#like i can understand if she says that usa is so sensitive (i say this as an american) but damn… she could have just said be respectful and

[courviknight]

okay ik i’m in a healthcare course but i was eventually going to have a What Makes a Woman but my god there’s only two ways these conversations go and it Did Not Go……………..

#we’re talking about the endocrine system and them she’s like okay guys so just so you know: this proves that chemically women are this way #like hello?????????????? #like i understand she’s older but damn i wasn’t expecting this sweet lady to be like #i’m glad the pronouns and sexuality and gender things in america isn’t here in the philippines yet #me and the other trans man in the room: 🥸🥸 #like i can understand if she says that usa is so sensitive (i say this as an american) but damn… she could have just said be respectful and #careful of the language you use bc it can really affect people instead of like. a tangent of a woman has a uterus and has estrogen #had to check up on the other guy. he says he’s okay and also it is sweet he also thought of me when we were listening to that whole convo #i’m glad to have found other queer people. it’s nice that someone understands #i just believe that women are women because they are a woman #caw.txt

[footygirl114]

Tiro Libre (Alexia Putellas x Reader)

Sooooooo, part 3 in my Rivales Storyline, deffo read parts one & two if you want to understand better... Thank you to everyone for being so patient with me, and to the people who have reached out you are amazing!! 

The teams main focus after coming off the strong performance in Barcelona and the Christmas break was to bring that drive to the league and try to win it. Your main focus was not to miss your girlfriend too much, but also try to be her rock from a far while your friends were fighting for equality within the national team. 

You were able to spend Christmas back in Spain, but most of the time while you were there your house was used for the girls to meet and plan their course of action. Now that you were back in Manchester you realised how much you missed the Spanish girls being around constantly. Having watched them plan their attack and get ready to go to the federation you felt like one of the team. 

Being born in America you had been in the youth system for the USA but never actually got a look on the national team, until recent years you were mainly considered a bench player. It didn’t mean you never wanted to be on the national team, it just meant you could support your love and teammates in the supporters section. 

One night you were sitting on the couch in your Manchester apartment waiting for Alexia to call, you had been back for a week and you had a game the next afternoon. A low-key night was planned for you and Ona who had just left to grab your take away from the shop on the corner. When she slams the door open and yells out to you, she immediately has you standing and worried. 

Turning towards her you immediately see the panic in her eyes as she says “someone leaked the news, they are spinning it in their favour.” When she finishes you feel the dread in your stomach and cant help but think of what this means for the girls. 

“Im sorry Ona, I know thats not what any of you wanted” you tell her as you walk towards her and immediately pull the younger girl into your arms. You always knew she was sensitive, and you know she needs this as you can feel her tears soaking through your shirt. “It’ll be okay, you know the rest of them won’t let anything crazy happen Ona.” 

She sniffles and pulls back and says “you don’t know that Y/N” 

Shaking your head you tell her “I do though, you really think Ale or Irene will let them get away with this?”

“No” 

“Exactly, you know they have your back. You guys are all in this together.” you tell her. Before she can respond your phone rings with an incoming call from your love. “Speak of the devil” you say as you wink at Ona who smiles at you as you pick up the phone with a “Hi love” 

“Hola Ale, were your ears burning?” Ona asks with a laugh. 

She laughs through the phone as she says “I know you both only talk about me when I am not there” 

You all laugh and you chime in “In your dreams love, we have enough fun without you dragging us down” 

This gets a laugh from Ona and you drag her on the couch beside you where she settles with her head on her shoulder as you both settle in and talk with Alexia. “I am guessing you guys saw the news?” 

“Yeah, I was just telling Ona how you guys will not let this get you down.” you remind her. 

The way she responds makes you wish she was closer to you. “Oh Ona don’t you worry, there is no way they can keep La reina quiet, and you know we are all in this together, and I have your back”. The confidence she says that with gets to you, you know first hand how insecure she can be, and how she is worried for her teammates but she would never let anyone else know. 

You have to adjust in your seat as you are a bit turned on by her confidence and you hope Ona doesn’t notice but when you squirm one too many times she asks “you good Y/N? you cant sit still.” 

You immediately feel the blush in your cheeks as Alexia chimes in down the line “something caught your attention babe?” based on the tone in her voice she knows exactly what she is doing to you. 

Ona s continues to look at your for an answer as you say “yes i am fine, just worried for you all” finishing with a small smile to her as you add on “I may also miss Ale a little bit.”

“Oh you do? what do you miss most babe?” Alexia chirps from the phone.

Immediately Ona stands and squeals out a “ew gross guys, I am right here” 

Laughing you tell Ona “Come back, we can watch a movie and hang up on Ale for that comment.”

“hey!” 

“really?” Ona asks you in a soft tone. 

You smile and pat the couch beside you as you ask her “high school musical?”

She nods and settles back on the couch beside you as you hand her the remote you say into the phone “I’ll call you later babe.” 

“bye Ale! Sorry not sorry” Ona chimes in. 

“its okay you guys enjoy the movie. Love you both!” she says as she disconnects the call. 

Ona has the movie on and her head on her shoulder when you look at your phone screen as it lights up with a text from your love “you are the best, take care of Ona for me. xoxo” reading that you know she got exactly why you needed this time with the young Spaniard. 

**

The following days after the news breaks of the 15 players speaking out has your household on edge, waiting for the other shoe to drop. When the world steps up in support of the 15 you can see Ona start to relax a bit. She realises that maybe it's not going to be the end of her national career. 

You both are heavily focused on your club games, trying to keep up the momentum in league and in cup. The girls continue to remain on fire and head into the last week before the international break on a 5 game winning streak. You are looking forward to some time off, as you have been asked by the club to help run a girls camp. Being one of the more known players not linked to a national team you were excited to help out. 

When the roster announcements for the national teams started to come out you didn’t think anything of it, you never have had to. It wasn’t until you walked into your apartment to Ona lying face down on the couch not saying anything to you when you walk in. You think she’s asleep but when you move closer you realise she’s staring at her phone. 

“On you okay?” you ask as you step closer and crouch beside the couch where her face is turned. She turns her phone towards you and it takes you a second to clue into the roster announcement. “Oh shit. I’m sorry Ona” you tell her as you turn her phone screen off and put it on the table. 

“they left us all off the list” she says sadly. 

“It doesn’t mean anything, it means that you guys have made more a stink than you thought. They’re trying to make a statement back but it won’t work. You all won’t let it.” you tell her as you reach out and brush the tears off her cheeks. “Ona you are doing this to make the sport a better place for every young girl out there. You guys are heroes. you have seen the support you have gotten from players everywhere. This won’t last” 

“Maybe you’re right” she says as she sits up, you adjust to sit beside her as she says “No, you are right. I am not going to let this get me down. We still have a champions league to win, and this break will be good for me to rest up.” 

“exactly, that’s the right attitude.” you agree and before you can continue Ona’s phone rings with a zoom invite to join the other girls for a strategy session. “You have fun with that, say hi to everyone, I am going to make us dinner.”

When you head back into the kitchen you hear the girls on zoom, and you can hear your loves voice comforting the others and you are again reminded how amazing she is. Wanting her to know you shoot her a text “i love you Ale, you are amazing for standing strong for all of those girls, can’t wait until I can kiss your face.” 

Moments later you hear the team make fun of her for the blush on her cheeks as Ona yells out “Y/N, I am hungry stop texting Ale and make us dinner!” You laugh at her and continue on your way with dinner, only pausing to see the text from Ale says “I love you, call me when your in bed later babe.” 

**

During the international break, Ona had decided to hang around and help you with the camp for the young girls. You were happy she was going to stay around since you could keep an eye on her, but it would also be a quiet week without her around. The end of the first day of camp you were tired and lying on the couch gathering your strength to make dinner, Ona had decided to head over to one of the girls houses to watch movies but you had a face time date with Alexia. 

When your doorbell rings you groan and drag your self off the couch to answer the door. Not paying attention you open it as you ask “Mrs butler did you need sugar again?” your neighbour has knocked twice in a week for sugar. 

“Well I am not Mrs Butler but I can really use some sugar if it comes from you” the voice says and immediately you lock eyes with your love. 

“Ale, what are you doing here?” you ask her still standing staring at her. 

She steps closer without coming in as she says “Well I was hoping to get some sugar from my love, but she doesn’t look happy to see me?” 

Smiling you reach out and grab her shirt and pull her in as you say “get in here and get some sugar love.” Her hands settle low on your back as yours wind around her neck and you press your lips to hers. Every time you are reunited after being apart it feels like coming home, her taste, her touch, her smell, it completes your soul every single time. 

When you hear a door slam down the hall, you pull back and smile at her as you ask again “what are you doing here?” 

“well I suddenly had some free time and wanted to see you” she shrugs and leans in and connects your lips again. 

Pulling back you whisper “i love you”

“te amo mi amor” she says back as she presses her lips to your forehead. You reach around her and grab her bag and pull her and it into your apartment slamming the door behind you. 

She walks in and looks around and says “nice place babe. Want to take me on a tour?” 

You drop her bags and walk up to her, slowly unzip her jacket revealing the crop top you know she favours. Reaching up after its unzipped you push it down off her shoulders and down her arms as you say “maybe later” once her coat is on the floor you reach her waist band and slid your hands in and pull her towards your couch. You push her back and she sits starring up at you. 

“babe?” she asks as you step towards her and pull your top over your head, revealing your bare chest. You hated wearing bras when you were at home, this time being no different. 

The way you watch her eyes widen when you reveal your bare chest, and it fills your heart knowing you can still get this reaction out of her after being together all this time. stepping forward you place one leg on either side of hers on the couch as you straddle her and say “I’ve missed you Ale.”

“I’ve missed you too babe, and I have missed these two a lot too” she says as she brings her hands up to your breasts, and you cant take it anymore as you lean down and press your lips to hers. Once of her hands remain on your breast playing with your nipple as the other reaches down to slide under your waistband and settle on your ass. 

Moving one hand to the back of her head you bury it in her hair as the other settles on her breast over her shirt, she deepens the kiss and you feel her tongue tangle with yours and you cant help but let out a soft moan. It stirs her into action as he hand lowers into the front of your sweatpants and just as she reaches into your panties and slides her fingers through your wetness the door slams open. 

“Y/N? why is it so dark in here?” she says as she turns on the lights. You and Alexia only have  moment to move your hands back to safe places before Ona screeches and yells out “seriously! you have a bedroom!” as she spins back around. 

You laugh as you lean back and grab your shirt that was on the ground and pull it over your head as you say to Ona “were both wearing clothes now On, sorry about the show. I didn’t know she was coming so we got a bit carried away” you finish with a shrug. 

As Ona turns back around as you slide to sit beside Alexia as she says “Hola Ona, I figured I'd use the break to visit you guys and check out Manchester.” 

“We both know you came here for Y/N, but I will gladly help you find the best food places because Y/N has no taste.” she says with a laugh. 

“hey” you interject “if your going to stay with us you can’t team up on me thats not fair.” 

