#the benefits of being my man

[shipwreckedcomedy]

Happy birthday, Shipwrecked.

#shipwrecked comedy #poe party #edgar allan poe's murder mystery dinner party #sinead persaud #sean persaud #mary kate wiles #headless series #headless: a sleepy hollow story #fig and ford #sarah grace hart #the case of the greater gatsby #the case of the gilded lily #little vvomen #bookfarters #the bookfarters saga #the benefits of being my man #american whoopee #friends til the end #a cryptmas carol #and many more #Youtube

[rattusn0rvegicus]

Man I feel like a lot of leftist activists would do a lot better to just use common fucking language to talk about things rather than dense academic shit that's only understandable to people with PhDs and people who spend 95% of their waking life on Leftist Twitter lmao

Like, you're talking with other academics? Great, use academic language. You're a social media account trying to interact with the general public? Don't say "decarcerate", say "find alternatives to imprisonment". Don't say "collective liberation", say "freedom for all". By GOD don't say "bodymind autonomy", say "the ability to have control over our own minds and bodies".

Yes it takes a little more effort to explain shit in common language but I promise you people will stop looking at you like you have two heads and dismissing everything you say as Woke Bullshit if you like, actually get on their level, goddamn it. Not everyone has the privilege to have a graduate-school level understanding of this type of language or spend so much time reading leftist theory that they can perfectly understand this stuff.

#being a public health student has made me even more passionate about this too #like. You want to make a change? You have to make sure the general public UNDERSTANDS WTF YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT FIRST #Like for example I think Project LETS is a great concept and is doing great stuff #But my god their public outreach needs some MAJOR work #By using this type of language you are isolating the type of ppl who can benefit from your services to 'college educated Twitter leftists' #Social justice is a MAJOR INTEREST OF MINE and even I struggle with making sense of some of the shit y'all say!! #Like I have to translate it in my head to normal speak #And like. These types of spaces constantly talk about accessibility for disabled people? Bullshit man #What about those with intellectual disabilities or cognitive impairments who struggle with this shit? #What about people who are just learning English? What about people who work full time and don't have the time to learn this terminology? #Goddamn #It's all performative!!!!

[rogueddie]

I'm gonna need people to stop asking the cast about B*lly because I am convinced that most of them haven't actually watched the show so they just think of Dacre and end up saying something nice. I am sick of it.

Joe Quinn saying Eddie and B*lly would be friends, Joe Keery saying B*lly redeemed himself in season 3; either y'all didn't watch the show or you don't have a single critical thought in your empty heads.

#stranger things #anti b*lly hargrove #and don't get me wrong #I love the joes with my whole entire heart. my faves. my beloveds. #that's why I am giving them the benefit of the doubt. to be nice. #thinking about the b*lly fans following me and just... #you can't get mad at me for hating on him like once every two months because I have so much rage in my soul for that man #I am being nice. #this is me being nice. #holding my tongue.

[illicien]

Every so often I see... interesting takes about Zemo that leave me questioning if we... all saw the same stuff.

Like, you know he commanded a death squad before his fam even died, right? This man is not a good dude. Sure, maybe it was in the name of his country but also... his country was a shit show and he said as much.

So I am absolutely perplexed by the number of "he wouldn't do x" and "why does everyone make him so toxic" kinds of things. He actively waterboarded Vasily Karpov like one of the first times we saw him. He was put in the RAFT because he is a fucking terrorist.

This feels like another one of those things I guess that reminds me of Hannibal. Him being polite doesn't make him any less of a cannibal. You can be both polite and a bad person.

#Zemo #lil rant am sorry #is this what woobification is? #Is this why I am reacting so strongly about this? #My poor group chat every time I come across this because I react viscerally #To each their own on headcanons I guess #Live and let live #But I am PERPLEXED. #Anyway I'm going to continue to enjoy Zemo being a piece of shit trash man who might occassionally show a soft spot if it benefits him #rant #In case clarification is needed this is very much about people who seem to make him really sweet/kind #And then talk about how other people are weirdos or freaks for acknowledging canon and liking him anyway??

