#disasterdemi

[disasterdemi]

idk, maybe some people will think this is a hot take, but...

“If greysexual/romantic people feel attraction then where is the line between allosexual/romantic and greysexual/romantic?”

There isn't one.

There. Isn't. One.

That's how a spectrum works. It's a gradient. There isn't a line.

When is this colour no longer blue?

Is it still blue until it's completely red? Or do you see that there is red in it as soon as it starts becoming purple? Or somewhere in the middle? There is no line. Everyone will have a different answer.

(And I would argue that, considering all that comes into play with attraction like frequency, intensity, favourability/repulsion, gender, and so on, it is much more complicated than a 2D gradient like this.)

Yes, this means two people with very similar experiences might label themselves differently. Yes, this means someone who needs a bond to unlock attraction might feel allo-, but someone who experiences frequent, fleeting attraction feels grey-.

So if you're not sure whether your experience is more allo- or grey-, just go with what feels right.

And if you're using this attraction argument as some kind of “gotcha” to exclude grey-aspecs from asexuality and aromanticism then I don't know how to explain to you better that that is how a spectrum works.

#aromantic #asexual #aspec #greyromantic #greysexual #demiromantic #demisexual #aro #ace #arospec #acespec #disasterdemi

[klavierpanda]

5 and 13! 😊

5. How did you figure out you are aro?

When I was 14 I watched a video about aspec identities and demiro (as well as demiace) resonated with me. Fast forward a few years, I joined queer spaces in Reddit and realised I was ace and joined the aro subreddit to do research and then started questioning whether I actually felt romantic attraction when I learnt about tertiary attraction. The final nail in the coffin was when I joked to my friend about how I'd rather go on a date with the Schrödinger Equation that any person. That was just under 2 and half years ago :))

13. What do you wish you could tell your younger self related to being aro-spec?

I'd probably explain amatonormativity to them and that you don't have to be in a relationship if you don't want to be :)

Thanks for the ask!

#ask panda #ask game #aro #aromantic #disasterdemi

[ziezie13]

10 Songs | 10 People

I Got The Message - Men Without Hats

I Beg Your Pardon - Kon Kan

Boy - Book of Love

Destination Unknown - Missing Persons

88 Lines about 44 Women - The Nails

Wild Thing - Sister Carol

Crimson and Clover - Joan Jett

Sorrow - David Bowie

Me Myself I - Joan Armatrading

The Tide Is Turning - Roger Waters

Tagging @simply-sithel, @word-whimsy, @chubsthehamster, @magickingom, @nerdherderette, @desmothene, @aryastark-valarmorghulis, @hyperiius, @brethilaki, @disasterdemi if you wanna of course

Thanks to @everythingbutcoldfire for the tag

#this quickly turned into an 80s playlist #i rediscovered i beg your pardon recently so i decided to build this playlist around that #tag game #also all of these music videos are peak 80s

[willowbird]

Chapters: 1/1 Fandom: All For The Game - Nora Sakavic Rating: Not Rated Warnings: Creator Chose Not To Use Archive Warnings Relationships: Neil Josten/Andrew Minyard, Minor or Background Relationship(s), Aaron Minyard & Andrew Minyard, Neil Josten & Aaron Minyard Additional Tags: background kevaaron, best friends neil and aaron, twinyards, Alternate Universe - High School, cheerleader neil, cheerleader aaron, Miscommunication, Soft Neil Josten/Andrew Minyard, Everyone Is Gay, andrew is smitten, completely unnecessary and entirely brief angst because neil is an oblivious dumbass, neil threatens kevin with a spork, i think thats it, enjoy Summary:

“Neither of you are subtle,” Aaron groans. “The whole school is waiting for you to bang already.”

“I don’t want to bang him, Aaron,” Andrew snaps. “I want to take him on dates and hold his stupid hand and then bang him. Longterm. Monogamously. I want to be his boyfriend, I want him to be my boyfriend. I want to one day be Mr. Andrew Minyard-Dobson-Josten.”

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ok but no seriously. you think you love Andrew the DisasterGay? Wait until you meet Neil the DisasterDemi, drooling over the little bits of skin he can see peaking through the rips in Andrew’s jeans like a 19th century virgin. 

read this like now

#aftg fic rec #aftg #andrew minyard #neil josten #andrew minyard-dobson-josten #disastergay andrew #disasterdemi neil #softandreil #idiots in love

[j-is-a-cat]

hello! when you get this ask, list 5 things that make you happy and pass this on to the last 10 people that reblogged/liked something on your blog. : )

In no particular order:

1) Drawing/creating artworks (not to sound pretentious lol)

2) Spending time with my friends

3) Listening to music/podcasts during a car drive

4) Cooking

5) Rainy days, especially in autumn/winter

What about you, @fandomwriterextraordinaire @the-veirdo @hot-crossedbuns @crystal-jack-asripines @dead-something @babsthegingerqueen @disasterdemi @rabidsewerrat @vampirewhoree @not-kirari-momobamis-wife-sadly ? Also, feel free to participate if you weren't tagged :)

#i know that the-veirdo was the one who sent in the ask lolllll

[transcephalopod]

Has the disasterdemi blog deleted or am i blocked? I literally just liked one of your posts

It's there for me so I think you're blocked, comrade

#ceph answers

[b0neless-gh0st]

Why did my post about the pride tags blow up so fast-

also credit to @disasterdemi for figuring out the pride tags, it wasnt me, i just screenshotted their post cause it gave me serotonin and showed it to my followers, like i said, all credit to demi! 

