#esp for other queer trans guys

[galesburgdogs]

it rlly sucks to see professional sources have little/lacking nuance abt queer history especially people who could be considered more trans-y

#was watching a queer hist doc and they refered to dr james barry as a lesbian + used she/her pronouns for him the entirity of the time #and like sure. he isn’t alive for us to ask him his pronouns. and we shouldn’t label him any which ways lesbian or trans man. bc he didn’t #have those types of concepts available for him to personally identify as #but like. he pretty explicitly wanted to be known only as a man in his death. #knowing that we should esp as queer historians at least respect him enough to call him by his chosen gendered language #you guys research this! you should know this! you have nuance abt other aspects of queer historical life! why not this

[johannestevans]

idk man if you're a trans dude, esp if you're a trans man who's attracted to other men, and the only queer spaces you regularly attend are very hard on "fuck all men" or "ew men are so gross" like.

you deserve better than that, and you should also be in other queer spaces

like absolutely, cishet men have treated basically all of us fuckin terribly and many people have trauma related to cishet patriarchy

but either you're being included in that hatred (bc you're a man) or you're being misgendered (bc you're not ~really~ a man)

and thats. bad.

like as a queer person you deserve to be in spaces where you're loved and celebrated and cared for in your entirety, not where you're expected to swallow that down

and i would say the same to trans girls or bi guys whose friends are like "ew pussy is gross" gays

i know the latter is a bit less common than it used to be? but nonetheless i will say it like. obviously trans dudes have cunts too, so its not just about the biphobia, but the biphobia IS real and you DO deserve better

we're queers bc we cannot fit into cishet society without compartmentalising ourselves and splitting ourselves into part - if the queer spaces you are in are forcing you to do that shit again, YOU NEED AND DESERVE BETTER SPACES

(and obviously this goes double triple quadruple if you're disabled and abled queers are treating your existence like its a chore, if youre Black and white queers make you feel like a joke or a sex object, etc etc

there IS better out there and you DESERVE better)

you deserve to be loved and cared for wholly, as you are! that is the bare minimum you should be afforded, and you don't owe the people who feed your self-loathing, who demand you present yourself only in parts or fractions, SHIT. fuck those people

#musings

[starrylayle]

Soman’s failed POC and Queer rep in the SGE saga — And why criticism is essential to the movie (franchise)

[repost]

Before I start though, I’d like to say that if you have any argument about forced representation, dni. I don’t give a shit that ur faves aren’t white anymore — and please stop fucking harassing Soman and the cast about this non-issue.

Now onto the racial criticism of Soman’s work, which I don’t see talked enough about.

Being a person of colour does not mean you are exempt from racial criticism. I’m sure this is known by now, but in the books, literally everyone is white. Like EVERYONE. And not only that, the beauty standards he portrays and tries to critique (but then fails miserably at unfortunately) are so Eurocentric it’s quite disheartening actually - pale skin, small noses, coloured eyes, etc. The themes are also quite Eurocentric as well — if you had told me that the books were written by a white author, I would believe you.

Now, I’ve always given him the benefit of the doubt here, considering he was writing a middle grade series as a marginalised author, which was a lot more difficult at the time, and because he does genuinely try to improve his POC rep in the later books (even if that does include retconning character’s previous descriptions lol). In that same vein, the cast is also noticeably more diverse, and I truly applaud Soman for that. However, he has not said anything in regards to the racism the cast have been getting, which considering his influence on the fandom, would have been much appreciated. (The only casting choice he actually spent some time defending was brunette Tedros 💀💀 — like mate, get your priorities together!). Also, since whiteness is quite intrinsic to the core themes of the story (I’ll make a separate post on that later), I worry that the movie will unintentionally be pushing it. And if that’s the case, people should be allowed to critique this (hypothetical) poor depiction of race, without it being considered racist. (As previously mentioned — this excludes those fucking weirdos who just hate on the cast coz their faves aren’t white anymore 🙄🙄)

Ok so, in regards to the queer-coding/queer-baiting:

Just like being a POC doesn’t mean u can’t have internalised racism, being queer doesn’t mean u can’t have internalised homophobia, especially to other members of the community. I don’t know why exactly Soman struggles with writing queer rep so much (I mean I can understand in 2013 — but now plenty of middle grade books include queer characters), but he barely has any canon gay rep.

Tristan/Yara, who is not even specified whether they are gay or trans, is one of the first characters to die, with absolutely no resolution to their arc whatsoever - and their queerness is never mentioned again. The next confirmed queer couple are two backgrounder guys who barely have any significance to the story. The couple after that are two evil white boys, who are only confirmed to be queer after they both die. They are are the only relevant gay characters at this point — yet ofc they’re dead, white and evil. This wouldn’t be a problem if there were other (good) queer characters, but since that is not the case, it just comes off as rather… icky.

Now notice how all these couples, as poorly written as they are, are all (white) gay men? There are hints that Hester and anadil might be in a relationship, but it’s never explicitly confirmed.

In addition, sophie and Agatha are explicitly queer coded — (I made a post about it on my acc for anyone’s interested) — they even kiss!! Of course people are going to be mad that they were baited into a relationship that ended up being incesteous! Especially, ESP, considering that Agatha is now a Black girl in this adaptation. We barely see any white canon wlw couples in media — Black sapphics are almost unheard of in the mainstream, especially as leads. first kill, one show that featured a Lesbian Black girl lead (a Dark-skinned one at that!)— got cancelled. And this happens all the time. Lesbians/sapphics, esp sapphics of colour, ESP Balck sapphics are barely given any time of day in our media in favour of centring gay white men in queer narratives, and thus they have every right to be upset at the queer baiting.