[six-white-venus]

sometimes i wonder if death is all i can write about.

every poem i recite seems mournful, like i'm preparing for a funeral that i'm somehow sure will happen. it follows me, the death. its stench. the sorrow. it follows me and i'm so sick and tired of it. somedays i even think of stopping writing altogether, because what's the point? every word i put down on paper will be pitch black anyway and it will scream and weep of the same old tragedies that will make everyone's ears bleed time and time again.

but then i remember.

i remember writing about soft smiles and booming laughter. i remember writing about tears being wiped away by patient fingers, i remember writing the words, "i love you, i love you, i love you," like a hymn, a prayer, like a holy scripture. i remember writing about you. you, with your garden of water hyacinths, tiger lilies, and grins that are a little too sharp to make a person feel comfortable (just like mine). you with your poems that feel like a beating piece of your heart, with your messy hair, boundless excitement, and fingers painted with the rainbow. i remember us: sitting cross-legged in places we shouldn't be sitting in, talking about everything and nothing and feeling at home with each other ("you're my family"). i remember writing about adoration, love and friendship. i remember, then: death is not all i write about.

my writing is not about death or sorrow at all, actually. my writing is a sweet caress of words singing,

"hey, can you hear me?

i just wanted to say:

i love you. i love you, i love you,

i love you and my dear,

you make loving so painless."

i write about love time and time again, i write about you, i write about us. huh. maybe in a way, i do write about death. with us, love lives and laughs and when we're apart, dies, only to rise up from the ashes brighter than the goddamn sun when you see me the next day and we both grin.

i write and it says, "hey, can you hear me?"

and you do, every time.

and you say, "i love you."

I want to yell at the top of my lungs, "i love you i love you i love you so fuckin much i adore you"

but instead, i smile and hold you close. Instead, i write my silly little letters and hope they ring a million times louder than my voice ever could.

#my writing #prose poetry #love #words #listen. I adore my friends #love resides in every breath they take #I'm just. I have a lot of feelings about platonic love #and how it's just so. unconditional #it doesn't even need to exist #if you think about it there's no tangible benefit #nothing except being loved #and that's so wonderful #loving just because you can. just because you want to #man i just. #nila this one's for you boo #mwah #writeblr #prose #friendship

[seagull-scribbles]

'Best man' can’t even tie a bow tie 💒

#tmnt 2003 #casey jones #raphael splinterson #back to the sewers #rasey #listen #I can hear you now being all like how is Casey marrying April a rasey scenario #and I’m telling you I’m right #look me in the eyes #I’m right #the whole build up of best man was so cute even platonically you can pry it from my cold dead hands #sucks last ronin ralh didn’t even get to hear about the engagement I know he was robbed (of life) BUT THIS LISTEN #2003 New York gay marriage isn’t legal yet #April is like aro in that show and I don’t care what you think #but you know what is the same then as now HOW BAT SHIT EXPENSIVE NEW YORK IS #also 2003 back to the sewers wanted to try link the 2003 series with the 2007 movie #Raph is a mutant turtle who lives in the sewers no one can know he exists (except everyone who was invited to the wedding) #so I raise you Casey and April getting married but as friends for the benefits of housing and financial support #the good stuff that comes easier to being a married couple #but they’re really just glorified room mates #taadaaa #weather you ship Casey or April with a turtle or not that makes sense to me shush

[a-scary-lack-of-common-sense]

You know, being secretive and private about his personal life is kind of Spy's whole thing, but I feel like a fun little alternative to taking that route could be just to make him a massive fucking habitual liar. They dont even have to be relevant lies that hide any important information, it could legit just be him lying about his hair color to the team or smth. I know this is already pretty common so it's nothing new under the sun but I just think it'd be pretty funny if instead of being like: "no scout, I did not bang your mother" it could be like: "no scout, I did not bang your mother, but I am gay, so watch out for your dad"

