#i am genderqueer and bi and love being Queer so much

[shadowsandsunset]

I wish nothing but good things for Oliver Stark and Lou Ferrigno Jr.

They gave us such an authentic, gentle, tender experience. I've watched the clip of that kiss several dozen times now.

Oliver, especially, has been amazing in his interviews and social media posts, empathetic and honest and sweet. I don't know his sexuality and I don't speculate in real people's sexualities, but regardless he seems like a true ally. He seems to Get It.

As someone who came out later in life** it really touches my heart what they're doing.

9-1-1 has always seemed to try to do good by their queer characters and I really appreciate that.

Hen and Karen have always been a fantastic and very real feeling example of a wlw relationship.

This show is doing amazing. I wish nothing but good and happy things for the cast and crew who make this happen.

**Under the cut is my coming out/self acceptance story if you're interested.

Tw: repression, self harm, drug use, shitty relationships both familial and romantic.

I tried to come out as a teenager in the early 2000s after I kissed a girl for the first time. It did not go well.

My mother was a complicated woman and she loved me very much, but when I told her I was bi (I prefer pan now but at the time I didn't have that word) she told me it was a phase and that she was disappointed, that she would always love me but that it was wrong in the eyes of God and she couldn't accept it.

Disappointing my mother was worse than her being angry. It felt like my heart was carved out of my chest. I feel like if she had been angry or openly cruel I could have fought back, but her sadness destroyed me. I was 16 then and I continued to live at home until I was 24. I'm in my mid/late 30s now.

So I repressed that part of myself for well over a decade and spent a lot of time depressed and miserable. I self harmed and did A LOT of drugs. I'm clean now except for super occasional weed use. I have a lot of scars from self harm.

My mom died several years ago and it wasn't until after her death that I allowed myself to even think about it, any of it. I was in a relationship with a man for eight years that was loving but he was an alcoholic and I had to walk on eggshells around him because of his mental health struggles; he was emotionally abusive but in a way that was only apparent in hindsight. I thought that my relationship with him was as good as I was going to get. We broke up not long after my mom died.

The only family member I am out to is my older sister, who has been amazing and accepting and loves me completely. Without her support I would be lost.

I have now dated/hooked up with women, men, nb and trans people. I have explored my own gender identity (it's whatever, I don't feel like a woman despite having the female equipment and appearing female in body, I feel pretty masculine but not like a man either, and I don't have strong opinions on pronouns, but I feel like I fail at femininity and masculinity in equal measure so I call myself genderqueer. I don't have any desire to take hormones or have any surgeries, I just want to be a person without having to perform gender).

I live in a conservative small city in the US south and I feel disconnected from the wider queer community. I don't know how to bridge that gap. There is a small queer community here but you can't really be openly out and be safe.

I'll be going to my first pride event this June. I'm excited and terrified because I don't feel like I'm queer enough or The Right Kind of queer, which is such a stupid stress to have, but I don't have many friends to talk about this with and I am hoping to get out there and make some but I'm nervous. I'm socially awkward and kinda weird. I'm also single and trying to mingle, lol.

I like who I am now but it was an incredibly difficult road to get to this place. I'm still on that journey, and maybe I always will be but that's ok. I'm finally myself.

#911 abc #oliver stark #lou ferrigno jr #being queer #coming out #self acceptance #my life

[aqgarts]

Bi Les Demi-Gal update (+ help me choose a new pfp for a few of my socials)!!!!!

So, a wee while back, I was feeling the gendern't blues (my way of saying 'gender dysphoria'); I didn't know I was non-binary, gender fluid, queer gendered, etc. So, I put it out to you guys (my friends), and I just wanna say that I am so, so grateful for your support and acceptance.

In honour of it being beyond my first month anniversary as coming out/figuring it (my gender) out, I just thought I might dedicate a lil message to some of the people that actually helped me figure things out and feel like me.

@ultrakill-gabriel

You were the one who actually called it lmao. You were kind enough to help me and actually led me to research what a demi-girl is (I had very little knowledge about demi-gendered people prior to lol). You helped me find out who I am, and I am truly grateful for that.

Thank you.

@thoughtfulrobot

You suggested that I might be genderqueer. Much like demi-genders, I didn't really know much about the term. So, again, I did some research. Although it didn't turn out to be what I was, it did help lead me on the right path.

Thank you.

@redtail-lol

You helped design the flag(s) that would help me feel so, so much more comfortable with who I am. You gave me something I could use to describe me and many others. And best of all, those flags are so goddamn gorgeous!!!

Thank you.

(Link to the post)

@femboyspartan

What can I say? You we're there for me and still are. On the days when I feel out of touch with who I am, you're there. When I'm upset, you're there. You mean the world to me,

I love you 💜

And to everyone else who I didn't mention, but had a role in helping me be more like me, I just want to take another moment to thank you as well:

You have stood by me, been kind and thoughtful, listened to my ramblings, put up with my autistic screeching, etc. You have helped me become a more open and sensible person.

Thank you all 🫂

And now, onto the pfps :3

As I've grown into who I am, I have also made some questionably queer pieces of art (Giga Red Team). And so, in AQG fashion, i want you all to help ya they/them gal with which one is gonna be the first impression 😎

First 5 options are:

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Second options are:

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(Reblog will contain the rest)

#demi girl #bi lesbian #mspec pride #mspec lesbian #demisexual #giga red team #help me choose #help me choose a new pfp #aqg and her art #getting aqg's bs #aqg stupidity #moots :3 #bi lesbian demi girl

[decolonize-the-left]

god yeah about the exclusionism post and asking the queer community to hold itself accountable...

like, i'm young. im only 18. so i wasn't super around for the vast majority of the height of aphobic bigotry in this community.... but i've been around for most of the anti-bilesbian, anti-xenogender, anti-mogai stuff, and it has hurt so so much.

im a xenogender, genderqueer aroace bi lesbian. all of these things mean so so much to me. because they taught me to know and love all parts of myself, which has taught me my love of radical love and kindness. the queer community is what has transformed me into being a radical, queer-anarchist, anti-racist, anti-bigotry, and those things are so fucking critical to who i am. i wouldn't be who i am without the queer community and what its members have taught me about equity and compassion... and yet, it has also traumatized me to the point that it's hard to think about getting involved in irl queer events which breaks my heart.

in 2021, 11,000 people signed a petition telling me specifically to end my life for being part of the campaign that had the lgbta wiki support bi lesbians. i had a message board on there, and everytime i went on there, there were 10 new messages with different descriptions of how i should end my life. it got so bad that i couldn't sleep. i was shaking and crying ALL THE TIME. and despite that wiki being the one place i could be open about my queerness, i was forced off of it because if i stayed, i would be continually threatened and my mental health couldn't take it.

as a result, i lost contact with most of my online queer friends. i was so fucking angry all the time. everytime i saw any form of exclusionist rhetoric, i would become so anxious that i would spiral. i've been baited, threatened, relentlessly bullied, forced out of a queer 'safe' space, and treated like absolute fucking shit. all because i put the words 'bi' and 'lesbian' next to each other in a bio about me.

