#Blocking Someone

[mycptsdstory]

I got blocked by someone argued or debated with me that healing hurts and having unwanted memories is hard to deal with... Yeahh, because it is.

Unwanted memories, unwanted feelings and having to deal with it later in life. Yeahh, it hurts. It fucking sucks. I don't sugar coat that. No point. What's the point in sugar coating, how healing hurts? What... So I can lie to you? To make you feel "comfortable". Fuck that. I'd rather just say it how it is. Calms down my anxiety.

I also get how not many people are ready to face the unwanted memories and emotions. I get that. HOWEVER, you can't run away from it forever. It will blow up in your face, at some point in your life. I've been through it and I've also seen it. I can tell so many stories about this too. One I've already posted on here.

Look IF you are here, reading my blog hoping I tell you some bull shit comfortable nonsense... Then this is the wrong blog for you.

I do tell the truth and I know many people don't like it. I know I come across as blunt and sometimes rude. I get it.

People SOMETIMES want this light hearted blog and I'm not that person. I'm sorry, I'm just not. I know I share a lot of light hearted stuff and that's usually for me. I never knew it actually helped people... Go figure 🤣

I don't sugar shit. My mother taught me because she lied a lot and made people feel "comfortable". Hearing what they want to hear. I'm NOT here for that nor do I have the time for that. I also grew up with an adopted dad who was in the military... So he did not and I mean DID NOT "beat it around the bush". I get a lot of my bluntness from him.

I get that healing hurts. I understand because I'm going through it myself. I get it.

You want to block me, that's fine.

Again, having those unwanted memories, unwanted feelings and having to deal with it later in life. Yeahh, it's gonna hurt. I get that not many people are ready because they don't want to deal with the unwanted emotions and memories. I get it. That shit hurts.

IF you're thinking "I don't want to deal with unwanted memories and emotions because it hurts". Well... Because it does. Again, why sugar coat it? Why?

Why sugar coat that "healing dOesNt hurt"? I don't get it. I don't understand that mindset. I just don't. Healing DOES hurt and I wish people would be more open, honest and 100% raw with themselves.

I get it that I'm in the later stages of healing and that's okay. We all take our time to heal, it took me over a decade for me to heal and I'm still on that journey. Still learning and still growing. We don't ever stop growing and we don't stop evolving. Why do you think, when we get older, we get wrinkles? We don't just stop, we continue to grow.

So yeah, my point is. Unwanted memories and emotions... of course it's gonna hurt.

My advice, be patient with yourself and be kind to yourself. Healing is hard work and no one can heal for you. YOU want to heal? Then YOU will have to put in the work. No one and I mean NO ONE can do this for you.

Always be patient with yourself. Healing is gonna take time.

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[tumbrhowto]

How to block someone

Step 1: click into their blog

Step 2: click the button that looks like a person

Step 3: click the button that states "block"

Step 4: confirm you want to block

Step 5: profit

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[beaft]

can anyone tell me why i enter the grocery store a normal person and emerge as some sort of vile ravening monster

#was trying to leave the self-checkout and someone was standing in front of the exit gate looking at their phone and blocking the whole lane #the malignant influence of the grocery store transformed this from a minor inconvenience to a cardinal crime #i was ready to leap at them like a coyote and tear them to shreds #be shh now

[antvnger]

((I'm having a bit of a dilemma and not sure entirely how I should or want to handle it. I need a second opinion on this.

I'm in a friend group but one of the people involved gives me a lot of anxiety. I've been thinking of blocking them but I'm not sure, because I feel like it's a bit rude, but more importantly, they're really close with everyone else. Part of me feels selfish if I were to block them, since I already unfollowed, but they give me so much anxiety to the point where seeing their URL on the dash is discomforting.

There's also the fact that if I block them, I think if you do that on Tumblr, whenever their URL is in something all posts will be hidden. So if the other people in this friend group tag me in things, along with this other person, I won't be able to see it and then they'll think I'm ignoring them.

The only thing I'm 100% sure of is that this person won't care if I block them or not. They made it very clear they don't care about me. Even so, I still don't know if it's right or fair to block them.

What do you think? I don't know if it's safe to talk to the others about this either because of how close they all are, so I've been avoiding that option. I've also kinda felt like the odd one out and doing this might encourage them to get rid of me. I don't want to be so anxious anymore but I don't wanna mess things up for everyone else.))

((I normally don’t answer asks at this hour, but I saw this one in my email and decided it couldn’t wait.

Thanks for reaching out, Anon. First of all, I’m really sorry you’re dealing with anxiety from this person, and I’m especially sorry that it seems like they don’t care about you. I know we’re not going to be all buddy buddy with everybody, but still.

