#the closet is bullshit

[simm-mouse]

Nevermind, my brain wouldn't let me stop drawing all night and wants me to share this

Last night doodle of how my game's going rn

When one father doesn't want to get bitten by his werewolf daughter, while the other one does🐺

#my bullshit #my art #fanart #the sims 2 #ts2 #strangetown #nervous subject #stinky death boy #smelly bastard #pascal curious #papa manlet #Closeted furry in my game for some reason #Jeannie Curious #Pupper girl #Very aggressive werewolf #Reeeeaally wants to bite someone #She's hasn't yet though

[scrawnytreedemon]

Seriously tempted to make a highkey detached headcanon/pseudo-analysis post regarding Zant and gender. Probably a bad idea.

#scrawny rambles #zant #strong emphasis on the pseudo it's red string pins and corkboards fueled by audhd & months if not cumulative years of hyperfixation #my thing is that the optics are awful and this is tumblr #when it's like. alot of finding my gender issues and feminine rage in a character that... does not play *well* with that #it could be seen as crossing a line when i'm closeted transmasc and i see them as. well closeted *something else* #if that makes sense #it's deeply meaningful to me and comes from a place of compassion #but i think even someone in good faith can see the obvious issues with that #let alone the numerous people who either don't/no longer have the patience #or are looking for a fight #idk man. don't really have anyone personally to talk about this with that has the same extensive bg on the guy as i #i've got good and eager friends #but i'm giving them the context— the conversation is inherently led and skewed by my biases in a topic i have wayyy too much investment in #and they don't. yknow? #as opposed to presenting it to other people who share it and have wider context #and the sense to know if i'm bullshitting #the lens ends up being an addition instead of the groundwork; y'feel? #it's 1am god help #seasonal depression has my sleep schedule in a shit pit. sad! #tl;dr: things that look bad unfortunately compell me and that's why i give villains 18752489 flavours of queer biracial and neurodiv. ty. #just like me fr frrrrr

[so-idialed-9]

Adam Lambert defends Harry Styles - and describes the ostracism the music industry gave him for kissing his male bandmate in 2009...just about when 1D was being formed.

He thought his success on American Idol gave him freedom and protection but it didn't. He prepared for backlash from the public but instead -

“But what surprised me is the industry got mad... because truthfully, I wasn't doing anything offensive [by kissing a man onstage].

But it was a miscalculation.

I was put in the corner. I didn’t get, like, dropped or anything, but they weren’t gonna listen to my ideas at that point. My credibility was shot. I was a liability."

#adam lambert #for those who say closeting doesn't exist anymore #fuck the system #industry bullshit #music industry #lgbtq #1d #one direction #american idol #louis tomlinson #harry styles #fuck homophobia #queerbaiting discourse

[mzminola]

Trying to figure out why the fandom meme that Tim is misogynistic bothers me so much, beyond my usual kneejerk response to perceived inaccuracy, and I think the key is that it feels like fandom is lying to me.

Specifically, lying about nearly all the other characters.

That I am being taunted with some theoretical Less Sexist 90′s Comics that don’t actually exist.

Sexism is one of the reasons that I never bothered to seek out superhero comics when younger. Our town didn’t have a comics shop, which sure put a damper on it, but I didn’t bother looking for collected volumes when venturing into regular bookstores, or the occasional trip out of town to places with huge bookstores. I flipped through enough and heard enough chatter to know I didn’t want to put up with the sexism. Scans Daily on Livejournal sure had plenty of supporting examples.

Reading 1990′s & early 2000′s comics now, I can confirm this was the right choice on younger me’s part. There is a lot of sexism in that era, and unlike with prose books by a singular author, it’s much harder to ditch wholesale. I’ve got a lot more analytical reading under my belt now, so it’s easier to roll my eyes at the bullshit and focus on what is enjoyable than it used to be. From the later 2010′s comics I found at the library, things are improving, though still stumbling.

So yeah, Tim does sometimes say sexist crap. But as I devour comic after comic, so far, he isn’t saying or doing anything more sexist, more frequently, than any other character, including the gals. It’s almost like it’s a writing problem, not a character problem.

As far as I can tell, from what I’ve read, which includes all of Batgirl 2000, Young Justice 1998, and nearly half of Robin 1993, Tim is less sexist than the adult men he’s surrounded by, and no few of his fellow teenage boy heroes.

