#this is what male friendships are like

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

Laios's three Boy Best Friends. And yes, they hate him.

#dungeon meshi #laios touden #toshiro nakamoto #chilchuck tims #kabru #BF in this context could be boyfriend or best friend. The line is so blurry. #Chilchuck less so but whatever is going on between Shuro and Laios & Kabru and Laios is giving strong: #“dude if you were a girl I'd date the hell out of you”. And from the genderswap extra's that sentiment is canon for BOTH. #This was made prior to the translation of the Laios & Kabru & Shuro restaurant date comic and honestly I am just feeling vindicated. #I don't even know what to call this dynamic other than a situationship. There is so much going on between all of them. #Even on a purely platonic reading - the miscommunication and male yearning for friendship hurt so bad. #When we got the Big Hug scene in the epilogue arc I was whooping and hollering! Pure catharsis moment! #I also don't like hugs very much so I really felt it went Shuro ('hates being touched') went in for the bear hug. #Do not get me started on the agony of 'always lying' Kabru telling the truth (I just wanted to be friends) #and 'always believes' Laios thinking it's another lie and brushing him off. #I am once again supporting dungeon meshi day by posting art. Please watch dungeon meshi. #obligatory edit because I’m tired: YES. Chilchuck cares for Laios and him admitting it was a huge part of his arc #YES he is more just fed up with him that actually hating him. #I needed a third guy to be canonically done with his ass for the THREE WEED SMOKING GIRLFRIENDS reference

[skrunksthatwunk]

mine fucking joined organized crime because he wanted to know if friendship was real

#im not kidding go watch the rooftop scene again hes like i didnt even know if friendship was real so i went to the organization where #male friendship reigns supreme. the yakuza #(and this is played completely straight) #and then he does the ultimate 'guys can be friends too' thing and falls obsessively in love with a man #i keep being like omg he's gay as hell and then remembering thats like on purpose this time #rgg #yakuza 3 #minedai #mineposting a lot tonight sorry #mine yoshitaka #hes so fucking funny what is wrong with him

[acediaedeus]

this does contain them sweet

SPOILERS

what I find really upsetting about Ichigo’s dynamic with his friends/family/mentors is how they treat the fact that he’s part-Hollow. especially when it comes to the Visored and Orihime.

bc yeah, the Visored did struggle with their Hollows, bc they already lived hundreds of years without that aspect. they were comfortable with their shinigami existence, but then this hollowfication bullshit drops on their heads and suddenly they’re not only barely in control of themselves, constantly in a fight with an inner “demon”, but also there’s no one to support them AND they’re getting fucking exiled and then they exist as this tightly knit community of eight for a fucking century with no one to understand them but each other. I’d hate the Hollow in me too, probably.

BUT, then there’s this fresh guy, that hasn’t accepted the fact that he’s now an amalgamation of a million different things, including something that he has been told he has to fight and exterminate, that they have to teach to manage the hollowfication bullshit™️ so what do we do? correct, scare the shit out of him and present existing with a Hollow as amensalism (one is harmed, one is unaffected) or parasitism (one benefits, one is harmed) when it’s more like commensalism (one benefits, one is unaffected), in which the shinigami is clearly the one who’s benefiting from this.

(although we could argue that for the Visored this is a symbiotic relationship in which both are getting harmed, but even then the shinigami still gains benefit and the Hollow gets nothing but hatred, so like, fuck them, lol (I’m advocating for inner-Hollow rights 💀🙏🏻)).

biology lesson out of the way, they essentially do not teach Ichigo anything that would bring long-term benefits (we see this when Ichigo is unable to complete his training with Squad 0, bc he has no fucking idea who Zangetsu (or he himself) actually is (this is, of course, in part his quincy power’s doing, but I wouldn’t say his supposed “mentors” helped much).

in conclusion what does Ichigo get out of this? self-hatred and the habit to suppress what is, whichever way you look at it, a big part of his being, thus blocking himself and Zangetsu from reaching their full potential.

but I guess you can’t teach lessons you haven’t learnt yourself, so there is that with the Visored.

now onto my dear Orihime, who I love dearly (this is a disclaimer). for someone who, supposedly, loves Ichigo more than anything and who we have to take seriously as not only just a potential love-interest, but the actual, one-and-only lover, she is a little bit too scared of Ichigo.