I’m not Black, but as a queer woman of colour, Agatha’s character has always been very special to me. I’ve always thought she should be a POC considering how different her and her mum are from the rest of her cookie-cutter village, and queer because she did not fit into conventional notions of femininity. It would be so awesome to see Agatha, a queer woman of colour, as the lead in a high-budget fantasy series. But alas, that is too many marginalised identities for the general audience.

Not only that, the twin reveal was just plain bad writing. It had absolutely no bearing at the story whatsoever and is never mentioned again. It was just done purely for shock value, and for that, I will absolutely critique Soman.

I know that this discourse is tired and worn out — and understandably so, it’s been years. However, now that this movie is approaching mainstream — At worst, this queer baiting can already add to the whole ‘lesbian relationships aren’t serious’ and other terrible stereotypes. At best, it deprives sapphics of much needed representation in mainstream fantasy films.

Remember, unlike with the books, we as fans have the power to influence the story. If the creators see how unpopular the twist is with the public, they can probably change it. We can make a difference! Btw, this doesn’t mean sophie and Agatha should be endgame — I’d like for them to be in a short term relationship and be confirmed as canonically queer — Tagatha can still be the end couple! (Not hophie tho, coz sophie is a lesbian and I despise Hort lol).

#the school for good and evil #sge #agatha of woods beyond #sge movie #representation #school for good and evil #agaphie #sophie of the woods beyond #the school for good and evil movie #agatha of the woods beyond #tagatha #sophie x agatha #representation matters #lesbian #bisexual #gay #queer #idk why Soman refused to give us queer rep #in the og series #but we have a chance to change that now !! #my stuff #sge movie spoilers

[c0yb0y]

I was thinking about some shit so you guys get a rant about otherkin and trans people (under the cut)

the infighting in the alterhuman community is so bullshit. who gives a fuck if someone kins fucking Aphrodite???? or a pine tree??? who gives a fuck about 8 year olds that don't understand what otherkin is and thinks you can choose??? none of that matters in the grand scheme of things. yk what does matter? the fact that therians and otherkin are being used to deny trans people basic rights. maybe we should be talking about that and not whether spacekin or some shit are valid???? maybe we should be educating people on the fact that alterhuman and trans people are different and fighting for trans rights instead of infighting. maybe we should be fighting for trans rights considering just how many of us are trans. maybe we should talk about that.

I just think it's stupid that the biggest otherkin educational creators (on tumblr n tiktok esp) are all about "being otherkin isn't a choice !!!" or "stop faking being a therian !!!" and are never talking about how we're being propagandized against trans people (in the us at least) and the more we're silent about the disinformation, the more rights trans people lose. and please do keep in mind that this is coming from a trans person in a state in the us where my rights are being taken away, one by one, and it's getting quicker by the day. it's so much more important to talk about what is happening in our community politically rather than bickering with each other like children. I feel the same way about the queer community. although I hold my opinions on some of the infighting (because some of it really does affect us), I think flag discourse and neopronoun discourse are so fucking stupid. that is not the thing we need to talk about. we need to talk about how there is a trans genocide going on in the US right now. we need to talk about how rare it is to see an old trans person because of how we die so young. we need to talk about how trans people are not safe here. and we're talking about "this flag is lesbiphobic bc it looks similar to the lesbian flag :((((" TRANS PEOPLE ARE DYING. semantics dont matter when people are dying. talk about that instead of bickering.

#otherkin #alterhuman #nonhuman #therian #otherhearted #trans #transgender #trans rights #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqia+ rights #guys!!! #lets talk about this!!!! #otherkin are being used to set back trans rights significantly and the fact that we havent been fighting that is disappointing

[plottingalong]

Lesbians in Space Masterpost:

Happy Valentines! My favourite genre by far is one I like to call Lesbians In Space. This is the pinnacle of all human creation in my opinion. The only rules of Lesbians in Space is that there MUST be actual, real sapphics (at least one), and that space has to be somewhat incorporated. That's it. If you have more examples of this PLEASE tell me.

*there's also a list of honorable mentions for things that fit the vibe in my opinion but aren't as explicitly Lesbians In Space.

Books/Novellas

The Locked Tomb series (arguably THE lesbians in space series) by Tamsyn Muir. If you're on Tumblr you've probably heard of these but the first book is a murder mystery in a creepy space mansion.

The Teixcalaan series (A Memory Called Empire and A Desolation Called Peace) by Arkady Martine. A poetry-obsessed ambassador from a space station subject to the whims of the Teixcalaan empire needs to unravel a plot and figure out wtf her predecessor was up to, while being assisted by a government agent.

The Serpent Gates Duology (The Unspoken Name and The Thousand Eyes) by AK Larkwood. Csorwe, an orc who was raised as a sacrifice to a god, is rescued by a shady sorcerer and pulled into his plot regarding world dominantion, abd then falls hard for a math nerd.

An Unkindness of Ghosts by Rivers Solomon (with a non-binary/trans/gnc and sapphic mc). This book is a lot heavier in terms of trauma than the other things on this list, esp regarding slavery+neurodiversity+transphobia so yeah maybe check a list of CW but it's good!

The Necessity of Stars by E. Catherine Tobler (novella). Former UN diplomat deals with memory loss and aliens. Technically not as space-y as the rest of this list.

