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running-in-the-dark · 4 months

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today was exhausting - my friend was here for about 7 hours and I just. oh man I love her and all but it's just a lot sometimes. it's probably for the best that we only meet up like 2-4 times a year now (gives me enough time to forget how draining it is so I look forward to it, and recover afterwards)

I don't talk to anyone but my husband most days, and he doesn't really talk. so that's maybe 15 minutes total of talking. and today it was literally. 7 hours. no breaks except when we were eating (but no even then someone was always talking).

first of all ouch, it hurts (my voice is very hoarse now). and also. it's so so so draining. like. we really have nothing in common at this point. but she's my oldest friend and I do love her so it's tolerable... but just barely. these days there's way too much diet/food/weight loss talk, and also she seems to be getting into alternative medicine which I cannot fucking stand (it's one topic where I can't pretend or be nice about it either). lots and lots of very preachy vegan stuff too (I don't have any problems with it, I admire people who can do it, but fuck dude you know I eat meat and that I've said many times that I *can't* go vegan (I would starve. there's not enough foods that would be left. seriously.) and it feels pretty shitty to keep going on about it every damn time. I'm not sitting there trying to convince her that she should really be an atheist or something, because I know what her thoughts are about that and I respect it.

when she hangs out with her other friends a lot it's mostly just talking about all the issues that come from that (they fucking suck). I don't know, it kind of feels like I'm her therapist. when I talk about something I'm interested in she doesn't ask many questions and it kind of sucks. like, dude I don't care about your plants either, but I'm interested because you care, so. maybe try that too. would be nice!

#like I know alllll about her other friends and their shitty behaviour #and just. it's exhausting #it's also exhausting telling her over and over again that she is too nice. yes being nice is good and all but she lets people walk all over #her and afterwards she goes 'oh well I guess it was probably just because [they had a bad day/other thing that happened/I said the wrong #thing]'. I do that too! but it's just EVERYTHING. always. even when someone is CLEARLY being shitty to her. like her shitty friends. she #will still excuse their behaviour #it just makes me sad man.#buuut #like come on maybe let me talk about my stupid tv show for 5 minutes and try to seem a little interested? I know it's irrelevant I know no #one cares but damn you really can't pretend?? I've mentioned it before a couple times on the phone and she's always just vaguely like 'ah #that sounds interesting' WHEN I HAVEN'T EVEN SAID ANYTHING ABOUT WHAT IT'S ABOUT. but she doesn't ask what it's about so. I just stop #talking about it and we change topics.#like. yeah I know it's a bit weird that I'm in my 30s and that is one of the most important things in my life rn but. that's how I am. it's #always been that way. and my other friends care (or at least pretend to because they care about *me*)#so it feels pretty shitty!#like if I can look at 15 pictures of how big her fucking plants and herbs are getting. idk maybe ask one question about my show.#or like. even things like our new apartment and stuff. she listened and everything. but it's just. there's no interest there really. just #live 'oh that's nice :)' and we move on to the next topic again #idk man it makes me a bit sad (and I know it's ironic because I say she needs to acknowledge that people don't treat her well but. I mean I #do know this isn't great. and I limit my communication with her to a level that doesn't feel too exhausting. so. idk I feel like it's #different or whatever. buut really I just don't have many friends and I get lonely and it's better to listen to someone talk about #themselves all the time than not talking at all)#okay I'm gonna shut up now #and anyway I'm just exhausted and it's all very fresh rn and I'm incredibly tired so I'm very grumpy. usually it's really not that bad.#I just needed to vent I guess #okay bye and goodnight and I will stop talking now I swear #personal

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spilycoris · 2 months

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no, really. you shouldn't have.

