#romance favourable

[yardsards]

(anyone who identifies themself as aromantic is allowed to answer this, regardless of sexual orientation or where exactly on the arospec you fall)

#eliot posts #polls #aromantic #aro #aroace #aroallo #romance repulsed #romance neutral #romance favourable #romance favorable #i'm just curious about community demographics

[aromanticduck]

#asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #aromantic asexual #sex repulsed #romance repulsed #sex indifferent #romance indifferent #sex favourable #romance favourable #ace things #aro things #polls #organic home grown content

[dreaming-like-a-girl]

When we're a queerplatonic couple on Valentine's Day and we hold hands at the cinema and have lunch at our favourite greek takeout and the owner gives us free sweets then we browse Good Games for our dnd needs and an employee compliments our rings and outfits and then we go home and build Lego flowers while listening to Hozier

#qpr #queerplatonic #queerplatonic relationship #alterous attraction #alterous #lgbtqia+ #qpp #love #queerplatonic partner #transgender #valentines day #aspec #romance favourable #sex favourable #demisexual #demiromantic #aroace #acearo #lgbtq #trans #transmasc

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

questioning arospec culture is not being romance favorable, neutral, or repulsed but a secret fourth thing (too many positive feelings on romance to be repulsed too many negative feelings to be favorable and too many Feelings to be neutral. romance questionable.)

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#questioning aspec culture is #aromantic #romance favourable #romance neutral #romance repulsed #love the term 'romance questionable' anon lmao #lgbtqia+ #queer

[aroxbetchio]

ppl like to make jokes abt straight ppl being in denial abt being gay and it’s typically used through bad examples. like aesthetic attraction, sexual draw, obsession, etc etc. thing is, i’ve experienced almost every example ppl use to make these jokes, and i turned out to be aromantic and asexual. romantic and even sexual attraction don’t tend to be something you can just tell. when i was 12, i started getting libido, sexual draw, and sexual fantasies. and for almost my whole life, i hyperfixated on people, and i deeply wanted to be friends with others. this isn’t meant to hate on any creators , and i’m not trying to make a big issue out of this, im js saying i always found it a bit weird. so often these jokes took experiences that were so similar to my own and twisted them to be romantic in nature. it took a long time for me to realize i was aromantic, and even longer to realize i was asexual. and apart of the reason was because i thought obsession and aesthetic attraction were romantic, so i spent a long time being in denial. so it feels kinda stupid to me sometimes idk

#lmk if this doesn’t make a lot of sense it’s kinda js a rant/vent #i’m not rlly that good at organizing my thoughts #elliot’s posts 🐍 #aromantic #cupioromantic #asexual #aegosexual #lithosexual #fictosexual #aromid #acespec #arospec #romance favourable #sex favourable #aro #ace #aspec #lgbt #lgbtq #queer #lgbtq+ #lgbtqia #lgbtqa #lgbtqi #aegoace

[dearimasu]

im aromantic so the concept of romance is like. watching a youtube playthrough. and brother i fucking love playthroughs (<- romance favourable)

#aro #aromantic #aroace #romance favorable #romance favourable #pst

[aro-yearning-culture-is]

aro yearning culture is having the hugest squish on one of your friends but being scared to ask them to be your qpp because you don't want them to think you're into them romantically. ugh.

#ughhh i have the biggest squish on one of my friends but he has a bf so i dont want to make it weird or anything #aro yearning culture is #romance favourable #romance neutral #queerplatonic attraction #queerplatonic relationship

[starlighz]

Alastor and Rosie are THE romance-repulsed and romance-favourable aro besties to me

#hazbin hotel #alastor #rosie #rosie hazbin hotel #alastor hazbin hotel #aroace alastor #alastor aroace #asexual alastor #aromantic alastor #romance repulsed alastor #aroace rosie #aromantic rosie #asexual rosie #romance favourable rosie #hazbin hotel alastor #hazbin alastor #hazbin hotel rosie #hazbin rosie

[the-great-kraken]

if you see a male character kiss a male character, you assume they are gay.

if you see a female character kiss a female character, you assume they are a lesbian.

if you hear a character say they don't feel like their gender, you assume they are trans.

so why do a-spec characters have to jump through so many loops?

a character saying they've never had a crush or don't want a relationship or that they don't understand romantic love is so often ignored or used as fodder for other queer or autistic headcanons (reinforcing stereotypes that aroace people are secretly gay or always autistic)

why is it that our stories are always "up to interpretation"? why do we have to wait for the words aromantic or asexual to be said to be taken seriously? why is it that even when characters say they don't want relationships, fans will scream and cry about sex/romance favourable aspecs and qprs?

when it comes to gay and trans characters, even the likes of bisexual lighting is often treated as though it canonises their sexuality. for aroace characters, even the most explicit coding possible is swept under the rug in favour of other "interpretations"

i'm so tired of fighting for representation just to have it ignored and minimised by fans. let characters be aroace. please.

