#frustrated mother

[bumblingbabooshka]

Voyager's obsession with every female character being a mother either literally or metaphorically is so dire like even SESKA got pregnant. Someone put a planned parenthood in the Delta Quadrant PLEASE. Someone start handing out condoms, this is an EMERGENCY.

#Kes barely got out of there alive #Janeway also got out in CANON but in FANDOM she's liiiike everyone's mom <3 like the ship's mommy <3 Hey. C'MON NOW. #I (in general - not in every case) hate when people say 'well X is like a mom/dad to Y' bc more often than not it's just left at that #as if being a parent is just like an uncomplicated and homogenous thing that lets you not have to think about that relationship #in any more depth #ESPECIALLY with mothers and motherhood which I assume is from the notion that motherhood is 'natural' for women. #Like a fish to water!!! Yaaay yippee!!!! #I find it hard to describe my frustration with this both in fandom and in mainstream media but it deeply deeply frustrates me

[freakurodani]

The parallel between Sokka and Tenzin as their fathers' sons.

Sokka, left at 13 as his father and all the other men head off to war. Hakoda tells him "being a man is knowing where he's needed the most" and he needs to protect his sister, his home.

Tenzin is the second airbender. He is also half water tribe, he's a man. When Aang dies, he will be the last airbender. He understands what he needs to do.

Untold amount of pressure and responsibility have been thrust upon them by their fathers. Though, I believe it is not all intentional, but the unfortunate circumstance of being the fathers of sons who take responsibility incredibly seriously.

In Sokka's case, "protect your sister" is a vague instruction. It was meant to give him purpose, to help him feel okay about being left behind, He is too young for war, his father does not want to bring his child to slaughter. But Sokka will die with purpose. He will train the children of his tribe so they will be protected, he will face a fire nation ship until his last breath. He cannot go to war, but Hakoda did not see that war was all around them. In trying to give Sokka purpose, Hakoda put their world on his shoulders.

We do not get to see Aang be a father (in the TV shows), but we know he had hopes for the future. All his children were air nomads, and the air acolytes brought his culture back, but Tenzin could bend. This part of their culture is one ONLY they share. I do not think Aang would hide this, he is joyous that he gets to share his culture. When he feels respected, he always is, he taught the air acolytes after all. Off handedly, he could say, "I'm hopeful for a future where there are lots more air benders," and that, which feels mostly innocuous to him, is the nail in the coffin of Tenzin's fate. He is Avatar Aang's son, and the future of the air benders. It would not matter that Aang meant a future in generations. Tenzin sees the responsibility and it's his. He is his father's only air bending child, he knows what he needs to do.

Being a parent is not understanding the way the things you say harm your children. Even those things that feel innocuous in the moment can be life altering. Especially the more the child respects the parent. Purpose and Hope for those with a broader perspective, can be death sentences to a life that could have been when expressed to those who idolize the former.

#avatar the last airbender #avatar the legend of korra #atla sokka #sokka #tenzin #lok tenzin #aang #avatar aang #hakoda #atla #conspiracy lvl: text #i thought about talking about how my own mothers expectations for me broke me #they just felt like facts of life for her #just as like anecdotal evidence for my thought process #bc like we only know aang as a father from his frustrated adult children #but i REALLY REALLY dislike the takes that are like 'aang kept having kids until he got an airbender' #bc THAT doesnt feel like aang #like #if that were the case dont you think aang and katara would have had like A LOT more kids???? #like if the goal was make airbender babies why stop at one??? #but its because bumi kya and tenzin are reflections of sokka katara and aang #ive made a post about that #its about AANGS FAMILY #and he loves them #i think the favoritism is reasonable #makes me sad but thats cause my mom had obvious favorites (it wasnt me lmao) #another reason why i didnt wanna bring her up <- is doing it anyway how embarrassing #i ALSO thought about my dad though #but i cant talk about that here bc APPARENTLY tumblr only lets you add 30 tags now rip

[notbecauseofvictories]

in terms of my other hobbies, I feel like every warm sunny afternoon finds me with my forehead pressed up against my back window, muttering ".......planting time? time for plants? plant?????" to myself as I stare at my empty tomato cages.

