#They deserve your attention

[cawcawbeech]

The next time any of you quote Inej and her mantra 'The heart is an arrow. It demands aim to land true.' I hope youll also remember Jesper. 'Anyone can shoot. A bullet had only one trajectory. But what if that bullet could be guided? Not everybody can aim.'

JESNEJ FOR PRESIDENT!! 💚💜

#jesnej #grishaverse #six of crows #inej ghafa #jesper fahey #jesper x inej #inej x jesper #Please give them a chance #They deserve your attention #Most see their bond as platonic and thats okay #But their relationship is still not talked about enough #Jesnej my beloved #i adore them #💚💜 #inesper

[oof-i-did-it-agaaiiin]

Beautiful from Ordinary Days

#EDIT: I added links to the post’s caption go click them. #I did this because people were mistaking the words as a poem. I love poems. it’s not a poem. #it’s a song from a musical that deserves more attention. go listen to the song. if you like it go listen to the musical. it’s fantastic #it’ll make you laugh and it’ll make you cry. could not recommend enough. #okay edit over. back to my og tags #long post #and I'm talking LONG like do you love the color of the sky long #today I am a nuisance to your dash #but it's in the name of art and beauty #ordinary days #musicals #paintings #art museum #post i made #i love lyrics #greatest hits

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

christ sometimes I just wanna. steal a time machine & go back & sit down next to my 9-year-old self and just like. let them pull out their pokemon card binder & gush about their holographic gyarados or whatever. I'd just smile & ask questions about motherfukcing bulbasaur & tell my kid self that I thought they were a neat person, & someday they'd find other people who thought so too.

like i'm a grown adult who honestly finds most kids stuff boring, but. damn if i could go back & hang out with my baby self & listen to them ramble...just so they knew someone was listening. i would in a heartbeat. thinking about u kid

#wouldn't roll my eyes or check my phone or get bored or nothing #I'd just listen to that little dork & smile & encourage them & let them explain how their favorite gameboy games worked #i was the kind of kid my adult self would find annoying & uninteresting but like #most of the actual adults in my childhood felt that way too. including my dang parents. #and ya know sometimes they showed it. a lot of times without realizing it. and that messes a kid up #if you don't make an effort kids WILL recognize your disinterest and lack of attention. #kids deserve to have caregivers who show interest and engagement #even when it's over stuff that adults find boring. especially then maybe #your kid doesn't have to be fun or interesting or easy or well behaved to deserve positive attention #they deserve positive attention because they are YOUR KID #if love is unconditional then DISPLAYS of LOVE and AFFECTION must also be unconditional #not something that must be earned #telling your kid that you love them is not enough. that is step one out of like a thousand #if you just tell your kid you love them but you don't demonstrate affection and interest and patience and warmth and etcetera #your kid isn't gonna feel loved! I Love You will just become a trite phrase that they regard with mistrust! #bitch you gotta FOLLOW THROUGH

[inkskinned]

in recent years, there's been a push in therapeutic circles to shift the language from "attention-seeking" to "connection-seeking" behavior.

i was an attention-seeker. i was the textbook example of an attention-seeker. i was a troublemaker. i would self-harm. i destroyed my own relationships. i was uncontrolled, dramatic, sensitive. i took everything personally. i had "nothing" to be depressed "about," but made a big show of how sad i was nonetheless. i was really unsafe about myself in a lot of ways.

the strange thing about that is: it meant others could ignore me. the prevailing wisdom behind knowing something is "attention seeking" is to say: well, since you want it that bad, you're not getting any. it meant i was lower-on-the-list of concern. it meant an eye-roll.

the belief was that: since i was obviously doing these things on purpose, it would be bad behavioral training if i was "rewarded" for it. it would "teach me" that i simply had to make enough fuss, and i'd finally get all that missing attention and love. no, it was better to ignore that stuff.

i was suffering. and it felt like - oh, it doesn't matter how loudly i am in pain, nobody gives a shit about if i'm living or dying.

awhile ago, i went through my journals from that time. a lot of them read the same thing. in them, i am convinced i am invisible. that nobody wants to hear me, to see me. that i could die or vanish and nobody would even notice. i didn't even want attention - not really - because it was always dismissive, mocking. nothing i ever did would be good enough to get someone to actually-worry about me.

that's a terrifying thing for me to read as an adult. that is a child who fully has no problem committing. that is a child who has no concept of feeling loved. the most basic human instinct is missing from her life.

