Here is how I explained asexuality to my mother:
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My Mom: What exactly is asexual?
Me: It means that I experience little to no sexual attraction.
My Mom: I just don’t understand that. You thought [name redacted] was cute.
Me: I still think [name redacted] is cute. I just don’t experience any sexual attraction towards them.
My Mom: That doesn’t make any sense to me.
Me: Well, I can recognize when someone is ugly, cute, uniquely hot, and when they are considered sexy, but I still don’t experience sexual attraction to any of them.
My Mom: I’m not saying that you don’t feel this way, or that I don’t believe you, but how could that be possible?
Me: Okay, so, let’s say that I have 4 pairs of shoes in front of me. The first pair are crocs, the second pair are ballet flats, the third pair are those chunky spice girls platform sandals, and the fourth pair are red stilettos.
My Mom: Okay…
Me: Now, I would classify the crocs as an ugly shoe. Do you agree?
My Mom: Yes.
Me: I would classify the ballet flats as cute.
My Mom: So would I.
Me: I would classify the platform sandals as ugly-hot. I know you hate them, but they call to me, and I still love them to this day. Does that make sense?
My Mom: *laughing* Yes.
Me: Lastly, I would classify the red stilettos as hot and/or sexy. Like, that’s a sexy shoe.
My Mom: Absolutely!
Me: Okay, now, even though I can recognize that these shoes have varying degrees of attractiveness, I do NOT want to fuck the shoes…and that is also how I feel about people.
My Mom: Ooohhhh, that makes way more sense to me. I get it now. Well, I don’t “get it,” because I’m straight, but I understand what you mean.
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Basically, this is how I felt trying to explain things:
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HI FOLKS I THOUGHT ID SHARE THIS ASPEC EVENT (for aces, aros, and otherwise aspec individuals - including questioning folks) ON TUMBLR!!
FEEL FREE TO REBLOG OR SHARE CAUSE THE MORE THE MERRIER!!
IVE INCLUDED THE LINK TO SUBMIT YOUR ENTRY BELOW!!
MY ASKS ARE OPEN IF YOU HAVE ANY QUESTIONS, OR YOU CAN ASK OVER ON THE INSTA MENTIONED IN THE SLIDES: @/i.put.the.ace.in.disgrace
THIS IS THE THIRD YEAR IVE DONE THIS AND I HOPE YALL ENJOY!!
- æsc ♠️⚔️
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Current Aspec Acore pile!
These are all the ones so far. Not everything has been posted yet, as there's still more in the queue.
If you have a flag/identity you want in the pile, send an ask with a link to it and I'll get to it when I can! Note that we do not do genders here. Only orientations.
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I saw a punk blogger I follow do this and I’m curious myself
This blog is not my main, I try to keep my personal blogging off this one since I consider this blog to be topical (regarding a-spec stuff and positivity) and my personal blogs are random as heck
Also, I am not ashamed to say I’m a proshipper and transandrophobia truther, so that’s kind of controversial and I want to keep that off this positivity/ resources blog
If someone wants to yell with me about being proship, being sickpunk, being transmasc/ transneutral… I might consider messaging you from my main or a different side blog if you ask nicely
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hyperromantic aro
a flag for when youre both hyperromantic and aromantic or arospec, this could be for any reason, there is no one way to identify as this :) heavily based on the hypersexual ace flag
[image ID: a 5 striped horizontal flag with 2 versions, the colors are in order, hot pink, desaturated pink, cream, pinkish white, green. the first flag has a symbol of two heart outlines intertwined. end ID]
for day 1 of @genderprotag's coining event, love
[image description: a black banner with a white outline, theres smiley faces with their tongues sticking out in every corner, also in white. theres also a small pink splatter from the bottom right corner. the banner reads "please do not reupload unless credited and informed". end ID]
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Creatuaesthetic
Creatuaesthetic is where you are aesthetically attracted towards characters that you create (literature/writing, visual arts, etc.). This type of attraction is a subcategory of fictionaesthetic. It’s romantic and sexual counterparts are creaturomantic and creatusexual.
Coined by @arcticflowerz
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Looking to add more Aspec identities!!!
This is the current pile! If there's an aspec identity that isn't there, should be there, or you want to be there then send an ask!
We even add flag variants!
Note that we don't do gender identies here, this is for orientations only.
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