#an experience certainly

[meandaupod]

to all the people who are running into the casting call without the context of Me and AU and going MANITOBA?! 

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....I am so sorry I did not know there was a real Selkirk in 2018. I fully thought I was just stealing the name of a mountain range outside the place in B.C. I’m actually riffing on.

#I had an EX who is from MB DM me about this on twitter which is #an experience certainly #Selkirk #guess I should've gone with Purcell after all but lbr it sounds like hand sanitizer

[georgekirrin]

getting gendered correctly by a police officer like >:|

#good? bad? #an experience certainly

[biggest-gaudiest-patronuses]

anyone else have multiple traumatic memories associated specifically with holidays/family vacations? because that is a topic I never see discussed in all the So You Had A Shitty Childhood, Now What? self-help books i've been reading. but for me, it was a significant thing. and the more i think about it the more it seems like this would be an (unfortunately) common experience. would be grateful to hear if this matches other peoples' experiences...

#not a shitpost #serious post #ask to tag #tw trauma #cptsd #c-ptsd #and if so we should TALK about it #because it means there are a whole group of survivors out there whose mental health regularly worsens during holidays #like i know i am most certainly not the only person who feels an undefined Dread hanging over christmas/my birthday/july 4 etc #bc too many shitty things happened during those times and now my brain is hypervigilant bc traditionally these are the Danger Times #and this seems like it would be particularly common for survivors of abusive/dysfunctional households (aka most people with c-ptsd) #because holidays/vacations typically mean 1) the whole family is together/being forced to interact #2) and undergoing external stressors e.g. travel/relatives aka 'outsiders' visiting/routines & coping mechanisms being interrupted etc #3) there is social pressure for this to be a Fun Family Bonding Experience which only highlights the cracks in the foundation #and exposes the common Everything Is Fine/We Are A Happy Family lie #4) the cognitive dissonance of feeling tired/anxious/stressed/afraid during a time when you are 'supposed' to be Making Good Memories #and then everyone is angry/tired/anxious/triggered and things boil over and something or someone goes Very Wrong #weird that i'm posting this in october when halloween is...sort of the ONLY holiday i have only good and happy feelings towards #i got lucky there #also i have positive feelings towards Labor Day but that's for socialist reasons

[thecruel]

HOUSE M.D. 2.17 — All In

#tvedit #houseedit #housemdedit #house md #ba dum tss #rewatching this show when ur older and also in med school is certainly an experience #gif

[mrs-gauche]

Alas, so long as the music plays, we dance.

(Cole's cryptic comments + The Song)

#dragon age #dai gifs #flemeth #solas #cole #my gifs #you know.. isn't it interesting how DA4 seems to be going for a purple color scheme now? #....and if you mix blue and red you get WHAT?? 👀👀 #EXACTLY #coincidence?? I think NOT lmao #if the ''song is sundered''... then what'll happen when everything sings the same again? 👀 #then there's that one line from Solas in Haven.. #''harmonizing with new magic in an unending symphony'' that's also a very interesting way of phrasing #there's that musical connotation again #but let me tell you.. #listening to super eerie soundtracks while making this was certainly an experience 😶 #I'm just happy I managed to make a gif set after 84 years.... #and it only took me [insert unhealthy amount of hours] #hahaha 💀 #at least I still remember how the flycam works lol

[ignitesthestxrs]

there's something about the way people talk about john gaius (incl the way the author writes him) that is like. so absent of any connection to te ao māori that it's really discomforting. like even in posts that acknowledge him as not being white, they still talk about him like a white, american leftist guy in a way that makes it clear people just AREN'T perceiving him as a māori man from aotearoa.

and it's just really serves to hammer home how powerful and pervasive whiteness and american hegemony is. because TLT is probably the single most Kiwi series in years to explode on the global stage, and all the things i find fraught about it as a pākehā woman reading a series by a pākehā author are illegible to a greater fandom of americans discoursing about whether or not memes are a valid way of portraying queer love.

idk the part of my brain that lights up every time i see a capital Z printed somewhere because of the New Zealand Mentioned??? instinct will always be proud of these books and muir. but i find myself caught in this midpoint of excitement and validation over my culture finding a place on the global stage, frustration at how kiwi humour and means of conveying emotion is misinterpreted or declared facile by an international audience, frustrated also by how that international audience runs the characters in this book through a filter of american whiteness before it bothers to interpret them, and ESPECIALLY frustrated by how muir has done a pretty middling job of portraying te ao māori and the māoriness of her characters, but tht conversation doesn't circulate in the same way* because a big part of the audience doesn't even realise the conversation is there to be had.