this, of course, for me, begs the question of how am I supposed to accept a love-interest who is consistently terrified of the mc? not a single battle with Orihime present (and Ichigo using the mask) without her shaking in fear and having to be reminded by others (who have known him for much less time than she has), that not only is it still Ichigo in front of her, but he’s also fighting and pulling out the mask he himself doesn’t like much, in order to protect her.

it’s plain and simple upsetting how there’s absolutely no one to accept and embrace the essence of Kurosaki Ichigo. everyone around him wants the shinigami and human in him, no one is interested in the Hollow (except for *ahem* Grimmjow *ahem*), all they do is reject and cower and isn’t that fucking hypocritical after hiding behind his back and begging him to save them?

everyone around Ichigo just really pisses me off with their constant whining. I feel like the only ones who love and cherish Ichigo for the absolute gem of a person he is are Chad and the fucking Arrancars 💀🙏🏻

as I mentioned in the ALT to the last photo in this parade of idiocy: trying to separate and think of Hollow Ichigo and Ichigo as two different entities is crazy and delusional behaviour, bc we have been told countless times, that a person’s inner Hollow is a manifestation of all repressed emotions and traits that they view as unsavoury. which for Ichigo happened to be aggression, cruelty, being merciless and thirst for bloody battles.

let me remind everyone that you cannot truly love a person w/o accepting and acknowledging all their flaws (including yourself).

this is not me trying to say Orihime doesn’t love Ichigo, it’s not really about the characters, more so the writing. I am actively trying to square up with Tite Kubo. for many reasons, but this is one of the ones I pay most attention to.

Ichigo is someone who is in perfect control of himself, who protects no matter what, bc even when he turned into the vasto lorde (after getting his heart ripped out of his chest) it was all his Hollow, yet it still carried out the mission of protection seamlessly, that’s how strong his will is. Kurosaki Ichigo deserves ppl who actually love him around, thank you.

thanks for coming to this ted talk, love y’all!

#bleach #kurosaki ichigo #inoue orihime #ichigo x orihime #kind of #but not really #bc I’m being a hater about them #it’s actually much more #grimmichi #I can’t go a single post about Ichigo without mentioning Grimmjow #they are very dear to me #also #they are in love #visored #I’m an opinionated bitch #can you tell? #literally don’t piss me off about this #I don’t play about Kurosaki Ichigo or Hollows #this is NOT me hating on Orihime I love that girl #I just hate the treatment Ichigo has to endure #my friend had to listen to different variations of this same rant 20 times I think #she’s TIRED #oh also #Chad is mentioned bc I love what he has with Ichigo #truly beautiful #this is what true male friendship looks like #overuse of coloured text for a bigger oomph #surprisingly no italics? #random biological bullshit #this got long

[starship-buccaneer]

Steve: Well yeah, Eddie flirts with me constantly and touches me all the time and I do it back and everything, but we're just two guys horsin' around, y'know?

Everyone: No Steve. We do not know.

Steve: Yeah, Eddie's fruity with me, so what? Just because I'm a guy and he likes guys doesn't automatically mean he's into me. He's just comfortable being himself with me!

Everyone: Steve. He's sitting in your lap, playing with your hair. He calls you pretty boy, Steve. He's wearing your sweater, Steve. Steve, please.

#steddie #this is essentially the plot of the fic im writing #steve has-never-had-a-healthy-male- friendship harrington assumes that his friendship with eddie is what good normal male frienship is #everyone else watches on in abject misery as steves obliviousness reaches unbelievable new heights #steve briefly wonders where his interest in pursuing a romantic relationship has gone #then immediately comes to the wrong conclusion that he's simply transcended romance through the power of friendship #meanwhile eddie is tragically pining after a man who could not act more like his boyfriend but is tragically stupid #robin has become the conspiracy board meme from its always sunny #her board has IS STEVE BISEXUAL in big bold serial killer cutout letters on it. theres red string connecting pictures of him and eddie #and also him and bruce springsteen #its all very scientific #dustin and max add to it sometimes #steve harrington #eddie munson #steve harrington x eddie munson #stranger things

[pauls1967moustache]

What Beatle biographers don’t understand is that all the dynamics and problems between John, Paul and George can be easily explained if you’ve ever experienced a toxic female friendship when you were a teenager

