#like romantic relationships are way too prioritized idk

[girlvinland]

Idk if this is silly, but when I see people in their early twenties who are desperate to find their “person” and “start their life” in that way I just want to shake them and be like oooomg shut up you have so much fucking time and please enjoy every moment you can have for yourself without another person even in the picture. Please just learn about yourself without enmeshing yourself with someone else and make yourself the biggest priority of all!! There is way too much emphasis on needing to quickly find “the one” (which is a stupid concept anyway when there are 8 billion fucking people on the planet and people who could love you are everywhere) and I hate how it’s like societally ingrained in us.

#by bug #I can’t believe I felt like that too like we’re all so fucking stupid imo #I would give so much to have most of my twenties back as a single person and I mean that fully #like romantic relationships are way too prioritized idk #I realize we all gotta make weird decisions tho so we can learn from them later #this isn’t about any one person or vagueposting btw I just kept seeing posts like that on reddit and lex and was like cmon #you’re 22 you’re like an infant taking its first steps into the world #I think back to me then and I was so clueless and naive and baby compared to now #I wish I could go back and tell myself to not tangle my roots with another person until I really knew myself more #and to take my time with basically everything so I could explore every option

[glimblshanks]

I understand wanting to ship the lower decks characters (I enjoy shipping the lower decks characters) but also McMahan is very clearly trying to write romantic friendships with the WC4 and I wish more fans could recognize that and just enjoy it for what it is

#venting #idk maybe it's just that my other main fandom is mostly aspec people #but as much as I enjoy Lower Decks and its fandom for the most part #I feel like I've experienced a lot more uh ... casual arophobia in this fandom than in others #and it's mostly through people insisting that certain ships need to be canon #and that certain actions in the show couldn't possibly be read as platonic #it honestly makes shipping less fun for me :/ #like I love the relationships in lower decks because they are so much like my own relationships as an aro #it's so nice to see committed friendships that are prioritized above the romantic relationships the characters get into #and even though I enjoy shipping some of the characters romantically #honestly any of the WC4 getting together would really ruin that aspect of the show for me #I don't think McMahan is aro #but he writes relationships in a very aro way #and I appreciate him for that! #like I understand that some people want certain ships to be canon #but I think harping on that too much really takes away from how unique and meaningful his way of writing relationships is already #and it really kind of sucks to see relationships I strongly relate to #critiqued as being poorly written or 'bating the audience' just because they're not romantic

[musical-chick-13]

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#idk it's just really frustrating to think that people will ALWAYS make allowances for people they're romantically in love with but #not make those same allowances for someone else they otherwise care about. #that people will risk things for their partners that they wouldn't for their friends #that it's EXPECTED for you to prioritize your spouse/significant other/etc. at all times but prioritizing your friend(s) is rarely even #considered. and when you're like me and you LITERALLY CANNOT DO THIS SHIT BY YOURSELF... #like I know I go on and on about marrying some theoretical woman all the time (and my ongoing...whatever this is. with Musician Guy) #but genuinely I'm not even sure that I want that I think I just want someone who will fucking visit me in the hospital if I get into a car #crash or fix me soup when I'm sick. #like...yeah. in that one story I wrote I think I distilled it down: we all just want someone to hold us when we're sad #and it SUCKS that the only avenue we seem to be allowed to pursue that is through a romantic relationship #right now I have my dad but if something happens to him...I genuinely do not know what I'm going to do. I'll have nowhere to go #if something terrible happens. I'll have no one to help me be a person. and I just. like I really am going to just have to power through #the next 60 years on this fucking planet alone and by god I'll fucking do it but I wish I didn't have to!!!! #and I think this was why the loss of Her™ friendship (which was necessary. for both of us) was so acutely painful. because even after #she got married she WAS willing to prioritize me when things got bad enough. she DID genuinely care about me in a way I don't think #anyone ever has. and I just really don't think I'll ever find that ever again. and I can't go back and I don't WANT to be with her anymore #but it was this time of the year when she told me she was getting married way back when and my brain has kept that like the World's Worst #Anniversary and all of those terrible ugly feelings are coming back in full force and I HATE that I'm still unpacking this I. HATE. that #this not-even-relationship is STILL doing this to me #WHAT THE FUCK!!! IS UP WITH THAT!!!!!! #*sigh* okay for REAL I am logging off right now because I've already said Too Many Embarrassing Personal Things about myself today #and I do not want to put myself in a position to say anymore! #In the Vents #GOD this is so stupid IT'S NOT LIKE SOMEBODY DIED WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS

[flowerinjuries]

Heyoo, can you do yuta as bf just like the one you did for Mark?

yuta as a boyfriend <3

the soft side:

oh this guy was crushing on you so hard before you two started actually dating

to him it was like love at first sight

did not hesitate to be a flirt

i’m sure he asked you out in a cheesy romantic way with flowers and a huge grin on his face

at the start of the relationship he’s just really giggly and soft

holds doors open for you

he likes to take candid pics of you because you’re just so cute

he just wants to remember the small moments spent with you

he definitely shows you off

loves seeing you wear something sexy and acting confident when you two go out

such a laid back boyfriend

he knows you’re his so he doesn’t really get jealous besides you both know no one can fuck you better than yuta

anyways you definitely love bragging about him to your friends

they all agree he’s so good to you and makes you so happy

yuta is lowkey a romantic

loves doing traditional things like holding your hand and paying for you

he’s also like your personal chauffeur

loves to go on long destination-less drives with you

especially at sundown and nighttime

you know his hand is gripping your thigh as you sit in his passenger seat

this man glances over at you 24/7 just to soak in and memorize your beauty

like i said he’s really laid back

you two will have dates where you just sit on the couch listening to a new album or watching a scary movie so he can hold you when you’re scared even though he also is scared

he gets so excited when you ask him personal questions or show interest in him

he just adores your attention and loves spending time with you

has all sorts of nicknames for you like baby, angel, sweetheart, dolly.. the list goes on

he’s so fragile with you and your feelings

wipes your tears away and coddles you

he always has your back and is never afraid to stand up for you

he’s your personal hype man so he’s always cheering you on and always takes your side

loves to smother you with his hugs

you act like you’re annoyed or you can’t breathe but in reality being this close to him gives you an excuse to really take in his warmth and his amazing scent

idk why but i just know this man smells so fucking good ok

that’s why you never sleep on your own side of the bed

you just have to be as close to yuta as possible

he doesn’t mind though, he always welcomes you with open arms

he’s so cute when he’s all sleepy

random thought but i think yuta definitely wears a necklace with your name or initial on it

needs the whole world to know you’re his

and he’s just so confident too

especially since you two started dating

you definitely gave him an ego boost

i could go on and on but i feel like this is getting too long…

overall yuta is the sweetest most perfect boyfriend who you just get along with so well

all he does is uplift you and push you to do your best and be proud of who you are

yeah he’s perfect

the not-so-soft side (nsfw/18+):

a fucking sex god

the definition of brat tamer

no you’re never gonna dom this man

maybe he’ll let you, but it won’t last long

he’s super freaky and super down to try anything you want to

first and foremost he prioritizes your safety and comfort

don’t forget your safe word

ok yuta has a lot of kinks

did i mention he’s a brat tamer?