which is not to say that muir has done a huge glaring racism that non-kiwis haven't noticed or anything, but rather that there are very definitely things that she has done well, things that she has done poorly, things that she didn't think about in the first book that she has tacked on or expanded upon in the later books, that are all worthy of discussion and critique that can't happen when the popular posts that float past my dash are about how this indigenous man is 'guy who won't shut up about having gone to oxford'

*to be clear here, i'm not saying these conversations have never happened, just that in terms of like, ambient posts that float round my very dykey dash, the discussions and meta that circulate on this the lesbian social media, are overwhelmingly stripped of any connection to aotearoa in general, let alone te ao māori in specific. and because of the nature of american internet hegemony this just,,,isn't noticed, because how does a fish know it's in the ocean u know? i have seen discussions along these lines come up, and it's there if i specifically go looking for it, but it's not present in the bulk of tlt content that has its own circulatory life and i jut find that grim and a part of why the fandom is difficult to engage with.

#tlt #the locked tomb #i don't really have an answer lmao this is more #an expression of frustration and discomfort #over the way posts about john gaius seem to have very little connection to the background muir actually gave him #like you cant describe him as an educated leftist bisexual man #without INCLUDING that he is māori #that has an impact! that has weight and importance! #that is a background to every decision he makes #from the meat wall to the nuke to his relationship with the earth #and it also has weight and importance in the decisions that muir makes in writing him #it is not a neutral decision that he's known as john gaius lmao #it's not a neutral decision that the empire is explicitly of roman/latin extraction #it's not even neutral that this is a book about necromancy #it's certainly not a neutral fucking decision that john was at one point a māori man living in the bush #when the nz govt decided to send cops in #like that is a thing that happens here! that is a reference to nz cultural and political events that informs john's character and actions #and with the nature of who john is in the story #informs the narrative as a whole #and i think the tiresome part of this experience is that #in general #americans are not well positioned to understand that something might be being written from outside their experience as a default #like obviously many many americans in online leftist & queer spaces are willing to learn and take on new information #but so much of the conversation starts from a place of having to explain that forests exist to fish

[carlyraejepsans]

to summarize an unduly rambly post: our control over kris has been steadily growing more and more distressing for them throughout the story. the snowgrave route, possibly the most gut wrenching, violating imposition of our will on theirs AND Noelle's (*homer voice* so far!), explicitly, thematically, and visually represents possession and coercion through romantic imagery, specifically rings and weddings. it's nauseating. it forces both of them into an implied relationship that neither of them is comfortable in by leveraging noelle's desperate wish to reconnect with her childhood friend. it has exactly the horrible connotations you don't want it to have.

ralsei being presented as both a direct callback to asriel—both the undertale asriel we know, and y'know... kris' brother in deltarune—while also setting him and kris up in a clearly romantic context that kris does not seem to either share or be comfortable with, is not a coincidence. it's not an accident. "isn't that a little incestuous" that's the point! kris' agency being stripped away is one of deltarune's main thematic cores: the game is repeatedly setting up a pattern where that theme is reinforced by putting kris in upsetting, unwanted romantic relationships for OUR entertainment. nothing fits the bill better than pairing them with the nostalgia bait companion that literally looks like their brother.

#incest mention #I'm sorry your only experience with incest as a literary topic has been the skeleton brothers lightsaber-fighting with neon colored dicks #but it's almost like delicate & upsetting topics can be used to have thematically relevant and also upsetting narrative functions #yes! on YOUR computer! it's more likely than you think #not all media is meant to be escapism not all media is made to make you feel good #certainly not one that calls the player's actions and presence into question like DR #deltarune #kris #noelle #ralsei #yeah I'm tagging this one it's just straight up good analysis #entry log #metanalysis

[sawyerz-inc]

extremely self indulgent art but erm hai,, ^_^

#drawing this at 2 in the morning while binging friends was certainly an experience #anyways I am tired and in love how are you guys doingh #view master #viewmaster #objectum #art #kotachrome-films

[pro-sipper]

"Dead Dove: Do Not Eat"

About the tag, the origin, and why I think no one on either side of the fandom divide knows how to use it

First of all, I'm crosstagging because I think it's a general issue, not just something for pro or anti shippers. I see the tag get misused on both sides and I just wanted to throw my two cents in

So, where did the term originate? Like all culturally significant things online, it started as a meme. More specifically, a meme from the television show Arrested Development. Character A has put a dead dove into a brown paper bag to store in the family's fridge. On the bag, he has taped a sign that reads, in big bold letters, "DEAD DOVE. Do Not Eat!"

Character B comes across the bag, reads the warning, and opens it anyway. When he's met with, you guessed it, a dead dove, he proclaims "I don't know what I expected".

