#romance-favorable culture

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is loving fictional romance and thinking you somehow ruined your chance at having real life romantic relationships and love by consuming too much romantic media and made your expectations too high, but then realising you can't care about your own relationships or have love seem as interesting as it does on tv because you're actually aromantic

.

#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #fictional romance favorable aro culture

[friendlycursedspaceotter]

In vain I have struggled. It will not do. The past few weeks have been a torment. I cannot complete the essay on how Pride and Prejudice combats amatonormativity through the emphasis on familial and sisterly relationships, and also contains extensive evidence for my aroace Mary headcanon and how Jane Austen inadvertently created one of the first queer characters in British media by 11:59 tonight. I have fought against the threat of failure in the class, my worse judgements, and the great admiration of my beloved feminist literature teacher. I am now in need to ask her to put aside all that and end my agony.

I hate this. Most ardently. Please do me the honor of allowing me to make it into a Tumblr post.

#pride and prejudice #the thoughts of lit students everywhere #why do you have to ruin this for me #i mean come on #i mean #i know that the darcy x elizabeth stuff is the focus of the novel #at least in pop culture #but it glosses over so much #including sisterly #platonic #and also #mary's entire journey of full self-actualization #which austen herself glosses over #in favor of the romance #because even then #who would want to read a novel about a protagonist who doesn't like men /s #or even women #/s #which when you think about it #is kind of ironic #given that the entire point of the novel is to question traditional ideas of marriage #that basically a character who is canonically aroace as they can get in the regency era to even exist and to be seen #as valid #worthy of love #and also has some of the greatest lines in the novel #and film adaptations #is really awesome #because if the terms #aromantic #and

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

romance favorable plato repulsed culture is being acutely aware that some people (inaccurately) see your existence as inherently "amatonormative" bc you don't give a shit about friendship but are okay with dating people/engaging in romance

#actually plato repulsed #apl #aplatonic #aplspec #friendship repulsed #aspec #friendship repulsion #plato repulsed #plato repulsion #queer #aplphobia #actually aplatonic #nonfriending apl #romance favorable plato repulsed #romance favorable #platonic repulsed #platonormativity #plato-repulsed-culture-is #plato repulsed culture is

[somnesca]

Didn't want to post it in the reblog or tags but LRT I think it's upsetting that Mina's devotion to Jonathan in his lowest state is, in the wider cultural osmosis, ignored or even sneered at, as though a strong woman eagerly choosing to be caretaker for a traumatized "weak" man is inherently anti-feminist. I mean how do you read the reunion/marriage letters as anything but the most genuinely heartfelt and romantic? How do you then still think Dracula is the more deserving love interest? Only if you subscribe to the idea that Jonathan is undeserving of Mina's love in that scene...and you can only see that through the lens of ableism and toxic masculinity.

Idk man. In the book I read this scene feels like the crux of the theme of love conquering fear. Mina sees how some unknown terror has nearly hollowed out her fiance, but instead of being in the least bit daunted or disappointed, she just loves him even harder. And that's the turning point for Jonathan, toward healing and recovery and ultimately empowerment to defeat the source of his trauma once and for all. We don't get there without that unhesitating "in sickness and in health" love from Mina.

And to be clear, she has more to offer to the narrative than loving Jonathan, but it's an important part of her character too. This unquestioning, unwavering earnestness. It's one of her many superpowers, and it's a disgrace that so many interpretations will discard or disbelieve it.