#cult of the lamb #cotl #the lamb #narinder #narilamb #my art #something about cat behaviour. i dont know i dont own a cat #my narilamb designs are very inconsistent you have to excuse me #same with my artstyle. close your eyes.#i'm still testing things out 😞

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hatsunevitu · 7 months

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my favorite thing to do in a conversation with kyman haters is hear them go “but it’s bully x victim, that’s problematic!!” and respond with “yeah i agree kyle was a bully but i believe he can really change” and then watch them sit in total confusion

#i adore seeing kyman haters theyre so fun to talk to #‘kyle has always been a victim’ dude LMAO #i dont mind fanon kyle but canon kyle from early seasons is my guilty pleasure THIS GUY HAS SUCH A GREAT CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT ARC #south park #sp #kyman #eric cartman #kyle broflovski #sp kyman #kyle x cartman #sp kyle #sp cartman #cartman x kyle #oh before theres any confusion im not making excuses for cartmans behaviour i just still remember early seasons when kyle wasnt that good #!!!!

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aurorangen · 4 months

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Since coming out of the hospital and learning of the spy, Vincent has been more vigilant of his surroundings. He felt uneasy that someone might still be following him...even in another country. After resting he was a bit more alert, so just to be cautious, he asked Jay if he had any hats to wear to hide his face, especially in the busy town centre.

Some paintings in the building caught Renee's attention and she took some photos. One stood out in particular. It had a plane statue and she could see some people in the background. Armed with weapons.

Transcript:

Renee: Jay do you know what these paintings are of? Jay: These are of Chestnut Ridge and the plane one…I dunno. Maybe the next town? Or made up? Renee: Oasis Springs doesn't look like that. I wonder if that's Strangerville.

#ts4 #sims 4 #ts4 gameplay #ts4 legacy #postcard legacy #postcard gen 3 #renee reichmann #vincent kingsley #jay pollock by duusheen #miracle holm by duusheen #this post is here to summarise two important things for the future #renee taking a picture of the paintings and vincents behaviour now #rmbr no one outside knows the existence of strangerville nothing online! only important ppl like detectives and all that do #and thats it! you can check duusheens posts for the fun stuff lol mine are mainly for my plot since theyre in chestnut ridge #and just a perfect opportunity 😂#an excuse to put him in that hat #honestly he still looks drowsy here let him sleep the whole night #just for fun i played them a bit with the horse pack gameplay and #vincent looks so out of place lmaooooo #im like WHAT R U DOING #london boy visits a ranch

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askblueandviolet · 2 months

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#lego monkie kid #lego monkie kid fanart #monkie kid #monkie kid fanart #lmk #lmk fanart #lmk mayor #monkie kid mayor #lmk macaque #monkie kid macaque #blue and violet #I just wanna say that this was hilarious to draw guys #these two are such dumbasses #they do not like each other and yet they contradict themselves so much #Mayor does not like Macaque because of his traitorous past but they really do still he leaning against this monkey like a pillow #why? he is warm #that is their only excuse #and Macaque is like “lmao imagine being with this guy- could not be me”#and at the same time he LITERALLY has his tail around the Mayor #look at these two #leaning against each other- ITS GOING TO GO TO A POINT WHERE THESE TWO FAKE BEING A COUPLE FOR THOSE COUPLE DISCOUNTS ON VALENTINES #that would be Macaque's idea of course because he loves a good discount but he is lonely as fuck #and Mayor is just there for the ride because why not #these two would cause drama at IKEA on purpose #and do all of these other domestic romantic couple things and chalk it up to 'average homie behaviour'#this is actually just reminding me of casino cups devildice at this point if any of you understand this reference-

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defenestrationtactics · 4 months

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Roman and the dog cage thing and then that conversation between Shiv and their mum thats like "well you could’ve had dogs" “no not with ur father, he never saw anything he loved that he didn’t want to kick it just to see if it would still come back" and romans constant need to prove himself to his father above everything else and in the end nearly always backing him and folding whenever he ever did something remotely nice. and then people always gaslighting him saying 'well you wanted it' (like the whole military school + dog cage thing) whatever and making him LITERALLY THINK HE DESERVED EVERYTHING!!