This Is How You Lose the Time War by Amal El-Mohtar and Max Gladstone (novella). Two spies on two sides of a time-and-space war test each other's wits.

Light From Uncommon Stars by Ryka Aoki (trans girl MC, side characters that are lesbians, technically it's not ALL in space but it's pretty dang space-y.) Evil lady teaches a young violinist in order to collect her soul, hijinks ensue.

Podcasts:

The Strange Case of Starship Iris. A doctor accidentally joins a group of space smugglers while uncovering a government conspiracy. Also has a trans guy and two nb characters.

The Pasithea Powder. After a war between two planets, two old friends, one an honoured war hero and the other a disgraced scientist, are pulled back together due to a government plot.

TV shows:

She-Ra (for kids). You know what this show is about. Cadet of the evil forces who's good at everything turns out to be the chosen one that fights for good against her former bestie.

Doctor Who s10- the Doctor's companion falls in love with a puddle that's a girl.

Honorary mentions:

Winter's Orbit- romance sci-fi, gay arranged marriage in space.

The Murderbot Diaries - series of novellas. queer side characters aside, Murderbot isn't human but definitely has an interesting concept of romance and gender that I find pretty dang queer.

The Left Hand of Darkness by Ursula Le Guin. The blueprint!!!! Local male ambassador (deragatory) goes to covertly visit a very cold planet where people are sex-less most of the time (and very interesting genders). The discussion of gender is fascinating in my opinion.

Wolf 359 (podcast). Pissed off crew of a wreck of a ship do their best to survive space and each other. (there's a canonical gay character but also Isabel Lovelace is a lesbian in my heart)

Among the Stars and Bones (podcast) a group of xenopaleantologists go dig up an ancient alien site. there's an important nonbinary main character.

#the locked tomb #a memory called empire #the pasithea powder #queer fiction

[horce-divorce]

And ykw, in re: queer people eating up terf rhetoric uncritically, I'm STILL reeling about how, when I came back from Twitter, i was seeing all these ads for Folx and Plume on Tumblr, and the ONLY comments and reblogs were attacks, things saying "this company exploits trans people, don't use it."

Plume is a company run BY trans people. It's a bunch of trans doctors who will prescribe you HRT via telehealth and do all your labs, refills, needles etc for like $99/mo (last time i checked). Folx is the same but a bit cheaper and operates in different states, in an attempt to cover gaps in trans Healthcare coverage.

As soon as I started blocking terfs I stopped seeing those comments. But I also stopped seeing anyone talking about Folx or Plume. Point blank. I dont even get the ads for it anymore. It's like everyone just absorbed the idea that they're "preying on trans people" by giving you HRT, which is TERF 101 LEVEL SHIT. None of you even fucking Googled it!!!

Like honestly I'm pretty bitter about this whole thing, and the fact that I've not yet seen ANYONE talk about this or own up to it in the 2-3 years since???? Folx and Plume are both still around. I've had to consider using them multiple times even in relatively "safe" states like Michigan, because sure, your insurance might cover HRT, but good luck finding a doctor who will prescribe it, because PP doesn't do HRT there, there's like 4 doctors in the whole state that will, and they will be like a 6 hour drive from you if they're accepting patients at all.

So like idk especially with all the absolute HORSE SHIT that you guys like to put TPOC, intersex ppl, asexual ppl, and trans men thru at the mere SUGGESTION of terfs, I just have to wonder how many of you are STILL repeating word-for-word terf rhetoric without unpacking it. (I mean, in addition to those of you I SEE STILL DOING THIS.) You may be critically/outwardly against TERFS, but if you don't actually take ANY time to block them, or even recognize and challenge their rhetoric in your head, you arent doing enough to avoid them. Cause you're STILL repeating it and you look foolish, WHICH WAS THE GOAL, BTW. To make queer (esp trans) people look foolish and disorganized, and to drive a wedge between our communities about struggles we actually fucking share.

Another example: I've said it before and I'll say it fucking again, "trans men can't speak to being oppressed bc you are MEN and therefore have Male Privilege, SILENCE, OPPRESSOR," is the SAME ARGUMENT from a few years ago about "ace and aro ppl aren't queer bc you don't experience sexual attraction, you can't be oppressed for something you dont experience, therefore, silence, cishet!" Signed, an asexual gnc transmasc. This was another instance of queerphobic, divisive terf rhetoric getting passed around uncritically for YEARS. (I can't speak to this bc I'm not a lesbian but it does feel eerily similar to "bi lesbians are harmful to our community" as well, that whole, "anything that could even feasibly one day sorta be tied back to Men means its #unsafe" vibe, but also a very, "anyone queerer than a cis political lesbian is a threat to our community," vibe, which feels r/dfemmy to me.)

I see people TALK about the dark ages of asexual hatred on this site, but I dont see a lot of you dissecting how that happened or how to prevent it from happening again to other communities. I see people talking about "wow everyone on this site sure was unhinged about asexual ppl" and then turning around and saying shit like "transandrophobia truthers." fucking look at yourselves.