Maybe I’m missing something! But gender doesn’t seem to come into his treatment of Gotham vigilantes and YJ teammates? The most it comes up with his civilian peers is that, typical for the time period, girls are treated by the narrative & characters as potential romantic options and boys aren’t? Tim talks to Callie the same way he talks to Ives & Hudman? He and Ariana both make relationship mistakes, but in ways that are pretty normal for a 13-14 year old’s first romance?

So when the fandom keeps making ‘misogyny’ Tim’s distinguishing traits from the other Bats, or other YJ members or Titans, it implies that reading comics focused on other characters would have less sexism, but when I do read other comics, that’s not fucking TRUE.

Where are these magical less sexist Bat comics?

Who are these heroes fandom claims are less misogynistic?

Because it’s not Nightwing. It’s not anything Bruce takes center stage in. Barbara is fine in Batgirl 2000, but in other comics she’s written as cattily jealous and tears into other women. It’s not Stephanie, as we saw with Batgirl 2009′s treatment of Jordanna Spence.

Batgirl 2000 does pretty good, but that’s the only one I can think of, and fandom singling out Tim makes it sound like it should be all of the others.

Fandom likes to say Jason drinks his Respect Women Juice, but when I read Under the Red Hood and Lost Days, they felt about the same level as Tim’s comics. And I keep seeing examples from Jason’s Robin days of him admiring women or learning from them or teaming up, but I also get that from Tim’s comics.

Before he even had a long running solo, Tim’s Robin mini’s got a crossover with Huntress, in which he respects both her skills and her secrets, and argues with her about as much as he does with Bruce. Tim supports Cassie winning leadership of Young Justice, he supports Cissie’s decision to do what she felt was most responsible. He apologizes for avoiding Cass after finding her intimidating and goes on to work well with her.

I like Tim. I’m mostly enjoying his comics. They’ve got less sexism than I expected of the era they’re written in.

And I hate that fandom’s running meme about him makes it feel like everyone else is making a joke at my expense.

#Robin 1993 #Tim Drake #fandom critical #comics meta #or I guess fandom meta? #DC #Batfam #maybe no one in fandom actually means it and it IS 'just a joke' #but gawd if it is it's a shitty one #and I am pretty sure it ISN'T a joke from a lot of people #that they actually do mean it #it does NOT help that Tim is now one of the openly queer characters in DC #and 'jokingly' accusing gay men of hating women is a long standing piece of bigoted bullshit #and bi men were always lumped in with that when their existence was acknowledged #do I remember how horrible it felt as a closeted teen #when one of my friends found out Neil Patrick Harris is gay #and declared that him being gay and thus 'unavailable' #was 'a crime against women'? #yeah you fucking bet I do

[bemtevis]

you're telling me ari became friends with CHARLES but not ALASTAIR?!?

#BULLSHIT #the thing about his redemption arc is that cc never really acknowledged his real faults to begin with #his sin wasn't to be closeted. it was to disrespect his partner's wishes and boundaries #over and over and over again #so his redemption doesn't hold up when you leave the confines of what the story tells you #and analyze what's underneath that #WHEN I SAID KAMALA SHOULD HAVE FRIENDS THIS WASN'T WHAT I MEANT!!! #the last hours #chot #chot spoilers #chain of thorns spoilers #chain of thorns #arati bridgestock #arati joshi #what last name is she using now?? Idk but I love her name #anti charles fairchild

[aritany]

tonight i talk to my parents on a video call for the first time in almost a year. the last time we spoke, they were trying to convince me to go back into the closet and masquerade as a straight woman so my ex would take me back. i’ve spent a year growing teeth and rage and i just found out last night they have been reading abigail shrier’s book irreversible damage: the transgender craze seducing our daughters (iykyk).

i don’t intend for there to be survivors.

(what else are the teeth even good for?)

