#aut4aut

[kinkystims]

my toxic trait is i like being teased but am so bad at responding to it like i promise you i’m enjoying it just keep going i’m nonverbal

#trans nsft #queer nsft #t4t #t4t nsft #teases #zero things in my brain #aut4aut #autistic nsft #teasing

[thegroundhogdidit]

your relationship may be aut4aut but is it hannibal "has only 3 facial expressions and one of them is just for giving will heart eyes" lecter and will "has never succeeded at a social interaction in his life and physically cannot stop himself from empathizing with the nearest serial killer" graham

#hannibal #hannibal lecter #will graham #hannigram #theyre so. so. you get it #aut4aut #autistic

[clown-around-and-find-out]

sure "normal" dates like picnics or candlelit dinner or watching a movie is fine. but have you ever played 'guess the sans au theme' with your boyfriend while sitting on the couch backwards screaming at the wall because you both guessed 'flowerfell sans theme' when really it was 'aftertale sans theme'

#🦈: my posts #🦈: silly #neurodivergency #neurodiversity #neurodivergent #neurodiverse stuff #it's the dawg in me <- autism #aut4aut #autism #autistic #audhd #adhd #undertale #undertale sans #sans undertale #sans au #au undertale #undertale aus #ut au #undertaleau #also just to make it clear im not into undertale/sans aus anymore but both my boyfriend and i were hyperfixated on sans aus and so since #my ut hyperfixation is back we decided to play a fun little game of 'guess the sans au theme' #to relive the glory days

[forestfxck]

The way my autistic ass experiences sensation is such a central part of my dom instincts when it comes to sex. Like, I want to order you around because it’s fun and gets me off, but also I need to be in control of the rhythm of things so I have time to process all the sensory input that is you — Now shut up and watch me touch the texture of your thighs for 5 whole minutes :)

#autistic nsft #mlm nsft #t4t #aut4aut #d/s

[eddies-spaghetti]

Sandra and Jerry head canons for @moonwack

#superstore #super store #sandra kaluiokalani #superstore jerry #sandra x jerry #jerry x sandra #headcanons #disability headcanons #autistic headcanons #auT4auT #trans headcanons #queer headcanons #disability headcanon #autistic headcanon #trans headcanon #queer headcanon #eddies spaghetti original post #ships that i love dearly

[flag-mashups]

Grayromantic + Autistiqueer + Asteroid Pan Gay + Demisexual + AuT4AuT =

(Please read pinned post before interacting! <3)

Grayromantic - Someone who experiences romantic attraction rarely.

Autistiqueer - Someone who’s queerness is directly influenced or explained by their autism in any capacity

Asteroid Pan Gay - Someone who considers themselves a Pan Gay because they use the split attraction model and are Gay in one form of attraction and Pan in another

Demisexual - Someone who needs to form a deep emotional connection to someone before developing sexual attraction towards the person.

AuT4AuT - An Autistic Trans person who is in a relationship with another Autistic Trans person, or a Trans Autistic person who only dates other Trans Autistic people.

#grayromantic #autistiqueer #asteroid pan gay #queer #autistic #autism #nerodivergent #nerodiversity #pan gay #mspec gay #demisexual #demiace #aut4aut #t4t #trans4trans #auti4auti #autistic4autistic #aro #aromantic #arospec #ace #asexual #acespec #aspec #flag combo #flag mashup

[succubus-nblm]

aut4aut love is so pure and strong. Nothing is better imo. When you both become each other's special interest when you start dating and just the intense love for each other. Infodumping to all your friends about how great they are. Learning about their special interests so you can know every little detail about them *chef's kiss*

#actuallyautistic #aut4aut #nblm #mlm #love #lovecore #queer #gay #relationship #autistic #neurodivergent

[torvus-bong]

fuck it. torvus bong real.

feat dirty ass water sourced from the irl torvus bog

#been awhile since i stoned-samus posted. LMAO #:^) #i have actually been calling this little build the torvus bong tho. #the perc makes the water vortex and its the coolest and sexiest thing ive ever seen in my life #aut4aut

[bi-sapphics]

bi women whining about lesbians having boundaries is the REASON some lesbians prefer les4les relationships smh

okay, i said i didn't wanna get into this too much, but this ask is kinda pissing me off because it's yet again dismissing us calling out the very real and harmful treatment we face as "whining." i'm going to put effort into this answer, because i haven't seen anyone talking about it outside of twitter and i'd like a post i can fall back on for reference.

