#I think I'm becoming problematic

[a-rat-with-adhd]

I Absolutely Adore This Trio!

BONUS PHOTOS OF "WholeWheat.Exe" & "BirWheat"

(Terrible Ship Names I Know Lmfao-)

#wholewheatpete #birlap/arny #dannyphantom.exe #underrated trio #cosplay #cosplayers #streamers #youtubers #tiktok #I think I'm becoming problematic #all because of the sole reason that I ship the three of them #I know they've said multiple times on stream that they don't care #but random strangers on the internet who apparently have the right to speak for them do care- #ya know what who cares lmao #JUST LET ME HAVE THIS ONE THING YALL LIFE IS TOO SHORT 😭✌ #Sidenote: Pete has the most wholesome smile in the entire world I don't care what anybody says lol

[magnetic-rose]

being in the bg3 fandom when you think astarion is just alright.

#baldur's gate 3 #bg3 #i don't hate him! he's FINE #but like that's literally it... he's just fine lmfao #like i think every other companion is more fun than him #like i am OBSESSED with karlach and gale and shadowheart #i'm becoming increasingly more intrigued with wyll the more we find out with him #lae'zel is my problematic little meow meow #and halsin is good vibes #astarion is just... there lmao #getting mad at me for doing good things and then getting mad at my for not wanting to have sex with him

[moongothic]

You think Crocodile's gonna blow his stack when he finds out how shitty Luffy's upbringing was? His baby boy repeatedly got tossed into the jungle to fend for himself against wild animals, as well as off cliffs and left to float into the fucking air on balloons all courtesy of Garp. He got left alone for long periods of time possibly as early as infancy, also cuz of Garp. And oh yeah, he was tortured by pirates, almost burned to death in a giant garbage fire, and went through the trauma of losing a brother.

Like, no matter how stern or distant of a parent Crocodile may be, I don't think he would be content to stand by and let any of that happen to baby Luffy. Also also, Crocodile witnessed firsthand Garp impeding Luffy's attempts to rescue Ace. The Cross Guild wants Garp for his bounty. Crocodile wants Garp for REVENGE.

With Garp I feel like it could go either way because like, let's be real for a second

This is 100% played for laughs.

Like if we're being serious then yes, in the Very Real World this is absolutely child neglect and abuse, Garp's parenting would NEVER fly (🥁) in our Very Real World. But just like Nami can physically abuse Luffy and co for laughts and get away with it, Garp's "training" is very much the same tonally, a Cartoon Slapstick Gag (made even more obvious when Toei animated Baby Luffy flying off into the sky going "UGYAAAAA" (that clip lives in my head rent free it's so funny??)) and a reflection of how this ridiculous old man (who might've been through even more ridiculous training in his childhood) views how a small child can be trained.

And so like. I could imagine Crocodile being like "who the fuck does that to a small child, are you insane" at Garp if he found out how Garp had been raising Luffy, but I think whatever reaction Crocodile might have would be played just as much for laughs as Garp's original comments were

Like IDK if Crocodile and Garp did have a relationship I think it would end up being similar to how Zoro and Sanji interact. Like Crocodile would to some degree be indebted to Garp because Garp did look after his son when he couldn't, and Garp wouldn't have a precious grandson (whom Garp sincerely does love, deeply) without Crocodile, so like. I think there could be like this mutual respect and gratitude for the other. But also it'd be kind of a begrudging gratitude and they would also hate each others guts and what they stand for and probably bicker. Lots. But in a funny way. (Like Zoro and Sanji)

Also I feel like even if Crocodile personally hated Garp's guts I don't think Crocodile would ever try anything to harm Garp. Like he saw how Luffy absolutely shattered after losing Ace, so even if Luffy and Garp's relationship wasn't the strongest, if Luffy loves his grandpappy then I don't think Crocodile would want to take his son's only grandfather, his family, away. Crocodile isn't in any kind of position to "take revenge" on the man who did look after his son for him (even if his methods were questionable at times) (Same for Dadan and the bandits too arguably)

The convenient thing of me letting this ask sit in my ask box for 20 days before actually responding is that I managed to post this thing the other day, and I want to continue an observation from that post; While I do agree Crocodile would probably be horrified to find out about all shit Luffy went through as a child... In the end, what's happened has happened, and I think Crocodile might believe that if he had wanted to ensure his son wouldn't have to go through things like that, then he should've raised the child himself. That Luffy's childhood not being all sunshine and rainbows is kind of his fault.