#obviously there are a ton of circumstances where the qpr and sex/romance favourable is completely fine #but when characters explicity say they dont have sex or dont want relationships it feels so hollow #fandom is fandom and there is nothing i can do to stop you shipping or writing smut or headcanoning or whatever #but please just think it through. the characters aren't real but there are so many geniunely harmful ideas doing stuff like this reinforces #rhi rambles #aroace #aromantic #asexual #a-spec #a spec #aspec #aro #ace #aspec representation #asexual representation #aromantic representation #lgbtq+ #queer

[confused-disaster32]

Hi! So you can call this a rant or a vent or whatever I don't rlly care - I just wanted to put some of my opinions out there bc it is eating me inside out to keep my opinions on Alastor's sexuality and all of the discourse about him being shipped to myself.

Also i'd like to state that I'm writing this as someone who is aroace but has no actual wish to be in a romantic relationship and actually struggles to so much as picture what that's be like for myself. I would also like to state how I'm not speaking for the whole community and others will have different opinions to myself.

Firstly - aroace is a spectrum (as someone who is on the aroace spectrum btw) and I completely agree with ppl who say that it is a spectrum and shipping has always existed and you can't rlly stop an entire fandom. My only problem is when ppl completely ignore that he is aroace while doing this, bc to me it seems like there's so much potential to having him have to go through those types of emotions and to write him off as if he's completely allo not only can make some people feel unseen but also just isn't as fun.

Also I kind of believe that he'd possibly date someone for the entertainment - like even if he didn't exactly feel romantic attraction maybe he'd be willing to be around someone closely bc he might like the reactions he'd be getting. (example: he might've stayed in a relationship with Vox maybe not out of pure attraction but if he found out that affection could make the TV short-circuit? He'd be interested)

Adding to that, I personally do not actually ship him with anyone romantically due to his character + the fact that I am projecting my own distaste for romance on him but you do you ig.

Also, on the note of nsfw around him - sometimes you cannot stop a fandom, rule 34 exists and some people who are asexual sometimes may want to have sex and all of that stuff. Personally I think he'd probably be sex-repulsed due to the fact that he canonically has issues with being touched.

ALSO, i personally think that way too many people are brushing over the idea of putting Alastor in a QPR - like that would literally be so awesome.

Alastor x Rosie? Cute af (to me Rosie gives of aro vibes too, but more romance - favourable) like they're already besties and honestly I think that Rosie would defo help him figure out about his identity considering that he's quite obviously not all that sure about slang and stuff.

Vox x Alastor - It has the potential to be SO FUCKING FUN like, you get to experiment with how they feel for each other, maybe what Alastor's got going on bc he died before being aroace was rlly a thing and he'd be confused about how he felt about Vox for sure.

Lucifer x Alastor - I quite like it, ik that Lucifer is supposed to be with Lillith but she did take an extremely long hiatus on her family up in heaven so i think it's okay. Plus the idea of them bonding and becoming close due to Charlie is wonderful.

Even angel and Alastor - maybe after Val Angel doesn't want a super sexual relationship - maybe he's not all that interested in something purely romantic either and though I love huskerdust this would still be pretty cool.

Really all I'm saying is; be considerate. Incorporate the fact that Alastor is Aroace, even if you do ship him - in or out of QPRs - and ofc sometimes writing someone who is part of a group ur not in is difficult (coming from someone who often struggles in writing especially when it comes to romance) but taking a crack at it might actually turn out to be rlly cool.

But please don't ignore his aroace-ness, there's not a huge amount of aroace characters out there and acting like someone isn't can be annoying for ppl who want to find rep around their identity, esp if they haven't seen much before (I can relate and he was one of the first aroace characters I was introduced to after I found out what it meant).

So yeah, that's my piece.