i can't put words to describe the kind of shit this has done to my mental health. i already had personality disorders from Emotional Trauma that made anger hard to deal with- so getting involved on Tumblr after the wiki went away, where exclusionism was sadly rampant, was hard because I felt like I had to choose- be an online part of the community that has made me who i am, but suffer bullying and self hatred in the process, or give up that community entirely. i don't think people truly comprehend how traumatizing it is for anyone, but especially a TEENAGER, to have to make a decision like that.

it's been almost two years now, and still, everytime i see exclusionism, everytime i get a death threat (sadly still a somewhat frequent occurrence), i spiral because it takes me right back to the height of my harassment two years ago. and part of my brain still genuinely believes i deserved it.

that's just me. that's just one person influenced by this. and yet it's not just me. the same stuff that's happened to me, has happened to thousands. and thousands more. and i don't think people truly understand that, just because it's online stuff and didn't really happen irl, doesn't mean it's some small little thing that we should stop complaining about because there's REAL problems for REAL queer people to worry about.

so, very long story short, coming from someone who has been hugely impacted by exclusionism, and i may be unique in this position, but every person who was once an exclusionist like that and has grown and apologized, seriously means the world to me. because i know that there's no excuse for it, and yet i understand the reasons why so many people struggle with it. out of all the self hatred exclusionism has caued me, how can i turn around and blame the exclusionists who were acting out of the same exact insecurities i was?

there is no excuse for bigotry. but you are not a bad person. thank you for growing. seeing your post actually gave me so much hope because i've had several people come to me personally and say that me being open about my identity has helped them grow out of their exclusionist mindsets and grown as a person, so seeing people grow like this just warms my heart because we all have the capacity for both good and bad- taking the opportunity to learn to be better is a prime example of the good and it fills me with hope that other people can learn too.

i also wanted to comment on something else from your post. you were talking about the generational trauma you've experienced, and how you perceived the concept of 'aphobia' as disrespectful to the victims of horrible systemic oppression irl, and while yes, that is not what aphobia as a concept is, you don't need to apologize for being angry because yes, you perceived something the incorrect way in that moment, but your anger was 100% justified. as a white queer person, i fully believe that inclusionism still needs room to acknowledge intersecting oppressions and that comparing intracommunity exclusionism to centuries of genocidal colonialism, is absolutely appalling. your actions were unjustified- your anger was not. i want you to know that you do not need to feel guilty for being angry like that. anger is an important emotion, so i hope you can truly internalize that you had every right to be angry, even if your actions were wrong.

again, thank you for being awesome and making that post. i'm very sorry if my super long ramble was unsolicited, and if you don't want to respond i completely understand! please please take care and have a wonderful time zone <3

🖤🖤🖤

#asked #answered #i dont have anything to say but i still felt like others should see this too

[beetrootbug]

DOCTER SIGARD IS WEARING HEELS???????????????????????????????? HE'S WEARING HEELS???????????????????????????? HE'S WEARING FUCKING STILETTOS??????????????????? WHAT??????????? WHAT?????????? WHAT?????????????? WHAT??????????

i mean like slay, but why is the only twink in the game the bad guy?? It's giving anti girls, the theys and the gays, what's wrong with dudes in heels? What's wrong with bi girls dating lesbians? What's wrong with the creepy pervy dude NOT getting the girl? I'm so confused and i have so many questions, what is wrong with this game???????

I genuinely thought the whole dr sigard thing was gonna be a whole "he represents the patriarchy so now bayos gonna beat his ass" BUT NO, THIS MAN WEARS HEELS, HEELS. THIS MAN IS FRUITY AS FUCK, GENDERQUEER AS FUCK, AND HE'S THE BAD GUY??????? Like what??? First it was bayonetta getting with a creepy pervert (who she had NO chemistry with and was CLEARLY CODED TO BE IN LOVE WITH JEANNE) who ends up being the saviour, the erasure of a lot of bayo's sillier kinky mannerisms/ spells, and now the main villain being an effeminate gay-coded character who is trying to eliminate bayo, who is widely seen by the fandom as a feminist icon (BECAUSE SHE IS), I DON'T KNOW, BUT I'M GETTING SOME VIBES HERE, SOME NOT VERY QUEER SUPPORTIVE VIBES HERE. THIS FEEL TERF-ISH MAN. AM I GOING INSANE?? MAYBE.

AM I OVERANALYSING THIS AND LOOKING TOO MUCH INTO THIS? OH MOST DEFINATELY. BUT STILL, I DON'T LIKE THIS. IT'S FUCKING 2023, WHY IS "BAD GUY IS CLEARLY GAY AND GENDERQUEER AND IS GOING TO EAT YOUR CHILDERN AND MAKE A MOCKERY OF WOMEN" STILL A FUCKING TROPE??? FROM BAYONETTA ESPECIALLY! WHAT THE FUCK!

honestly!? If bayo was gonna get with a man, why not make it rodin??? Like, romance wise, they have no chemistry, but luka and her didn't either, so?? Like rodin is a pretty alright dude, he's worlds better than luka and has been nothing but supportive of bayo! Like, if she's gonna get a man, it should be rodin right? That would be the sort of bi feminist shit i'd get down with, cuz it shows a healthy relationship between a man and a bi women, THAT should be the bi rep we strive for.

Anyways dr sigard slays (not really, but he slays more than "arch eve" bayonetta, which isn't saying much)

#bayonetta 3 spoilers #bayonetta #rodin #bayojeanne #bayoluka #dr sigurd #screaming into the void #DR SIGURD TRANSFEMME GENDER QUEER CONFIRMED??? (/j) #rant #i'm really starting to hate this game

[5chatzi]

Okay I'm going to send you some partly-solicited recs for queer literature and classics because I have a decent amount of exposure to both~~

My qualifications include a degree in English and now being halfway towards my MLIS lol this is what I was made for

For queer lit, sometimes it depends heavily on your own orientation, like bi people want to read books with bi representation, etc. But those preferences notwithstanding, here are some generally quality titles:

Zenovia July by Lisa Bunker: A trans girl solves a cyber crime. Mystery, YA, contemporary setting, trans rep

The House in the Cerulean Sea by TJ Klune: a gay man who lives a boring government-worker life travels to an island in order to monitor the family of magical children who live there. Fantasy, found family, adult fiction (it has some kid's book vibes but does contain mild sexual content and mild swearing), gay representation.

Ace by Angela Chen -- nonfiction, part memoir exploration of what it means to be asexual, for the author personally and for society generally.

Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda Lo -- a Chinese-American girl in 1950s San Francisco comes to terms with being a lesbian. Historical fiction, adult fiction (or might be YA?? There is what I'd call mild sexual content), lesbian representation, AAPI representation

Jeanette Winterson is a queer author whose work I generally like!(don't have specific title recs though) (I have read The Passion, and she has a couple biographies shelved in the queer library in which I volunteer. The Passion is not very explicitly queer from my memory but it is very good regardless.

