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yuri-is-online · 11 hours

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Keep thinking bout Yutu and his relationship to his dad. Like we know a little more about Ace, Floyd, Azul and Riddle (maybe I miss someone else?) but I was curious about other details or interactions with the other Overblot boys.

Like how does talking with someone who tries his best to not get involved in other people's business like Jamil work for making his parents fall in love (if that's even something Yutu can see happening with how distant he is)? How does Yutu go about trying to lay some clues for Vil without being found when Vil's doing his best (with Rook's help) to figure out what's going on?

Or what about the shenanigans Ortho would get to to ensure Idia and Yuu get together so they can try to stop the apocalypse and how would Yutu feel about having at least one person (his uncle at that!) who he can rely on? Or does Yutu ever find himself in a situation that makes him go "oh, I could've had this with dad if it weren't for the council" whenever Malleus says something deep without realizing?

Gaaaaahhhhh I just really like this au and I wanna ask you so many questions but I also don't wanna be annoying

ask is referencing the fyuuture kid au, information on which can be found here and here, or under the series section on my masterlist.

No one is annoying for asking questions! I have asks for Idia and Leona's Yutus, which I think makes every overblot boy except for Jamil and Vil due for a detailed post. Azul! Yutu is a bit of a grey area since I have talked about him a bunch but haven't done detailed hc for him. Yet anyway, Jade and Floyd got one so he needs one too otherwise it'll bug me.

Jamil! Yutu absolutely has a lot of guilt and self hatred around his entire existence. As I talked about in the post about the main cast, Jamil was executed in Yutu's future, and he feels personally responsible for that. If his dad had never fallen in love with Yuu then he would have had a chance at his freedom, that's how Yutu has come to see it anyway. He doesn't want Jamil to fall in love with Yuu, even if it means erasing his existence. Down that road lies only tragedy, but there is also something so beautiful about the way Jamil interacts with Yuu when he thinks no one is looking. There is a degree of mutual respect for how hard the other works and intense desire for approval and praise he can sympathize with. He just doesn't see a way for this to end well if it's allowed to continue, he's a very pessimistic kid Jamil! Yutu. But then again the others didn't have to see the rotted corpse of their father getting dragged around by a blot phantom and be told by a few angry relatives of Kalim that he is the one who put him there.

Vil! Yutu is a bit afraid of his dad. He knows from personal experience that the man is intense and does not take no for an answer but he's never been in the position to see 1) what a good thing that can be or 2) just how silly that can make him act. He's also NEVER had to contend with the real Rook before. The Rook he's familiar with is a mindless monster, dangerous sure, but with patterns you can memorize and protect yourself from. This guy is just wild, sure his dad says that he's only putting up for his behavior "for now" but someone tell him where the fucking line is??? The last thing he wants is to just say everything and risk ruining the timeline but Vil keeps demanding specifics. The main thing Yutu tries to do is get him cooperating with Idia in learning about blot phantoms, the way he sees it things will be much easier if his two most trusted adults are on the same page. It's not a difficult ask either post chapter six, I think Vil is someone who would want to understand what happened to him on a scientific level to some degree, but oh Yutu. Now you've just made him wonder how you know that little piece of information, not everyone knows about his overblot, but he didn't know that bit did he?

Ortho and Idia! Yutu wind up being very close. Having his uncle on his side puts Yutu in a much more stable place emotionally and mentally than other Yutus. They spend a lot of time analyzing old records about blot and phantoms, everyone else is convinced they're just hyping each other up for some weird PhD project inspired by the Ramshackle Prefect's time at NRC and hey. They aren't exactly wrong. As for how they go about trying to get Idia and Yuu together... it's a lot of anime recommendations and conveniently forgetting they had something else to do. Yutu has just as in depth knowledge of Idia's tastes as Ortho does, and the added bonus of knowing Yuu's, so they search through lists of things, pick out the shows they know will get the two of you talking and then sit back and let you interact. Yutu is genuinely confused about why or if this is working... but Ortho did send him a video of his dad hyping himself up to try and ask you out (he over heated and just hid inside his room instead but hey. It's the thought that counts.)

Malleus! Yutu just got his post here. And yes he does think regularly about what he could have had with his father if things had been different, but a lot of those thoughts come from his sillier moments. Hearing Malleus talk at length about ruins or seeing him confused about how to interact with technology make him seem more... human for lack of a better term to him. He's very familiar with the myth of Malleus Draconia, but he wasn't fathered by a myth. He was fathered by a man who fell in love with a human under very extraordinary circumstances and Yutu wants to know about why. What things did Malleus like most about Yuu? About Twisted Wonderland? If he had gotten a chance to be raised by him what things would Malleus have wanted to teach him? Would he be any different?