#alex talks #personal #transphobia tw #transphobia #i know this is The heaviest thing to just bump into on your dash so i hope word filters get this one for anyone who may have a bad time w it #anyway wish me luck #i’ve decided this conversation is going to be fun #i don’t hold any hopes of our relationship surviving or thriving in the future so this is my shot to just go wild #tell them everything i wish i has when i was a closeted kid listening to them spout bullshit

[sapphire-weapon]

imagine being so disconnected from RE fandom that you think that Leon only became popular starting with RE2make

#leon has been the male sex symbol of resident evil since 1998 and that's just fact #that's also i think where jilleon as a ship originated if i'm not mistaken #ppl shipped the two sex symbols together because it was hot #but hey jilleon fandom #how's it feel to fucking win finally after 25 years #leon has more chemistry with jill than he's ever had with claire or ada imo #jill and leon are those ppl who aren't actually romantically involved #but have definitely gotten caught fucking in a closet at some point #and they both just sort of shrugged #and then just slowly closed the door again #and just went back at it #and then afterwards when ppl brought it up #they were like 'you guys act like you've never fucked in a broom closet at a wedding rehearsal before' #AS THOUGH THAT'S A NORMAL THING THAT NORMAL PEOPLE DO #jill and leon are those long-term friends who just fuck sometimes when they're bored or haven't gotten any in a while #like they're absolutely friends first #and then one day one texts the other like 'dude it's been like 6 months since i've gotten laid this is bullshit' #and the other is like 'well my saturday is free' #and then they don't hook up again for like over a year #like they literally just do each other a solid every once in a while but are completely normal friends otherwise

[madohomurat]

"im just not comfortable with the word bisexual" i used to feel that way with the word lesbian you know. for most of my teenaged years i id'd as bi because lesbian was a gross word to me and i was afraid of it. turns out that was internalized lesbophobia. food for thought.

but you know, maybe i never should have called myself a lesbian. maybe i should have stuck with bisexual forever? afterall everyone knows that no bisexual woman has ever felt alienated to be surrounded by "bisexuals" who parrot logic like 'being bi means loving women and loving one male celebrity'.

no bisexual woman has ever felt shut out from their own community when closeted lesbians barged in and made bisexuality revolve around wlw attraction.

there certainly isnt, to this day, a consistent effort that bisexual women feel they have to prove themselves and their male attraction worthy due to the pressure of having to live up to the nonsensical standard bisexual women of loving women "more" than they love men.

labels dont matter so it couldn't have possibly caused anyone any harm. and if they think it did then thats their fault and they should get over it <3 we are all queer together so just get along!!!

^anyway thats sarcasm, i have to say, because this is tumblr. but it sure would be fucked up and disgusting for someone to come to that conclusion huh? it sure would be insanely biphobic and lesbophobic to think thats a healthy scenario in any way possible isnt it? you agree and understand why bisexuals would and have feel alienated by lesbians calling themselves bisexual?

and like, in the context of being in the closet and figuring these things out, sometimes this shit happens, but that doesnt mean we should encourage it, because at the end of the day its still internalized biphobia/lesbophobia etc.

#long post #discourse bullshit sorry #was thinking about early tumblr biphobia and this came to me #like i think so much of it was closeted lesbians being afraid to call themselves lesbians

[lemon-box]

IM SO TIRED OF SCREAMING IM SO TIRED OF GOING INSANE SOMEONE TELL ME WHERE MICHEAL JACOBS LIVES SO I CAN KNOCK ON HIS DOOR AND RELEASE A COMICALLY LARGE JAR OF BEES ONTO HIM, IF GOD WONT PUNISH HIM I WILL.

#HOW DO SHORY DENIERS EXIST #WHAT IS THIS BULLSHIT #in the duration of thos episode ive screamed approximately 13 times #boy meets world is a vessle depicting closeted queerness in a heteronormative world #cory please im going go piss on your head you suck #boy meets world #bmw #eric matthews #cory matthews #shory

[barrygeuse]

the difference between rob mcclure's adam and david josefsberg's adam is that david's adam openly likes men

#his mannerisms SCREAM ''i am a proud bisexual man'' #rob's adam is so far into the closet he hasnt seen the light of day in his entire life. #and i love him for this #and in fact i think it's so very funny. rob's adam obviously likes men but he just doesn't know it yet #if ANYONE comes onto this post with their beetlejuice x adam bullshit i can and will kill them. viscerally and painfully. #rob mcclure #david josefsberg #adam maitland #barbara maitland #beetlejuice #bjtm #beetlejuice the musical #beetlejuice barry #art's maitland stuff

[opens-up-4-nobody]