i needed help. i didn't know how to ask for it. i was a kid. i was a kid in a bad home, and whenever i thought things couldn't get worse there - they almost always did.

and the ways i showed that - the ways i tried to deal with that - they made others dismiss me. i wasn't suffering prettily. after all, if i was really in trouble, why wouldn't i just march into the first counselor's office and ask someone to help me? i had the opportunities, right? what did i think would happen, exactly? that someone would finally stand up and do something? who even wants that kind of responsibility?

i heard connection-seeking for the first time about three months ago. my therapist mentioned it when we were talking about my history. it rang some kind of horrible bell, deep inside me. i don't know what she said in the rest of her sentence. i just started... crying.

"oh no", i said to her. "i think i just realized: i have no idea how to forgive them for minimizing the ways i was hurting."

how many other kids, though. how many other kids were out there drowning, snatching around for a lifevest, some kind of rope - how many were straight-up ignored.

how many of those kids aren't gonna get old.

#the thing i teach my preschoolers is #if something bad happens to u #and it hurts you #tell someone #and KEEP TELLING SOMEONE #UNTIL SOMEONE BELIEVES YOU #it is NEVER your fault for telling the truth #it is THEIR fault for not hearing you #if you are like me and ''attention seeking'' #please #if u can #GET HELP. GET THE HELP YOU NEED. #at some point we all have to do this on our own #it has to be our own personal work #but you DESERVE someone who will help you to do that work #a therapist a teacher a doctor whomever #YOU DESERVE HELP. #you deserve connection #and i love you #suicide implied #tw self harm

[ef-1]

I remembered in 2021 (?) you posted a video of Daniel breaking down in the cool down room otw to the podium a couple of days after Jules' death and I thought "that's sad, the drivers were really impacted". But my moot on twitter is posting about Jules and she shared that Jules and Daniel lived together and how Jules helped Daniel settle in Europe when he felt so Alone ☹️ do you still have it by any chance?

yeah :( Hungary 2015 he broke down and Charlie Whiting (Race director) and a couple of people from the FIA really freaked out, I think they thought he was gonna collapse or had a health related thing. + he was also uncharacteristically withdrawn on the podium :(

#reminder that these are real people. and if you post about wishing they crash for your daily dose of internet attention- #you literally deserve a fully wound backhand to the mouth #f1 #daniel ricciardo #jules bianchi #death mention

[whollyjoly]

i just have a feeling / you're better off than you think you are

(song insp.)

#maybe im just obsessed with the idea that buck has thought to himself for so long that maybe he doesnt get to be happy #and now what if he does? what happens then? #fuck i am so obsessed with these two actually #buck deserves something soft!! and tender!! #THEM #and the way tommy looks at him just kills me actually #them #bonus lyrics include: “i think there's a reason / you could even get this far” #“what if the voice in your head is ten years old? / and you've been trying to prove yourself right since middle school?” #“what then? / what then?” #anyways the buck coding KILLS ME #bucktommy #kinkley #tevan #tuck #otp: better ways to get your attention #tommy kinard #evan buckley #911 on abc #911 abc #911 spoilers #em's edits #special shoutout to the clown car my beloveds #mine

[xx-sketchy-xx]

@lizaisdrawing I just really love your style, and your ideas for welcome home. Like, absolutely obsessed.

you are so amazing, and I’m inspired by your stuff! 💜✨

#welcome home art #Human sketchy #Sorry it’s kinda self centered #I just struggled to try and make this all day #I was originally gonna make doodles with the other neighbors #And I might still #Just not all in one go lol #YOU DESERVE SO MUCH MORE ATTENTION #your shading and style is simply eye candy #welcome home au #Sketchy Sketcharoo #Lizaisdrawing

[clownsuu]

Hi hello, would you look at that, huh! Saw this lil fella on our backyard a dozen times already.. he looked lonely and it's getting cold here, so maybe I should take him in -

You seem to know a thing or two about bugs and I never seen one like this! So I thought I could ask for advice, like is he the friendly kind at all?