Azul! Yutu is also afraid of his dad, but not based on any personal experiences just his own insecurities. He's not a thin guy, he's not in Octavinelle, and he is extremely worried that his dad will see him as some sort of stupid muscle head and be disappointed in having him. He's also, understandably, extremely angry at him when he learns what he did in Book 3 to his parent. Fuck this guy, he'll just save Yuu himself and hopefully if they still get together he'll grow up to be a totally different person when he's born in this good timeline. But there's just something about Azul's approval that he can't help but want now that drives him crazy. Why can't he just be ok with being alone? He has been all this time anyway...

(Meanwhile Azul is deeply impressed with how well Yutu is at disguising himself as a dumb muscle head. Just look at the kid, he's got everyone thinking he just is controlling their shadows while he's actually using a really complicated bit of cosmic magic. Suckers all of them. Not him though. He's not being fooled by anything about Yutu, no sir.)

Leona, Leona, Leona. He's tricky for me to write. Scar apparently has children? In one the the Lion King sequels? Leona's dislike of kids seems to come from his complicated feelings around the throne and his want for people to be independent. I think he would be one of those gruff intense kind of dads who does the whole "we are never getting a pet" thing and then you see him asleep on the recliner with Princess Nooodles III chilling on his lap with him. Anyway back to Yutu-

Leona! Yutu's relationship with his dad is tempered by the fact Leona knows who and what he is from the start and demands to know why he has traveled back in time. He doesn't explicitly say he knows that he is his father or that Yuu is his other parent, just that he knows time travel is involved, so they have a fairly open amount of communication regarding the overblot "business" but not on much else. Yutu has a desire to understand his father and Leona has a desire to not disappoint him. Who would want their dad to be the second prince? He's destined for nothing but a miserable life anyway, all of the responsibility and none of the privilege (outside of the money but lets be real, Leona's ass does not understand that.) I don't think either Leona or Yutu fully understands that his existence is enough for the other to be happy. When they are forced to talk about it they both laugh it off and roll their eyes at how cheesy that sounds but deep down it means a lot to both of them.

Riddle! Yutu has gotten a lot of posts about him and his "hatred" of his dad but I thought I'd take this post to mention I like the idea of Yutu's favorite food being the chestnut tarts/mont blanc that aren't allowed at Unbirthday Parties but that Riddle still wanted to eat anyway. He's a lot like his father in his love of sweets and his determined denial of it, but he isn't the exact same. Also gives him one more thing to pick a fight with Riddle over (his dad doesn't get the big deal, they can just have a private tea party with Yuu and have all the different sweets they want... can't they?)

#<3 asks #twisted wonderland x reader #twst x reader #future kid au #overblot boys

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xoxomireya · 13 hours

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ꪆ🍦ৎ﹐boundary setting﹑⎘﹒

I. GET TO KNOW YOURSELF.

Look for the root of the problem. Maybe you’re stuck being a people pleaser, or maybe you don’t even know what your boundaries are.

If you identify with the first one, ask yourself why are you a people pleaser. Independently of the situation that might be making you act like this, internalize the thought that bending backwards for the sake of other people and completely disregarding your needs and values will destroy your sense of self-love and self-respect and make people lose respect for you, making you miserable. Surround yourself with communicative people and stop trying to guess everyone’s needs, it’s their job to communicate them to you. Do things you’ve always wanted to do in order to practice focusing on yourself and having your space all to yourself instead of giving it away that easily.

If you identify with the second one, you might need some time alone to reconnect with yourself. The way you find out who you are and what you want is to spend time with yourself, because you naturally gravitate towards what feels good to you. At the end of the day, you’re going to be stuck with yourself for the rest of your life, so turn this into something positive. Start meditating, journaling and look for question prompts to get to know yourself better. Once you know who you are and what you want, setting boundaries is going to be a piece of cake.

What boundaries should we set?

Even if there are some non-negotiables, everyone has their own boundaries. Set boundaries that make you feel respected, comfortable and authentic. Tune into your emotions and thoughts and stay true to yourself.

II. SETTING BOUNDARIES.

Now, this is the hard part. Once you know what you’re boundaries are, approach the situation by what you consider the best approach: assertively, politely… But without diminishing what’s bothering you. State the problem calmly and how it affects and bothers you.

