#also this happened because of discord friend hangouts

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Aita for making my friends drop another friend completely?

Warning: There is mention of suicidal thoughts. Also I swear a lot, I apologize.

This is some dumb discord drama but I feel like an utter asshole for this despite multiple people say I wasn't in the wrong and others saying that the friend group shouldn't had known about the situation and I shouldn't had forced this onto them.

And I been around here a lot, please don't excuse any behavior taken here as "You guys are young" or "You guys are kids." You will understand later as why but a lot of things that happened shouldn't be excused and that involves some of my behavior. And no, I am not doing a TL;DR.

There is a lot of pre-context so I will bold where the situation I'm talking about starts.

So me (17, he/they) and a few friends had created a server to get away from people in another server. We had really 1 rule which was "what happens in the server, stays in the server". This hangout server became a vent server very soon as a lot of us have issues that we just can't see a therapist for and use each other.

We had an issue with this one friend, let's name him Owl (14, M). Owl had been way to relaxed and some of the stuff he had said began to lead to fights within the friend group. He and another Jojo (15, M) were making jokes about each other, which were taken too far. Owl could had stopped it way before by stating that the jokes were too far but despite he had started it. He texted Jojo about their biggest insecurity in the form of "imagine having [insecurity]" and then hell broke lose. Owl knew Jojo was insecure about this because they talked and vented to each other privately, so for Owl to do that was shitty and a red flag that we didn't catch at the time, mainly because Jojo didn't tell any of us what was said till after the dropping. This was only one out of seven conflicts we would have with him before we got fed up. I will not go through all 7 but I will go through the ones that led to us removing him from the group.

I, Owl and a few others of us were playing a game on. I was very stressed and stated that beforehand and wanted to game to cool off. This was around the time that the Supreme Court made their decisions which added to my stress. I cannot remember what comment he made but my stress hit a peak and I blew up at him, possibly a joke about rights (trans rights) which is a touchy subject for me (it isn't out of his character). At this point I was having a breakdown on call and he didn't realize despite the fact it was clear through abnormal behaviors. Owl had also been around be in a breakdown beforehand, so I don't know how he didn't know. During breakdowns my voice becomes shaky and cracks, I speak very fast and make irrational decisions. Our other friends picked up on that and tried to deescalate the situations but Owl kept going and adding conflict until I removed him from the call (because both of us had admin powers). After a while I had gotten Jojo involved out of sheer panic and trying to get out of a conflict while not thinking rationally. After a while I rejoined call, Owl was gaming like nothing happened and I cried on mute due to the breakdown. Why I rejoined call? I don't know. Jojo pulled us to the side and talked about how he didn't want any more conflicts and that we would have our perms removed, Owl was informed that the breakdown happened and what he did made it worse, he didn't apologize for it at all.

The final situation we had with him before we dropped him was between Me, Owl, Jojo and Ark (Doesn't want age to be stated, M). Owl had lost all ways to communicate on call because of a dumb action he did that caused panic to another member (reading a classified document that another person found on Bing after being told to stop). He was clearly upset and during the mix Jojo had gotten a suicidal thought but Owl had encouraged his thoughts saying shit like "Why wait? Your life of pointless". Ark stepped in and bashed Owl for this behavior and the two got into a fight before we banned Owl.

Owl let the situation drag for 5 days as he didn't try to fix what had happened or apologized for any action he done up to that point unless the entire group was against him. The some of us got together and decided a last resort plan, we would stage an intervention and give him 3-5 days (which is being nice) to fix his shit or he would be dropped. We invited him to another server and we have the intervention there. He took a while to join, nearly 40 minutes. He was informed how important it was 20 minutes in and took another 20 to join. After that he refused to join call, which I understand but it was more so, he didn't want to because he saw no reason. I told him why, he got upset at the fact we were timing him. We had the mentality that he was on our time as he did waste 5 days not doing anything but letting the situation just hang. Me and him got into it and he said he didn't care about any of our friendships (even those not there) and he wouldn't mind being dropped if we were going to pressure him to apologize for things that here his faults and try to make amends.

We dropped him however I made the choice of informing others who weren't in on the plan and told them to drop Owl. This also meant Owl could not come to America to get his dream job which requires 11 years of training because he was dropped but not only Me, who would bring him to the states and house him, but also the person who was help pitch in for his college payments and student debt. I feel bad about informing everyone about what he had said and how he acted, which included people who had no idea what was going in the background. There were people coming back who hadn't been online this entire time and being told to get rid of him. I just feel like I shouldn't had forced that decision on them, especially as a person who had been dropped by an entire friend group like that. But we been doing a lot better without him and we try not mention the situation but as time has gone on, I feel more and more terrible at the fact I put other people involved and had them remove all contact to him instead of letting them decide.

Am I the asshole?

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole #suicide cw

[thebroccolination]

Oh my goddess...Singto is back in gmmtv...!!!!!!

HE SURE IS, ANON!!!

THE HANDSOMEST MAN IN GMMTV HAS RETURNED TO HIS THRONE!

I HAVE A LOT TO SAY LET'S BEGIN.

FIRST: I'M SO HAPPY. ;____;

I CASUALLY OPENED INSTAGRAM WHEN I WOKE UP A FEW HOURS AGO, LOOKED AT KRIST'S AND BOUN'S STORIES AS USUAL, AND THEN SINGTO'S KICKED ME IN THE SOUL AND IT HAS YET TO COME BACK TO ME.

AND LIKE.

OKAY.

HANG ON!!!

I NEED THE SONG OF MY PEOPLE!!!

OKAY.

BETTER.

NOW!!!

There have been signs for months, especially from Kit, that they'll have a series this year, but I didn't expect Singto to fully come back to GMMTV! So I'm in a daze of pure joy. The SHEER NUMBER of times my friends and I have been like, "SINGTO JUST COME BACK AND WE'LL PRETEND YOU NEVER LEFT," so now I fully plan on doing so.

Singto left? When?

Never, that's when.

LIKE.

LET ME WALK YOU THROUGH JUST A FEW OF MY POSTS ON MY DISCORD SERVER FROM THE PAST FEW MONTHS SO YOU CAN ENJOY THE JOURNEY WITH ME:

Some days, I'd just go through old photos and reminisce.

Other days, I'd have feelings.

And make academic observations of past occurrences.

I HAVE BEEN ASKING FOR SOTUS 3 SINCE 2020 I DESERVE THIS

AND PERAYA WHO HAVE BEEN HERE SINCE 2017 AND BEFORE HAVE BEEN ASKING FOR IT EVEN LONGER

BUT I'M GETTING AHEAD OF MYSELF

THEN THEY HUNG OUT IN EARLY JANUARY (WITH GAWIN!!! BECAUSE FUCK ALL THE MISERABLE PEOPLE IN THIS FANDOM WHO CAN'T LET ANYONE ENJOY MORE THAN ONE THING AND GENUINELY RUIN THE EXPERIENCE FOR OTHERS!!!)

AND THEY TRENDED BASED ON THAT ONE HANGOUT SESH

THERE WERE FURTHER SIGNS!!!

THEN KRIST AND SINGTO ACTUALLY INTERACTED ON TWITTER, WHICH HADN'T HAPPENED IN, I SHIT YOU NOT, ALMOST FOUR YEARS

OH AND SPEAKING OF THEM INTERACTING ON TWITTER

WE ARE FED

AND EVEN WILDER, SINGTO IS NOW UNDER KRIST'S MANAGER, YUI

For those who don't know, this is massive because as long as they've been with GMMTV, Krist and Singto always had separate managers. Krist with Yui, Singto with Jane (who has had cameos in some of Singto's series, maybe most famously the guy at their office cafe in SOTUS S).