#me #queer stuff #disc horse

[daisychainsandbowties]

your nonbinary beatrice post, i’m mentally jumping up and down on a bed ala s1 ava

nonbinary avatrice is so damn underrated imo, especially since they both read very trans and/or nd, (beatrice especially ((unrelated but lilith also has autistic vibes for similar reasons to beatrice)

ava is a bit complicated because on one hand it’s very likely she doesn’t care much or at all, and you have that whole queer af conversation between her and chanel about not knowing who you are because you never got a chance to explore or something that’s even queerer knowing that chanel’s actor is trans, and how often being queer and disabled goes hand in hand because of how man & woman is usually defined so much as a cishet white, thin, well off, pro status quo abled man/woman, but also on the other hand, that could also be the very same reason why a disabled person might firmly id as cis and/or with their agab, because of how they’re systematically denied manhood/womanhood because of their disability

and then with beatrice, like aside from the way she dresses, and i refuse to believe the combat habits didn’t make a few nuns realize that they aren’t so cis after all, you have the “people have tried to make me something i’m not. to make me normal. or at least, acceptable*.” and many people will “accept” gay people but only as long as they’re don’t display any gender queerness/gncness and/or transness

(*and obv that line is very easily also or as well interpretable as autistic beatrice, esp w how she displays a few behaviors that could be read as her being autistic, but that’s off topic)

<- first of all i am just yes yes yes about the intersectionality of disability/queerness & how it adds huge good layers to any conversation about nb avatrice. i rlly like the idea of Ava claiming her gender, b/c so often the systems and the institutions and ablism try to infantilise disabled ppl, & that extends to participating in gender, linking right to dehumanising tactics.

& i fucking LOVE Ava really doing gender and doing it her own way and grabbing it and running with it. Ava coming from a place where the ppl who 'cared' for her didn't give a damn about her girlhood. she's been confronted with her girlhood only in terms of pejoratives - 'you're a very x girl'

i am Thinking about the s1 line where we see sister fuck looming over Ava after she gets her period & saying to her 'you're a woman now' & how that is framed for us. just specifically what the entire event of menstruation feels when you are not cis.

ppl telling you that you're a woman (now, suddenly. like, fuck, when did i agree to this. who asked my permission?) and how you can feel your body being reframed and relegated in a certain way by the world and the anguish of that, often the blunt and speechless agony of it because the language that could latch onto what is wrong about the way that woman sits on your skin is unavailable to you

nonbinary avatrice is very mood to me because i think they in general have an extremely gnc thing going on. look no further than the outfits in s2. it is BOTH of them, also. Ava reads very boyish to me (hilariously in a very 'that kid with the band-aid on his nose & the blue shorts from pokemon who runs around on the beach going '!!! my footsteps keep disappearing'. ava silva-core).

there really is something in Ava that resists conventional femininity & i think it is very AVA the way she does it. she's giving the middle finger to it, she's shrugging at it. she's kissing gender on the mouth & girlbossing & also just being a little guy with her baseball cap turned around like ash ketchum. Ava silva 'gotta catch em' all' Silva but with the genders.

& yeah the fact that when beatrice is not in her habit she is wearing very masc clothing, putting her hands deep in her pockets, shirt collar sticking up out of her sweater. the outfit she wears to kick crimson in the face. the outfit from guttural scream fight night. her armour with its bandoleer of knives & her cute little throwing stars you use to hit soft tissues with pinpoint accuracy. the softness and the violence of her.

& you are so right. 'ppl tried to make me something i'm not' - you can imagine beatrice in the catholic school uniform with the pleated skirts and the soft v-neck jumper & the blazer & every teacher saying 'now girls' and 'please, girls' all the damn time. how electric it must feel to her to hear the word boy on her skin.

(& yeah. my first fic which is s1 beatrice POV i literally have a tag that's like beatrice is autistic & that's how i write her in everything. ligaments, star wars au bea they r all autistic. a part of it is... i am autistic so it ends up maybe being a situation where especially in second person it's hard not to write autistically but shrug emoji, i also just think bea reads very autistic to me. i have a whole bunch of my own feelings & opinions on what autism looks like w/ beatrice specifically but that's not for this post)

tldr: yes you are very smart and very right

#ftm-viktor-hargreeves #this ask was.... amazing thank you very much for it #i love 2 talk gnc avatrice and autistic beatrice #(also lilith for sure has the neurodivergence going on) #avatrice #autism tag

[carbonbasedmatter]

ig i've had tumblr long enough so here's my intro yay

★ABOUT ME: he/they, minor, audhd, istp, south asian, trans guy, demiromantic(?) bisexual

★BYF: this should go without saying but dni if you're racist, homophobic, transphobic, ableist, xenophobic, exclusionist or just discriminatory in general

I made this blog so I could have somewhere to be myself I mainly post about fandom stuff, fictional characters, music, my art, rants and personal stuff about me (I also vent here sometimes if you're uncomfortable with that please block the tag)

english isn't my native language so sorry if I make mistakes/don't make sense sometimes

other than that im just a teenager so also naturally a bit cringe and annoying (that's what I tell myself anyway😞)

send me asks about me or my interests pls pls pls

I love talking to people and making friends idc if we have like one thing in common feel free to message me

★LIKES/INTERESTS

reading, art, sleeping, music, alt subcultures, chess, plants, fall, queer history, global history, the middle ages, chemistry(love hate relationship with the subject) crocheting, mbti, skating, philosophy ( esp existentialism), ranting, crystals, sea animals, bats<3

★FANDOMS(idk if i'll post abt all of these lol):

heartbreak high

osemanverse

bojack horesman

the magnus archives

total drama island

south park

the good place

community

young sheldon(NOT tbbt)

modern family

breaking bad

umbrella academy

tmnt

star trek

evangelion

death note

blue period

the promised neverland

the disastrous life of saiki k

gilmore girls

carmen sandiego 2019

the owl house

adventure time

alexa and katie

the worst witch

just add magic

gortimer gibbon’s life on normal street

the perks of being a wallflower

a series of unfortunate events

fear street

dead poets society

the outsiders

★MUSIC:

pixies, asleep at last, mitski, my bloody valentine, late night drive home, car seat headrest, mazzy star, have a nice life, teen suicide, big thief, ajj, lady lamb, tally hall, the front bottoms, mcr, nirvana, brockhampton, tyler the creator, paramore, the cure, radiohead, mr floyd larry etc etc