This is an example of (and has since basically become the spiritual successor to) the "Exactly What It Says On The Tin" trope.

If you want to check out the full history and countless examples of the trope, please check out the page on tvtropes. But for a slightly shorter history - it originated in a British commercial for Ronseal's Quick Drying Woodstain, which the tin claimed "dried quickly". And in the commercial they told you "It does exactly what it says on the tin!" So, the tin says what the product does, then the product does it. You get the idea.

In fandom spaces, the trope just means that the title of Thing (be it movie, show, fanfic, etc) tells you exactly what happens IN Thing. If a show is called "Buffy The Vampire Slayer", you already know it's about a girl named Buffy who slays vampires. If the movie is called "Cocaine Bear", you can bet a bear will get into some cocaine at some point. If there's a fanfic called "Fluttershy Has Tea With Jesus"... you get the idea.

While both tags started out with the same intentions and meaning, I don't think it's any wonder that "dead dove do not eat" has been so easy to misinterpret. For one, "exactly what it says on the tin" sounds more straightforward. You don't have to understand the specific reference to infer it means to check the label (in this case, tags) before purchasing (opening) the product (fanfic)

But dead dove is harder to understand if you don't know the reference. And at a glance, it sounds much darker. Doves have symbolism in multiple religions, and are seen as a symbol of peace. A dead dove evokes images of gore, violence, general unpleasantness. It must only apply to something sinister, right?

The thing about "exactly what it says on the tin" is that the tin needs to say something. You can't point at a blank label and say "here's what you can expect". People would be much less likely to engage with your product if that were the case

In the same vein, slapping "dead dove do not eat" on a fic with no other tags can lead to confusion. In this tag's case, it's a warning. But what are you warning about if you don't also put it in the tags? It leaves people's minds to conjure up only grim and upsetting images of what might be in your fic. Especially when, as it's also common to do, the tag gets shortened to simply "dead dove".

And while, yes, the tag is most likely to get slapped onto fics with dark or upsetting subject matter, that means something different for everyone who comes across it.

Most people seem to think it only applies to inappropriate relationships (age gap, incest, etc). But I've seen it applied to a variety of things, from potentially triggering material (like suicide) to things that simply may not be everyone's cup of tea (like excessive gross-out toilet humor).

In the end, "dead dove do not eat" is a tag that, in my opinion, should not be used as a descriptor as to what type of content your story contains. But rather, a gentle warning to say "hey, I'm specifically telling you what you're about to encounter, so whatever happens next is up to you".

After all, if you read the warning and still open the bag to find something you don't like...

I don't know what you were expecting.

#proship #proshippers #proshipper #proshipping #antiship #pro ship #anti ship #antishippers #antishipper #anti anti #certainly this will lead to nothing bad #anyway if you disagree or have something to add feel free! #this is just pulling from my own knowledge and experience of what i've seen around #so let me know if you're experiences or observations are different #i would appreciate it

[bbreaddog]

NO WAY I’ve never posted these on tumblr but i guess you could say it’s NOW OR NEVER HA HA HA

#julie and the phantoms #jatp #jatp fan art #luke patterson #reggie peters #alex mercer #bobby shaw #mine #i draw things #artists on tumblr #fan art #jatp art #omg these are from 2021… TWO YEARS AGO #I’m gonna slowly post all the fan art i never posted on tumblr #there’s something so refreshing seeing something as unpolished as this in my files #I’m a very detail-oriented person so everything is so refined #but this is like. idk like it looks rushed but the shapes are clear at the same time #i like it a lot #i think i might experiment more with this kinda style #it’d certainly be easier on my arm too #speaking of arm BOBBY’S ARM MUSCLES???? HELLO????? #(i am looking respectfully) (at my own art) ( ??? is that weird) (that’s weird) (RESPECTFULLY 👀) #also big fan of the way i drew luke’s hair #it’s so accurate #omg reggie’s nose was impossible to draw #i remember having to erase and redraw it so many times #alex was somehow the easiest to draw out of everyone #i think bc he’s the most front on in terms of angles #and he’s got very clear simple shapes about him #i miss them :’)

[dailypacesetter]

DAY 42

#daily pacesetter #pacesetter #ttcc #graham ness payser #toonblr #toontown corporate clash #corporate clash #toontown #art #[drawing this on a shaky plane certainly was an experience]

[zorosdimples]

getting yourself off with a dildo while he’s away and sending him a picture of the aftermath—not of your pussy, but instead the silicone cock that’s dripping with your juices

#hey may or may not be jealous of the toy but he’ll certainly take it out on you when he gets home :’-) #i’m not speaking from personal experience hahahahahhahahhsgdbdbdndns

[drawnfamiliarfaces]

Anyone from the HoM crew ever been ‘shloomped’ into the Nomicon? Whether on accident or them purposely opening the book out of curiosity?