(Couldn't take much pictures cuz he kept wiggling around 😔😔)

I G A S P E D

THE LITTLEST OF GUYS

#MARKETABLE PLUSHIE ROBBIE REAL?!?!?!?! #AWEAWEAWEAWEAWEEEEEEEEE THE LITTLEST OF GUYSSSSSSSSSS THERE HE ISSSSS;;;;;;;;; #Very friendly lil guy- he probably got lost again following a frog or smth- #Survived off of eating dandelions and some dirt… #And possibly a orange peel or two- #AWEEEEEEEEEE LITTOL GUYYYY;;;;;;; #He may head butt your ankle for attention if you leave him alone for too long— (or nibble you) #robbieeeeeee ;;;;;; he looks so lovely and handsomeeee;;; #him in his natural habitat… what crimes has he committed before being found? #(Possibly arson and/or tax fraud- he’s on the run with a warrant out for his arrest) #So many possibilities you can do with the lil guy… like spin him around in a tight hug or throw him at a wall- #So cuuuteee waaAAAAhh ;;;;; #Robbie robs #must put this in his tag cause he deserves it JDDHHDH #AWEEAWEEEEEEE I LOVE THIS SO MUCH YOU HAVE NO IDEAAAAA

[grendelsmilf]

fionna’s gonna be so pissed when/if she ever gets back to her original world and she has to third wheel her only two friends from now on because they adorably uhauled while she was fighting for her life across the multiverse

#accidentally setting up your only two friends and now they are too obsessed with each other to pay attention to you #you KNOW she’ll hate that!!!! #at ramblings #also yes i said this in a reply to a prev post but i figured it deserved to be its own post bc it’s funny #fionna and cake #100

[just-null-cult]

Fr bro I love your energy! Noritoshi is so pretty and so criminally underrated. Keep up the good work in making more of us lusting publicly for him. You've done amazing job! That boy well-deserved it :)

tysm!! I try to open the eyes of the public to his qualities. join my cult yall, Noritoshi is so good listen to me.

but on the topic of energy, whether you're high or low energy, Noritoshi loves it. the only difference is how he reacts to it.

Let's say you're low energy or prefer subtlety in your affection..

Noritoshi will initiate first! ..after a while... in his own way.... He needs to gather enough courage and collect his thoughts properly, then hes good to go! He prefers more subtle displays of affection too, but if needed he'll be blunt about it. He'll learn to adapt to slightly teasing remarks, going as far as to banter and tease back, moreover he's just very loving. So loving it can be embarrassing from time to time because of how intense the atmosphere can get.. the best way he can be described here is princely.

A small smile forms on Noritoshi's lips when he feels you're around. He turns to you, already memorizing each and every quirk you have so that he doesn't waste any time setting his sights on you again. His hands reach out to tug on your sleeve as he looks at you with a gaze so needy you can practically tell what he's about to ask. "May i hold your hand?" His voice comes so smooth that if you didn't know him, you would've missed the twinge of desperation it carried. You couldn't help yourself, you shook your head, a mischievous grin slowly creeping onto your lips at the sight of Noritoshi's pouted lip. Of course he'd do as you say even if it was clearly unfair, but not without some complaints. He clicks his tongue, a quiet mutter of "cheeky.." escapes under his breath. He knows you do this on purpose to mess with him, he was tempted to beg a little, but decided against it. it was an embarrassing thought to begin with. Seriously, how mean can someone be to make a guy think like this? ..Extremely, if the guy's pouting is cute enough! Noritoshi lifts his hand to his chin, thinking of the many ways he can try to get around this obstacle you cruelly placed in front of him. He leans in close, hovering next to you as he usually does when he thinks. He faces you as who knows what goes on in his head, his closed eyes not even giving you a hint as to what he could be thinking. "Ah, pardon me, I got lost in thought. I suppose i can keep my distance, so long as you keep looking at me with that charming gaze of yours." Ah, so he was just winding up for a pick up line. How lame, but.. get used to it. He's going to shadow behind you the entire day with more one liners like that unless you shut him up yourself. Wait.. was that his plan? The faint sly smirk tugging on the corner of Noritoshi's lips and the warm hue on the apple his of cheeks are all you need to figure out the rest.

If you're high energy or prefer more blunt methods of affection..

Noritoshi gets overwhelmed and flustered from such raw approaches from you that he comes off as a bit rude. It's only because you make his heart so full that he needs to shut you down or else he'll do something embarrassing!! He wants to impress you, of course he enjoys your advances very much, but it's not very slightly to see someone like him act like a crushing school girl!! or so he thinks.