#jonathan harker #mina harker #when i talk about cultural osmosis i do mean a general mix of perceptions by adaptations and some academics #and this is such a beautiful little scene that to my knowledge is often cast aside in favor of some other conceived 'romance' for mina #but she made her choice! it couldn't be any clearer! #dracula daily

[traitorsinsalem]

2am: fandom shipper brain is detrimental to storytelling and approaching art and media with that mindset perpetuates a manufactured, consumerist, and unattainable idealistic mindset to the very personal and varied ideas of narrative fiction and interpersonal romance

2pm: listening to my bandana dee x king dedede playlist on the bus to the doctor's office ✌️👍💙🧡

#succ speaks #mostly because kirby is a baby game #yes it has crazy ass themes regarding religion however 8 year olds playing star allies aren't pausing for lore in spicy mode #when we start talking about things like the half of it that's where i draw the line #because people whined that it wasn't 'gay enough' because grown adults cared more about another teenage romance but gay this time #than they did about exploring the feeling of being a perpetual outsider as a kid and having to save multiple faces at once #which methinks is the sort of thing people mean when they criticise fandom for being 'too white' or 'obsessed with the surface level' #because most of the themes that go ignored in favor of 'shipping culture' are related to class race gender religion ability and immigration #but idc if someone cares more about marxolor than the insane intentional christian themes in magolor's 2011 betrayal and 2023 redemption #because kirby is a baby game and the themes of religion and redemption aren't meant for audiences to consider and reflect personally on #they're meant for the huge fucking nerd fans that hal knows love to analyze lore crumbs in the pink circle nintendo game 👍

[aroaceconfessions]

Came out to my dad last night. He was completely accepting.

Still worried about a bunch of things, like marriage. There's a very spesific culture around mariage in my country. And while even as aroace I don't mind getting married (cupioromantic) I'm really worried about sex. How am I going to know where I stand on sex if I can't have sex before marriage? (I REALLY can't)

What if I get married and find out I'm sex repulsed? My spouse could devorce me for that. And the effects that could have on my social life??? I don't even want to think a out it.

But hey, at least I know my parents will be on my side either way.

#coming out #aromantic #asexual #aroace #arospec #acespec #aspec #aroacespec #arose #cupioromantic #romance favorable #sex repulsed #purity culture

[romo-aro-culture-is]

Romance favorable culture is not knowing if you can use the mlm flag if you don’t feel romantically/sexually attracted to men, but would still like some form of relationship with them. (Does alterous attraction count?)

of course you can!

#romance favorable aro culture #romo aro culture #romance favorable culture #romance favorable aromantic #romance favorable aro #romance favorable #romoaro culture #romoaro culture is #romo aro culture is

[aegoromantic-culture-is]

Could an Aegoromantic be romance-favorable or romance-indifferent?

I realized that most aego people I’ve seen online are often repulsed or averse to any form of real life romantically-coded activities, relationships, or affection directed at them and Only enjoy seeing it in media/happen to other people.

But even though I relate a lot to aegoromanticism, I’ve

Had “romantic relationships” when I was younger (I tended to mistake platonic attraction for romantic attraction but I was generally okay with the idea of “being in a relationship”- I didn’t actively seek it out but I liked the idea because I wanted closeness), and

Even though nowadays I recognize that I don’t necessarily desire a romantic relationship (I’d prefer a QPR), I like and even want some of the emotional and sensual things/affections that are often associated with romantic relationships which therefore could be seen as romantically-coded.

So, I was wondering if there are any aegoromantic people who actually enjoy romantic relationships/affections/activities in real life (even if they don’t have an active desire for it/don’t experience romantic attraction/have a preference for “romance” in fantasy or fictional scenarios)? OR at least just don’t mind it (neither uncomfortable/repulsed or enthusiastic)?

I'm sure there are some aegos who enjoy engaging in/are indifferent to romantic activities, it is a spectrum after all. But I think they may be harder to find because they seem to be a smaller part of the community.