For classics, here are titles that I personally Actually Enjoyed Reading and found relatively accessible:

To Kill a Mockingbird (and I also like the film-- I should have added that to my answer to your ask)

To the Lighthouse by Virginia Woolf is my absolute favourite classic novel, but I won't pretend it's for everyone, or that it's especially accessible. It's written in a heavily Modernist style that involves a quite lyrical, non-linear plot. But the prose is breathtakingly gorgeous and it has a really moving anti-war message.

Also, Orlando by Woolf as well, and this one is also queer! Features a genderqueer/trans/otherwise gendernonconforming character.

The Woman in White by Wilkie Collins is very long, but it's a mystery, and I found it engaging. The section narrated by the character Marianne is the best, and I headcanon her as asexual or possibly a lesbian.

The Color Purple by Alice Walker is what I would call poignant, and it's fairly short. Be warned that it contains some SA content, racism, and AAVE dialect that could be hard to understand.

Macbeth or Twelfth Night or King Lear are my favourite Shakespeare works to recommend. But with Shakespeare, it's better if you can see a film or live performance, since just reading the script can be difficult to follow.

Little Women!!! God, I love Little Women. Honestly not sure how that wasn't the first one I thought of.

Oh thanks so much for the thorough response!

I’ll admit most of these are wildly outside my normal genre, but I’m always willing to try new things.

I have read Macbeth in school but it’s been ages and I am pretty sure I’ve read Little Women but I can’t remember it would have been a long time ago. Oh and To Kill a Mockingbird. I think everyone has read that in school but don’t think I’ve read it since.

I’m gonna write them down and check them out and see how it goes. I pretty much exclusively read non fiction so should be interesting 😅

#meg answers mail

[r1ghtt1mewr0ngplace]

fun fact most, if not all of my ocs are queer as fuck.

olivia is aromantic and has been an ally for years before she realized it! she's also pretty gnc and likes to toy with her gender expressions while staying a cis girl

umaru is a trans man (manfred barred him from transition for years but he speedran all phases of it while studying in europe to be a prosecutor), also he's very much bisexual, see his painful crush on mvk that died in silence and his love for lana skye

hanma is bisexual and is so so so femme that despite her being a cis woman it circles back to being queer as fuck

sean is literally a nonbinary butch lesbian who lived the better half of their life as a trans man idk what else do I need to say here

basil never thought about it and he can be kind of queerphobic because he's not educated about the community but he's basically enemy-sexual (probably pan)

i have a side character I used in two cases called redhead, that's not his actual legal name, but she doesn't reveal her "real" name and introduces himself as just redhead, he's a he/she bigender and I don't even know or establish what her agab is because fuck that

if I start going through my aa ocs we'll be here all day so why don't we talk about my completely original characters

in project David like 3/4 out of the main 4 are genderqueer, Glenda is nonbinary and uses they/them (while being nearly fifty years old btw), Louis is a transmasc bigender who uses he/she and visibly appears as a man, not disclosing her "female" side to most people in fear of being seen only as a woman again, and Elis is a trans woman, well, not Exactly a woman but woman is the closest, a nonbinary transfem that uses she/her. and Dan is a bi cis dude (that can change though. my transfem friend sees Dan as an egg)

my collegeverse ocs literally consist of sapphics and an enby god, Loren, a pronoun fluid genderfluid who mostly uses she her and is butch in a fixing cars way, Mag, a lesbian that's been repressed for many many years and finally allows herself to change and let herself be who she is, gaining weight, getting with a girl and changing her gender expression, butch in a suit and tie way; Eve, a pan trans girl and Megumi, her bi girl best friend; and also Arc, an agender person (or is it a person) who uses it/its and may or may not be a deity

god I love queerness.

and yeah over the course of this post I only ever mentioned the queer identities of the characters but some of those characters are marginalized in other ways and that very much intersects, for example Elis is a black trans woman. I'm not adding it on to flaunt how progressive I am for having diverse characters, I'm simply like, aiming to acknowledge that white thin able-bodied queerness isn't the standard and people experience queerness differently based on that

#maya.txt #lawyer game (the one in my head) #maya's collegeverse ocs #project david

[cringelordofchaos]

You asked Berry this so I am asking YOU out of spite for not asking ME

YOUR SONIC HEADCANONS??

IFHASHFKAJHVKAHDKC

uhmm ill be my own attorney in the court; in my defense, your honour, i saw berry reblog a post specifically about sonic sexuality headcanons and berry shared their hcs in the tags but also put in the tags abt how their 'headcanons may change'. and i wanted to see if their headcanons changed so i asked them

ANYWAY

uhh these r all pretty much identity + nd hcs so sorry if u were lookin for more

(edit:wait actually im gonna sort this into two parts:: queer + nd headcanons and then like. backstory and personality hcs)

SONIC: adhd, used to hc him as bi ace but fuck it hes romance repulsed oriented aroace, also me likes the idea of him being genderqueer in some way, moreso specifically either transmasc nonbiney or transmasc trigender. also adhd (side note i heard someone sayhe couldnt possibly have adhd cuz "he can focus on missions" and. wjhat.) also maybe ptsd from thecountless traumatic experiences hess had to endure

AMY: sappho. i have also adhd'ed her in the past but im not so sure npw. i also saw someone hc her as bipolar and thas valid

TAILS: i know he can definitely represent as an autistic stereotypce but look at him :(( (but i genuinely think his backstory is sort of a metaphor for the nd experience. and also i think theres a lot of things that may make him autistic codedthough albeit many of them r stereotypical). special interest in engineering

KNUCKLES: bisexual as ffffff, though he doesnt give a shi abt labels

and ofc STTICKS:: demirose lesbiian. . also female but she rlly doesnt care abt gender. also autistci mayhaps

now for the more interesting hcs:

SONIC: something traumatic happened to him that made him scared of water in the first place, thas for sure methinks. he also just doesnt really show his negative emotions and he moreso just tries to 'dealw it' instead. i have headcanoned this for years as many others have and it appears to be somewhat canon in frontiers which is pretty great. he plays the electric guitar and is a pretty skilled singer and yeah. chilli dawgs r his comfort food....... loves rock electric and heavy metal and sometimes listens to it on his runs. pretty comfortable w being independent . also this is not a headcanon but i dont think his idw iteration is that out of character. he sees pretty much everyone (rivals and frenemiesalike) as friendos

AMY: has some form of abandonment issues which is what makes her as clingy as she is. generally used to feel left out and misunderstood from sonic n others in games like adventure and adventure2 but their relationshipsget better. listen. listen i heard someone on tumblr hc amy having abandonment issues and it hasnt left my miind since. she used to feel embarrassed by herself and her personality but became much more expressive of herself as time went on bc she starrted feeling more accepted. DEFINITELY writes fanfiction and fancomics and draws fanart and likes theatre(this is canoon actually). has meetings w the girlsTM where she just reads their fortune n everything. she also said in one game that she aspires to BE LIKE sonic and i have hcs abt that as well. can b mischievious and sneaky. has a tarot card reading BUSINESS this girl earns money for this !! shes very magiical girl bc she can pull her hammer out there, tell the future, turn invisible, has a 'sonic snese' but this is not a headcanon this is canon. plays the violin. loves to create fun outfits. into knitting and crocheting. . yeah i have more

