#im so tired of this conflation

[animerunner]

Actual convo: -discussing how GAC/DAS really should be limited to those who fundamentally don’t understand the concept of waiting in line with a developmental disorder-

Me: -exhausted about having to explain this again- Can we please not conflate intellectual and developmental disorders again. Yes you can have both. But having one isn’t a sure fire 100 percent guarantee you’ll have the other.

Like I can understand the concept of waiting in line just fine. But that doesn’t change how my body will respond in a queue environment when severely overstimulated.

#disability #disney #im so tired of this conflation #I’m over here working on a degree #at one of the most difficult schools in the country #and yet I still have people making assumptions about how my type of disability works

[torahtot]

sth that always frustrates me is when people on here say things like "jewish ppl u can let go of connection to israel bc you can be at home in the countries you live in!" and someone responds with a whole essay on how antisemitism is alive and well.. bc that still accepts the original premise. you're saying yes, i agree, we would not feel a connection to the land if antisemitism didn't exist, but it does. this ignores the root misconception that makes someone say things like that, which is that they deny (or simply don't realize/understand) our connection to the land, which transcends the existence of antisemitism in the diaspora. walk into any orthodox school that doesn't even consider itself zionist, and you'll find the kids having conversations with their teachers about how to reconcile feeling comfortable in galut with the desire to properly mourn the beit hamikdash & yearn for mashiach so that we can return. this isn't metaphorical in the slightest; many of them will make aliyah whether mashiach comes or not (and it won't have anything to do with secular zionism or antisemitism). eradicating antisemitism in the diaspora would never change the fact that we are in galut. if they were smart they would actually shift the conversation to why we don't need an explicitly/exclusively jewish state in order to live safely & thrive in eretz yisrael, but they won't bc a) that would require accepting the validity of our connection to it and b) they consider it "validating settler fears" or wtvr the fuck. so instead they will continue to be totally inept at realpolitik solutions & fail to see eye to eye in conversation with jews bc they fundamentally misunderstand.. everything about us.

#or max theyll say uhm we never said ull b KICKED OUT or KILLED we think u should safely live under [nationalism but in the other direction] #it's actually very telling that if you look at activists *in* i/p who do real things instead of internet activism #the entire reason they're successful is bc they do what im talking abt here. they acknowledge the reason it's important #to both of us is not bc of antisemitism or oppression but just bc it's our homeland #also to be clear you can explain why the feeling of the need for a state is fueled by antisemitism #but 2 conflate the state w the land & say that our connection to the land can be erased or made metaphorical once antisemitism is conquered #is bs and wont get you anywhere #shoutout to that one post i saw saying yearning for eretz yisrael was always metaphorical... im So Tired #like besides being ahistorical that really only reflects the lived experience of the most assimilated among us. it's true for u maybe #but my community was absolutely not dicking around when they spoke about galut #nachi speaks #on galut #also if anybody normal wants to reblog this if u have sth to say too long for replies. lmk ill consider it

[samaspic31]

Im going mad the us and france have laws against fucking BDS. I just. Criminalizing the tamest form of activism. Forcing companies to buy and sell. Some superb fucking libertarianism we got here

#everyone conflating opposing Israel on the grounds of it being an apartheid state and antisemitism. fuck you. #sam speaks #cool so companies can’t even boycott even if they wanted to. cool. cool. cool. #france also just explised a Palestinian feminist. im tired #free palestine #french politics

[hickoryhorneddevils]

think i mightve started my first twitter beef whoops (bitchily corrected someones misuage of 'i/ntrusive thoughts')

#i KNOW i shouldnt get into fights on the internet i always try to be kind when correcting ppl who usually dont realize theyve used it wrong #but ive just HAD IT. HAD IT HAD IT HAD IT I NEED TO KILL IM GOING TO THROW A BRICK AT SOMEONE #if they start to be extra bitchy back im just gonna block and ignore like i shoulda done but im so tired of ppl misusing it #and in the context of defending weird shit #like. intrusive thoughts are not urges!!! theyre not!!!!!!!! leave us alone!!!!!!!!!! stop conflating the two!!!!!!!!!!!! #.txt