then there's the whole thing with the walmart shirt which is literally just showing how everyone always reduces him to being the 'baby' of the family. when he cried at the funeral and then kendall basically said 'nah he's not fit to be ceo because he's too immature and breaks down and can't handle pressure'. like babes. honey. that was your dads funeral. sorry if your a stone cold bitch with other very glaring mental health issues but it doesn't mean other people can't express their emotions. and then theres everyone making fun of him for being 'sexually stunted'. basically making him the baby of the family and saying he cant sit at the adult table when he's probably - trauma aside - more capable then anyone else in the family. like yeah. hes a bitch who either completely hides his emotions or cannot help but lay everything on the table and he does everything to prove that he's better to his father and that he can sit at the adult table actually. but like, also. y'all make fun of him every time he's the slightest bit vulnerable. how to you expect him to be able to regulate his emotions when you WONT LET HIM HAVE THEM.

anyway point is hes literally just trying to be loved everything he does is to prove himself to his father and all his shitty fucking choices can probably be linked back to that fact. he's kinda just morally fucked up. like who cares if this is good or bad - will my father love me?

#sorry for the shit grammar and all round incomprehensibility #its 1am and i just finished season 4 #this isn't like an excuse for his behaviour btw #its just reasons for why it happened #he's still a bitch he just has reasons for it #roman roy #kieran culkin #succession hbo #succession

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luaminesce · 3 months

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Me, an Autistic, enby lesbian, watching my fellow (mostly white, cishet male) Autie folk defend Chuggaaconroy and dismiss Emily and Masae's accusations as "ableist":

#seriously i'm angry #'but he's Autistic!' still not an excuse for his behaviour #chuggaaconroy #masaeanela #actually autistic

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skvetchering · 1 month

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《사냥개들》 Bloodhounds 1x04

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theelast-straw · 4 months

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yes getting Babe PREGNANT surely is the best solution and won't have any long term consequences whatsover Way whAT THE FUCK

#he may still be way too pretty while crying #but not even i can excuse this kinda behaviour way go sit tf down #pit babe #pit babe the series #straw watches things

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craycraybluejay · 2 months

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makes a personal post about how insane it is to be harassed over just existing as i guess the wrong gender.

the person telling me i'm painting a "victim narrative" in my notes whilst they prove my point that its impossible to exist on Tumblr unharassed as a trans man, especially once you start calling people on their shit:

ah yes... the victim narrative.. that us not wanting to be called slurs and harassed is transmisogyny but them using slurs and dogpiling complete fucking strangers for not taking it quietly is self respect. yeah. uh-huh.

fastest way to know how you think about trans people and what their gender "really is" socially is to cross-reference whats permissible to some of us and not to others. the narrative that its ok for trans women to bully if they want to and that trans men are "hysterical" for pointing out its fucked up paints a gruesome picture. that random cruelty is rather necessary almost "discipline" and dissent is an inherent unworthiness to ever being allowed your humanity. idk, i'm not organizing my thoughts well and while an academic can do it better i am fkn tired of being clung to by these people. i'm tired of being a target. the only reason you cowardly people act this way online is because you know you will not face real consequences even if you drive someone to suicide.

y'all think anyone acts like this in real life? extremist or not, most are probably not so stupid as to think that behaviour will fly in most of the real world. you are not some sort of freedom fighter for harassing trans men. you are just a spiteful and self loathing bully who is too much of a coward to own up to that behaviour. you're not special, you're not gonna get a gold medal from the fucking radfem platoon. you are just one bully of many who would rather put others down than work on your own problems. someone who acts with the misdirected anger they were always allowed. if your reaction to "you shouldn't harass and bully others" makes you pull out some bullshit statement about trans women you are not only a liar you are fucking smearing my trans sisters who do not want to be involved with your bullshit crusade. who don't have such a weird inferiority-superiority complex to say "because i am the most oppressed in the world that gives me the right to come after anyone i want." i don't think all of these types are like that, some of them just listen to the loudest and most self-assured voices. still the result is the same. you drag both trans people like you and unlike you through the mud for no reason other than a horrible coping mechanism. genuinely just do some drugs if you only like unhealthy coping mechanisms; instead of spouting vitriol at strangers. i have no quarrel with trans women-- in fact many are unfairly judged and some even manipulated into picking sides when there ARE NO sides. trans women are unfairly followed around by this reputation of angry bullies. and thats not her fault for being trans, you know? its the fault of those who want to live the high school mean girl phase forever. the people who genuinely don't give a shit if their supposed only insular community is collateral so long as they can continue to bully. sure, maybe you'll speak out against someone being accused of your beliefs as unfair. and it is unfair. but will you stop and reconsider what your beliefs are doing to those they claim to care about? no. because putting your painful feelings on other people is more important than protecting the few you like or care about. if your hate is more important than your love for the "in-group," you have far beyond lost the ideology game. in fact, its no longer ideology at all. its just being hateful and using ideology as a cover.

