my mom: oh yeah i remember when she used to always cover her ears when the radio was too loud
my mom: she constantly asks for the radio to be turned down even when it's not that loud
my mom: she spent the entire wedding of her aunt complaining that it was too loud
my mom: she's definitely very noise sensitive.
my mom: my child is so neurotypical, i have noticed no signs she is neurodivergent
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wait my love i can‘t see your “about” page??
oh yep i deleted it and am working on a new one XD
(by working on new one, he means procrastinating)
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*moonwalks into inbox*
HEY BESTIE I MADE A LIST OF NAMES FOR YA
*moonwalks out of inbox*
HEY OMG THANK YOU SO MUCH
silver is a badass name so maybe, avery is really pretty but my parents would be insufferable (/lh) with the gru scene where it's like "avery is it a boys name or a girls name," blake is pretty, finley is cute but not me, cameron is nice, drew is really pretty, azure is so cool, morgan is such a nice solid name, arlen isn't entirely my tastes but it's cool, caspian again is super cool but not really my taste, jax is really cool, river i really like but idk as a name, kai is actually really nice i might use that, alexi is cool and similar to alex but different, atlas is cool but not my taste, same with arley and beau, blaise is cool but makes me think of that kid in harry potter, bri is cool but idk if it's too fem, cade is so cool omg, constance is actually badass and also mysterious benedict society was my childhod but it is a bit fem, eli is really nice, ellis is genius so i might do that, elois is cool, emmet makes me think of the lego movie even though i haven't seen it, florence is really pretty but idk if it's too fem, frankie is decent idk, gabi is actually really cool, haven is cool too, idris is actually super nice, ivary is so cool omg (also ivory could be cool too), genesis is cool but i would never live it down with my friend who loves cars, and joli is so cool omg
THANK YOU AGAIN AND IF ANYONE READ THAT RAMBLE I APPLAUD YOU
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River
Charlie
Harper
Skyler
Aubrey
ahhhh thank you!
river is okay
i actually really like charlie
harper omg so pretty but is it fem? idk (lavender name which is cool too)
skyler is pretty! and i could go by sky ahhhh
aubrey is also pretty! definitely a pink name :D
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How about the names Jared or Jamie?? Those were my first two names
oooh! jared is a no, i think, but jamie isn't bad! @thejamdergod-2-point-0 *steals your identity* /j
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Warnings for autism and ADHD related ableism discussion
I think there's something really interesting about the different traumas acquired by being autistic or having ADHD in a shitty ableist society.
The two disorders have a significant amount of overlap. Of course they're not the same and each comes with its own challenges that the other may not have but, when compared with other disorders/neurodivergencies, for all intents and purposes they are very similar.
However, society's perception of them is almost the exact opposite, which gives people who have one or the other wildly different kinds of disabled trauma.
Society at large likes to think they know a great deal about each of these disorders, but really knows almost nothing. What it comes down to is this:
Society believes and treats autistic people as if their entire personality, capability levels, and potential to succeed as a human is hinged to their autism, and they don't have a confident outlook on that, so they treat autistic people as if they can't do anything or are stupid. Autistic people have to continuously fight to be seen as something other than their autism (or in addition to it, of course, because I don't mean to say they're trying to escape their autism)
And on the flip side, society believes that ADHD is a myth, an excuse, a made up word for children that won't behave or are undisciplined, or a childhood disorder that 'goes away.' People consistently underestimate the symptoms/traits of ADHD, aren't aware of them, or don't believe them. People with ADHD are constantly told that these symptoms/traits are their own shortcomings rather than part of their ADHD. ADHD people have to continuously fight to be seen as having the disorder that massively affects their lives.
Because of these nearly opposite societal takes on each of these disorders, despite their similarities, autistic people and ADHD people end up, largely, being traumatized in opposite ways.
On the one hand there are autistic people who have any failure blamed on their "inherent inadequacy" due to their autism, taking away their sense of ownership, control, and agency of regular, human mistakes or failures they've experienced. And on the other, you've got people with adhd who have failures that are actually caused by symptoms of their disorder being told that they simply didn't try hard enough or that they clearly don't care or it wouldn't have happened.
(also to clarify, I don't mean to say that autistic people don't also have failures or mistakes caused by symptoms and that ADHD people have some that aren't, just that no matter what caused it, this seems to be the societal response)
In the end, you get commonalities in both groups that are directly caused by these societal traumas. Actually, there are two extremes that happen in both groups for the exact opposite reasons, and, often, these extremes coexist/alternate depending on the company.
The first extreme is refusing to unmask and making yourself very serious. For autistic people this seems to also come frequently with a kind of shyness because they're afraid if they say something that's "wrong" or that shows they missed subtext, they'll give ammunition to those who infantilize them. For those with ADHD this extreme comes with constantly overworking themselves, killing themselves with stress, and minimizing every struggle because they're terrified that if they relax for one second, or validate that something was difficult because of their ADHD, the people who called them lazy are right and they're just making excuses for their shortcomings. They seek desperately to prove to themselves and others that they do try.
The other extreme is leaning heavily into the stereotypes and abusive accusations they've faced their whole lives. For autistic people, this can mean taking on learned helplessness and refusing to try new things because they believe they really can't do it by themselves, ending up with less agency because they rely on help they don't really need but are too scared to forego. For those with ADHD, it can mean developing class clown syndrome and completely giving up on trying because no matter how hard they try, they can never get a result that satisfies society when they're constantly fighting symptoms that hinder their success. Both of these are self fulfilling prophecies that end up pushing them into the hole they felt it was impossible to avoid.
People with both disorders get to flip a coin on which trauma they get more of. Regardless of which one led to more trauma, the results end up looking the same - they're likely to fit into one of the two extremes.
Anyway, I don't really have a solid point to all of this - it's just some observations I've made on how the trauma inflicted on both of these groups is wildly different and yet often yields the same results for opposite reasons.
If anyone has anything to add, I really would love to hear!
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i just answered it XD /pos /nm
hiii i have many names and no main one yet, but you can call me Elle! i use any pronouns except it/its, nice to meet you and welcome to hell /lh
yay so great to meet you! your blog is incredible! question, what does lh mean? i’ve seen it but my brain can’t formulate a single guess.
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