#aegoromantic culture is #aro #aegoromantic #aromantic #actually aegoromantic #aegoromantic culture #romance favorable #romance indifferent

[aro-yearning-culture-is]

Aro yearning culture is having a lot of reader inserts in your quotev library.

yep

#aro yearning culture is #arospec #romance neutral #romance favourable #romance favorable

[meistoshi]

<- you can in fact fake this level of oblivious

#seeing the romance meme on dash n giggling #granted satoshi's only 100% sure abt One reciprocated case but he's doing a great job pretending he doesnt know jack nor shit #whats a relationship never heard of one never seen one sounds fake that's just one of those Bits that Takeshi throws at every girl he sees #(ok well i mean. actually. satoshi's never had anyone in his life that's been in a long-term-still-ongoing happy relationship. till alola.) #(so like--) #no we're being SILLY now shush brain #anyway vague hand motions his weird dumb issues about commitment & abandonment & yada yada #as he is right now mfer will deny & repress anything & everything even remotely romantic #brain dipping into serious again here but smth smth how this too is an extension of his selfishness bc hes incapable of standing still #except if it's to do with pkmn or battle. then he'll stay as long as need be. but Another Person????? no can do he's gotta run #he thinks hes doing ppl a favor bc he thinks he'd make for a lackluster boyfriend but he's not even giving anyone the Chance to test this #rattling him </3 #anyway dash funee tee hee #ooc. pkmn is autistic culture.

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is loving romance in movies/books, but you can't imagine yourself in those situations. it's just too unrealistic.

.

#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #fictional romance favorable aro culture

[botanicalsword]

Venus ✧ how you pursue love and beauty ♡⁀➷

Where Venus is located, that house is the area where we easily find satisfaction and happiness, a field where the energy of love and beauty manifests.

☽✧. ❦ • ✧• .✧ ✞

♡ Venus in the 1st House

This brings a beautiful appearance and a gentle personality to the Houser - They are skilled at dressing themselves and have good taste and temperament. They generally make a good first impression. Even if their genetics are not strong, they have great fashion and makeup skills.

♡ Venus in the 2nd House

Houser with this placement have a pursuit of a good life, and their way of earning money is related to art or luxury goods. They are willing to spend money to improve their quality of life as long as they are not severely afflicted by Saturn. Usually, they can easily earn money, and their quality of life is quite high. However, if they are heavily afflicted by Saturn, they may easily become materialistic or even take loans to consume luxury items.

♡ Venus in the 3rd House

People with this placement are interested in art or emotional intelligence. Generally, their communication style is pleasant and gives people a refreshing feeling. They have a great sense of aesthetics and tend to be specialist in the field of beauty. It is very comfortable talking with them without much pressure.

♡ Venus in the 4th House

This position indicates a strong concern for the home environment. They have high requirements for comfortable living and enjoy spending money on decoration and arranging their living environment. In childhood, they often come from families with love or artistic heritage tendencies.

♡ Venus in the 5th House

People with this placement have a strong sense of love and know how to indulge in romance and pleasure. They seek to experience and appreciate the beautiful things in life, such as art and music. They often have a good relationship with children as well. The 5th house represents children and Venus, a planet associated with femininity.

♡ Venus in the 6th House

In this position, the work atmosphere is usually good, or the work is related to art and beauty. Additionally, this is the house of health. Venus placed here can easily lead to problems due to unhealthy or indulgent habits. Venus is not a planet of discipline but rather seeks beauty, so it is natural to indulge in things like drinking milk tea occasionally - attention should be paid regarding healthcare.

♡ Venus in the 7th House

This position is quite favorable. The native understands interpersonal relationships well and has high emotional intelligence. They are particularly good at making themselves comfortable through one-on-one relationships, whether it is finding a partner or a business collaborator who can make their life better. However, they should be cautious not to develop a mindset of pleasing or appeasing others too much, nor should they become overly dependent or immersed in relationships.

♡ Venus in the 8th House

This position is beneficial for financial investments. They are adept at utilizing collective resources and have a keen sense. They often have good luck in inheritance and are interested in mysterious matters. They tend to have a deeper understanding of things.