“life isn’t fair babe sorry” Alexia says with a laugh as she places a hand on your thigh and squeezes. 

Ona laughs and asks “are we going to order dinner? Leah only had that weird health stuff at movie night and I am hungry.” 

On cue your stomach growls causing you all to laugh as you say “I guess so, since my hunger wasn’t satiated earlier” 

Alexia laughs at Ona’s grossed out expression and she leans over and presses a kiss to your cheek as Ona says again “seriously get a room” 

You laugh at her as you ask “okay what are we ordering then?” 

When you finally get Alexia alone again later that night, after you are both spent and satiated from fulfilling your other hunger, albeit quietly since Ona was home, you are lying in your bed with Alexia curled up beside you. You are on your back and Alexia is on her side with her head resting on your shoulder, your arm under her head playing with her hair. She has a leg thrown over yours, and a hand tangled with yours on your stomach. 

You press a kiss to her forehead as you ask “can I ask you something ale?” 

She nods and says “Si mi amor” 

“How are you really doing?” you ask quietly against her head ending with another kiss to her forehead. 

You feel the deep breath she takes as she squeezes your hand and says “It’s hard, but I have to be strong for the others. You know I am not worried about not playing, I have won my awards, yeah I want an international trophy, but I don’t want to win it for a federation who treats us like this.” 

She turns slightly so she meet your eyes and you lean down and press a kiss to her nose as you say “you are amazing” 

Shaking her head she says “not if I end up ruining it for all the younger players, I hate that they are missing the opportunities they are for standing up, we should have left them out of it.” 

“hey, you wouldn’t have been able to keep any of them out of it, you are all doing this for a reason. To stand up for the next generation of female players love. You guys are role models.” You tell her as you lean down and press another kiss to her lips, pulling back you whisper against her lips “I am so proud of you love, and I am by your side every step of the way.” 

“I love you” she says back as she presses a kiss to your lips and settles back on your shoulder. a few moments go by and she says “I am so glad you have taken Ona in, I have always worried for her, but I am glad she has you” 

“she’s my hermanita” you tell her. 

She groans and says “no don’t, I am tired and you know you speaking Spanish gets me going.” 

You laugh quietly and press a kiss to her forehead and settle on your pillow with a whispered “buenas noches mi amor” she answers with a groan and presses a kiss to your chest under her chin, you fall asleep with a smile on your face. 

**

The three of you watched both Spanish games from your couch, neither of them going the way the federation thought they would. A 5-0 loss to England was embarrassing, but losing 3-1 Argentina was the icing on the cake of a bad international break for the team. Although hopefully this would light a fire under the federation and make them realise they need to get the players back on their side. 

The 10 days you had Alexia in your bed were the best nights sleep you have had in a long time, she just made you feel more complete. She also helped Ona a lot as they were able to talk about the struggles in person, and Alexia was able to comfort Ona better than you could when it came to this. 

When you were dropping her off at the airport you hated that she was leaving again but you both signed up for this, and you knew you would be seeing her soon. As you pull up to the gate you park and get out with her when she turns to you and says “I’m good from here babe, I really don’t want another scene in the airport” 

You laugh at meet her at the trunk as you tell her “I am going to miss you babe” 

“I am going to miss you too, I am already missing these two” she says as she grabs you in a hug and sneaks one hand to your chest and squeezes. 

You laugh and pull back from her and say “you are a dork and I love you so much” 

She smiles and press a deep kiss to your lips, you cant help but to smile against her lips, pulling back you say “I think we will be seeing each other soon anyway” 

“oh yeah? confident in your team?” she asks with a smirk.

You smirk back and with all the confidence you say “well we beat you didn’t we?” 

She laughs and says “yeah you cheated babe” 

“no way” 

“you did, playing the abs card wasn’t fair, but it won’t get me again” she says and she grabs her bags and settles them on the sidewalk. 

You close the trunk and step up beside her on the sidewalk and she wraps you in her arms. You wrap yours around her neck and bury your face in her neck. Its a few moments later that she places a kiss on your temple and whispers “I gotta go mi amor” 

You pull back and press your lips to hers one more time. Pulling back you whisper “I love you Alexia, kick Madrid’s ass so I can see you again sooner.” 

“Only if you kick PSGs love” she says back. 

“deal” you lean forward and seal it with a kiss. She pulls back and gathers her bags and turns to leave, turning back with a “I love you Y/N, Ill miss you” 

“Love you too” you say with a wave and watch her walk into the airport. 

**

You use the visit to fuel you, it helps to motivate you even more to want to win and be able to play Barcelona again. The upcoming game in Paris had a lot of hype around it, you had seen ads of it in the streets of Manchester and it made you excited to know that you had the city behind you. 

It was for nothing, the game was a snooze fest. Neither team played well, it ended up being a 0-0 draw, Mary came up huge and kept you in the game a few times. You didn’t know what it was, it was like the other team came out flat so your team matched it. It was not a game to be proud of. 

You tried to channel Alexia and get the team pumped up for the home leg, knowing it was the last chance you had to stay alive. In the middle of the champions league games you had a FA cup game against Tottenham to contend with. Deciding to light the fire under the team and focus on one game at a time, your team killed it. Took 60 minutes to get the first goal, but then the floodgates opened and you won 4-0 and moved on to the semis in the cup. 

Continuing the momentum was an easy way to encourage the team to dig deep and push through, knowing that the game was at Old Trafford and a Thursday evening game you knew it would be a wicked atmosphere. 

Waking up Thursday morning, you had an extra pep in your step. Barcelona had beaten Real the night before at Camp Nou and broke the attendance record, it was electric and you hoped your fans would bring it too. It also motivates you to know that winning this game would mean playing Barcelona again, and getting to see Alexia soon. 

The whole day leading up to the evening game was chill, Alexia was unreachable, you knew they would be analysing game film but you wished you could speak to her. Once you got to the stadium you were in the zone, until your phone buzzed with a good luck text from your love. You continued to pump the team up in warm up and through the team huddle, then you continued with the tradition of fist bumping everyone in line before taking your place behind Mary, who was just as fired up. 

Coming out flying you go up 1-0 in the first 15 minutes. The rest of the game remains a grind until the 86th minute, PSG are pressing for the equaliser. A beauty of a ball from Ashley Lawrence gets swung in and when Millie jumps to clear it she gets challenged and when she heads it clear it bounces of the PSG attackers head and goes right back into the net, flys too quickly on the redirect past a frozen Mary. 

You couldn’t believe the luck, that was easily a one in a million deflection and of course it happened at the end of a champions league quarter final game. Holding on until the final whistle you know extra time will be necessary. Walking over to your bench you grab your electrolyte bottle and take a minute to look at the fans who are supporting you behind the bench, when you meet the eyes of your love. 

She smiles and mouths “I love you, now go kick ass” and ends it by blowing you a kiss. You smile and feel the confidence in you reignite, and you turn and use it to pump up your team. Coming out flying you have chance after chance, you Ella hits the post twice, Alessia makes the goalie make a fingertip save. You just cannot buy a goal. 

When towards the end of the first half of extra time, Katie gets a ball off a rebound just out side of the box, she tees it up and before she can strike the ball, she gets taken out. Whistles are blown and a yellow card is produced. The trainers come over and check on Katie and have to take her to the side for treatment. She’s your normal free kick taker, so when Marc yells at you to take it you are surprised, but you know you can do it. 

You stand over the ball waiting for the refs whistle, and you close your eyes, you picture the training field back in Barcelona. You and Alexia and a bunch of balls, trading free kick goals for kisses. In your head when the ref blows the whistle you know exactly where this is going. Leading up to it you strike it and know its going in. 

The roar of the crowd and Ona hopping on your back is your indicator of the goal. You celebrate with the team, and when you head back to line up for kick off, you point behind the bench where you know Alexia is and press a kiss to your lips and point it back towards her. 

Your girls hold out and make it to the 120 minute mark and when that whistle blows the team is immediately celebrating. A few minutes later the team is winding down and you may your way toward your love. She’s moved to the bottom of the stands where you gesture for her to hop the barrier. 

As she moves towards you, you cant help but smile as you notice the united jersey she is wearing. When she gets close enough you pull her into your arms and tell her “I am so glad you are here” 

“I wouldn’t miss this for the world babe, that free kick was amazing.” she tells you and presses a kiss to your cheek. 

Never one to participate in PDA so publicly what you do next surprises you both as you pull her into you and press your lips to hers hard. She indulges you and when you pull back you tell her “Free kick goal equals a kiss right?” 

She laughs and presses her lips to yours again and when she pulls back she says “that one deserves two love” 

“I love you” you tell her, “and I love you in my jersey” 

She smiles at says “I won’t be wearing it again until after we play” 

Sticking your tongue out at her you tell her “It won’t last long when we get home, It’ll look better on the floor anyway” 

Her eyes darken and before she can say anything back Ona runs up and jumps on you both with a “amigas guess what!” 

“Hola Ona good game, you were a beast” Alexia tells Ona with a smile. 

You smile at them both and say “whats your news On?” 

Alexia steps up beside you and places her hand on your lower back as you both face Ona when she says “Jorge is out, the federation is cleaning house and we may be called back into the team!” 

#woso imagine #woso imagines #woso x reader #woso #Alexia Putellas #alexia putellas imagine #alexia putellas x reader #espwnt x reader

[kineticpenguin]

*glances at Facebook*

Okay. I guess I can see why you do that. Some of my friends were in the Navy, I live in a Navy town, and every politician always says stuff like this to show their support for the sainted Local Business. But who is this person, anyway?

Australia? I'd understand if it was a weird location error because I am in a port town in Washington, abbreviated WA, and Australia has Western Australia, also abbreviated WA. But this lady is from Sydney, NSW.

Now, at this point I was kinda tempted to make a snarky comment, because of a fun fact: Many of the Independence-class Littoral Combat Ships the US Navy bought were built by Austal USA, the American subsidiary of Austal, an Australian shipbuilder. Basically it's an Australian company with some local rebranding so the government trusts the foreigners enough with their sensitive tech.

The Littoral Combat Ships are... bad. REALLY BAD. So bad, in fact, that the US Navy is trying to get rid of them. Even if the imagined mission for them still existed, the ships all have the fundamental problem of falling apart at the seams. It has all been a big blunder, the Navy wants them gone, Congress doesn't because Soviet-style make-work projects are fine as long as they're for the military.

But, I gave her page a glance, and she seems okay, and technically, the Austal-built LCS were not, in fact, built in Australia. They were built in Mobile, Alabama. So just another day in the algorithm being weird.

If you've read this far, thanks for allowing me to waste your time.

[niuniente]

Hey Niu, while vaguely on topic, I was wondering something. As a kid (I’ve rarely dreamed these past few years), I’d have dreams when I’d slept that would show the exact moments I’ve lived… in the future. I would remember these dreams but forget about them with time, only to remember them when the events happen. Is that a spirituality thing? Or is it not even believable. My younger brother has been able to see figures outside at night that disappear when lightning flashes, and has told me he has had the dreams happen to him too, but very rarely. My dad has always been spiritually inclined, so we think that might be it, but we don’t talk about it just because it sounds sort of far-fetched to most people. -🐺

Yes, your dreams are normal and common. Nothing to worry about and can be titled as "spiritual", when pretty much it's just about how time actually is and exists.