#Moon posting #OP Meta #Crocodad #I'm like this ��� close to writing a meta post about Garp and his actions in Marineford because. I love that problematic grandpa #But also I do feel like Garp is misunderstood by a lot of the fandom. NOT in a “Garp was right actually” kinda way!!!!!! #But like. I feel like a lot of people think Garp is comparable to Judge and Big Mom but (Marine Flavored) when HE'S REALLY NOT #Sidenote but I'd be curious to find out how Crocodile feels about Shanks 1) Being responsible for Luffy eating his Devil Fruit #2) Shanks being the one who inspired Luffy to become a pirate (like his daddy) (instead of a stinky Marine like his grandpappy) #3) Shanks literally saving Luffy's life at the cost of his arm. Like. #Like ohhhhh I wanna know how Crocodile would feel about Shanks. It feels like a juicy relationship right there.

[comfied-chriterature]

WAHAHAHA!!

Emukasa from Instaaaaaaaaaa 💖 (made for EMKS week 2023 hosted by @emukasaz) guys I love them so much I adore them I’m obsessed with them I just want them to be happy and be together forever akajkqjqkqqojwojqoa 🩷💛

Also!!! The same image, but a bit more NEOn

#emukasa #emu otori #tsukasa tenma #wxs #prsk fa #“i'm not an artist” - chri who runs an art acc #on insta not on here #this is a writing acc still... i think #should I plug my insta? well it's chri_latata #but I don't like my art lmao #BUT I LOVE EMUKASA #wonderlands x showtime #otori emu #emu ootori #tenma tsukasa #project sekai #pjsk #pjsekai #proseka #project sekai colorful stage #art #artists on tumblr #digital art #the fact that there's no yellow text anymore has become problematic!!!! #can we please have brown text? a pretty brown?

[jankwritten]

yall wanna know how fucked up my anxiety is about some shit

i scroll past a post that's about a topic i don't like. whatever, it's fine. i scroll past a video that's a topic i don't care about. that's normal.

i scroll past a video that's a topic i don't like or care about but the person presenting it is a person of color? i IMMEDIATELY feel immensely guilty and need to "compensate" by "proving" it wasn't because of race by also skipping other random posts, JUST IN CASE someone thinks I'm racist because I didn't want to watch a video on a topic I didn't like or care about, that happened to be presented by a person of color.

this just in on: the police in my brain are loud and i'm scared of them

#this is also because i grew up in a racist area and in that culture and my own ignorance i also Was Kinda Racist #but like in that way where you don't realize it's racism until you're out of it and now feel so ashamed that you forcefully block all #those memories just so you don't ever have to associate yourself with them ever again? #(mind you I was like. 15-16 and closeted and scared scared scared all the time so I acted like the Crowd and that was awful of me to do) #BUT NOW that i've grown and am learning and have taken classes on anthropology and all kinds of stuff I just feel like I notice my own shit #like TENFOLD now #it's my anxiety overthinking thing plus if anybody ever knows I could have done anything SLIGHTLY problematic the world will explode #plus my constant paranoia that someone is always watching me and just Knows that I'm Secretly a Bad Person (even though I don't think I am? #also I feel like I need to clarify that the kind of racism in my town wasn't like. klan shit. it was like very hidden racism? #it was like. kids casually doing black accents and making jokes with racist undertones. the kind of racism where race was always #the butt of the joke instead of an outright HATED thing. and I think that's why it was so hard to unlearn #it's like that thing where in order to stop wanting to kill yourself you have to stop joking about wanting to kill yourself #this has become a vent post accidentally i'm so sorry #this is just. one of my Major anxieties that engulfs me every day because of 1) anxiety 2) potential OCD 3) being a bad person in my past #this is another reason I fucking hate florida #because I just know if I had grown up in my home town in MI I would not have been raised in that environment #and it's my own fucking fault for falling into the crowd like that. #all this to say i traumatized myself and likely some people around me by being A Fucking Idiot when I was a kid #and now adult me is doing everything in their power to not ever be that person ever fucking again #tw vent post #tw racism #tw past racism #but im better now and I know my mistakes and I refuse to make them again #fuck florida for every fucking reason under the sun

[coockie8]

sorry i came across the ask you got about radiohusk being problematic now and i kinda lost it a little like didnt you write the angels cruelty series?