Don’t make this whole situation into a bigger deal than it is, be chill about it and don’t act emotional or upset. Remember that you don’t have to apologize or explain yourself too much, you also have a right to say no and you don’t need an excuse not to do something that you’re uncomfortable with doing.

What do you do if someone tries crossing them?

If you’ve told someone about your boundaries and they still try crossing them on purpose, they’re out. Letting someone disrespect you is an act of self-deprecation, and if they do something once, they will most definitely do it again. Don’t be upset over it and tell them calmly that if your boundaries make them uncomfortable enough to not respect them, it’s better to part ways. Let them go.

III. BOUNDARIES WITH OURSELVES

It’s even harder to set boundaries with ourselves than it is to set them with other people. We’re always making excuses for our acts of self-deprecation. We even keep making depreciative acts against ourselves subconsciously, making it even harder to change it and set boundaries.

Here are some examples of acts of self-love and setting boundaries with ourselves:

Limit the time spent on social media and stop consuming content that makes you sad.

Learn your triggers and develop healthy coping mechanisms.

Communicating with other when you feel uncomfortable, hurt or upset.

IV. TYPES OF BOUNDARIES.

Physical Boundaries: These refer to personal space and physical touch. They include awareness of what’s appropriate, and what’s not, in different settings and types of relationships. They also include preferences for respect, privacy, closeness and touch.

Sexual Boundaries: These are related to consent and include the emotional, intellectual and physical aspects of sexuality. Healthy sexual boundaries involve mutual sexual understanding and respect of limitations and desires between sexual partners.

Emotional Boundaries: These refer to how your own and other’s emotional needs are handled. They are all about respecting and honoring feelings and energy. Setting emotional boundaries means recognizing how much emotional energy you are capable of taking in, knowing when to share and when not to share, and limiting emotional sharing with people who respond poorly.

Spiritual Boundaries: They relate to your deepest values, sense of meaning, and inner truth guiding your life journey. They anchor you when outer forces challenge your identity or purpose.

Financial Boundaries: These boundaries are designed to protect your financial well-being, maintain healthy relationships, and ensure you are not taken advantage of financially. Financial boundaries can cover a wide range of areas, including lending money, sharing expenses, giving financial advice, and discussing personal financial details.

Time Boundaries: Time boundaries are the limits you set on how much time you spend on different tasks, activities, and relationships. They help you prioritize your goals, protect your energy, and avoid burnout.

How do these boundaries benefit you?

Boundaries should help you establish and maintain healthy relationships with others and yourself by helping us build trust, safety and respect. They also prevent burnout and resentment, and protect our mental health and wellbeing

#it girl #self care #self love #self improvement #that girl #self healing #boundaries #best version of yourself #boundary setting #boundary break #self worth #self development #healing

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yilan-meiyuan · 1 day

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fanghua, pure love warrior.

in the chinese-language fanghua fandom, we have a term to describe xiaohua and xiaobao's relationship: 純愛戰神 (pure love warrior). in fact, it was so widely understood that even a chinese singer who watched mysterious lotus casebook knew and listed fang duobing as an example of someone who embodied the pure love warrior spirit. in his words:

"[fang duobing] was always looking for his shifu. he persevered no matter what others had to say, no matter if others had good or bad words for his shifu, and no matter the rumours that spread about the type of person his shifu was, he always continued to look for him. there wasn't anything else. he just wanted to find him. i think that's what a pure love warrior is."

the term "pure love warrior" originated from a popular japanese manga series. nowadays, it evolved to be extensively used to describe a quality of simple and unadulterated love in couples. it is mutual love, fully and completely 雙相奔赴 (literally meaning two people who run towards each other). the couple works together against all odds to fight off outside factors that try to tear them apart. they are fearless and would defend their love to death. as a colloquial internet term, you will see "pure love warrior" commented when someone does something incredibly sweet for their partner.

this quality of feeling between two people was also echoed by fang duobing's actor. he said:

"as kids, fang duobing held on to li xiangyi's gifted wooden sword and words of promise as his belief in him. as much as it was recognition from the best in the world, it was the one ray of light he wanted to hold on to shining through the mist. because of that, he looked up to li xiangyi to the brim.

however, from the moment fang duobing met li lianhua, fang duobing had only ever seen li lianhua as li lianhua. towards li xiangyi, it was respect; towards li lianhua, it was friendship. and, neither were stained with a scrap of selfishness.

xiaobao greatly cherished the friendship he built with li lianhua. he had set his mind on such a friend, and, forever, it will only be li lianhua this one for him."