♡ Venus in the 9th House

This is a sign of having exotic love affairs. People with Venus in 9th House are easily attracted to people from different cultural backgrounds and are likely to encounter romance and adventure during foreign or long-distance travels. They also enjoy different cultures and artistic topics. They are experts in discussing popular brands from abroad.

♡ Venus in the 10th House

They are highly concerned about their public image. They channel the energy of love and beauty into their careers and spread love and beauty to the public. They tend to work in industries, such as wedding photography, beauty salons, cosmetic procedures, makeup artistry, and image consulting, all of which are fields dedicated to spreading beauty.

♡ Venus in the 11th House

This benefits forming collaborations with like-minded people. People with Venus in the 11th house are often popular in groups, and they are skilled at finding common ground and creating a harmonious atmosphere. They tend to have many friends and acquaintances.

♡ Venus in the 12th House

This is a hidden placement, it often indicates the hidden traits of Venus. On one hand, people with this placement tend to be reserved in matters of the heart, which may lead to unrequited love or similar experiences. This can be used for understanding, but not for definitive judgments. Additionally, people with this placement have a good sense of art and often possess a unique charm.

☽✧. ❦ • ✧• .✧ ✞

>> Masterlist | explicit contents

#astro community #astro posts #astrology #astro #astro observations #astrology placement #overlays #synastry #synastry observations #loa #venus aspects #mars venus #venus signs #composite venus #venus synastry #venus mars #venus #8 house synastry #loa tumblr #astro placements #astrology placements #astrology notes #astrology observations #loa blog #astro memes #8h synastry #mars synastry

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

romo favorable plato repulsed culture is not wanting be friends with people but having the vague understanding that thats how people typically get together.

yeah.. I think the main reason I don't have this issue currently is because my partners are apl and Im sexuromantic alloaro and was sexual partners w two of my partners before we started dating. But this was a worry I had when I didn't have partners, and I just want to add that there are other people who don't require friendship in order to date someone. It is frustrating that ppl act like being friends first is the only 'healthy' way to date someone, when thats not even required for mutual respect or respecting boundaries or proper communication, etc.

#platonormativity #romo favorable plato repulsed #romo favorable #romance favorable #romance favorable plato repulsed #-Rift #plato repulsed #plato repulsed culture is #actually plato repulsed #apl #aplatonic #aspec #aplspec #friendship repulsed #friendship repulsion #plato repulsion #queer #aplatonic spectrum #actually aplatonic #I hope I didnt go too off topic w this one but yeah #nonfriending #nonfriending apl #friendship mention

[modernelites-if]

Modern Elites is a 18+ raunchy slice-of-life IF that follows you, a young royal, navigating the world of the obscenely rich and immensely famous while trying to keep your elite, royal family together in the midst of drama and tabloids.

Setting: modern times, fictional tiny country of Selusa, New York, Paris and more.

Genre: slice-of-life, drama, romance

Celebrity. Pop Culture Icon. Heir.

Royal.

As the heir to the Selusan throne, you're known by many names. Growing under the spotlight hasn't been easy, especially since it seems the vultures all want a piece of your elusive family. Country clubs, yachts, parties, private jets, elite schools, you've had it all.

But is there something missing?

Customize your heir from appearance to gender identity to personality. Dictate what kind of person they are: rebellious, dutiful. Do they care about the royal line or are parties more on their mind? Will you keep a squeaky clean rep or ruin the family name?

Customize Salusa and cater the country to your taste.

Dictate what kind of leader you want to be, and how others percieve you.

Experience the life of the hidden .01% and the drama of the ultra wealthy.

Engage in fiery, dramatic romances that could either uplift or ruin you and your family.

and more to come.

THE ADVISOR

Imogen/Ian Lancaster [f/m]- your family's advisor and publicist. I has cleaned up every mess, every leak, every scandal and at this point, there are no secrets between your family and them. Coming from a well-off family themselves, they know exactly how this world works...and they navigate it with a steel will and a cold, detached demeanor. I has you handled like an adult with a child, trying (and probably failing) to keep you in line. Anything you do will go through them, so it's better to think twice.