#tf2 #team fortress two #my post #tf2 headcanons #tf2 spy #bro got that mansplain malewife misinform <3 #so technically he's lying but also making up complete random bullshit #to Sniper at 3am: ''oh did you not know? I'm not actually French. I'm from Canada'' <- a complete lie that does not benefit him in any way #whats the point of being given the perfect opportunity to invent a whole new identity for yourself if you dont take the chance to make #yourself a Canadian fake blond man that is gay- married to a prince in Turkey and may or may not have banged both of Scout's parents #silly chatters

[pearlcaddy]

lockwood & co appreciation week 💀 favorite dynamic

portland row trio + burn the house down (ajr) So do you think, like, we're being lied to about everything? Of course we're being lied to. But by who? And why? And what can we do about it?

#lockwood & co #lockwood and co #lockwoodandcoedit #anthony lockwood #anthonylockwoodedit #lucy carlyle #lucycarlyleedit #george karim #georgekarimedit #portland row trio #portlandrowtrioedit #l&coaw2023 #tvedit #pearlcaddyedit #pearlcaddy l&co #my destructive children vs the institutional forces benefiting from the problem #(i realize they didn't burn down the house to stick it to the man but my children aren't effective at targeting their anarchy yet okay #they deserve to set shit on fire. as a treat #also that last gif was too satisfying to make and i deserve to gif them setting shit on fire. as a treat) #i was going to do a wholesome collection of shots of the three of them being a family and then ajr was like hmm no honor their chaos #you can tell how much i love them because i did blending in one whole gif for them #idk this looked cool in my head. i dunno if it looks cool out of my head but tis done now

[thedreadvampy]

one of those many days where I say groundbreaking things such as 'hmmmm...perhaps my life...has been somewhat bad at some points'

'perhaps..........this may have had some amount of lasting emotional impacts.........?'

#me: haha so i didn't learn that i was allowed to seek love or kindness for my own benefit until i was into my 20s #also me: idk man it's been at least 5 years since the last time someone performed criminal violence on me I'm basically over it #red said #it! may have made me! bad at being in equal and transparent loving relationships! a little bit! #it! may have made me! incapable of expressing my feelings without a multiyear runup! #it! may have made me! a pretty bad friend at several junctures! #i! may still! not trust that my needs matter! #i am trying to learn but it's so fucking hard to not! be a cunt! who bottles up their feelings and lies straight to your face!

[trans-leek-cookie]

every day I lose sympathy for other trans men. Suffer in silence until you can be normal you stupid bitches

#STOP!!! BRINGING UP!!! TRANSFEMS!!!!! #GO ATTACK CIS MEN OR SOMETHING YOU STUPID CUNTS. ILL KILL YOU #or other trans men. I ❤️ infighting #Grabbing trans mens faces. Listen to transfems and shut the fuck up. You're still tme and are priveledged in comparison #Even if ppl see u as a woman and you don't receive most of the benefits a man receives. You're STILL NOT AFFECTED BY TRANSMISOGYNY!!!! #AND THATS A BIG FUCKING THING BC TRANSMYSOGYNY IS PERVASIVE NORMALIZED AND OFTEN ACTIVELY DANGEROUS!!! #YOU STILL EXPERIENCE TRANSPHOBIA AND POTENTALLY MISOGYNY!!! BUT YOU DONT EXPERIENCE TRANSMISOGYNY AND THATS VERY IMPORTANT #like. I still have shit I gotta unlearn but it's fucked up seeing the way other transmascs talk #Bc I grew up reading a lot of transfems perspectives. And the way trans men r centered n catered to and trans fems are excluded and further #Marginalized in a community thats supposed to be inclusive of them is 1. BAD 2. CONSISTENT!!! THIS HAS BEEN GOING ON FOR YEARS!!! #MEN AND AFAB TRANS PPL ARE CONSISTENTLY CENTERED!!! TRANS WOMEN ARE PUSHED OUT AND HURT!!! #ITS THE SAME SHIT BUT WITH SOME FANCY NEW WORDS!!!! IF YOU BELIEVE IN TRANSANDROPHOBIA/TRANSMISANDRY #IM JUST GOING TO STOMP ON UR RIBS I SWEAR TO GOD!!!!!!!! SHUT UP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! #I'm going to be so honest rn seeing other trans men be fucking shitty has actively affected my feelings Abt being a man. Like #I wanna be a man but do I wanna be in a community w these fuckers????

