Exposing minors to sexual content is abuse.
Yes, this includes online.
Your nsfw channels need to be locked.
If you allow minors into your nsfw channels on discord, then you are sexually abusing them.
If you know this is happening and do nothing to stop it, you are complicit.
It is your responsibility to do the bare minimum to protect children.
I do not care if you are not a babysitter. I do not care if you think it is not your problem. I do not care if it makes you anxious.
If you can safely stop grooming and abuse, then you need to do your part.
Online CSA is still CSA.
32 notes
·
View notes
No I don't think paraphiles are evil or deserve to be isolated from society but why is an online community allowing minors and people who identify themselves as "minor attracted" in the same space?
What safeguarding is there to ensure everyone in the 18+ channels is actually of age?
What if a minor comes forward about one of the "minor attracted" people you "don't want to alienate" grooming or harming them? Is the minor expected to leave?
What if you discover that some of the "minor attracted" people you've invited have linked up through your discord to share abuse material?
Idk imo it should be a blanket 18+ space if you're going to specifically make it open to paraphiles including "minor attracted" ones. It just seems like there's so much that could go wrong and harm someone and stuff like this has happened again and again in online groups
Idk seems like a slap in the face to csa survivors
You literally sound like a terf/4chan psyop to associate transandrophobia with people who claim attraction to minors and why the fuck would you do that unless you want to shut down any possible future discussion of transandrophobia?
It seems like you're poisoning the well like WHY was it so important to make this space not only about transandrophobia but also about supporting paraphiles who claim attraction to minors and effectively equating the two groups ?
like they have clinical supports, a discord group isn't a therapy group or a professional therapist or program it's a social group
Idk well done I guess you've made it impossible for transmasc csa survivors who don't want to be around self proclaimed MAPs to feel safe in that discussion space hope no minors there end up getting hurt there
70 notes
·
View notes
Usually I'm not a fan of making long-winded posts like these, but some of you have to learn the difference between oppression and basic bullying.
Being transharmful/transharmed and facing hate for it is in no way comparable to being transgender. You aren't being doxxed, stalked, beat up or even killed for your identity. You aren't facing oppression in any feasible way. Someone telling you that delving further into your (self admitted) delusions is harmful isn't someone telling you that they hate you, that they want you dead, etc. it's someone genuinely trying to look out for you because you shouldn't feed into delusions.
You wanting to be a MAP, a cult leader, to have gone through RAMCOA, to have a personality disorder, to have gone through CSA, to have bipolar, to be a nazi, is not similar to being transgender. Yes have a space to speak about your delusions, I don't think anyone will be upset over that, but when you're actively starting "cults" and crosstagging to survivor communities, to pd communities etc. that's when it goes south. When you're making tutorials feeding into each other's delusions, encouraging them to fall further into it instead of finding actual healthy coping mechanisms, that's when everyone becomes concerned about your community.
When you draw actual parallels to people who are actively on the verge of being, and currently are in some places, outlawed for their existence, you make your community look worse. You being bullied online will never compare to what transgender people go through, and it's offensive to even compare the two. Is it bad that you're being bullied, sometimes harassed? Yes, obviously. It's still not the same.
Stop it.
87 notes
·
View notes
1. What is a woman?
Argument for Using "Cis-Identifying"
And related: A conversation with a "NERF" about radical feminism, gender identity ideology, and what we/I actually believe.
2. Inform yourself on some of the work I've done for trans people before you continue the trend of cowardly hypocrisy.
3. My thread responding to the way much of the tumblr trans community handled my sharing my story of surviving the 2016 Pulse Nightclub shooting (often by stealing my lived trauma and removing my url) is easily one of the most - if not the most - important posts pertaining to trans discourse I've made to date, and Tumblr won't let me pin it. Of course. So here it is. And a bonus: This lovely ask.
4. Hope for Women (this is a very new project, WIP)
About Me:
I am a butch lesbian, married to a badass gnc (but not butch) radfem lesbian goddess whose misandry surpasses even my own; she does have tumblr but rarely uses it - @psychichologramnightmare is hers. I'm 27/Taurus/May baby, though I'll be real, I've never liked astrology and found my birth chart n whatnot always laughably wildly inaccurate to me (sorry astrology girlies). Former competitive rock climber, still in love with hiking and climbing. Wilderness survivalist. Trained & armed woman, advocate for female-only firearm ownership.
My wife and I run our own business, and bought our first home together at 24 & 25 respectively - it's a lovely 4/3 on a quarter acre where we have 5 mango trees and more, plan to start growing our own food and herbs, foster kittens, and provide free housing (and more) regularly for those in need. We do a LOT of IRL feminist action/work/organizing. I post about some of that work pretty often, but I couldn't possibly post about all of it (even if it were safe to do so). I am basically organizing (mostly offline, but some online as well) full-time now.
Survivor of abuse, CSA + captivity, trafficking in my teens where I was forced into porn as a minor, the Pulse Nightclub shooting in Orlando 2016, and more. I am no longer affected by any of these in any negative psychological manner. I own my past, every moment of it, and wouldn't change a thing I've experienced. What I often tell people is, "I'm not glad it happened; I'm glad I was there."