:)

Yes, I am the author of An Angel's Cruelty.

I'm also the author of How The Tables Turn (a fic where Angel Dust repeatedly drugs and rapes Valentino), and Doped Up Actions (a fic where Angel Dust gets drunk and fucks his drugged brother; Arackniss).

We haven't even addressed all the fucked up shit that happens in Breeding Doe, and that's just for Hazbin Hotel; this doesn't even breathe in the direction of other fandoms like Fullmetal Alchemist that contain fics like To Hell and Back (a fic where Ed and Roy get kidnapped into slavery, Ed has his automail ports torn from his body, and Roy gets fucked by a horse then cooked alive).

:) But yeah I'd give a crap about radiohusk being "problematic" now, right? :)

#Hazbin Hotel #radiohusk #I am the farthest thing from someone who cares about a ship being ''problematic'' as you can get I think #like yeah there's ships I'm not into for sure but at the end of the day these are cartoons #I don't fucking care if Alastor owns Husk's soul #I ship Leo and Markus from Detroit Become Human #I ship Hiashi and Neji from Naruto #even with the new information #radiohusk doesn't even breach my top ten most problematic ships

[rosalind-hawkins]

What Do I Ship?

Don't mistake this for a tolerance or tier list. I will read and write ships that aren't even on this list, or write ships from the secondary list sometimes, this is just to give you a general sense of the stuff I mainly support/think about and in what capacity. Might be updated periodically. Ranting and comments in the tags.

Re: the Mokuba ships, I only ship them in non-problematic ways, where either the Kaiba brothers are ageswapped, making Mokuba the same age as the rest of the main cast, or where they only get together far post-canon where Mokuba's an adult. We cool? Cool.

Primary Ships

(things I can/want to create content for; this does not include every ship I've ever written, just the ones I care about/are currently engaged in writing/plan to write multiple fics for, or ships I just stan in a way that I know it'll never end)

Euroshipping (Kaiba x Ryou)

Puppyshipping (Joey x Kaiba)

Mumbleshipping (Kaiba x Ryou x Duke)

Teaseshipping (Joey x Ryou x Kaiba)

Snareshipping (Joey x Duke)

Trustshipping (Kaiba x Ishizu)

Polarshipping (Joey x Mai)

Blueshipping (Kisara x Kaiba)

Mizushipping (Kisara x Priest Seto)

Minorshipping (Ryou x Duke)

Mastershipping (Duke x Kaiba)

Puffshipping (Joey x Ryou)

Sweetshipping (Ryou x Mokuba)

Wintershipping (Mokuba x Amane)

Rollshipping (Duke x Ryou x Joey)

Secondary Ships

(things I will read but I don't write {much, or anymore, in some cases} for one reason or other)

Wishshipping (Joey x Yugi)

Powershipping (Kaiba x Marik)

Graceshipping (Ishizu x Ryou)

Doubtshipping (Kaiba x Ryou x Marik)

Petshipping (Duke x Kaiba x Joey)

Axisshipping (Kaiba x Siegfried)

Angstshipping (Ryou x Marik)

Irateshipping (Marik x Joey)

Buddyshipping (Joey x Tristan)

Heartshipping (Yugi x Ryou)

Fragileshipping (Yami Yugi x Ryou)

Changeshipping (Duke x Marik)

Logicshipping (Priest Seto x Priestess Isis)

Gemshipping (Ryou x Thief King Bakura)

Thiefshipping (Yami Bakura x Marik)

Candleshipping (Kaiba x Ryou x Yami Bakura)

Antagoshipping (Kaiba x Yami Bakura)

Corruptshipping (Priest Seto x Thief King Bakura)

Stoicshipping (Kaiba x Priest Seto)

Shimmershipping (Duke x Mokuba)

Guardshipping (Kaiba x Roland)

Senetshipping (Ishizu x Duke)

Angelicshipping (Ryou x Rafael)

Mercuryshipping (Kisara x Kaiba x Ishizu)

Entrepreneurshipping (Duke x Kaiba x Siegfried)

Unnamed (Aigami x Marik x Yami Bakura)

Scholarshipping (Kaiba x Ishizu x Ryou)

There's also plenty of random unnamed poly ships that I want to play around with in one-shots, usually a combo of my top six fave characters.