Noritoshi yelps in surprise as you snake your hands around his waist from behind. He doesn't push you away or even move for that matter, he's frozen stiff. Is he still alive? Like any good lover would, you benevolently press your ear against his back to listen for a heart beat. ..You didn't hear anything until the sound of Noritoshi sharp inhale came through. That was unexpected, but it works. He squirmed a little, seemingly trying to shrug you off but quickly giving up, accepting the fact that you've got him trapped. "You imbecile, e-enough of this!" he scolded, though he made no actual effort to stop you. Noritoshi remains stiff for the most part, but looking at the back of his increasingly flushing neck reassures you that he is, indeed, alive. He's just being stubborn! Not turning or even a greeting, just rude name calling again! You raise one hand and place it over his heart to hold him tighter in your embrace. As expected, its practically pounding against his chest. He swats your hand away and finally turns back to you with those cute furrowed brows and rosy cheeks. "You're such a bully, you know that?" he huffs out, any semblance of sternness failing to take effect as his jutted bottom lip quivers. Mercifully, you finally let go and spare him by not pointing out the quiet whine he let out. He stumbles forward and turns around to face you fully, trying to keep an eye out for any more of your stunts while he catches his breath. He felt so dizzy from being in your arms, if he were held for a moment longer, he surely would've melted right then and there. Noritoshi's hands trembled as he smoothed out his clothes, his mouth opening and closing as any and all words died in his throat. He wanted to yell at you for being so forward, for giving him no chance to prepare, for letting go of him, for a lot of things..! Yet he just pouted as he tried to calm the flush on his face. His hands instantly whipped up in front of him when he noticed you took a step towards him. He can't handle another display of affection right now, he'll go weak at the knees! But how can you hold back when he's just so damn cute?

The most likely outcome is a mixture of both with a heavy leaning towards one. Either way, you're very right!! He's extremely pretty.

#noritoshi #kamo noritoshi #noritoshi kamo #noritoshi x reader #kamo noritoshi x reader #noritoshi kamo x reader #ezralva #cw: shotty writing from an amateur writer who is desperate for you to see his vision and why hes frothing at the mouth over a guy #could you feel the yandere undertones. i couldnt help myself. sue me #basically you give him enough time to gather his rizz if youre low energy but jumpscare the fuck out of him if youre high energy #and you know how he handles jumpscares according to this cult #heh #oh and you got me kicking my feet and shit bro #lusting publicly for him.... i couldnt word it better myself #thats the entire reason for having a cult and indoctrinating the public. ty my beloved cult member #BUT YEAH. LIKE I HAVE TOO MUCH ENERGY AND BRAIN POWER DEDICATED TO THIS MAN #I GOTTA INFECT OTHERS CAUSE HES SO. RIPS OFF MY FACE #TYSM FOR THE COMPLIMENT. I EAT THOSE UP MORE THAN ANYTHING. I LOVE YOU BRO #GOD HE *****DOES***** DESERVE ALL THE LOVE AND ATTENTION FUCK. HES SO!!!!!!!!! //PUNCHES MYSELF

[ruelpsen]

Fuck it, I'm going to go out and say it: while I often enjoy being teased on here, a fair portion of what I receive irritates me as it's misguided at best and reeks deeply of unlearned, malicious fatphobia at its worst. Yes I want to be fatter but I'm not fat. I am a 140-lbs/63.5-kg twink despite all my efforts to gain weight. I'm not stick thin, sure, but I'm sure as hell not fat either. So why are some people insistent on calling me fat/huge/big? Are actual fat people too much for you (perhaps even in spite of you being a self-professed FA)? Is your idea of fatness grounded in equating 'not even that chubby' with 'fat' while not even being attracted to people who are actually fat? Do you solely find bloated skinny guys hot while still saying you like fat people? Or are you not attracted to fat people at all and here simply to take your fatphobia out on the people closest to your image of ideal thinness, who you'd be more openly attracted to if they lost 10-20 pounds, all while still scoffing at or ignoring the fat people at the heart of these communities?

Some of y'all really need to do better. Either own up to your love of people who are actually fat (which may entail adjusting your understanding of what fatness is), clean up your nomenclature, or don't be here. Yes unlearning biases like fatphobia takes time and effort, but your choices really are more or less that simple.