When you read spiritual texts and experiences, especially near-death experiences, you'll soon become to see that time doesn't exist in linear way. We just experience it in a linear way. Time isn't solid either, as we know from Einstein's teachings that time speeds up if we speed up the objects movement, too.

In the spirit, in energy, all and everything happens at once; this life time, past life time, future life times. Thus, it is possible to "see" in the future, for example in a dream like you, because those things we deem as future things from our linear understanding of the time already occur. It's kind of like... the time already exists, but we haven't arrived there yet physically. This can be done in reversed, too, where you look into a past that has happened from our linear perspective but is happening in the non-linear perspective as we speak. I've heard one NDE person saying that when she was having her NDE, she realized that time doesn't exists and you can travel time back and forth, and also sideways! One other NDE experience was that when this woman crossed over as a young girl, she asked from her guide can she decide her next life already. The guide was a bit hesitant, saying that it doesn't normally go that way but OK, you can do that. This woman saw then a Japanese man waiting for a train in an early morning, heading to work. She said she knew that was her next life - and she was already living it!

This concept of time - or timelessness - is also present in remote viewing, this is USA army's project to militarize mediumship. Basically, they trained (and probably still do train) military psychics. There's lots of information of this out there, too, highly fascinating stuff :3 (and a bit hard to comprehend at times but limited things can't fully be explained nor understood with a limited mind and words).

So, what happened to you is that you peeked in a dream, when you are more in alignment with the spirit and energy, into your future that was occurring, and then you later arrived to it physically. Not everyone has these kind of experiences. I don't but my sister has had dreams where she has seen something which has then happened even 20 years later.

Seems that you're all a more or less sensitive to spirit realm and energies. That's OK! For your brother, let him known that many different spirits and creatures live outside in the nature, and most of them are harmless :3

#ask niu #spiritual

[monster42069]

sensitive subject & long post

***I am aware that surgical lobotomies are usually more severe in results and traumatizing in a diff way than psych malpractice, but at the end of the day— my frontal lobe was damaged by doctors that I had tried to escape from and begged for anyone to get me away from.

I don’t know anything about the woman with the lobotomy tools tattoo, but if she’s the type of crazy or deviant that has to worry about these things, I’d say the tattoo is only a bit insensitive or in bad taste due to how visible it is and anyone seeing it not having context as to why she has it. Otherwise why is it a problem? If I saw that, I would be uncomfortable, wary, and distance myself a bit more than automatically assume she thinks lobotomies are chic. I have no idea what her reason behind the tattoo was or if she’s part of a group that has real and understandable worry about this still in 2023 rather than “reclaiming” the misogyny of the 1900s. It’s a bit contradictory to say that it’s a real concern for multiple groups of people and then assume it’s not for someone else based on appearance alone— and it’s not too uncommon for someone part of a minority group to reclaim symbols, imagery, words, etc that are used as violence against them. It’s really not uncommon for anyone traumatized to reclaim imagery that’s related to their trauma. If someone told me I was jumping on a trend and using psych malpractice as a style and ignored my history with psychiatric abuse or that being a possibility that I maybe don’t want to talk about, I’d be pretty annoyed and hope to God that they have personal experience themselves and aren’t just speaking out of their asses to me from what they read in books or class.

But anyway, the last few sentences of that video are the takeaway people should probably consider more, imo. It’s not about one period in history, it’s not about helping patients, it’s not about anything but doctors and lawmakers playing God and trying to erase people and traits that they deem as too “high risk” or “deviant” for society. Hence targeted minorities being included in discussion who aren’t crazy. Sure, there have been doctors who referred patients for the lobotomy or performed it with good intentions, but grabbing at outliers to derail and ignore the blatant reality of how the USA psych institution works is….not cool but a common way people respond to me anytime I bring up the subject! Because someone has to stand up for the poor, poor psychiatrists!😢

Although the surgery was given a bad reputation and restrictions, do people seriously ignore all of the stories and concerns coming from mostly psychotic or “unpredictable” or “deviant” or “complicated” patients about the cups of medication and TMS/ECT being forced on us as children, teens, people who were unable to consent at the time, or adults given terrifying ultimatums and threats if we hadn’t “consented”? Oh, but believing crazy people is difficult, so how about the stories of kids who were hospitalized by good-intending and concerned parents who then meet their child for visitation hours and realize that something is wrong, and it turns out that their child was given heavy treatment that harmed their wellbeing without guardian knowledge or consent? And how many of those children have a disorder that causes psychosis or disruptive behavior?

All of those treatments, every pill on it’s own or in safe combos, TMS & ECT, and even ABA therapy can be used as a helpful tool in treatment. But they can also be used incorrectly with the same base motive as surgical lobotomies.

I was never the same after my second and third hospitalizations, and no one was surprised except for my new psychiatric nurse to find out a few years later that my frontal lobe had been damaged, most likely from psychotropic medications. He was mortified because he personally knew one of the doctors in my records and referred patients there. He was the first of a small handful of medical professionals that I’ve met who would actually turn their back on another doctor and be horrified and enraged for an LGBT, schizo, complicated, and unpredictable patient. I was 16 years old, and my appointment ended up going past the hours that they were open. Finally, when I had lost hope already, someone stopped typing and looked up at me when I mumbled something shitty about a past doctor. Instead of typing that I was easily agitated, aggressive, or overly pessimistic, he asked me why I called the doctor an explicit word then did what he could in his power to report it.

My psychologist also reported the same doctor 3 years later and I had legal reports filed against him, but I was still forced to be his patient again last year. If you don’t think the system is fucked up when a patient, the patient’s family, the patient’s ex-psychiatric nurse, the patients psychologist, and the patients current psychiatrist all have sent in faxes, emails, and calls to the local hospitals and crisis teams that someone should not be sent to the same hospital again for a long list of reasons that include criminal behavior and neglect…and the patient is still forced back to that hospital, back under that psychiatrist’s care….idek what to say because that sounds like a violation of rights and disregard for a patients wellbeing to me. It was in their system when I got there. The social worker immediately brought up the reports and forms and promised me nothing would go wrong this time. Lmao right. No offer of a different doctor. No offer to find me a bed in a different hospital. Just “I promise”. Because I’m insane, so who cares? They’re doing me a favor and saving my life! 🤩

No one listened to or believed me when I tried to tell them that I wasn’t scared of the pills as poison or anything paranoia related; I was afraid because I felt like I was losing parts of myself and couldn’t voice my thoughts or emotions about it; actually, my ability to speak was damaged enough to have me considered nonverbal for a while, and my movement was moreso uncontrollable spasms— I couldn’t do anything between the episodes of catatonia that was, of course, blamed on my Schizoaffective Diagnosis and seen as a reason to add more medications. I was 13 years old and on so many medications that my parents had to have my school nurse involved to call me out of class and take my midday 2 pill cups under supervision. And of course I was getting sicker.

It wasn’t until I was an adult and reached out to multiple specialists and psychiatrists to look at my pharmaceutical records and brain scans that I realized, watching their faces turn somber or grossed out as they went through it, when their tone changed and voice fell in volume to ask me to confirm hospital stays and names of providers that were in the system, “can you confirm an appointment with [psychiatrist] for TMS and medications?”. I finally accepted that I wasn’t crazy about it. They were gaslighting a child that they knew was already being gaslit at home. I knew what they were doing: They were trying to chemically lobotomize a child instead of helping me because I was too deviant and unlikeable; a transsexual and bisexual child who wasn’t growing out of the homosexuality despite therapy and had problems with authority, a history of long term abuse and family that normalized criminal behavior, complaints from family and school about disruptive behavior, and psychosis. A child like that is scary to society because they could grow up to be an actual transsexual who partakes in homosexuality, breaks the law, and could be a danger to others and thorn in the system’s side.

How a doctor can keep his license while viewing patients, especially children, that way is beyond me. But yeah, lobotomy isn’t something that went away that people, especially those at higher risk from doctor bias, aren’t worried about anymore or don’t have trauma with. “60 years old” maybe for reported, surgical lobotomies. But there are people younger than 18 to this day who have had parts of themselves damaged via psychiatric malpractice who don’t even know how to talk about it or to who. I don’t even understand what I lost in any way that I can put into words. I just know that I’m not the same person, and I know I lost a lot of people around then because they didn’t understand why it felt like they lost a friend/family member who was standing in the same room as them. I lost my future with school. I was further traumatized and distrustful and bitter. Every childhood disorder that I had was now a more severe, adult version that they didn’t know how to treat and overwhelmed them.

I’m traumatized. My family is traumatized from being a part of it. We already had trauma in the family from medical malpractice that lead to deaths, near deaths, permanent physical disability, and abuse of someone with an intellectual disability by hospital and school staff. I’m sure that played a role in why my parents took so long to get me psychiatrists and psychotherapy in the first place. It was painful. My family and the nurses had to pin me to the floor and force me to swallow then check my mouth with a flashlight and watch me for 30min because YEAH I wanted to throw it up or get it out of my system somehow. I felt like I was overdosing on diphenhydramine anytime they gave it to me, but they wouldn’t believe me. Thinking back and comparing it to an ER visit I’ve had, I wouldn’t be shocked to find out that I spent my middle school-high school years forced to live through mild serotonin syndrome. That and them giving me large amounts of benzodiazepines in middle school? My father’s psych encouraging them to cut his benzos in half and make me take them when I was in elementary school? Yeah, I fought back. That was basic survival instincts, not paranoia.

There isn’t anywhere to really talk about this because people immediately want to assume it’s anti-medication propaganda. They accuse people of being part of that whole “anti-conspiracy to numb everyone’s brain with psychotropic medications having to do with capitalism and state control” mentality. And that’s not what I’m talking about. And people’s lived experiences aren’t political tools unless they are specifically applying it to a political stance. Sometimes it’s just to vent about something more taboo that we’ve gone through that isn’t widely discussed or taken into account.

I think meditation is important and can be used in a way that saves or betters lives, but that doesn’t change the fact that putting heavier restrictions and medical stigma on lobotomies isn’t going to stop or change the motives of doctors who believe in permanently damaging the prefrontal cortex as a means of treatment, and they will find a way that doesn’t need any surgical tools if that’s the way they view patients. The current tools at their disposal are mainly medications, TMS, and ECT. If you use those with the intention to (fry) alter someone’s frontal lobe without consent and in a way that harms their quality of life but makes them easier for the system to deal with, that’s not too much different from attempting to do the same with surgical instruments. It’s bullshit to pretend that USA lobotomies ended when they stopped mass producing and buying the tools necessary for surgery. It’s bullshit to assume that the treatment modality stopped existing when one of the tools was taken away.