#hazbin hotel #aromantic alastor #asexual alastor #aroace alastor #TW: opinions #Alastor is my fav character and I need to put my opinions about him somewhere #SHIPPING IS FINE JUST DO IT RESPECTFULLY AND DON'T TRY AND ERASE SOMEONE'S SEXUALITY OR ROMANTIC ORIENTATION #alastor in qpr #put this man in a qpr #pls #I literally can find only like 1 fic of him in a qpr from like 2020 #someone make this content - I need it horribly #alastor and rosie's qpr is canon in my heart #they'd be adorable #like charlie's supportive aunt and uncle #or an extra set of parents for her idk #personally believe that alastor is sex-repulsed and not interested in romance #sex-repulsed alastor #also headcanon rosie as aroace #she's romance favourable and alastor is romance non-favourable #they're still besties tho

[mcrfanfic-screenshots]

oh i maggicaly appeared.

#now maggicaly dissapear do me a favour #mcr #my chemical romance #mcr tumblr #mcrblr #my chem romance #mcr memes #fanfic #mcr tag #my chemical fucking romance #old youtube #mcr fanfiction #mcr fandom #fanfiction #frank iero

[welcometogrouchland]

I love Steph's origin as told in the Secret Origins 80 page giant- I just overall think it strengthens her character by giving her a lot of pathos and adding to her heroism (which isn't something writers were focused on in her actual intro in detective comics #647 since she was just meant to act as a plot device back then) BUT there is one tiny detail in it i will begrudge, and that is the portrayal of her having a minor love at first sight moment for tim

Secret origins 80 page giant, ID in alt

(or well, technically this was their second meeting in that story (the brick was the first) so...love at second sight?)

Mostly because Stephanie showed no interest in her introduction and only showed romantic feelings towards Tim AFTER this moment here:

Robin (1993) #4, ID in alt

Straight up the progression here goes:

The adventure in 'tec where they first meet -> Tim investigating the same crime scene as Steph -> she beats him up not knowing it's him at first, apologizes but says he shouldn't have scared her -> he remembers her/the moniker she goes by -> they talk about plot for a few pages -> Stephanie starts flirting

Robin (1993) #4, ID in alt

Which...is so fascinating to me and says so much about Stephanie. She highlights the fact that Tim "remembered" her. Like. Steph. Girl. This is our bar? It's sweet but kind of speaks to how much Stephanie is ignored at home/how little and sporadically she's shown interacting with her peers (and rarely ever the same kids twice). Her idea of peak romance is just...being on someone's mind even when you're not there.

Kind of also adds layers to Steph's proclivity towards jealousy later on, a manifestation of her insecurity and loneliness (though don't get it twisted, she's not written this way bc Dixon and co think it's an interesting character flaw, they wrote it bc they think it's an inherent character flaw of (particularly young) women/girls, which is very apparent in how he approaches Ariana's character as well from what I've read)

Also the fact that Steph becomes so smitten for Tim almost immediately after this is (a few issues later she aggressively flirts with him during AN ACTIVE HOSTAGE SITUATION. WHERE SHE'S THE HOSTAGE) again is kind of a mixture of kind of funny and sad. One boy is nice to her once and she's fully ready to wife him. Girl you are deranged (affectionate) (concerned)

#ramblings of a lunatic #dc comics #stephanie brown #tim drake #timsteph #meta #< ??? ig #robin 1993 #made this post and forgot to finish. saved it in drafts. saw posts that annoyed me. proceeded to finish it #the subset of fans who think they're doing a righteous feminism by giving steph more flaws than she has in canon...headaches #yes flawed female characters are important representation no i dont think you projecting chuck dixons conservative values onto her- #-is doing her character a great favour. if so you need to commit to the bit and make tim a stone cold nark /j #sorry okay im done vaguing. there's real things going on in the world that matter. the bad take is the mind killer etc etc #anyway the zero to 100 progression of early timsteph is fascinating. on the one hand i know it's mostly a product of its time #both in terms of portrayals of romance (esp teen romance) and partially of women and girls by dixon (not extremely boy obsessed- #-but there's a. dark shadow of the boy crazy trope. a gentle whiff of it in the air. just a little) #but bc this aspect isn't blatantly/egregiously author bias i choose to analyse it #i could also analyse how steph in general is portrayed as liking guys she can't/shouldn't have a little #(her crush on the much older detective in bg2009 and also tim a little bit w/ the secret identity thing) #(but that's a whole other discussion. also that aspect of the romance in bg2009 is. also a little sexistly motivated- #-and also dropped part way through to an extent so like..not exactly ripe for analysis) #ANYWHO i love you Steph <3 you're unwell and yet so adorable and compelling Steph <3