#you know. like a weirdo. #that said I did manage to successfully propagate my pothos plant! I've got weird glass-like roots sprouting #so thanks to the folks who suggested that; it's been satisfying. #(well. frustrating. but now satisfying that I have some evidence I might succeed!) #a couple weeks ago my mother and a friend of hers stopped by my apartment after their day in the city #and her friend called me a ''renaissance woman'' #and it was a bit of a surprise but also....yeah. actually yes. renaissance woman. #I do lots of interesting things; even if they're just interesting to me. #celestial emporium of benevolent knowledge

[fromtheseventhhell]

Do you ever think about how Arya being left-handed most likely had an impact on her needlework and other tasks? And how she needed special attention not only because she wasn't as naturally gifted as her sister but because the way she was being taught fundamentally didn't work for her? And how instead of being given the attention she needed she was instead held to an unfair standard by her teacher and used as a measure for bad behavior? And how this all impacted her self-esteem and her views on being a Lady?

#arya stark #septa mordane #catelyn stark #asoiaf #a song of ice and fire #I think about this all the normal amount I'm definitely not obsessed with Arya and her internal conflict on being a lady #I'm not saying her being left-handed is the sole reason she was bad at those tasks but I do think it had an impact #that's why it gets pointed out by Syrio and how it will impact her swordplay...it has an impact on the way she does things #Arya not being able to fit in kills me because she genuinely tried to be the Lady that her family wanted #she was literally trying her best to do tasks that didn't come naturally and she was constantly told she wasn't good enough #if her family hadn't forced the issue and been so hard on her it would've been so much easier for her to do what was expected of her #it's just so fascinating and one of my favorite internal conflicts...I can't wait to see the resolution #so many people try and make Arya the problem but she was literally 9 years old #and her behavior in canon isn't the disruptive wild child people portray her to be she was doing her best that just wasn't enough for some #she was frustrated because her work wasn't as good as her sisters and her teacher mother and sister made sure she knew it #of course that's going to impact her views self-esteem and behavior #like no she was not a burden that her /poor/ mother and teacher suffered through lol

[blueskittlesart]

do u have any navi thoughts from your oot replay

i've been waiting to answer this until I actually beat the game in my current playthrough because navi is another one of those characters that i think of in like a "set" with several other characters who serve relatively the same thematic purpose; in this case that purpose being the "mother" character, and i wanted to have all the characters in that set fresh in my mind. it's notable that while oot shows us very clear and consistent instances of the ways in which the adults of hyrule fail to protect their children, there ARE several adults who DO go out of their way to both oppose ganondorf and protect and nurture the children under their care. All of these characters are adult women, and all of them explicitly help the children out of some sort of parental responsibility or sense of duty towards them. in this group I include link's late mother, impa, nabooru, and navi.

all 4 mother characters, despite being adults or adult-coded, reject the inaction mentality which characterizes other adults in the game. they become either direct supports or shields to their children from the conflict the world has to offer them, and they are always explicitly punished for their interference--link's mother is killed trying to protect her son, impa's village is burned, nabooru is brainwashed. The mother's fatal flaw is that she will protect her child above all else, even in a world in which children cannot truly be protected. however, with the exception of link's mother, these characters manage to persist even in the face of her punishment, and this is where I think navi becomes the exemplary character.