#thinking thoughts #genuinely i dont think most baeddels even care about the radfem ideology #they just hurt people because it makes them feel better about being hurt #mind you-- by not those people #and even when the fucking tumblr ceo; a cis man #just decides to pull an actual transmisogyny #its still somehow the collective fault of trans men #like ok now youve officially lost the plot to making this believable #your assholery is justified because uh? what? the matt bufoon is secretly a trans man??? huh????#y'all will cling to any tragedy and any hurt as a reason to bully #ok you spend a minute comforting a girl affected by this awful behaviour and then go back to spouting hate #like stop being opportunistic and using peoples discrimination as an excuse to harass completely unrelated people

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aluminae · 2 years

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notice how everyone criticises vi for accidentally hurting her sister's feelings, but not nearly as many people criticise silco for his shitty parenting?

#just because he indulges her behaviour without question #which is the reason why she kept spiraling into her mental illness in the first place #at least vi has the excuse that she was in prison and didn't know much about the current jinx #but silco had known her all these years and still let her spiral #arcane

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desperatelosergirl · 28 days

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Me when i stalk a blog and see that my worstie was an anon like UGH. HOW DARE YOU NOT DROP OFF THE FACE OF THE EARTH AND LEAVE NO TRACE🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

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feynavaley · 11 months

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I keep seeing people claiming things that straight-up contradict canon about America and Canada's dynamic, so I'm going to clarify a couple of points.

What's canon: Canada makes America cry after insulting him at length during an argument. Once. (The other time, we don't get to see America's reaction, even though we can certainly surmise he doesn't take it well.)

What's NOT canon: Canada constantly bullies (or even abuses!) America, treats him horribly and believes to be above him.

As I have already stressed, Canada makes America cry at most two times in canon.

Now, this obviously isn't okay and I'm not claiming Canada's actions were right. However, people just love to dismiss the context. First of all, this isn't Canada just insulting America out of nowhere without a justification, they're in the middle of arguments. Not to mention, both times, America is the one who starts insulting Canada. (This is another thing people conveniently never mention.) Then, Canada answers and, with the spirits running so high, he definitely goes too far. Even so, there is a context that, without justifying it, does explain why he lashed out so.

Moreover, Canada insulting America definitely isn't their everyday dynamic. They're depicted at ease around each other numerous times, doing activities and spending time together. All instances in which both of them are nice and friendly, clearly enjoying what they're doing. To make this even clearer, in most of their interactions, Canada shows no hostility towards America and is, instead, very kind to him.

Lastly, regarding the assumption that Canada feels superior to America... that one is explicitly denied in canon. Canada does have some issues with America's behaviour, this much is true. However, he believes himself to be overall inferior to America, not superior. He explicitly says so.

With all this, I'm not trying to claim that Canada is perfect or that he never does anything wrong. Just like every person, he has his limits and flaws and even though he's generally nice and accommodating, he can reach the breaking point when put under a lot of stress and then, make mistakes. But not being perfect all the time doesn't make him a bad person either. Not when that faulty behaviour is so different from his normal one.