don’t you dare piss him off

piss him off anyway though because then you’ll have the best sex of your life lol

he’s sadistic and loves angry sex

i said he’s not jealous, but when he’s fucking you he is sooooo possessive

“scream my name again, yeah? remind everyone who fucking owns you”

“you think he could ever fuck you as good as me? huh? do you? what a good fucking joke, y/n. let’s see who will be laughing when i fuck you so hard you can’t even make a noise other than the sound of my name leaving your dry, fucked-out throat”

yeahhhhhhh

he probably fingers you with his cold silver rings still on

he likes when you tug on his hair, but he likes it more when he’s pinning your wrists down

likes it when you really can’t move :(

so that’s why he’s super into bondage

has cute pink rope he ties around your skin so tight it bruises

gags you with your own panties

after he has a taste of course

yuta gets what he wants first

loves to fuck you with his tongue

you ride his face while your hands are tied either behind your back or handcuffed to the bed

ok that’s enough

he wants to fuck your throat

“god stop fucking crying over this. how’s it gonna be once i finally fuck your sopping wet hole? what are you gonna do then? such a fucking cry baby. you can barely take what i’m giving you now, so why should i give you more?”

smacks your ass until it’s red

grips the back of your neck and forces your face into the mattress so he hears your muffled screams

just imagine him fucking into you at a really hard and fast pace as the cold necklace with your name on it hits his chest back and forth

if only you could see it though ;)

he grunts really loudly

he has such a filthy mouth

he just gets angry when his baby is bratty

someone has to put you in your place

warns you to never make him angry again after he cums all over you

you give him a look with your wet puppy eyes that promise that you’ll be good

but you both know you’re gonna act up again

yuta is the king of aftercare

cleans you up with warm towels and runs you a bubble bath

washes your hair and body for you as your body goes limp in the tub

kisses your cheeks

maybe gives you a massage too

dresses you in your pjs

combs your hair and sings you to sleep softly as you two face each other

yuta is perfect

crying

thanks for reading! as always, asks are open! don’t hesitate to send me any thoughts you have :)

#nct au #nct fanfic #nct 127 smut #nct smut #yuta smut #nakamoto yuta smut #yuta fluff #yuta x reader #nakamoto yuta x reader #nct yuta smut #nct x reader #yuta imagines #nct imagines #nct scenarios #yuta scenarios

[vasyandii]

🦋: How long did it take them to get out of the awkward early relationship stage? Have they gotten more confident around each other?

💔: Do they have any previous relationship experience from past partners? How does it reflect on how they handle their current one?

🕊️: Give just a general domestic tidbit for em (things they like about each other, routines, habits, and just overall sweet stuff)

For Krueger and Nak!

Great to see you again One horned beast!!The Ask Game

🦋How long did it take to get out of the awkward early relationship stage? Have they gotten more confident around each other?

Honestly? A week. It would've been shorter if they went official off the bat.

Nak didn't know how to respond to romantic affection. Her confusion with where they stood on their relationship (at the time unlabeled) was also a factor. Krueger is more laid back, he just did whatever felt right, and wanted to prioritize just having her comfortable with him in that way. (Idk if that makes sense)

They're more comfortable around each other now than they are when they started going out.

💔 Do they have any previous relationship experience from past partners? How does it reflect on how they handle their current one?

Nak? None. Krueger's her only relationship experience LMAO what a loser /j . She didn't really have crushes or interest in anyone but herself back in Laos. The couples she saw around during her time in the LPAF gave her insight in how a good and bad relationship is supposed to be (basically living vicariously lol). So when she started being in a relationship with Krueger, she mimicked what she saw in the past before she found her own pace.

Krueger has had a few relationships in the past, but mostly preferred to stay single for longer periods of time. He didn't like how people would change the moment there was romantic feelings involved, and expectations of just having to be "the stoic mysterious lover thats closed off" irked him. With Phayvanh he didn't want that; he wants to be able to be silly around her in the way they usually are, she's one of his best friends. Luckily it came easy with her, their pace was similar in practice :3

🕊️ Give just a general domestic tidbit for em (things they like about each other, routines, habits, and just overall sweet stuff)

I already Answered this in the last ask but I'm gonna do it again in more detail >:D !! I Love these!!

If Nak has a broken arm, Krueger ties her hair up for her, sometimes he switches up the ponytail to have it be braids or a half up half down type of thing. (It takes everything in him to not give her the most atrocious hairstyle)

The way they drink tea is so vastly different. Nak drinks hers with nothing while Krueger puts too much sugar in his

Just Admiring each other's tattoos idk they're dumb. Nak is fond of the one on his stomach, but makes fun of the one on his back (the wolf one). Krueger just idly traces the designs of Nak's tattoos on her back with his fingers.

Just??? One randomly smacks the others ass HARD and runs off so the other chases after them?? Weirdos. (Nak is guilty of this)

This interaction:

"Phayvanh it's 8 in the morning."

"What about it."

"Put on a shirt."

"Put on some pants."

"You're flashing me."

"You're flashing me!"

Then they watched TV.

Thank you for reading :D it's been a while since I've done stuff explaining their dynamics so hopefully it's ok ;u;

#call of duty #call of duty modern warfare #call of duty oc #call of duty original character #cod oc #art #digital art #cod mw oc #artwork #phayvanh nak sotsvahn #kruegernak #original character #krueger cod #cod krueger #sebastian krueger #cod nak #oc x canon

[qprstobin]

I'm getting really tired of all these posts complaining about stobin being too codependent and unhealthy. Not because i don't think that sometimes they are written as too codependent, but because the posts always seem to be because some of us write them as ya know, being each other's most important person and making life decisions together.

I'm an arospec person who views and writes stobin as a Queer Platonic Relationship. I really don't appreciate people claiming I and others who see them the same way are making them too "codependent" by writing them doing things together that would be considered normal and sweet if it was a romantic relationship.