I've heard TayNew also went under one manager recently, so I think it was likely a condition of Singto's return to GMMTV that he sign under Yui. Which is wild because these managers do what we'd consider in the States to be the work of agents, so they have a major contribution to what happens in their artists' careers.

In my wildest fantasies I never imagined Yui as Singto's manager. I love Jane, but wow.

AND PERHAPS MY FAVORITE THING OF ALL!!!

I HAVE BEEN JOKING ABOUT THIS FOR AGES AND HAVE A #THROUPLE CHANNEL ON MY SERVER BECAUSE I DON'T CARE I LOVE ALL THREE OF THEM

AND THEN KRIST PERAWAT WENT AHEAD AND SAID THIS:

MY SON SAID, "SURE FINE AS LONG AS Y'ALL DON'T KILL EACH OTHER."

KRIST WANTS ALL HIS BOYFRIENDS

NOW, LET'S OPEN SPECULATION FOR WHAT KRISTSINGTO'S COMEBACK SERIES WILL BE

I'M SO HAPPY

I GENUINELY HAVEN'T PROCESSED IT YET

:')

TIME TO WRITE FIC ABOUT IT

#singto prachaya #krist perawat #kristsingto #kristsingto comeback #i think i'll be using that tag all year :D #god i'm so happy #i missed them so much #also like #i hoped all along that this is why they separated gawinkrist #it didn't make sense when they were developing a fairly strong fanbase on the heels of a fantastic series #i figured they were in talks to have singto do a series with kit #but i never let myself hope that he'd come back :') #i still hope gawinkrist can make music together #i think the pair system is fine but not if it excludes them entirely from working with others #aaaaaaa he's back he's home singto my beautiful perfect relatable mess #he's been missed :')

[elytrafemme]

i think i'm going to take a break from tumblr. (that's the TLDR, the rest of the post is long ramblings) i know that's shitty, because God knows I never check discord (not nearly as much as i should, but there's just so much) and barely reply to ao3 comments and so the least i could do is just exist here. but being on here makes the anger and grief i've been feeling for the last few weeks amplify. i can't exactly place it (well, i can place some of it, but that's neither here nor there), but i think while online activism in a place truly as online and disconnected as tumblr can be meaningful, it's so much more important to me right now to be fighting the battle in the world around me. and to find that community. because obviously i love you guys but when i feel like i'm about to spiral into a horrible place, i have to find company in the form of someone physically with me (maybe my therapist was right about me having someone on standby in this city huh). and when i see people with the most horrific understandings of what is happening in the world, to my siblings across the water, it's easier to contest that and stomach it when it's around me here than online. because at least i can do something about one of those things. what's happening in Gaza (and i admit I need to educate myself more about what's occurring in Armenia & Sudan) contains a pain that i only know a sliver of, being a second generation Iraqi Muslim across the Atlantic. but the pain is still visceral, and i've never felt this disappointed in myself in my entire life every fucking second. i'm on the edge of a relapse into something i thought i got over two years ago, and i can barely exist with myself when i'm alone but can't bring myself to ask for help. i just want to lay on my friends' air mattress in the floor above mine and never see my old friends or family again. october was the best month of my life, but simultaneously the worst, because every time there wasn't a movie night or a hangout i was cracking into pieces. for the first time in five years i need to make a safety plan, not for my life but for what i do within it. because i have no idea what tomorrow is going to look like for me but i know it's not going to be good. i'm convinced people are watching me and that if i make just one post here i'm going to hear someone banging on my door and i am so fucking scared. i usually repress these things but yesterday's realization that i'm more alone than i've ever been, and that i've been alone for so much longer than i thought, is making it hard to breathe. i don't know how to be a good person. i don't know how to live with myself anymore.

so i'm taking a break from tumblr. i might still be liking posts, but i need to force myself to stop using the site. i don't remember my password entirely so i don't want to log out, but i won't be here. it's also safe to say i'll be gone from discord for a while, too. looking at my dms makes me nauseous and i hope at least one person may be able to understand why. i'm sorry to my friends who i've not replied to in a while, i love you and i think of you and there will be a reply. obviously with every "i'm taking a break" post there's the odds i'm back here tomorrow, but i don't think that's the case.

i'll be okay. i love you all. see you.

#nightmare.personal #i have no idea what to do with myself now. #i know these things resolve themselves by the morning but i don't think this is just a mood swing. #i think this is something a lot worse. and it's just the beginning.

[fairygodpiggy]

As winter's wilds send us fleeing for shelter,

My thoughts turn toward the kiss of Costa's sun.

I think of Westerly winds and sandy shores,

And I know that, soon, the dawn will come.

Ride again, early June.

Q: What is this??

A: Well, this is the first time I've been back on tumblr while this event has been held!

This is a teaser promo for Ride the Tide 2024!

Q: What is Ride the Tide?

A: RTT is a virtual summer/beach festival that is put on in XIV in Costa del Sol. It's planned, sponsored, and held by a XIV discord community I helped to found, The Aetheryte Plaza.

We gather RP venues from all over the NA data centers and together, we run various booths for games, refreshments, and hangouts - including a main stage where well known bards will play to get you into the festival mood!

We try to hold it well out of range of the game's official Moonfire Faire, but before Pride events really start kicking off so we don't detract from them.

This will be Aetheryte Plaza's 5th year hosting the festival, and my 4th year helping with its planning!

Q: What caused AP to start hosting a summer festival?

A: The festival was first conceived by a couple of good friends of mine in 2020, just after shutdowns really started happening. And since vacation plans were out the window for a lot of people, they decided to create a virtual festival...and it was a WILD success.

I was only attending as a venue worker for one of the booths, but I got to see it all at the forefront:

We hit the zone cap!

We got the S rank to spawn in the middle of it!

We had mentors mad at us because they couldn't get their little sprouts through Titan, meanwhile said sprouts were running around with stars in their eyes because it was a FESTIVAL and this was the most players they'd seen outside of the main cities!!

People were posting all their screenshots of their WoLs hanging out together!

It was so cool to see how many people came because...in the middle of the pandemic when we couldn't physically leave, we all needed this.

Q: Is this strictly an RP event?

A: Well...the short answer is no, it's RP-lite.

The long answer is: originally it was going to be during its 1st year, but because of its nature, we got a mixed bag of RPers, casual players, streamers, and people who were just there to vibe...so RP kinda got tossed to the side unless we encountered fellow RPers.

If you're an RPer and you want to RP with the people working the booths, go for it!! They'll happily RP with those who want to.

Q: What's your role in planning?

A: If you've come this far, dear reader, I thank you because if you came here because of the image at the top of this post...then you have half of your answer!

I'm in charge of the media aspect - making teasers and posters, etc ❤️

I'm also in charge of the RTT website and the festival's interactive map. That was my addition when I joined the planning team in 2021. No more need to guess where booths are and what they offer!

However, this...is going to be my last year being on the planning team only because I stress myself way out in the late phases of the event planning, and my best friends are putting their feet down 😅

Thank you again if you read through all of this. If this has piqued anyone's interest, then keep up with me! I'll be including tumblr this year as I share RTT posters in a few months!

#eyri #ffxiv #ride the tide #rtt #I'll be helping to judge the glamour contests as well this year! #roegadame #femroe #ffxiv screenshots #gposers #ff14 gpose #ffxiv gpose #roegadyn #my wol

[888bambi]

ATTENTION!!! - LEE HEESEUNG

✰ synopsis: heeseung was a really good boyfriend, but you hated how he was ignoring you every time he played video games- so you make sure he'll give you all his attention from now on

!gamer bf heeseung x !fem reader

featuring: enhypen's jake and niki

genre(s): suggestive

warnings: making out; let me know if there's anything else i need to add; not proofread!!! so i'm apologising for any mistakes

word count: 1917

✰ 07.07.2023

-

Heeseung was a really sweet boyfriend. Buying you flowers and chocolate, taking you out for movie nights, helping you pick out your outfits and so on. If anything, he was the ideal boyfriend, the guy of your dreams.