I got my Bachelor's in Neuroscience/Neuropsych, used to work in a top neuro research lab, and have been a coauthor on a peer-reviewed scientific journal publication. I wrote my undergraduate thesis on POTS, ADHD, some of the relevant epigenetics, and norepinephrine dysregulation. I was diagnosed with Ehlers-Danlos & POTS in 2015, before pretty much anyone had heard of them (including most doctors). My POTS is very well-managed now, but chronic pain from EDS is more of a struggle.
I practice witchcraft as a form of artistic expression. I don't consider myself spiritual as I've had a lifelong inability to "believe," but I am particularly passionate about lesbian-centered/lesbian-exclusive (esp butch & gnc lesbian) witchcraft. I am open to commissions for spell jars/sachets on a purely donation basis (we recently were victims of identity theft and are still struggling to recover, but I'll do them for free happily). This is essentially artistic expression to me, something to express love and sisterhood - why I'm not actually charging or anything and will even pay shipping and materials myself if you'd like one but don't want to/can't donate. To me, it's very similar to commissioning a painting or something of the sort, and I deeply enjoy the process of making them, esp for other women, the love that goes into doing so. See tags: #witchcraft, #brujeria.
Adoptee with complex history. Adoption-critical but not abolitionist - I plan to adopt with my wife in a couple years. I've talked a fair bit about my experiences, adoption trauma, ethical adoption, and more. Check out my tags such as #ethical adoption, #adopted, #adoptee, and so forth (tagged on this post for easy accessibility).
I spent many years surrounded by majority-trans-identifying friends/acquaintances both irl and online, deeply involved in trans spaces & activism, and even identified for a bit & was on T for a while. I am not "uneducated" or unfamiliar with trans-identifying people, their experiences, or gender identity ideology in general. You, like me back then, very probably have been lied to about radfems ("terfs") and what we believe and fight for. I am happy to talk in good faith (provided you do the same) 1 on 1 with anyone who is curious about what we actually believe and what we stand for, what common radfem takes on gender identity ideology & trans identity actually are and why.
I have a history of purely physical sex dysphoria (physical sensation like pain or itching). I got "top surgery" (elective mastectomy) due to this and other reasons: constant painful breast cysts & very large breasts (DDD even when I weighed under 100 lbs). I was not trans-identifying by the time I got this surgery (though I tried to briefly identify as nb/transmasc just bc I felt obligated, but hated it). I have never wanted to be a man socially and genuinely hated the very thought. I came out the womb feminist, got in trouble throughout primary school for fighting boys who tried to pull sexist bullshit, always lowkey believed in female superiority (I mean just look at our biology, lifespans, pain tolerance, the things we've done throughout history despite violent patriarchal oppression...). I spent years preparing myself. I read from & spoke to women who regretted this surgery, challenged myself at every turn, dove deep into my mind and thought processes, tried alternative treatment attempts, worked with a non-affirming therapist, made sure my past traumas were fully healed, and waited until I was in my mid-twenties so my brain was more or less fully matured. I have no regrets about it. I still have some (still purely physical sensation) dysphoria ("phantom male genitals" type of thing) at times, but have come to manage this very well. More on this here.
Formally assessed psychopath & participant in research by leading psychopathy experts (read on before jumping to conclusions). Check out this post and my #psychopathy tag (tagged on this post for easy accessibility) for info, particularly about high-EQ female psychopathy, & to find out everything you think you know about us is wrong 💕 (what you know about male psychopaths is usually right tho 💀)
Note: When it comes to politics, I strive to discuss exclusively that about which I am *uniquely knowledgeable* - by which I mean, essentially, that I (believe I) have something to contribute that is unlikely to be found on every other blog. I do not and will not make posts or reblog posts about topics I do not feel this way about. You are not entitled to know my views on every hot-button issue, and I have no intention of speaking on that which I know little about, or that I don't know enough about (through study or personal experiences) to contribute something you can't get a thousand other places.
Tag Guide (WIP):
#mine -> original posts, including ask responses
#ask -> ask responses only
#anon hate, #anon love -> should be self-explanatory. anon love does include some non-anon love for simplicity.
#catposting, #dogposting, #petposting -> images of cats, dogs, and both, respectively (not always my own)
#Wilder wives -> posts pertaining to me & my wife (last name Wilder)
#mvawg, #mvaw, #male violence -> male violence against women/girls
#ethical adoption -> my takes as an adoptee on the issues within the adoption industry & how adoption can be done ethically
#what we believe -> fairly new tag for posts trying to educate on what radfeminism is actually about/damage control for disinformation & misinformation about it
#trans violence -> violence committed by trans-identifying people, including threats of and graphic violent fantasies (primarily misogynistic ones)
#trans misogyny, #trans lesbophobia, #woke misogyny, #woke homophobia, #woke lesbophobia, etc. -> what it says on the tin
136 notes
·
View notes