The problem with lobotomies is that it’s an entire treatment modality mindset. You can ban the Tx, but you still have doctors who were trained or allowed to view psychiatric treatment as a means to commit human rights violations and doctors who were trained under the men who performed lobotomies back in the mid 1900s. Until those doctors are held accountable, nothing will change. Lobotomies still exist both literally with metal and anesthesia and with medications used off-label, in harmful combos, at dangerous ages, and heavily. Then you have literal magnets and electricity still being applied in combination to medications.

#… #long post #lobotomy tw #psychiatric abuse tw #psychiatric malpractice tw #acquired brain injury #<- was never diagnosed but lookin @ my neurologists’ notes wellllll

[not-poignant]

Hi Pia. I've been searching for answers to this question and I hope you wouldn't mind if I tossed it at you too. Is it a bad idea to have two therapists? I have one now who has helped me but I feel like I need more than what she can offer. But she's still helping me which makes this a hard decision. I've raised my concern with her, and we've had a preliminary conversation about it but I'm struggle to identify what I should do next.

Hi anon,

I have two therapists, lol, and a psychiatrist, so I suppose you have your answer.

But I'd have these caveats:

1 - Make sure your therapist knows and is okay with you seeing another therapist, and vice versa. Keep everyone in the loop where possible. Any therapist who isn't comfortable with you working with two therapists who doesn't have a good reason (i.e. they think it might be too overwhelming for you) is not looking out for your best interests.

2 - Make sure you schedule sensitively. It's not healthy for most people to see two therapists once a week, or even sometimes once a fortnight. It will be important to give yourself time to 'live' between your sessions so that you can process what you're learning. Otherwise your life turns into therapy and you can actually get sicker as a result, because you never give yourself a chance to implement what you're learning. It's even more important to do this once you start seeing more than one mental healthcare provider.

As an example, I see one of my therapists every 4-6 weeks, and the other one every 3-5 weeks. My psychiatrist is in there but I only see her for about 30 minutes at a time. If you're seeing a therapist who is inflexible and only offers weekly sessions, they may not be the right fit for you if you want to go to more than one therapist.

3 - Think about whether you're actually ready to transition away from one therapist to a new one, so that there might be some overlap, but you may actually just be ready for a new therapist. If this therapist is still helping but 'not as much' - it may mean you're actually ready to move on to someone who has the skills to help you. Seeing a new therapist while seeing the old one and getting ready to let go, is different to actively working with two therapists at the same time. Most people think they need two therapists, but the reality is they're actually getting ready to transition away from one of their therapists, because they're moving on.

If you know this to be true, or realise it's true later, tell the first therapist so you can do proper wrap-up and review sessions together. :) They can be really helpful. (Also it saves money when you realise this, lol).

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Of the above, I'd say point 2 is the most significant. Scheduling is really important once you start seeing two therapists, and they also need to respect that you're doing hard emotional work with someone else, and that sometimes you may not be able to see them as much as their more 'regular' clients do. It is my understanding - particularly in the USA - that many therapists aren't actually very flexible on scheduling, and you'll have to be insistent.

Don't let anyone guilt trip you or pressure you into two different therapy sessions with two different therapists a week (for example) because 'it's for your own good.' Unless you are in active crisis (i.e. post or pre-hospitalisation, acutely psychotic, acutely manic, acutely suicidal etc.), it will almost always make you sicker in the long-run. You can absolutely have too much of a good thing, and a stable, secure and healthy therapist (and client) will recognise that.

Most people don't need two therapists, but that doesn't mean it doesn't happen in more complicated cases (and especially in cases related to minorities, many trans folk with a therapist eventually realise they need a therapist who understands about trans issues, and I realised personally I needed a second therapist who understood kink, polyamory and being queer). And in the case of 'I need a new therapist and I'm ready to let this one go, but I don't want to be without therapy until I'm established in new therapy' - having an overlap can be really helpful when you transition from one to the other.

I hope that helps!

#asks and answers #personal #i've had two therapists at different times in my life #sometimes it's just for consultation like with mika in Falling Falling Stars #but i've had two therapists for about 8 months now and it's been working out well #i think i am slowly getting to a place where i will transition away from one of my therapists #but she's still really helpful #and i know we have further to go together #just not as far as i used to think :)

[lifeanddreamsandhopes]

added info since last time:

some parents don't have problems about thier kids being transgender, but rather how society will have with their kids and body changing.

Interviewed 2 ppl:

1st person: trans man living in japan, started transitioning since high schools, currently still on T, from USA, having supportive parents, but still struggle to get accepted at work

advice: Knowledge and education is usually the first step towards progress. don’t want to have to be the one doing the educating all the time. And I don’t want to be out at work until it is a safe place, so I never want to be the one to bring it up. Workplace sensitivity training would be a good place to start.

2nd person: trans student MTF living in japan. has full support from parents but  still experiecing discriminations in school. there are still no regulations on that. teacher asked why are you a boy but dressing like that? do you think this is appropriate? 

3rd person, a muslim student studying here in japan, she’s ok with it, but people around her back in indonesia still believes that is a sin, and wrong because it is against the norm, and some of them even believe that you can cure it. a survet found 93% of indonesians are against LGBTQ. there are people fighting for lifestyle to be illegal. they believe nobody is born homosexual and there are only 2 genders. they think the situation with lgbt won’t ever change, it’s not about the laws, but more about customs. 

4th person: a japanese classmate: 2015 survey Dentsu data says 7.6% of japanese claims they are gay but most people haven’t even talked or have any friends who are gay.

japanese students never talk to anyone who is gay or never even bring up these kinds of topics.

things that can be changed or improved

For non binary people, they have to reintroduce themselves when they go into a new space, unlike straight cis gendered people where they don’t have to figure out if a space is safe before they introduce who they are

be an ally and have willingness to learn, having an open mind in order to learn new informations and to hear stories from member of the community. you don’t have to get it correct the first time. 

To create space, becase we are a marginalized gender, so we’ve often been left out of certain communities and certain spaces, so please create spaces for us.

people can be an ally by speaking up, they can do things as simple as including pronouns in their bio, speaking up for trans people, even sharing and posts and informations that is correct. 

changes in little things like putting sanitary towel bins in all the toilets or having gender neutral toilets can make a massive difference

want to have better legislation for gender queer people, make non-binary a legally recognised gender identity, more education, more awareness, starting from a young age, understanding what non-binary means, what transgender means, making children feel understood when they grow up,

Representations in media Misrepresentation and Stereotyping: Transgender individuals are often portrayed using stereotypes or as objects of ridicule. They may be depicted as confused, deceptive, or their gender identity may be sensationalized for entertainment purposes. Such portrayals contribute to misunderstanding and reinforce negative biases.

Lack of Authentic Transgender Representation: Authentic and diverse representation of transgender individuals is often lacking in mainstream Japanese media. This can perpetuate misconceptions, limit visibility, and hinder the understanding and acceptance of transgender experiences.

Sensationalism and Voyeurism: Some media outlets in Japan may sensationalize or exploit transgender stories for the sake of ratings or sensationalism. This can lead to the objectification and dehumanization of transgender individuals, further perpetuating transphobic attitudes.

Insensitive Language and Depiction: Transgender individuals may be subjected to derogatory language, misgendering, or insensitive portrayals in media. Such instances not only reinforce harmful stereotypes but also contribute to a hostile and discriminatory environment.

Limited Opportunities and Employment: Transgender individuals may face discrimination and limited opportunities for employment in the entertainment industry. This exclusion can contribute to their underrepresentation in media and hinder progress towards greater acceptance.

Politics: a lot of countries in asia don’t have laws that allow trans and non binary people to change their gender. 

Pakistan in 2009 became one of the first ever to legally recognise a third sex. Nepal in 2013 added a transgender category on citizenship certificates, which act as a national identity card.

In 2014, India’s Supreme Court recognised the existence of a third gender and since 2018 transgender people have been able to register to vote as a third gender in neighbouring Bangladesh.

according to the mainichi:  In japan, 90 percent of transgender job seekers have experienced problems with the highly structured process, such as the standard job-hunting "recruit suit" outfit and the gender box on applications

[mrs-tsunderemeitantei]

According to your theory on Bourbon and Haibara, I find it weird that Bourbon doesn't know anything about the past of Ai when she was in BO, don't forget that he was in BO long time ago, while Sherry at that time is still a kid and in USA for study at least. It is strange to me if he didn't investigate about her thoroughly at that time while on his mission. However, when they meet sooner or later, she will despise him even more when she discover that he is from PSB, and had intention to use her.

Heyy! Tbh, I don't think he was in the organisation any longer than she has. If we ignore the fact the she was born into the syndicate, I’d say they technically joined around the same time. He probably joined 5 years ago around the same time when Akai also joined. At the time, Shiho was 13 when she started working on the research and became Sherry. 

As for him not investigating her thoroughly, I believe he just didn’t have enough outlets to help him investigate her. Yes he knows she is Elena’s daughter and that’s not surprising. The BO has a database of all its members listing all their information. When Haibara first met Conan and they went to retrieve the disk that got mixed up in Akemi's holiday pictures, Conan got excited when Haibara told him the disk did not just have the drug's data, but also sensitive information about some BO members.

Another instant is when Gin told Pisco he can look up Shiho's data on the organisation's computer when they suspected she was going to Haido City Hotel. So I'm pretty sure Bourbon would have easily accessed the same database for his mission to capture her as per the organisation's demands.

By that logic, he’d have looked her up in the database to know what she looked like, her family, where she lived, etc. Butttt I don’t think he knew any more than that. Why? Well, I have a bunch of reasons why I think so, and it might get confusing but please bear with me 😂:

1. While in the organisation and after her escape, Shiho herself did not know anything about her family except for what she was told by the organisation, so how would Bourbon know anymore than her? It wasn't until she visited her father's childhood house and got the tapes that Akemi left for her when she learnt the truth about her family's past.

2. There aren’t a lot of people for him to provide him with information about Shiho (except maybe Gin and Vermouth). By nature, Shiho is reserved and was more of a loner (her sister was the only person she was close to). She barely interacted with anyone outside her department and when it comes to her lab-mates, I highly doubt they knew the pressures her parents endured before joining the syndicate.

3. When it comes to Gin and Shiho, we don’t know yet the extent of their relationship. And let’s assume they were romantically involved. I don’t think he’d know about her family’s past because she herself was oblivious to her parents’ past and Gin is not that good at remembering people who died anyway. And regardless, Gin and Bourbon don’t like each other. Gin even said he neither keeps tabs on Bourbon, nor does he like to share information with him. Also, since Shiho kept to herself in the organisation, it’s unlikely other members (including Bourbon) knew of her possible relationship with Gin. 

4. As for Vermouth, she seems to know the most about Shiho because of her mysterious link to the research and blatant hatred for Shiho and her parents. Now, there are two possible scenarios:

Vermouth knew the Miyanos' history before joining. She may have been kept in the loop to help with pressuring them so they could join. I'm basing this on her history with emotionally manipulating and tormenting people into doing things for the organisation (Itakura Saguru and the murderer who killed Fukuura Senzou in the off-season halloween party case are prime examples).