it bears noting that "pure love" being denoted by a fandom does not mean lack of intimacy. on the contrary, in chinese-language fanghua fan works, from meta, fic, mvs, to art, you will find emotional and physical intimacy to be stronger and more consistent, delicate, and moving than others.

for instance, xiaobao would ask xiaohua if he is cold or in pain every step of the way, and xiaohua would reassure him to not think too much (but of course xiaobao would - xiaohua's comfort is his priority); xiaohua would relapse but more than anything, he would be afraid his condition may make xiaobao cry; and, no matter the state xiaohua would be in when he is found, with or without memories and all, xiaobao would willingly stay with him to the end.

"pure love" is beautiful love and is simply describing the quality of love that two people can have. that's what fanghua have for each other.

#fanghua #li lianhua #fang duobing #mysterious lotus casebook #i just love them so much 😭

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fadedrainbowbookshelves · 10 months

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When your husband reminds you he's actually gorgeous.

#welcome home #welcome home fanart #frank frankly #eddie dear #Drag!Eddie Dear #eddie x frank #frank x eddie #He's absolutely speechless.#Pretty dress impeccable makeup curly hair glam style #His husband is so pretty!! Is it possible to get flustered by someone you're married to?#Eddie being appreciated in his interests whether craft/mail/drag by Frank is god tier #We love a mutually respectful and loving relationship #Bow stop drawing this!! You say.#You'll have to pry my off-brand apple pen out of my cold dead hands I reply #I won't repeat the words I said while trying to draw makeup on the face of a gdmn puppet #unaffiliated with the incredible creation of welcome home i'm just a fan having fun!

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zeb-z · 5 months

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etoiles who tries to be patient and tries to be kind and tries to help bad in his state of memory loss and confusion after purgatory, but still can’t help be suspicious of him. who works around how well he knows bad, because he knows bad is a liar, but he doesn’t say as much he just quietly puts in his own tests and precautions to gauge properly what level of fucked bad’s head is. who won’t stop reminding him of purgatory. does he remember the eggs? does he remember his home? does he remember how he slaughtered his friends ruthlessly over and over and over again? does he remember jaiden? charlie? does he remember how defenseless etoiles was when he stabbed him in the back? etoiles who knows how bad feels just by body language, who used to have the upmost respect and trust for his friend, his ally, his brother in arms - now holds him at arms length even at his most vulnerable.

something about etoiles asking what bad is hungry for, offering to fight (wanting to fight, now that the ground is even, now that he’s not defenseless, after bad had killed him when he was), and bad going “fight? why would I fight you, I thought we were friends?” and all etoiles can do is scoff. something about how even the most honorable and most patient have limits. something about how the consequences for bads actions - to himself and to others - are all finally compounding. how etoiles and bad’s relationship is forever changed by what happened in purgatory, and etoiles may still extend his hand to help him, give him strategies to remember things, but he’s doing so with a bitterness and a resentment.

things won’t be the same. things will never be the same. and the way etoiles can’t help bad without being sharp and angry about it proves this. because two weeks ago bad was family - and now, at bads worst, his most afflicted, most vulnerable, sure etoiles still offers help, and is more level headed than most about it, but he is in no means gentle or kind. he doesn’t want to help him. and that says everything.

#idk man. etoiles reaction not being ‘oh poor bad’ but being startled and then ‘oh of fucking course he’d just forget everything’ is telling #like we knew purgatory wasn’t gonna be forgotten. especially between red and bad specifically. but for it to show through etoiles first #to see etoiles genuinely bitter and resentful and taking no stock nor trust in what bad is saying or showing. yeah. Yeah #like. etoiles helping. he still cares a little. he’s not gonna leave bad to fend for himself he’s gonna help because that’s what he does he #helps #but it’s like. etoiles is saving him with a resentment because he knows bad wouldn’t do the same #(as far as he’s concerned at least. from what purgatory has shown him at least)#or not saving so much as helping to correct my phrasing a little bit jfjskfkrk #idk the fact that it’s etoiles out of everyone back so far. the fact that it’s etoiles and bads relationship that’s in shambles #out of all the friendships and mutual trust and respect and love #like. yeah. yeah. purgatory won’t just be forgotten. as much as bad has forgotten no one else will forget #mcyt #qsmp #q!etoiles #q!bbh #z speaks

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redrobin-detective · 1 year

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Back to watching Elementary again, another aspect of the show I enjoy is Sherlock’s open adoration and appreciation of Watson both as a person and a fellow detective. I think that’s something that has been lost in a lot of Holmes adaptions - started mainly by the Basil Rathbone/Nigel Bruce movies - of Watson being a comedic foil to Holmes, an inept bungler that Sherlock puts up with.