#Ashter/Vex's randomness #sorry if u dont like being tagged #i just wanted to credit u :D

[disasterdemi]

Shout-out to Minus18 for adding the aro flag for this year's IDAHOBIT 🥺💚

(and also for describing IDAHOBIT more inclusively as the "day against lgbtqia+ discrimination")

#aro #aromantic #aro pride #IDAHOBIT #aro visibility #queer solidarity #image descriptions in alt text #disasterdemi

[disasterdemi]

I love that this is a tradition now hehe 💚🩷

#no spoons for a proper image description right now sorry but aromantic is trending at number 2 after Valentine's Day #aromantic #aro #arospec #aro community #disasterdemi

[disasterdemi]

Well, The Charm Offensive successfully convinced me that it would not, in fact, be a fun idea to go on a dating show ironically as a generally romance-averse aromantic

#the charm offensive #aromantic #aro #demiromantic #arospec #greyromantic #aspec #romance averse #alison cochrun #aspec rep #aro rep #disasterdemi reads #disasterdemi

[disasterdemi]

I spotted at least three people with aromantic flags in the mardi gras parade and if any of you see this post I want you to know that I saw you, I appreciate you so much, and I hope you have a wonderful night 💚💚💚

#aro community & visibility my beloved 🥹 #sydney mardi gras #sydney world pride #aromantic #aro #asaw 2023 #(for another half hour at least 😅) #aromantic pride #disasterdemi #@aussie aros: highkey would be down for an aro float next year if enough of us are keen just sayin 👀

[disasterdemi]

Decided to have fun and knit myself some little flags for pride month bc why not ✌️✨🏳️‍🌈

[Image descriptions:

Image 1: two knitted rectangles side-by-side. The one on the left is the bisexual flag, with a pink stripe on top, a smaller purple stripe in the middle, and a blue stripe on the bottom, all knitted in moss stitch. The one on the right is the demiromantic flag, with a white stripe on top, a thin green stripe in the middle, a light grey stripe on the bottom, and a black triangle covering the left third of the flag and pointing inwards, all knitted in 1 x 1 rib stitch.

Image 2: a close up of the bisexual flag.

Image 3: a close up of the demiromantic flag.

End ID.]

#also learnt a new skill for the demiro one so the wrong side still looks nice like a real flag woop woop #would've done an aro one too but I couldn't find any nice light green yarn :( only like... lime green #demiromantic #bisexual #pride #pride flags #pride month #pride art #demiromantic pride #bisexual pride #bi pride #aro #aromantic #aro pride #aromantic pride #demiromantic flag #bisexual flag #bi flag #disasterdemi

[disasterdemi]

If you've heard too many love songs today and you need a relatable alternative may I humbly suggest Every Song by Vivek Shraya:

And if you're in a sharing mood, why not reblog with your aro song suggestions!

#aromantic #aro #greyromantic #demiromantic #arospec #aro music #aro songs #song recs #disasterdemi

[disasterdemi]

Every year I'm surprised to see aro week posts already on monday morning australian time because every year I forget it starts on sunday 🤦

#aromantic #aro #asaw #asaw 2023 #adhdcore lol #disasterdemi

[disasterdemi]

Inspired by the last post i reblogged, consider this an open invitation to send me asks today/tomorrow! Questions about my aromanticism, aromanticism in general, aro and aro-adjacent discussion topics, terms & definitions and stuff if you're an ally or newbie or questioning, other queer stuff, even just about me and/or my opinions on random things if you're curious!

#i wanna chat but i need inspo hahahha #or just pop in and say hi if ya like 😊 #aromantic #aro #arospec #greyromantic #demiromantic #disasterdemi #asaw #asaw 2023

[disasterdemi]

4, 10 :)

4. Are you out as aro?

So I'm going to borrow my answer from... oooh maybe 2 years ago...? since I can't think of a way to improve on the wording: I'm not "in".

Like if someone asked me I'd tell them (as long as I felt safe), and I've got some pride accessories and an instagram highlight about aro stuff. But because I didn't grow up with assumptions/defaults from my immediate family about my orientation, "coming out" isn't really an experience I relate to.

But I mean now that I've known for a few years and am pretty passionate about it I do find more opportunities to bring it up in conversation lol

10. How long have you known you are aro?

Nearly 3 years now since I came across the term "demiromantic" and went wait a minute...

Thanks for the ask 😊💚

#aro ask game #aromantic #aro #demiromantic #disasterdemi #ask #anon #coming out