#intro post #new to tumblr #bjhm #osemanverse #transgender #nirvana #charlie kelmeckis #solitaire #tdlosk #just add magic #toh #heartbreak high #tdi #community tv #south park #looking for mutuals

[yomiurinikei]

Hello! I enjoy your blog and hearing you talk about the another cast! (I got into the franchise in like late August, am addicted) uh what would you say is your favorite hcs for some of the characters?

.....i never answered this i am SO sorry </3 gonna try to list off random hcs for a mix of characters!!

1)yuuki + nikei bond over drinking a absurd amount of soda. yuuki drinking mountain dew will always be real to me, and we knowww nikei likes weird and obscure sodas

2)kizuna struggles with being possessive over her items and doesn't like people borrowing her stuff, but if she actually tried it, she'd realize she really likes buying gifts for people

3)kanata isn't super into fashion but she likes feeling pretty, and often feels cute in like... flowy dresses, but she rarely has the time/energy, and feels a bit weird "dressing up"

4)while he felt more in his element in the killing game/had reason to distance himself from the class, and not try to bond with them, in non-despair verses, tsurugi feels really awkward around the others, and has a hard time engaging and making friends. part of this is because he befriended kouhei via kouhei looking at him and going "is for me?", part of it is because he's. ya know. still extremely traumatized by the uh... other thing that happened with kouhei

5)kinji can't draw for shit. like, objectively speaking, he can't get his pencil to do what he wants

6)yoruko dedicates one day a week to taking care of her hair, nails, skin, etc. it helps her feel in control + comfortable with her experience after being bullied, but once she does some more healing with her past, she realizes it's just genuinely soothing now

7)emma isn't very popular with her fellow actors. she tends to isolate a lot when on set, and isn't close with her co-stars. she's very friendly with reports, fans, et cetera though.

8)haruhiko is very "man i wish i liked dudes, girls are totally sweet, but sometimes i wish i could date guys too..." not realizing he literally just described an attraction to both genders.

9)im just generally a queer yuri truther. i remember seeing people say hc'ing him as lgbt was gross. i for one think that looking at how he acts in canon and going "yeah this is fine and healthy and indicative of a good mental status" is gross.

10)mikako had a "not like other girls" phase which she has officially left behind her, but only semi-recently. while working on undoing that mentality, she realized she's sapphic (i hc her as a-spec too tho, maybe aro lesbian? my identity hcs change every three seconds whoopsie)

11)speaking of. EVERYONE TRANS!!! i esp like transhet shinji tho that has a special place in my heart. he's big bro, ur honor <3

okay i want to say more BUT i have a lab due in a few hours and dont want to fall class so. the end!!!!! oh fuck i have to tag this.

#dra #sdra2 #headcanons #<- that tag should have all my hc posts/rqs if u wanna see more! #yuuki maeda #nikei yomiuri #kizuna tomori #kanata inori #tsurugi kinjo #kinji uehara #yoruko kabuya #emma magorobi #haruhiko kobashikawa #yuri kagarin #mikako kurokawa #shinji kasai #tw: bullying

[homophyte]

i think one of the things that really gets under my skin about the spread of the term transandrophobia (and its related discourse) is just how pernicious the myth that accompanies it is: that transfems talking about transmisogyny (both in general but especially within the queer community) are doing stupid useless insular discourse in a time where people wish violence against all trans people, and are thus on the side of those doing that violence because theyre trying to divide us, but that transmascs coining transandrophobia (and its ilk) are doing important community work, are focused on coalition and mutual aid and protection. the biggest projection ive ever seen frankly especially since transandrophobia only exists in response to transfems talking about transmisogyny--it is literally something born out of and to create division in the community, it IS the stupid useless insular discourse. in many ways discussing the transmisogyny that comes from other queers, yes even from transmascs, does far more for community and coalition because it (very undeservedly kindly, might i add) is attempting to bridge that gap between transfems and those w tme privilege, get them to recognize that privilege and work to better themselves to be better allies to transfems ESPECIALLY now when violence against trans people is becoming more acceptable! addressing intracommunity violence is and should be a priority bc we should not be stabbing each other in the back, especially not the most vulnerable among us, ESPECIALLY not now! (note: while im talking about transmisogyny in this instance this is similarly the case for, say, racism in the LGBT community and many other issues--queers of color arent 'dividing the community' by trying to address it, theyre trying to make us stronger BY addressing it, more able to help each other and, again, particularly our most vulnerable.) the insane thing is this discourse recognizes that fact--or at least cant not talk about it from an optics perspective--and will bring it up constantly but their solution is to do like. more transmisogyny and be more hostile to transfems driving them out of community! like. what! nevermind that the idea that transfems are 'sleeping with the enemy' and secretly are trying to hurt others (in this case via driving a political wedge between them (again: LITERALLY what the transandrophobia ppl are doing!)) is a hugely central tenant of transmisogyny in general? like its not even SUBTLE in how it replicates and acts out transmisogyny, theres so little difference between that and the terf fear of transfems putting on a veneer to hide predation. actually kind of boils my blood how hypocritical the whole thing is esp bc its literally enacting that same violence. WHILE also trying to paint themselves as the 'real victims' . i really have no sympathy for it and i absolutely cannot bring myself to hold it against the trans girls who go on to say 'actually fuck you guys i give up on being nice' bc tme people are fucking stupid as shit sometimes. gullible. the amount of otherwise intelligent ppl who fall for this shit and put fucking dobberbutts or genderkoolaid on my dash is just frankly disappointing and im having increasingly less sympathy for the ppl who fail to acknowledge their privilege and as such fall for it