Eventually she clashed with them when they joined the organisation just like she clashed with Itakura Saguru later on.

The second (less likely situatuon imo), is she was unaware the organisation bullied them. She probably thought they willingly joined when they shouldn’t have, and she hates them because of their research.  

So, if Bourbon learnt from Vermouth that Shiho’s parents were forced to join the organisation, why was he still willing to hand Shiho back to the organisation? (I mean I don’t want to believe he’d stoop that low. Even if he had a plan to get her out later, I don’t think he’d risk exposing himself after handing her knowing she’ll only be killed or forced to complete the drug). And if the second scenario was true, it would explain why why he wanted to return Shiho to the organisation. But I don't think she told Bourbon anything and I'll explain why in a bit.

Based on all that, my theory is this: Vermouth played a part in getting Shiho’s parents to join the organisation. Later on, things didn’t go according to plan with the research so she began feeling animosity towards them. She never shared any of that with Bourbon because she didn’t want to risk him finding out about the drug’s de-ageing effects (he definitely doesn’t know otherwise he would have figured out Conan and Haibara's identities). And because he doesn't know the truth about her parents, he didn’t feel guilty about handing Shiho back to the organisation. 

5. Finally, when we look at Haibara talking about the White Dove pharmaceuticals, she suddenly became so knowledgeable about her parents' history when initially she knew nothing. She revealed all this information AFTER she got the tapes. That’s why I’m convinced it was Elena’s tapes that got her to know everything. Haibara probably also lied when she said it was her sister who told her. It is less likely for that to be the case because Akemi wouldn’t have been born to know what happened 30 or 25 years ago. And even if Elena spoke a little to Akemi about what happened, Akemi would have still been too young to understand. The only thing Akemi knew was the drug her parents were making was supposed to be a Silver Bullet of Justice.

So in conclusion, I feel the strongest pieces of evidence to prove Shiho and her parents were forced into that life would be the tapes and Vermouth. Rei never had access to the tapes nor does he know they exist. I’m guessing if he gets his hands on those tapes, they’d be a valuable lead that can help him link Vermouth to the Miyanos and somehow confirm everything.

I know this was reallly long and probably exhausting to read but I hope it made sense.

And yes, she will definitely despise Rei and she has every right to. Not just because he is PSB who planned on using her as a pawn, but  because of his relationship to her mother. I have a gut feeling Elena even mentioned him in her tapes (it is very likely since she too loved Rei) and once Shiho realises the boy from the tapes and Rei are the same person, it will leave her feeling gutted.

Again these are all just my theories and I could be very wrong but I can’t wait for everything to be revealed 🙌🏻

#dcmk #case closed #detective conan #ai haibara #haibara ai #miyano shiho #shiho miyano #amuro tooru #bourbon #furuya rei #rei furuya #gin #vermouth #elena miyano #miyano elena #akemi miyano #sherry #aptx-4869

[purpleradfeminista]

"Why is this kind of treatment never even CONSIDERED for a trans person?" cause dysphoria sufferers are considered non-responsive to talk therapy unlike BDD/anorexic patients who can enter remission. Maybe if you actually stepped out of the radfem bubble where y'all theorize out of your butts and did actual reading about older writings on transition you would know, duh. Read about John Money, Harry Benjamin, Magnus Hirshfield, Havelock Ellis, Virginia Prince, Lou Sullivan. If you truly care ofc

Ok sure I'll bite.

John Money: was a New Zealand psychologist, sexologist and author known for his research into sexual identity and biology of gender and his conduct towards vulnerable patients. [bolding mine] He was one of the first researchers to publish theories on the influence of societal constructs of gender on individual formation of gender identity. Money introduced the terms gender identity, gender role and sexual orientation and popularised the term paraphilia. He spent a considerable amount of his career in the USA.

Recent academic studies have criticized Money's work in many respects, particularly in regard to his involvement with the involuntary sex-reassignment of the child David Reimer, his forcing this child and his brother to simulate sex acts which Money photographed and the adult suicides of both brothers.

--I haven't read any of Money's work directly, but I have read the book that is about his patient victim David Reimer, who was surgically "turned into a girl" shortly after birth and used by Money to try and justify his opinions about gender reassignment. Reimer reports that "when living as Brenda, [he] did not identify as a girl. He was ostracized and bullied by peers (who dubbed him "cavewoman"), and neither frilly dresses nor female hormones made him feel female."

Harry Benjamin: seems to at least not have been a pedophile, and I suppose is best known for his treatment of Christine Jorgensen, but I find it significant that he only stepped in to help patients after other therapies had failed.

Magnus Hirshfield: I'm sort of puzzled as to why he's on your list, as his major body of work is about sex, and gay sex in particular, and his only contribution to what you're talking about appears to be some vague writing he did about "transvestitism".

Havelock Ellis: worth first noting that he was a eugenicist....but aside from that he appears to have been the first, or one of the first, to acknowledge that autogynephilia exists and is often a factor in the male desire to "transition".

"Aware of Hirschfeld's studies of transvestism, but disagreeing with his terminology, in 1913 Ellis proposed the term sexo-aesthetic inversion to describe the phenomenon. In 1920 he coined the term eonism, which he derived from the name of a historical figure, Chevalier d'Eon. Ellis explained:

On the psychic side, as I view it, the Eonist is embodying, in an extreme degree, the aesthetic attitude of imitation of, and identification with, the admired object. It is normal for a man to identify himself with the woman he loves. The Eonist carries that identification too far, stimulated by a sensitive and feminine element in himself which is associated with a rather defective virile sexuality on what may be a neurotic basis.

Ellis found eonism to be "a remarkably common anomaly", and "next in frequency to homosexuality among sexual deviations", and categorized it as "among the transitional or intermediate forms of sexuality". As in the Freudian tradition, Ellis postulated that a "too close attachment to the mother" may encourage eonism, but also considered that it "probably invokes some defective endocrine balance"."

Virginia Prince: I am honestly surprised that current TRAs even want to claim this person, as she seems to be like....completely saying the opposite of everything that TRAs claim to believe about their "gender identity".

"Prince helped popularize the term 'transgender', and erroneously asserted that she coined transgenderist and transgenderism, words which she meant to be understood as describing people who live as full-time women, but have no intention of having genital surgery. (bolding mine) Prince also consistently argued that transvestism is very firmly related to gender, as opposed to sex or sexuality.Her use of the term "femmiphile" related to the belief that the term "transvestite" had been corrupted, intending to underline the distinction between heterosexual crossdressers, who act because of their love of the feminine, and the homosexuals or transsexuals who may cross-dress. Although Prince identified with the concept of androgyny (stating in her autobiographical 100th issue that she could "…do [her] own thing whichever it is…"), she preferred to identify as Gynandrous. This, she explained, is because although 'Charles' still resides within her, "…the feminine is more important than the masculine." Prince's idea of a "true transvestite" was clearly distinguished from both the homosexual and the transsexual, claiming that true transvestites are "exclusively heterosexual... The transvestite values his male organs, enjoys using them and does not desire them removed." (bolding mine)

By the early 1970s, Prince and her approaches to crossdressing and transvestism were starting to gain criticism from transvestites and transsexuals, as well as sections of the gay and women's movements of the time. Controversy and criticism has arisen based on Prince's support for conventional societal norms such as marriage and the traditional family model, as well as the portrayal of traditional gender stereotypes. Her attempts to exclude transsexuals, homosexuals or fetishists from her normalization efforts of the practice of transvestism have also drawn much criticism.

Lou Sullivan: was an American author and activist known for his work on behalf of trans men. He was perhaps the first transgender man to publicly identify as gay, and is largely responsible for the modern understanding of sexual orientation and gender identity as distinct, unrelated concepts.

Sullivan was a pioneer of the grassroots female-to-male (FTM) movement and was instrumental in helping individuals obtain peer-support, counselling, endocrinological services and reconstructive surgery outside of gender dysphoria clinics. (bolding mine) He founded FTM International, one of the first organizations specifically for FTM individuals, and his activism and community work was a significant contributor to the rapid growth of the FTM community during the late 1980s.

From what I've read I don't know, it kind of sounds like Lou might have agreed with me that counselling should be a first step before handing out hormones like M&Ms. But unfortunately I can't ask him since he had the misfortune to decide to live as a gay man at the height of the AIDS epidemic.

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Ok I spent some time researching all those folks you mentioned. None of them seem to say, or have the opinion, that counselling is useless for people with gender dysphoria. So my question remains......why is it not considered as an option? You are telling me that it "doesn't work", but not one piece of the "research" you told me to do bears that out, and there is actually quite a LOT of research showing the reverse, that many folks who identify as transgender, especially young children, will eventually desist if supported with counselling but not given a social or physical transition. So. My question is still hanging out there. Thanks for providing me some interesting reading, however!

[anamarialujan]

My random thoughts about the episode

The good:

-The history of the soldiers.

-That poor mother, I really don't know if it's because I'm very sensitive or what, but I cried a lot. Actors and actresses always do so well that I can feel the pain in my chest with these stories.

-Seriously, sometimes I learn more with this series than with my ten years of history in college. I had no idea of ​​English atomic tests, I only knew those of the USA.

-I love everything that has to do with radiation (in the sense that I really like to read about its consequences and as something that was originally good was transformed into the worst).

-Patrick has a point, and Julienne too, so that complicates things and I LIKE THAT

-Trixie more confident every day, I love that her work is valued by everyone. She walked a very difficult road and she deserves the best.

-Phyllis counting the cakes that SMJ didn't want to eat 😂😂😂

-Millicent scolding Patrick, that was good! I enjoyed it a lot 🤭

-Shelagh is in the best version of her: 50% Shelagh + 50% Sister Bernadette. The perfect balance.

The bad:

-Shelagh is very skinny, I want her to come and eat at my house 💗

-The pink uniform, my god it's very ugly

-I still don't understand the reason for the fashion show in Nonnatus or why they want to change the habit. But I suppose it is because the new habit is the same as that used by some "nuns" in a very bad soap opera of my country, where they sang and had fleeting romances with priests.

-I understand that Patrick is angry, but that doesn't mean that he yells at Shelagh IN THE STREET or that he throws low blows at Julienne in situations where it is not necessary to do so (which is why I like that Millicent has scolded him) Calm down Patricio! 😈

-(I like to say Patricio when he does something that angers me)

-Sister Monica Joan doesn't have a crisis of faith, she is very depressed and what she needs is urgent help. Please!!!

-No kiss of course *insert face of resignation, sadness and hatred towards the damn covid*

-(Heidi you could have put more kisses in other seasons when this pandemic didn't exist!)

In short: I liked the episode a lot, if the whole season will be like this, then it will be a very good season, as we haven't had for a long time.

⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐

#my thoughts #call the midwife

[cornerstorebitch]

"i don't think anybody else should ever have the right to dictate your personal medical choices, for one. and there really are no other examples where this happens, even in life or death situations." abortion lol. euthanasia. if hospital loses signed dnr but has it charted they may still resuscitate knowing it goes against patient's will. inmates and psych patients have abnormally limited choices and will inevitably be lied to by doctors (and in both cases the patient may not hve internet access w which to do their own research). what is and isn't covered by insurance really pushes people to make certain choices too. (i'm thinking about in puerto rico when the usa was like 'oh these people should stop having babies' and instead of handing out condoms they subsidized female sterilization -- which is major abdominal surgery and 100x more dangerous than a vasectomy. going back another couple decades, tuskegee where they pretended not to know the cure for syphilis

idk how to say this in a sensitive way but also sometimes people are very poorly educated to the point where even if they're smart they don't have the knowledge base to do their own research. (i've heard doctors mocking a patient who got pregnant on the pill bc she didn't swallow it but instead inserted it. it makes sense in a way and clearly they didn't tell her how it's done.)

I don't really have a point, sorry. it seems bodily autonomy would be a basic human right implicit under right to liberty but this country has never thought so. (it avoided the blatant logical error by saying black people and women are sort of half humans so the rights are partial, which in the case of women has never been officially rectified.) what might be unprecedented about vaccine mandate is that it affects most classes though. but haven't we been on the slippery slope?

firstly, all the examples you explicitly listed are all things which are blatantly examples of civil rights violations or medical negligence. it's wrong for somebody's medical options to be limited by circumstances which do not affect their health. it's wrong to forcibly sterilize people, or to resuscitate them against their will. i understand that you're just pointing out that these things already happen... but so what? that doesn't make it moral, and if there's a legal precedent to be cited here (which there is, but thats a different lengthy paragraph) it isn't among those events.

secondly, abortion is the perfect example of exactly the situation i was describing, ie, being forced to receive medical intervention against your will. there is absolutely no circumstance that justifies forcing a woman to have an abortion against her will. there is no law that can force her, short of being declared legally incompetent. i would be very surprised to find that there was anybody trying to argue otherwise, politically or on tumblr. and that applies even if the fetus will certainly die, and giving birth will certainly kill the woman. the same can be said of euthanasia: outside of executions carried out by the state, i cannot imagine anybody ever arguing that there is a circumstance where somebody should be euthanized against their will.

i'll also say that the idea that some people just aren't smart enough to know what's good for them is entirely antithetical to democracy. it's people's right to make stupid choices and do things that are bad for them, because to operate under any other assumption allows for anybody to become somebody who just isn't smart enough to know whats good for them. doctors and lawyers are generally right. people who are educated on specific topics generally know what they are talking about. but i personally am thankful to live in a world where my doctor can't just decide they know whats best for me.

i guess in conclusion this is really an ethical debate that has very little to do with vaccine mandates in substance, just because there are not really any other examples of vaccine mandates in this fashion. but vaccines or abortions or DNRs, i don't believe anybody has or should have the right to decide what is to be done on and with your body without your consent, even when it's solely detrimental to an individuals health. there's more nuance with vaccine mandates than just that statement when it comes to school and work, but i don't think abandoning that basic principle helps anyone. and i think people need to get more comfortable defending the words and actions of people they don't necessarily agree with when those people are being wronged.

[hwaflms]

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Hi!!! I was wondering if I can get a ship for txt, nct, and ateez pls? I’ll really try not to make this long, but it’s hard sometimes lol.

Anyways, I’m an 18 year old 03’ liner and I’m 5’6. As for looks, I’m african american so i have dark skin, brown eyes and cinnamon colored hair. I cut my hair really short above my ears. I look rather young for my age (unfortunately). I’m rather slim and i have long legs and arms so people say I look even taller than what i am. I have large round eyes a big forehead, a button nose, and thick(ish) lips with round cheeks(ok now i understand why ppl think i’m vv young 🙄) But nowadays i’m more confident in myself and it’s no longer an insecurity of mine. I’d like to say i’m very stylish yet i can’t pick an aesthetic for the life of me.

To sum up my fav aesthetic/style, i would have to say something that’s dark but sophisticated. Like dark academia, but add a bit more of an alt/goth style to it. I like listening to visual kei and rock music, but to be honest, I love all music, even country some times.

I’m from the south of usa, so that has influenced how i am A LOT. I usually don’t have an accent, but whenever i feel a really strong emotion, I get a really strong southern accent and it’s kind of funny. I also tend to go outside without any shoes or socks. I like playing with my pets outside the most, I have two dogs (one is a rottweiler and one is a bull dog), my cat (just a black cat) and my bird. I love love love animals. I love everything to do with nature as well, i feel a deep connection with nature, and once, i even cried while watching bees pollinate flowers help lol.

My psychic said my aura was multiple shades of green, which i think it fits, seeing that green auras represented healers and earth lovers. My dad tends to call me a hippie lol. Astrology wise, I’m a leo sun, leo moon, and scorpio rising. My personality type is INFP-T. My friends say i’m quite funny, and they like to point out, “she’s really really smart, but like everyone, she has her dumb moments, but her dumb moments are the dumbest of the dumbest.”

I’m very sensitive, and not in the “i’m always crying way”. Yet, when i do cry, i tend to cry over the smallest of things, like the bee one. I cry over animals being cute, and I cry when i’m rlly rlly excited. Yet if i’m rlly sad, i can’t cry for some reason, and i’m just 😐. But, I try my hardest to comfort others and help others because there seriously is no other happiness in the world that makes me more happy than making others happy.

I like to talk a lot, as well (as you can see), and i’ll talk about every topic. I tend to talk most about child birth and genetics weirdly enough, it’s so interesting to me. But i also love to talk about astrology, space, and conspiracy theories. I’m highly spiritual. I’m also highly creative. I love drawing, singing, dancing, acting, all of that. Drawing has always been my strongest suit before i somehow got bored of it, but i still draw every once and a while.

I also like playing sports, as i’m naturally athletic. I did ballet, tap dance, gymnastics, track and field, cheerleading, soccer, and softball. (i think cheer is a sport and i’ll argue with anyone on that). I’ve lived in america, germany, and south korea, and i want to travel to so many more places as i grow older.

As for relationship stuff, I’ve never been in a relationship. I’m scared of boys to be honest. I was bullied in school a lot for being “ugly” and it was always by boys so i’ve never really had the best experience with them. I’m still trying to gain my confidence so that i could try dating.

My ideal type is someone smart (though i don’t hate himbos lmao), but i like someone smart and mature. I like someone who works hard, but not someone who’s too serious. With people, i like to have those love/hate relationships lol like we make fun of each other but we also have our soft moments. As for looks, i don’t rlly have an ideal type, yet there’s a couple things that i would go for. I like someone who’s taller than me, has bigger hands than me (mine are 18cm 😥), and has nice legs (i tend to like thicker legs, but i don’t discriminate). I do think smaller guys around my height are so cute too tho, like UGH I CANT CHOOSE.

My ideal date would probably be anything other than going to a restaurant. Maybe later on in the relationship that would be fine, but to be honest, i’m very awkward and shy at first, so it would just be weird. I find that doing something fun together really let’s you find out more about a person rather than just talking. So maybe an amusement park, or even doing an escape room together.

As for love languages, i’m not a very touchy person. Sometimes, i’m STARVING for a hug, but most of the time i don’t like to be touched. I think my love language is acts of service, and idk what’s it’s called, but just trying to find out abt someone. Someone would really know i like them when i ask for their whole zodiac chart, personality type, weekday of birth, everything.

Tbh, i’m very much like a tsundere. I don’t like showing affection very much, and i’d rather insult the ppl that i like than compliment them. Though, this is probably the reason ppl think i don’t like them when i first meet them. Sometimes i might get rlly mushy and cute and stuff, but most of the time, i’m just not used to showing affection, so i feel kinda uncomfy when i do.

Ok, that’s all, i really hope it wasn’t too much for you to read, i tend to get carried away ❤️ have a nice day ily

୨୧ 𓂃 : 🐇 :┊ i ship you with . . .

💌 — huening kai ♡ txt.

𖥻 the last thing a relationship with hyuka would be is boring. he gives off very "best friend who also happens to be your boyfriend" vibes, so there would be a lot off playing around and goofing off. he can be affectionate but also likes his space, like you, so you would be able to find a middle ground. he would like is your relationship was light and fun, teasing each other and making fun of each other. if you ever felt insecure, he would make you feel better in a less "let's talk about it" way and a more "ugh you're so silly, why would you think that when you're perfect??" way.

💌 — johnny ♡ nct.

𖥻 johnny is a chill and laid-back person, so conversation with him would come easy. there wouldn't be an awkward stage with him because johnny is a pretty smooth talker and he would make it easier for you to talk to him. johnny would NEVER make you feel insecure, if anything, he'd be the type of boyfriend who would be hyping you up all the time, even when you're doing absolutely nothing. johnny loves music too so, while he might make fun of you a lil for listening to country, he would love vibing to music with you. we all know johnny is mf hilarious, so he could definitely joke around with you and insult you playfully often ! plus johnny is a sexc tall boy and he has legs for days D:

💌 — hongjoong ♡ atz.

𖥻 hongjoong has the perfect balance of being mature and hardworking while also being playful. he knows how to take a joke and return the favour by teasing you, so i think in that aspect, you will have an easy-going relationship. he also will definitely be so supportive of you, and will be there for you whenever you need it. the kind of dates he would prefer would be more indoor ones, especially just in his studio !! he would show the amount of affection you're comfortable with, never pushing your boundaries or pressuring you.

♡ 𓄹 ࣪ ˖ i hope you like this !! and also, i just wanted to let you know that you are so so beautiful, okay, ilysm <3 boys suck, pls ignore them >:( thank you for sending this in, stay safe ^_^

#(-_- ) zZ ships ★!

[jjr1971]

I suppose this shouldn't surprise me but this particular anime title (and personal favorite show of mine) is really violently triggering a lot of online incels at the moment...the Japanese title is イジらないで、長瀞さん, Hepburn: Ijiranaide, Nagatoro-san; In English, it's known by the longer title Don't Toy with Me, Miss Nagatoro.  It's a new manga series (I'm current on it and have the next volume, #8, on pre-order when it releases in August) and it's basically a romantic comedy....it was even more recently picked up for an anime adaptation which is currently airing in Japan and streaming in the USA with subtitles on the Crunchyroll site/app.  I wouldn't be surprised if it gets picked up for an English dub & North American home video distribution eventually; it really is that good.