What you hated most about him was that he often ignored you when he played video games with his friends. While you understood he needed to spend time with his friends as well, it always pissed you off how he would have his headphones on all the time, unable to hear you call his name and so on. It made you feel neglected; not to mention, you heard him one time discussing with Jake about how hot some female character was- a lifeless, 2D character, hot? Hotter than you? The fact that they often watched girl streamers also made you kind of jealous.

Friday night and you hoped you’d go out with your boyfriend, but all your plans crashed when you heard him on a discord call with his friends. Of course they were playing video games again. You neatly done your hair and picked a pretty outfit to hang out with him, but apparently, he had more important plans, since he was still dressed in his home clothes: a pair of washed brown sweatpants and a loose white T-Shirt. As soon as he heard you entering, his head snapped your way, before quickly turning it back onto the screen. ‘’Come here,’’ he added as he patted his lap, without bothering to look at you.

‘’No.’’ you coldly replied as you turned around, ‘’keep watching your 2D girlfriends since they're clearly more entertaining than me.’’ slamming the door behind you, Heeseung was visibly confused by your attitude, quickly excusing himself and ending the call with his friends before following you out of his room.

‘’Did you just call the characters in my game ‘my girlfriends’?’’ he asked you as soon as he grabbed your hand, forcing you to turn around and look at him.

A frown formed between your eyebrows as you removed his grip from your wrist, putting some distance between the two of you ‘’well, you clearly like them more than you like me.’’ you replied dryly, sitting down on the sofa with crossed legs, turning on the TV.

‘’C’mon, don't tell me you’ve never found a fictional character hot,’’ he added as he sat down beside you, wrapping his arm around your shoulder, ''They're hot but they aren't real. That's it.’’

Slowly turning your head to look at him, you closed the gap between the two of you, grabbing his chin, pinching his cheeks with your nails ‘’are they hotter than me?’’

‘’No way!’’ Heeseung added, chuckling at your actions, ‘’are you jealous because of some characters?’’ His laugh only pissed you off more, rolling your eyes, amusing him even more. ‘’Nobody’s hotter than you baby.’’ he leaned in to whisper into your ear, a shiver running down your spine due to the sudden closeness.

This time, it was his turn to grab your chin, as he slowly turned your head around, making you face him, ‘’I bet you’d be more entertaining than them anyways.’’ he replied, gently cupping your face as his other hand was caressing your thigh.

Looking into his eyes, you were debating whether you should put your attitude aside, forget about your little hangout that will, probably, never happen at this point, or simply ignore him and give him the silent treatment. Seems like you decided to do neither of those two, since you impatiently climbed onto his lap, resting your hands on his broad shoulders to stabilize yourself, ''You say I’m more entertaining than them?’’ leaning in you licked his earlobe, feeling his hands on your hips as soon as your tongue made contact with his skin.

‘’Of course,’’ he quietly added, almost like a whisper, as he turned his head around, wanting to kiss you, only to be denied when you suddenly turned your head the other way.

‘’Prove it then.’’ visibly confused by your question, he raised his eyebrows, your faces dangerously close to each other now, ‘’delete than stupid game and spend some quality time with me instead.’’ brushing your lips past his, Heeseung was slowly going insane, all thanks to your teasing.

‘’Deal.’’ smashing his lips on yours, he pulled you in a needy kiss, his large hand quickly finding its way behind your head, almost pressing you on his body.

Putting your hands on his chest, you slowly pushed him away, resting your head on his forehead as he tried to kiss you again, chasing after your lips, ‘’Delete it now.’’ you demanded, glaring into his eyes, seeing them gradually darken under your touch.

‘’Later.’’ he sharply said before trying to drag you into another desperate kiss, only to be denied again.

‘’Now.’’

‘’Fine.’’ he rolled his eyes, visibly frustrated by your attitude; pushing you off his lap, he rushed to his computer, with you trailing behind him. Without a second thought, he deleted the game, surprising you since you didn't expect him to be so eager to do it. ‘’Now, do I get to ‘spend some quality time’ with my pretty girlfriend?’’ he answered as he closed the gap between the two of you, his hands swiftly finding their way around your waist.

As soon as he saw you nodding, he pushed you down onto his bed, climbing on top of you before leaning in to kiss you again; it felt like he wasn't taking his time with you anymore, harshly biting down onto your lower lip before pushing his tongue into your mouth, exploring every corner of your cavity. Wrapping your arms around his neck, you knew he liked it when you dug your nails in his skin, or when you played with his hair, driving him crazy.

Heeseung felt like a starving man, kissing you like there was no tomorrow, not that you were complaining. You wanted all his attention, and well, you got it. Feeling trapped under his body, you wanted to turn the tables, slowly lifting yourself up and pushing him against the headboard, you were on his lap again, detaching your lips from him only to kiss his defined jawline. His hands were now on your hips, moving your body against his own as he threw his head back, giving you the space you wanted. Kissing a particularly sensitive spot on his neck, you felt his grip tightening on your hips, as he rested his head on your shoulder, clearly enjoying your doing. ‘’Take this off.’’ you demanded, playing with the hem of his shirt, watching as he quickly obeyed your words, lifting it over his head and throwing it to the side.

Trailing your hands up and down his bare chest, you leaned in, kissing his sweet skin again, all the way from his collarbones down to his hip bone, stopping right above the waistband of his sweatpants. Going back up, he gently cupped your face, kissing your lips again.

The fact that he always let you do anything you wanted to him was definitely igniting something indescribable deep within you, feeling electric shocks everywhere his hands touched your body.

In the heat of the moment, you didn't realize you left some marks behind: precisely on his shoulder, collarbones and right under his ear, the only place where he won’t be able to hide it- maybe only with turtlenecks. It was spring. Turtlenecks weren't the best option. ‘’Shit!’’ you pulled away, turning his head to the side, taking a better look at what you just did, ‘’i might have left a hickey… right under your ear.’’

Visibly feeling ashamed for what you did, he smirked, lowering his gaze on your body. ‘’I’m sure you’d be more than happy to give me one of your turtleneck shirts, right?’’

Nodding at his words, it was only then when you realized he was talking about this specific one you were wearing at this exact moment. As soon as realization hit you, his hands were already caressing your waist, expectantly waiting for your next move, as he kept playing with the material of your thin turtleneck.

‘’Take it off.’’ he whispered in a breath as he leaned back on the headboard, his lustful eyes focused on your every move.

As soon as you managed to pull the turtleneck off your head, he was quick to put his large hand on your lower back, pressing your bare chests together, the only thing separating the two of you being your black lace bra. Obviously enjoying the view, it was his turn now to leave wet kisses on your skin, cherishing every inch on your neck and collarbones, giving some special attention to your cleavage. Your fingers were now entangled in his black locks as his tongue did wonders on your chest, sucking harshly enough to make a trail of kisses from the left side to the right. He confidently reached for the back of your bra, skilfully unclasping it with one hand. As he was about to remove the only piece of clothing separating your chests, the doorbell suddenly rang, stopping you in your tracks.

Heeseung quickly clasped your bra again, pulling away to look into your eyes, ‘’Are we having visitors?’’

‘’Did you order something?’’- you both asked two different questions at the same time, confusion washing over you as both your answers were no.

Getting off from his lap and putting your shirt back on, he did the same, quickly walking towards the front door.

By the time you got there, Heeseung was already opening the door, revealing a breathless Jake and a very mad Riki, both looking directly at your boyfriend with betrayed expressions.