#myposts #locking this post so i dont get crucified by the terminally online he/theys which make up the transandrophobia cult of personality #i was kinda mad when i started writing this but i got rlly fucking mad by the end #so sorry if thats apparent #i know its generally not my place as a tme person myself but Jesus Christ its not that hard to recognize the harm ur doing #and the privilege you have. if i can do it and know this is bs then theres absolutely no excuse for you not to #and yeah sorry but the transmascs and assorted tmes pushing this narrative are absolutely acting in bad faith and out of privilege

[johannestevans]

it makes me so happy when i see that my trans-centric guides are being linked in practictioners' and support resources, and when people tell me they're using those resources in groups and stuff 😭

like the thing is i was talking w my bf the other night about how i really don't want to be A Trans Essayist bc i fucking hate how those ppl are treated and like

i do not want to be a guy who's known for. being a trans guy and writing about transness only

i already get the occasional "kill yourself" bullshit or people whining about how as a trans dude i'm obviously a misogynist and i'm personally upholding the patriarchy personally, and that's mostly from like. other queer people. i'm not even that visible to cishets, thank fuck

like i love writing trans guys and i love being a trans guy and being in community w other trans guys but like. fuck me lmao. idk there's a handful of trans dudes that do write more gender stuff and tbh i think half of their takes are garbage

but you know that's the basis of essay writing in a highly personal field, like. they're all from personal perspectives, they're all biased, we all have our own POVs and experiences that influence our writing and stuff

and idk there's that vague feeling of there being A Responsibility to do this kind of work in formal essays but like. i'm not an activist and i'm not an activist on purpose. i'm just a slutty gay dude who writes erotica and romance and fantasy, and i like being that

and idk the thing is like... bc i present myself as a gay dude in most spaces and don't talk about being trans, it's not the same as going stealth bc i'm open in some spaces and it's not at all a secret that i'm trans, i'll often talk about it in convo when it's relevant

but like. your average cisgender person (esp cishets) will have no idea i'm trans, having heard of my work as an author. like they'll just think i'm a dude that writes romance and fantasy. and i don't really want to give that up by being The Trans Guy to cishets

bc the work i've been doing has mostly been valuable specifically to trans guys (like the Grindr guide) or has been focused not on feelings or gender or experience but on physicality and practicality (like the vulva guide or the dirty talk one), it's remained relatively separate

idk, i'm writing a lot more non-fiction atm but i'm often torn between doing stuff specifically for trans dudes or for a more general audience, bc like. the former is so much easier and more chill, bc other trans men don't expect me to cut myself into pieces for them

it sometimes feels like everyone who isn't a trans man or masc DOES expect that. it's the price you're expected to pay for being a gender traitor or whatever where you're meant to act as a fuckin. gender sin eater and i'm not remotely interested in doing that for some cis people

#musings

[fiendtheanonymous]

OH YEAH heavily agree on the 'hcing the most popular to hc as lesbian character as mspec' (esp with characters like blossom xD) fandom consensus can be stupid sometimes too tbh

BUT id be really interested in hearing about ur other hcs in the tags

While I do think that fandom consensus can often be stupid (god there are a lot of takes in the fandoms I'm in that I honestly just think fucking suck), I do see where people are coming from with lesbian Blossom. She's not really shown to have any crushes on guys and also her color palette is reminiscent of the sunset lesbian flag. I mean, I've headcanoned characters as queer for much, much less Ex: Trans Butch literally due to the fact that I thought it would make sense for them to be GNC as a kid because Buttercup is too and decided to adopt the trans headcanons for both of them, also because how can I not make a character literally named Butch a non-binary butch.

I do def get where people are coming from regarding this headcanon but I have a chronic case of making all my faves mspec and/or aspec.

Uh, regarding mspec gay/lesbian headcanons, I don't really have any solid ones but I do sort of have that vibe going for Brick and Blossom as mspecs who are more attracted to men and women respectively in my AU/What Once Was. Prior to getting together they pretty exclusively had relationships with men/women respectively although they did show attraction to women/men too. I do think that people would bite my head off if I solidly said they were mspec gays and honestly think that people would be tempted to bite my head off regardless for this dynamic but honestly "mspecs that have preferences but end up getting and staying together with somebody outside of that preference" has always been such a fascinating dynamic to me and I think that's something really uniquely queer about how mspec people can navigate relationships. Im not sure if I have any pure mspec gay/lesbian headcanons yet though.

Bi guy who's mostly into men ending up falling for a woman? Non-binary person who's mostly consider themselves nblw marrying another non-binary person? Woman who's mostly into men falling in love with a woman? It's super cool to me and I wish we could explore that more without people getting upset, seeing it as a relationship that's doomed to fail, or calling it queer baiting especially as an mspec who has had relationships like this in the past.