#hetalia #analysis #aph america #aph canada #feyna talks about hetalia #feyna speaks #hetalia fandom stuff #na brothers #this obviously doesn't apply to people who have canon-divergent interpretations of course #but claiming that Canada is constantly awful to America in canon... well yes this is character bashing because it just isn't true #reminds me of a post I saw once a while ago #about this behaviour so typical of tumblr of just... being unable to accept that a character can just be kind and a good a person #and having to use every possible excuse to claim that character is actually a monster #so the fact he's not a complete saint and he's even slightly unkind once becomes the 'proof' he's actually awful #almost as if people felt threatened by the depictions of truly kind people because they feel called out on their constantly rude a behaviou #so they have to find a justification to tear down even just a kind character #in order not to feel bad for how awful they are #and I'm not claiming this is case here obviously since I don't personally know the people who made such claims about canada #still on a bigger level (not only canada but in general) it does make me wonder if the're some truth in this

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thedeathdeelers · 1 year

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idk man i feel like a lot of people conveniently forget that 1. Carrie bullied a girl who lost her mom and who is struggling with her grief following her death (literally nothing can excuse that) and 2. Nick stood by as his girlfriend bullied said girl who lost her mom and who is struggling with her grief

maybe he felt uncomfortable, maybe he “tried” to make comments at Carrie to stop her but it was always a very half-assed attempt and he would then give up super quickly and move on

#plus nick only ever noticed julie AFTER her performance of bright in front of the entire school #anywa #jatp #at the end fo the day he’s just a teenage boy and still has so much to learn and so much growth to go through but he is a flawed ‘nice guy’#and no sad story can excuse carrie’s behaviour

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iandarling · 2 months

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Yes, Debbie is annoying and makes horrific choices but let us not forget how she grew up…

In the Pilot we see a 10 year old Debbie bring her toddler brother to school because someone needs to babysit him and Fiona’s got work.

In season 1 episode 2 Debbie is terrified her father has died and spends her day searching for her missing dad, and once he returns she wants to hear stories of his trip to Canada because she’s still a little kid

In season 1 episode 3 Debbie gains a maternal figure in the senile woman her family steals borrows from a nursing home. She spends a full 24 hours loving her and creating memories she never got to have with either of her grandparents or Monica. She knows this isn’t the real Aunt Ginger but she mourns her loss as if she was real

In season 1 episode 4 Debbie borrows steals a neighbourhood toddler because she was desperate for attention and no one wanted to bake a pie with her. She tells her family she misses aunt ginger and fiona responds “who?”

In season 1 episode 10 Monica returns saying she loves her and misses her, but she’s here to take steal Liam and “start a family of her own”. Fiona moves out of the house, and in the end Monica leaves her yet again

In season 2 episode 3 Debbie witnesses an old man die and is horrified to learn that her loved ones can also die and therefore leave her forever

In season 2 episode 9 Monica returns and Debbie is the only one worried about her dead grandmother laying alone in a hospital freezer

In season 2 episode 11 Debbie’s mother attempts suicide in front of her and her new nephew isn’t even Lips so she lost him too

In season 2 episode 12 Debbie helps break her mother out of hospital and she leaves her yet again shouting “i love you debbie!” as she drives away

In season 3 episode 1 her father has been missing for 140 days and she’s the only one in the family who cares while the others ignore her fear of loosing Frank

In season 3 episode 2 Frank destroyed her history project and her childhood with it. She finally understands who he truly is and she has now lost both parents

#I’m in no way excusing her behaviour in the later seasons but #people tend to forget how horrific parts of her life was in the earlier seasons #Fiona tried her absolute best to keep the household together but Debbie and Carls childhood is still scarred by Frank and Monica #my problematic fave #debbie gallagher

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captainclickycat · 28 days

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Can we just retire the phrase “boys will be boys” forever please? Please? I’ll pay cash money to get rid of it.

#‘oh but I use it in a wholesome way about wacky fun!’#cool cool why does that need to be framed as a boy thing #do you think people who aren’t boys can’t have wacky fun?#like yeah it’s nice that it’s not being used to excuse bad behaviour but it’s still gender essentialist and annoying #especially when people start throwing it around Every. Single. Time they see a video or post about guys having wacky fun #like I never see anyone going ‘girls will be girls’ when it’s a bunch of women being silly

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