#rose talks #my ships #ship list #creating this post just to link to it in my pinned post. don't mind me. #i might add a third section called “i just think they're neat” #what happened with thiefshipping is that I worked really hard on a one-shot for it and was pretty proud of it #but then it got like no attention and i figured my characterization must have been way off #so i didn't try to write it again after that #i wrote a lot of Marik one-shots a long time ago but I don't think my characterization of him was actually that good #that's why i haven't really written him outside of Rock Bottom in a long time #if you put kaiba ryou duke joey marik in a jar and jumble them all up and pour 2 or 3 of them out. i ship anything that comes out. #almost the same if you replace marik with ishizu but i don't see her and joey working out (unless maybe to gang up on kaiba) #currently intrigued by the idea of kaiba/ryou/ishizu and i would call that scholarshipping if the name wasn't already taken #also just discovered mercuryshipping and i think that would be so fascinating #i think guardshipping can easily be problematic but it doesn't have to be. i think it can be kinda sweet if done right. #re: the mokuba ships i've had someone tell me that shipping child characters with anyone is gross EVEN IF you age them up and um no #every adult ever is an aged-up child. that's how life works. #i'm so much more interested in mokuba as an adult than as a child anyways. just purely from a character perspective #because damn. who knows what this boy will become. ya know? it's about the potential

[villainsandvictimsalliance]

As someone from Latam, the way the people of United States views racism and discrimination is so unique to their country it scares me how easy it is for them to try and apply it for everything.

It's kinda impossible for me to imagine discarding everything that is flawed within Latine culture in an attempt to erase racism and discrimination. Because there are many elements that are vital to the Latine culture that are both incredibly racist and incredibly representing. There's not a neat cut on something "good" or "bad", not a set of rules that can tell you what you should engage with.

That's what critical thinking is for?????

Idk. It's the way I've read some people screaming for more diversity in their favorite shows and then when the art doesn't match their cultural frame, instead of researching or trying to understand why it is different in the first place?!?! They go out accusing and judging and setting trials based only on what they know.

Maybe the reason they don't give you as much cultural diversity as you want is because you can't take it without the threat of becoming a puritan, you know... Like, it's okay to lack the tools to analyze something, we all ignore a lot, that's the basis of the human condition. Just chill and try to ask and investigate for once in your life...

#for context I was thinking about how almost any latine artist is problematic and on the edge of cancellation baded on usa online standards #and I'm glad most of usa have access to a very limited range of latine artists because what the fuck #worst part is that the usa online way of thinking is becoming the standard for a lot of teens in Latam it's a freaking nightmare sometimes #how is that they can't tolerate to know a person can do both good and bad and it must coexist #curate your own experience all you want but be careful on narrowing your view of the world so much you end up becoming you swore you hated

[gailynovelry]

I think I got the summary for Ember Warrior hashed out! Figured I'd post it here really quick to get a little feedback on it. I'm curious as to if it's interest-grabbing, and/or if there are any confusing sentences in there.

War has come for Rhimn. The unified feyrie courts strike back against the knights of the Irongardhe, casting the dark-winged shadow of Lady Death over Gadhi.

While Crislie wrestles with unexpected heritage and razes the frontlines of open warfare, her friends navigate the political intrigue of their Heraldry. As Meparik sets off on a diplomatic mission to convince the Ulluan Matrius to lend her aid, Navaeli parleys with the feyrie courts on behalf of General Morekai, hoping that he may hold the key to the cage of her Heraldry.

But allies may be more difficult to make than outright enemies. When Ullua is reluctant to make war with its neighbor, and the courtleaders and generals have agendas of their own, the situation might not be as straightforward as putting an ax through a foe . . .

And it’s far too easy for foes to pose as friends.

As the Ashen Army advances, the political imperatives of everyone’s roles threaten to devour them — but faltering could cost the lives and freedom of the fey of Rhimn.