[redysetdare]

tumblr keeps sending me posts from aromantic ppl with the worst possible takes and it's getting on my nerves

#text #im sorry but the moment i saw posts saying that aroaces have more representation in media my brain fried #like...is the abundance of aroace rep in media in the room with us right now? #ppl always get upset when ppl conflate aros with aces but then i see posts like this #where ppl conflate aroaces with aces #as if the ace part of our identity is the only thing that matters #and 'look theres ace rep so obviously it's aroace rep and so u have wayy more rep than us' bs #im so fucking tired

[jennajayfeather]

I dislike seeing comments about Flat (mostly in response to the OVA coming out) that are like “Wait until vol. 6″ (when Flat says “I won’t get in your way Professor!”) and “Flat’s my favorite even if he turns into a destruction machine after he dies” and it sort of rubs me the wrong way? Like Flat wasn’t in Waver’s way, in fact right around that time before his phone got destroyed he was WORKING WITH WAVER, and it’s not Flat’s wish for Thia to hurt anyone...

To me it just sort of feels like people “blame” Flat for this stuff when it’s not his fault at all (and I have a feeling he’s doing something good behind the scenes).

#im also tired of seeing Flat & Thia conflated so much where when people 'praise' Flat for being cool but they actually mean Thia #and i knew i'd find something on TV Tropes that'd make me mad jlakjgae #like they implied what Flat could 'see' was Thia and its like no??? that's not what was ever stated #like he could sense Thia's presence but it wasn't Thia like pointing in directions for him to go to evade his parents

[macarensesangles]

btw stupid but when i posted that fray comic earlier i was like “wait what if this is offensive bc i don’t have DID” and i had to remind myself like,. Yes you do lestat that’s why your final fantasy character has it in the first place

#it’s also why his fray acts kind of ooc compared to canon fray #bc ive sort of conflated the character with a part that deals with anger and certain memories #so pfeil’s fray is more like that alter than canon fray i think #although that part does also relate strongly to canon fray #so it’s a mess lol #anyway im just very tired of going through denial every 15 seconds #tag for complaining

[drdemonprince]

Any chance you'd expand on the hank hill trans guy post? (Sorry, best indicator I could come up with.) The concept interests me as I decidedly know my maleness, yet don't feel impeded by for the most part, any male gendered norms/boxes. I am fairly masculine, though I rarely use those kinds terms to describe myself. I have found I often do stray outside of what society pushed for me when I transitioned, yet I again do not feel it has taken from my right to maleness whatsoever. I am just me, who happens to be male. I have had friends try and suggest I am NB adjacent but I do not feel this way whatsoever. I feel more people are outliers to gender expectation than we care to admit and it's disappointing the way cis-people deny that. Hope this wasn't too long winded, I value your writing and perspective, and wanted to hear more of your thoughts on this.

Yeah, well so many things all get conflated by gender labels, and it's all so personal, you know? Masculinity does not have to mean maleness, and a person's gender identity might be a reflection of some innate quality they experience themselves as having, or a general summary of their tendencies, or their desired presentation, or their sense of affinity with other people, or an interpersonal tool, or something they just go along with because it was given to them by society, or any other number of things.

I think my recent substack piece on detransition goes into this pretty well, and I have an upcoming piece of what @pastimperfection calls "bilateral dysphoria" that comes out next week that delves into it too.

I think I mostly saw taking on a male identity as a means to an end more than any kind of innate reflection of who I was, though I did feel an affinity with effeminate men for a lot of reasons. I think I also discounted how much I have in common with my fellow nonbinary people of all stripes, because that identity became so strongly associated with being an annoying type of queer person that everybody else just wrote off as ultimately being their assigned gender at birth anyway no matter how much they protested. it doesn't help that 'nonbinary' is a catchall term for literally thousands if not millions of very distinct experiences and desires.

transitioning gave me control over how i was perceived, finally, but hormones are a throttle that only go in one very specific direction, and you don't really have all that much control over which changes kick in at which times and what people will make of you once you do start registering to them as some identity other than what you were first saddled with. it's an incredible gift to be able to toggle that throttle. but it's limited, not because medical transition isn't incredible and needed for so many, but because there is no escaping the goddamned binary cissexist logic that influences everything about how people treat you, how you navigate institutions, who finds you desirable and what they want out of you, and so much else.

