#dread talks

[dreadintrusion]

I feel like Chief should have gotten promoted by now but out-of-universe and perhaps even in-universe he’s just so know as ‘THE master chief’ and ‘chief’ that it’s just weird to everyone to change that, like it’s less a rank more a title now.

#they could promote him to admiral and everyone would still be like ‘yeah that’s the master chief’ it’d get so confusing lmao #halo #master chief #john 117 #like SURELY he should have been promoted somewhat by now after everything with Halos and the ark etc etc #dread talks #like at this rate it’s more a title like ‘the arbiter’ to people than a rank fhdndn

[the-awful-dread-that-leaves]

the writer struggle is, albeit not limited to, having two ideas for fics with the exact same pairing that have an absolutely stark contrast in tone. how do i live while one half of my brain wants to write a fic where an old man notices his partner's funny quirk of always making bets and starts proposing absolutely unfair bets so he can see his partner happy that he won. and another half of my brain wants to write a fic where one of them got replaced with a doppelganger.

(this post might be foggyskies related)

#dread talks

[inkskinned]

there are a lot of posts out there that are positive and healthy coping mechanisms for handling the holidays. this is not one of them :)

i think there's like. going to be times in your life you will be stuck in a social situation that you cannot escape from gracefully. i do not know why the internet doesn't believe these times exist. it's not always just that your physical safety is at risk - sometimes it's legit like "i just don't currently have the energy or time to put in the effort of responding to this." sometimes it's a coworker you hate so much. sometimes it's just like, fine, you know? like you know you can handle your aunt when she's cheerily horrible, but if you actually set a boundary around her, it's going to be weeks of fallout with your father.

i don't know why people think the answer is always just "cut them out!" or "don't let them get away with that!" because ... the real world is tricky and complicated. i think kind of a lot of us have an internal "radiation poisoning" meter for certain people. like - i'm talking about the ones who are absolutely giving you gradual ick damage. like, you can handle them, but you'll be exhausted.

and yes. you absolutely should listen to your therapist and the good posts about handling others and set good boundaries and take care of yourself. prioritize peace.

HOWEVER :) ...... since im often in a situation with a Gradual Sense of Ick person i cannot just "cut out" of my life (without losing someone else precious to me) - i have sort of developed the most. maladaptive form of mischief possible. because like, if i'm going to have to listen to this shit again, i like to have a little bit of private fun with it.

now! again, i am physically safe, just mentally drained by this man. you should only do this with people you are not in danger with. which leads me to my suggestions for when your Unfortunate Acquaintance shows up and says oh everyone pay attention to me.

my favorite word is "maybe!" said as brightly and happily as possible. whenever the Horrible Person starts in on a topic you do not want to go further with, particularly if they make a claim that you know to be inaccurate, do not respond to it. you and i have both tried to actually argue with this person, and it hasn't gone well, because this person just wants the drama of an argument. however, "maybe!" gives them literally nothing to go on. it is incredibly disarming. they are used to people having some response. they know they can't prove what they're saying, and maybe! treats them like the child they are. it dismisses them in the politest way possible.

i like to say maybe! and then, in their stunned silence, immediately change the subject. this is because i have adhd and i will have something unrelated to talk about, but if you can't think of topics fast enough, i recommend just pointing to something and saying, "isn't that lovely?" because fuck you let's bring in some positivity.

by the way. that second trick - of pointing to something and stating an opinion about it? - that just works on its own, like, 70% of the time. i picked it up from teaching preschoolers. it's an intentional "redirect". it stops children crying and it also stops grown adults from finishing their explanation on why women belong in kitchens. dual wielding!

keep it silly for yourself. i absolutely do not care if people think i'm fucking stupid (it's more fun if they do) and as a result i will purposefully misunderstand things just to see how long it takes them to realize i've completely removed them from the subject at hand. when they say "women aren't funny" i get to be like. "which women." "all women." "all women in america?" "no in the world." "like the mole people? the people in the world?" "what? no. like, alive." "oh are we not counting the mole people?" "what the fuck are you talking about." "you don't believe in the mole people?"

