clearly none I couldn’t live without. But the people who understand that about me and accept it *do* tend to stick around. So I’m also not “hopeless” and “driving away anyone who cares about me” or whatever. Like you follow someone with BPD expect them to have symptoms. And I’m really not trying to excuse my actions in any way shape or form. If you don’t have a scary mental illness then you do not know what it’s like. I’ve quite literally threatened to kill people and I’ve had people I live with lock their doors at night because they thought I was going to kill them. Like trust me this isn’t fun this isn’t a “well I’m just like this so deal lol” this is a “hey yeah I have a current mental illness that has severe symptoms and when I run a blog that’s very personal and I post a lot of personal stuff on, it’s going to slip through sometimes”. I’m not saying anything like “this is the real me, an evil monster!” Or like “oh look this is the kind of person he REALLY is” but like. There’s a reason why my brain did a split and cut off the anger issues and all that rage and garbage and put them HERE and not on @unorthodoxsavvy. So I could keep that blog a pure and happy place and use this blog as an outlet for the anger I do have. And that’s great because that’s what makes it a good pink blog but yeah sometimes that anger is directly unfairly! For sure! I’m not perfect and if you give me a few hours after having an episode chances are I’m gonna be like “wow that was really hypocritical of me to say” or “wow that was really unfair” but like when I am balls deep in a BPD episode there’s a good chance I’m going to take anything negative as an attack when I’m sometimes getting messages you guess don’t end up seeing that are attacks or I’m remembering the past when I have gotten them. Brain is infallible. You might say “hey that wasn’t a direct attack on you” and I might be like oops sorry brain was in “everything is an attack on you” mode because that’s how BPD works. Once again not an excuse I’m just saying like hey that’s how it works. Give me a little bit of time to cool off and go do something and I might be able to come back and apologize and be like “wow that WAS shitty, you’re right, I’m sorry” and mean it instead of me just covering my ass etc.

#at the end of the day this blog was always an outlet for my anger at it’s core remember that #it was made as a space for me to be angry first above all else