I feel like even in adaptions that have Holmes/Watson having a good relationship, there is this sense of exasperation coming from Holmes about some of Watson’s behaviors (BBC and RDJ come to mind). In Elementary, once Sherlock accepts and embraces his love for Watson, he never really backs down from it. We rarely see him frustrated with her, and if so it’s because of her actions not personality clashes. He knows he’s weird and obnoxious and adapts to Watson’s habits without making a big eye rolling deal out of it.

#cbs elementary #i dont think I'm explaining myself well #but like elementary sherlock LIKES his watson #and even when he is frustrated with her its not like a 'ugh watson you moron'#its always from a place of love and concern #idk we were talking in sherlock club a few weeks ago on how the sherlock/watson relationship has changed over adaptions #how some believed holmes being fondly exasperated of watson was part of the charm #but i argued even in the books holmes treats watson like his lil buddy #he fucken loves solving mysteries and going to the opera with him #he isn't as accomodating as Elementary Holmes (an improvement) but he genuinely cares for watson #idk something something mutual respect and acknowledging someone asthey are without fanfare #im very tired rn idk why i felt the need to put this into words

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coquelicoq · 9 days

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the thing they don't tell you about reading the entire dictionary aloud is that spending that much time caressing words in your mouth may lead you to form sensual, perhaps romantic associations with the act of speech. the words become more fully themselves on my tongue. i use my body to bring them to life. this, too, is yuri

#giggling and twirling my hair at the dictionary: ....and then what #i think i already was like this before i read the dictionary but it's hard to say. i do definitely think of individual words as #my friends or enemies and that's always been true to some extent. but now some of them are also my lovers #new ask game give me a word and i'll tell you what kind of relationship we have #here's a freebie: freebie. kind of obnoxious but doesn't rise to enemy level. i'm just sort of like oh freebie is at this party?#okay i will stand on the other side of the room so that we only cross paths once or twice and maybe kind of #comically grimace at each other in mutual forbearance. no love lost but we do basically respect each other #<-this is not a metaphor for whether i use the word freebie or how i feel when someone says the word freebie btw #it's just like...synesthesia. but for vibes?#fun with words #lecture du dico #my posts

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noireisnocturnal · 2 months

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Oh deer~

(I can't find a good gif right now, but specifically the hallway where he's reaching both sides and threatening Husk. Yeah that)

#i am not immune #to the demon deer #but only in a very specific way #yeah im working through this #ugh #yeah no please stop trying to redeem the cannibal #or try to make them suddenly want a relationship #ill be your friend in a mutual respect kind of way #we can hang out and talk shit about Susan #does angel blood taste like honey or steel?#hazbin hotel #alastor #would love to have a drink with him #neat or on the rocks for you?

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surferboypizza-argylespeaking · 2 years

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Their first kiss happens one evening at Jonathan’s house. They are in his bedroom and Jonathan wanted Argyle to hear this band he was really into. They are sitting on the floor by Jonathan’s speakers. They had just shared a joint. Argyle is doodling on Jonathan’s skateboard.

Jonathan is lost in the music. Argyle isn’t super into the first track on the record but he is enjoying seeing Jonathan get into it.

It isn’t until the fifth track starts that Jonathan speaks and says this one is his favorite. He turns the volume up a little louder. Argyle puts the board aside to give all of his attention to Jonathan. The opening notes are softer than the previous tracks. And Argyle has no idea what the woman singing is saying but he is enjoying it much more than others. He watches Jonathan for a bit. His eyes are closed and there is a content smile on his face. Argyle doesn’t even think the music swells along with his heart and he leans in to kiss Jonathan.

Jonathan eyes open and he has a look of surprise on his face but that passes quickly as a large smile breaks out on Jonathan’s face. He reaches out to Argyle and kisses him back with everything he’s got.

Argyle may not like Cocteau Twins as much as Jonathan and he doesn’t understand a word of what she is singing. But Pearly Dewdrops Drops will forever be one of his favorite songs.