I desperately need to be a scene kid for Halloween this year

#idk y but i suddenly realized that im an adult and could potentially buy the goth bullshit at hot topic #that 12yo me desperately desired. and then i was like oof but i like the contrast of color #like i think i really wanted to be somewhere between scene and emo really #but thrn i was looking at scene outfits and im like woof. this is the kinda cringe i love. all thr fucking patterns. all thr colors #i even have thr 1nvader z1m graphic tees in my closet... i think #i just dont kno how tf to do that to my hair and also i dont have actual makeup lol #but i must be a scene kid for Halloween. i want the most ostentatious outfit. oh god im gonna have to go to the mall #i havent been to the mall in ages. i need to go to hot topic and claires. is pacsun still around? do they still sell skinny jeans? #i feel like everythings all bland now in stores. where tf do i go to get early 00s and 2010s clothes #good will maybe??? oh god. its like 3.30am and my hormones r all fucked up so i was experiencing like the type of fear you have when youre #like a little kid in a dark room by yourself. its not fair. when my hormones shift it goes: im so depressed to im full of rage ill kill u #to the world is so fucking beautiful im gonna kill myself. like in a not worrying way idk how else to express the feeling. to the type of #unhinged and undirected fear that belongs to a kid who doesnt kno shit. also lil heart palpitations and sometimes feeling like im gonna die #its bullshit. y does my body hate me? ugh. at least ive got a Halloween plan now #unrelated #oh god. dont let me cut myself bangs. im trying to grow my hair back out lol. im an emo with no bangs

[custer-mp3]

i think this is as clean as my room's ever been

#it was a lot easier to keep clean when it was even 3' wider without the closet cutting in but alas #I VACUUMED #housemate's running the dishwasher which is bullshit cuz i smell like three week old seafood & dust I NEED TO SHOWER

[saraloveslove]

The brazilian interview sets the clock back of almost 10 years.

But if ten years ago they hadn't any kind of voice in this, everyday that passes makes it clear that Harry and Louis have kind of agreed to maintain their closet and the current narrative. Could be because that's the minor of the damages or it could be because they are themselves damaged at the point they believe that's actually what is better for them.

I will never "unlarry" or bullshits like that, simply because once you know the truth you cannot unknow that.

But, I think that everyday more they owe us a thing: to free us.

They hurt us with this behaviour and, after fourteen years or relationship, I think we deserve honesty. And peace.

#louis tomlinson #closet #1d #denial #larrydenial #brazilian interwiew #chickenconspiracyoniphone #free us #gaslighting #bullshit

[so-idialed-9]

In today's example of industry closeting and harassment of lgbtq artists:

David Archuleta - a formerly-closeted singing show contestant who came out in 2021, after considering suicide - says his manager received an angry email from the concert booker because he mentioned his LGBTQ identity in his 11.29.22 concert -

"We have some very upset patrons that I will [be] dealing with today. I would hope that in the remaining concerts that [Archuleta mentioning his private life and lgbtq identity] would not be allowed."

Would not be allowed?! How, exactly, do they want his manager to enforce this? Would the usual simple intimidation suffice, or is extortion in play now, or perhaps physical force the answer?

Please clarify, entertainment booking agent. And fuck all the way off.

If a nobody booking agent feels free to do this so openly - can you just IMAGINE the pressure that members of, say, the biggest band in the world at the time, would hsvr been/are under to stay closeted?

Archuleta has a great response - in part:

#david archuleta #american idol #closeting #music industry #venue #industry bullshit #lgbt #louis tomlinson #harry styles

[athelise]

sorry for not writing

doing school working out drinking water cooking cleaning brushing my teeth have supplanted my will to write

will be back eventually lol

#im so tired #and so much bullshit to deal with #cleaning out my closet lol

[muffinrag]

briefly came out as a man and i genuinely don't think i've ever regretted something so much

I can't do literally anything without it being a "man thing" now. brush my teeth in the shower? oh, like a man. Crying? those are man tears. watching a tv show? it's a Dad Show For Men. buying a shirt? wow what a manly man shirt

like does nobody grasp how fucking infantilizing and obnoxious that shit is

#soliloquy #cue me crawling directly back into the closet #love feeling like an alien and a freak among other queers. lmao #combine this bullshit with all the testosterone demonization and im genuinely in fucking hell #and don't even get me fucking started on the anger jokes #shout out to my dad for giving me enough complexes about anger to scare any therapist