similarly, i play a personal game called "one up me." my Evil Acquaintance literally knows this game exists (my family & friends caught onto it and now also play it) and it always fucking gets him. i don't know why. you have to be willing to be a little free-spirited on this one, though. the trick is that when they make one of those horrible little bigoted or annoying comments they are always making, you need to go one unit weirder. not more intense, mind you - just more weird. "you don't look good in that dress." "yeah, actually, my other dress was covered in squid ink due to a mishap at the soup store." "you shouldn't wear such revealing clothes." "wait, what? oh shit. sorry, your son tears off strips when no one is looking and eats them. i swear it was longer before we left the building."

the point of "one up me" is to completely upend this person's narrative. we both know this person likes setting up situations where you cannot "win" and then they really like telling other people how badly you handled it. in a usual situation, if you respond "please don't say something that rude", you're a bitch. but if you let it happen, you're letting yourself be debased. they are not usually expecting door number three: unflappably odd. because what are they going to say when they're telling everyone how badly you behaved? "she said my son eats her dresses" ".... okay?"

if you can, form an allyship with someone whomst you can tagteam with. where they can pick up on your weird "soup store" story and run with it.

the following phrase is amazing and can be deployed for any situation: "oh, be nice :) it's the holidays!" i do not know why this works as often as it does. i'll say it for the most random shit. i think this is bc most of the time these people know they're being impolite, they just like to fight.

godbless. when in doubt, remember that you could always start stealing their pens.

the whole point of this is - if you can't escape. maybe see how long you can just be. like. a horrible little menace.

#this is objectively bad advice #don't listen to it protect yourself and do real work on yourself find one of the good posts i've made about this #but also. u know. if u want to have fun while u do the work of setting boundaries #.... it IS fun #i will say that my fear of him went SO down after i just started. fucking with him. #bc i used to get SO fucking upset #i'd spend WEEKS arguing with him. tearing my hair out. sick with anxiety and dread and anger about all of it #and now i just LITERALLY do not engage #instead i'm like '' haha :) mole people" and get the HELL out of any tense conversation #i kind of think some of these people are literally addicted to drama as a form of connection #they like the rush they get from arguing #but those arguments are incredibly damaging for me #so like..... i am in the process of literally rehabilitating this person to figure out how to find connection thru #NORMAL CONVERSATION #he doesn't get it yet #i also do talk to them like they're preschool kids lmafo . ''are you using a safe and kind voice right now?'' #'' do you need a snackie? you sound a little upset. let's have some hummus and come back to playtime when we feel ready''

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd) #because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

[askforcefamily]

Note: I'll start Replacing a new aesthetic, but in honor of Griseo being the first icon of the Cafe aesthetic on my Profile, they're staying.

(I have to renew the Masterlist 😢)

#Mod Talks #Dread talks #Mod Dread #Mod:Dread

[emozionidinchiostro]

Ah, yes, the three tumblr genders

#ao3 down #there are three truths we live by: keeping existential dread at bay with fanfiction #movies in sparkling pink that talk about existential dread #and gay angels #also #Guess who’s also trending #you’re right it’s supernatural #supernatural #barbie #destiel #good omens #original p.

[lemonlurkrr]

I like it when the snakes say things

#mgs #metal gear solid #mgs3 #mgs4 #eva: its called the slay button actually. #they're all so talkative #kind of refreshing as a fan of another multi-game franchise featuring a silent protagonist #i wanted to get more horror and dread in hal's face but it wasn't working so he's just perturbed now #lemondoodlrr

[inthecarpets]

Kabru is such a character

it's interesting how from i.e. Laios' perspective the story is like fun adventure mixed with drama when his sister is gone.

but from Kabru's perspective it feels like a thriller or a horror story and Laios is one of more terrifying things in it due to the simplicity of how enthusiastic he is around it.

Kabru's there, in the place that terrifies him the most, meeting a person who loves said place and everything involved with it with all his heart. And the longer he knows said person, the more he's terrified of him.

#he doesn't like shiver in fear or anything like that. he's collected and appears calm. but he fears him so much #in a way we could joke It's like the Peak lvl of fail in autistic to allistic communication #but that sense of dread is so meaningful still #Carpet talks #Kabru #dungeon meshi #Laios #laios touden #dungeon meshi spoilers #dunmeshi spoilers #just like the actual reason for it

[birdricks]

the final phrase of my last sentence / hangs in the air, sounding stupider and stupider