TAILS: he can get pretty insecure of himself at times, heholds high expactations of himself and feels like if he doesnt meet them he might as well be a failure. ooopslol. he also hates when ppl misinterperets who he is as a person and when they undermine how skilled he is. he sometimes doesnt really let others know how he feels and hides it w a positive attitude. his gizmo is his comfort item. sonic was his first friend. the reason why he acted cocky in lost world and constantly pointed out how they shouldnt trust eggman (although it was super ooc) is bc of how insecure he was and he felt like sonic didnt trust himenough. and he feels bad abt it. hm. he also likes to draw sometimes and is generally skilled and precise, partly bc he has to draw blueprints for his creeations. one of them orphans. wags his tails/unintentionally starts flying when hes excited (stimming woag). hes not really SCARED of thunderstorms but they ARE a sensory nightmare for hiim (loud, bright/0). sonic sort of 'taught him how to make friends'. he still has cosmo in the form of a plant inside his house. he has many bunkers/ Sometimes he has a hard time accepting help (inherited from his older brotherlol). his tails are an nd allegoryOK ILL SHUT UP NOW

KNUCLES: icoud rambllea lot about him whenever im in the mood especially when i seeppl misinterperet him but i dont really have much HEADcanons bc everything i say abt him is canon

STICKS: ok this is gonna sound wild and its definitely not original but. she has abandonment/truusst issues relatedto her former parents that have something to do w the government which is one of the reasons she became so hateful of th egovenrment. dont ask (actually do if you want to). generally feels free to be herself but there are times when she feels ashamed of her wild side ig you couldcall it. very creative.

the reason why theres not shadow even though hes one of the more popular ones is bc im just not obsessed w him at the moment sorry :(

I HAVE MORE but these are all FOR NOW

now YOU TELL ME YOUR SONIC HEADCANONS SO I DONT LOOK AS DELUSIONAL [[POINTS FINGER AT YOU]]

#asks #sth #sonic #sonic the hedgehog #amy #soncic #tails #knuckles #sticks

[the-elderly-are-evolving]

gay twilight princess character headcanons bc it pride month

look im sure someone else has done it but idc i have A Lot Of Feelings rn and they have 2 go somewhere so get on board or get off ma ass about it

Link:

u no him, u love him, he has like 3 pixels in this game and all of them r doing their best!

he's coming from a conservative little backwater (i say this as the unfortunate alum of a conservative little backwater myself-- sorry, but Ordon's main export is like. goats or w/ever, there's no way there aren't any trump supporters in that town), but i think once he travels around n gets 2 experience different things on his quests n shit he starts 2 unravel some of that internalized homophobia & becomes a great ally and, dare i say it, a little bi-curious

"but, gabe," i hear u say, "link is such a nonbinary icon, what about the transmasc & transfemme gender envy???" and 2 that i say mmmmm yea yea ik, but i don't think he sees it in himself yet, i think that comes later when he's got more adult confidence n shit. like i can see a 20's/30's link with long luscious braided hair wearing crop tops and mini skirts 2 show off his sick nasty battle scars while he picks ppl up at the bar

final verdict is bi and, later, genderqueer, although i think he's one of those ppl who doesn't really care about labels/ pronouns bc he is simply 2 busy sparkle emoij boots the house down slaying monsters hahahah get it im hilaris

Midna:

now that's a she/they if ever i've met one

one of those ppl whose gender presentation is mostly just looking like a scruffy & stinky goblin cretur 95% of the time except 4 that like. 2% of the time they actually make an effort and turn out****

def has a bro-code friendship w link where they both just don't talk about their feelings and instead r violent together love this little war criminal & her dog best friend

ur 1st instinct is lesbian, but look a little closer, and u will soon realize that this is simply a pansexual with a strong preference 4 women in their natural habitat

i think she is trying 2 b a responsible queer bc she knows link is unfamiliar w the community n she is trying 2 b a good ambassador between link n the gays uhhhhh unfortunately she is simply 2 busy trying 2 commit crimes & being like. a chronically online 20-year old or however old she's supposed 2 be & i think link comes away more confused than ever b4

****couple things here: a) ik that doesn't add up to 100%-- i am gay, what part of do not talk 2 me about numbers don't u understand b) ik midna was literally cursed 2 b an imp by zant, but it doesn't change anything in my mind and u can't convince me that she didn't just pull out her "true form" bullshit 2 try an seduce zelda at the end of the game c) no i have no personal experience with this gender presentation at all how dare you insinuate anything of the sort i have totally showered this week totally now shut up

Zelda:

Lesbian, no further questions ur honor

Furthermore, femme lesbian, often gets Assigned Straight On Sight & is very tired of getting hit on by straight men

One of those gays who wear wacky silly n fun statement earrings so other queer ppl know they're gay

We don't actually see her a lot in this game so there's not much 2 go off of with her characterization... this zelda has had a lot of pressure put on her what with being the sole leader of her people in this time of extreme stress, & so i think she is very competent & composed & controlled, but out of necessity, which will prob lead her 2 rebel later in life & act out a little when the country is not at war & she gets to be more of a child again.... basically what im saying is twilight princess should've had a sequel n it should've started w zelda deciding she's punk now, shaving her head, and making link help her run away from home

EDIT: how did i not see this b4...... i have been a fool...... zelda is secretly an astrology gay. it's one of her guilty pleasures bc she knows it's prob not real n the planets prob aren't doing anything w ppl's personalities, but she can't help but b like oooh but wouldn't it b fun if the real reason zant was such a little bitch was just bc his pisces is in retrograde?

#twilight princess #legend of zelda #loz tp #loz headcanons

[polychives]

Some extremely self indulgent queer HC for the original archives group under the cut. I go into way too much detail with them btw so be warned.

Martin: gay ftm transman, on HRT but no surgeries due to him on starting to physically transition after him mum went into age care. He/him only.

Sasha: trans woman, demi and bi. Been on HRT for a few years and has had no surgeries. She realised she was trans in her teens and swung incredibly hard into being feminine. Only just recently let herself be more comfortable with anything vaguely masculine (body hair, thick brows, upper lip fuzz, etc.) and is loving it. She/her only as well.

Tim: Just identifies as queer. He doesn't really know his sexuality outside of “he likes who he likes” and would define his gender as “whatever the fuck.” If he did put labels on it, he'd probably be pansexual and genderqueer, but he's very happy undefined. Also likes drag in his past time. He/him but she/her and they/them during drag or from certain close friends.

Jon: Bi ace obviously. I am, however, torn between afab and amab Jon. If he was ftm I think he would have transitioned very early on and is where he wants to be with their transition. Top surgery, HRT, and some other stuff.