‘’Guys..?’’ your boyfriend asked, the confusion on his face evident upon seeing the two at his house so suddenly.

‘’You traitor!’’ Jake shouted, dramatically pointing at Heeseung, still having a hard time breathing, wiping the sweat off his forehead.

His statement confused you too, because you had no recollection of something Heeseung did that might possibly make them say this about him.

‘’How dare you leave the lobby right before the match starts!’’ Riki yelled, grabbing your boyfriend by the collar, shaking him in a comic manner that almost made you laugh. ‘’I thought we were a team! How can you backstab us like that!’’

‘’Yeah bro, that wasn't very nice of you. You’ve never-’’ Jake stopped speaking as soon as he spotted the fresh hickey right under Heeseung’s ear, and since he was a smart guy, he easily put 2+2 together. Grabbing Riki by his shoulders and pushing him back, a wide grin was now replacing his betrayed expression. ‘’Sorry for intruding bro, you had a very reasonable motive to ditch us today. Have fun!’’ and with that, he grabbed a very disoriented Riki away and disappeared from your front door.

Awkwardly closing the door, Heeseung turned his gaze on you, an apologetic smile on his face; as he walked towards the staircase, where you were waiting for him with your arms crossed, his hands gently made their way to your waist, giving you a light squeeze. ‘’So… how about we pick up where we left off..?’’

‘’I guess we could,’’ you nonchalantly replied, wrapping your arms around his neck. A teasing smile appeared on your face, and Heeseung knew that meant trouble; ‘’not before you tell me how these two managed to get in here so quickly. Are they secretly Batman and Spiderman or what?’’

#enhypen #enhypen imagines #enhypen x reader #enhypen x you #enhypen scenarios #enhypen heeseung #lee heeseung #enhypen x y/n #heeseung #kpop scenarios #kpop imagines

[skitariiposting]

TL;DR: Making a discord server. Reblog/reply, I'm taking suggestions for what to put in it to make it cool to hang out in.

Y'know, I don't think Twitch Streaming is for me.

I kinda wanna have an open channel for people to talk with while I'm working or playing something, which twitch works for, but I also don't want to feel pressured to be interesting, which I do every time I turn on twitch :/

I may have found a solution, though. I was lamenting this with a friend of mine and they said that their friend group just has a discord channel where they'll share their screens when they're working on stuff and people can join on and watch and chat if they want to or have them pulled up on another monitor while they do stuff too. Or sometimes people will just drop in and chat without watching, too.

I like that idea. I'm thinking I'll try to set up a discord and stream when I'm doing stuff on there. I may still have it on Twitch as well while im on Discord, but I'm likely going to focus less on "making content" so much as just hanging out and chatting with people. Because yeah, making content is fun and all, but I tend to be funnier and more entertaining when I'm not trying to be funny or entertaining. In fact, I've got a ton of folders from me playing stuff with friends where I just hit the record button when I launched the game and then forgot about it, and some of that is great!

So, maybe that strategy will work with streaming as well? Just start up a stream on Discord, press record, and start doing stuff. Then the entertaining will happen, and I can edit it into a video. Either way, currently watching a tutorial on how to make a good discord server now, will keep you all updated.

If this goes through and I do end up getting one made, is there anything you guys want in a discord server? Like specific channels or emotes or whatever? I'm making this less as a quote on quote "skitariiposting official server" and more as a public hangout space that happens to be run by skitposting tumblr guy, so I'm not going to make it me themed. I'm definitely going to have miniature painting channels, tho. That's like step two after making a memes channel.

Reblog/reply, I'm taking suggestions

#skitposting

[jonismitchell]

I missed half the 🍏 lore… I remember last fall you went from being interested in physics boy to liking GS and now… we’re here. are you comfortable sharing what happened? also why don’t we like his gf

yeah i was just kind of chaotic about my crushes in high school which i think is valid because well. it’s high school!

vague timeline, starting fall 2022

i develop a crush on physics boy, we go on a date, he says we can’t be in a relationship but likes me, we have a weird situationship for a while

gs develops a crush on a girl while seeing someone -> gs breaks up with his long term girlfriend

after my situationship deteriorates and my mental health worsens, i largely lose feelings for him

i realize i have unresolved feelings for gs due to the pseudo romantic nature of our relationship, and we spend winter break arguing over whether you should tell a friend you have feelings for them

gs and i go to get lunch and visit at the used bookstore, a fairly common hangout for us, but then he leans down to kiss me on the escalator in the subway station and jerks back before we do

i decide to tell him i have feelings for him, but before i can he tells me he’s in love with the girl he had a crush on while with his last girlfriend

at a party, i find out the girl also has feelings for gs, and out of the goodness of my heart set the two of them up

they get together -> i move on and start dating someone else

i call gs in tears asking to end our friendship and he talks me out of it, but we largely don’t talk for the next two months

gs’s girlfriend tells me he can’t shut up about me and to go back because he really cares, we revive our friendship to some extent

during the summer we see each other once, to get dinner and see oppenheimer, which feels like the old days—without romantic tension on my end. we even go to the used bookstore.

university starts.

gs comes back to town for one day to see me, i feel slightly awkward about it

our friendship continues properly. he is the first person i tell the truth about breaking up with the person i was dating previously, and the person who hears the most about my relationship with jersey boy.

he shares problems he had with his gf in being in a long distance relationship

(note: i get with jersey boy about a week after my relationship with my ex ends conclusively, so there’s really no time for me to be in love with gs)

before our high school alumni lunch, i tell gs it will really matter to me that if he comes. he does not come until the end of the event, then doesn’t want to make eye contact with me even when i call him.

after the event, i have to ask him why he didn’t come, he doesn’t offer an explanation

gs proceeds to ghost me for two weeks. i call and message him because i am hurt and confused. i even ask his girlfriend why he isn’t talking to me, but she never gets back to me.

gs then chooses to end our four year friendship over a fucking discord message where he explains to me that im in love with him and it isn’t right because he doesn’t reciprocate, which everyone in my life immediately clocks as projecting

i apologize to his girlfriend if i’ve infringed on their relationship, she tells me we’re all good and seems surprised that this is what he thought

a month after the dissolution of our friendship, i post a wuthering heights passage with a caption referencing him. his girlfriend takes this so personally that her and most of the people i know from high school block/ghost/stop talking to me over it

#typing all that up made me wanna die

[unicornofgt]

okay...i wanna talk a little bit abt why i took a hiatus from the community/stopped posting abt gtms and like....wanna make it very clear this isn’t a call out post or anything like that, it’s just a bad experience abt my ocs n i can’t talk abt them w/o talking abt it first. having said that, i think anyone who knows gtms knows chamomile-g-tea and the amount of art she made and posted of it, but what hasn’t been as public is the lack of creative boundaries in our now ended friendship.

creating someone’s hyperfixation when they have the ability to personally talk to you whenever they want is...a lot. and despite any good intentions she might’ve had as a friend, chamomile treated my ‘for fun’ story as a big fandom, subsequently creating an environment of people who followed her example and treated her as the forefront of this ‘fandom’ (or as just. the actual creator). and she encouraged and endorsed this (ex. posting my ocs w/o credit for months), pressured me into making several choices involving the story (ex. a discord server i didn’t want to run where she added minors w/o my consent), and completely overstepped by acting as an unofficial authority on the characters and story (ex. having conversations w an untold number of complete strangers abt them), even when i asked her not to do these things. there are so many details, i’d be here all day if i tried fitting it into one post.

it was like she didn’t think to ask before throwing a big party in my house, inviting all these (several thousand) people i didn’t know, and trashing my house—all while talking abt it like it was a simple hangout between friends. and because no one else was around to see what was happening behind closed doors, nobody had any solid reason to believe i was uncomfortable with this—that silently, i was wrapped up in so much guilt at not enjoying this party (in my house), that i couldn’t recognize that i had never agreed to it in the first place or that it was not a simple hangout between friends.

and now that i’ve shut down the party, i’m left taking apart a version of bagley and obermann that just. aren’t my ocs. her influence turned them into different characters, and it’s taken me many months to start removing the parts of her ingrained in them and rebuild my confidence in posting again (w better boundaries).

i want to emphasize this is not a call out post, don’t be an asshole, shit just sucks sometimes and this is just an unavoidable topic when sharing my ocs. ultimately, after months of feeling like i can’t creatively exist w/o her, i don’t want myself or my work associated with chamomile-g-tea, and i’m working to share my ocs in a healthier way i hope y’all will also enjoy. this is where i’m at creatively.