Part of it is that qprs are actual relationships! That's literally what a qpr is, it is having a committed relationship with someone platonically, to the extent you might live together, make life decisions together, etc. You can still date outside of that ofc if you are inclined to romance and it's agreed upon, just like any other relationship, but it is just that! A relationship!

Another part of it is that in my experience, despite all the fandom jokes about them, a majority of fic only really has their friendship included as a way to prop up one of their individual storylines, or they are there to be a wingman. It is basically impossible to filter fics in a way to find anything friendship centric for them. Ive also closed out of so many fics because writers will fuck up their friendship just so one of the characters has a reason to spend time with their love interest.

So rarely do you see canon friendships that genuinely read like they could be qprs, that it makes these posts even more frustrating. They canonically spend so much time together, and are clearly very committed to each other.

Like are some of the jokes too far? Yeah that's fair, they can get a bit ridiculous. Are some of the HCS genuinely a bit unhealthy at times, even thru a QPR lens, and taking into account their trauma? Probably yes! But so are plenty of headcanons about their main romantic ships too.

It doesn't help that its honestly hard to engage with any actual posts about how the genuinely codependent jokes go too far, because so many posts with genuine complaints end up coming across as almost arophobic.

Idk, I'm just tired of being smacked in the face with posts about things being "unhealthy" because I am not prioritizing the romantic relationships over a platonic one.

#stobin #platonic stobin #fandom wank #i deleted so many specific mentions of posts ive seen the past few weeks or of specific ship tropes #in part bc this isnt like a me hating on shipping thing when i ship them both with multiple people #but like some of these posts sound so snide #like kudos to stobin peeps who can engage with only the parts of the post they agree eith but i cannot lol #not with st like this #qpr stobin #platonic with a capital p

[captain-hen]

will you write that essay about the symbolism of eddie holding buck's hand while he was trapped under the ladder truck? Pretty please?

okay well i can't promise this will be coherent but. let me try.

there are two aspects to this. i've talked about the first one a bit before, but i'll mention it again because i'm kinda obsessed with it—because. look. i always maintain that while writing a romantic dynamic, it's important that both characters involved have a significant, undeniable impact on each other (whether it's positive or negative). and this is a pretty good example of buck's impact on eddie—or rather, the impact of their relationship with each other on eddie. because, eddie has been established from the start as a character who manages to keep calm under pressure, who always manages to follow protocol and respect the chain of command, who keeps cool and does the rational, logical thing in an emergency at all times. this is, as we find over the course of the show, due in part to his upbringing and military training.

it's with buck we see this extremely fundamental aspect of his character fly out of the window, though. eddie defaults to holding buck's hand instead of helping lift the truck with the others, even though he's probably one of the physically strongest on the scene. he trusted chris, his son, his heart and soul, unconditionally with buck within a year of knowing him. he put buck in his will as christopher's legal guardian despite buck facing the same amount of danger that he does—eddie's actions here especially make no logical sense, adding in the fact that he doesn't even tell buck about this for an entire year. and when the lightning strike happens—whew. eddie ran up that ladder in the pouring rain, after being struck and knocked to the ground himself, without a harness, tried to pull buck towards him even though he had to know it was physically impossible and screamed himself hoarse trying to reach buck. and all of this is the culmination of the small, blink-and-you'll-miss-it act in s2—eddie holding onto buck's hand instead of helping lift the truck. in these instances, he doesn't default to logic and protocol like he's been trained to. he just follows his heart—which is a big fucking deal for a character like eddie. and all of this just keeps escalating with each new development in their relationship.

the other aspect is a lot simpler—i draw upon their more recent arcs to explain it. maybe the logical thing was for eddie to join the others in lifting the truck. but he didn't, and he prioritized giving buck comfort instead. and i think this small moment is so symbolic of their future obstacles? in season 5, buck can't fix or magically hand-wave eddie's struggle with his mental health. he can't fix it even though it's his first instinct to try. but he can be there for him every step of the way, and make the journey a little easier. similarly, in season 6, eddie gets right in 6B what everyone else got wrong—he couldn't fix things for buck and ensure he had a super-smooth recovery, like everyone else tried to. but he could be a shelter for buck when the outside world was too overwhelming, to recognize his struggle and offer him comfort in the face of it. idk. again, it boils down to the whole maybe you don't know her the way he does of it all. so, yeah. that little moment in 2x18 is just. the comfort and the security of it all. the way tenderness is prioritized over trying to fix everything. idk. i hope this all makes as much sense as it did in my head sjdjdkd

#neethu answers #anon #neethu rewatches 911

[alovelyburn]

If Casca had taken up Guts’ offer to leave with him on his endless wandering to be stronger, I legit think that would not have been a good decision.

Miura has spoken before that, despite appearances, Casca and Guts are forever stuck in that stage people are in before they really fall in love. I can understand what he means because I feel that they never did leave the honeymoon phase of their relationship, still swept up in the bliss of getting together and the excitement of busting Griffith out of jail.

Even if Griffith was magically okay, mentally stable enough to let them both go, I don’t really think it would have worked out very well for either of them. Casca’s been hanging on to Griffith’s every word for about half her life and suddenly changing all that with Guts, without the companionship she was used to would have been a hurdle to handle. The decision to just dump everything she’s known and join Guts would seem like a romantic honeymoon act which would lose its luster after the euphoria’s died down.

That’s not even mentioning the biggest hurdle, aka, Griffith. Like, I maintain that Guts thrived as much as he did while by himself because he thought Griffith was okay on his own and they’ll meet again as equals in the distant future. If he knew that he wasn’t okay, that Griffith does need him by his side, he’d be much too distracted to swing his sword around and get stronger. Same with Casca. He is just too integral of a part in their lives to just ignore.

I think there's a couple of perspectives on this and as usual I'm sort of a fence-sitter. Like I know a lot of people think they would've had a fairy tale power couple adventuring thing going on if they'd left together and I also know a lot of people think they would've ultimately fallen apart because the relationship already had a shaky ground. I think it did have a shaky ground - Guts is pretty clear that he doesn't know for sure whether it's going to work out, and Casca's pretty clear that she's not even sure where her heart really is... it's not like the two of them were ever being rock solid confident that they'd found The One even in their best moments, and they're both still obsessing over Griffith the whole time... so yeah, it may very well have been unsustainable long term. At the same time, I'm also aware that sometimes relationships end up doing well despite having dodgy beginnings.

My main lazyass outlook on this is that we don't know whether they would have been one of those couples or one of the couples who can't get it together because they were never able to find out. And because they never find out whether they were truly compatible long-term or what they could've/would've/should've been, Guts is forever stuck with a what if without any answer.

Now that's all fence-sitting. What I actually think is:

If Griffith's state was as it is in canon...