[maddy-ferguson]

women will literally accuse women and esp lesbian circles of "not unpacking ""man-hating""" alleged ""misandry" sweetie xo" getting offended ppl aren't appropriately uplifting how "men are amazing and awesome and attractive and i won't be shamed for thinking so" as if appreciating men is a real counter opinion than blame whatever gave women of every sexuality instance to be jaded weary cautious and tired and who'll complain every now and then and continue on with her life until she dies putting up with patriarchy. just welcome to the "woke" internet where misogyny's over and "man-hate" "shamed for not hating men" is worth springing to defences for

yeah i've only seen people talk like men's rights activists and think they're being unbelievably progressive on tumblr it's kind of fascinating. like i can see how seeing people hate on men could mess with people and stuff but you can't demand men appreciation posts that's literally the whole world outside of idk your tumblr dash (or even on your tumblr dash because fandom misogyny from people who think they're not misogynistic at all is really something). men get praised for "babysitting" their own kids like be serious? it's very let men be masculine

i don't think being like men are soooo gross and we hate them is actually constructive and it can definitely veer into transphobia (you'll always be a man/"a male" and thus a danger to women/why would you ever want to become a man they're the enemy and the bane of society etc) and homophobia relatively quickly?

but the way people ON TUMBLR ""combat that"" is often so off to me like if the most basic feminist principles offend you then i'm not really sure where to go from here. i remember seeing a post that was like "men aren't your enemy. they're your friend/brother/father/colleague/neighbor" with a lot of notes and like i don't know how to tell you this but that's literally who's most likely to harm a woman, the men she knows?😭 and obviously not every system of oppression is exactly the same but would you say the same thing to someone criticizing white people like...just very weird

i think women who are attracted to men and dating them making jokes about how they only tolerate being attracted to men because they have no choice and especially the whole i'm bi so i love every woman and only find 1 in a 1000 men attractive (very often said while in a relationship with a man) thing is obnoxious and annoying for like everyone who has to hear it lmao but also when women who date men make jokes about it (not about them being ugly or unattractive or whatever but about them being bad partners in general) it's like. what else are they going to do like you said they're gonna endure patriarchy for the rest of their lives and as girlfriends/wives/mothers they go through the most it's very bleak? idk. it's not like you can date a better man yourself out of patriarchy

of course men aren't a all as bad as the worst guy you can imagine and they're not all out to get you or whatever but saying things like "men don't all benefit from the patriarchy rich men benefit from the patriarchy but jake, 23, is not oppressing you" is like. kind of insane. jake, 14, was oppressing me like have you never interacted with boys in school😭 and it's not like it was entirely their fault we all have to outgrow misogyny it's just you know society etc but some of them never outgrow it lmao and just...the takes you see on feminism on tumblr are astounding i hate it here