ANYWAYS.

what boundaries though, anon? please do specify. because i've heard plenty of reasons for deciding to go les4les float around many times now, and they've never expanded out of the following criteria (and anything related):

Bi Women Bad™

bi women are tainted by men

(potential) attraction to men ruins a relationship where no men are involved

bisexuals cheat (yeah, still, it's a belief)

all bisexuals are polyamorous, dirty, liars, uncommitted, etc.

bisexuals inherently can't be gold stars, which, matters for some clean purity reason i guess??

bi women "don't understand" what it is to live a life solely dedicated to women and other sapphics (+ to exclude men), and/or somehow "couldn't provide" a lesbian what they're looking for in a relationship. this has NEVER been elaborated on, especially the latter idea. and theoretically speaking, lack of experience doesn’t make for worse or lesser support.

if a bisexual identifies as butch or femme, it ruins the unnecessary safety illusion that all butch/femme relationships will be les4les without fail. it's literally just the same TERF rhetoric as the safety illusion that all WLW relationships will be AFAB4AFAB. no, really, unpack that. what makes you feel safer about knowing your partner isn't transfem, or, y'know, bisexual (also one is much more conceptual than the other, which is more materialistic. so like. yeah. what's the point.)

bi women aren't apologetic to lesbians for who they are 24/7 and therefore oppress them

bi women "are homo/lesbophobic" (see: not tolerating biphobia & harassment, using butch/femme, being dykes, using the term "sapphic", using the ⚢ symbol, sharing a history with lesbians without needed permission, daring to ask for a community of solidarity with lesbians, not exclusively dating women in their own personal lifestyle choices, etc.)

the false and generalized assumption that *all* bi women are *actually* homo/lesbophobic (see: forcing lesbians to like men, claiming comphet can't be real because it makes one bisexual instead, erasing canon lesbian characters, derailing lesbian posts, being ignorant towards lesbian issues, and/or otherwise treating lesbians really shitty and not including them where they belong, etc.) ─ including this one because for some reason, it's a one-way street and the reverse is bad-faith, bigoted, and exclusionary.

ETA: bi people don't talk enough about mspec lesbians, apparently (even though they do so pretty much all the time on twitter but ok)

keep in mind that these are all things that i have ACTUALLY SEEN being used as arguments consistently over time with my own eyes, unironically. and yes, they are always about bi women. who else would it be, pan women? other mspec women? who else could be a potential romantic/sexual partner to lesbians? who else is les4les designed to be a protective shield against?

i've never seen a good faith reason that isn't either biphobic, misogynistic, a combination of both, or two-sided in a way that acknowledges bi women can't oppress lesbians, despite how much we try to add that when we agree that lesbians don't oppress bi women either. or even anything that doesn't exclude the fact that, behaviorally, we can do anything that you can too (not regarding inherent attraction).

i guess i'll address bi4bi while i'm at it. i'm not a hypocrite, i think the same thing goes for us. lesbians can't oppress us, lesbians can do whatever another bi sapphic can, yes lesbians can be biphobic but it's not a trait they all share in one big hivemind ─ and it's certainly not enough in numbers to consider a bi separatism movement for radical purity reasons (*cough* lol lmao), etc. i've seen some people say bi4bi is acceptable because mspec hatred within the queer community is so much worse than monos get within their own rightful spaces, which, i see where they're going i guess (because we do face the highest statistics from both sides), but i disagree because in the LB dynamic neither letter has more power over the other in the real world, and certainly not enough to unbalance ourselves into inconsistency like that.

the other thing i want to say is, i don't inherently have a problem with any random les4les or bi4bi relationship picked out of a hat in a lottery. i even headcanon some of my favorite ships as such sometimes. also, factually, some fictional ships and even real relationships are one of those two, or bi4les/les4bi. as i said in the tags you're responding to, anon, these types of relationships aren't inherently flawed, especially if they form by chance and not intentional setup. in fact, those like t4t, aut4aut, ace4ace / aro4aro / aro4ace*¹, blk4blk, disabled4disabled, and the like actually have a systemic and structural reason for setting their preferences. but doing this just to avoid other sapphics? the "safety" reason is absolute bullshit, and just creates a further unnecessary divide among mono and mspec sapphics that really shouldn't be created. we're not a danger to each other, we're both in danger from everyone else ─ namely, the straights™.

hell, i would even say casually looking for a partner who shares your orientation labels is totally valid, even though the preference would have no real basis or weight if it's not in bigotry. and then if you fall in love with someone and they don't meet that expectation, so what!! who cares!! it'd be a really dumb loss of opportunity to say no due to that minor and irrelevant difference despite the fact that you both seemed ready to commit to each other as partners. that, and actively excluding harmless groups of people, making it your life mission at all costs, especially for a few twitter discourse points™, is such a waste and only hurts real people's feelings, yourself included.

you're welcome to send another ask just to mock me or say i'm wasting my time proving your point by whining about “the mean angry oppressive lesbians”, or whatever i dunno. but i just want you to ask yourself what really makes these particular "boundaries" so important to you. what makes you feel threatened? we're not forcing you to go date a bi woman right the fuck now or else you're Biphobic, i'm just asking you why you would (hypothetically, of course) reject a bi woman as a potential partner at the top of your list upon finding out she's not a lesbian. i answered why this matters so much to us, but i actually do want to know, why does this matter so much to you? just wondering.