#idk nuthin bout toxic male friendships #nor do I care #but this is just like what happened with my and my best friend when I was 14

[moe-broey]

AU I made when I was REALLY fixated on Pokemon Violet where I just put everyone in the fucking academy as transfer or exchange students. Originally it was just the SuMo squad and I had some comics (unfinished) about it, interactions between everyone, ect! Then I got distracted and months later I pick up White 2 and well. Back on my bullshit LMFAOOO 🫡

Unfortunately Lillie and Gladion look much better in person, did not show up on camera well 🥲

All of this is just proof of concept anyway!! Espppp trying to get a feel for color palettes and having fun pushing the uniform rules to their limits LMFAO, and also wanting to show how a character wears a uniform can also be a reflection of themselves!

#pokemon #ALSO MADE THIS AU BEFORE I KNEW ABOUT THE DLC AND HOW WE'RE GONNA BE EXCHANGE STUDENTS (EXCITING) #video games appeal to sick male fantasy such as. *squints at notes* having friends and a good time in school #i need ALLL OF THEM to be friends SO FUCKING BAAAD #like beyond the obvious arven/lillie/gladion friendship/solidarity/processing trauma ect (which i do have concepts for btw) #i NEED arven and hau to be best friends actually. like fucking yesterday. #AND nemona/gladion and now hugh as endless pursuit of strength buddies. nemona is SO EXCITED ABOUT IT #nemona is ALSO VERY enthusiastic about helping lillie gain confidence as a trainer as well!!! much like how she was w protag #also gladion/penny wolf t-shirt kid solidarity. walked the mile. are you listening to me. #and obviously for years now i've been wanting a hugh/gladion friendship like come on!!!!!!! #roz/rosa can fit in anywhere tbh i just want them here. also moon is canon in the au but idk what they're up to. somewhere abroad. #rival hugh #trainer rosa #pokemon lillie #gladion #hau #arven #nemona #trainer penny #my art

[funishment-time]

the funniest Danganronpa take i ever heard (not on this Site) was that they didn't like the Games because "the women in it seemed to hate each other." nerd this is Danganronpa. everyone hates each other. there's a killing game going on. girlboss is trying to girlsurvive

#that ignores clear Friendships/Yuri subtext folks too like Tokomaru and Sakuraoi #and UTDP/Summer Camp verse #regardless #the games fully pass the Bechdel test which is pretty astounding from what seems like (?) a majority male team #danganronpa

[falllpoutboy]

sydcarmy would not generate this much pushback on social media and have people scream for them to stay platonic if both of them were white

it’s time like these when i remember this article that may be of some use for everyone to read

#like every time i see a viral sydcarmy tweet #(which the virality of them definitely means a lot of people are either shippers themselves or lying) #theres dozens of replies crying about the sanctity of male female friendships and other shit #theres other male and female characters on the bear for syd and carmy to be friends with #i have yet to see a post with at least a few thousand likes wanting sydney and marcus to get together #and i saw a shit ton of viral tweets clowning claire and carmy scenes #no one else on that show has a charged and sexy and platonic and messy (actual words about sc from molly gordons mouth) dynamic #sooo?? what now #its giving f!nnrey and th0rkyrie all over again

[mishiami]

whoever that one person was forever ago who encouraged me to watch haikyuu when i considered watching you, you're a godsend

#im only on season 2 but #its so neat #its so pleasant #and also very gay idk why theres so many deep and intimate male friendships is this what sports is like #cmon guys #jk but shoyo's such a sweetie thats all

[padfootastic]

yeah so it’s not like my codependent james & sirius don’t love or care for other people. it’s that, when it comes down to it, their default is the other and sorry if u don’t think that’s different but it is.

they’re not putting the people in their life on a twisted graded hierarchy, they’re just?? each others?? most important person?? like bro why is it that the most common tropes on fucking earth are a problem when it’s prongsfoot????