if you're able to cast a lot of the external societal bullshit aside and feel strong in your maleness, maybe you're stronger than me or maybe our orientation to these things is just different, i don't know. i was never all that sensitive to feedback that i was doing the whole being-a-woman-thing all that wrong. i reveled in violating those rules to an extent. succeeding at being a woman despite my best attempts was what felt super dysphoric. and now i guess im succeeding at being a man, insofar as im always read as one, and it feels just as uncomfortable and objectifying and false. i thought that with manhood i could probably just grit my teeth and deal with it, but i'm finding that i can't.

ive always been very open that for me, gender is a thing I Do, and i guess to those who know me well it wouldnt be surprising to hear that i have gotten tired of Doing Being a Man and dont feel like playing that particular gendered game anymore. I tend to get bored of things! and find the flaws in things. and find my comfort in being fault-finding and contrarian and not being a joiner. and thats okay. i learned a lot along the way. not having to try any more is a huge relief. i can just do whatever. and know actively that people will more often than not be wrong in what they make of me.

maybe it was natural feeling for you to decidely 'know' your maleness without a care for masculine standards because that is the right identity for you! and maybe i only feel secure in the "not knowing" realm and in letting go of what people think of me or finding any kind of tidy categorization for it because that's the right spot for me. for now. until i find a new interesting way to be unhappy and striving for more and different again. :) that's just part of being alive, for me.

[simply-eno]

Don’t Look Behind You

I’m reminded of the past on a daily basis; between the haunting screams of all I did wrong and the trauma I never resolved, I’m pushing my future to its grave before it has a chance in the cradle. You keep saying that the past doesn’t define us, that our scars we gathered are old wounds— so what if they still ache, so what if they still bleed? Traits of the people I’ve hated spew venom into the people I love, and there’s no antidote for these words I spit. But you tell me to leave the past where it is, but you tell me not to compare the past with now, but you tell me not to conflate the past with our future, but I’m killing you, but I’m killing us— what if the bleeding doesn’t stop, what if the wounds don’t heal? Im tired of the things that happened before, yet they keep me awake at night, create dreams that I don’t want to see. Perhaps you should forget me like you forgot your past, and leave me for dead instead.

#poetry #spilled ink #spilled thoughts #my writing #prose #titled #thoughts from the fleet

[determinate-negation]

i literally had a great time in college sjp and jvp, never experienced antisemitism, mostly was around jews, mostly was around people who hate white supremacy and imperialism and capitalism. met my closest and current friends (mostly jewish) through it. obviously thats anecdotal but im just so fucking tired of the conflation of pro palestine students with antisemitism, its not an accurate portrayal both of incidents of antisemitism and whats driving them

#mine #anti zionism

[not-goldy]

i just don't understand why you guys are so adamant to think jimin is a liar and just simply not listen to him. jimin has never shyed from the truth and even if there are times where he tries to be subtle he makes it still glaringly obvious. im convinced majority of you just didnt watch the documentary and just watched the jikook cut because otherwise you would see how jimin came up with the lyrics what he said about the lyrics and meaning and why he chose jungkook to do it. never once did he even slighty imply it was a romantic love song for a secret partner. jungkook is the vocal model all members use. he is the member all members go to if they want vocal backing. he's done it with yoongi, jhope and now jimin and not to mention the group itself😭 and it's not letter ft jungkook it's letter by jimin. full stop. jk has credit of backup vocals just like namjoon has writing credits there is no difference. the least you all can do is respect jimins music and not just see and hear what you want to fulfill your shipping narrative.

Aht aht aht aht

I'll stop you right there.

I don't care bout all you said from paragraph one - I mean if it don't apply i let it fly. Find whomever is giving you the said headache and take it up with them but I won't let you conflate the credits of these men.

There is a difference between JK being credited as background vocals and Namjoon being credited as writer. No it's not the same thing. They both contributing their unique strengths to his project.

A singer is not a writer. Not all who sing CAN WRITE and not all who write CAN SING.