(aaaaaaaa ive been agonizing about this ask because) sadly due to Plot Reasons for this au no one had/will have a chance to (so far)! but its such a good idea goddarn (getting schloomped into nomicon is up there with all of them visiting ghost zone!) i might just try to somehow fit that in the main plot xD

you are so freaking big-brained its an amazing idea so i had to sorta doodle it???

#que? #hom au #hom au q&a #jake long #kim possible #zak saturday #danny fenton #rex salazar #jenny xj9 #ben tennyson #juniper lee #randy cunningham #jake and danny are main instigators with Zak & Ben egging them on #while Jenny and Rex are just giggling at silly magic people #both Kim and Jun pull a Black Widow reaction but for different reasons sorta?? #Kim is confident in herself and she just doesn't particularly care of Nomicon will find her worthy or not to open #she knows that in emergency it certainly will but otherwise she is okay if it won't #Jun on the other hand just know it will open for her ;) so she doesnt bother. no she wont elaborate ;) #i was torn between Randy reacting like thor or just being upset that his bruce book wont show how even more bruce being a ninja is #danny's 'experience' is sort of nod to me fan headcanon that Infinity Map is semi-sentient

[ruelpsen]

Fuck it, I'm going to go out and say it: while I often enjoy being teased on here, a fair portion of what I receive irritates me as it's misguided at best and reeks deeply of unlearned, malicious fatphobia at its worst. Yes I want to be fatter but I'm not fat. I am a 140-lbs/63.5-kg twink despite all my efforts to gain weight. I'm not stick thin, sure, but I'm sure as hell not fat either. So why are some people insistent on calling me fat/huge/big? Are actual fat people too much for you (perhaps even in spite of you being a self-professed FA)? Is your idea of fatness grounded in equating 'not even that chubby' with 'fat' while not even being attracted to people who are actually fat? Do you solely find bloated skinny guys hot while still saying you like fat people? Or are you not attracted to fat people at all and here simply to take your fatphobia out on the people closest to your image of ideal thinness, who you'd be more openly attracted to if they lost 10-20 pounds, all while still scoffing at or ignoring the fat people at the heart of these communities?

Some of y'all really need to do better. Either own up to your love of people who are actually fat (which may entail adjusting your understanding of what fatness is), clean up your nomenclature, or don't be here. Yes unlearning biases like fatphobia takes time and effort, but your choices really are more or less that simple.

#i've seen a number of posts lately from actual fat feedees/gainers discussing how even in these circles they feel marginalized #and yeah they most certainly are #i may not be in that weight cohort myself but my own experiences further go to show that it is a real and noticeable problem #to the fat people here you are not alone and i'm sorry some people still insist on being shitty like this #your body is lovely and deserving of far better attention than the dickish/creepy shit they have to give anyway #i am open to more discussion on this if people want it btw #body politics

[pissfartboy]

I'm gonna be honest guys I think I just Saw the Musical....

#what a way to kick off the new year! #certainly an experience! #saw the musical #saw 2004 #will go to the ends of the earth (amt theatre) to consume more saw content #saw

[thestarlessdark]

The scene where Mitsuri's parents secretly watch her as she dyes her hair black in order to look like an acceptable bride is a scene I think about a lot.

The look of sheer pain and sadness on their faces feels like a punch in the gut to me, mainly because I've never encountered any parent who actually cares that much about their child. In fact, I nearly cried when I first saw that scene.

Where I live, first impressions are everything. If you mess up in front of others, you are seen as a disappointment and parents can go to almost any length to make their children seem like perfect angels in public, going as far as pressuring them to hide their true self and craft a more palatable persona for others to interact with.

Mitsuri's parents are the opposite of this. They love her for who she is and are never seen telling her to 'act like a lady,' which is amazing considering the time KNY takes place in. They are anguished instead of thrilled when they see Mitsuri trying to cover up her real personality.

Seeing parents truly love their child for who they are will never feel boring or overdone for me, considering how rare it is in real life.

#unfortunately most of what i said about parents in my country comes from experience #sure mine aren't as bad as most of the others but they've certainly done a lot of damage my self-worth and mental health #plus it's really annoying when people don't take mitsuri's trauma seriously and boil her down into a 'boy-obsessed romantic' #character analysis #sort of #mitsuri's parents #mitsuri kanroji #mitsuri #demon slayer mitsuri #kny mitsuri #kny kanroji #demon slayer #kimetsu no yaiba #kny