Navi, after a lifetime of being link's only support system, the only adult in his life he could truly, consistently count on, receives her punishment at the hands of ganondorf--in the final battle, she is pushed out. she is unable to reach her child. she cannot protect him. However, BECAUSE link has grown up with her at his side, he is strong enough to take ganondorf down. and when ganon rises again, navi is there to support link, promising not to leave his side, and the intuitive targeting of that battle (a mechanic which navi is inherently tied to!!) makes it a cinch to win. Navi, and the other mothers we meet, are a reminder to the player that the world doesn't HAVE to be the way it is. Their persistence when punished, their insistence that their children ought to be protected, is a reminder that good adults do exist, and that good adults raise good children. link and zelda are able to win in spite of the adults who refused to help them, but also BECAUSE of the adults who DID. It's a reinforcement of the core theme of oot--that childlike idea that the world SHOULD be good and fair and if it isn't, it should be changed until it is. The mothers of oot are examples of what the world COULD be, reminders that it is possible to grow up without losing hope or growing bitter, and they are examples of the next step for the children they've raised to change the word--to continue fighting even in the face of punishment, to refuse inaction, and to foster that same hope and persistence in the generations to come.

#one thing i've really been noticing this time around is the specific way in which navi's targeting works #because even though other 3d games have that targeting mechanic navi's targeting is noticeably different #in two ways. the first being that she specifically targets weak spots in enemies almost as if she is pointing them out to link #and the second being that she is capable of targeting things link himself doesn't see #whether it be invisible enemies or triggers that are out of his reach or scarecrow points or whatever #it's really reminiscent to me of the way you teach problem solving skills to a kid. you see them struggling with something and beginning to #get frustrated and you say 'hey let's look around. do you see any solutions?' and if they can't see the solution themself you might point #and say 'hey what's that?' just to get their attention on it and help facilitate that train of thought for them #because like in most other games targeting is sort of assumed to be link's own intuition in battle #and therefore it will usually allow you to focus on one enemy within a swarm of them but it won't explicitly light up the weak spot for you #navi does that for link because she's essentially the mother teaching her kid how to problem-solve. #and when she's taken away in the final battle link is able to fight anyway BECAUSE she put so much time and effort into raising him #that he no longer needs her to facilitate that problem-solving process. he already knows how to beat ganondorf #because he's done it with her before. and that's exactly the mother's role in her child's life #protect him and raise him as best you can so that when you can no longer be by his side he isn't afraid. #foster that sense of justice and encourage him to keep fighting to change the world even when it seems unchangeable. #god. ocarina of fucking time #zelda analysis #asks

[shortstrawberry]

#resident lover #just in how many resets did Cass make Miranda screech in frustration #mother miranda #cassandra dimitrescu #cant deny the power of flirt #requests open #meme #resident lover meme

[cascadiums]

Bram Stoker really made a point of the Count hoarding old money in his bedroom like a dragon, the spoils of war and empire guarded by the upper class, just for his heroes to bribe their way across Europe funded by their inheritance from a revolving door of dying parents, huh

#dracula daily #hes ancient and evil!! hes a rich bitch in a castle lording over the peasants! and theyre New Money from the rising middle class #who acquired their wealth through the hard work of *checks notes* dead mother dead father dead mentor and i guess ambiguous texas methods #lets start the book again but i take a shot for every thematic inconsistency and pass out before Jonathan even meets the count #im being mean but also. dracula is frustrating because any time you think 'oh thats compelling' it gets contradicted two chapters later #yes im aware that inheriting is not equal to waging war but the class lines being delineated are very wonky

[the-owl-tree]

sparkpelt having a strained relationship with her son would have been fine had the writing team actually utilized and explored her character instead of spending avos having her shift to whatever makes alderheart look better then doing the same in asc, ya know. i want the writing team to care about her beyond being an antagonistic force for their male protags.

#asc spoilers #like that’s been her role. that’s all we get and it’s frustrating!! #give her a character beyond sister and mother #and stop pretending in articles that you ever explored her beyond that!!

[antianakin]

I recognize that this mostly happens because Obi-Wan is and always has been a direct foil for Anakin, but I am SO tired of all of Obi-Wan's more canon love interests ending up being more about making commentary on Anakin and Anidala than they are on exploring OBI-WAN. It's just sad and I'm so tired of it and I think that until people are willing to write a romance for Obi-Wan that isn't actually about Anakin at all, Obi-Wan should just be made off-limits for romance plot lines entirely. Leave the man alone, please, I am begging you.