#to be completely honest ive lowkey been terrified to talk abt this for months bc she’s so insanely popular in the community #and like. did talk to her abt it a bit n shes said she was completely oblivious n it was unintentional but either way too bad. damage done #ngl this shit was my villain origin story but i am getting back my like. vibe lol #bagley and obermann are starting to feel like my ocs again #and the like. cham-ified version of bagley and obermann will always exist in ppl's heads to some degree #and when it comes to complete strangers that’s fine #this post is mostly for the mutuals #i just hope i said everything i wanted to say

[a-dragons-journal]

Few clarifying details: I was calm, just confused, I only knew this friend for a week so I didn't have time to be abusive/shoot them down regularly, and they continually insisted they have cat DNA and when I asked what that meant or what evidence they had, they just kept repeating, "I am a catgirl with cat DNA. I'm not human. You can't call me human." leading to me awkwardly standing there going, "your body looks human, though?" because as far as I can tell, they're a human in this life, just with cat ears and a tails. They got angry, insisting, "I have cat DNA. I'm not human!" and said it's not roleplay, it's not being furry, they don't just mean in a past life, they have, in this life, cat DNA, of the quantity where they no longer qualify as human. Calling them human is not just an insult, it's as bad as calling a trans person the wrong gender, and asking for proof is as gross as asking a trans person for proof of their gender identity. "You're human," I said, because I'm an idiot who speaks without thinking, "and I'm trans, so no, you can't compare the two. Gender can change and be fluid, species can't." To which they replied, "I have a cat tail and cat ears!", referencing their cat ear headband and clip-on tail The conversation then turned more and more into them yelling at me in the college library for my intolerance and closed mind as I sank lower into my chair and wished they'd lower their volume a bit. When they broke out the "I want to die. People like you make me want to die." lines, I suggested they talk to the counselors on campus (since the library is just across the road from the counseling center it'd be less than a minute's walk) and they hissed at me, made hand-claws in the air, and stormed off.

I don't know this person well but I was really excited to have someone under the alterhuman umbrella I could talk to and maybe hang out with. Instead we met in the library one day, had five Discord conversations inbetween, then met there again and they dropped the "cat DNA" "not physically human" stuff on me and I guess I just kind of blanked on how to respond because... well, past lives are one thing, psychological identity is another thing, and identifying as something for other reasons is also valid, but you can't have cat DNA. you can't. That's just not a thing and when a casual hangout suddenly turned into someone declaring they physically weren't human all I could say is, "You're human." because all I could think was, you're human in this life/this body no matter what, that's just how it is. (Well, I was also thinking, please don't compare having cat DNA/not being physically human to being trans, that's really gross.)

So. There, there's all the context. Am I in the wrong here?

Wow. Yeah, that's. A situation alright.

I'm gonna go ahead and say no, that's a pretty wildly aggressive response in that case. There is a non-zero chance that there's a delusion happening, in which case I kind of understand the response, but it's still not... mrgh. All right.

So on the "calling me human is like calling a trans person the wrong gender" thing, I actually do kind of support them on that one (although in this... specific context of straight-up claiming to have nonhuman DNA, maybe concerning). As much as I know there's a knee-jerk response to not like comparing being transgender and being otherkin, there's... not actually that much difference. We consider insisting that someone is the wrong gender unacceptable primarily because a) it's either insisting that we know their experiences better than they do and/or insisting their biology is more important than their internal identity and experiences, and secondarily because b) it's likely to trigger dysphoria, which can have extremely bad results (starting with "intentionally distressing people is just fucking rude"). It is not unreasonable to me to consider insisting that someone is a species they 100% do not identify as unacceptable, because it is also a) insisting that we know their experiences better than they do and/or that their biology is more important than their internal identity and experiences, and b) likely to trigger dysphoria. Likewise, I don't necessarily agree with you that "gender can change and be fluid, species [identity] can't" - people definitely report having that experience, and if you truly believe that, then otherkin shouldn't exist in the first place.

That being said, you are correct that literally having nonhuman DNA is not possible; there's a number of reasons this person might believe that it is, and I'm going to pass on speculating because it feels rude and it won't really be helpful. There is a chance it's a delusions thing, there is a chance it's not; either way, I don't think the way you handled the situation was unreasonable all things considered (there may have been a better way to handle it, but I wouldn't call this an unreasonable one). I can understand why they didn't like the insistence, with the above, but at the same time they probably should have walked away sooner instead of jumping to what they did.

I don't know, hopefully that's helpful? I'm out of thoughts I think, that's a weird situation to get thrown into and I can understand why they reacted the way they did; I don't think anyone was necessarily in the wrong here. Idk that's what I've got

#asked and answered #anonymous #rani talks

[am-i-the-asshole-official]

Aita for 'Breaking up' with a friend?

This is going to be a loooong post so buckle up. I have been friends with this person, who I will refer to as Bread, since 2017. They were pretty much my only close friend beside my sister(Who i will call Gamer, she is important later on) but also i always found them kinda annoying, but I never said anything because i would have to see them in school everyday and it would be too awkward. So right before my school shutdown for Covid, like on the last day, I (basically) said "I don't want to be friends with you anymore." I however continued to be their friend because they acted as if nothing had happened and honestly it took me a lot of courage to say the first thing to their face anyways. This is the end to the first chapter in our story.

So skip a few months in which we have no school. When online school starts we did it on google hangouts, and i found a way to reconnect with my school friends, i.e Bread and two other people who will become VERY important to the story. These two people who i befriend i will call Sprite and Pepsi. Sprite and Pepsi are currently two of my best friends, however Bread has had a long running history of issues with Pepsi. Mainly they set these aside for the good of the friend group. I introduce the three of them to one of my outer school friend, who is slightly older than us and therefore i will call Mentor(who actually has a tumblr so if you see this, by now you know this is me so keep scrolling.) The six of us become very good friends(for those who need a reminder, that's me, Gamer(my sister), Bread, Pepsi, Sprite, and Mentor. Cue 2021, the friend group now all uses discord and I have been invited into a side group chat, titled something along the lines of 'plans to remove Bread from the friend group.' Now, during this time skip i have mentioned a few incidents have occurred. 1) Gamer and I have gotten in heated arguments with Bread over silly things, them being really rude about Sprite's art, them not liking a documentary I recommended, several incidents where they 'introduced' us to their online friends who was just them on an alt account. Anyway, back to the group chat. I am filled in on even MORE discourse between Sprite, Pepsi, and Bread. I don't really remember any of it know and the gc has been long since deleted. We talk shit about them behind their back while also pretending to be their friend(this is partly the asshole part because we did this A LOT.) During this time Sprite is our double agent, being the person Bread always rants and vents too, despite Sprite discouraging it. During this time somthing very childish happens that i am honestly embarrased to type, so i will skip it, occurs, acting as the catalyst for all of us breaking our friendship with Bread in favor of Pepsi. During this event many hurtful words were said, mainly aimed at Bread(to their face this time.) Our break in friendship, however, does not last long, as right after we(Me and gamer) are added to a groupchat where Sprite tells us that they were a double double agent and was on NO ONE's side during this entire thing and also kind of telling Bread what was going on. They explain that this friendship stuff is dumb, and we all become friends once more (including Bread and Pepsi.) Things continue as normal. This is the end of chapter two

