#tw talking about grief

[oh-katsuki]

yk when someone dies and you just have to... sit with it.. and you're like... how do i tell people something is wrong. how do i tell people who never met them or knew them or spoke to them that something happened. and it feels selfish somehow to even talk about it out loud but at the same time for some reason you feel like you have to. like somehow you're telling a lie or being disrespectful or being self-indulgent. when the reality is that you just don't want to be alone in grief. but they didn't know them and even after saying something, you're alone anyway.

#i don't even know what to do with myself #for some reason #talking abt it here feels less intrusive than calling a friend and talking about it #but it still feels selfish for some reason #even though i know i just need to find a way to process #and i can't help but be like.. well i won't tell anyone because what if it's a mistake? #what if she's fine? and at home somewhere or in her kitchen singing? #or practicing for her next show #idk grief is weird #and i hate that i'll have to go to another friend's funeral. #tw: grief #tw: death #vent #personal

[uncanny-tranny]

If you ever come across somebody who has lost a child but who still has other children, I am begging you not to say, "you might have lost a child, but at least you have others!"

It isn't comforting to be told that children are interchangeable, insignificant, and replaceable. It's not comforting a grieving family to be told that their loved one's memory is worthless because it can be replaced; it doesn't help the surviving children or the parent/s.

#grief #advice #grief tw #child death tw #saw a parent post about their passed child and how they keep their memory alive with the younger child and holy fuck #the amount of comments that told the poster that it was... toxic to keep the child's memory alive because 'you have another child tho!!!' #it was so cruel. and people really do think it is comforting to tell people 'at least you have other children! 😊' #i can tell you forst-hand that being told you're a replacement child is... a shitty feeling! and i can't imagine what a parent would feel #i feel i've talked about this before but i don't care - this is just... needlessly cruel to do to others

[librarygf]

the interview as a confessional. hm

#interview with the vampire #tw suicide #m #it's like why are you returning to this story now what is different what are you gonna say #sorry to episode 5 but i'm still so compelled by it. where are we going with this? #are we talking about abuse? complexity? love? forgiveness? responsibility? grief? #idk and i don't know if they'll handle it right but i'm still listening #but i need to know NOW like how do i respond to this episode i just can't tell

[oldmanffucker]

RUBBING MY HANDS TOGETHER.

#that's what i'm talking abouttt!!! mroe of this!!!!!! #im so bad at searching for things i hope there are more grief & house md papers #even tho this one is about the audience rather than the characters but still #suicide tw #lawrence kutner #kutner

[poemsonmars]

grief came for me

without warning

like an axe through

a god damn tree stump

and split my life

into before and after

and i am left alone

to deal with the wreckage.

but i don't think

it was a clean cut.

i think all of the

good bits are in the before.

i think the after

is completely hollow.

-mars

#3/15/23 #the ones about mental health #mars.poetry #my poetry #lgbt poetry #sad poetry #button poetry #poets on tumblr #spilled ink #tw grief #i'm projecting so hard onto my d&d character rn but we don't have to talk about that #also the overwhelming majority of my blorbos. but we don't have to talk about that either

[alcorian]

people have near-death just-misses all the time.

and people die, also. all the time.

and that settles in you like a stone.

they live in me, the ones who didnt make it.

#alv posts #im sorry im talking about someone i lost contact with as i got older #i know there are plentyl of people whove lost those currently close to them #its just. even though i hadnt talked to him in YEARS #i dont know #after the initial shock wore off #hes gone. he didnt make it and that sits with me #forever #quietly #like a stone in my chest #and i doubt that stone will ever move #grief #death tw #death cw #poetry #? kinda... #feelings

[pandora15]

I’ve had a lot of people I just met asking me things like “what is your dream?” or “what do you hope for this year?” And I can’t bring myself to answer the question honestly to them because the answer is “I just want my friend to come back.”

But she won’t.

And I don’t want to go into it and explain why the past few months have been so hard, especially to people I literally just met two weeks ago. I also don’t want to bring down the mood so much, even though every little thing I do or see reminds me of her. Every single day, something causes my breath to catch, and I just see her — in the green of the leaves, the coolness of the wind, the hint of a smile on another person’s face.

I just want her to come back, so even when I’m being asked to talk about my dreams, I already know they’re impossible.