On the other hand, I can more easily imagine amab Jon who assumes he's 100% cis during TMA with how he is written. He'd spend most of his life vaguely aware of trans people, but one day had a sort of 'Oh' moment perhaps when Tim was showing off his drag and went down a painful spiral of gender questioning. Coming out on the end of it realising they might not be very cis. Either way, he/they transmasc/non-binary Jon supremecy.

Cursed bonus:

Jonah Magnus: Gay homophobic man. I read one fanfiction that Jonah was trans in his original life and that has buried itself into my skull and will never leave me alone against my wishes. However, every body since his first has been cis male. Absolutely not an ally and has never done anything for any gay person except for himself. Probably one of those shitty people who thinks gnc queer people are ‘pushing it’ or something. Has called people slurs as insults.

#tma #the magnus archives #martin blackwood #sasha james #timothy stoker #tim stoker #jonathan sims #jon sims #elias bouchard #(derogatory) #jonah magnus #long post #do i think any of this is canon? #other than bi/ace jon and gay martin #no #but also i project so hard onto martin and then it sorta just kept spreading from there so uh

[bullywug-n-mugwort]

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idk why people just decide they get to invalidate someone else's identity when they are not the one with that identity and therefore don't know what they're talking about. just saw someone i otherwise respect reblog a post about how bisexual lesbian is an invalid term because each term has changed over time and claiming it's lesbophobic and biphobic to use the term [something something mutually exclusive experiences]. i usually call my orientation "queer" but i often use "bi lesbian" to make sense of my own experience. the tags of this post were full of people dunking on all imagined reasons someone may call themselves a bi lesbian, none of which reflect my own experiences and reasoning.

not that i should have to defend myself, but a lot of these comments were very fixated on the experiences of "liking only women" vs "liking both women and men." these categories obviously have social significance, but to me personally, romantically and sexually, these categories aren't super helpful. i cannot isolate traits of manhood or womanhood i find attractive. i'm into femme traits until i see a hot butch. i like certain chests, certain facial features, and any genitals. these traits don't map onto coherent binary genders very well. not to mention my attractions shift with my fluid gender. if i'm looking for a consistent pattern, i'm into gendernonconformity if anything. i guess i'm far more into women than i am men unless the man is a flamboyant twink but at the end of the day i'm not into either as much as i am a very specific weird collection of queer gender markers. (and pansexual had never seemed to fit the bill, because there are also many gender expressions and markers i am certainly unattracted to.)

does that really make me a biphobic bisexual? i wrestled with more shame at the idea that i was a lesbian, a stereotype threat for the bisexual community i love. the twink i married turned out not to be a man at all. i was struggling with worries about comphet for years because i loved them but our marriage didn't feel "right," and now that we're both practicing genderqueers it does. to me, that experience made bisexuality feel less like home than it had before. at the same time, finding like two men attractive excludes me from the lesbian community. is it such a sin to have found home in a term that made coherent my knot of comphet and dysphoria?

i realized, as many lesbians with comphet do, that i would probably never be happy in a relationship with a man, as in someone who self- identified as a man and embraced manhood. i also find astarion bg3 hot as fuck. i fail to see how these are mutually exclusive experiences.

can i guarantee that no biphobia or lesbophobia has wormed its way into my brain? of course not, but it is so strange that embracing both those terms brands you as someone who hates both. it's also strange to exclude people from terms on the basis of internalized shame. why care if some people call themselves bi lesbians? does it feel invalidating to you? that's your own work-- same as women who think afab nonbinary people are really just women who are ashamed of being a woman and therefore should continue living as "women". (ie it's not my job to choose an identity that you approve of or think is free of shame. you figure it out.) are you worried it invalidates us in the eyes of the heteros? i simply don't believe in policing our own terms to make cishets see us as more valid or understandable. it's disguised respectability politics, plain and simple.

all these terms for our identities are best fits and best guesses, grasping for connections under this big lovely queer umbrella. the person who reblogged that post is a nonbinary lesbian. why do the same people who accept the concept of a nonbinary lesbian-- a thing that should be impossible if the term "lesbian" has actually calcified as the post claims-- insist that "bisexual" and "lesbian" are concrete, immovable, and mutually exclusive identities? to be extremely clear, i support nonbinary lesbianism. it's valid. and it's a weird fucking line to draw, saying that the gender spectrum can support loosely-gendered lesbianism on the side of the beholder but not the recipients.

there was also a historical argument claiming that people are misinterpreting contexts in which bisexual lesbian was used circa early 20th century. and like... okay??? i found the term in a pdf zine from the 90's which interviewed self-identified bisexual lesbians, gleaning a bunch of different reasons for the label. some fell into the assumptions of the aforementioned post, eg bisexuals who were basically political lesbians. (i don't claim to support this stance, though i do still insist people can call themselves whatever they want.) many more summarized complicated stories like mine, people who did not fall neatly into either "mutually exclusive" category because, it turns out, gender is a fluid weird spectrum. bi lesbians whose attractions are bi and gender is lesbian. bi lesbians who were literally only into women except for one "man". bi lesbians who were trying to untangle comphet and so weren't sure which label, if either, fit. bi lesbians who liked to fuck any gender but only fell in love with "women". so anyway, fuck outta here with "history doesn't work like that" narrow target practice.

and even if that's true... again, words are evolving all the time. we've made words like sapphic and achillean to make some sense of gender. "lesbian" has on-off been used as a gender term for decades. we've invited nonbinary people into lesbianism and many understandings of gender into bisexuality. bi lesbian is another evolution of our language, and people have been shitty about it since at least the early days of DTWOF-- bechdel's characters struggled with all of the above since the 80's.

and what's the point of terms? to find community, self- identity, and sometimes practical utility, eg in the dating world. were i to date again (yikes), "bisexual" would not be a helpful self-descriptor for finding a romantic partner. lesbian would. if i wanted to hook up, bisexual would be more helpful than lesbian, and i'd have to root through lots of gender expressions anyway. so in terms of my self identity and finding communities of similar folk, "bi lesbian" is a super helpful term. if you are a bisexual or a lesbian and feel frustrated or confused by my term, that's because it doesn't apply to you. maybe just realize this isn't your thing and leave our community to explore our experiences. love you, see you later in the sapphic tags where we have things in common.

so anyway, i think it's pretty silly to see a term, imagine reasons you dislike for why someone may use it, and pitch a fit. my identity's legitimacy has no bearing on yours. leave us alone.

#anyway #fuck that got long #that logic just really gets to me #obviously #i don't want to respond to the main post because i don't want to risk a stupid dogpile and days of arguing #but i'll post this in our tag so others can know i see you and you're doing great #bi lesbian #bi lesbianism #bisexual lesbian

[technomancyshenanigans]

hitting you with thos Prime Numbers

up in the fuckin' Ridorana Lighthouse over here. Aight Construct 7, here's the list!

Do you like to use the term queer for yourself? Or just LGBT, etc? I mostly just refer to myself as Queer! Just one of those easy umbrella terms lmao

Which pronouns do you use? she/her! I don't mind terribly when i get misgendered by close friends and relatives, esp since theyre used to other pronouns, and i havent been out that long to them.