The Puffs and Ruffs to me are non-human who have been told by people that they need to mold themselves to human understandings of gender and orientation, and I think having them explicitly be like "no fuck that we're doing whatever we want no matter how confusing it may seem to others" is so much fun to mess with. I could talk about my thoughts on the Puffs and Ruffs queerness for hours honestly. They all have something funky going on with their orientations and while the greens are the only explicitly trans ones out of the six, I think they all have something funky going on with their genders too.

The Puffs and Ruffs aren't just queer to me, they're very much unpalatably queer and would be the type of queer people that more bootlicker adjacent queer people would throw a fit over for explicitly not assimilating into rigid understandings of human gender and orientation. With my "oh hey Townsville is actually pretty regressive regarding queer and especially trans people" headcanon too it creates for a lot of interesting scenarios.

#asks #briqkpile #I love making the Puffs and Ruffs explicitly unpalatable and weird and that includes how I see their queerness #remember kids: there are no rules to gender and orientation and you can do whatever you want forever

[jonathanbiers]

ohmyGOD hard agree wrt steve and him being clueless abt bisexuality/his own sexuality. ESP when someone literally hcs/writes that he kissed and/or slept with tommy in some capacity and then they turn around and make him act like "haha thats just bros yknow? im not gay" like. hello??? steve Incredibly Emotionally Intelligent harrington would NOT act like that. he just wouldnt!

i kind of find the "just guys bein dudes" idea in steve's head in relation to tommy to be somewhat believable, bc. idk about you. but i've been the person in my small town that queer ppl just come out to bc i've been out for so long (not out as trans but i am out as queer) and i've had to personally be like no...you kissing your guy friend on the mouth and wanting to do it again is not just bros....

some people just have a hard time connecting the dots to their own sexuality even if they know, in theory, about being gay/bi/pan/ace/etc. this could be for a lot of reasons. for me it took a while to sort out (i've identified as just about every term under the lgbt umbrella at some point in my self discovery journey) bc of catholic guilt making me feel like i need to repress aspects of myself, or that certain things were "wrong." for some people it could be stuff their parents/peers said to them. everyone's different

i do agree he is very emotionally intelligent though, so he'd definitely know something was up, but i think it's okay for him to have had a hard time sorting things out. it's confusing as hell i know i've lived it

it just GETS me when people write him as completely clueless, not even knowing what bisexuality IS. whether he knows the word for it or not, he's not fucking stupid!!!! he's just a regular teenage boy with boatloads of trauma and admittedly much less time to sort through his feelings than others his age

#anonymous

[caseythebunnyboy]

sorry this is so out of the blue but it’s so so nice seeing other SEA trans people!!! i feel like i never come across people like me online (esp. in nsfw spaces) so this blog genuinely came as a really pleasant surprise <3 also ur outfit in that bunny post is SO cute

okay this probably wont make sense to people who arent poc but this actually means so much to me. i have a really big history on having internalized racism and feeling like im "lesser than" white people. to be honest, it still effects me to this day in small ways, but thats another topic for another day- there are so many layers that influence how i see my race that connects with my sexuality and gender identity that you cant really explain to others, they just have to experience it themself.

(im gonna put the rest under the cut because this is probably gonna be long and i dont wanna clog your dashboard/screen)

another thing is that ive felt like i was a "lesser" asian as well. im not chinese, japanese, or korean so my entire identity of being asian is constantly being questioned and pushed aside because im not one of the pretty, well known asians. it made me feel inferior for so long and took me years to get over, and honestly im not sure if im over it yet, but its definitely died down more.

this ask means so much to me because it makes me feel like just by existing as a south east asian, (a group of people that are often ignored and doubted as to whether or not theyre the race they are) and being proud of it, im helping my people not be ashamed of it too. because the sad reality is that almost every single one of my fellow south east asian friends have wished they were white when they were younger.

i wouldve done anything to get younger me to be proud of his color, rather than trying to whiten it whenever he drew himself, rather than wishing he were american, and rather than despising his own country and people for 12 years. he was blinded by inferiority to the point were it became a mindset that we were lesser. that white people are cooler and more advanced, that my countrys history was boring, and that my culture could never compare.

when i was 13 i finally got out of that mindset, but little bits and pieces linger around that i try my best to ignore. now iam an adult man that is proud of my countrys culture, music, fool and people. it makes me happy that i made someone go "oh i found someone else like me!" because yes! we are like each other! and im so glad you feel proud of that, since i am too!!! surprisingly, we arent that uncommon, i have a whole friend group of south east asians that are also trans, you just have to look closely to find us hehe

theres a whole other topic about how me being poc (that isnt all that common or well known) affects my experience being queer but honestly thats a suuuuper long topic i could talk about for hours, so i wont get in to that here. anon, if youre still reading this because i know this is long as hell, please feel free to dm me so we can talk!! i wanna get to know a fellow trans south east asian, and who knows, we might even be from the same country!

last thing, im happy you guys like my outfit in the bunny posts, will post more pictures of me in it i swear! 💜 thats all i can fit in to one post, again, thank you so much anon. i hope you have a great day 😊

#casey ★ answering #casey ★ speaking #this matters so much more to me than you could ever know anon #thank you

[horce-divorce]

"Trans men don't need an intersectional word that goes beyond "transphobia" because being a man is not an oppressed identity, it's easier for them to get resources, and they're not affected by transmisogyny"