[pens-personal]

Listen I'm a big shipper and you can ship pretty much whoever you want imo but if you insist on shipping a canonically aromantic character I do not fucking trust you

#just. don't. #“oh but aros can have relationships” okay?? great good for them #but do you actually care about arospecs or are you just using that as an excuse? #y'all hate romance-repulsed aros so goddamn much sometimes I swear #there's so many posts I've liked and thought were funny but didn't actually click like on because they were tagged with a ship for an aro #*cough* hazbin hotel fans *cough* #aromantic #aro #arospec #like I'm sorry. I love shipping. I really really do. I ship everyone under the sun. #but goddamn it there is worth in non-romantic relationships and non-romantic storylines #and fandoms are obsessed with just ignoring all of that in favour of romance #STAHP IT

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

I have some questions, and I honestly am not sure where else to ask them.

I've identified as acespec for a long time, shortly after I learned about it really since it vibed with me like "This, this is me", and more recently I've been wondering if I'm also arospec. I've been a bit hesitant about adding that to my list of words I like to use about myself, since, there are a good few things I've heard from friends that are arospec that just, don't really line up with me?

Romantic attraction isn't something I've ever really felt, but I absolutely love the idea of it. I love reading fics and books where character A and character B both fall in love and get their happily ever after. But every time I try and picture myself as one of those characters, I just, can't. Doesn't matter what kind of suitor it is, it just, doesn't match up in my head like any of my OTPs would.

Does this count as arospec? If it doesn't that's cool and I'll still vibe with acespec like I already do, but this question has just been eating at me for a while, and I just need to get it out there.

Hello hello! Mod Amaranth here

Yes, it absolutely does! Being arospec is lacking romantic attraction, and the way you feel towards the idea of romance is completely irrelevant! You seem to lean towards being romance favourable (based off the description you gave). I might advise looking into labels like cupioromantic if you'd like to get more specific than arospec :)

Hope this helps! <3

#questioning ask #mod amaranth #romance favourable #arospec #aromantic #aromantic spectrum #cupioromantic #lgbtqia+ #queer

[weeklymechanismsquotes]

I claim Jonny d'Ville for the aros btw. Man literally has a mechanical heart. That's so aro-coded of him.

#not a quote #aromantic #love loses #personally I headcanon him as alloaro bc that's thr highest honour I can bestow upon a character #also to me he's loveless and tends to be romance favourable so long as it does not involve him #only the fools use their powers for good

[outherlyomniaspec]

There's these idea outside and within aro spaces that aro people have to be plato favourable or/and see their platonic attraction and relationship as the most important. Even when they take aplatonic people into account, it's always because "they can still have friends/be in platonic relationships"

But, that's not my case. I'm nonfriending and I don't desire qprs. I'm apothiplatonic and either apothiqueerplatonic, inactqueerplatonic/orchidplatonic or a mix of both (not sure if I'm aqpl or greyqpl ~ light-alloqpl. At the same time, I'm cupioromantic, cupioqueerromantic, and cupio any other type of relationship that resembles romantic ones.

I feel romantic and romo-adjacent relationships are more important to me than platonic and plato-adjacent ones; and coming from a plato-centric society that sees friendship as the most important kind of human connection, THAT is one of the queerest aspects of my identity.

To me, there's nothing revolutionary about centering friendships and pushing platonormativity because I've been surrounded by plato-centric, platonormative people and institutions since I was born.

Not only that, but as an ND person, "being friends" was a tool used by NTs to gaslight, ridicule and bully me. Seeing people in a space that should include me (because I AM AROMANTIC) put into a pedestal the kind of feeling and relationship that was/were used as a tool to harm me, makes me feel alienated from those spaces I should feel welcomed into.

Because no, I'll never feel friendships are better or even at the same level of romantic one. I'll never see friendships as healthier than romantic relationships; In fact, the lack of (concept of) consent regarding platonicity/friendships disturbs me. They aren't "less harmful than romance" to me, because no other type of bond, feeling and realtionship has harmed me/been used to cause me harm as much as friendship/platonicity.

#plato repulsed aplatonic #apothiplatonic #apothiqueerplatonic #romo aro #romance favourable aromantic #cupioromantic #friendship repulsed