School reopens. I am in a class with Bread and no other friends. Each day my resentment for Bread grows. (Also a quick context for our school, Bread, Pepsi, and Sprite all use the same bus. Me and Gamer do not. Mentor does not go to our school. Many events transpired on the school bus that i am not fully aware of.) At this point I fucking DESPISE Bread. Its lots of small incidents, that i never addressed with them. Them being too touchy, invading my private space, not understanding that WHEN I PUT MY HEAD DOWN THAT MEANS I AM TRYING TO SLEEP SO FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DONT POKE ME. At this point all of my friends and I use insta, as me and gamer have just gotten it, instead of Discord. My friends never used discord much, so now, I start talking to my friends more. Pepsi and Sprite start filling me in on more and more of Breads misdeeds. It is revealed to me how pushy Bread is, how they ignore peoples boundary's, etc, and how practically everyone in our grade fucking hates them. This is news to me. I start cutting Bread out more and more. The shit talking behind their back returns, but this time with a vengeance. This time more people are involved. This time, the friend group is larger. This time, the exclusion Bread faces is on a larger scale. It is 2023 now. I barely talk to Bread. Their friendship with Pepsi is entirely down, they had a big friendship over haul that i have not gotten into, but we're still friends, only in name, for Mentor. Anyway, I use Pepsi as a human shield. Bread will avoid us if we are near Pepsi, and wont come to a group event if Pepsi is there. Life is great, because i no longer have to deal with Bread and their bullshit.

Now i come to the final part. The actual breaking up. Bread has confronted me a few months prior about how i avoid them. I weave my way around the topic of saying I hate them because i am very non confrontational. But now, I have confidence. I just finished hanging out with my friends. Its the middle of the holidays so i can send them a message via discord and not have to think of consequences. So i do. I tell them that I don't like them. I don't exactly outline the problems, but I do tell them this has been a long tome coming. Now, comes the reasons why i could be an asshole.

One, I have been 'soft blocking' Bread for a long time before this and i should have done it ages ago. Two, They have literally no other friends now. They are entering a new school year completely friendless, and i cant completely say its their own fault. Three, Most of what I have heard about their wrong doing is passed down from mouth to mouth, so details may have been twisted and I should just confront them about it instead. Four. As their only friend, it was kinda my job to help them, isn't it? but i didnt . I just abandoned them as soon as i got fed up. Five, even when i was genuinely their friend, i was a really shitty friend, refusing to take their side in any conflict that arised. Six, Bread acts like a genuinely nice person that i don't mind hanging out with in person, its just certain things, and the way they act with others and online that pushed me to this point.

So thats it, thats my story. A few helpful things to keep in mind: This is only an abridged version of events. I will be answering any questions i can on a throwaway account to clear up any confusion, and also add more detail on what exactly Bread has done wrong. Also we are all under 18 in this story and currently, so please keep this in mind. I don't think i did anything wrong but also i am surrounded in an echo chamber of people that hate them so i need an outside view to really understand how bad of a person Bread is. Sorry for any spelling mistakes, and I hope this was, at least, entertaining to you.

What are these acronyms?

#aita #am i the asshole

[enchantedlandcoffee]

unrelated but how do you as a writer like REALLY get in ur element and focus, because im pretty sure i have adhd and it makes it hard to focus and everything i try besides classical music (sometimes) doesnt work

and my second question how do you get people to view your work/participate in it, i've been writing for 3 years in the fandom and a few people notice, and i know im supposed 2 be writing just for myself and i am, but i wanted it to kind of be a whole family thing like everyone being excited for updates and its a whole thing... idk if maybe no one cares anymore or no one really knows me

anyways sorry for my REALLY long winded ask, tysm if you read it

also here's this larry gif for you're troubles

all the love, louiscarrotsxoxo

hey!

thank you for reaching out and asking me this! I'm going to try my hardest to answer the best that I can (I thought I'd answer it before I left so I could help <3)

Getting focused and into the element

So I have ADHD as well and I know that getting focused can be tricky. Things that I do/have to help keep me focused are:

Writing Sprints - I sprint in Discord Servers with my friends and we all keep each other motivated and encourage each other

Discord Servers - So I'm in some really wonderful servers where we're all happy to cheer each other on writing wise (I'm going to link them in another part)

Inspiration- So, for most of my fics, I have a playlist that suits the theme and I try my hardest to make moodboards for them to get the feel of the fic. I'll also plan dialogue or even the layouts of flats/houses so I feel inspired to write about them.

I asked some friends in my Discord Server for help as well and this was their responss:

@chai-hat-tea said:

I don’t know about others, but usually having a deadline freaks me out enough to make me wanna complete my fic, even if it’s on the day of posting. And for that, I join fic fests. How that also helps me is because I also tend to tell myself that I owe it to the mod to complete the fic or else they’ll feel disappointed (and not tell me), so for their sake I need to complete fics. Joining fic fests also helps in the viewership of your fic, so once you have participated in a few fests, you might find it easier to build a somewhat decent enough crowd that enjoy your writing and want to read your stories. So once that happens, you can plan a long chaptered fic and then post chapters as and when you’re done and ready. So then you can guilt trip yourself by saying that now you have those people who are waiting for your story and you delaying is just making them wait longer and feel more disappointed lol

@loveislarryislove added:

Yeah I think a lot of it is building community, to pump you up or keep you accountable or help circulate things etc.

Getting people to view your work/participate in it

The first thing I'd like to say here is that you shouldn't define your work by statistics/interactions (a bit like what you said). Having said that, there are a few ways to try and increase your circle:

Make mutuals - There are some amazing people on this site who go out of their way to support each other. Try and get to know new people and interact with them.

Join Discord Servers - The servers I am currently in are amazing servers. My two main ones are @1d-library (ran by @larrysballetslippers and @larry-hiatus ) and @new-writers-discord (ran by me, @red-pandaaa @larrysballetslippers @hellolovers13 @babyhoneyheslt and @rockstarlwt28 ). 1D Library is a place for readers and writers to hangout, discuss fics, writing or day to day life. The New Writers Discord is a recent Discord server where we have New Writers, Writers and Mentors who write all types of stories (fics, original works, etc.). We have sprinting parties, workshops and are always there to help if need be.

Tagging Systems - this post contains all the tracked 1D tags where certain accounts will reblog posts with those tags. This is extremely useful for people who make things in the fandom.

Have fun - Try and enjoy yourself in the process. Interact with new people and make friends, create things for yourself as well as others.

I really hope this helps! I am not going to be online after today, but if you do have any more questions, feel free to email me on [email protected].

(and I love that gif 💕)

Ash <3

#asks #answered #advice

[misscammiedawn]

Do you have any advice for a bee going to their first hypnocon?

My first piece of advice is that hypnocons have multiple core draws to people. They can be gatherings where online friends who only get to see one another once or twice a year get to hang out. They can be the only opportunity long distance partners get to be together and indulge in their kink in real space. They can be educational events for learning and growing. They can be community growth events where you wish to network and make new connections. They can be an opportunity to make use of a dungeon full of equipment. They can be a place where one can get a chance to practice in a space that they haven't before and receive guidance from more experienced individuals.

Before anything happens, decide what it is you are there to do. What sounds good and plan for it.

Whether this is studying the scheduling guide (Charmed will be released in early January), ensuring you get to meet with certain online folks, you get to make use of the practice room or just you want to know when the non-event hangouts are; your best bet is join the Discord and be active and engaged. Make your friends before the event so you aren't disappointed at the event.