#THE LINK IS MY BIRDRICK PLAYLIST. LISTEN TO IT PLEASEEEEE #rick and morty #birdrick #rick sanchez #rick c137 #oh my GOD i struggled w the colours on this one. im SOOOO bad at colours man 😭😭😭😭😭 bane of my life #idgaf if this isnt how it happened in the actual scene. imagery over truth #if it bothers u ummm imagine its a dream or smth. #had to take dreadful reference pics of myslef for this. worth it #i might change the playlist art at some point to smth more fitting but idgaf i just want to show ppl now #and ive wanted to draw this for a whileee now lol #BUT YEAHHHHH. LISTEN TO MY PLAYLIST BOY #artsbotz #oh my god ok im not makinga ny more tiny edits. POST #COMPLETELY FORGOT TO TALK ABT THE PLAYLIST LOL #urmm hopefully its kinda clear which pov each song is. except a few kinda mixed ones #it goesssss all the way from them meeting up until like. s5 ending kinda #apologies again for all the csh. youll have to cope im afraid #its vital listening. listen to twin fantasy btw. btw

[a2zillustration]

It's not looking good out here

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#The first panel here is my favorite thing I've drawn during this entire comic I think #I've been looking forward to and dreading this comic for a week #I knew it was going to be really cool #but I also knew it was going to take a lot of time #hrhrhrhghhrhghrgh #I'll talk more about my in-game experience on part 2 #bg3 #baldur's gate 3 #bg3 spoilers #act III spoilers #ansur quest #croissant adventures #tav #ansur #gale #gale dekarios #breadweave #gale x tav #comics

[marblepebble]

Guys my dad works at Nintendo and he told me they're gonna announce Metroid Prime Fishing in tomorrow's Direct. Yeah she's just taking a day off with Kirby. Leaked pic below

#marble talks #nintendo direct #nintendo #i made this on my phone in like 5 minutes and it honestly might be my magnum opus #metroid #kirby #metroid dread #kirby and the forgotten land #metroid prime #direct #fishing #funniest part? kirby and samus canonically know each other. this could happen #gaming #meme #memes #samus aran

[dreadintrusion]

Still sad about the infinity being destroyed 😔

#I get attached to ships what can I say #I should really write that halo ficlet collection where the ships are like alive/hold souls/etc #halo #halo infinite #UNSC infinity #dread talks

[satsuha]

redraw of a 2016 artwork

#satsuhart #one piece #monkey d. luffy #portgas d. ace #sabo #my op mood fluctuates a lot but i got a friend into it recently and bc of the la a lot of people around me are talking abt it so... #decided to reread it for the nth time ... dreading marineford but the asl arc that follows is one of my faves........

[namari-hime-moved]

assorted vocaloid textpost edits

#mel talks #postposting #vocaposting #vocaloid #sorry the funny singing robots have taken over my brain #gakupo is supposed to be the 27 yr brother in the 4th one. just making that clear #okay tags time (dread) #MEIKO #KAITO #Hatsune Miku #Kagamine Rin #Kagamine Len #Gumi Megpoid #Kamui Gakupo #Lily Vocaloid #Hiyama Kiyoteru #Kaai Yuki #Vflower #AND THERE WE GO

[askforcefamily]

About the uhhh Pokemon art I did , I won't be adding them all quickly , note I have school and i am very lazy so it will take a while to organize everything.

-- Owner

#Dread talks #Mod talks #mod: talks #Mod: Dread

[an-established-butt-dent]

One of my many Solavellan head cannons.

They traveled together for months, years even. Don't tell me these lovesick fools didn't regularly disappear into the woods together, to have a quiet romantic moment away from the prying eyes of the other companions.

Mixed media on paper.

#Only to return to the morning back to camp with Lavellan having slightly more dishelved hair than usual. #and Dorian commenting on it immediately ofcourse #Like their romance is incredibly angsty but i really wished there had been more scenes of them just them having a sweet and intimate moment #I mean yes there is the balcony scene at skyhold #but solas literally runs off when he confesses his love for Lavellan. LOL #talk about running away from his feelings #kinda hard to run away from your love when you are travelling months together. I imagine they have had moments where they basked- #-in the newness of it all. A moment of quiet understanding and feeling alive. Of new love. #Ugh these two #solasmance #Solavellan headcannons #solas x female lavellan #solas x inquisitor #inquisitor lavellan #my art #solas #dragon age inquisition #art #my fanart #dai #drawing #traditonal illustration #pencil art #the dreaded husband rises #the dread egg #solas dragon age #solavellan fluff #solavellan fanart #dragon age dreadwolf #da: dreadwolf