#and like i do think that young guys who feel bad about themselves only having people who make them feel worse and who actively make them #worse like incels and idk youtube algorithms to turn to is a problem but like. again it's the same thing as white people who feel bad about #being white to me in a way like are women and GIRLS supposed to coddle them and say it's gonna be okay you're great even when they're #like actually harming them by being misogynistic to them? that's already what they're taught to do always #the notes on that male loneliness epidemic post i reblogged a few weeks ago still haunt me like OH MY GOD #and if you think misogyny isn't as prevalent anymore you're very naive. and probably misogynistic yourself #i'm not even sure young men being more feminist is true (well it's probably true when you compare it to like the 50s) but even #when men ARE like yeah women shouldn't have to do everything i can help with chores (the use of the word help is already a red flag lmao) #when you look at what they actually do they still do way less like i don't have links because these are tags on a tumblr ask but i read #somewhere that men think chores are 50/50 when they're only doing like 30% of the work? like it just seems hopeless #sometimes i'm happy and then i think about the mental load #sorry for not uplifting men 24/7 you can just hang out on the steve harrington tag or something there's actually a lot of people doing that #when someone said um does the ronance fandom not seem terfy to you...because of a post that was like can the lesbian ship ronance #be about the lesbian ship ronance not about steve A MAN #like you can't make this up #i meant it when i said the average tumblr user would benefit from being exposed to more misogyny like i swear they forget it's even a thing #like obviously they wouldn't BENEFIT from it lmao but their posts wouldn't be as dumb and that would benefit me🙏 #ask

[yashley]

I know, I understand. Parent shit is the fucking worst. 

#critical role #imogen x fearne #ygifs #imogearne #my two fucked up little ruidusborn girlies ♥️♥️♥️ #it's so nuanced and so good the steps these two take specifically in these grand vulnerable moments they know the other is experiencing #Even Six Years Is Too Long imogen Watching fearne's reaction to all of these revelations and Making a point to tell fearne she Can be Angry #cos it's like ooo babygirl you are going Through it being around parents like that you just said yall should HURT EM ALL #and fearne just unaffected being like I mean should we I mean we could go right now this second and do that #the Way fearne Tried to approach relvin and Tried to mind his coldness only to realize all the damage that imogen took from that and just #Not let him deflect against yet another question he doesn't want to answer and fearne being succinct and serious to this man is Just #maybe it's so infinitesimal but two quiet observational background castouts steppingforward and Speaking up for the benefit of the other I j #they give I Emancipated from my parents at 16 vibes and I could watch them being dicks to the other's parents for 5 hours

[baconcolacan]

My inner demon: When are you going to draw Katipunero Paul

Me, starving low wage, overworked, artist: WHEN WE CAN AFFORD PANDESAL BACK OFF 😭😭😭

#neil talky #THERE ARE MANY BENEFITS TO BEING ASEXUAL #I have h*rny resistance +200 #even- *sobs* even towards my mans paul #OH THAT HURT TO SAY

[raylin-creates]

Me when I see a post about how First is useless to the lore: I. respect. your opinion. (internally raging) (fists shaking) (teeth gritted) (body trembling) (breathing ragged) (mind shook) (eyes wild) (mentally holding myself back from replying with the force of a blue whale being dropped to the ground at terminal velocity)

#first link #first linked universe #Hyrule Historia manga #linkeduniverse #I saw the post this is about like four days ago and I am trying SO HARD #not to reblog it with a rant about how the manga is great actually #and how the reason there are inconsistencies with the game lore is because the writers weren't allowed to know much about the game #so they had to work with vague ideas like 'the earliest in the series' #'Link forges the Master Sword' #and 'Loftwings' #and how embracing the flaws and coming up with fanon explanations for it is fun #and how the story is great but limited by its short format #and would have benefited from being expanded into a full-length manga #and how it adds complexity to Hylia that we only get second hand through Zelda in the game #or don't get at all #and it opens up speculation about the pre-skyloft civilization #and! and! and! #but I'm just gonna try to accept one man's trash is another man's blorbo #and move on by instead ranting in the tags of my own post #I actually agree with the poster on a lot of their other LU takes so this especially hurts

[compacflt]

Fully support your desire to cut down on the extras as they're already so long, but as someone who was also looking forward to the sickfic section and is sad to hear it's been taken out, I will simply have to ask you about it instead! First off the discussion of home in the snippet you shared was delicious - when do you think Mav started thinking of the house as 'their' home? And Ice taking Mav to the hospital has a lot of crunch there around how they're seen and how they act in public, especially if Ice was worried and Mav was kind of out of it. Do you think Ice would have taken Mav in to the hospital if he'd really been spiking a fever and decided he needed it? How would he explain themselves? And I suppose a separate, related question: who are their official next of kin/emergency contacts?