#the past few weeks have been hitting me a bit harder #i think because things are finally slowing down for me a bit and I’m starting to process #i did talk to my mom about looking into grief counseling when i come home #i’m hoping that will make things easier #anyways. it’s very late and I should sleep #i miss you so much my friend #grief #grief tw #pandora's ramblings

[heatobrienswife]

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#tw: death #tw: irl death #tw: parent death #ok those tags will make sense in a moment but! cause I've been going back through my s/is lore it made think a lil deeper into her #relationship with o'b (true heat) n well the thought of them talking about kids came up #both o'b n myself irl have a genetic that can lead to terminal illness n cause my s/i is me she has it too #o'b carries a disease in his blood that killed his sister n mine can lead to terminal cancer not 100% but I'm more likely to possibly get it #over someone who doesn't have the same gene it's what killed my own dad irl #so i like the idea of both of them like bonding on that level knowing they both have like this *monster* inside them inside their genetics #n well its comforting to me to know he knows exactly how i feel irl #idk cause of the whole his ashes finally being ready for pick up thing it sorta opened old *wounds* n my fear of dying like he did #i know I'm gonna die someday everyone is but i don't wanna die the way he did #i think I'm venting uogihviyv not what i meant to do! I'm not looking for comfort! just brain werms went screwy lol #but i really like the idea of the two of them having a bonding moment over their fears n grief in a way that only people in that position #can #n it's comforting so ojghvihfiv #shut up rattie no one gives a shit lol

[parameddic]

"You should've met my mom." He was lying flat on his back, arms crossed over his torso and tucked into the elbows, eyes on the ceiling. Rueful, maybe. This wasn't said thick with grief, but as with most things about his mom, the grief reached in a little. An implicit part of thinking about her. Anyway: "You would've really liked her."

#ic #open rp #uhhhh #grief mention tw #i will also tag #grief tw #anyway. let him talk about his mum

[liamlawsonlesbian]

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#ive been having a lot of big thoughts lately about my career/life trajectory and different choices i could make #and it just makes me want my mom #like…who knows if her advice would be right #or if i would be asking her advice at all #i have no way of knowing what my relationship with her would be like as an adult #but the fucked thing about grief is that i have this voice in my head #telling me that if i could just talk to my mom she would fix it #and i just want her here #im sick of everything happening without her #grief stuff #tw mom stuff #personal

[a-mutual-killing]

There’s a book written like a journal about a boy who sits at the sea for like an hour day after day following the death of his mum, thinking about nothing, thinking about everything—grieving, I guess—and after his hour finishes he goes to work butchering fish for people in town, still thinking about nothing, and still thinking about everything. I think it was written in French. If you’re still curious what book I’d recommend, anon darling, it would be that one today. I can’t remember the name of it but it reminded me that grief is cyclical and when I hit a particularly difficult spot in my depression I like to think about it and try to remember the way the story goes.

#anon #tw: death #tw: grief #if anybody knows what I’m talking about I’m begging you #please put me out of my misery #it’s been years #it’s driving me up the wall

[scattered-winter]

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#the worst part about all this is that i Literally saw her 2 weeks ago. we didnt have time to talk we just said hi and went our separate ways #i never even got to say goodbye to her. #and i didnt even know i needed to because this was all so fucking sudden. she was my age. healthy. etc #life is really fucking fragile huh. like it can be gone just like that. #im sorry im just. #i was super close with her mom too and i want to idk. text her or something. but what the fuck can i even say?? #and my other friends in that friend group are all unavailable rn for one reason or another #like. no contact in another country kind of unavailable #so im just. do they even know. has anyone told them. or will they find out when they come back. #i still cant even wrap my head around it tbh. its just. she was alive this morning. she was alive. this morning. #hh. anyway. #i called my sister and cried to her a little bit which was nice. but fuck i really really wish i could hug her right now #or cuddle my dog. literally anything. #im going to be such a fucking mess tomorrow oh my god #i dont even want to go to sleep tonight because if i see her in my dreams im going to fucking lose it #i dont know. i dont fucking know. #winter speaks #personal #tw death #grief tag #<- i fucking guess. i might be venting more in the next few weeks so ill at least make it easy to blacklist