#star wars #obi-wan kenobi #i just finished reading the first half of secrets of the jedi with the siriwan relationship #and holy mother of god was it anidala coded all to hell and back #obi-wan is turned into a mighty prude and siri into this sweet motherly character just to make it work #everything from the reaction obi-wan has on seeing her at the beginning to how quickly the relationship moves to the secrecy #it's all anidala #it's all ABOUT anidala #obi-wan is so ooc in this that it's not even funny #he's not even in character to previous works written about him BY THE SAME AUTHOR #and yet somehow it is STILL miles better than whatever the fuck obitine was supposed to be #where obi-wan is given a love interest specifically designed to be killed off so that they could compare that to anidala #and honestly the scene where she dies is probably their ONLY good scene together #it's certainly the only scene where they seem to genuinely understand or even LIKE each other #like siriwan has obi-wan acting ooc but at least he's not literally misogynistic towards his love interest #unlike the way tcw chose to write him #like yeah sure i really feel the romance in obi-wan calling satine 'hysterical' over her perfectly reasonable political views #and at least siri respects and understands the jedi life and LOVES the jedi order unlike satine #so despite how frustrating siriwan is - obitine is 10x worse still #it makes me SO so glad that tala ended up losing the romantic aspect of her relationship with obi-wan #because you KNOW that that would've just ended up another anidala parallel #again #as obi-wan loses yet another female love interest to death at the hands of the sith. again. #honestly tala's relationship with obi-wan is IMPROVED by the lack of a romantic love interest #there's a lot of interesting meaning in that relationship that i honestly believe would be lost if it had been romantic #obi-wan and love interests just don't seem to mix well in canon or anything canon-adjacent #free my man from terrible romantic storylines that aren't even about him #obitine critical #siriwan critical #anti obitine

[coincasual]

princess and queen🖤

#ever after high #eah raven #raven queen #evil queen #some old sketches i was thinking about #from a comic idea about raven having to get ready for one of her mothers parties and she gets really overwhelmed and has a breakdown #her mother does try to help calm her down but she’s a poor communicator and gets frustrated easily so the ravens dad comes to talk to her #ravens dad in my head is from a line of ‘good’ kings but they all have something they are really proficient at and he is an excellent #communicator and he’s really empathetic and he and the queen used to talk a lot about why she is doing what she is doing and he #kind of supports her because he wants her to be herself and be the best she can be.. but it makes him upset that she wants/has to hurt so #many people to get what she wants #he also loves to be there for raven! he’s such a cool and emotionally supportive dad and person! #so don’t worry if you see raven crying in a fix or something at some point #she has a great support system!!

[worstloki]

Thor showing up @ Loki's cell in TDW shortly after he was informed of their mother's death calling him out on being an illusion bc he's too composed after the news when he, mr repression himself, attended the death and funeral looking like this

#foul behaviour #im telling you all Thor is very manipulative he is just charismatic about it #he's more manipulative than Loki and never gets called out on it ever #Thor knowing Loki would be hurt and taking the revenge angle like surely that's what Loki would want right #Thor 'im allowed to cover up my grief' Odinson visiting his brother like nu uh #though I do think Thor had more of a warning since he figured out the situation and had been heading to the room Frigga died in #Thor at least expected it and knew the circumstances Loki likely didn't get that info since he tried asking Thor about it #Loki watching Thor acting Normal(TM) like their mother didn't die and picking a fight about it #peak #Thor being frustrated about it too and almost hitting Loki but they process stuff differently i guess #neither bro can help each other like that XD

[percki]

“we need more complex female characters” you guys couldn’t even handle 14yo katara. be so fr