THE BETROTHED

Everett/Eva St. Clare [m/f] - the eldest of one of the most influential businessmen on your side of the world, black sheep, and a source of gossip in polite society, there have been talks of a betrothal between you two since the partnership started. Because of that, you two are forced into a fake romance for the cameras. E is an arrogant and brash casanova, sex-obsessed, and is proudly noncommital with string of rumors that follow them like their own entourage. Unfortunately for you, E's exploits can damage the carefully constructed facade you two have built. Of course, E doesn't give a damn.

THE REBEL

Vince/Vivian De Grasso [m/f] - (secretly) fresh out of jail and newly reformed (not) V's politician of a mother has asked in a favor from your family: to reform them and stifle their rebellious ways by adding them to your security detail. Your father having a soft spot for the kid, brings them in as one of your guards. Hopefully V keeps in line...or not.

THE COMMONER

Cordelia/Corden Bowen [f/m]- an employee at the country club you frequent, someone less polite would call them a 'nobody.' C has a bit of an attitude, but that's expected from someone who is used to getting berated by rich people all day. There's not much else to say about them...or maybe there is?

THE JOURNALIST

Romi Marshall [m/f]- a famed journalist with contempt for royalty and elitism. Their newsletters frequently slam you and your family's every move, and they don't like you one bit. You can confidently say they're your biggest hater.

THE ROYAL BEST FRIEND

Oliver/Olivia Ames-Astor [m/f]- a fellow prince/princess from another country and your best friend, who is still hung up on their ex. Forced to betroth someone else, O has so many problems you can hardly sort through them. Still, they're kind and as polite as you'd expect from a person who has had etiquette lessons drilled into them since childhood. They're also your best friend, so there's that.

#interactive fiction #interactive story #interactive novel #interactive game #cog #choice of games #dashing don #choices #cog wip #interact-if #interactive

[iberiantalesif-game]

Genres: Heavy romance, Fall of your entire culture, Ancient history slice of life, Found family

Rating : 16+ for depictions of violence, mature themes and language. (List to be expanded on)

Summary

Life was once tranquil on the isolated coast of your city, surrounded by a loving family and promising prospects for success in your societal position. However, tranquility shattered when the Romans emerged victorious in the Punic War against Carthage, signaling the impending demise of the Iberian people.

As flames engulf your city, escape becomes the only viable option, if luck favors you enough to evade the soldiers blocking your path that is.

Yet, amidst the chaos, you realize that the existence of a stray and that of a Roman slave may not be so disparate.

If the gods truly have a plan for you, their track record thus far suggests they're not worthy of your trust either. But when a fate worse than death is upon your door, you really cant get picky can't you?

Features!

Assume the role of a member of an Iberian civilization dwelling along the coast.

Customize your protagonist's background as a warrior, priest, or noble, shaping both personality and appearance.

Flee from the Romans (or choose otherwise) and embark on a quest to find a new place to call home.

Reconnect with or forge new bonds to create your newfound family, if circumstances allow.

Decide between preserving your culture from extinction or embracing the dawn of new societal norms, and confront the repercussions of your choices.

Engage in romantic pursuits with one of the available romance options. (Witch will be expanding as the game develops and progresses)

The RO´s Cast

Theodosius (Theo) Aurelius [He/Him]

Theo resembles his father´s features, tall, blond and with eyes coloured by the sea. He also has a cold temperament and a tendency to keep people at arm's length.

But being a powerful Roman family heir might make him a good ally. The truth is that you have no option but to please him or his father who bought you, all in hopes of a change of fortune. Or so you tell yourself, as the cold man shows you a mercy not proper of Romans. Maybe they are not as beastly as you thought after all?

Tropes: Snow Prince with warm heart, Fake love to Soulmates.