Ask for what you want. There's a chance you may get it. If you're there for social reasons then keep an eye on the food channel for when folks are going for meals together, hang out with the door dragon and volunteers because they will know what's happening, they will know everyone and they will always be up for a little chat. Especially when everyone's in class.

Otherwise, just engage. My plan is typically "go to classes that are run by people I like and play with my partners when I am given opportunity"

And before COVID "spend a few hours in the con suite drinking coffee and talking about geek stuff".

Also if you are at Charmed, consider stopping by one of my accepted classes:

Communication during deep hypnosis - A discussion on how to prepare suggestions and guide people in hypnosis, how to ensure communication doesn't get disrupted if your partner becomes non-responsive and other such important tips and tricks.

Utilizing Presence during a scene - A small demo filled explanation on how stage craft can be used to heighten enjoyment and make things more exciting for both sides of the watch.

Happy you're getting to hit the events.

#dawn asks #charmed #hypnosis #hypnokink #hell yeah hypnocons! #hypnocons

[mabeysomeclasspecting]

You're still doing requests? Awesome! Can you classpect mine 🥺 no need to rush with it ofc, pace yourself! Uhh, lets see.

1. What are your interests/hobbies?

i have a lot of interests but if i have to put a pin on them, its always about exploring something new. watching a mysterious internet arg, writing down worldbuilding ideas, getting myself lost because my hometown start to get too samey, exploring abandoned buildings, and watching plays and backyard gigs. which is ironic because i live in a small-ish town, there is not much excitement or exploration to be done in here, but i make do. other interests of mine would be music. i like music that are weird, distorted, and just off. i love it when the rhythm is a discordant mess. however, just because i seem to go out a lot doesnt mean im the social type. i mean, i try to be, i kinda have to get used to keeping secrets and doing things all alone to get some freedom / agency in life.

2. How Do You See Yourself?

Honestly it depends on which character i latched on to that week. I dont really care for having an internal self. Whatever serves what i want best is my current self. But, turns out im not that good as a social chameleon. So, one thing I can recognize about myself is i don't quit and give up on things even when I should. When I want things, I might not be very motivated to get it, but I'll always work on it no matter how long it takes or how many times it has failed. Oftentimes I worry that im too slow and that no matter how much patience and devotion i have to my wants, I just dont have enough energy to actually get it. Or i'll end up ruining myself in the process.

3. How do you think others see you

Unforgettable. Striking. strange and offputting. Acquaintaces say im okay but a little aloof/strange. My family say i work hard but i have no sense of self preservation, tbh i think theyre biased. My friends think im smart and a little impressive. But closest besties, despite my best efforts, see that i used to be super sheltered and inexperienced in social settings. its terrible!

4. How do you interact with your friends?

Hm, depends on what kind of friends. if theyre the hangout friend, i'll just sit back and occasionally make them laugh with my dumb antics and give out some trivias to make things fun and easy. If theyre the deep conversation friend, i would try to impress them with how much i know. its overcompensating i know.

Its not all roses with me though. Some of my friends did say i can be unsympathetic to their problems. which is surprising to them because they thought im nice. i didnt mean it, i guess i just dont get why people just lament instead of finding a solution. its so... helpless. i dont want to be my younger self who let himself get trapped in his own house and miss out on so much life because theyre too afraid to act. so why people do nothing but feel sad when awful things happen is beyond me. And that comes out harsh when people are used to my lighthearted, easygoing self.

5. What's Important To You

I need to feel good about myself. And that's very much reliant on me working for my dreams. Not some escapism or fantasy. I also want change, a kinder world, justice. I want everyone to get whats been stolen from them. However, I spent so much time and wasted so many opportunities because of that dream, it almost feel like its holding me back from permanently feeling good for myself. but when i think about it, im not angry or disappointed. I like to see the silver lining in everything i guess. but there's limits to this. Yknow the phrase "fighting the good fight?" i think, its not enough to fight, you have to win, no matter how many rules you break or how many things become collateral damage. doesnt matter if youre in the right side of history or how many times you prove bigots wrong if you keep losing and dying. and thats a matter of action and bravery, not morals.

6. Describe the ideal you, what kind of person do you strive to be?

Impressive. Capable and competent at everything. Scares people but in a good way. Get shit done. Have sick-ass tattoos, have lots of friends, Can be relied on for everything. And have traveled to so many places and get so many extraordinary experiences.

(note : i wanted to send you an ask a few months ago, but there was a sudden blackout in my area right after i hit send. pretty sure its gone to the void! but just to make sure, if you see an ask thats similar in content to this (i remember saying i like internet horror, args, music, and urban exploration!) its probably mine! you dont have to answer that)

and my signoff emojis : 🫧🌪️

Hello! I definitely think that ask got lost, but I'm happy to classpect you now :)

Aspects: Breath, Heart, Time

Classes: Prince, Thief, Maid

You seem like a solid Prince of Breath to me! I feel pretty certain, but play around with those other ones if that doesn't feel right

Hope this helps!

#classpecting #classpect #asks #anon #prince of breath #breath #prince #requests #homestuck

[avpd-queer]

I feel bad that my former best friend is in a toxic relationship and can’t see it, is throwing away their friends of over a decade for her, but I also can’t stop remembering how, when I shared with them that I had just learned I had been cheated on and gaslighted about it for 6 years, their response was concern about my abuser’s mental health. That conversation didn’t affect their relationship with him in the slightest, they didn’t try to be there for me or show up for me to him, and when I they learned that I was going to get back with that person just a few days later, expecting them to be like, “uh no I don’t think that’s a good idea” (like everyone else had done and like I expected from them, having told them “just don’t let any of your friends date him” when I shared that I was leaving him, thinking they could help me figure out where to sleep and how to adjust), they didn’t protest at all. I was glad to avoid the awkwardness of, “thank you for your concern but I don’t have other options and idk I guess I’m gullible but also I just really want to believe it’ll get better” but also hurt that they didn’t seem concerned for my well-being. Hoping that they just didn’t voice that part because I’m an adult and can make decisions and already know what advice I would give myself. I just had to cling to believing that, and thinking maybe they don’t understand what gaslighting is and that’s why they didn’t seem to care, even as they became less and less my friend and eventually dropped both of us for trying to set a boundary with them about their girlfriend. And the only way they offer for me to be there for them through their relationship is to stuff down all of my needs and feelings, go along with every whim of their girlfriend, and accept that we will never get time with them without her ever again. They kept pretending like everything was okay and they totally understood, when we were face-to-face, and then they’d go home and suddenly we’re horrible and need to apologize to her for…being her friend? Trying to get more time with our best friend? Being honest with our best friend when they ask why we haven’t been able to get closer to their girlfriend? We were trying to be adult and trust in the strength of our friendship, but they fully gave in to their girlfriend’s temper tantrum over her misinterpretation of messages she logged into their discord to read, and they have just fully thrown us away. Ghosted us for pride and haven’t communicated with us in any form since. We had some extra pizza from a canceled event at my partner’s work that I left on their doorstep and had my sister text about, and they responded that they were out of the country, visiting her family. Normally we have two weekly dnd sessions and 1-2 weekly hangout sessions - the first week of dnd was canceled and after that, they just never showed up. This month of nothing is one of the few months we had left before they were going to move to where her family lives in the US, like 10hr drive from here, being fully isolated with her, without a support system, away from the support system they haven’t been away from in like 8 years (when I was in New York - my partner was here during those 2 years, they were roommates).

I’m just so hurt. They meant so much to me, I planned on having them in my life for the rest of it. I knew in the last relationship they were in they let us fall to the side some but she broke up with them and they realized how absorbed they’d been and promised to not let it happen again. Before meeting the current girlfriend, who they immediately got absorbed into. I don’t know what the fuck to do.