Words spoken by people who have never met another GNC person offline (or another trans person who wasn't white) even once tbqfh. And yeah access to those spaces is difficult and often gatekept to shit so I don't think that's anyone's fault, esp not transfems. Your brutal exclusion is never your fault. Still, I think it is possible to have these CRUCIAL conversations about transmisogyny and how transfems are affected... without making sweeping statements about what other trans people do or do not experience. It might be easier for people to check their transmisogyny if they could understand how it does in fact affect them sometimes, their behavior, language, and the spaces they frequent, in addition to how it perpetuates this awful exclusion. Being hypervisible and yet constantly excluded IS something that transfems should have a word for. That IS something I do not understand the pain of as a transmasc. It must make them feel utterly insane. By all means, coin more words! It enriches these conversations when we can relate to each other more and we have more language for the discussions we're having. We want to tear down the walls keeping us apart, not build more.

to be clear, I don't think tma/tme are "unnecessary." Transmisogyny is real and transfems do really experience uniquely awful shit, especially from within the community. But that in an of itself is not a unique experience. Being excluded from "women and nonbinary only spaces" is actually not a uniquely transfem experience. So many transmascs do NOT benefit from patriarchy and I am tired of this claim coming from non-transmascs.

HOW we all get policed by our in-groups presents differently, but policing each others experiences is not something that bridges understanding. And I'm sorry but in 3 years of this convo I've not once seen someone bring up tma/tme to discuss transfems without entirely dismissing swaths of other queer people in the process. Maybe im not seeing the good faith takes, idk.

A lot of other bad-faith misinformation is STILL getting passed around about the coiner of the term "transandrophobia" and what it supposedly means, and how the term itself is transmisogynistic. None of that ever matches up with what I actually see in transandrophobia discussions. I see a lot of diverse people discussing and relating to transandrophobia, specifically a lot of tpoc and intersex people, even a lot of transfems. The people who talk ABOUT 'transandropobia truthers' present a much different idea of the discourse we're having than what i actually see. That inconsistency is a red flag for me.

Tldr i think the concept of tma/tme is fine actually, but I disagree with the usage of the term tme specifically. Terms describing what tma/tme are getting at AND transandrophobia can and should coexist. These are not mutually exclusive ideas actually. apparenrly i cant bring up one without addressing the other bc nobody has good faith conversations anymore.

Basically just. Please don't tell me what I have or haven't experienced, and I won't claim to know your pain intimately, either. we can still relate to each other over the ways we've been let down. I feel like that should be the goal, not determining who does or does not deserve to use certain words.

Also as an asexual, the whole "transandrophobia truther" dismissal feels eerily similar to the rampant ages-old acephobia from tumblr we know and love. You guys love mocking "novel" (to you) discourse and then 5+ years down the line acting like you weren't telling us to commit sepukku for suggesting that ace people can be oppressed for our orientation because we "don't even experience sexual attraction and you cant be oppressed for something you dont experience."

self determination is important for all of us for many reasons. I won't tell anyone else what words to use for themselves. If you're TMA youre TMA, end of story. But dont tell me by definition that makes me TME or that I have to use terms I feel are incomplete or inadequately describe my own experience. I'm not asking anyone else to do that.

Anyway.

#me #like. whether or not i am tme is not something anyone can decide for me #any more than they can decide if im queer or transsexual or nonbinary or demisexual or anything es #else* #likewise if transandrophobia is real in my experience. you dont really get to tell me its not! #i know who i am and what ive been thru and what i relate to better than anyone else does. thanks. #i didnt actually want to weigh in on tme/tma cause it feels like not my business for the most part #but people KEEP insisting that i am TME and must use the word whether i like it or not #sorry but thats not very queer of you

[nanogono]

Transman vent

Not to be hateful, but I wish it was more common for people who identify as ftm and transmen to be more aligned with masculinity and cis-male culture. Sometimes passing is hard and I'm not talking about that, really. It's just for every tguy I finally encounter in trans spaces that is most comfortable being a masculine, male-presenting man, I've encountered like 30 tguys who present and act femme (esp more femme then would be common for a cis guy) majority of the time maybe with a slight butch twist. I don't see the reverse as as often in tgirl spaces. probably the transwoman (at least the few I know) that act as much as a man as some transmen act like a woman, tend to not be given as much space as the transwoman that have more woman-aligned presentation. And the times they do try to be vocal they tend to add some layers of femininity (the inverse is not remotely expected of tguys. in fact I see tguys, too, adding layers of femininity when they wish to be more vocal) . I think it has to do with how masculinity is seen in queer spaces, idk. I just tire of not having many people to relate to in my trans experience because the majority of tguys i meet act like women (no offense) and thus I have to mind myself like I would to a woman-based social group instead of how I mind myself in man-based social group? Does that make sense? this doesn't make sense. Hopefully this doesn't piss anyone off too much I kinda hate that just everyone can be trans now if they think they are. i think gender is something that should be proven/perceived not whimmed. (though, erring on the side of generosity) it causes me a kind of dysphoria to be categorized with people who wear manhood without wanting to actually participate in manhood. Who literally talk about men as though men were an out group (sometimes a hated out group). Who don't want to truly understand other men. Who don't even truly wanted to be treated with the responsibilities of manhood. I can't say get the fuck out of my space because it's their space, too. But, sometimes I wonder if I don't see many transmen I identify with in trans spaces is because transmen who identify strongly as men and can't conform to some degree with the feminine (now) majority get kicked-out of trans spaces more often. Like can I please have one masculine-focused space for trans people that isn't saturated with a bunch of feminine BS? I'm not saying all trans spaces should be like that. (most can be more femme forward) but like just a few that celebrate manhood would be nice

#trans rant #ftm #trans man #masculinity