-If they stayed with the Hawks, they would have fallen apart because they'd both prioritize Griffith over each other (and themselves). This IMO is pretty clear just from canon. In this case, I see a kind of prolonged relationship with diminishing investment until it just kind of fades away.

-If they left anyway, they would have fallen apart because they'd both feel like shit and be too worried about Griffith to concentrate. In this case, I see a lot of unspoken guilt and resentment toward each other because they'd blame each other (and themselves) for making each other (and themselves) leave Griffith that way.

If Griffith were in a recoverable state, though, things get more interesting to me.

-If they stayed with the Hawks, they would have fallen apart because they both just like Griffith more than each other, IDK what else to say about it. They were only able to get together because of his absence, and if they were hanging around him all the time, that absence is negated, and they'd just fall back into fixating on him -this seems pretty strongly supportable because they were already heading down that road before they found him, and thus before they knew what had been done to him. In this case I kind of feel like they'd just end up sliding back into being friends.

-if they left, I think that would be the best chance they'd have at a successful relationship. Because at this point they'd both given up on Griffith, and he's fine so they're not distracted by worrying about him and could focus on each other and their goals (or, well, Guts' goal). I don't think this is a guaranteed success, but it's the only path I see leading to a success for their relationship.

The wildcard is what... Griffith does. Because if we're talking about an alternate canon where Griffith is rescued early, or just not as badly done by as he was in canon, then he's already ruined his shot at marrying Charlotte and inheriting Midland. So what's he going to do next? He could go to another country and start buttering up another princess, but given his internal monologue in the dungeon I suspect he'd be more likely to try and grapple with his feelings about Guts in which case the entire gameboard changes. I mean for one thing, the "if they left" option would probably be wiped off the map.

#ask #wechaoticblazebouquet #ariel talks about berserk

[nihilara]

some... sft tidbits. nsft are below read more.

generally speaking, kuro is a bit cautious about entering a relationship. he is a fairly touch-starved, and lonely individual, so he takes any romantic relationship he makes with another quite seriously. the biggest issue is however, that he will outlive most anyone he's with. despite his age ( in main he's about 3k years old ), it has not made it easier for him to manage the grief of losing people. so he's gotta just be ready for it, and find someone that's worth suffering that grief for.

that said, he is very doting, and very affectionate. his partner will always come before himself, their safety and happiness are his priority.

it's important to note that being with someone, gives kuro a new reason to really live-- and enjoy life. in a complicated sort of "im immortal and ive lived so long there's not much joy in living" kind of way. his flavor of nihilism is malleable, and shifts around itself, as he finds things in life that make him happy ( they come and go ). nothing matters-- except this person i've now devoted myself to. idk if i'm explaining it very well, but the point is that kuro is an extremely dedicated, and loyal partner.

yes he loves instant noodles, but kuro is actually a phenomenal cook. and being his partner means he's likely to cook for you any chance he gets.

being morally grey, his range on potential partners is quite varied. and he's at a point in his life where he'd probably be down to kiss monsters too. whatever man. so long as you're not spouting nonsense about ending the world for god- or... doing other shit that's problematic, or not needlessly cruel or over the top, you're good.

fella is actually quite charming when he tries to me. as if his awkwardness doesn't give him a charm all on it's own. he isn't mr suave and perfect, but he knows how to talk, and treat people well...

nsft stuff hehehhh...

kuro is not against having casual sex. pleasure is pleasure, and he's actually very capable of separating it from any potential romantic feelings.

i mean at this point in his life? he's vers, and he's a switch. he's willing to try just about anything within reason. tie him up, gag him, smack him around a bit. he does tend to lean more to bottom though, partially due to wanting to let someone else have some kind of control over him??? but he also just prefers it. he can top though, and he can be nice, or mean. again. just ask.

he might come across as awkward honestly, but he adjusts quickly. he isn't out here having sex very often?? or getting frisky with folks a lot??? kuro can go decades with no intimacy and be fine. so sometimes he just needs a moment to get back into it.

he... will usually prioritize his partner's pleasure over his own. a good part of it is due to kuro enjoying being edged. a lot. but he also loves watching them enjoying themselves due to his own efforts? it's satisfying. sometimes he wont even worry about getting off, unless his partner wants that.

reminding everyone, he is 195cm tall. ( 6'5 almost )

his libido comes and goes. it's honestly situational, and there are times when it takes a lot to get him going, or get him off- and times when it's pretty average.

i'm sure i could think of a lot more, but kuro is just? open minded and willing to try just about anything you ask.

#𝐁𝐄𝐓𝐓𝐄𝐑 𝐀 𝐆𝐇𝐎𝐒𝐓; 𝐓𝐇𝐀𝐍 𝐀 𝐇𝐔𝐌𝐀𝐍 𝐁𝐄𝐈𝐍𝐆. / about #nsft. #oh this got.... very long #i told u there was a lot okay

[afniel]

Realizing that I went and wrote a bunch of intentionally aro relationships and my partner was like, "Idk, it seemed like normal relationships to me," and I was like, "I mean yeah it's not that different from ours, I guess, I was kind of going for 45° off from 'normal' romance," and they're like, "Okay, but ours is also pretty much like that," and I'm like, "Yeah, true," and now I'm like, damn hold up, are we both some kinda arospec and THIS is how we figure it out? Because I wrote a long-ass fic about intentionally queer-coded (among other things) robots? Life is weird, man.

Like I've been prone to extreme long-term crushes on a very few (mostly unattainable) people over the years, but I wouldn't have known what to do with them even if they worked out, and cough my ex was not even one of them. I just kind of assumed I was failing to feel a thing I was totally supposed to feel, there, and quite a lot of that relationship emotionally was me going, "Okay, I care like This, but I think I'm supposed to care like That? I'm pretty sure he cares That way. I'm not sure I do, but I mean, there's really only one way*, so maybe I'm just misreading this and actually I do care like That, I'm just bad at it."

*This was me being very incorrect, it turns out. There's all kinds of ways to love someone. It's a very inadequate and nonspecific word.

When I confessed my feelings (which I'd been sitting on for a year) to my partner, their reaction wasn't to be particularly romantic about it. In fact they told me they'd help me move to California if I wanted to. And after I got over my initial confusion of being kissed on the forehead (which is also not super romantic as a gesture and I couldn't decide how to even read that so I kinda skipped over even trying for a while), I was thinking, Awesome, that is a yes. They have promised to assist me with difficult stuff, and said nothing at all about emotions, because that's not a big deal anyway. The important thing is that I can rely on them and vice versa. Cool. We are basically together forever now. Which ended up being true. I just never moved out and now it's like 13 years later, go figure. But that's not what I think actually passes for reciprocating feelings for most people? Worked great for me though.

