#relationship shit

[theereina]

#toxic relationship #toxic love #relationship shit #relationships #funny jokes #lmao

[fitveganlifts]

Well, my husband lasted 5 days of dry January. Literally the first Friday and he gave up. He had a long day at work, and I said it sucked but this is a good chance to practice other de-stressing tactics instead of going right to alcohol. We went and got food for dinner, he went to play video games and then gave up.

He decided fuck dry January. It was his idea, I never asked him to do it but I agreed to do it with him. He has never made it through the month without drinking. At least last time he made it a few weeks in.

I'm partially annoyed because he can't even stick with 1 moderately difficult thing and also concerned bc who can't go 5 days without drinking? It's the FIRST weekend of January!!

#personal #dry january #sobriety #relationship shit

[payingrental]

#arghhhhhhhhhh #he so cute guys #i love him so much!!!! #desi tumblr #desiblr #long distance dating #long distance boyfriend #relationship shit #relationship

[deathbecomesthem]

It's not always easy to remember that he's right here, and I can make him remember to be my boyfriend.

What do you mean? Im a little confused x

That I have this man in my house every day. We share chores, share a mortgage, share children, share a bed, but we forget that we can actually still do the fun things too sometimes.

When I'm feeling a certain type of way about things, I try to remember that I can actually just say, "be my boyfriend and take me somewhere fun today." Because what's the point of all this if we can't do that occasionally? We both work very mind consuming jobs, so we need to remind ourselves that we do actually like each other and deserve to spend a little time together.

#thanatos speaks #relationship shit #ask #anon

[duckybird101]

I wish I had somewhere else to go. :(

#feelings #relationship shit

[vstheworld]

buying my girlfriend a giant black hoodie so he’ll stop stealing mine is peak nonbinary couple experience

#look normally I don’t care #but this hoodie is the misfits x junji ito collab one and I waited MONTHS for it to be restocked #I’m chubby and he’s tall so we just happen to wear the same hoodie size #it’s very cute but it’s also very cold #personal #text post #relationship shit #t4t relationship #also ig technically we’re fiancées but whatev

[livingof-love]

I want to give my partner a child, but instead I just give him extra stress 🥲🙃

#personal #lol #relationship shit

[dandelions-and-white-wolves]

I’m not sure what the moral of this story is but I’ve just been thinking about it a whole lot-

I’ve been with my partner for *10 years.* We met when we were 16. I sort of assumed that we both knew everything about one another, in that time. We’ve done a lot of talking and living, for sure.

So the other night he’s sleeping really restlessly and he’s kind of whimper-mumbling and snuffling in his sleep and I reach out and cup his face, one part to see if he’s got a fever and one part as a sort of ‘I’m here and you’re okay’ gesture. And he looks like I just struck him- his face screws up and he flinches away and snaps awake. “I hate when you touch my face, I’m so sorry, I usually try and tolerate it because you seem to like it and I know you don’t mean harm. But I have some trauma, and it freaks me out every time.”

Friends, I’ve been cupping, stroking, touching his face this WHOLE TIME because that’s what makes me feel safe. I love it. It makes me feel loved and I just- assumed? That it was reciprocated. “I won’t ever do that again, then,” I tell him, and explain to him about how it makes me feel.

And friends, every morning I’ve woken up since to him cupping my cheek to wake me up, or thumbing away tears when I’ve had a panic attack. I told him how better to love me and he did likewise and we just slid right into it… having never known before there was a deficit that we could fix so easily and make the other feel so much more loved.

So is the moral stop being emotionally constipated and just goddamn tell the other person when you need something? That even after 10 years there are still such simple things to learn? Maybe. I dunno. Just some brain worms that’ve been rockin’ in my skull since.

#personal #relationship shit #we were both just broken ass teenagers #and we’ve learned how to people together I guess #but such a small thing #and I can’t stop thinking about it #i love him #writing

[jmdbjk]

What about Tae?

Jimin and Jungkook, Part Three. 

(go back to pt. 2 here)

But what about Vmin? What about Tae? What about soulmates? 

The Vmin subunit. Whether fabricated as an idol group mechanism or whether it’s the real thing, or even if its a little of both...

Your soulmate is your ride or die friend and Jimin and Tae have explicitly made it clear they are that close. If you have or ever had a best friend either now or when you were younger, think about all the intimate things you said or did, your shared secrets, your activities, the implicit trust you had with this person. The freedom you felt  to be yourself when with them. Yet, there may have been some things you still probably didn’t share with them. 

In 2012, I believe I read that Tae was already living in the dorm when Jimin moved in. Jimin and Tae ended up finishing high school together while being trainees, even though Jimin’s time as a trainee was brief compared to most. The early years were fraught with squabbles, stress, anxiety, but these two figured out how to work through it. 

We’ve all heard and seen the evidence of their friendship: Tae possibly having some influence in getting Jimin an invite to join the team and debut... the dumpling fight that they will never live down... Tae’s heartfelt letter to Jimin that he read aloud on the boat during that Bon Voyage in Hawaii... the many times Tae has said “he likes Jimin the most.” Etc.