Here’s my take on this: there’s a difference between being the bigger person and putting up with things to keep the peace and being triggered and miserable and putting yourself at further risk for making your anxiety worse. And leaving this person open to making things worse for you.

Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you, even if that means disturbing the dynamic of the group. It’s not fair to you to have to deal with that all the time, and since this person has shown they don’t care about you and your feelings, I’m gonna say they’re probably not going to work with you to make things better. And you can’t change how they feel if they’ve made up their minds like that. And if you don’t feel comfortable discussing it with the others in your group, that leaves you high and dry unless you take matters into your own hands.

I think you’ve done what you could for the betterment of others, but now it’s time to do the same for yourself. I definitely think it’s right and fair for you to do it. What’s rude is the treatment you’ve received from the other person, not you considering blocking them.

Blocking someone doesn’t mean you’re being hateful; in this case it’s protecting yourself, it’s taking care of yourself and that’s completely fair to do.

I hope this helps, Anon. If you need more advice or have questions, my inbox is always open. Good luck.))

#for the ant mun #ant mun #advice #blocking #blocking someone #anxiety #tw anxiety

[cali]

i hate motherfuckers who base their whole personality on the sum experience of their formative years + the people they mostly interact with + some key impactful events in life + a small amount of traits they were just born with + their current interests and some other stuff probably. so fucking annoying...

#notifications blocked goodnight all of you #i like that theres people from both ends of the spectrum of opinions on how to build a personality in the tags #i just wanted to make a joke about when someone says the phrase “making it their entire personality” #its a nothing phrase

[apollos-boyfriend]

obsessed w this tweet i just saw. you’re telling me twitter users aren’t out here blocking people for the sole reason of bad vibes? of disliking a layout? no wonder there’s so much drama over there there’s no curation of your experience

#icarus speaks #blocking someone bc of a headcanon is like. one of THE most understandable and normal reasons

[ispyspookymansion]

#just blocked someone who went from a jensen ackles url to a sirius black url THIS WEEK. access denied #kora.txt

[bonefall]

Anyway. Bi and Mspec Lesbians aren't a hotly "debated" topic or even new to queer culture, it's just the newest thing that bullies who REALLY want to be homophobic and even racist use to justify harassing gay people they don't like.

It's the thinnest possible veneer of progressive language wrapped around TERF and reactionary rhetoric so that they can feel righteous for forming an angry mob against vulnerable targets. If you're gullible enough to fall for the newest wave of bigotry within the queer community, and turn on your allies because they're "confusing" or "invading your spaces," the SAME way they turned on bi/pan labels, trans people, xenogenders, neopronouns, and aroace people before this, then get lost.

#No patience. Wither and rot. #These motherfuckers dogpiled the legend who leaked the no fly list because it identified as the wrong type of lesbian. #They will attack the people doing DIRECT ACTION over dumbfuck label discourse. Deeply unserious people. #Embarrassing to think that there are rubes out there who keep falling for this #For ALL our sakes I hope this is literally their first rodeos and they really haven't fallen for this bullshit twice. #But unfortunately I'm too old to be that hopeful. #I didn't get to see the big ''public block list'' made for us dirty queers who support or are bi/mspec lesbians but I hope I was on it #If a man is best judged by his enemies then exclusionists who echo terf rhetoric are the ones I WANT to have. #And ''public lesbian block list'' is in quotes because if you REALLY thought that such a thing wasn't a ''GO HARASS THESE PEOPLE'' charter- #--then you have a black mold where your brain used to be and it's rapidly eating into the bathroom tile you call a skull #Unironically you should not have a platform if you are THAT stupid or malicious to think it was anything BUT a harassment charter #I hope they're ashamed. #Context for those unaware: a flesh-eating amoeba created a public blocklist for people who supported bi lesbians #Minors and extremely small creators without big platforms were on that list #People got harassed but the most namely was Lockandkeyhyena who had people raiding his server with racial slurs and death threats. #I hope everyone involved sees who their ''allies'' are when they spread that sentiment. #A bunch of people ACTUALLY 'invading someone's space' to post the n-word and suicidebait. #THAT is who you appeal to. Sit with that.

[heyhanibee]

courting dance♡

#confession time: ​doing research for katara’s inuit-inspired outfits is my favorite part of drawing them #i should do the same w aang at some point #anyways someone asked me to draw them dancing and after like 2 weeks of art block i finally did it!!! #atla #avatar the last airbender #a:tla #avatar: the last airbender #kataang #aang #katara #katara x aang #aang x katara #kataang fanart #atla fanart #artists on tumblr #my art

[spreens]

one of my fav things in the qsmp so far are the cultural differences in MINECRAFT. like I thought roier was just being funny when yelling about slime breaking his windows but apparently it's a BIG BIG rule in hispanic series to not break blocks of other people's houses/open doors and the english ccs just go Fuck It We Ball.