#vent #I guess I’ll show this to my therapist #it’s hard to find the words when you’re not in the moment fully feeling the feelings and are talking to a stranger #instead of a blank void #my chest feels like a black hole #I keep thinking of cool people in my past who I was too scared to get to know #how I just got to know the people it was easiest to #because they weren’t intimidating #and this is the result #people tell me I have too high standards but? is this the result of the opposite? I’ve isolated myself as my mental health has gotten worse #and clung to the people who I thought cared about me the people who were easiest to keep in my life #and then those people turned out to not give a shit about me or need to have some kind of epiphany to realize I’m a human #being who they shouldn’t abuse #my adult relationships have just been emulating the treatment I got from my mom and oldest sister growing up #so much of the recurring shit from them has been recurring in my adult life too #never thought I would fall victim to the ‘you seek out the treatment you know’ trope #I guess #btw if there is a person reading this while I don’t always believe it for obvious reasons #I do think my partner just somehow didn’t realize how horrible he was being and is making progress now…he still falls short a lot in those #ways (I mean like not considering how his actions affect me or how I would feel about something and lashing out at me when he’s feeling #defensive not like…dropping a cup or forgetting something) #but it happens less #and he’s quicker to listen to me and understand and apologize #than he used to be #and not so weird and attack-y about his phone and computer and social medias #and he’s usually good about understanding it’ll be a process and the flip side of me being understanding of his growth being slow and non-li #near #is that I can’t get over years of abuse and a rewriting of my brain overnight #my mental health is so much worse after years of gaslighting and that’s going to take work on both of our ends #and he’ll have to create a space of trust and comfort with me not just expect it to be there magically

[ticklishraspberries]

sorry if you have answered this before but does your partner know about your relationship/like of t*ckling? if so how on earth did you tell them 😩

hey, no worries!! i've been in a few relationships where my partner knew about the tickle thing, and it's been different every time!! i do have some stuff in my advice tag which discusses how you can approach telling a partner about it, but under the cut i'll tell you some anecdotes from my own personal life that will hopefully help!!

so, i would say i've been in five official relationships, arguably speaking. my first partner, we were long distance and very young (i think i was 13 and they were 14?) and so i think i just mentioned it once over kik (omg remember kik...war flashbacks) and they were just like "aw, that's cute! if we ever meet in person, i'll tickle you" and then we never met so it never happened lmfao. i think i just kinda brought it up, i don't remember because it was so long ago.

girlfriend #2 and girlfriend #3, i met them both through the tumblr ticklefic community, actually!! one of them still has her blog up but is totally inactive, the other deactivated before we even broke up. so, the conversation didn't really need to happen, because we met through our shared interest in tickling!!

then, my first boyfriend was...kind of a piece of shit but he did accept the tickle thing. i think i told him i was writing fanfic and he asked to see my tumblr and i just sent him the link after he asked a few times? and he was like "oh why is everything about tickling?" and i just was like "......" and he was like "OHHH" and we texted about it because i don't like talking about it out loud and he was like yeah that's cute and like not weird. he was a dick though so moving on.

my current partner was so accepting of it, and i have completely converted them to it. i was hanging out with a tumblr friend (if you're reading this you know who you are) and i told them that i was in a new relationship and didn't want to go through the embarrassing explaining it all again, and she was like "just do it, you'll be happier once it's off your chest and you're getting what you want" and i was like. ok tea spilled! so in my uber home from the hangout, i texted them and told them. they actually knew someone who had the same liking for tickling (like, has a blog and everything. we have talked and laughed at the crazy coincidence, if you're also reading this, hi!!) and so they kind of knew how to approach it. then, to make me less embarrassed, they told me their "secret, embarrassing" fetish (which is literally not weird at all and they are very cute for being shy about it).

people who i've hooked up with or just been friends with have also known, but usually it happened more casually because i didn't feel the need to have this big confession. i'm just, like, very sensitive so they would inevitably tickle me by accident at some point, i'd giggle, they'd realize, i'd say i didn't mind, and they'd just do it a little more often because i clearly liked it.

yeah, so, it really differs from person to person but sometimes you just have to suck it up and tell them. do it over text (or discord/snapchat, because the message isn't permanent if you're nervous about that lol) or type it in your notes app (i have fully just typed the word "tickling" in my notes and showed it when a guy asked if i had any kinks) like most people will not react in a weird way and if they do, they weren't worth your time anyway.

anyway, this got super long, but i really hope that this could be helpful to you in some way, and i wish you luck telling your current/future partner(s) about this if you choose to!! xo

#ask #advice #irl advice

[themaskedtree]

Just a heads up I’m about to go on a rant about something that happened a while ago but still pisses me off and this is the last time I’m going to talk about it unless someone asks me about it so if you don’t want to hear about it again just skip this . So a while ago the group of friends which was about 5 even though I only saw three of them as friends and liked three so if they somehow see this good luck trying to find out who it is! But two of them I’ve been friends with years and even went to school with so they knew me for years but still did that! But we played D&D together once a week at our own houses we never did a play in person and I only miss three session two because I was having car trouble and the other one because the night before playing I was using the bathroom a lot and didn’t get much sleep at all only two hours at most and I didn’t know why probably because of IBS was asking up. So I out out on my social medias to warn people that I’m not 100% they saw that the people in the D&D and said nothing about it all day until the incident happened. So I was tried all day but I didn’t think I was tired enough to just pass out like I did. Just so you know I posted that wasn’t feeling well around 1 or 2 in the afternoon and felt like crap all day and we normally played D&D around 6 to 7 sometimes 8 because they wouldn’t shut up about anime or anime porn which is just cringe. Also and still makes me uncomfortable. So they have 4 or 5 hours to ask me if I was ok and didn’t. One of them has a family member’s birthday party they he skipped to play D&D and blamed me for that even though I didn’t know until he yelled at me from making him miss it! Like dumb ass go be with family instead of playing a game! But I was watching disenchanted on my Xbox One with TheMaskedTree girl because it just came out on Disney plus and she liked the first one so we watched it and get halfway through until we had to pause it to eat dinner and afterwards it was 5:40 so she went go hangout with her cats and I was waiting for in bed for 6 to hit with mt phone on the charger because we did discord to talk and I don’t have a mic that works on my laptop and then I passed out. Now I didn’t know I was going to just fall asleep out of nowhere but it happens when you’re don’t get much sleep and having to use the bathroom a lot throughout the night and morning. But before I passed out I turned off my xbox and got on my iPad to was movies on there. So when I woke up I had a lot of miss calls and Snapchat/ discord messages. No one bothered to text my number or call my phone. But this guy in the group John I guess they pick him to be that Asshole to yell at me. So John sent me a bunch of messages on Snapchat so I responded to him telling him that I was sick and didn’t get much sleep and must have passed out. No he yelled at me for missing because I was sick but not at the other person for missing because of work and she would miss a lot of games not even showing up for most of them. So I went off on him for yelling at me for being sick and as him and I and text yelling at each other I called one of my other friends up and to explain to him what was going on. John even said that people pass out when they get sick but then continued to go off on me for ruining D&D when they had 4 people and 5 characters so yeah they still could have played. They didn’t care that I was sick or that I passed out. They only cared that I somehow ruined D&D night and that without my knowledge made one of the guys not go to a family’s birthday party! Don’t pick games over family and then blame someone who didn’t know for you missing it. So I had it with John texting him so I told him to call me so many times to yell at him for yelling at someone for being sick! The cowards wouldn’t and started to slow down on texting me. Then I got a text because John took a screenshot of our conversation which you can’t do unless you have the other person’s promise because that’s the law! It’s a violation of privacy. The conversation him and I have just showed my sticking up for myself!