#i've seen a number of posts lately from actual fat feedees/gainers discussing how even in these circles they feel marginalized #and yeah they most certainly are #i may not be in that weight cohort myself but my own experiences further go to show that it is a real and noticeable problem #to the fat people here you are not alone and i'm sorry some people still insist on being shitty like this #your body is lovely and deserving of far better attention than the dickish/creepy shit they have to give anyway #i am open to more discussion on this if people want it btw #body politics

[arthurtaylorlester]

so like do you ever think about john doe

#sorry guys hes taking over ny brain again #his situation is so fucked up what the hell 😭😭 #like yeah ok objectively arthur kinda has it worse #but imagine #you get torn from your former self and trapped in a book #then after killing multiple people you finally find a suitable host #but then you get attached and now youre no longer your former self #then your new human friend (who is quite literally all you have (and want)) kills himself to save you #even after you betrayed him and lied to him. multiple times #and you get separated and when you come back hes angry at you for having changed #but you had to make a deal with the literal devil to keep him alive and be together again #you work through it but then you have fulfil you end of the deal which indirectly causes him to meet this fucking priest #who is MONOPOLISING on your person’s attention #and since you seem to be suffering some form amnesia you desperately cling to normalcy – to when it was just the two of you #(but you know deep down you’re never going to be enough for him because he deserves more than a fractured monster imitating humanity) #(because he deserves the /world/ and if you could you would give it to him) #so you try to chop that priests arm off (he asked to be fair) #wouldnt that be fucked up #malevolent #unhinged aromantics #malevolent podcast #arthur lester #john doe #john malevolent #arthur malevolent #malevolent john #malevolent arthur

[heavens-aesthetic-kitchen]

Oh Heavy. How are you somehow everywhere yet underrated at the same time???

Genuinely don't see a lot of people talk about Heavy. Heavy mains are so few and far in between that im half convinced theyre endangered species. But enough about the game, I'm talking about the fandom. In terms of his canonical personality theres not a lot of people Ive seen hyping him up. The most ive seen is him being a boytoy to Medic, like come on this man deserves a lot better than just being referred as Medic's boyfriend. I have nothing against the ship, but lets talk about Heavy more than once in a while, pls.

See, this man has gone thru a whole lot. He was put through the gulags as a young man because of his father being against the communist party, escaping during a fire. Him and his family have been hiding in the mountains ever since. Hes so quiet and reflective. Hes more than a big guy with big guns, he is very observant and clever. I love his hyperfixations on guns and names them haha thats really sweet. He does not have very good english, but he is very educated having a phD in Russian Literature.

Honestly I dont even know why the fandom dont talk about him. The fanfic prompts are right THERE!!! COME ON

#tf2 #team fortress 2 #tf2 heavy #tf2 milkhail #god this man deserves better #his backstory is really sad and the fact he doesnt wanna talk about it really makes me feel so bad #i wanna make an essay on why hes wonderful and deserves your attention

[service4cops]

When Daddy stands to attention, that's your cue to get on your knees and service him!

#daddy cop #motorcycle cop #hot daddy cop #daddy needs a blowblob #standing to attention #presenting for service #get on your knees for him #he's the boss #he deserves it

[yourgfdgirlfriend]

if he doesn’t react like this when he gets to see a picture of you; drop his sorry ass

#this is the standard #if a guy can’t deliver on this i’m out #honestly i won’t ever deal with a one word response to a picture of me ever again #you can shove your ‘cute’ or ‘pretty’ up your ass #if he doesn’t swoon over you like this he does not deserve your attention #do not settle for anything less than this #he got to see half of my face for twenty seconds since it was just a playful snapshot of me getting fancy ice tea #and this is the reaction #raise your standards all the way #no it wasn’t a dirty picture

[wishing-stones]

may i ask what happened in the utmv fandom relating to the transphobia? i feel like ive stepped into a 5th season of a drama show and i have no clue whats going on 😭

A popular creator answered an ask last night regarding her views about trans people and she responded with a bible quote and to basically say that while she "didn't agree" with some "choices" (cba to get the actual verbage but you get the idea) she will support "trans" artists (yes, with quotation marks.)

So you know, the fandom of a video game with canon trans characters and a main character who is canonically non binary created a massive uproar and basically rallied trans positivity in retalliation.

It's actually kind of a moving show of positivity in response, really. I'm very happy with the fandom right now.

#k answers #this would be calcium-cat by the way #but DO NOT attack her or give her any direct attention #ice her out she doesn't deserve your time or vitriol