#sometimes i wonder if the summaries are too melodramatic #but! it's dark political fantasy that's just how the situation is #posting here partially because i got some good help on revising the previous two summaries #but i'm a little worried that i'm exhausting the lovely folks who were helping me by having three of these things to go through #sometimes i feel . . . i dunno #kind of stuck between the chill “write whatever whenever and don't give a fuck about success” part of writeblr #and the part that's like “PUBLISHING PUBLISHING I AM GOING TO BECOME A PUBLISHED NAME WRITER” #i am publishing! but it's for fun! do not let me fool you into thinking I Am Intimidating! please please please #i wanna keep hanging out with the chill writers not the hashtag grind guys #sorry about the times where i'm high-energy about getting stuff done and move a little fast; i'm just very enthused about My Thing #and i want to do it nice for the few folks who like it #it doesn't help that my brain rn keeps hitting me over the head with the fear that everything i write is secretly Problematic and Evil #and that i'm not self-aware enough to spot how #but like. not a new fear. I'll get over it! <3

[usareiis]

Several things about the **** and **** drama is how many people have hopped out to go omg so is the lady we have decided is the only big bad villain responsible for planting all of the hate against insert group/idol here when I watched in real time for all of those examples their own fans jumping on their favorite idols for things that were clearly just scraps of bad rumors they just completely made overblown THEMSELVES under the guise of trying to look 'critical about their faves'

#yeah it was min heejin that randomly made you think le ssera sucked and you all completely fucking ran with it to the point i even saw... #...fearnot accounts being like wow they can't sing all of the sudden :/ and the tweet would get hundreds of thousands of likes #and i am still pissed off about the you know who situation #weeks and weeks they leaked videos of him (which probably fucking was her in hindsight) and tried to misconstrue words #only for them to finally land on he watched problematic anime :( and i saw so so many txt accounts on here and twitter immediately hop on.. #...without knowing anything about anything immediately denounce him as a freak for watching a SHOW and commanding people be 'critical of... #...their faves' despite using any critical thinking skills about the situation at all. they heard third hand he had watched an anime... #...with a scene that show literally framed as bad and were like i'm not parasocial!! he's a creep!! #like you guys did that i watched you guys do that in real time to yourselves #it's like that post i rbd about kate middleton a few weeks ago where everyone acts like becoming part of an internet mob is always... #...someone else's fault like they were being compelled to post about her against their will like you guys did that too #someone like redacted may have planted the seed but you guys are always stupid enough to run with it and blow it up #oh i forgot this bit but i see kpop fans pride themselves on not being parasocial and are all OFC i am critical of my faves 💅 #and then being critical is believing the first person on twitter that says something bad about them like that's not critical!! #obviously there are bigger problems with **** and idk this lady but the amount of fans that have been like so she's the kdrama villain... #...and i am a poster lead innocently astray by everything! is so. yeah sure. #pat yourself on the back for that one

[musical-chick-13]

Therapy W was when I told my therapist about that absolutely ridiculous line Sofía says in the last episode about how "Nothing that's worth it is ever easy" and my therapist literally repeated the line in disbelief and said, "Wow, what a load of bullshit."

#do not ask for the context of why I was talking about this show to my therapist. just know that my therapist is a good therapist. #(also this is just me remembering this from this week. I'm not having therapy at midnight lmao) #I think maybe. MAYBE. I might have one more problematic-teen-drama-that-could analytical post left in me #not today but. some day. #because like. this was so close to being. genuinely good in so many ways. if they had just committed to some of the things they had #seemed to be setting up in season 1. this could have become something I genuinely and wholeheartedly recommended to people #I need to drag one of my friends into watching this show so I have someone to scream to lmao. then I can direct my thoughts to #not-my-tumblr-blog and everyone can live in relative peace

[eisthenameofme]

"I've never seen anyone in the TMA fandom say they hate a male character"