the reason i got rid of the sickfic is cause all those questions were answered better elsewhere in the extras ❤️

i was kind of annoyed that the house inconsistently appears to be the property of whomever the plot calls for at the moment -> another reason to cut the sickfic

Yes Ice would take mav to the hospital. it happens elsewhere LOL, maverick is extremely incident-prone

obviously a fun surfing injury with friends != the sickfic’s ice taking “a friend” to the hospital in the middle of the night for dangerous levels of illness-related dehydration… implies familiarity, intimacy above everyone else… the hospital staff would probably assume they’re together, yes, & i don’t think ice would challenge that at all, especially if he had to make sure all the paperwork was filled out right. just not worth the effort. “is there anyone else we should call for mr mitchell?” / “Um no. Just me.” Yeah i took him to the hospital at 4am bc i love him and im worried about him what r u gonna do about it 🤨 violate his hipaa rights? It’s 2009 gay people exist grow up🙄 hospital staff isn’t gonna tell anyone, so who cares

(Luckily for ice in the sickfic he didn’t have to take mav to the hospital)

the point of the sickfic was to establish a precedent for one of them voluntarily taking care of the other who is unable to take care of himself, to set up the parallel of maverick taking care of Ice when he Really gets capital-s Sick. but then i still can’t bring myself to write ice actually being capital-s Sick because i have some weird neurosis where i simply dislike thinking about ice (powerful guy) being helpless or incapacitated or, um, dead. so the mav-sickfic isn’t really relevant anymore because i haven’t written (and never plan on writing, besides that one half-assed one-shot) the corollary ice-sickfic. so the sickfic became the Nixed-fic ❌

And according to this wip wednesday snippet, they are each other’s emergency contacts. don’t ask me how that works or how they figured that out, idk. some stuff you do have to talk about for logistics purposes i guess. which is kind of the point of all the house-related/money-related discussions I’ve written throughout my fics—they Have to talk about the logistics because that’s real life. But they don’t INTERPRET those logistics or assign them a normative value.

for instance debriefing presents (maverick’s) death & taxes as the only two things that ever get them to actually talk to each other lol. logistics become a vessel through which they can talk about their situation without actually talking about it. The state of being each others emergency contacts might be a death-and-taxes discussion—acknowledging permanence without acknowledging permanence

#so is wearing protection (or not) during sex! #i still have a hard time identifying the stakes in this fic that i wrote on a whim sometimes #is it just not saying i love you? or is it everything that goes along with saying i love you? #bc really the way ive written them they are baaaasically married in the 90s #which is obviously a huge criticism that i keep leveling at myself: no it does not make sense for them to buy a house!!! for instance. #would it make sense for them to be each others next of kin either? idk! #all of this predicated on me not knowing the legal ramifications of next of kinship or homeownership and because it’s fanfiction not being #interested enough to research it #i say this all the time but this is one of those areas where i know if i were older/had lived longer my writing would just be better #idk if they would be each others next of kin but OTOH idk who else they would ask to do it! #man i wish i had infinite tags i actually have so much more to say #pete maverick mitchell #tom iceman kazansky #icemav #asks #edts notes #need the icemav fanfic where ice & mav try to figure out their tricare benefits #thank you for the ask! #some sections just aren’t the right vibe too #like me & the sickfic just did not vibe with one another

[zer0point5ive]

lawrence didn’t need to be chained up in a bathroom he needed to be on the receiving end of some mind blowing gay sex. unfortunately, the horrors

#being topped wouldve fixed that man. not kidding even a little bit #adam was willing but. unfortunately the horrors (plastic bag) #of course he is beyond fixing stage but i do believe from my professional opinion (gay sex haver) he would still benefit #📹 #had a dream about lawrence actually wondering what thats a symptom of. told me he was gay so that checks out #thank you subconscious for being so fun & correct