Are you "out" publicly? more or less. im not out at my workplace, but i found out a co-worker is trans also, so its kinda nice to have someone at a place like work know, even if im not totally out to them. gonna be interesting once I Suddenly Start Having Tiddy tho.

Are you the "token" queer person in your family? oh 110%. every other family member i know is like almost comically straight. i am The Weird Bisexual Cousin Who Is Also A Girl I Think?

Favorite (or just one you love) piece of LGBT media? i honestly dont know of many (pls send recs im begging).

Do you choose to reclaim slurs, why or why not? not really?. i dont have strong opinions on it tbh, it really depends on who its coming from. if Hank in the lifted pickup truck, whos truck has seen more car washes than mud calls me a fag, im ready to throw hands. If my genderqueer friend calls me a fag, i know it comes from a point of respect and comedy. really just depends on the context i suppose.

Have you ever attended Pride in a big city/ large metro area? Yes!!! the first year i moved to where i live now (austin tx),l i went to my first pride event (it was a big parade!!) at like 25. moved from deep southern georgia (which didnt like My Type very much). Bought my first bi pride flag there, and its still up proudly on my wall to this day! :)

Do you feel safe and accepted in your local community? yeah, ish? i dont really interact with like the local community much. I do enjoy being like, a Total Queer at my work tho. ( I work at chick-fil-a, and like half the staff are queer lol)

Do you prefer loud parties or quiet? depends if someone has bud or not if im being honest. just vegging out with people watching dumb youtube vides is a whole vibe that i dig

Are you currently partnered, or if not are you interested in having partner(s)? i am horrendously single. i wanna go out for dates, but the whole "trans woman who doesnt pass unless they have 6 different layers of clothing and also a mask and makeup" makes it pretty hard.

Post a pic in your pride gear (or it can just be a selfie or anything else lgbt): FOLLOWUP POST INCOMING I GOT HAND-ME-DOWNS AND ITS REALLY CUTE!!!!!!

#.txt #im too high for this #have the rant i guess? #ANYWAY FOLLOWUP TO COME

[cock-holliday]

1, 10, 15, 18, 34 (and 21 but only do that if ur ok with it bc i know stuff like that can get Too Real too fast sometimes)

Which labels do you use?

Hmm bi, queer, trans, nonbinary, butch. It started ironically but I've become very attached to girlboy and similar mashups. Under the NB umbrella I vibe with genderqueer, genderfluid.

10. Something that gives you gender euphoria (whether you’re cis or trans)

Oooh man, a bunch of things do. Getting to dress and present how I want. Any time I get to drastically change something about my appearance. Strangers being unsure of my gender--which used to be very dysphoric for me. People shaking up what pronouns they use. It started as a joke but I really came to like the internet's use of mishmashed words like "girlboy" or the sudden male implication of "babygirl"--language that really messes with gender and gender roles. And oh what a lovely source of euphoria it is to connect with people about gender. Friends, people in queer scenes, through books, my lovely girlfriend. I am very fortunate to have a lot of spaces where I can Be and where I am Seen.

15. How has your identity changed over time?

I first realized I was bi at 16. Realized I wasn't cis at 19. And realized I was nonbinary at 25. My sexual identity has been pretty consistent, which has been "whatever." Gender has been a bit more complicated. At different times of my life my expression could fit under a "transmasc" and "transfemme" umbrella. I'm not sure either term fits me per se, or maybe both? I feel like the implication of "genderfluid" covers this oscillation. I've gotten more comfortable with ambiguity and not knowing exact language for it, something I wouldn't have imagined for myself almost a decade ago.

18. How old were you when you got to attend your first Pride? Who did you go with?

My first Pride was in 2016. I had wanted to go for several years before it, but I always went back to my hometown for summers in college and couldn't get people to travel with. I went with my two best friends from high school, who had been 2 of 3 out queer people in our high school. I was not the third.

34. What are you needing most right now (what would make your life easier or more fulfilling in regards to existing as queer)?

For people (myself included) to stop being a dick about conflicting or confusing labels

For more people in the trans scene in the US to develop a more militant style of resistance right now. We need more "queers bash back" sort of energy. And if that's not someone's style right now, at minimum not intra-community pushback to it. Really tired of watching trans people take a more aggressive stance against genocide only to get policed by other queer and trans folks.

21. What message would you give to your younger self?

Oh man. So much at so many points. I guess in the most general sense....that you'll figure it out. It's okay to change your mind and try things out and not get soooo stressed out about the exact words to use. Labels are not finite resources you are stealing if it turns out not to fit. That at 18 you'll finally get to finally have lifechanging autonomy and that it's okay that that's actually terrifying too.

The worst period of my life was when I was finally on my own but didn't know where to go from there and didn't think I'd ever see what I wanted. But oh, once I made it through that period and got to take control, it got soooooo much better. And it keeps getting better. So much will change in your life in ten years, and ten years of getting to make choices for yourself and live your own life? That's a lot of change and exploration and I've not reached the end of figuring things out. And for the first time the not knowing is actually exciting and not so daunting.

#thank you for these! #they made me think a lot haha #ask #ask meme #fommo

[vacantgodling]

For the pride asks!

1. Which labels do you use?

7. Are you the "token" queer person in your family?

15. How has your identity changed over time?

<3 MJ

MJ!!! happy pride 💛💛 i’ll do this for me & ur favorite vampire boys (so darren, gabe, n & beau :>)

1. Which labels do you use?

i personally use queer (my sexuality is mad complicated and i can’t really find a term that i like. if i were to pick something close i’d say achillean or mlnb/mlm really resonates with me & i love that damn toothpaste flag in part out of spite) & transmasc (i consider myself a trans man for the most part but my relationship with being a Man is complicated by being nd/black etc so transmasc in itself feels right but i also like genderqueer — queer is my favorite tbh)

for darren he’s bi!

gabe is demiromantic demisexual & he’s gay. he kinda learns that he’s these things throughout the story bc he’s like deadass never been attracted to anyone until he and darren start getting close and he doesn’t really know what to do with himself lmao

n is a transman & tbh he hasn’t thought about his sexuality too much cuz he’s married to his ambition 💀 he would definitely say he’s queer but he doesn’t really care too much about defining himself too hard bc until beau he had No Plans of being with anyone romantically or sexually lol. not bc he doesn’t feel that kind of attraction or anything, he’s just been more focused on his career lmao

beau is pansexual :3c also he’s a vampire which is just being inherently queer in he & n’s universe.

7. Are you the "token" queer person in your family?

for me, nah. two of my older cousins are gay and there’s probably more but i’m not close to my fam. i am however the token trans person 🤪

for darren nah, both his parents (dave & liz) are bi, and olice has some gender fuckery/aspec vibes going on but she doesn’t really have labels for anything yet.

gabe technically no? but he doesn’t really talk to his mom about this type of stuff lol. + being a millennia+ old celestial vampire… sexuality and labels are just cute human concepts to her. it’s different for gabe bc he was born on earth and while not raised like “human” or anything he doesn’t have the same experience as the few other celestials around.

n, definitely yes. his mom is super supportive but he doesn’t talk to his grandparents.

beau doesn’t know his birth family so that’s a complicated question. apart of the larger vampire “family” definitely not lol. in this universe, even being a vampire is a status of being queer so.