But it really is a very subtle show with complex emotions.  It's also kind of a role reversal story.  It's reminiscent of the earlier series Teasing Master Takagi-san (Japanese: からかい上手の高木さん, Hepburn: Karakai Jōzu no Takagi-san, lit. "Good at Teasing, Miss Takagi"), another romantic comedy set in Late Elementary/early Middle School...it features a very emotionally mature and smart girl who likes a boy but he hasn't matured at the same pace and still views her as a practical joker rival.  He's playing checkers and she's playing chess.  He keeps trying to one-up her and she easily parries him and makes him embarrassed.  But from the audience POV she's definitely flirting with him, he just can't perceive it. With Don't Toy with Me, Miss Nagatoro our characters are High Schoolers.  The main character (known only as "Senpai", a polite form of address for people older than you) is a shy, reclusive, sensitive artist type who wears glasses and keeps to himself.  He's a Junior in High School.  He's been the victim of actual bullies in the past (that we see via flashback) but just kept his head down and endured.  One day he's in the school library, trying to study and there's a group of first year girls socializing at a nearby table (Sophomores, technically.  Japanese High Schools have only grades 10-12; 9th graders are still in Middle School in Japan).  He resolves to just ignore them and try to study but clumsily knocks over his satchel, sending books & papers flying, including (*gasp*) the adventure/romance manga he's been drawing as a personal side project. The girls all look up, noticing the commotion.  One of the girls walks over to help pick up his things and to "Senpai's" horror notices the manga drawings and skims them.  The other girls leave but she stays behind and starts asking questions about the manga and its characters.  She begins to act out the scene he has drawn, playing the female protagonist.  She doesn't have a sword like the character so she does a karate kick and holds it.  He's kind of impressed but intimidated.  She critiques the story and offers suggestions.  She even teases him a little.  The next day she shows up in the Art Room, where "Senpai", who is a member of the Art Club, is working on a sketch drawing.  She's loud and obnoxious and resumes teasing him, getting on his nerves. She even follows him while he's walking home, laughing and teasing him playfully some more.  She claps his back a little too hard and sends him flying into the nearby canal.  But we can see from the regretful expression on her face she didn't mean to and feels bad about it.  And all the times she's around him and even when she's being very intense with her teasing, she's blushing red in the face the whole time.  She helps him out of the canal and apologizes and introduces herself.  He's tall and lanky and she's short & athletic and on the swim team.  She gazes up at him as she says her name syllable by syllable ("Na-Ga-To-Ro") and with one finger playfully traces the Kanji on his chest through his wet shirt, again with a playful look on her face and blushing. And so it goes for the next 7 volumes of the manga.  He tries to remain aloof & dignified, while she says loud & obnoxious but also playful and clearly the more emotionally immature of the two...so they're like a comedy duo of sorts.  He completely misreads her at first and has little fantasies predicting how she will be terrible next, but they never pan out.  He expects her to be obnoxious to other guys and terrorize them the way he feels a bit terrorized but....she doesn't.  To guys she doesn't like or have interest in, she's quite cold & cutting.  She reserves her "special treatment" only for her Senpai.   All this is a long introduction to make note that a lot of incels who are also into anime really REALLY don't understand this show....they complain bitterly that it "glorifies bullying" and reserve the most hateful language for Nagatoro herself, using all the usual hateful words for women (c-word, etc)...they really really hate her.  On the one hand, I would

love to see this series dubbed into English but on the other hand I feel bad for the online abuse any voice actress will inevitably suffer from lending her voice in English to this character someday.  A lot of these guys seemingly have a real issue separating fantasy from reality and will yell at voice actors when they're actually angry at the character they play.... Nagatoro does arguably cross the line into bullying territory initially, but like I said, she feels remorseful for pushing him into the canal.  Her friends are kind of dimwits and *are* themselves traditional bullies....but when THEY try to bully HER Senpai she gives them death stares and they back down.  She's very possessive of him.  In the manga especially, Nagatoro sometimes "gets out over her own skis" and winds up revealing her real feelings and getting embarrassed herself, overplaying her hand and getting little bits of come-uppance.  She sometimes blurts out her real desires then covers them up quickly with a dismissive joke....it's a little gas-lighty but I understand it's mainly a defense mechanism. What the incels who hate-watch this show can't conceive in their heads.....is that Nagatoro has genuine feelings for her Senpai.  She's not bullying him....she's flirting!  Aggressively and badly, sure, but it's not mean-spirited.  She even coyly suggests to him he should be bolder with her, she could make it worth his while.  In my past, I've dated a hyper-aggressive flirt who reminds me a lot of Nagatoro.  I just have a lot of empathy for both characters and wish them well.  Just like with the male protagonist Nishikata in Takagi-san the viewer feels like doing a loud "stage whisper" to him:  "psst!  she likes you, dummy."  There are a few moments here and there between the two of them that are so wholesome & sweet it makes me want to cry.  It's such a good show and it's so horribly misunderstood by a lot of very damaged people who are too blinded by their own misogyny and self-pity to see it. To sum up, Nagatoro wouldn't constantly hang around her Senpai and do the things she does if she didn't have genuine feelings for him....which she very plainly does. And by Ep.5 of the anime, it's clear he cares about her, too.

Anyway, I look forward to reading the next volume of the manga and finishing season 1 of the anime adaptation.  I would definitely watch it again if it gets an English dub release.

#don't toy with me miss nagatoro #ijiranaide nagatoro san #manga #anime #crunchyroll #romcom #high school #nerd #flirt

[hellomynameisbisexual]

Let’s talk about the B in LGBTQ. A recent CDC poll found that 5.5 percent of women and 2 percent of men aged 18-44 identify as bisexual, which is significantly higher than the percentage of women and men who identify as lesbian/gay (1.3 percent and 1.9 percent, respectively). Even many people who don’t identify as bi have swung both ways at least once: 17.4 percent of women and 6.3 percent of men age 18-44 surveyed have had some same-sex contact.

Yet we don’t hear all that much about bi rights. But bisexual people still face discrimination, often from unexpected sources. Here are just a few of them.

Mental Health Professionals

YouTube vlogger Connor Manning recounted an awful encounter with a therapist who told him that he isn’t really bisexual. Instead of offering him proper treatment, the therapist spent a half hour trying to convince him not to call himself bi.

About the incident, Connor says,

What if I was someone who was freshly questioning their sexuality? …For a lot of people, especially those seeking help for their mental health, these things are an issue and they’re confusing and scary. To have someone who’s supposed to be a resource I can trust, someone I can open up to, try and invalidate my identity was really deeply sad to me. I also talked to a few people about it after the fact and they told me that this is something that happens all the time, unfortunately.

Research confirms this. A 2007 study published by Columbia University Press found that more than a quarter of therapists assumed their bisexual clients needed therapy for their sexuality. About a sixth saw bisexuality as a symptom of mental illness. Seven percent of therapists in the study tried to convert their bisexual clients to heterosexuality; 4 percent tried to turn their bisexual clients gay or lesbian.

Unfortunately, the misconception that bisexuality isn’t a real, unique sexual identity is very common. It’s so common that bi rights activists have an expression for it: bi erasure. Bi erasure is pretty much what it sounds like: Insisting that bisexuality isn’t real and that bisexuals are “really” just confused straight or gay people.

Faith Cheltenham of BiNet USA says that bisexuality is often subsumed under ‘gay’, but in reality “being gay is as different from being straight as being bi is. It’s not being half straight, half gay… you’re going to have a completely different life cycle experience from your gay peers.”

A young bisexual person going through that unique life cycle might feel lonely and confused and seek a therapist for help. If that therapist just turns around and tries to suppress their sexuality, it’s devastating.

What’s especially alarming about this is the fact that bisexuals (especially bisexual women) suffer from mental health problems at a higher rate than the rest of the population. They need help more often, but they’re less likely to get it if they have to fight uphill just to have their sexuality acknowledged as real.

Immigration Officials

Since 1994, United States immigration policies have recognized persecution for LGBTQ status as grounds for asylum. However, it’s not always easy for bisexual people to gain asylum. In correspondence with Unicorn Booty, Apphia Kumar, a bi rights activist, wrote that Immigration officers aren’t properly trained to handle bisexual asylum seekers, and often don’t understand it. “They have the incorrect perception that bisexuality is a choice or can be hidden in the face of persecution or that our identities depend on the gender of our partners.”

Recently, the U.S. Court of Appeals for the 7th Circuit denied a bisexual Jamaican man asylum on the grounds that the man wasn’t “really” bisexual. Why not? Because he was married to a woman, even though he had dated men before and had been repeatedly assaulted for having sex with men.

Claiming that someone isn’t “really” bisexual because they’re currently an opposite-sex relationship is like claiming that someone isn’t really bilingual because they only speak one language at a time. It’s a ridiculous attitude based on broken logic. But immigration officials, even well-meaning ones, reinforce this misconception. Via email, Kumar noted that immigration lawyers often don’t understand bisexuality or they don’t consider it strong enough for an asylum claim, so “to increase the chances of someone getting asylum, they advise the asylum seeker to apply as gay or lesbian. This in fact increases the trauma of invisibility and doesn’t allow us to be our true selves in the long run.”

Their Partners

Bisexual people face a higher rate of intimate partner violence than straight or gay people. According to a 2010 survey by the CDC, a staggering 61 percent of bisexual women are raped, physically abused and/or stalked by an intimate partner during their lifetimes, compared to 44 percent of lesbians and 35 percent of heterosexual women.

Bisexual men face unusually high rates of domestic violence as well: The number is 37 percent of bisexual men, compared to 26 percent of gay men and 29 percent of heterosexual men. Interestingly, the majority of this violence is coming from an opposite-sex partner. Ninety percent of bisexual women report being abused only by a male partner, and 79 percent of bisexual men report being abused by female partners.

Why is the rate so high? LGBTQ-rights activists say it comes from cultural stereotypes that paint bisexual people as immoral and undependable. Queer activist Lola Davidson writes, “A big factor of violence towards bisexuals comes from the oversexualization of bisexuality in the media and pornography. Bisexuals are often portrayed as very promiscuous and morally-ambiguous, often cheating on their partners or threatening their identity in some way.”

Stephanie Farnsworth also believes that anti-bisexual domestic violence comes from insecurity and fear of infidelity. She writes, “Checking through messages, demanding that no alone time is spent with a person of any gender and isolating one from friends suddenly becomes the norm because bisexuality is still read as wanting to have sex with anyone and everyone even though this disregards the logic that no one would ever expect a heterosexual person to fancy everyone of a different gender to them.”

We can find an example in this in the allegedly abusive relationship between Johnny Depp and Amber Heard and the media’s trashy response to it. Gossip rags suggested that Depp’s violence stemmed from Heard’s bisexuality, that he was afraid she would cheat on him with a woman.

Sadly, when bisexuals are abused, they might not have anywhere to go for help. At a Bisexual Community Issues Roundtable at the White House, one bi survivor of intimate partner violence told a heartbreaking story about being rejected by a battered women’s shelter:

The shelter staff told me I didn’t belong there, that they only served women abused by male partners. They referred me to a new gay community anti-battering project. That group also turned me away, saying that I was bisexual, not gay, so they couldn’t help me. What I felt too angry and defeated to say back then was, “Why can’t services be designed with bisexuals in mind? If we design services sensitive to bisexuals, they end up being responsive to both heterosexual and gay people, too, don’t they?”

The Media

Unfortunately, the media does a lot to reinforce negative stereotypes about bisexuality.