Anyway I feel like I have accidentally learned something about myself, lol. I guess romance is okay I guess, like it's not repulsive, but seriously, it's WAY more satisfying to me to guess someone else's Quiplash answer because you know they know you would think it's fucking funny, and you do, and because you think it's funny and you're well aware they know your type of humor and you know theirs and that you wouldn't expect them to use "cum" as an answer because that's not usually how they roll, so of course that is the only answer they can possibly give, which is instantly evident to both of you with no conversation whatsoever on the topic. When you got just one brain cell and it's quantum entangled with their just one brain cell so you have a lot of null discussions where nobody has to say anything but it's fully understood anyway, that's The Dream, if you ask me. And like I don't really think that's romantic by the usual definition. You can have that with friends and family, too. But that is what it turns out I prioritize in relationships, which I'm starting to feel like isn't what the majority of people are here for?

TFW it's hard to tell because I've been assuming I'm totally alloromantic so everything I experience must be typical totally alloromantic stuff too, but I'm starting to think it isn't maybe? But how do I even tell, this is like being colorblind, lmao.

#tfw you based a completely ace/aro relationship system off what ends up just being your normal IRL relationship #my partner read Failure To Compile and just went 'so we're coprocessors right' and I said 'yeah basically' #it was apparently not at all subtle to them and why would it be lmao they basically just Know What I'm Thinking #we have a lot of conversations that are just...*several facial expressions and a glance or two* them: 'no.' me: 'OH COME ON' #and yeah that's The Experience. 'what if an entire subculture's relationships were all like that' well it'd be great that's what #and also evidently immediately recognizable to a bunch of arospec readers #making me have to also question some long held assumptions about myself #well that's cool though. I'm always down to understand me better. and hey what a funny way to do it too #what's the point of writing something and trying to get kinda deep with it if you aren't learning from it really #this just means I'm so successful I even got myself somehow #flawless victory #aromantic #arospec #also yes the Quiplash thing happened for real just last night #I said their answer before it was even revealed and they just assumed I had somehow loaded the stream faster than them #because obviously I know what they put right? #I laughed my ass off tho

[stardustdiiving]

I would read your zhongxiao codependent yuri Like, I do generally picture them as a vaguely father/son dynamic BUT THAT IS NOT CANON. It's just as much fun to view them through a romantic interpretation! Idk why people can't view the same characters in different kinds of relationships without being weird about it.

Anyway I love your vision and would love to hear more about it lakdjs

THANK U SO MUCH Im not sure if I’m gonna write zx in the future since I’ve tended to be shy about posting my stuff relating to them for over a yr now, but I did post this fic with them last year while trying to get a hold on how to write them (mind the tags it’s pure angst omg). I was too shy to tag it as ship since it didn’t feel shippy enough, which is kind of funny to me in hindsight bc I reread it and am like. Man I think only a zx shipper would write this NUFNVJVJV

Post got kind of lot Im gonna go on a tangent about them under the cut

Honestly my theory for why ppl r very set on the father/son interpretation is everyone’s immediate thought on to how to make the power imbalance between them seem less uncomfortable is to apply a parental interpretation to it. Which is fine ofc, I get it, but the way ppl push it as canon a lot kind of grates on me a little bc they’re usually incredibly passive aggressive and pushy even if u clearly designate ur post as ship OTL

Also not really a fan of the characterizations either since ppl tend to treat Xiao like a moody teenager Zhongli has to reel in (this is hilariously reminiscent of the post I made about how ppl handle scaramouche and nahida a bit ago haha). And idk I just feel kind of polarized about the headcanon overall bc I associate it with people being really uncomfortable and frustrating about zx

I just like how there’s sort of an imbalance to them, some zxs like them being more fluffy and functional but I sort of like it where it’s not like, entirely dysfunctional but I’m prioritizing a specific kind of character study over romance. This tends to be how a lot of my ships go ngl I just sometimes enjoy the intensity/intimacy of romantic feelings thrown into the mix if it makes it interesting but I’m not often interested in a lot of my ships following more standard romance plots(?) I guess? Unless it’s specific ones. Which sounds clinical when I put it like that but this is just bc I am very aromantic NHFBVJVJ

When I say codependency in zhongxiao honestly it’s sort of a theoretical(?) codependency—not sure how to word it? I think Xiao would be really fucked up if he didn’t have Zhongli in his life suddenly but I don’t think his relationship with getting attached to people invokes what people would majorly think of when they think of codependency in a ship I suppose. It’s moreso I just feel Xiao could be at his worst with dehumanizing himself in comparison to other people with Zhongli, because said mental state is driven by how he feels about debt, service, and duty which are very closely tied with devotion and how he would feel about someone he considers his god and leader, as well as someone who saved him

It’s fun this is paired with Zhongli who generally knows how to work with Xiao kind of understands the self destructive depth Xiao’s loyalty/devotion comes with. Also fun they have been around each other for a very long time and Xiao as one of the adepti is familiar with the past I think Zhongli appreciates having around. They work but it’s also a case where Zhongli is in such a position of power over Xiao its kind of very delicate situation that’s hard for both of them to navigate. Which is fun to explore. I esp love contrasting it with other Xiao pairings (actually i think i still have that xiaoven fic up on my ao3 where I tried to convey a specific interpretation of them in a similar exploration vein too)

I totally get why people wouldn’t like it (I feel a lot of my opinions on xiao ships just clash with a lot of fandom consensus so bad all the time And it’s just bc I’m like this I’m not even trying to be contrarian or anything. HELDINCJD) but I just tend to handle shipping in a specific way. It’s not I don’t enjoy fluffy or lighthearted zl and xiao stuff I actually enjoy it a lot I just like there being layers. This makes it feel more impactful when I think about how Zhongli looks out for Xiao in canon or how Xiao gets like textually flustered talking to him (lantern rite 2023 was so tailored to my tastes it’s not even funny)

#the yuri part is more of an inside joke w my friends bc this is how we all talk but I did once compare zx to my sapphic awakening pairing #which is rose & Pearl from steven universe and it is truly my favorite thing to pitch to people verbally bc It kind of sounds #incomprehensible but also I’m totally onto something….no one understands…. #Pearl and xiao r literally both spear wielding birds who’s arc revolves around being ok w being a person who lives for themselves :// #and they r eternally grateful to their war general leader . no one gets it. it torments me personally bc #I loved Pearl SU when I was 11 and now I enjoy xiao a lot and it’s like…we’ll these r very different characters but also I think I have not #changes. JUDJDKXJD #it’s 3am I woke up in a haze to answer this…I need to go to bed smh #fern.txt #zhongxiao #Edit: I woke up and finished writing this post and I a #am so tired #asks