#qsmp #also seeing like #roier block up the upstairs area because blocks are sacred #and hispanic streamers only using a passcoded door instead of trying to reinforce their whole base #like I see clips from karmaland where they're banging on the doors of someone's house but they're not allowed to break blocks #and roier in qsmp is just. traumatised. it's great.

[findafight]

Funniest part of Charles having cancer is that my grandpa might live to see his fourth British coronation

#finda’s rambles #british royal family #not to take pleasure in someone’s misfortune buuuuuuut #he’s 97 and scoffed when commentators said it was a once in a lifetime event for some #and said it was his third. ok grandpa. show Charles who’s boss #king charles #king charles cancer #I guess I should tag so people can block this too #cancer isn’t funny but a man who has been born into privilege that has said eco fash shit and doesn’t believe in modern medication…well… #a car crash would be better though. just. y’know.

[crimson-rain-smoked-flower]

I’m not trying to attack you, but do you know that proshipper means someone who supports and romanticizes pedophilia, incest, and abuse? Your reblog on that post seems to read that you think antis just hate on people for having ships they don’t like. But it’s completely different than that. Just looking on the proshipper side of Tumblr and the internet and you can see people happily shipping children and adults and making nsfw content of such things.

i appreciate that you're not being outright hostile, but i have to say, that on its own put you above basically every anti i've interacted with.

i understand where antis are coming from, i really do. there are a lot of things on the internet that make me deeply uncomfortable, including the minor/adult ships that you mention. i don't want to anything to do with those kinds of ships and i would be happiest if i never saw them again. which is why i'm proship.

nine times out of ten, if i see that kind of ship brought up on my dash, it's because i was following an anti without realizing it, and they brought it up unprompted and untagged, to talk about how bad it is that they exist. they are the ones putting that kind of content in front of my face and making it harder to avoid.

the thing about people who ship those ships is that they're generally very aware that not everyone wants to see that kind of content, and so they tag it. they make sideblogs to talk about it. they don't go out of their way to shove it in people's faces. that means i, and everyone else who doesn't like it, can avoid it.

what antis want is for it to not exist at all. they want the tags to be purged and blocked, and for anyone who uses those tags to have their accounts deleted. and sure, that might get rid of some of it, but do you know what would happen to the rest? it would stop being tagged. people who don't want to see it wouldn't have the tools to avoid it. this isn't just a hypothetical, that's what's happened any time a fan space has tried to do that.

that's not even getting into the rabbit hole of what should be banned and what shouldn't. obviously any content that depicts real children or real life abuse shouldn't exist and shouldn't be allowed to be posted, but basically any platform that people use already enforces those policies, and there's not much of a slippery slope to go down there. if it involves real living breathing people being abused, it's bad. end of discussion.

but the same can't be said for fiction. ask ten antis for a specific list of all the content that should be banned, and you'll get ten different answers. what about kink? what about roleplay? what about horror and murder and anything that involves fictional characters being graphically tortured? what about people using art to process terrible things that have happened to them? what about art that uses dark themes as a horror element? if you just want to ban anything questionable to anyone, that's the line of thinking that gets any mention of lgbt existence banned. and again, this isn't just a hypothetical, this has happened before, and that's generally where it leads.

i know, from personal experience, that antis do, in fact, send harassment to people just for shipping things they don't like. i've gotten accused of absolutely vile shit for shipping two fictional characters who were both consenting adults. i've seen ship wars turn into moral battlegrounds, over ships that an average person wouldn't bat an eye at.

the thing about "romanticization" is a whole other can of worms. the anti logic goes like this: if someone sees something (even if it's very obviously fictional) in a positive light enough times, they will start thinking it's okay in real life, and go on to hurt real people. the problem with that is that it's just. blatantly untrue.

if it were true every horror movie fan would be a serial killer, every person that studies dark media would be an unhinged psychopath, and everyone who is into ddlg would be a pedophile. but they're not. they just aren't. people have directed movies just as fucked up as the darkest shit on ao3, and are still capable of being normal human beings who know right from wrong in real life.

even if someone is that impressionable, scrubbing away the existence of every piece of questionable content isn't going to solve their problem, because they're still going to be vulnerable to con men, scams, and cultists. the only thing that would actually materially help someone like that is developing their own morals and critical thinking.

children are also more impressionable, and there's a lot of content that's not suitable for them, but that doesn't mean that content shouldn't exist. it just means that they should stick to spaces designed for them (which most social media sites, tumblr included, are not) or, if they're old enough to be responsible for their experience online, they, or a trusted adult in their lives, should block and filter out things that they aren't comfortable with.