Confidantes, yes, but not necessarily the one you would open that last layer to when it comes to the vulnerability of physical intimacy. Sometimes you don’t want to give that very last tiny thing to someone...and that’s ok. I think this is what Tae is to Jimin. And maybe Tae is straight...we don’t know. Yes, I went there.

But we’ve seen the physical closeness between Jimin and Tae, right? All the members hug up on each other, lay all over each other and basically have a total disregard for personal space with each other. 

Jimin and Tae have an unhealthy physical relationship for two dudes who are not lovers HAHAHAHAHA. TOO CLOSE FOR COMFORT! But they seem fine with it. It’s very special to witness such a bond between these two.

I know what some are gonna say: “But if all the members hang all over each other all the time, what makes Jimin and Jungkook so special? Why would anyone think they are any different than the rest of the members interactions?”

Because there is still a little extra something that you see between Jimin and Jungkook that is missing between Jimin and Tae... and Jimin and Namjoon, and Jungkook and Jin, and Tae and Jungkook. And though I’m trying really hard to explain it, sometimes it’s unexplainable. It is something you have to detect yourself by watching closely. I’M TRYING TO POINT IT OUT! It gets more obvious as time goes on...just wait...

Though Jungkook and Tae were also best buddies in the early days, they were more like the two neighborhood mischief-makers...whereas Jimin and Jungkook were kindred spirits in their passion for performing.

As happens, time goes on, people mature, attitudes change, life’s circumstances change, relationships evolve...the members of BTS are in their early 20′s...Jungkook is only 20 years old in 2017.

As things evolved with Jimin and Jungkook, most likely Jimin became less accommodating to Tae’s every wish. I think Tae had to deal with the fact his constant companion was being preoccupied with Jungkook. I think Tae watched it all unfold. Perhaps he had to take time to process the KIND of time Jimin and Jungkook were spending together. I think Tae knew from the get-go when “it” happened between Jimin and Jungkook and I think it was a thing Tae had to process to accept. There was some push and pull going on there. 

I think they still all got along well and worked well together because they prioritized their careers. But I imagine there were moments when the testosterone became overbearing between the three. Like here...

At 10:58 in this May 18, 2019 V Live (that I will talk about more in an upcoming part:

At 37:57 in Tae’s “Long time no see” V Live, June 7, 2019:

And then COVID happened and the sudden cancellation of life as we knew it and total isolation that was happening around the world compounded the issue. Everyone was thrown for a loop when the world turned upside down.

Jimin helped bring a perhaps reticent Jungkook to “the talk” that happened during In the Soop when Tae had the idea of trying to “fix” things between he and Jungkook. I don’t know the exact timing of when this was filmed but it was between the beginning of COVID isolation and August of 2020 when the series aired. This reality show is loosely scripted. We don’t know how much of it was pre-planned and how much was spontaneous but some of it was... 

In the Soop, Season 1 aired August 2020. The talk happened in episode 6:

And apparently, they seemed to resolve whatever the wall was between them. To me, Tae and Jungkook’s relationship is very much on the “close brothers” side of the street. I think that’s why there is this “we’re best friends but I want to beat him up” kind of bro vibe you get between Tae and JK sometimes. Not to mention the age difference that exists between them and Jungkook basically saying he wanted to keep honorifics in place with Tae. Having to balance that with the fact Jungkook drops honorifics with Jimin, basically making himself be Jimin’s equal, and therefore Tae’s equal, just adds to the whole touchy dynamic there.

But they seem like they are doing great now.

November 28, 2021, V Live in Los Angeles:

To this day, I think I still see a push and pull between Jungkook and Tae. Bless their male hearts...

As I said, I think 2016-2017 things between Jimin and Jungkook snowballed and in the previous part of this very lengthy dissertation we were at the end of 2017 so now... go to Part Four.

#jikook #kookmin #minkook #male bonding #what is men #trying real hard not to squeal how adorable they are no matter what #relationship shit #can't wait to see what winds up in my inbox over this part

[theghostadrift]

I'm so sick of feeling like what I was asking for in my last relationship was too much. I- *sighs* I just wanted emotional maturity out of someone who clearly didn't have it.

He sent anime images that were lewd to his friend and it bothered me. Instead of stopping that, he thought it was a good idea to stop being friends with this other dude. And made himself depressed. When I clearly explained that them being friends wasn't the problem. The behavior was. But he ended up getting into a call with the friend and the friends GF. He broke up with me. Because I wanted him to be more emotionally mature. And not obsess over 2d women. When he had a tangible person to love.

Oh, he also constantly stonewalled me during arguments. And thought wanting a character that wasn't my own to fuck in our RP was normal.

I just can't believe that he thinks he wasn't the problem.

I wanted him to change for our relationship and himself. He's so obsessed with his fantasy of a idealistic woman that didn't exist.