[shokolandish]

PINNED POST

alright i think i should make a pinned post or something

uhh so

hi!

my name is lada and im an artist! kinda

TRIVIA

- they/he

- im a minor AND aroace (PLEASE don't be weird about me or my non-suggestuve art)

- adhd

- i need tone tags

- im an age regressor (it is NOT sexual at all and is NOT the same as ageplay, please educate yourself if you think so)

MY LABELS

aroace (aromantic + asexual, feeling little to no romantic and sexual attraction (i feel none))

trixic (a non-binary person being attracted to women, exclusively or not)

queerplatonic (queerplatonic relationship is a close non-inherently sexual, non-romantic relationship that is beyond what most would consider to be a friendship. it consists of emotional commitment and prioritization that is typically seen in a romantic relationship without being romantic)

ambiamorous (being okay with being in both monogamous and polyamorous relationships)

firmic (someone who experiences gender euphoria when another individual expresses confusion on one's gender identity or someone who enjoys presenting their gender in a way that is confusing to most)

agender (feeling like you don't have a gender)

mercury agender (being agender but being ok with being perceived as any gender)

transneutral

MY FANDOMS AT THE MOMENT

- unikitty (i may rarely post about it but it's one of my favorite medias ever)

- hazbin hotel (i do NOT support viv)

- helluva boss (i don't exactly enjoy it but i do watch it)

- object shows

- tawog (not that active in it rn but i do love it a lot and have watched all the episodes)

- spooky month

MY SHIPS

UNIKITTY

master frown x brock (they genuinely helped me get through my burnout and get out of a huge depressive episode, they mean a lot to me)

richard x hawkodile x dr fox (queerplatonic)

feebee x bimbom

HAZBIN HOTEL

cherri bomb x sir pentious

charlie x vanessa (my name for v*ggie) x emily

huskerdust (hazbin hotel) - it's a brotp for me for now but yk, im looking forward to their relationship developing and don't really mind them becoming romantic

huskdustpentbomb (husk x angel dust x sir pentious x cherri bomb) - i love polycules (cherridust and huskbomb in this polycule are platonic!!!)

onewaybroadcast/radiosilence (one-sided radiostatic)

adamsapple

edenpoly/garden of eden poly (eve x adam x lucifer x lilith

adampeter

mimosa/mimrose (mimzy x rosie)

HELLUVA BOSS

blitzfizz

idk if they have a ship name but i like moxxie x blitzø x millie

beelzebub x loona x tex

fizzmodeus is alright too i guess.. in the earlier episodes they're better tho i think, i miss old fizz

OBJECT SHOWS

fubble (bfb) - a huge comfort of mine

snowcoinut

snowtenfries

15x (im their inventor and ceo)

87 - mainly as exes

24 - guilty pleasure (no, they're not siblings)

2x

24x

THE AMAZING WORLD OF GUMBALL

pengumrobdog is canon idc what anyone says

carwin ofc

leslanmen (leslie x alan x carmen)

idahochobias

nichard/ricole/whatever their ship name is

one-sided darchel (darwin x rachel)

clachel (clare x rachel)

tinbert has a special place in my heart

bobocho/ochobert

lesbias (that's a crazy ass ship name lmao) (leslie x tobias)

smallarry

SPOOKY MONTH

polyhatz - great. wonderful. amazing.

teddybear/roybert - you know how hardcore of a fan am of em? i was the one who came up with the ship name for them that the fandom now uses

rossroy

cleancoin/patmen - they definitely dated in highschool idc what anyone says

richbitch/carchard - i love them a lot

whatever the ship name for pump's dad and richard is

heateddebate/firetown/evernacio

candybats or, as i like to call them, bloodsugar.... but i guess someone already claimed that name for some other ship after me ughhh... i also like the name sweettooth/sweetfang

goldenflower/jumen - they're salty exes and nobody can tell me otherwise

DNI LIST

- basic dni criteria (queerphobes, ableists, racists, sexists, pedophiles, zoo, incest, rapists etc)

- pro/com/darkshippers (please go away)

- pro-lifers

- fatphobes

- victim-blamers

- transcum/transmed

- terfs (get out. now.)

- anti-objectum

- i don't even fucking care about queer discourse anymore, just PLEASE don't involve me in it

- ageplay blogs (it makes me really uncomfortable, please don't interact)

- valentino (hazbin hotel) fans or apologists, i don't care if you like him, it just makes me uncomfortable, however, if you try to excuse him in any way, i do not want to associate with you

- if you ship alastor with anyone (i can tolerate qprs but romantic ships where he reciprocates cross the line for me)

- unifrown, gumwin, charlastor and valangel shippers pleeeease go away, staticmoth shippers are on thin ice

- if you erase canon/heavily implied representation

- if you mock/make fun of people for using tone tags

- vivienne medrano supporters (hazbin/helluva fans/casual viewers are fine)

SOME OF MY ART

some of these are pretty old but whatever

(no, im not quite sure if i draw noses on a regular basis or not yet)

okay that's about it i think..... give me a follow if you wanna?

byeee!

#pinned post #hazbin hotel #cw hazbin #tw hazbin #tw hazbin hotel #cw hazbin hotel

[sylvies-chen]

This might be an unpopular question or opinion, but is Tim giving up a job he loves for his relationship with Lucy a good or romantic thing?

I love them but if I'm honest if Lucy or another woman decided to give up a job they love or switch to something else for their relationship I'm pretty sure it wouldn't be considered romantic or the right thing to do.

I think that’s a fair question because something like this could definitely lead to resentments down the road if not done properly. But honestly, it’s been a relationship trope in television for a while now. Take Ben and Leslie from Parks & Recreation, for example. Ben straight-up takes the hit and gets fired from his job (of being her boss) for Leslie, because he knew he loved her and so the job he had didn’t matter. And I don’t think people questioned it (though I wasn’t in the fandom when it aired so idk how it was received). Or think of Will from Criminal Minds who left his hometown— and his entire home state, even— to be with JJ. Think of Jonah from Superstore who was ready to move to California to be with Amy just because she got a job promotion, and who only stayed at a terrible job for years because of her, which holds a kind of equivalent. There’s just countless examples of characters (specifically male ones) prioritizing their relationship over their career. Even though it may not be realistic for real life relationships, I still find it to be generally romantic in nature I think especially because it’s men who are expected to be ambitious and career-driven above all else and so defying that tenet of like “masculinity” or that stereotype by not expecting the woman to have to put her career on hold is what I think people like to see. That’s just my take on it anyways!