#i’m living in my jargyle world i created #jargyle #argyle #jonathan byers #listen I love Cocteau Twins and I have no idea what that song is about but it feels like one of the most romantic songs in the world #I have so many feelings about jargyles relationship just being so deep rooted in gentleness and respect for one another and how music is #the beating heart of their whole relationship #and I could easily have these where Argyle rambles like we see him do occasionally in the show but I feel like at a certain point there is #a mutual understanding of when this is a fun shoot the shit moment and when is a moment where hey I am going to show you a piece of my soul #you know? Jonathan takes music so seriously and I think Argyle knew that he just needed to listen while Jonathan shared this with him

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agent-sarahwalker · 7 months

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Anna! If you really are leaving this blog, I just wanna say thank you! Thank you for the all the entertainment you provided! From those chaotic uswnt and orl pride games to wlw media and of course the legendary masterlist! Your blog was somewhere I would go to when I wanted a pick-me-up. You’re a true legend ⭐️

Thank you so much!!!!

#as silly and parasocial as it may seem i am having a real hard time dealing with this #I've looked up to them as inspiration for any relationship and I believed in their mutual respect and love #so receiving this message is actually so nice bc we spent so many years in this little corner of the internet and i had a great time

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aeide-thea · 1 year

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the thing abt this website (and really, every other website and also people irl) is that you'll be introduced to a new person who seems interesting (read: has some stuff to say that you agree with), and you'll think, ooh, maybe i should follow them! and then you'll check out their blog and realize, oh, fuck, right, they're the same person who was advocating 'systematic and targeted online harassment' of people who spread a message they dislike, as though that were either an acceptable way to behave or, for that matter, an effective way to convince anyone of anything—like, hello, if you harass your enemies they will shut their ears to you and become further entrenched in their current positions! also decent people will see what you're doing and distrust you even if your cause would otherwise earn their sympathy!

#and like. it's not a group or message i endorse either! that's not the point!#anyway tbd bc this IS vagueblogging it's just like. very frustrating #i very much want to like and respect people! wish they'd let me!#(a problem with the internet is that you run into dealbreakers much faster than you can build real bonds with people)#(and so you don't forge the kinds of relationships where you can say‚ hey‚ love you but that thing you said was pernicious actually!)#(so you just quietly unfollow‚ or don't follow in the first place‚ and no one learns anything from anyone else #that isn't already dreamt of in their existing philosophy)#(love my internet pals to bits but it really is like. in many cases we're not proper talk-things-out friends)#(and where we are‚ that's really developed in spite of the prevailing internet culture‚ i feel like‚ not because of it)#(like everyone talks this big dramatic game about Mutuals but so many of those [non-]relationships are really‚ like‚ mutually parasocial)#(they like your posts and you like theirs but nary a word is ever exchanged)#(so you don't get any practice at finding middle ground and figuring out what areas of disagreement you can push back at)#(you just either always-already-agree or silently part ways)#(anyway. these tags took a turn lmao)#(i'm just very conscious that this aspect of internet culture is not serving me)#(but like. what do you do about it?)#(still follow the person you think said something totally wrongheaded bc irl you wouldn't have been aware they'd said it?)#(maybe that IS where you start but like. then you end up with a dash that stresses you the fuck out‚ probably! so that's not the end of it.#(anyway.)#(sigh.)

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countess-of-edessa · 5 months

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there’s a specific catholic woman instagram influencer who keeps getting shown to me who i just want to take by the shoulders and shake. soulmates aren’t real and it’s stupid for catholics to think that, sorry

#does God have a plan for your life and might He send you a spouse? yes #but for a Catholic to believe that God made one person to be our life partner and he did it for everyone who is called to marriage and we #ARE going to meet that person and marry them is both irresponsible and also dumb as hell #like. did God just come up with this idea in the 19th century when people started considering love as something to prioritize in a marriage #all the women before then just didn’t get soulmates?#do people's soulmates get aborted? is that why so many women don’t have husbands when they want them?#she also is like GIRLS. don’t worry about waiting and worrying that you’re never going to find someone. i didn’t meet my husband who was #also my first kiss and my first date until i was 23!?!?!?! so trust in God #and like im happy for her and that doesn’t really matter to me that much but like #do you think that plays well for women in their thirties lol #i know it doesn’t cause they’re in her comments haha #how is the idea that God made one person out there for you and will allegedly put him in your path whenever He decides is right #more of a comforting idea than “there are multiple people out there I can be compatible with and eventually love #and choose to be in a relationship of commitment and mutual respect and goals and we can get to heaven together.”#especially when you’re an unmarried woman who is like thirty five #our souls do not mate there is no marriage in heaven

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raethethey · 3 months

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i feel like my friends are ghosting me..