Eon[He/Him]

Eon is a huge man, with signature red hair, heavily tanned skin and a green stare. So is his entire family, a mercenary group from the northern city of Numantine.

With a world of differences in between and a war that has shaken the safety of the entire peninsula, he is as good a bet on survival as it gets. But when the times can't seem rougher, this giant man offers a sweetness that you have rarely known amidst despair, maybe one strong enough to survive hunger?

Tropes: Buffed fluff/could kill and is a cinnamon roll.

#if game #interactive novel #if wip #interactive game #choicescript #dashingdon

[yanderenightmare]

I have an honest question and I don't want to sound rude or anything at all but what's so interesting about CNC. Like I see people hype it up but to me it just feels like romanticizing r4pe..I'm not really into CNC so I can't talk bad or downplay whatever they do but I'm just asking because I want to understand it better.

A question I, by no means, can answer perfectly. However, in the spirit of philosophy and amateur psychology, I will lay unto you, ye who have keen ears, my theories.

Now, I am in no way a psychiatrist. However, as I am a woman who does a great deal of fantasizing and further thinking of what I fantasize about, I thought I might assume the role of a sexologist as it is no protected title.

I’ve long wondered why we (women) fantasize about things that would appall us if manifested in reality. It makes little sense that an act so ruining in practice should make us feel fulfilled when the mere thought of it is humored.

In the vast complexities of psychology, no matter how much I drink of its depths, I can’t seem to get my fill enough to understand it. Trying to figure out female arousal is like pulling hair from a clogged gutter and trying to undo all the knots. It’s a web of contradictions.

However…

First theory – there are cultural reasons. If we accept the inbuilt instincts of old and the instincts we adopt through media while growing up – all in all, the great history of aggressive men dominating passive women – we are conditioned to accept that this is what romance looks like.

Second theory – there are the emotional reasons. The "Beauty and the Beast" motif – featuring classic co-dependency. Women submit to abuse because we have an inbuilt need to nurture others – so when we love men who require to abuse and own us in order to love us, we somehow forget to protect ourselves in favor of loving them, which in this case means allowing them to abuse and own us. It's warped.

Third theory – there are psychological reasons. In fantasies and writing or viewing, we get to reframe traumatic experiences in a positive light or rework traumatic experiences in a safe environment – a form of psychological self-defense, much like Stockholm Syndrome or a type of self-inflicted Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

Fourth theory – research has also been conducted regarding physiological reasons. Here, we have another inbuilt self-defense mechanism – a seldom talked-about phenomenon – which shows that women tend to become physically aroused when they sense any possibility of sexual aggression in their environment – in order to lower their chance of injury if they are raped.

Through all this, I believe one can narrow fantasies of rough or non-consensual sex into something as paradoxical and polar as having a wish for control and a wish to relent oneself of it. And coming to this conclusion, I realized that such is the pursuit of many, even in endeavors not of the erotic kind.

Humans wish to have control just as much as humans disdain having control. This is why BDSM (bondage, domination, sadism, masochism) kinks and fetishes are found in some shape or form in nearly every romantic or sexual relationship in existence. You’ll have the dominant partner wishing to achieve control over a submissive partner wishing to relinquish control through such means of domination, humiliation, pain, and pleasure.

But it’s more complex than that, isn’t it? 

Yes. Because, contradictory – a submissive partner may wish for control, and a dominant partner may wish to lose it. Human beings are an unyielding paradox where we flex across contrasting aims with no means to an end.

Yes, we wish for control, yet disdain having it. Perhaps we find the answer to this paradox in maintaining control by losing it?

Moreover… how does this relate to nonconsensual sex fantasies?

Here, we get a fifth theory containing the ego – a spin-off of a kind from the third theory. Here we find the wish for control, where, in the lustful fantasy realm, non-consensual sex bolsters a woman's feelings of seductiveness and desirability in the way it has the power to make a man lose his decency and self-control, driving him to commit crimes of passion despite ill consequences of losing his pride and honor as a man – also, ultimately, risking getting sent to prison. 

