I think my biggest DC pet peeve is when fanartists make the characters either literal sticks or sticks with slightly buff arms. Like have you walked into a gym ever??? Most heroes are either like trained warriors or trained in someway they need to be consistently working out and packing in like 3000 calories a day there’s like no physically possible way they could be skinny 😭😭 unless it’s a character that relies mostly on magic like raven or lilith that makes no sense
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Actually I think we should talk about how incredibly fucked up it is for sapphic women to say shit like "I'm no better than a straight man 😔" when attracted to a woman in a way that isn't 100% pure and wholesome, or act like men's attraction to women is inherently dirty, predatory, or objectifying.
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People be picking up the smallest details of a person being angry in a way thats not perfect to call them abusive and traumatizing. Like yeah, yelling at people, throwing stuff on the ground, belittling them is awful. But saying someone is "an abuser" because they broke a glass on the floor once at out frustration, yell time to time, or got upset in a way that doesn't fit the bounds of non violent communication rules seems extremely hard and controlling of other's people behavior. Intent matters, reparations too. That way of over controlling correct expression of anger weirdly only seems to only oppress people who are already punished to expressing those emotions. It's not okay, its complicated.
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been cosigned by the bi women in my life to say this but i think the whole ‘bi women are 100000x more likely to be victims of partner abuse’ thing gets...almost victim blamey if u think abt it too hard. do we believe that there are men who are totally fine to date as a straight woman but if you’re bi they become Abusers or are we just avoiding thinking too hard about the reality of dating a guy who would hypothetically be beating u if u were bi. are we saying the abuse happens because they’re bi? anyway the elephant in the room is that we’re talking about self-reported statistics here and bi women are more likely to be feminists and informed about consent and coercion and so on in order to RECOGNISE abuse. meanwhile a majority of straight women don’t even believe in marital rape and we know a lot about the lengths people can go to avoid labelling what they experienced/are experiencing as abuse. + DUH sexuality is self reported too so of course going through abuse at the hands of men can be a factor in a woman unpacking compulsory heterosexuality and realising she isn’t straight.
i think it’s important because in one narrative, victim-blaming myths about IPV are subtly reinforced in the name of advocating for bi women while the other recognises that abuse can happen to anyone but bi women are informed and autonomous and not just helpless victims with no choice but to play dating life russian roulette
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why are some people still pretending its just men exploiting womens insecurities through the beauty industry when its literally mostly other women. oh these poor insecure women they cope with their internalized misogyny by opening “skincare” clinics, pumping insecure girls full of filler, and conning their customers into hating themselves 💔
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Not sure if that post is about hp but it does feel like it lol. I understand people wanting to offer alternatives and I myself have a complicated relationship with it, but I wouldn't expect people to necessarily fall in love with alternatives I give them the same way they fell in love with hp.
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HP definitely get this a lot. GoT got this a lot too while it was airing. I've seen it to a lesser extent with same smaller fandoms-- Twilight, for example. All of these series have their problems, in terms of quality, writers/showrunners doing weird shit, and things that make you go hmm within the narrative. But they didn't get massively popular by accident, and whatever drew you in probably isn't something as shallow as "I like magic schools" or "I like vampire romances." So when people are like, "oh, but you can just read THIS instead," as opposed to just "here's some vampire romance novels you could also try," then it's sort of like.... no, not every vampire book is interchangeable? Why are you acting like it is, and like whatever people are getting out of X should automatically also exist in Y?
Also, while we're here, "you're a bad person if you engage with this fandom, and you should only engage with morally-approved media" is actually one of the worst takes this website has churned out. Let's take GoT as an example that's less likely to get me hatemail (although one of my favorite games is looking up the URLs of people who post about how even looking at a HP fic means you are directly donating to bigoted causes and then seeing how long I have to scroll before OP talks about a Disney-owned fandom). GoT has some excellent, complicated female characters. It also has a lot of hypersexualized nudity and gratuitous sexual assault. On lists of "alternative" shows, I would frequently see Netflix's The Witcher. If you haven't seen The Witcher, here's what happens in episode one: the MC meets a complicated female character who wants to kill her rapist. The MC refuses to "pick a side" between her and her rapist. He sleeps with her. Then the woman is killed by the MC. If you were trying to point someone at a high fantasy TV show with dark themes that "treats its women right", why the fuck did you pick The Witcher? Is it because you don't know how to analyze media and just look for a laundry list of Bad Things, like actual on-screen sexual assault? Do you not understand why people were mad about all the sexual assault on a thematic level? Like, okay! You found some obvious bad stuff in GoT, good job! Every other piece of media will have its own Bad Stuff, and it's up to individuals to decide what crosses their own personal lines (which YOU DO NOT GET TO DECIDE) when picking what content they consume.
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god willing this will not be the start of me sincerely sharing Opinions on tumblr dot com but the thing about Kindness and Empathy being paraded as easy breezy & effortless by some is that those posts are often written by very young people who have age-limited experience with the diversity of thought & expression that exists. knowing "there are people out there who think radically differently from me" =/= collaborating with those people in total sincerity and with unwavering compassion.
empathy is a skill i always always have to practice not only because i've had to sit in front of people who genuinely, sincerely hate women as a class of people because of specific lived experiences, and i still had to (and had to want to!) give them therapy, and had to work to the best of my knowledge and creativity to help them break isolation and make friends and not kill themselves, because i don't get to decide, actually, whether or not they deserve to live in misery and die alone - and anyway, building relationships can dismantle prejudices for some people -
but also because the more conversations i have (the number only ever increasing, as you get older), the more likely i am to hear a completely batshit take like, "all victims of intimate partner violence have borderline personality disorders, otherwise they wouldn't stay with their abusers," which i heard this evening. and i would humbly posit that any decent person would need to have a really, really deep well of patience to not promptly smack the person saying that with some sort of rolled newspaper, or perhaps a door.
it is easy to say things or set intentions or wtv when you have little to no chance of encountering situations where those intentions will be challenged. don't expect sainthood from yourself or others. all of it's hard. just try your best!
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The way I immediately like Girls who say they're into true crime but would definitely stop talking to a guy who says he's into true crime
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