You do not have to take away from the art of an artist just because crediting one of those artists makes you uncomfortable.

Like you said, JK is credited as background vocals.

Why can't you leave it at that and be okay with the fact people celebrate that? We will celebrate that whether you like it or not. Will do🙂

You can't be this peeved that people want to celebrate that. You can't be. That's so messed up arguing the degree of importance- if it wasn't at all important to JM he could have skipped having Jungkook on. You not the least bit curious why he bothered with Kook on his song to begin with??

Messes with your head don't it???

Whether his contribution is to you minimal or not he's on there.

There's nothing wrong with acknowledging that FACT. And if you can acknowledge THAT FACT THEN WE HAVE NOTHING TO ARGUE ABOUT.

JUNGKOOK IS ON THERE. WHETHER YOU CALL IT A DUET OR A SING SONG- LIKE SHAKESPEARE SAYS, WHATS IN A NAME.

A ROSE BY ANY OTHER NAME IS SWEET.

WE DONT CARE WHATEVER YOU CHOOSE TO CALL LETTERS- WE GOOD AS LONG AS JUNGKOOK IS THERE🙂

WE ARE NOT ANAL. WE ARE NOT STUCK ON CALLING IT A DUET OR SYMPHONY. THAT'S YALL CRAZY PSYCHOS' TERRIAN BUT ARGUE THAT WITH YOUR MAMAS AND LEAVE US ALONE.

Yall solos sound the same whether it's Tae solos or BTS antis. I recall this same debate over Jimin's part in Angel pt 1 with some saying its irrelevant because it's 5 seconds.

Then they argued Jimin didn't deserve writing credits for his "sick and tired but I don't wanna mess up" in BTS' disease.

If he appeared 5 seconds in a movie yall will call him an actor worth nominating for Oscars

If Jimin did Bg vocals for any one especially if it were a song this good and if it trended on the charts at number one yall would be doing back flips so kindly SIT SOMEWHERE AND LET US JIMIN JIKOOK STANS HAVE OUR TIME.

We have yalls digits. We know how yall operate. You are the same. So please just fuck off these Jikook spaces and do this toxic shit in your own spaces WE DO NOT WANT TO COMMUNITY WITH YOU😩😹

WHY WONT YOU JUST GO AWAY

Downplaying Jungkook when if it were your faves you'd be rejoicing

The disrespect 😤

The Tuktukkers syndrome yall have😹

One and the same brain cell I swear.

What else did you say...... oh right-

Everyone goes to Jungkook for backing because

Wait for it

A. HE IS A VOCAL KING AND VOICE LEADER OF THE GROUP

B. HE IS A GOOD TALENTED SINGER AND HE HAS A SWEET VOICE TOO

C. HE HAS SOCIAL CURRENCY AND CLOUT

D. HE'S JUNGKOOK

But Jimin went to Kook for letter because

A. KOOKS VOICE WORKS SO WELL WITH HIS

B. LETTER CARRIES MEANING TO HIM

C. ADDING JUNGKOOK'S VOICE WOULD NOT DETRACT FROM IT'S MEANINGFULNESS TO HIM AND WHOMEVER THE SONG IS MADE FOR- WHICH IS NOT YOU.

D. HE DID NOT INTEND THE SONG FOR HIS SOLOS

So even if you believe with your whole chest that the song is for his fans, ITS FOR A SPECIFIC SET OF FANS WHO WOULD APPRECIATE WHAT HE TRIED TO DO WITH THE SONG- AND TRUST WE DO

ITS NOT FOR YOU KIMBERLY

Read my lips

Or hands

LETTERS IS NOT A LETTER TO YALL TOXIC SOLOS SO YOU CAN SKIP THIS ONE LEAVE IT FOR US YALL DONT WANT IT SAY THAT AND GO😹

You know you hate it SAY that to Jimin and go. Tell him you hate Letter because he dared to involve his Jeon Jungkook. Your problem is with him not US you just have a weird inarticulate cognitive dissonance that's preventing you from admitting that.

It's one thing to call out jokers making a song made by jimin and Jimin alone about Jungkook but to come out here with convoluted think peices about the degree of importance attached to a members participation on his song is sad and pathetic.

