#questioning aspec culture is

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

Questioning-aspec-culture-is having multiple identity crises as you try to figure where you're on the spectrum. Like, "I thought I was cupiosexual but am I? But I might be an aegosexual. Still I feel like I might be a demi sexual. What if I'm all three? But-.........imma take a break".

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#questioning aspec culture is #cupiosexual #aegosexual #demisexual #aspec #lgbtqia+ #queer

[aroacearchangel]

has anyone else ever felt… betrayed? when someone you thought was safe and platonic admits that they are attracted to you in a way that’s nonplatonic?

#community questions #aroace #aro #ace #aromantic #asexual #aromance #asexuality #aromanticism #trauma #aspec #aspec stuff #aspec community #aspec culture #arospec

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Aroace culture is having their views on love and sex rechecked again and again and again and again.....until they settle on one. Being an aroace sure changes our views on love/sex, it's transformational and deep!....atleast in my experience *ahem*

Posted on Nov 5, 2023

#aroace #aro #asexual aromantic #ace #aspec #actually aromantic #aromanticism #aromantic #actually asexual #asexual #asexuality #questioning aroace #well any aspecs including allo allies #lgbtqia+ #queer #aroace culture is

[the-clotpole-and-the-disgrace]

HI FOLKS I THOUGHT ID SHARE THIS ASPEC EVENT (for aces, aros, and otherwise aspec individuals - including questioning folks) ON TUMBLR!!

FEEL FREE TO REBLOG OR SHARE CAUSE THE MORE THE MERRIER!!

IVE INCLUDED THE LINK TO SUBMIT YOUR ENTRY BELOW!!

MY ASKS ARE OPEN IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS, OR YOU CAN ASK OVER ON THE INSTA MENTIONED IN THE SLIDES: @/i.put.the.ace.in.disgrace

THIS IS THE THIRD YEAR IVE DONE THIS AND I HOPE YALL ENJOY!!

- æsc ♠️⚔️

#asexuality #ace pride #asexual #asexual pride #lgbtqia #aro pride #aromantic #aroace #ace spectrum #aro spectrum #aspec pride #aspec #disgracesfam #questioning #aspec culture #aspec friendly #aspec community #ace community #aro community #valentines day #aspec events #letter swap

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

(suspected) NPD aro culture is when a person has a crush on you and you don't reciprocate but you entertain it because you like the attention, and in your head you entertain the thought of a relationship with someone because attention.....

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#npd culture is #questioning npd culture is #aro npd culture is #aspec npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b #aro #aromantic #aspec

[hpdcultureis]

Questioning HPD + AlloAro Polyam culture is having the thought of “On tonight’s episode of am I alloaro and polyamorus because despite my lack romantic attraction I am desperate for love and attention or a secret other thing?”

I would like to note I do love my partners they mean the world to me I just. Don’t ever look at someone and go “ooo dateable” it’s more “hehe I could get affection and attention… plus this persons fun to be around… :3”

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#hpd culture is #questioning hpd culture is #aroallo hpd culture is #aspec hpd culture is #polyam hpd culture is #aroallo polyam hpd culture is #actually histrionic #histrionic pd #histrionic personality disorder #honestly histrionic #hpd #actually hpd #cluster b #honestlyhistrionic #cluster b pds #aspec #aroallo #polyam #polyamory

[plato-repulsed-culture-is]

Questioning plato repulsed culture is not really being sure if you're specifically repulsed by platonic relationships, but being so fgucking sick and tired of platonic stuff and assumptions of platonic stuff being everywhere in your life that you might as well be, at this point

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#questioning plato repulsed culture is #questioning plato repulsed #plato repulsed #aspec #plato-repulsed-culture-is #plato repulsion #apl #actually plato repulsed #aplatonic #friendship repulsed #friendship repulsion #aplspec #platonormativity #anon ask

[aroace-cat-lady]

The "___-culture-is" blogs are the best part of tumblr. You agree. Reblog

#queer culture #ace culture #aro culture is #bi lesbian #qpr #gay culture #trans culture #enby culture #poly culture #nd culture #bi culture #questioning culture #aspec culture #lgbt culture

[aroaceconfessions]

Could I be aro?

Tw: details of romantic and sexual situations

I’ve recently been questioning whether or not I might be aro and want to know if that seems way off base to others who are. What led to me thinking this is what appears on the surface to be a fear of commitment. I’ve always desired a romantic relationship in theory, and I’ve had crushes on plenty of people growing up (I’m 23). As I got older and started to try online dating, I’ve had lengthy conversations with many different people on the apps, and probably between 5-10 first dates. In high school up to now, whenever the possibility of a relationship with someone I’m romantically interested in becomes real (irl crushes ask me out or online crushes suggest meeting in person), I get sort of sickened by the idea. People that either are very compatible with me on paper or that I flirt with a bunch over text suddenly gross me out.

Now, you might be saying, “It seems like you’re pretty romance-repulsed when the idea of being in a romantic relationship yourself becomes a possibility, rather than a fantasy or theory.” And it does seem like that. But my fantasies do involve me specifically, and I want to point out an important exception.

When I was 14, I had a crush on a guy who also had a crush on me. We were in a ton of classes together, he was actually one of my teacher’s sons. Same scenario, he asks me out, I say yes, we go on a first date and I hate it. But, for a lot of not great reasons, I decide to try and wait it out to see if that feeling goes away. I guess I thought relationships were hard and once you put the work in they get fun. So I was pretty miserable for about a year and a half, maybe two. But then, I started to get less miserable about the romantic aspects of our relationship. To a point where it seemed like I was enjoying all of the things I fantasized about. We were together until I was 18, and the last two years I was very happy with the romantic things like kissing, cuddling, dates, etc.

