#ruin her sister’s relationship

[fromtheseventhhell]

Every time I see people talk about Sansa and Arya's relationship as "just sisters being sisters" I think about that one girl on TikTok who was basically stalking her sister who went no-contact and kept responding to comments criticizing her with "it's just a sister thing, you wouldn't get it". Like! Being shitty to someone isn't okay just cause you're related to them. Personally thinking a certain behavior is normal/harmless does not mean the person affected by it feels the same way! Arya being mocked and having self-esteem issues is referenced often throughout the story, all the way into ADwD. How people read that (jk I know you guys don't actually read her chapters) and think their issues will magically disappear is beyond me. "Stark sisters lover" but the only time you talk about them is when you're centering Sansa and her feelings 🤨

#it doesn't escape my notice that every single /stark sisters 4ever/ post ignores all of Arya's self-esteem issues #almost like pointing that out ruins the idea that they had just a normal sibling relationship...imagine that #it's literally never about Arya or addressing her feelings cause people only think of her as a prop #/I can understand why Sansa acted the way she did/ is the extent of the analysis people are willing to do #and the thing is we can acknowledge that they have love for each other as siblings and still have issues #those things aren't mutually exclusive! they'll likely be very happy to reunite and still have things they need to work out #this is how I know Arya is gonna get demonized if we get their reunion because she isn't going to fall on her knees in front of #Sansa and take the blame for all of the issues they had like people fantasize🥴 #arya stark #anti sansa stans #have to tag this so I can find it later ugh

[forestgreenlesbian]

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#feel like my relationship with my younger brother is changed completely forever not to be dramatic lol but i am sad #we used to b very close but he has kind of. found his faith again and gone full missionary christian which like. i knew meant the dynamic #was doomed lmao but actually acknowledging it makes me sad i feel like i'm grieving for the friendship we used to have even though #it is literally a me problem i think from his perspective he doesn't think anything has changed. but i feel weird about everything #also his new gf is nineteen and he is. almost 25 and i am the only one who feels weird about it like i know she's over 18 but! idk i can't #tell if i'm being overly cautious or if my gut instinct is right. my sister & her husband have a similar age gap but they met when they wer #both over 30 so like. it didn't feel weird. and i didn't feel comfortable actually seriously talking to him about it apart from the first #time he mentioned her over facetime (he went to another country to do mission stuff & met her there) so like an idiot i've just been #making jokes about the age gap becausee like. thats always been our thing lightly bullying each other lol but he blew up at me and said #i've had nothing positive to say about her since he's been back home and that he thinks i hate her and i'm out of line for constantly #implying he's creepy for dating someone younger. idk i felt like such a freak idiot horrible person about it. it completely blindsided me #bc yes the jokes were coming from a place of idk how i feel about this situation so i'm going to rely on the humour-based communication #we have always fallen back on as a safety thing but i guess i was wrong or the dynamic shifted or something anyway it's all fucked #& everyone is just telling me i feel weird out of some?? misplaced kind of jealousy thing?? because i'm 'losing' my brother to his gf lol #which does not feel right at all he has dated so many other girls and i have never had a problem it is literally the age gap like i haven't #even met this girl i'm sure she's very nice! i just worry about her being nineteen!! jesus. and yes maybe i do feel some resentment around #a brother younger than me who seems to be able to live his life with zero difficulty whilst i'm stuck being this unemployed loser who ruins #literally ever friendship & relationship ive ever had but i think thats ok right like i can't help feeling that. i don't fucking knowwww #am i just projecting all these sad feelings about our friendship dying onto his new relationship or like. am i right to be genuinely #concerned she's six years younger than him and still a fucking teenager!!!!!! i don't know

[sapphic-agent]

Since I made a post for the girlies, here are some of my best boys. They don't get to be pinned though

ETA: FUCK I FORGOT LOID AND KURAPIKA

#izuku midoriya #midoriya izuku #bow she ra #yuji itadori #itadori yuuji #armin arlert #tanjiro kamado #kamado tanjiro #monkey d luffy #kurapika #loid forger #it's not a coincidence that they're all sunshine boys #the one exception is kurapika #i would die for him #my sister and her messy ass relationships ruined toxic fictional men for me #you will never catch me simping for eren or light #i do like eren as a character tho

[yuridovewing]

mulling over that feather and storm post im making (sorry for the delay lmao i fell deep in the pokemon special interest) and trying to think about their relationships or lack thereof and how im gonna organize all that, and i just had a great idea

what if feathertail was mothwing’s original mentor

leopardstar still mentors hawkpaw, but feathertail gets mothpaw as like a gesture. and on the surface, leopard is extending an olive branch, because becoming a mentor is a HUGE honor in riverclan especially, where the system originated. especially for feathertail’s age, she’d only been a warrior for a little while at that point. and it made sense to some cats because sasha and feathertail were close. (note: feathertail’s characterization is different here and her relationship with sasha differs from canon. she no longer gets angry with sasha for being involved with tigerstar, but there’s still some conflict there that i wanna figure out. like perhaps stormfur gets angry instead and the two argue?)