Sorry, that was just a tangent on my thoughts about that trope in general. But to answer your question in regards to Chenford, I think in their case it is allowed to be romantic and good because we know it’s not going to be permanent?? Obviously Tim Bradford is not going to be at a desk job for the rest of his life. They’re already scheming to find him a new position and he’s a main character who’s too physical to ever be benched/sidelined like that for more than a few episodes. Like. It’s cable television. You know they are going to find some shiny new position that is somehow just the perfect setup for him to be in the field and yet not Lucy’s direct superior. They’ll make some miraculous solution. (Either that or they’ll have him come back to Sergeant and he and Lucy will have to face the music together which… ehhh I don’t think that’s in the cards.) To me, at least, this sacrifice is a very romantic gesture, but it’s also permitted to be so becauss there won’t be any long-term resentments due to the fact that… yeah. They’re not letting him rot at a desk. They’re going to come up with something somehow some way. It’s just how network television does it. 😅

#anon I’m sorry if I just made a bunch of tv references you didn’t understand #it’s my biggest weakness lol #abby.answers #chenford #tim bradford #the rookie

[jakowskis]

Day 23 - Discuss Tosh. Opinions? Favorite moment? Least favorite moment? Any unpopular opinions? Any fun headcanons?

tosh my babygirl my princess light of my life angel darling… shes so good. shes so good 🥺 i love her dearly. she’s so damn underutilized i hate how the show regulates her to a supporting role + only uses her for romantic plots. WACK shes so much more than that. i want a plotline about her cyberterrorism like hello??? i want a plotline about her warped little mind.. i want a plotline about her finally learning spanish ;-; that show did not do her justice and it did not deserve her. i often say torchwood’s characters are too good for the show; tosh is probs the best example of that. no other character gets screwed over as badly as she does by the narrative (not even ianto!) she’s so tragic and lonely i just wanna give her the biggest hug ever. 

fav moment… every time she smiles. (or smirks. hrgh. tosh call me.) also every time she geeks out about smth. im tryna think of a specific moment but idk if i have one?? i just love her overall i smile every time she’s on screen she’s my girlie. when i rewatch i might rmr one though

least favorite moment, the absolute only thing i can think of (hell, my only complaint with her as a character other than i wish she’d get over owen cuz bad taste queen pls u deserve sm better) - it’s always bothered me how she goes over to owen’s flat in aditd and just starts babbling about her own problems. she even says something like “you think everything’s about you”, and in that ep it’s like ??? why are they all acting like he’s unjustified being miserable and angry when he's fucking dead?? like they're all so unsympathetic and mean, even tosh, and out of her it's especially weird?? tbh it just strikes me as ooc (+ kind of misogynistic highkey) writing. i mean, by all means, let tosh bitch, she deserves to blow off some steam + esp deserves to be rude to owen tbh fhsdkjfsd, but the way it’s done in that particular moment feels ooc and, like, how men write women as talking too much and never listening lmao u kno what i mean (owen’s tuned out in the actual episode but you can see her full ramble in the original script, on page 23). tosh has never troubled anyone with her issues before, why would she choose now to, and when she knows owen’s struggling? yeah, on second thought, i don’t hold that against her actually, that’s ooc to me fhdkf. thts just the writer being a wiener.

my only unpopular opinions (slash hot takes) are that 1) towen fucking SUCKS get her away from him, and 2) most people like tosh but she’s highkey underappreciated, esp in fanfic, because of fandom racism + misogyny. she’s not bashed like gwen is but she’s ignored completely which is nearly as bad, and a lot of it’s cuz she happens to be in a show with two white men in a gay relationship who are overwhelmingly prioritized 💀 i will never not be petty about the way that ship dwarfs everything else in comparison. also throwing towen into the background of janto is so gross n cheap. if ppl cared abt her they'd do smth more interesting. and it's never well-done either. ugh.

i have a few hcs that are gonna end up in my owento verse (gwen and tosh are prominent characters in it bc i love them, and their relationships w owen and ianto and each other also have value lawl). tbh a lot of em are just things i think they should introduce into their lives to be happier. i want them happy ;-;

she starts coding video games recreationally!! nothing fancy but she rlly enjoys it + also gets into the swing of making little storylines n getting to express herself that way which is good for her. owen playtests shit for her

her and gwen go on spa dates sometimes. they put it on the torchwood credit card

she gets into fish tanks and fish tank care!!! esp like aquarium plants. shrimp and moss balls, that sort of thing. maybe plecos or loaches. she loves it + it’s grounding, which is good for her bc shes otherwise always got her head in her computers yanno. she’ll sit by her tank while she codes her games and the water sounds are calming. 

she also sits by it while she studies her spanish books which she does finally do. she doesn’t get around to the piano, though; doesn’t prioritize buying a keyboard. maybe one day (this is a nobody dies au btw so she will in fact eventually get around to it ;-;)

oh she’s autistic have i said that. the fish tanks absolutely become a spin. she has a few we know of from canon - math and computers, obviously, but also history (gbg) and the uk’s rivers (from gooseberry; i think it was just the uk maybe it was europe’s rivers. or the world’s! i don’t remember). she also loves trivia like she knows a fair amount about quite a lot of things + loves accumulating random info

lowkey also. giving her a kitty. i think tosh should have a lil fuzzy kitty to keep her company 

well this is smth from my owandy verse but i think it should happen anyway. so it kind of kicks off bc gwen mixes up a blind date (it was gonna be tosh & andy and then owen & a friend of hers, but shes an adhd icon n bungles the invites <3)... tosh ends up with gwen’s friend, who’s straight, but they hit it off and she invites tosh to have drinks or maybe come to a bookclub meet or something with some friends of hers?? point is, tosh makes some casual friends. maybe meets a pretty girl there or smth 👁️ but mainly i want tosh to have girl friends like i think she grew up very lonely i want her to have some normalcy

also sometimes i like tosh x andy maybe they have a little meet cute at a torchwood crime scene or smth fshdkfd. i think they’d be cute and he’d treat her well. she'd babble abt tech stuff and he wouldnt understand a damn word but he'd listen very intently

i also like tosh x ianto for similar reasons. i think it’d be a kind of friends to lovers sitch... they should just be close in general tbh, platonically or not yanno, and in my owandy verse i like the idea of smth kicking off between them i just think theyd be so sweet

she’s a very sleepy drunk and also a lightweight. if the team goes out to drink she’ll get two glasses of smth moderately fruity and then fall asleep against someone’s shoulder it’s very cute (this is just cuz i like the idea of a sleepy tosh 🥺 my baby my baby shes so precious to meee)

#tdot #txt

[silvermoon424]

Re: your post about ppl only caring about romantic ships (I was going to rely but I had too many words lol).