#if u couldn’t tell already #i keep going onto the anti pf side of things #and ykno what i’m gonna do it. i’m gonna take the plunge. do what i dislike. and block. #(no but i’ll try to. really) #lEt tHeM bE bRoS #dOnT cHeApEn tHeiR fRieNdShIp #yah and while we’re at this it let’s also let the history books say they were friends #because we don’t have enough male friendships so we need representation 😀 #(sometimes??? do they realise??? they’re regurgitating older homophobic phrases or???) #like bro. ur not the only one w life exp. #‘sometimes i think these people don’t/can’t—‘ shut up shut UP #i hate romance irl. can’t do it will never do it don’t like it. #but that’s not my fictional consumption now is it? #and won’t be either #j&s occupy a space more than friends OR lovers #also don’t know why some people r seeking realism?? in this universe?? esp considering what they’re writing usually?? #like. some self awareness pls? #if y’all can’t tell. i’m annoyed lmao #i’m just sick of seeing j/s treated like. idk. it’s the first or only ship to romanticise friendships or wtv #WHILE and this bit is imp WHILE loudly shipping w*l farar and j*gulus like??? #just say u like those ships and go?? #but also. that last point is just me being frustrated. i get the bitching bc i do the same w those two ships #so like. yeah. respect their right to rant. but won’t respect the rant lol #also…this isn’t @ like anyone in particular . it’s just many people on the anti pf mwpp side i’ve seen who have similar arguments #and they’re always the stupidest #which i wouldn’t care for so much it if they didn’t constantly bring up ‘real life! realistic! not how it works!’ etc etc #yah #that’s it for now #i’m sure i’ll come back later lmao #pen’s whining

[geraskier-thots]

i wish people were nicer to him. he’s so much more than the comedic side character everyone shits on for fun

#geralt do this challenge #at least yennefer got it in s2 #the self projection is strong today #imagine loving so much with everything you’ve got and you keep giving and giving until you completely burn out #damn i just made myself even sadder #anyways stan jaskier #for what is a story without it’s storyteller? #the witcher #why am i like this #don’t @ me #jaskier #diversity win! the queer coded side character is in a deep male friendship with the leading man! #the witcher netflix

[molluskzone]

and hmmmm maybe i will continue to Instigate. i have talked about the concept of "pick me girls" before on this blog and why i don't like it. and i truly genuinely with all my heart believe that women complaining about "pick mes" are infinitely MORE of a "pick me" than the women they target. you can only repeat the same stuff for so long before you're just seething over nothing, yeah? and honestly, if you're going to claim to be feminist about it, i don't think it's very feminist to claim that everything a woman does, she does because she wants to get "picked" by a man. why do you think men are so special that everything you do needs to revolve around getting one? if a woman is doing something genuinely misogynist, you can call her a misogynist. because a lot of the time when i see whining about "pick mes" its not even a woman whos trying to get men to like her by tearing down other women. it's just a woman who like, thinks makeup is stupid (not misogynistic OR inherently pick-me behavior, because women do not pop out of the womb with a full face), or think girly things are frivolous (maybe you can call her a BITCH but you can't call her a misogynistic pick me girl for that alone). also the "pick me" concept being named after being PICKED (by men) just leads me to this idea that you're not actually mad about her tearing down other women, youre mad about the appeal to MEN since that is what's being centered in your language! and what's more "pick me behavior" than that?

#like i have literally been called a pickme because i dont like makeup #i didnt say a WORD about other women who wear it! i just said i didnt like it! #and its all 'ugh what are you trying to say? you clearly have soe internalized misogyny' no i think YOU do actually #if youre so defensive then try to unpack that on your own instead of taking it out on gnc women #because thats always who it targets. you dont have to make up a butch in your head #whos seethinggg about how youre just a pretty girl who likes girly things! #ive always known that i WILL be excluded from friendships with women because of my whole deal #and ive accepted that #but i CANNOT accept women being bullied over their opinions #by an ideology that claims to hate male-centrism over female community but who then makes #EVERYTHING they talk about about wanting to get with guys while ALSO TEARING DOWN OTHER GIRLS???

[ennaih]

Not Every Film I Watch In 2024

14. Fire Down Below (1957)

#fire down below #fire down below (1957) #2024filmgifs #my gifs #what a strange little film #but exactly as homoerotic as I expected #cos what else would you get with a Classic Hollywood love triangle #it was wonderfully sarcastic dialogue #i enjoyed that so much #and the sight of Mitchum and Lemmon reacting to each other #not a pairing i ever would have thought of #and it totally works for this story of male friendship torn asunder by a wimmin #i was a little nervous about the ending #until i remembered The China Syndrome #and how that was a first for Jackie #so i relaxed and i wuz proven right cos Classic Hollywood #but a very strange plot nevertheless #and so strangely paced almost laconic and way too relaxed for its own good #but i did like that some of it was shot on location #clearly