15. How has your identity changed over time?

for darren it was more straightforward he liked boys growing up and realizing he could like girls was kind of a secondary thing? he’d say it’s cuz of the whole cooties debacle from youth and he took that shit too seriously as a kid, so he never really had girl or femme id-ing people he hung out with until olice came into his life and then after that he realized oh, shit. yeah girls hot also awooga. (not bc of her she’s a sister to him but him realizing oh i can talk to girls and not die, oh they’re hot too)

gabe really didn’t have any type of sexuality awakening until darren lmao like it’s kind of funny. if you asked him before he would say he was aroace bc he didn’t like anyone and even his close friends didn’t spark anything in him. darren was different tho—he flustered him and he liked being around him and Maybe wanted to kiss him? so that’s when he realized he was probably demi instead bbhggh

n was one of those i knew i was queer from birth types so he doesn’t feel like the journey was with his identity, just more getting the curtain to match the drapes—or, getting how he presented outwardly to match his feelings inward. he was one of those athletic tomboys who hated being associated with girl shit, etc but had grandparents who raised him try to force him into that box, which is why he doesn’t talk to them now.

beau is also similar to n; bc being a vampire is inherently queer in their universe (in general too probably but yknow), because he was turned so young (around 5) he’s always felt inherently queer so there wasn’t much of a Journey to figuring himself out in that sense.

and then my long ass answer under the cut

when i was younger i never liked being a girl. but i didn’t really think of myself as a boy either? i just thought of myself as “deadname” and that was the extent of everything. i hated being feminine but i didn’t really resonate with being a “boy” because i didn’t like sports and the like. at some point i kind of just accepted that i was a “tomboy” but i still just felt like “deadname” that was my gender lmao. at least up until 8th grade where (2) things happened. (1) i found yaoi and (2) i had a Queer Awakening experience. for the first part i’d been really into japanese anime and shit for a long time but when i discovered yaoi and saw 2 men being able to love each other romantically and sexually it really opened up my worldview. i kinda never thought about having a partner. i’d had people say they liked me before but i just never felt like… into them? but looking back it’s probably bc i knew they saw me as a girl and that’s what i didn’t like i just didnt know that lmao. but seeing yaoi made me subconsciously realize that i would want a partner if it was like That. i didn’t know what That was at the time (the that being, me also being a dude lmao). and the queer awakening was when i was coming back from a school trip and my friend at the time fell asleep on me with her head on my shoulder. and i just remember thinking so so VIVIDLY “omg it’s like i’m her boyfriend” and the idea of it filled me with euphoria?? i tried to think “nah i should be thinking gf bc i’m a girl right?” but my brain rejected that Immediately. after that when i got into tumblr in hs i kind of started learning more about being gender-fluid and so i kind of dabbled in that—bc around that time the friends and gf i had were very like. oh boys suck and shit and i couldn’t just be a boy without feeling some type of way? but i definitely wasn’t Just a girl. i tried to convince myself maybe i wasn’t a boy at all bc i still didn’t feel like i could be one—i still didn’t like boy shit. i liked wearing skirts (at the time), i liked dress up games and feminine shit… so clearly i had to be Partially a girl? so it kept me in the closet for a long bit until i finally was like nah i’m like. just. a dude. a guy. all of this gender shit kind of went hand in hand with my sexuality bc i always hated the insinuation that i was a lesbian (which happened a lot, got called lesbo, my mom kept asking me if i was a lesbian bc i was physically affectionate with my would become hs gf at the time—and i realize now off topic that tbh i wouldn’t have dated her if my mom and her mom and other people weren’t putting pressure on it to be romantic? like friends can hold hands and cuddle for fucks sake Lmao) bc i’m not a girl or a woman lmao. i didn’t really like being bi either bc at the time i thought it was only being attracted to men and women and what about nb people (i’ve learned better now but this was in hs) plus my own gender was up in the air so like???? pan was my go to and i really felt at home in that label for many years. until i think a few years ago where like idk how to explain well but i just realized while i do think women can be pretty and even sexy i’m just not like. attracted to them in the same way that i’m attracted to men or nb people that aren’t femme leaning. so that’s why mlm/mlnb feels right to me? like my partner’s agender for instance lmao, but they’re my self proclaimed goth hibimbo and they tend to dress femme bc they like the fashion so like. it’s not the presentation of femininity that i’m not attracted to? so in that sense i still feel like it’s not quite correct but. words are dumb we move.

this was so long rip

#about renjamin #s: darren and co #s: dead rites #s: vdtrt

[svartalfhild]

Do you think that most people don’t ship Laudna with Ashton because they desire explicitly queer or homosexual relationships portrayed and even though Ashton is he/they, Ashton is still voiced by a man and “acts like” a masculine man, that somehow reads that Laudna and he/they would be in a “heterosexual” relationship?

I ask because it seems like the official reason “reason” for not shipping Ashna is pretty flimsy (“Oh, they only give off brother/sister/sibling vibes” well yeah but Laudna’s relationship with Imogen could also be read as sisterly)

People also seem to ignore that even if Laudna is bi/pan/demi, so far the main targets of her possible romantic/crush/dating interests were described as or shown to be male or mostly male presenting.

Therefore, they shouldn’t see it as out of left field if some fans ship Laudna/Dorian, Laudna/Ashton, Laudna/Eshteross, Laudna/Whitestone Andy, Laudna/Pretty, Laudna/Minotaur Dude in addition to or instead of Laudna/Imogen, Laudna/Fearne, and Laudna/Imogen/Fearne, etc. (No Laudna/Chetney because our gnome-wolf is too devoted to his Fae-Lady to consider anyone else 😆). Nor should they claim queer baiting of Laudna does wind up with someone other than Imogen (weirdly enough, that term is thrown around even if the character’s official love interest isn’t a member of the opposite sex just because they didn’t end up with the preferred same-sex person)

I dunno. Just curious. At the end of the day, people have the freedom to ship whatever they want because that’s what they like; I’m just tired of some of the more annoying shippers trying to force their own ship on others and be offended if someone else prefers a different ship.

Sorry for the rant.

No it's okay, Anon; I get you.

I certainly think a perception of Ashna as a het relationship could be a contributing factor to many people's disinterest in it. There is a pervasive notion in fandom culture of certain things not being "queer enough" along very predictable lines that reflect discourses in the queer community at large. As an ace demigirl, I am deeply familiar with this problem.

Ashton's gender is unspecified, but we know he's nonbinary because he's a he/they, but because he presents in a masculine way and is comfortable with he/him, this places him in a weird "not a pure nonbinary" box in people's minds because he doesn't fit the fully androgynous image people have of nb people. As result of being "nb lite", his potential relationship with a female character is seen as a m/f ship, and therefore once again "not queer enough" to be interesting. (Side note: Taliesin has talked about genderqueer experiences before, so I hesitate to assume he's a cis man, but his masculine presentation is certainly an aspect of people's perception of Ashton.)