*¹aros & aces absolutely do not share the same rivalry and discourse among each other like they do with the rest of the queer community. aro4aro people have never made it a point to exclude ace people, but rather alloromantics as a whole, and vice versa. that is why they are not comparable to the sapphic side of _4_ discourse, as generally speaking, unlike aros & aces, lesbians & bisexuals treat each other far too often on a wider scale like enemies rather than sisters in sync (which is what we should be doing instead).

#chase answers #les4les #bi4bi #les4bi #bi4les #t4t #aut4aut #blk4blk #bi tag #biphobia #biphobic lesbians #lesbophobic bisexuals #homophobic bisexuals #les/bi dynamic #les/bi solidarity

[mogai-headcanons]

Wednesday Addams from Wednesday is an autistic T4T auti4auti aut4aut BPD4BPD lesbian demiromantic asexual edgecute deathcute deadbitch rotgender mortdeic mortidecoric caemetarian anonymortem cadaveric darkgender cursedcoric deathgender abandoe bloodcoric mortugender gendermortuus cemetarian gendermorbid eldryxygender boqorgeerigender witchcoric hellgender thalassogender demongender villaingender vampdaegender greenfiregender lunargirlfriende piantic ravenfriend daroric outcastive sumoureic trans girl with BPD and depression who uses it/its, she/her, and all neopronouns related to darkness, death, and the macabre!

It's dating Enid Sinclair, an autistic T4T auti4auti aut4aut BPD4BPD lesbian asexual alderretraclawic pastelgender gendercute softgender auroracorecesse aesthetigirl lunaroxygender spacecute lesbicute cutehoarder rostelsoftic catgender catcute solargirlfriende hypersexualian translunar snowcute loponic lovescapic elemidatic wintercute wolfcatgirl kifemendic soflowic kittyblepic gardengellic lovedivine werewolfgender werewolfem weregirl adorelady genderlover outcastive sumoureic trans girl with anxiety, BPD, and MADD who uses she/her, cat/cats, fem/fems, mew/mews, love/loves, and 💕/💕s pronouns!

dni link

#long post #wednesday #wednesday addams #enid sinclair #mogai headcanon #autism #t4t #auti4auti #aut4aut #bpd4bpd #lesbian #demiromantic #asexual #edgecute #deathcute #deadbitch #rotgender #mortdeic #mortidecoric #caemetarian #anonymortem #cadaveric #darkgender #cursedcoric #deathgender #abandoe #bloodcoric #mortugender #gendermortuus #cemetarian

[my-chemical-aromance]

autistic love is your partner just becoming your special interest.

#autism #aut4aut #i always process aut4aut as astronaut 4 astronaut #idk why #autism love??? #Idk how to tag this #gay #mlm #gay gay ga gay

[nstrugglemoments]

Trying to convince a guy to make me go nonverbal from overstimulation but he keeps asking how he'd check in.... babe that's sweet but I want to be unable to form words

#also just use the tap system i taught you #two taps is a check in/slow down #three is stop #or just ask yes/no questions #overstim #aut4aut

[scpwiki-official]

ugh we want to join a t4t server/ gc

#preferably one thats one thats alterhuman and system friendly (bonus if syscourse is discouraged ) and if its atleast 16+ #also it dosent have to be for dating or anything just a place to chill and meet new people #fuck it putting this in the maintags #t4t #alterhuman #trans #transgender #aut4aut #sys4sys #alth4alth

[0th3rw0rldl1n3ss]

furiously googling “how to flirt autistically as an autistic with other autistics”

#aut4aut #autistic #actually autistic #autism #being autistic

[constellations-and-energy]

me @ anyone who shows autistic tendencies

#seriously y’all are so hot n cool #sees stimming in public: Attraction Activated #aut4aut

[someguythatdrawsstuff]

Have a fun lil redraw I made awhile ago

New:

Old:

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I finally made it like I promise a long time ago ;w;

I'm so happy :3

#third redraw #htf fursona #lgbtq #mogai #fursona #oc artwork #transgender #autimasc #agenderfaun #demibxy #greyromantic #demisexual #asteroid pan gay #AuT4AuT