but feathertail knows why she got an apprentice and stormfur didnt, why leopardstar didnt continue the siblings training siblings trend- it’s because shes on her “best behavior”. aka, she doesnt rock the boat or cause drama “over the past”. she’s a warrior that “lives in the present”. and her maturity and grace will do wonders for little mothpaw. and it serves as a little punishment for stormfur for not forgiving honoring his clanmates.

so feathertail and mothwing both struggle with being doormats and on mothwings part, theres some learned behavior there. but the two are also very close and care about one another a lot- so when feathertail leaves, mothwing’s lost a core part of her support system

#i gotta flesh this out some more but oughhhh #one thing i wanna emphasize in riverclan is that mentor/apprentice relationships are very very very valuable there #theyre more valuable overall in this au but its very special in riverclan especially #one another thing i wanna emphasize is that while stormfur isnt bad for not forgiving his clanmates- not at all #hes also kinda ruining his own life by shutting out everyone but his sister. including tigerstars other victims #i think i want to retool sasha a bit and have her be somewhat more involved? like maybe she helps tiger find the dogs #but she’s still ultimately a victim #and by only seeing her as an accomplice rather than someone who was manipulated- he ruins the chance for either of them to heal #it’s something the journey makes him reflect on now that hes distanced from all the clanmates he resents #unfortunately he never gets the chance to apologize #yuriverse

[my-beloved-lakes]

I see a lot of people I knew from school posting pictures on their social medias with all their friends doing various fun things together. Meanwhile, I'm sitting at home wishing I could take a group photo with all my Tumblr mutuals to post so I can brag about having the best friends.

#too much of my social life is based on Tumblr but i really don't get out much since I don't have a job and i made like 1 friend in school #so i don't really know anyone to hangout with other than my siblings and my one friend #and i don't go out much exept for occasionally to the library or the store so i don't get the chance to meet new people #i used to have all 5 of my sisters at home and that was all the company i needed #but now they've all moved out except for my younger sister and im realizing that im very deeply lonely #i need to get a social life! but how! #Also i think this is part of the reason I jumped into things too quickly with my ex gf now my best friend #like I was so excited that i had found someone who was just as interested in being friends with me as i was with her #that i misstook my feelings for her as romantic ones cuz i was so lonely and she was such a good friend #and i was so scared to tell her cuz I didn't want to ruin our relationship. it didn't. we're still besties. #but i think im so lonely idk if I'll be able to know the difference between platonic and romantic feelings #and part of that definitely comes from being ace as well #anyways there's my tangent for the night about why I need a better social life and maybe a bit of therapy too #haha that got super personal oops 😬 #might delete these tags later

[belpheg0r-luna]

Hear me out, Beatrice and Benedick as an aries and libra couple. What do we think?

#that aries loyalty and fiery banter of beatrcie with a keen instinct to fight back and stand strong in herself and her beliefs #and Benedick ruining the relationship in the past cuz of his need to impress others and this being explored during the play as well #those two are known for their banter fire + air #and that sister sign connection is always soo strong like just kiss already #benedick being called the prince's jester is veryy libra #and the line “i would eat his heart in the marketplace” is just an overflow of aries energy #there so much more to say about this #benedick #beatrice #benedick x beatrice #beatrice and benedick #beatrice x benedick #much ado about nothing #much ado #shakespeare #aries #libra #sister signs #much ado about nothing 1993 #much ado about nothing 2011 #david tennant #catherine tate #emma thompson #belphegor luna

[yuzuna123]

the way Anna clings to Nina 🥹🥹

#tekken #anna williams #nina williams #even though we have not seen their past yet this gesture shows she used to love her big sister #scew their father for ruining their relationship and spliting them up

[heartscrypt]

i have some thoughts on whether twst characters have dated / been in relationships offscreen. mostly ship free

#twst #twisted wonderland #jamie talks #this is just personal indulgence tbh #i feel that i am the Most correct abt riddle jamil and azul #i firmly believe that riddle has ruined his dating prospects with strangers by being heartslabyul housewarden #because thats an image he feels he has to maintain and that sort of image thrives on him being sort of Out Of Reach from everyone else #so anyone he dates has to know him for at least a year on fairly close terms #azul looks like hes both had traumatic experiences dating And caused traumatic experiences dating if you know what im saying #also the leech twins are probably the worst people to get relationship advice from and they're his closest friends so #and jamil has game u cannot convince me otherwise #he just doesn't pull at nrc because he's busy w his duties #he could date in secret i guess but najma would never let him hear the end of it if he didn't tell her #in the annoying little sister way #anyways leave your thoughts in the notes. tell me if u think im wrong about ur blorbo

[nateserenas]

dan and blair + the part of juliet's plan vanessa and jenny were aware of and helped with was devious and pathetic but also... really not on a different level than most of the other questionable things done on this show and it is therefore slightly batshit to use this event to say that vanessa/jenny are the most morally questionable characters on the show...