#the way she was treated literally burns me up to think about #’she’s always so mad’ HER MOM DIED??? HER DAD LEFT THEM??? SHE LEFT THE ONLY HOME SHE’D EVER KNOWN???? SHE WAS FACING DEATH???? LIKE????? #‘she didn’t need to react that way’ ITS REALISTIC. SHE WAS FOURTEEN. #atla #katara #avatar the last airbender #or that you guys can’t seem to acknowledge her as a character outside of her romantic relationships #she’s so much stronger than people give her credit for . they reduce her to just aang’s wife or zuko’s gf or whatever the fuck #she is THE LAST SOUTHERN WATERBENDER. SHE LITERALLY DISMANTLED A PATRIARCHAL SOCIETY BY AGE 15 #HER MOTHER DIED TO SAVE HER. SHE LEFT THE ONLY HOME SHE HAD EVER KNOWN ON A JOURNEY WITH A BOY SHE HAD JUST MET. #but NOOOO she can’t ever express frustration or rage or disappointment she has to be the PERFECT DEMURE KIND HEALER GIRL #in ditching the sokka misogyny storyline and reducing katara to a demure healer natla completely erased her substance #talk tag

[dramarants]

i only want love triangles if it's whatever fucked up polygon junmo kicheol and euijeong have going on

#the worst of evil #ranting #idk how to articulate how juicy it is #junmo's fierce protectiveness of his wife - he trusts her but can't help his jealousy fear or frustration while trapped in the situation #euijeong hurting but putting her own life on the line worried for her husband while unpacking the memories of her first love #she can't help but sympathize with kicheol and what he's endured; haven't seen much of how she feels rn but it must be c o n f l i c t e d #(not necessarily even in a romantic way but wanting to root for a person chasing their goals who was once so important to you) #(all while grieving her mother without the support of her literal goddamn spouse by her side) #and kicheol. also grieving and trying to establish a place for himself and his crew yet drawn to junmo despite the red flags #his panic and desperation when jungmo bled out on him which must have triggered his own memories of losing taeho #junmo who has every reason to despise kicheol barely concealing his general rage but protects him like it's second nature at every turn #all while conflicted as a bystander to atrocities (and now willfully leaving another cop to die to protect himself his wife and the mission #getting mentally and physically pummeled left and right just bc his superiors demand it from him #all to please euijeong's family by using the promotions to prove himself and get rid of the stigma weighing him down #like !!! #and haven't even touched on kicheol wooing euijeong against his buddy's wishes and in such a pure heart fluttering way #accepting the risk for a second chance to bathe in the bright light she used to shine on his life #OMG AND BIBI'S ENTRANCE!! junmo realizing her interest gives him leverage and agency but struggling to use it to his advantage #it's soooo messy and i'm obsessed #that funeral arc is gonna haunt me for years #as is the tension during the pat down which def was supposed to be like a gang pride/dignity/lack of power against the jp folks thing #also testing their relationship and responsibilites as leader subordinate #but felt charged around whether kicheol would protest or junmo would accept the manhandling in totally different 👀 ways #goddamn i wrote an essay and this doesn't even scratch the surface of the meat of the show #tldr; i have many many feelings and for once the 'love triangle' isn't making me gauge out my own eyeballs #it's about power it's about raising the stakes and revealing things about the characters w/o dominating the plot

[a-beautiful-crow]

i do not know why people ask me how to pronounce my name, but when they do and i tell them "oh you can say it however you like because it's actually not in english anyways" i love when they respond with "you dont have to anglicize your name for me!" like. usually i dont care about my name's pronunciation but them taking the time to try to say it correctly makes me feel so special and i love hearing people fumble rolling their r's. go white boy go im rooting for u.

#it's so unimportant for me but my mother has never liked it when people pronounce my name in an english way #because my mom doesn't like it when people who dont speak english give their children english names #it's tacky and cringe. so my mom made sure to give us all spanish names. #unfortunately people just say the english translations of our names and it frustrates her ig