i may or may not also have a crush on this man right here, but not ‘cause of this movie
or, at least, not only ‘cause of this movie
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blood test results for starting T came back today (after a bunch of times the GP not having appointments, and then me missing the call when he did)
Anyway my free androgen index is a fair bit higher than it "should" be, enough that the doc asked if I'd already started T, cs that's dealt with by a London clinic
Which is fine, obviously, that's what going on testosterone is sposed to do, right, so I guess I just have a slight head-start or smth
But this is going here instead of my main blog cs it's um. It's kinda brought me some thoughts of uh.
Well I've always had the thought of. I.
I don't know if I'd count as intersex?
I've never had any medical trouble (beyond horrid joint pain that sometimes seems to come and go with my hormone levels, but then my parents were both diagnosed with arthritis as teenagers (mum with rheumatoid at 13, dad with osteo at 16), so isn't that some level of normal to experience), or really anything outside what may be considered yr normal uhhhh female y'know puberty experience, but I do. Well I think I do. Have a larger than average clit?
I remember being a very small child, maybe 5 or so, and changing for swimming lessons, y'know, and thinking,, mine doesn't look like that. Mine doesn't look at all like that.
I suppose I'm just. Less neat, maybe. From what I can tell, it looks like y'know like a normal on-T bottom growth type uh whatever you call it, tho I haven't looked at enough photos to tell what sorta exactly so-many-months stage it looks like.
So I really do just have a small head start (ha, head), in that sense, naturally high T levels, I suppose
But I've spent my entire life thinking like. I'm not supposed to look like that. It's not right normal whatever. If someone fucked me, they'd be able to feel it, feel that I wasn't normal, even if it's only averagely large instead of just large (I haven't much of an idea of what is very large or not, beyond that people celebrating their T changes look like I do already)
I suppose that some of my ID'ing as ace at first was misplaced shame, y'know - I look wrong, nobody would want a girl that looks like this, therefore I shouldn't want anything myself
Which is pure nonsense, I'm aware, but it's a very hard (oh it does that, too, some, tho it doesn't show half as well as a cis man's might) idea to shake, and I've still kept hold of the shame, tho now it's mostly shifted to be about "nobody would want me as a man person because I look like too much of a girl despite this"
And that if anyone did want me, it would be despite this, always, never accepting it or liking it - I don't know I've truly accepted it yet myself, I am uncomfortable about it,,, being known by someone else, or something, y'know, tho most of my masturbation has always focused on it over y'know penetration - but rather that if they,, carried on with me, it would be ignoring it, or following some great horrid uncomfortable shock, y'know, cs it's not. I suppose. It's not necessarily something you'd go into something expecting to find.
Well. There's that said.
I know logically it's nothing to be ashamed of, really. I know that my birth certificate has "female" on it, so I can't be that um. Far away from cis-average. I'm using the wrong words I don't know the right ones I'm sorry But it's an idea that burrowed it's way very very far into my brain, and I've so far been unable to shift it.
Tho seeing people pleased at their progression into their genitals looking like mine, does go some way to helping, I will say that.
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I truly wonder if white fans are even capable of understanding how hard it is just being in a fandom space when you're not white. How alienated you feel every other day. How often you're told "it's not that big a deal" or "it's just a fantasy game get over it" or "it doesn't matter" or "go save the rainforest instead of crying over a game" or etc. etc. etc. to the point where you yourself start to question if there's something wrong with you... that it's your fault for being hurt all the time. Because it's never just about one racist mod, or one piece of whitewashed art, or one offensive post... it's all of it. Together. All the time. It's so fucking exhausting and it's why POC quit fandom spaces a lot.
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