On television and in film, bisexual characters are usually portrayed as schemers, manipulators, and hedonists. Depraved bisexuals are so common in fiction that they even have their own TV Tropes entry. Here are just a few well-known examples from the list of evil, unhinged, monstrous bisexual characters:

Obviously, it’s not inherently wrong to portray a bisexual character as a bad person. But it’s a problem when an overwhelming number of dramas associate bisexuality with evil.

That Depraved Bisexual trope mostly applies to male characters. Female bisexuality is often presented as a performance meant to titillate men, or a way for a woman to sow her wild oats before settling down and having a “real” relationship with a man. The Daily Beast writes:

It doesn’t take a rocket scientist to unpack the appeal of this falsified narrative of bisexuality. The concept of a bisexual or lesbian woman who needs to be “saved” from her own sexuality is essentially a revamping of the classic damsel in distress narrative, with the male character’s conquering masculinity cast in the role of hero. The character of the bisexual woman offers the potential for a killer combination of girl-on-girl action paired with the possibility of heterosexual redemption.

But it’s not all bad. We’ll always have Darryl, the goofy, paté-loving boss on Crazy Ex-Girlfriend.

Non-fiction isn’t much better than entertainment media. Bi erasure abounds here, as news publications and biographers have a hard time acknowledging that bisexuality even exists. Many real-life bisexuals, past and present, end up referred to as either straight or gay. When actress Amber Heard announced that she had a girlfriend at a GLAAD event in 2010, the press called her a lesbian.

When actress Anna Paquin discussed her marriage to actor Stephen Moyer, Larry King asked her some really clueless questions:

King: “Are you a non-practicing bisexual?”

Paquin: “Well, I am married to my husband and we are happily monogamously married.”

King: “But you were bisexual?”

Paquin: “Well, I don’t think it’s a past-tense thing.”

Larry King: “No?”

Larry King, syndicated talk show host, holds a weirdly common misconception that bisexuality means constantly having sex with men and women simultaneously.

The LGBTQ Community

The queer community treats bisexuals like a redheaded stepchild. Gays and lesbians often have the same negative attitude toward bisexuality that straight people do. A survey published in the The Journal of Bisexuality found that bisexual people receive only a little less discrimination from gays than they do from straights.

Bisexuals make up about half of the queer community and have always played a significant role in the LGBTQ rights movement, but they receive disproportionately little support in return. In Forty Years of LGBTQ Philanthropy: 1970-2010, Funders for LGBTQ Issues reports that bisexuals receive the least amount of funding out of all targeted LGBTQ sub-groups, less than 0.1 percent. Gay men received the most funding.

Back in 1999, Dan Savage told gay men not to get into relationships with bisexual men. Savage has softened toward bisexuals since then and insists he’s not biphobic, but in a more recent thinkpiece, he totally dismissed the concept of biphobia and suggested that bisexuals were to blame for discrimination against them because they weren’t out enough. Savage also wrote that it is “difficult for me to accept a bisexual teenage boy’s professed sexual identity at face value.” That’s not very different from clueless straight people who think that gay teens are just going through a phase. Coming out as bi is hard enough without getting shade from the people who are supposed to be your allies.

Bi people have to fight to make their voices heard in the queer rights movement. When they express their sexuality, they are often met with hostility. Bi activist RJ Aguiar says that when he wore his #StillBisexual shirt to the 2016 LA Pride Parade, he was “met with a lot of silent, sideways looks, and even the occasional remark like, ‘What are you doing here? This isn’t for you. Go home.’ “

Telling a bisexual person that they’re not welcome at an LGBTQ Pride Event is appalling. The queer community has to do better, and stop trying to chase the B out of LGBTQ.

#bi tumblr #bisexuality #support bisexuality #bi #lgbtq #bisexuality is valid #lgbtq pride #pride #bi pride #lgbtq community #support bisexual people #bisexual injustice #bisexual rights #bisexual community #bisexual education #bisexual nation #bisexual #bisexual representation #bi+ #bisexual activism #bisexual info #bisexual tips #bisexual facts #bisexual pride #biphopia #end biphobia #biphobic

[andypandi]

reasons why "mune: the guardian of the moon" is a masterpiece

the color palette

bruh, the colors are amazing. i love the contrast between the day and the night. in the places were the sun shines, the color temperature is higher and in the places were the moon is in the sky, the color temperature is lower. here's an example:

the colors of the characters are awesome too and they help you to deduce more or less their personalities.

mune is blue. everything in him is blue. his eyes, his hair, his skin, his lil' cute nose, e v e r y t h i n g. the color blue is associated with open spaces, freedom, intuition, imagination, expansiveness, inspiration, and sensitivity, according to bourncreative.com and this words describe perfectly mune's personality.

sohone's skin is a mix of orange tones, orange being a vibrant color that is hot, healthy and engaging, but it can be abrasive and crass. this things describe more or less his personality. his eyes are yellow and his hair is white, combining in a nice way with his skin color.

glim's color palette is kinda similar to sohone's, but her personality is totally different. she's enthusiastic, adventurous, full of determination and kinda optimistic, and her colors demonstrate that pretty well. but she's a waxling, and when she freezes her color palette changes drastically, everything in her turning white. now, the color white is associated with innocence, fragility, clarity, simplicity and brilliance and guess who has those traits too (*cough cough* it's glim *cough cough*)

the awesome plot

i will not start to describe every detail of the plot, because if you don't discover them all by yourself then you won't feel the magic of this movie :(( all i have to say it's that the creators had a lot of imagination and creativity.

the character development

oh boy, esto se está poniendo bueno xd. let's start with phospho, one of the most underrated characters.

phospho was a guardian of the moon long time ago, while necross was the guardian of the sun. in his "teen ages" he was selfish and coward, hiding behind a rock when necross (a traitor who wanted to keep the sun all by himself) and xolal had that titan fight. but after 700 years, when sohone has entered the underworld and was attacked by those manipulative weird-ass snakes, he sacrificed himself to save the new guardian of the sun, this demonstrating that he wanted to change and become a better person (creature??) btw he gives me a lot of ray (from "the princess and the frog") vibes.

the next character is ofc, mune, the protagonist. at the beginning of the movie he was a shy and indecisive cute guy that wasn't really sure that he's the right one for the "protecting the moon job" and his insecurities made him to lose control of the moon temple, messing up the normal course of the world. bit he decides to correct his mistakes and goes in the underworld with sohone to help him to bring the sun again. in this lil' trip our baby blue satyr demonstrates that he's not a crybaby and that he's powerful too :"3

now, let's talk about sohone. i really dislike him (just look at him, he's a creature-like version of gaston from "beauty and the beast" lmao), but i can't ignore his character development. at first, he's a f*cking prick that is only interested in his good looks, his important position as a guardian of the sun and in succeeding in flirting with girls. when he meets glim he's fascinated by her, but when she starts to say that he's going the wrong way to the underworld bc that's what the ancient books say, he starts to throw sexist words to glim and his attitude towards her changes drastically. b*tch, if you don't like to read books, don't judge the others who like to read and accept their opinions too, it won't hurt. and how could i forget how mean was to mune too? (rn, while searching more about this movie, i saw that there are people who ship mune and sohone 😳 wtf is wrong with you??) but, in the end, he redeems himself in a way or another, stops subestimating mune and glim and becomes a little more aware of his actions.

the animation

the animation, for a non-disney movie that was published in 2014 in a country that isn't USA or Japan it's f*cking amazing! the details in the skin, the hair, the plants, the fur and the sky are so well done that i could even have the guts to say that it's the same as in frozen 2 whOoPs-

the transition from the real world to the dream world

the whole thing with the dream world is absolutely amazing. not just the idea of it, but how it was integrated into the movie. the creators had the awesome thought to change the animation style when the plot was performed in the dream world, into a "sketchy" one, with basic colors and without pompous shades and stuff. this thing was made so well, that everyone who watches the movie can understand the difference between the two worlds. even if the drawings are more sketchy and basic, the animation is still pretty smooth and really pleasant to look at.

the soundtrack

omaigash tHe sOuNdTrAcK 7u7 i really simp the composers of this marvelous songs that fit so well with the animation and the plot. the background music literally floods you in a pleasant atmosphere. this makes me go so emotional, because i haven't seen in a long time a movie were the soundtrack is this good that makes you feel like you're a part of the fictional world :"3

the message of the movie

first of all, it's a movie made for little kids, so it's pretty logical that the message is a simple one, bUt that doesn't mean that a teenager or an adult can't learn from it too. as we can see, at first, mune was really insecure about his worth and powers and he felt unworthy of the honor of being a guardian of the moon. but after a little 💫adventure💫 he learned that he's powerful and that HE CAN DO IT. so, please, don't subestimate yourselves, you're strong and awesome <3 and be ambitious too, if you aren't ambitious you can't succeed in life. so go and reach your dreams, you deserve it uwuwuwu

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Due to recent events, I am changing this rule. It’s hard for me to receive messages unexpectedly, and I hate to imply that I’ll be able to get to these quicker because it isn’t the truth. Quicker, better responses come from the inbox. However, there have been too many incidents lately in which people needed to speak privately and had to make that a request. If you’re having a problem and need to vent, request sensitive advice, etc.? It’s alright, go ahead and drop me a PM, y’all. I’ll get back to you as soon as I am able. Please, do not be angry with me if I respond to inbox things or my queue is running! You’re important to me, I just might not have the requisite social cognition and energy you deserve at that time.

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About Vespertine

You can call me that, Vespertine. I’d rather you didn’t go with Vesper, but as it is unfortunately so likely to happen, I won’t feed you to the dogs over it either. RPB Mun is also acceptable.

I’m alright with either she/her or he/him, they/them is also fine. Apparently, that was big enough clue-in for the poor reading comp crowd, so while I feel it is not of importance, I’m nonbinary, yes.

Late 30′s, chronically ill but still working adult with neurodivergence. I’m both busy and Busy, and always sick. This limits my brain power and ability to be here. I have an active RP blog that I won’t be sharing to keep responsible distance. That is always going to be my priority, it is my primary hobby.

Please, don’t tumblr message me totally random things if we don’t have that kind of relationship! I’m too ill and busy, and it really fucks my nerves to have a bunch of messages/have to suddenly interact socially with people. Don’t do it. Use my inbox, use the submit, comment on posts. I cannot do random messages of “hey” and so forth.

I only do written RP, don’t expect me to understand much of anything from tabletop. I’ve RPed for the last 23 years consistently, on every platform from AOL chats to forums to messengers and here. I also don’t do RP in discord, so I’m sorry, but I can’t advise you much on anything with a word count, except to stop it for serious RP. Other than that, I promise you that I’ve seen the trends, the drama, the fandoms. I can give a lot of advice and perspective on a wide range of topics, situations, and characters! When I don’t have a clue at all, I’ll try to do enough research to give you an answer.

Do I come off as a horrible, strict asshole? I do! I’m not going to say that I am just a shy bean who is more scared of you than you are me. I’m not. I’m honestly feral, but have common decency, compassion, and sense. All of which are lacking in the general RPC. So, if you can inbox/common/otherwise interact with anyone else on this site, you can totally handle me!

Honesty and openness are policies.

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