which is what everyone on the internet should be doing. it's what i do, and it's made the internet a much more pleasant place to be. and it's why i sometimes worry for antis mental health, especially teenagers, because they're being told it's right and moral to seek out content that makes them uncomfortable and to engage with the people making it. and that's just. really bad. it's not good for the creators that they're harassing obviously, but it's also really bad for them! it's not healthy to seek out things that make you feel bad, and it's a terrible internet safety lesson to teach minors that it's okay for them to seek out and engage with people making adult content.

individual harassment and crusading is never going to succeed at removing dark content from the internet. it just isn't. at best you might get a small percentage of people who create that content to stop sharing it, at worst you're just going to make people stop tagging it, and either way, you're exposing yourself to things that make you feel bad, when you don't have to.

if you want to materially change the type of content you see, you can. the block button is your friend, use it liberally. same with content filtering and tag blocking.

#oops this got really long #cd.ask #proship #disk horse #tw pedophila mention #uhhh what to tag #tw shipping discourse #this doesn't even get into the antis that i've seen proudly professing that they care more about fictional characters than real people #because i don't know how to explain to someone that real humans matter more than cartoon characters #or how to avoid content on platforms other than tumblr bc frankly thats a lot of the reason i don't use them #i don't trust an algorithm #also im turning anon off after posting this so if you want to send me hate you cant be a coward about it #also be prepared to get blocked and ignored #the only reason i answered this person is bc they weren't being hostile

[batwynn]

I’m seeing a weird uptick in people commenting nasty stuff on people’s non-cat/dog pet stuff again and not so gentle reminder:

Your phobia or dislike of certain animals does not give you the right to harass and bully people who love and share them.

Use the blacklist tag like a normal human being, and leave people who love rats or snakes or bugs etc. the fuck alone.

#pets #bully behavior #rats #snakes #bugs #stop being little shits Jfc #grow up and block the person #black list the tag #wtfever to curate your experiences online #but you don’t go after someone for sharing their fucking pet spider or whatever?? #it literally has nothing to do with you #phobias are NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE A SHITHEAD #I expect half of y’all not to see this because you’ve already grown up enough to black list words and hashtags #right? #we’re moving on from highschool behavior? #RIGHT?? #here we go #tw: spiders #tw: snakes #tw: rats #tw: bugs

[catmask]

i know everyone said 'replies from sideblogs could go bad' though personally i was excited for them (for topic specific sideblog running purposes) but i do think we should be able to send asks from sideblogs too tbh. it could also get exceptionally ugly very fast but i think that for all the topic-specific blogs like ask blogs, for systems who have headmates with diff sideblogs, and for people who want to make friends in smaller communities focused on niche topics unrelated to their main i feel like it would be worth it

#besides its not like IMPOSSIBLE to find someones main blog from their side #it typically just takes some sleuthing #and like you can block sideblogs anyway . if im not mistaken blocking a sideblog also blocks the main acct...? #so if someone wanted to make like multiple burners to harrass someone i dont even think taht would work #theyd have to make entirely new tumblr accts with brand new gmails #im open to conversation though there might be something im not thinking about #txt #scratchpost

[zvaigzdelasas]

Have you heard abt this? Millions of US military emails intended for the US military's ".mil" domain have, for 10 years, been sent to Mali which ends with the ".ml" suffix. Some of the emails reportedly contained sensitive information such as passwords, medical records and the itineraries of top officers. 😁

Yeah I saw that lmao. Most expensive military in world history for ya

#id imagine lots of msgs just woulda been non delivered #unless theres lots of english military relevant site names under the ml tld #even then the users at the enail server would prob b differently named too - so a risk if someone already is targeting ur soldiers #or if the cache is like #kept for rly long #once someone knows you do that tho then u gotta like block that tld from sending except a whitelist

[kanrix]

We should all block more freely. that guy said something you didn't like? Whatever, Block. This person is mildly annoying? Opinion you don't like? they're weird/creepy? Maybe you don't like their art style? You can block.

"oh but I'd feel bad" you'll feel bad momentarily. "I don't want to make them feel bad" You will never meet this person. "I don't think they're that bad to deserve to be blocked" the block button isn't just for horrible people, they'll live, it won't be the end of the world. It doesn't matter!! It never matters!!!!!!

You may feel guilty now but you'll very likely forget about this person a day later

#it's never that deep 98% of the time #mumbles #this may be an obvious thing if you've been on the internet for a long time but god. is it annoying watching people act- #like blocking someone equals murder lol #delete later maybe