A. I've seen fifty seven million people say they hate Elias specifically

B. I'm personally less than thrilled with Martin and have seen other people say the same thing

#tldr there are definitely people who hate various main male characters #also disliking a character is not inherently a moral or political stance lmao #sometimes you just don't like them or find them annoying. It doesn't have to be That Deep #not tagging this as TMA or character critical #because that doesn't really seem relevant to the context #but if you find this in the tags or whatever and disagree please let me know (ideally politely) #im using the following as organizational tags #tma #the magnus archives #mypost #i guess I'm vague posting now. But a. I don't think it can bother that person #since I already blocked them #and b. My point stands more generally anyway #on that note neither liking or disliking a character is inherently bad and neither is talking about it #it becomes a problem specifically when you are a dick to other people about it #because they have a different preference than you #like there can potentially be bigoted reasons people give for hating a charcater #but just hating a character in and of itself is not a problem. #and neither is liking a character even if they could be considered 'problematic' tm

[time-to-write-and-suffer]

I love how on Tumblr, "media literacy" has become "Um, just because someone writes about this doesn't mean they're endorsing this. I hate all these media puritans ruining everything."

I'm sad to inform you that knowing when and whether an author is endorsing something, implying something, saying something, is also part of media literacy. Knowing when they are doing this and when they're not is part of media literacy. Assuming that no author has ever endorsed a bad thing is how you fall for proper gander. It's not media literacy to always assume that nobody ever has agreed with the morally reprehensible ideas in their work.

Sometimes, authors are endorsing something, and you need to be aware when that happens, and you also need to be aware when you're doing it as an author. All media isn't horny dubcon fanfic where you and the author know it's problematic IRL but you get off to it in the privacy of your brain. Sometimes very smart people can convince you of something that'll hurt others in the real world. Sometimes very dumb people will romanticize something without realizing they're doing it and you'll be caught up in it without realizing that you are.

Being aware of this is also media literacy. Being aware of the narrative tools used to affect your thinking is media literacy. Deciding on your own whether you agree with an author or not is media literacy. Enjoying characters doing bad things and allowing authors to create flawed or cruel characters for the sake of a story is perfectly fine, but it is not the same as being media literate. Being smug about how you never think an author has bad intentions tells me you're edgy, not that you're media literate. You can't use one rule to apply to all media. That's not how media literacy works. Sorry! Sorry! Sorry! Aheem heem. Anyway.

#anyway this is just more of that lefty shit where 'well i can't be racist because i'm gay!' #'well i can't be media illiterate because i love villains!' #not how that works babes #'well I KNOW bad from good so i can't be affected by media!' #'everyone else also knows bad from good and defines it the exact way i do!' #'so if i think this is bad then the author must also think this is bad!' #i have bad news .... #also how do you know bad from good? who taught you that? hmm? #did you fall out of the womb knowing? or did you pick up some things on the way here? #'i just know' no you don't! that's what i'm saying! #assuming one thing is always true is the opposite of being a conscious consumer of media soz #assuming someone thinks and knows the exact same shit you think and know is not media literacy!!

[bruciemilf]

AU where Thomas and Martha don't die, but Batman's still a thing!

Instead of Bruce becoming Batman, its Thomas. He's already a huge help to the city, so this nocturnal passion is for sport.

If it wasn't obvious enough, he's not the most stable guy. But he's a loving dad and exemplary husband, so it's mostly fine.

God forbid men have hobbies.

He specifically picked up a bat theme to hopefully cure Bruce of his fear! Just imagine that 6'5 error of nature cladded in black, claws with his costume cause he's sexy like that,

"See? I'm not scary at all!" But Bruce is already sobbing and hiding behind Alfred.

"Martha, you'll never guess who I saw on patrol tonight. Bruce's college roomate! The blonde one with the glasses and gay vibes. "

" Oliver?"

"Oliver who?"

" Queen?"

" Well! I think that fits you better, amore."

" Bruce's childhood friend? Known eachother since infancy? Came to you for tech?"

"Bruce had FRIENDS?"

Bruce, from the other room, " Her name is Harley! You paid her college tuition and killed her dad."

" I've never met her in my life, and i keep my kill list detailed.Anyway, I adopted her. Shes seeing that clown boy and I think his superpower is boring me to death."

The batkids still get taken in, of course. Bruce is already a full adult and outgrew his Robin costume. He just barges in with a feral Jason and Dick, " Look, Brucie! Papa's got brothers for you!"

But Bruce? Looks at these two snarling kids, kicking, thrashing, clawing, and takes them in his arms, " Babies. My babies."