While I am on the ace spectrum (Demi-sexual), I don’t think this is just an aro/ace thing, I think a lot of our society focuses on love as only a romantic/sexual thing when platonic, familial, and other kinds of life can be/are just as fulfilling, valuable, and important! I’ve always felt that my friends are just as significant as my romantic/sexual partners, but in fandom spaces I feel like romantic/sexual relationships are by far the most focused on and considered the most important! When I was first introduced to fanfic when I was a young teen, my friend explained it to me by describing shipping. Like to her, that’s all fanfics were for, was shipping characters and reading about it. But there can be so many great ways to interact with a source material that don’t focus on romance/sex at all, and there are so many wonderful character relationships and dynamics which don’t get explored because people choose to focus on the romantic and sexual relationships between characters.

I personally have never experienced any backlash for sharing my views on certain ships (probably in part because I have a much smaller audience than you and am also less vocal in general), but I do sometimes feel less confident or ashamed of sharing when I feel like a popular ship would be better off as friends. For example, I’ve always seen Chibiusa and Hotaru’s dynamic of that of a powerful friendship, and while I also don’t ship Chibiusa and Helios, I sometimes feel like if I say I like Chibiusa and Hotaru better as friends people will be upset at me or think that I’m being homophobic when really I just think that their friendship is powerful and wonderful and beautiful as it is and that changing their relationships to be romantic or sexual doesn’t elevate the relationship to be stronger or better, it just changes the dynamic. Like both friendship and romance are both valid options which help explore different parts of their characters and the dynamic between them, but I don’t feel like because the two of them are such good friends there needs to be a romance to signify their closeness and the importance/value of their relationships, I love their relationship as it is.

I feel like the actual underlying problems at hand though are that there is still a lot of stigma and shame around exploring sexuality in our society (especially for women and queer people), and the dominance of the nuclear family as an ideal makes us want to prioritize romantic/sexual relationships above all else. People use art to explore their sexuality, and it’s a safe and healthy way to explore our own romantic and sexual feelings by exploring romantic and sexual relationships between characters, and unfortunately I think that many people do not feel they have many (even any) other outlets to safely talk or think about romance and sex. If there was less shame around sexuality in the first place, I think people might not feel the need to put it on such a pedestal and make romantic/sexual relationships the main focus of ships (and a lot of other things too).

I’ve also always interpreted western society’s focus on romantic/sexual love to be tied to upholding the idea of the nuclear family, and indirectly (or directly idk) upholding many sexist, misogynistic, homophobic, and white supremacist notions about gender, sexuality, and power (from the Victorian era, maybe?).

Like, if we tell people the most important thing is their love life, then they’ll prioritize finding a romantic/sexual partner and spend less time establishing meaningful community connections, and thus will rely more on their spouse for emotional support, strengthening the bond of the family unit but also leaving them with fewer resources and more emotionally vulnerable if they try to leave the family. And since many romantic ideals intersect with gender roles (a man is attractive if he is strong and tough and can provide financially, he is chivalrous if he protects the women from any and all possible harm, etc), the emphasis on romantic and sexual relationships encourages people to conform to these gender norms, and thus establishes the traditional family archetype to be the most valuable and correct unit of social order. By reinforcing the idea that having a romantic/sexual partner is (arguably) the most important thing in our lives without giving us alternative structures for building these relationships aside from the nuclear family, it allows the nuclear family unit to continue to be the main way we organize our society and thus the socially correct option.

Wow, I really don't have much to add because you said everything so eloquently!! Great job, I agree with basically everything you said.

I do want to point out to anyone reading this that there actually is a term for society's prioritization of romantic relationships above all else: amatonormativity. And like anon said, it heavily ties back into the heteropatriarchy and the idea that everyone should be cis and in a heterosexual relationship (very preferably in a heterosexual marriage that produces children).

Amatonormativity hurts everyone, not just aro and ace people.

#amatonormativity #seriously great message anon thank you

[dballzposting]

okay so you said you haven't finished GT? but i have to know if you've seen the GT OVA. bc it takes place like 100 years later, and Pan is there. and unless Gohan had another kid, we KNOW she was in a relationship and had a kid. This is a fact.

there are NO photos of this person, or of her kid, or of her grandkid. None in the house. she does not bring them up at ALL.

which honestly is just very in character for her to me? She is one who focuses on what she has. on her future. like she'll acknowledge the past (which she does in the special) but she doesn't live in it.

im sorry you've literally never talked about Pan before on this blog but I've been thinking about it recently. in her introduction in GT, she wants a boyfriend, but it seems more like a status symbol for her than a romantic desire. But she occasionally talks about people who are together in a way that implies it's Very Important to her, which combined leads me to think she cares about it in the context of 'people who are romantic should care for each other' i.e. it's less about the romantic aspect than it is about the bond. because she comes from a HEAVILY family-oriented family.

idk where im going with this my brain turned off. but pan never talks about her husband or wife. and it made me think too hard. do you think it was too painful and she hid it all away? she outlived everyone. even her grandkid. do you think she gave so much of her heart that she had to hide it to cope?

Hi i dont know what OVA stands for. ARE YOU TALKING ABOUT THE MOIVE? A Hero's Legacy? Yeah I've never seen it.

Why is she so old?

The creators probably just didn't want to go too far out on any limbs and start designing her a spouse or a child so maybe thats why ... But I like your version better

I actually have totally posted about Pan before. Last spring I was thinking about her quite a bit actually .. The only major thouhgt that ever came to fruition as I recall was an exceedingly long post about her that even I have not reread since. I will fetch it

Found it

She's so real for prioritizing that bond ... I always felt like she wanted a BF at the beginning of GT becasue A.) she is a maturing girl .. allow her to follow her nature ..... And B.) Becasue she's trying to seem more grown (another thing that kids her age tend to do and it makes sense that we see her do it a lot becasue her parents seem very strict in GT, she is just DESPERATE for her freedom and the power to be responsible for herself!) But yeah she's a kid venturing out into the world, her wanting a BF at that young age does not contradict at all with the idea that she may end up someone without romance but with a priority for interpersonal bonds.

HER GRANDKID DIED IN THAT MOVIE ? I don't believe you. Also that's too sad to think that she is all emotionally-armored and is holding unto the pain. I want to believe that she has the grace to let it go...

This is so fucked up.

Here's a screenshot of Pan she's so quirky <3

#dballz posting #dballz asks