#gossip girl's on bbc iplayer it is dair time #but they're talking about the serena-jenny-vanessa-juliet plot line (which i'm not watching because no to the first half of s4) and #thinking about those anti vanessa asks and lol this was basically the only scheme-y thing vanessa ever did #and here's dan saying so another saturday and blair saying yeah i've done worse #to be clear what they did was obviously bad and them sabotaging serena is pretty tragic but in terms of what they actually set out to do it #it was regular levels of gossip girl sabotage #like which character didn't set out to ruin relationships through lies and disguises?? #(again it's kind of a tragedy that one of the last significant acts for them both is them trying ruin serena's relationships with the peopl #closest to her and if they had succeeded serena would have been so alone and her step-sister would have been part of the reason which reall #y sad but if we are talking actual morality of what jenny and vanessa set out to do it was hurt serena through lies and disguises which yea #h another saturday)_ #also sorry for the terrible screenshots #also i think i just made myself sad about serena and jenny again

[transsexual-dandelions]

bipolar brigade rise up!!! those swifties couldn't handle it at the best of times 😒

Literally !! I cannot stand Taylor swift and I hate the swift ones even more !! i don’t think they understand the severity of it all I genuinely don’t remember anything from any kind of episode or swing my brain blocks it all out except for maybe vague memories and emotions after the fact !

#I have a memory of just one of my first manic episodes bc I wasn’t on the right meds yet I had just been diagnosed basically #and just getting into an unnecessary argument with my sister and almost entirely ruining my relationship with her because of it #the only thing I remember is that there was an argument and the most vile insults you could only dream of. I don’t even remember what they #were just the disgust of having even considering directing them at my sister of all people #like yeah I’m all for dark humor and joking abt ur disorders but like. this is not that #Apollo answers #also bipolar brigade goes so hard #sorry if this is like too much or whatever I just say shit

[elytrafemme]

one fundamental thing to understand about me is that i immediately tunnel vision if anything upsets my closest friends (not everyone thankfully! but like the besties). if this doesn't explain literally everything i've ever done in my life then simply investigate further <3

#i literally almost ruined my relationship with my brother (up to debate still) over defending my sister LOL #like i was willing to entirely burn that bridge for her #i've also had to like physically control myself over friend group drama IT IS SO FUCKING SERIOUS 4 ME... #Idk why im like this but whatever. i am a ride or die in the sense that i will make people die for you in their soul #its REALLY BAD... but im like pretty composed all things considered after like 5 minutes

[oblako]

249 episodes and we still know barely anything about shinhye

#at this point we know more about nessa even though we've only seen her through flashbacks 🫠 #i love yoo #x #all things in due time etc etc but i really wonder if we'll see shinhye before the big timeskip #it feels like something needs to happen between the sisters some kind of reveal some kind of confrontation SOMETHING #my gut feeling is telling me shinhye is going to be involved in shinae agreeing to yui's offer :/ #and maybe that's what ruins their relationship for good or at least damages it more than the stalking did #either way i'm so curious to find out more about shinhye and her personality and what her life has been like #i also used to think that shinae-shinhye would be the mirror to nol-kousuke #but someone smarter than me pointed out that the mirroring pair to nol-kousuke seems to be meg-alyssa #which makes sense and makes me even more curious about what shinhye's dynamic with shinae is going to be like then

[treesbian]

i feel insane i feel so insane. i feel so goddamn fucking insane. feels like my sisters won't allow me to even be civil to them anymore every interaction ends up with all 3 of them insulting me and when I tell them shit like "you're being mean" or "i don't think that criticism is coming from a place of love" they just try and justify themselves and insult me more. no one is on my side but I'm so so convinced that if an outside party came and observed what was happening they would see i'm being bullied. maybe i am insane. maybe there's a reason no one is on my side. i know i'm not perfect but goddamn. i love them so much and it feels like they hate me. i can say the world's most neutral statement ever and one of them'll have a snide and insulting comment about it and then everyone acts like i'm being unreasonable if i react. and again if i call them out and i say "you're being mean. do you not see what you're doing? you're being mean." they all just get excused bc apparently me having a hard time with filtering what i say and having debilitating executive dysfunction is "traumatizing" and their bullying is a trauma response. and they won't let me even fix my behavior bc if i say something that contradicts my past behavior they'll be like "oh so NOW u care about that. you don't actually care 🙄" can i do fucking anything. can i do fucking ANYTHING.