Put simply, some women enjoy the idea of being irresistible enough to drive even a good man crazy. The thought of being attractive enough to make a man love-sick and the power and control that follows it is, in this case, a turn-on.

A sixth theory – another spin-off from the third theory – is that fantasies of rape allow women to reduce the distress associated with sex, as they are not, in this scenario, responsible for what occurs. Moreover, the logic here states that when one is forced into something, they’ll have a lesser need to feel guilt or shame about acting out their own sexual desires.

Put simply, some women wish to maintain their innocence despite having carnal desires only satiated by means of sinful acts. 

This begs another question.

Is this a lingering feeling of guilt and shame around female sexuality?

Of course! Women are constantly met with disdain when open about their sluttiness.

So, are fantasies of nonconsensual sex a type of projection they do because of this?

In some cases, yes!

Transferring our own sexual desires unto another gives us permission to act them out without feeling guilty or dirty – because, inside this fantasy, it isn’t us committing the indecencies.

... Okay then...

Summing up theories five and six:

Control. To feel wanted, lusted for, obsessed over, and coveted by others. The power of driving someone to lovesick desire, a frenzied state, where they would do anything, even illegal, to have you. Additionally, despite such harsh cases of ego, wanting none of the responsibility for it, wanting to be free of sin, to maintain innocence and purity in light of such dark desires.

Or is there a seventh theory? One found in our idyllic construct of freedom – this aimless goal of ours to make ourselves appreciate breathing – done by balancing the electric powerline between having and losing control.

Is it this act of switching places, the attraction and pull, the stimuli and response, the attack and retaliation? In the chaos of contradictions and uncertainty, we find a thrill that occupies our otherwise hibernating minds – bored to the degree that we become machines in our daily programs. 

Is it simply that we need a little extremity as a remedy for our dull lives?

Do we fall in love with illegal things simply because we are denied them? Simply because they’re illegal? Self-harm, drug use, gambling, murder, rape…

Are these things a part of us? And are we, without them, left feeling unfulfilled? Is The Purge perhaps onto something vitally important? A cure for boredom, this mediocrity that leaves us feeling so blue?

I think, if I were to find a comparison, it’s quite similar to the blind bounds of excitement others ascend to in the midst of playing violent video games. The rush of falling in and out of enemy territory, of danger and safety, from being a predator to becoming the prey, of victory and defeat, of chasing death only to be comforted by one’s remaining life – because in reality, you're safe and sound in front of a screen.

Also, in other cases - rollercoasters, horror movies, extreme sports, etc...

Yes, the wish to trip in and out of control isn’t limited to the realm of lust but is present in most aspects of life. We find it in extreme cases such as drugs, gambling, gaming, relationships, and in other subtle cases of professions and work.

If you don’t like it, that’s your business, and I wish you the best of luck in lust elsewhere.

On another note – and such another warning and disclaimer – I want you not to accept my tales of lust as love stories. Personally, I think hints of toxic displays such as jealousy, obsession, and possession in a partner are natural – but – a difference is made when such feelings become restricting to a degree you no longer feel free. I implore you to make such distinctions for yourself when regarding yourself – and, in extreme cases, when regarding others.

In said regard, I do not condone the events nor the actions of the characters in my stories – neither offender nor victim. Don’t allow yourself to fall prey to toxic partners! The signs are always there – keep a weathered eye out for them.

And no, I’m not blaming those who’ve allowed themselves to stay in toxic relationships. I, myself, am guilty of that. But I won’t excuse my poor judgment either. You know when something doesn’t feel right. We shouldn’t blur the lines of right and wrong in the name of love – or whatever else we may lend our self-control to – such as religion, culture, family, societal pressure, etc...

You are in control. Don’t forget it. And don’t allow anything else to become the case.

#nightmare rambles #discussion