[bayfuzzball7050]

#ok so 18 pounds of cokane 12 pounds of crake and 7 male stripers but make sure none of them are white #I can’t see the coke on them if they are #mlp #princess celestia #mlp fanart #my art #not what I’m used to post #i made this like a year ago #shitpost #my little pony #my litte pony friendship is magic #:3 #mlp fim #mlp art #mlp friendship is magic #mlp fan art #mlp g4

[forgetme-eternally-blissfully]

Me reading a cool new novel: hah wow this is cool it has a neat premise and a promising plot line let’s see our protagonist level up and learn how to use his new power in interesting and cool ways—

*MC meets a beautiful powerful girl and defeats her

*MC meets a beautiful powerful girl and impresses her

*MC meets a beautiful powerful girl and rescues her

*MC meets a beautiful powerful girl and defeats her PT 2

Me: Ah nvm it’s a harem novel god damn it

#it was cool at first but now I’m grinding my teeth like wtf #I was okay with it at first bc like. he defeats the beautiful cold hearted prodigy by a hairs breadth and we get this sad backstory for her #which could be better’d by the MC who doesn’t fear her and can teach her how to socialize and become a brighter happier person through their #developing friendship and potentially romantic relationship and it could have led to character development for both of them as they struggle #through the feeling of being cast aside as an ‘other’ by society and learning how to stumble through a relationship that involves #communication and admittance and honesty #something our MC and FL can’t get through their mentors #instead we get her genuine attempts at becoming friends being brushed off by him who assumes she’s going to eventually want a romantic #relationship by the end of it and ARGHHXHHD she’s a shy person!! she’s trying her best!!! you asshole!!!! and then the author has the #AUDACITY #to make her continue yearning after this guy who doesn’t give 2 shits about her and she’s only used as a support character for the #ensuing battle and then he promptly leaves her behind for his own adventure #and don’t even get me STARTED on the lack of compatibility with the other women in this story #they aren’t even being used as potential love interests they’re just there so the author can say he added strong female characters and then #IMMEDIATELY turns around and makes them fawn over this 19 yr guy who cAn pRoTeCt ThEM AnD HEs sO cOoL FUCK #I was holding out but now he just annoys me dude this is why I don’t like reading male lead perspectives if there’s a DROP of romance #it ruins it! romance is dead no one knows what chemistry is they only want to be fawned over by women to stroke their egos #not a reblog

[mikesbasementbeets]

hi :D i found ur bi max masterpost a while ago (this one: https://www.tumblr.com/mikesbasementbeets/696412509960323072/ive-been-thinking-a-lot-about-elmax-recently-and)

and in the beginning u said that there u were focusing on max, but el has a lot of queer coding too (which i fully agree on btw). i wanted to know if u have made a post about her queer coding or if u are working on one? bc i really enjoy ur posts in general :]

hi! that's very sweet, thank you. no, unfortunately i've not done any analysis on el's queer coding (but i saw that you found someone else's post about it which i think is a good read). i think i wrote that bi max analysis in like september? (yes) so it's been a while since i've revisited those thoughts, but eImax is still so dear to me and i would love to have the brain space i had back then to analyze both of them again... but maybe i will think some more on it actually if there's interest....

#el's difficult in particular because her own gender and personhood and like discovery of the world and friendship and family #are core to her character and coding so it's hard to know if what might be interpreted as queer coding might not be something else... #does that make sense? like a lot of el's arc is rejecting the male figures in her life but it's not the same as like mike's anti-girl codin #they're two different beasts. and while i think mike's queerness is integral to his arc i don't think it's quite the same for el. even if #she is queer it's more incidental to her larger character arc. so it's harder to analyze in the same way #we're talking about my max analysis though which to be fair i didn't talk a lot about her individual queer coding it was more about eImax #and i think some of my thoughts have shifted a little... i've been trying to analyze eIumax more since september but. idk i just don't know #they're an enigma to me and unfortunately i think some of my main issues stem from questionable writing choices #but then there are some things that Feel Intentional that don't make sense to me if romantic elmax doesn't exist in the show's canon #like if the duffers don't Know what they're doing. then what are they doing. yk? #thanks for the ask you did not ask any of this but you've got me thinking about them again..... #mikesbasementasks