So. Idk if I got stockholm syndrome or what, but clearly I enjoyed that romantic relationship eventually. Idk what changed, because we definitely had a deep emotional connection way before I was comfortable with him in that way. There are a lot of little things too that make me question being aro, like not really having very many/if any significant crushes in the last 2-3 years, however I haven’t met a ton of new people in that time either (thanks pandemic). I went on a couple dates with one guy under the assumption we were both seeking a romantic relationship, but the first date was pretty much just hanging out as friends and the second date on did involve sex without any kissing or much cuddling at all, and after we decided to just be fwb we did things like kissing that didn’t gross me out. Also, the guy I dated for 4 years is the only romantic relationship I’ve ever had, so no other examples to provide. I expect some advice might be to try again and date more people to see if it’s a pattern, but I don’t really want to waste more years of my life in relationships that gross me out.

Some possibly helpful background: I was AFAB and I’m pretty sure I’m cis, but have questioned in the past. Purity culture and gender roles were very enforced growing up, but I’ve been working on breaking away from them for the past 5+ years. Until I started questioning being aro I identified as panromantic, but it did take me until I was 20 to even entertain the idea of being queer despite having had crushes on girls my whole life (probably because of religious trauma, you get it). I’ve ID’d as asexual since I was 21, and I believe at least part of that comes from sexual trauma. I don’t experience sexual attraction ever, but I am sex-favorable and I do desire sexual relationships. Sex for me is very much a fun/exciting performance, and I also get gratification from it the same way you might get gratification from giving someone you care about a back massage. I come from a verbally/emotionally abusive household with an enmeshed family that I am still in frequent and close contact with, by my choice. We don’t/have never shown any physical affection to each other past occasional, sometimes awkward hugs.

I know this might be a good thing to discuss with my psychiatrist and/or therapist but despite their full support, they aren’t as well-versed in aspec culture/issues/sublabels/etc and they don’t have aro experiences.

Does anyone relate to any part of this and/or have any insight they’d be willing to share? Thanks

#aromantic #asexual #aroace #aspec #aro #ace #arospec #acespec #arose #questioning #sex favorable #dating #relationships #purity culture #gender roles #abuse #childhood abuse

[veeislost]

“I’m not falling for you, cause this baby is loveproof”

-crush culture by Conan Gray

#good music #conan gray #conan grey #aromantic lyrics #crush culture #aspec #questioning aspec #:3 #Spotify

[thataspecblog]

Welcome to the Aspec Blog!

Aspec is a combined term for "aromantic spectrum" and "asexual spectrum." It is an umbrella term for the collective ace and aro community!

This is a blog that is inclusive of all forms of asexuality and aromanticism. We allow "culture is" asks, confessions and questions.

Posts will be tagged as:

#aspec culture is - for culture posts

#aspec confessions - for confessionals

#aspec advice - for asks requesting advice

#aspec questioning - for asks questioning their aspec orientation

#aspec positivity - positivity posts about aspecs

#aphobia - posts discussing aphobia

#reblog - reblogged posts

#discourse - discourse posts

Things NOT allowed on this blog:

Sex negativity. (Not the same as sex-repulsion!)

Kink-shaming.

Kink at pride discourse.

Anti-sex work rhetoric/whorephobia.

Shaming relationships.

Conflating of asexuality and hyposexuality. (Asexuals can enjoy sex if we want to! Vent posts about sex-repulsion are fine so long as you're not implying sex is inherently bad, or that other asexuals can't enjoy sex.)

Victim-blaming/shaming unhealthy & abusive relationship dynamics... (Also implying that only allos experience intimate partner violence/domestic abuse.)

Negativity against microlabels.

This is not an exhaustive list. Any asks considered to be bigoted or offensive will be discarded in the trash. Aphobic asks will be burned in the garbage with the rest as well. 🖤

The Moderator:

I use He/They pronouns & you can just refer to me as Mod A. I'm a two-spirited sex-positive oriented aroace and an adult. I'm a physically & mentally disabled mixed-race Native American.

#aspec #asexual #aromantic #ace #aro #aroace #aromantic asexual #aspec culture is #aro culture is #ace culture is #inclusive #queer #questioning aspec #questioning aro #questioning ace #actually asexual #actually aromantic #actually aspec #lgbtqia+ #lgbtqia #lgbtq #2slgbtqia+

[questioning-aspec-culture-is]

Questioning aspec culture is really wanting a romantic relationship for a long time but only in vague terms (never having a crush on anyone specific) and as soon as someone shows interest you realize that all desire for romance has vanished

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#questioning aspec culture is #romance #romantic relationship #relationships

[ndtransaspeccultureis]

ND questioning aspec culture is being in a romantic relationship for the first time and feeling awkward with some parts of this experience and wondering if it's just your nd awkward or you're actually not made for a romantic relationship.

#nd questioning aspec culture #nd #questioning #questioning aspec #aspec

[aro-ace-culture-is]

Aroace culture is headcanoning every character that doesn't seem to be interested in relationships or sex as aroace.

Posted on Nov 09, 2023

#aroace culture #aroace culture is #aroace #aro #ace #aspec #headcanon #fictional characters #lgbtqia+ #queer #aromanticism #asexuality #questioning aroace #actually aromantic #actually asexual

[romance-evil-aro]

it me

#this was taken from my profile here #(romance evil aro) #i run questioning aspec culture too

[narcissisticpdcultureis]

questioning NPD + aromantic culture is I can't tell if I am in love or I just like/want them to be my supply. (How can you tell? /genq)

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#honestly as an aromantic person with npd idk either😭 #npd culture is #questioning npd culture is #aromantic npd culture is #aspec npd culture is #npd #actually narcissistic #actually npd #narcissistic personality disorder #cluster b #aro #aromantic #aspec