Fighting for a song yall not even included in😹😹😹

JUNGKOOK IS YOUR IDOLS IDOL HONEY

Best to believe that.

Wipe your tears with the back of your hands I'm out of tissues

[hanasnx]

“I like it when you’re jealous,” you say as you take off his clothes. Anakin, through gritted teeth, “yeah and i’m getting real tired of it.” 🫠🤤🥴 I’m dead that what so hot!!! And omg please I would love for you to explore the idea of Anakin being jealous again, maybe how it would differ after him and the reader became an actual couple, if you have time ofc 💓💓💓

ill make time for steamy anakin romance any day anon— im so happy u told me what u liked most about that post!! it always makes me happy to know what lines got u :D

i needed a break from writing my halloween themed kinktober fic for anakin anyway ;)

☥ so anakin is obviously painfully aware of how sexy you are. his dick has ached for you more times than he can count. being so inexperienced before you meant being horny and being horny for you are synonymous bcos he conflates the two

so he thinks that a lot of other men feel that way about you too, even if he doesnt realize he thinks that way

☥ anakin is definitely toxic to an extent, so once you two become an actual couple im sure it’d be a problem that you have to face together.

☥ sometimes you don’t realize youre flirting, you’re naturally flirtatious as a personality trait, something youve adopted because it paid off in your last job, and it pays off now.

it’s a habit youre trying to break, and sometimes it slips out. and damn does it piss anakin off.

“you’re leading them on on purpose!”

“well it was necessary before! i’m still working on it, ani,”

“i think you like the attention.”

“oh? is that how you feel?”

“you get some sick satisfaction from guys thinking they have a chance with you.”

“and it doesn’t excite you that they never will?”

he side eyes you. “don’t turn this around like that,”

“c’mon, anakin, don’t you get some ‘sick satisfaction’ out of men thirsting after your girl only to be denied and forgotten?”

“you can’t say you whore yourself out to other guys for me.”

“but i can say you like having something no one else does.”

the way he fucking looks at you, tonguing his cheek with this heated glint in his eye. KDJF you better be ready to get fucked in half

☥ he gets so worked up over it, and you hate that he’s right about you liking the attention. it’s so tough to catch yourself in the act and clip it. anakin develops quite the routine with you

“i saw you talking with that scum like he had a shot. even if you weren’t with me you’d never even look in his direction. i’m starting to think it gets you off knowing you’ll be punished at home.” he’d tell you while he’s balls deep inside of you in a mating press

“ani! too deep! too deep!”

“i don’t care. you wanna act like a slut? take it like one.”

☥ this would happen so often that he pops a boner when he sees you flirting around. your hand bracing on a strangers arm when you laugh at their joke. letting them put a hand over yours on a table. whispering something naughty in your ear so you playfully hit them and meet anakin’s gaze from across the room.

like when a dog salivates at the sound of the dinner bell, anakin knows you just signed yourself up for being his personal toy tonight.

☥ “i bet he’s thinking about you, you know,” he’d tell you, while you were overstimulated and unraveling over him. his tip kissing your cervix mercilessly, thumb running over your clit, awaiting your next orgasm. “smiling at the thought of you. wondering when he’ll see you next. has no idea you’re here, getting fucked by your lover until you forget your own damn name.”

☥ being an actual couple means he has a little more reign in what he’s allowed to say to you, and what he’s allowed to do to you should you stray

its fun for him to reclaim you, and it’s fun for you to basically get a guaranteed rough fuck—

☥ “i can’t blame you for being so magnetic, princess, men flock to you ‘cause they’re human. it’s got me thinking,”

“about what, baby?”

“maybe if i fuck a baby into you, the question of if you belong to anyone’ll be answered.”

“ani—“

#anon #thanks for the msg!! #indy shoots the shit #star wars #anakin #anakin skywalker smut #anakin skywalker x reader #the clone wars #tcw #sw #jealousy #established relationship #x y/n #x f!reader #x fem!reader #x female!reader #anakin skywalker imagine

[olderthannetfic]

www.tumblr.com/olderthannetfic/739721953083064320/im-tired-of-ao3-conflating-romance-and-sex-so-im

Tags don't exist to be some kind of philosophical statement, they exist to make it easy for people to find the kinds of fics they want to read.