" Uh... Come again,,-" But Thomas raised a spoiled BRAT, so Bruce definetly bites him and throws a tantrum until he agrees to pass full custody. Naturally, Alfred and Martha have no sympathy.

"But you're too young to be a dad!"

" I'm 27."

" Young. A fetus. Cousin Gomez's newborn is older than you." Bruce is already drawing the adoption papers. Fight him about it.

Naturally, instead of dating his rogues, Thomas parents them. Imagine you're Selina Kyle and Batman scolds you for getting caught by the cops, " You know better. Villain privileges REVOKED."

Mr Freeze? Thomas gets it. Do what you gotta do, King. You need some pocket money?

Khoa? Problematic son. Thomas adores him and brags about him to every family reunion. "Your daughter tried to poison you for inheritance? That's adorable, Agatha. Khoa kidnapped Alfred last week. Beat that."

Ivy? Thomas invites her to beer and game night and plays matchmaker with her and Harley.

Waylon is his favourite. Naturally, he's the only one adopted legally.

He fist fights Ra's for Talia's custody and she is desperately shoving Damian in his face. Trust her. You don't want to go through with it.

the image of Batman not being a broody, stoic vigilante and instead Gomez Addams with a cape makes me weep

#bruce later on becomes red hood but thats when martha has her punisher arc <333 #thomas wayne #bruce wayne #martha wayne #ik Thomas is flashpoint batman but blehhhhh #i like this more #dc #dc comics #batfamily #bruce is like that mafia princess from zootopia and thomas is the justice league dad #jason todd #dick grayson #harley quinn #selina kyle #batman rogues #rogues gallery #batman

[genderkoolaid]

hey i was wondering something and i wanted to know your opinion on it

Why is it problematic to say i hate men but not white people or straight people

(i'm a trans south east asian man btw)

I'd say on, like, a casual exasperated level, its not problematic to say "I hate [x]." It gets problematic when your venting about a group becomes your sole lens of viewing + interacting with that group.

Like, its entirely alright to be frustrated with behaviors common to cishet white men and express that in a vent by saying you hate them. But... its like how people make the correct point that they shouldn't be expected or obligated to give all their energy to coddling people with power over them, but translate that into "i never have to care about a member of this group at all" which directly conflicts with just. being in a community? Like women should not be expected to be caretakers for men, but people in a community need to take care of each other. When the only way you engage with a group of people is by expressing hatred and asserting how much you aren't obligated to care about them, its easier than people think to find yourself dehumanizing them.

Which does not mean "you are just as bad as a racist/misogynist" or "you are oppressing them"; you are An Individual whose biases are not necessarily backed up by powerful systemic powers. But, for one, its very easy for those biases to be used by systemic forces: with men, misandry is very easily used to justify all kinds of violence towards marginalized men & people perceived as men. You also have situations where people will say the Holocaust "wasn't as bad" as, say, US slavery, because it was "white on white violence," or saying the Armenian genocide also wasn't that big of a deal because "it was done to Christians and Christians are always killing people" (two real things I have seen been said). And, again: if you are going to care about community and restorative/transformative justice and all that, you need to be able to give a shit about all kinds of people who you live with. You need to be able to see them as whole beings you are capable of connecting with on some level. You don't personally need to date or befriend men, but you do need to be able to give a shit about men in your community.

Its fine to feel annoyance and anger and use "hatred" to express that. But the problem occurs when people take "its okay to be angry with your oppressors and not spend all your energy coddling them" and make that the end-all be-all of their relationship with people of whatever group; revolutions can't accomplish compassionate goals when they are run on hatred. Very hooksian concept but "love" (as in "a combination of care, commitment, knowledge, responsibility, respect and trust", not in a strictly emotional sense but as an action) is a skill that is as vital as understanding class dynamics and protest tactics. Maybe you don't need to love everyone, but try to have the capacity to love anyone; the ability to physically care for someone you don't emotionally like is, I think, a vital step towards truly challenging and bringing down the kyriarchy.

Basically its about recognizing when your venting stops being an outlet and starts being a way for unproductive feelings to shape how you view other people.

#hooksian in reference to bell hooks btw #m. #ask box