I gave him my love and consistent support. But the moment I try to put boundaries up, it's an issue.

I keep thinking back to it. And getting mad.

#v tag #ghost talks #relationship shit

[just-a-queer-fanboy]

I'm honestly really scared they're ignoring me to "get back at me" or something, because tbh I really deserve it for not texting them often enough. They've been leaving me on read all day.

#relationship shit #relationship rant #/nbh

[payingrental]

usse kaise btau ki mere khayali pulao ka main ingredient tho vho hi hai 😖

#desi tumblr #desi shit posting #desi teen #just desi things #indian memes #being desi #desi tag #desi people #desi #relationship shit #relationship

[rubenesque-as-fuck]

It has nothing to do with being poly or not, just that you can have a very casual relationship and also be in love with him? You can see him only once a year and be in love with him. And that should be fine, it doesn't have to mean anything, and you shouldn't have to deny your feelings. Poly people just have that word for it, sorry if it was confusing.

Well I'm sorry if you're soooooooo much more evolved than I am, poly anon. It's not confusing, you're just coming off as incredibly judgy and patronizing.

You say it doesn't mean anything, but it does mean something to me. Being able to fully love someone, for me personally, means being in a mutually loving monogamous relationship with that person. But that relationship model also isn't for everyone and I know that. That's ok, to each their own.

But my personal history has shown me over and over and OVER again, I am not good enough for anyone to want a full loving relationship with me. And the idea of going back to trudging through shitty dating apps for like one shitty deadend date per year makes me want to barf. So for now I will take the occasional bit of ass from someone I trust if it's available to me, because that's better than spending another 5-10 years (or longer!) not being touched at all.

He's said multiple times that he isn't ready for a relationship right now. Trying to just force him into a relationship model that neither of us actually want isn't going to help things.

#anon asks #relationship shit #maybe you're trying to help but it's very much coming across as 'well if you were POLY you'd be FINE' #and maybe i would! #like sometimes I honestly wish I was wired for poly but I am just 1000% not #and yes I've tried #i tried for years for my ex because they made it clear it was either be poly or get dumped #and I fucking hated it it made me feel so gross and expendable and cold #and here I don't have to deny my feelings #insomuch as I've already told him I love him #he's just been clear that he cares about me but can't be in a romantic relationship right now #and hey I'm trying to respect that

[thinking-boutyou]

I’ve found it. The perfect spectrum of me, Minnie and Bubble!

If Minnie ever gets hurt or gets in a fight, I think this is how it’s gonna look.

Bubble: Will be tender and try to help Minnie as best as he can while tending Minnie’s wounds, resulting in sentences such as; “Are you hurt? Are you alright? Where does it hurt?” And “Minnie, you should’ve been more careful. Why did you do that when you know you could get hurt?”

AKA Bubble will be an absolute sweetheart about it.

The other side of the spectrum, me, will be a bit more... Demonic

I: Will be furious, ready to kill, resulting in sentences such as; “Who did this to you? Point them out.” And “I will fucking kill them. You can’t hold me back, I’m gonna hurt them 10 times worse.”

AKA I turn into a demon, literally

If I’m wrong, correct me, but I think I’m close.

@puppyboycorner @lovin-afterdark

#why did I post it here.... #idk #it was the first blog that popped up #anyway #relationship shit

[commoncorps3]

kinda feeling like I should never have even gotten close to my gf lol. this e-dating shit is a fucking drag. plus the origin story of our relationship is shady as fuck. ive always been aware of that. but now that I’m like… numb to any nice feelings I thought I had for her…. I’m back to “ok so how do I break up with her” lol. she’s not a great person and I’ve caught her in a lie multiple times lol. she barely messages me anymore in comparison to how we were even like a few weeks ago. Guess she got bored. Just like I thought she would. Happened pretty soon too. idk if it’s even been a month since we officially got together. I’m glad I didn’t actually fall in love with her. That would’ve sucked. Honestly considering that she started flirting with me when she was still dating her ex who knows who else she’s fucking around with rn? probs why she’s barely responding to me. Like i get that she doesn’t owe me quick responses necessarily bc she’s a human but like she knows I’m doing terribly mentally and doesn’t seem to care that much. I asked her if she cared and of course she said she did. I just wanna be like “act like it then???” Yeah I think this little era with her is over. I just gotta figure out how to stop the relationship without a bunch of flack. That’s probably exactly what she’s thinking too tho 🤷 communication issues are like….. an absolute no no for me especially in romantic relationships. Bpd just be like that. I went through hell basically to be with her bc I liked her so much but those feelings are basically gone. not sure if it’s just bc I’ve lost the crush/infatuation/whatever or maybe it’s just my terrible mental health and losing interest in everything rn. Who knows? But I’m done methinks. Hope it doesn’t make shit awkward. I also don’t hope I suddenly get feelings again after things are over. There’s a lot more to say about this that’s on my mind but I’m tired

#stfu lexy #text #relationship shit #don’t bother reading it’s just venting