I do see a lot of Im*dna shippers talking about how they perceive Ashton and Laudna as a sibling type relationship, and you're right, people could easily read it the other way around. I definitely perceive Imogen and Laudna as a sisterly best friend relationship and Ashton and Laudna (especially Ashton's attentions to Laudna) as hinting at romantic interest. It troubles me that so many people take the attitude that there's only one correct way to look at it, even though there has been no confirmation of anything and we're all floating in the soup of ambiguity.

The notion that it'll be queerbaiting if Laudna ends up with someone other than Imogen (esp. if said someone is masc) is fucking ridiculous, and I severely need people to check the definition of queerbaiting. Someone already did a good post on the notion of queerbaiting in CR, so I won't rehash all the points, but yeah, there very much is this implied idea of certain outcomes not being queer enough to be appealing or even acceptable.

Ashton queers everything they touch just by being themself, but again, because they present in a masc way, any ships with female characters get categorized as het and thereby disregarded.

Then there's the matter of Laudna's sexuality, which is unknown, but we do know that she's attracted to men and isn't categorically opposed to the attentions of a nonbinary person. We don't know if she's attracted to women, but it's certainly possible. The notion of Laudna as mspec and/or aspec in a relationship with a masc character seems to not be queer enough for a lot of people (especially the latter, but that's a whole other essay), as it is perceived as "basically het" and somehow queerbaiting. This is kinda bringing me back to the days of Campaign 1 and the huge fit people threw over Vaxilmore vs. Vaxleth, calling it queerbaiting and homophobic, despite the fact that Vax is bi and Keyleth is demi, so there was no actual loss of queer rep (not to mention the fact that the people who play those characters aren't straight).

Long story short, there's a lot of unexamined and unspoken biased against nbs, mspecs, and aspecs in the way people perceive and talk about character relationships because of the pervasive idea that these identities don't provide good enough queer representation, especially among main characters. I think that could definitely be a strong contributing factor in people's unwillingness to consider and leave room for the possibility of a Laudna and Ashton ending up together.

#Critical Role #CR Ashna #CR Gravestone #ask

[the-jennnster]

Okay, this is going to be easier to respond to here, because Tumblr desktop is being Weird:tm: for me, BUT on my post about how radqueer is terrible and drags actual queer people into their community against their will to try and gain legitimacy, I got a question in the replies!

Hello! How can you be a bi lesbian? Bisexuality is attraction to two or more genders, while lesbian is exclusive attraction to women. Sorry if that sounds rude! /gq (@clouds-regression)

The short answer? Because I want to, because bi lesbian describes my attraction better than either of those labels separately, because it's the identity that I've found.

The long answer?

Because describing lesbianism as "exclusive attraction to women" is transphobic and has roots in TERF ideology.

Because the actual definition of a lesbian is "a homosexual woman" and, as Wikipedia so wonderfully explains, is also used for women in relation to their sexual identity or sexual behavior, regardless of sexual orientation, or as an adjective to characterize or associate nouns with female homosexuality or same-sex attraction.

"But isn't homosexuality exclusive attraction to the same gender?" No, actually! It's just,,, attraction to the same gender. In any capacity.

Historically, bisexual women (and trans men, genderqueer people, ace folks, a lot of people, really) were included in the lesbian community, because of common experiences and similarities. After all, Back In The Day:tm:, lots of queer women were in heterosexual marriages, happily or otherwise, and that never diminished their queerness.

But... when TERFs started getting loud and annoying, they perpetuated the idea of gold star lesbianism and that anyone who "betrayed" women by sleeping with men weren't actually lesbians. Same goes for trans people, who were either invading or betraying women depending on which way they were transitioning, and ace people, who were "basically straight" despite suffering a direct mirror image of lesbophobia ("You just haven't met the right man yet" sound familiar?)

And, voila, the community fractured. Anyone who wasn't "exclusively" lesbian was shoved out of what used to be an incredibly supportive and accepting community, and it didn't take too much longer for TERFs to claim that anyone other than cis gays and lesbians deserved to be treated with respect.

So bi lesbians are reclaiming a term that has belonged to them from the beginning of queer history-- after all, Sappho also loved a man.

But, that's just the historical perspective.

I can't speak for every bi lesbian out there, but for me, I use "bi lesbian" because while I am attracted to men, I have little to no desire to actually have a relationship with them and generally seek out relationships with women. I'm also attracted to non-binary people (because, hey, as it turns out "exclusive" attraction is incredibly exclusive of those of us who live outside of the binary! Which is exactly what TERFs wanted) and find gender fuckery inherently attractive, regardless of a person's gender.

It's almost like a shortened way to say "theoretically bi, practically a lesbian."

Here's a carrd that explain more about it and other reasons why someone might identify as bi lesbian:

#bi lesbian

[anxiolycious]

Hey, Im Nathaniel (among other names) and Im here to not interact with people so much as collect posts and genders and stuff.

some about:

+ ive been on this site since 2012, i have seen Everything, I will not be engaging in discourse, especially if you are younger than me. I aint got time or energy to waste on that. Just block me if you don't wanna see me, please.

+ im intersex, genderqueer, bigenderflux, catgender, xenofluix, femme, and other things. I unite all things. I am man and woman, both and neither, human and inhuman, gay and lesbian and bi, aro and ace and allo and quoi, binary and nonbinary. Unity in contradiction is my thing.

+ IRL people have no idea what gender I am. They just know Im a gender queer. I regularly get the "i cant tell which way you're transitioning" thing from both cis and trans people. This has unique effects on my experience of being in public. The TMA/TME binary is a spook.

+ I have seen and lived a lot of things that this site's discourse isn't prepared to address. If my lived experience doesn't match what you expect, please do me the courtesy of believing that Im telling the truth.

+ Im light skinned and mixed Appalachian "poor white" and West Asian/Judean. I currently live in the US. Mixed race and indigenous issues are important to me as I reconnect while on someone else's land.

+ im cripplepunk af and have been since Ty was still with us (may his memory be a blessing) and it changed my life a lot.

+ Im a drag king/thing IRL and very increasingly involved with my local queer and kink communities. None of that extremely online stuff here.

+ Ive identified with transness since I learned I could at 14, but I've never really had an "i thought i was cis" period of my life. I've been transitioning/detransitioning/retransitioning for over a decade, and have been on and off HRT of various kinds, had no nipples top surgery, a total hysto, and am on my way to salmacian bottom surgery by the end of October 2022.

+ I keep tarantulas and isopods and a ball python! I love bugs and exotic animals and critters. Please show me critters!

+ Im married to one of my sysmates, in a triad with some others, live with my QPP of 5 years and their system, and am in long distance relationships with another system for 5 years as well.

+ If you think you know me, no you don't. I just wanna have a little anon sideblog for gender hoarding. Pls don't recognize me based on my life details lol