(through gritted teeth) my big sister's coming back from washington next week. next week she's coming back from washington. i think she'll be able to recognize what's happening, right? like if they do it in front of my parents then they'll probably do it in front of her too. but ofc my parents don't care. they are actively against my side in this.

#talk tag #the other day my godsister said i love myself more than anything else and the only thing i actually care about is being right #and i said 'you're being mean.' #and she just said 'it's true :/' #also in that conversation i got accused of ruining birthdays #apparently. my baby sisters birthday was ruined bc i called her a hypocrite about smth to do with juice... #like she was getting on everyone else for drinking some kinda juice and then she asked me to get her some of that same juice #and i made a joke calling her a hypocrite and that apparently ruined her birthday. #i didn't mean to hurt her feelings and i am sorry that i did. but. hm. #and then i apparently ruined my little sisters birthday bc i defended polyamory as a valid relationship type that can work out #and be committed. but everyone got mad at me bc they think commitment and exclusivity are the same thing #so polyamory apparently is inherently non commital and can never work out for everyone involved bc of that. but that just... isnt true #and i was calm the whole time i was making my points. ppl being angry when they argue doesn’t make their points less valid but i think #'polyamory is fine and works for a lot of ppl u just gotta communicate' is SUCH a silly take to get mad at. mind your business!! #they get very mad at me very often and it is usually bc i said smth to the tune of 'don't be a dick' #and sometimes it's for literally no reason and they get angrier when i react #my big sister's coming home soon. she'll be home next week. maybe she'll see. she at least wont be actively against me. lmao

[chazz-is-a-zelda-fan]

can’t post this on insta considering a good chunk of my irls follow me there and they wouldn’t get this but i’ve been doing a lot better this week about keeping up with myself, i think

#the thing that i’ve mostly seen myself get better at is brushing my teeth and i know that’s so basic everyone starts by working on that #but its actually really difficult for me to keep up with esp considering that i have self sabotaging my health for years #like for the majority of my life i did not think i would make it to 16. i thought i would be 6 feet under and buried before i got here #i didn’t want people to know me because 1. then they couldn’t hurt me by forgetting me and 2. #they wouldn’t have anyone to mourn and i could fade away like i’d always wanted to #so i never cared about myself since i thought “well my time is up before i’m 16 it’s not like anything matters to me” #and while i hate to say it it gave me a sense of freedom under the roof i was stuck under #Religious Trauma does not fuck around let me tell you that #and so that “nothing i do matters” mentality became a major part of me and i regret it so much #i ruined so many relationships that could’ve helped me hold on to the little hope i had #i almost ruined my entire relationship with my sister because of that and i… i hope she knows how sorry i am. #i hope she knows just how hard her big brother is trying to be better. #i don’t know what to do now that i’m 16. it’s scary. i don’t know anything. i graduate next year. #but whatever i do… i can try. i can try to move on from the self sabotage and the recklessness and maybe #just maybe #i can be a big brother she can be proud of. #midnight mech

[haunted-jackalope]

how to explain to my mother that her and I have very different dreams and also I don't exist for her to live through vicariously. also also how to explain that "I feel obligated to do this" is not the same as "I actually want to do this"

#vent #ig #more of a rant rlly #one of these days either i will tell her or she'll realize on her own #and I'm positive it will ruin our relationship #as it did with my sister

[ryeheart]

Lionblaze, crazy he’s a grandpa now

#he’s an interesting one that’s for sure #I’m not sure how to concisely talk about my feelings about him #just a lot of unused potential I think #I really would’ve liked if Ivypool were his apprentice that’s one of the biggest ones for me #the complexities of him having been abused in Ashfurs apprenticeship #then have Ashfur try and kill him and ruin his family #then to have his own apprentice whose struggling really hard with her sisters prophetic importance #also it would open up some discussion with how he was in the dark forest a bit too #he would know the manipulation of the df and might have been able to help her process the trauma she faces there as a spy #Lionblaze had an arc with Cinderheart about choosing happiness over fate and I feel like that could’ve been something bigger too #it’s such an important sentiment that has just been burried in current arcs #the whole thing with half clan relationships also deals with choosing happiness #and still he played one of the most important roles to the clans history #anyways I think he’s also written like the Erin’s don’t even have an idea for his character sometimes #lionblaze #lionpaw #po3 #power of three #warriors #warrior cats #warriors fanart #warriors art #thunderclan #oh also about the design #Ashfur left a scar on the whole of his family but for the untouchable lionblaze I wanted the scar to be a physical thing #I also gave him a lot of the tiger family motifs not just to give credibility to them being brambles kids but also because #I wanted to give a nod to mothpool lol I love the idea of moth being their bio other mom :)