People who want to read about platonic sexual relatinships are going to be looking in the slash tags and filtering for some more specific additional tags. They definitely are not going to be looking in the tag that means "no sex of any kind".

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[aroace-confessions]

im fucking tired of people conflating platonic and queerplatonic attraction. like i get for some people they don't know where to draw the line between them but that's also true of any types of attraction

im sick of saying "squish" and having to clarify that i mean platonic and not queerplatonic

im sick of looking up terms ending in "-platonic" and realizing they mean queerplatonic attraction

im sick of scrolling #platonic attraction on tumblr but everything is about qprs.

i hate this so much i just want to see more platonic attraction positivity without making it queerplatonic

Submitted 09/02/24

#platonic attraction #platonic

[xxxjarchiexxx]

i get the point of this post but most of the published fanfic books do have a plot so much and a lot aren't even cishet, they just don't hold a lot of appeal once you know the origins or are predictable because of your knowledge of fanfic culture etc. like yeah romcoms are light on plot and are cishet usually if you're solely talking about ali hazelwood (although Bride is about to throw a wrench in that), but olivie blake is like Thee fanfic to published girlie and like all her characters are bisexual and the books have a bonkers amount of plot.

if that doesn't count cuz those are mostly dramione, than ill limit my response to only reylo published fic! the hurricane wars is like epic fantasy and it seems like it's main problem from critics is that it relied too much on star wars lore originally and struggled to build its own magic system, i haven't read it personally though. You again is a literary character study about bisexuals healing from a breakup, but it does have its origins in reylo and it is a romcom but it's not enemies to lovers. Forget me not by Julie Soto also has a bisexual protagonist i think, though I also haven't read that one, and is also a contemporary romance though it's not a romcom AFAIK. etc etc.

a lot of the repetitive tropey romance fantasy books are not remotely published fanfic either. i think you have beef with mainstream romance books and also have an elitist viewpoint around fanfic and are conflating these into one, idk. this just isn't a problem. you just don't like romantasy and also hate ali hazelwood books, which is fine.

ALSO I PROMISE U THERE IS PUBLISHED GAY FANFIC SO MUCH. TAKE ONE LOOK AT INDIE QUEER BOOKS THATS ALL IT IS. everyone falsely accuses gtn of being homestuck fanfic while ignoring that in a server for indie books im in someone described their actual book as astarion/gale fanfic.

it's not this deep but also yes it is because im tired of people deciding that not liking something equates to the thing being objectively terrible compared to their good pure thing they like, even when disguised as jokes

[dragonstailbutch]

hey, i just wanted to reach out and hopefully i articulate this all well, i'm a lil tired today lol. but i just wanted to say that i appreciate you and what you started re: forcemasc and that i've shared a lot of your thoughts regarding what it's turned into. i can only imagine how you feel considering you're the one who got it going on here... i've seen a lot of weird takes come of it myself and have just been so confused as to how people don't seem to recognize the issues they're perpetrating (or they just don't care, more likely), particularly with their quite honestly toxic ideas of manhood, conflating masculinity with being a man, etc. like you've said it's just become a cesspool of mra transmisogynistic talking points and it's baffling. this should've been a space where people could subvert some of these expectations and have fun with it... all this to say though i hope you are able to take care of yourself and find some peace in knowing that there are others out there that share your feelings on it and do still appreciate and find comfort in the initial concept that you came up with. hang in there <3

thank you so much, it means a lot to me, truly. ive been trying to make sure im good, promise yall! been keeping myself busy with chores and taking care of the house lol

yeah, its been a rollercoaster seeing the community i created get to this point and ive already spoken up about it, as have my partner and a few other people, but im probably just gonna block the tag andpeople as i go and keep making stuff for myself, cause i wanna keep putting out good vibes and feelings and words for people to connect with, all us transbutches and cis butches and the studs and dykes and queers and transmasc folks deserve to have a outlet for being masculine too, in our own ways

love yall and keep loving your trans sisters

#the dragon speaks #t4t nsft #forcemasc #forcemasc creator #force masc #dragon speaks